TRANSCRIPT: ”Friendly Dating Advice” from Reverse Cowboys.

There’s more after the credits, but I really like it better cut there.

Photo by Jack Snell

Whether it’s too much sex, too little sex or the gamut of relationships problems, if I take all the questions I’ve ever been asked, most boil down to this: “Is there something wrong with me?” The answer, of course, is no. Caveat: If something about your sex or relationships with consenting adults impaires everyday functioning, seek counseling because there may be identifiable tweaks you can make to function more effectively. That aside, because you aren’t “broken,” I can’t “fix” you. What I can do is help you frame issues a certain way and identify trends to improve your sex life and relationships. I can also give you my perspective based on many years of experience as a sex and relationships columnist who has made and learned from mistakes and is still figuring this stuff out herself.

Photo: Lindy West, Joie Kerr, Twanna A. Hines, and Logan Sachon.

Last night, we taped How to Be A Grown A$$ Woman. Watch the show. As I was exiting the building at the evening’s end, I noticed audience members scribbled tons questions on the dry erase board:

• “How many times do you have sex in a week? What’s normal?”
• “My birth control method makes me gain weight. More of a complaint than a question. What do I do?”
• “Do grown ass women sleep naked?”
• “My boyfriend and I just moved in together. Should we get a joint bank account?”

I’ll answer each of these questions and more soon; however, to quickly answer the most glaring one …. DO. NOT. GET. A. JOINT. BANK. ACCOUNT with someone that you’ve only been dating a short amount of time. Seriously, this came up during the show, and I can’t stress enough how and when it’s important it is to keep finances separate. Stay tuned. More detailed answers to these and more questions coming soon.

Country: United States

Broadcast: Live event at WNYC (New York Public Radio) The Greene Space, 44 Charlton St, New York, NY

Program: How To Be A Grown A$$ Woman.

Length: 01:01:46

“Female ‘Purity’ Is Bullshit” by Lindy West

Everyone else on earth is as annoyed with “purity” as I am, right? The idea that there are two kinds of women—”good girls” and everyone else, and one of them is good for fucking and the other one is good for marriage and never the twain shall meet and zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz? How is this fulfilling for anyone? Enough.

Lindy West, everybody! If you like that, come hear me, Lindy, Jolie, and Logan tape How To Be A Grown A$$ Woman at WNYC. Tickets are $15. Crazy, right? We’re doing a show, giving it to you, and comp’ing you a glass of wine for coming. Weird ;)

I’m a slut. You’re a slut. Everyone is, apparently, a slutty slut. At the event, I’m gonna harp on “grown up” ways to talk about sex and manage our sex lives because, well, that’s what I do. And, because it’s 2013 and adults should be able to sleep with each other and still get jobs, have credibility, and don’t get called freaky sluts by news anchors.

Screw around a lot. Don’t have sex at all. Hang somewhere in between. Your choice. Why? Because you’re a grown ass woman (or man!), and you can manage your sex life with consenting adults as you please. “I’m the one that’s got to die when it’s time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to.” Jimi Hendrix, everybody! See you at the show.

Kickstarter is (was?) the lesser-known filmmaker’s door into the business. I’ve supported and/or promoted many friends’ and acquaintances’ fun projects. The site allowed Nancy’s xoxosms to become  this, and she later won the White House Apps Against Abuse Contest for co-creating sexual violence prevention app Circle of 6. Therese’s How to Lose Your Virginity developed into a virginity movie that has an interactive project opening at the Kinsey Institute. Debbie’s Seeking Asian Female attracted The New York Times attention and PBS picked it up for distribution.

We shouldn’t necessarily have to choose independent or mainstream; we can have both. Pretty amazing things could happen if and when network TV and studio film people link up with those who have traditionally embraced independent spaces. For example, although certainly not perfect, Joseph Gordon Levitt’s hitRECordJoe is one creative model sustaining independent media. Another model? I’ve love to see Zach raise awareness of Kickstarter’s women and minority filmmakers. There’s also general stuff like SoKap. In any event, keep your eyes on WISH I WAS HERE … and more films like it. Let’s hope they won’t further stimulate cinema’s current sickness: More money, less variety.

Ann Friedman’s Disapproval Matrix

To quote Paulo Coelho: “Haters are confused admirers who can’t understand why everybody else likes you.”

Description: Twanna A. Hines visits Chicago Public Radio — home of This American Life, Wait Wait … Don’t Tell Me, and other fine Chicago programming — to discuss the lack of women in media with her Women, Action & the Media (WAM!) Chicago co-chair Phaydra Babinchok.

Country: United States

Broadcast: 89.5 FM, 90.7 FM and WLUW 88.7

Program: Chicago Public Radio’s “Vocalo Morning Amp” (Weekdays 8-10AM CST) hosted by Brian Babylon and Molly Adams.

Length: 0:17:07

Direct audio link: http://funkybrownchick.com/images//WAM_Chicago.mp3

Your panel of knowledge droppers.

I can’t promise the four of us will agree on everything, though I have other guarantees. How about this: a free drink! A complimentary glass of wine or beer comes with your ticket because grown-ass people deserve booze. I can also promise I won’t say words like “shit” or “fuck.” It’s public radio! An experienced mediamaker, I know how to behave audience-appropriately. Heads up; The Greene Space events are popular. Buy your ticket today because it’s likely to sell out:

HOW TO BE A GROWN A$$ WOMAN
Monday, May 13, 2013 7:00 PM
Tickets: $15 includes a complimentary glass of wine or beer
Duration: 1 hour, 30 minutes
Venue: The Greene Space, 44 Charlton Street, New York, NY (corner of Varick Street)

See you there!

We won the league.

Manchester United: Not Arrogant, Just Better. The team won the Premier League crown for the 20th time. If you’re into sports stats and sports history, see BBC News article Manchester United’s Premier League title win in numbers.