The issue of competitiveness comes up as a theme from time to time. I have written about it before on my personal blog. Competitive: The Other “C” Word. You can read a longer explanation of my perspective on competition. 

“You can live happily in this competitive world
only if you yourself are not competitive’ (ibid.).”

~Khrishnamurti

Every time the issue comes up I re-examine my own dance with competition. It also makes me hyper sensitive to competitiveness around me.

Why are many women always looking over their shoulder to see if some other woman has longer hair, fuller breasts? Why do some women belittle other women’s accomplishments and laud their own, all in the same breath? Well, let’s discuss that in the coming weeks.

Bottom line is, I have no tolerance at all for women trying to one up each other to show that they are the most womanly. It’s subtle and self defeating. I call this Competitive Womanhood.

My dad responded to my facebook post so profoundly that I was inspired to write this post. It says everything I could have written about in two sentences.

“competitive womanhood is a page taken from the fearful man’s oppression notebook. the non-fearful person reads from the women’s field guide for living as a human person. ~William Huston Wilkinson“

Do you see Competitive Womanhood around you? What does it look like to you? How do you react? Do you give in to it from time to time? I would love to hear your thoughts.

This is the first in a series of posts about “Competitive Womanhood”. Stay tuned…

It’s a new dawn

It’s a new day

It’s a new life For me

And I’m feeling good

 I am about to move out of a comfy house I have rented with my partner and our 2 kitties. My companion of 6 yrs and I are ending our relationship. Our friendship is strong, yet I will miss all the rest.

There is sadness, sporadic chaos, stress and fear. But, you know what? There are also moments of laughter, fond memories, love and surrender. You want to take a guess which of these are winning out?

Smart Girl, Wise Woman  was created to help YOU, young women, transition through a part of your lives which is full of change. Full of you becoming you. Full of letting go of what is no longer serving your highest self. It feels a bit like fate that I would also be going through a change at the same time I launch my workshops. Don’t you Think?

This morning a friend posted some music on Facebook, that led me to this Nina Simone tune that I have heard many times before. Yet, there was something about hearing it today, in that moment that resonated with me. Take a listen, then we will talk more.

For the next few weeks, these lyrics will be my “mantra” or theme song. 

Birds flying high you know how I feel
Sun in the sky you know how I feel
Breeze driftin’ on by you know how I feel

It’s a new dawn
It’s a new day
It’s a new life
For me
And I’m feeling good

Fish in the sea you know how I feel
River running free you know how I feel
Blossom on the tree you know how I feel

It’s a new dawn
It’s a new day
It’s a new life
For me
And I’m feeling good

Dragonfly out in the sun you know what I mean, don’t you know
Butterflies all havin’ fun you know what I mean
Sleep in peace when day is done
That’s what I mean
And this old world is a new world
And a bold world
For me

Stars when you shine you know how I feel
Scent of the pine you know how I feel
Oh freedom is mine
And I know how I feel

It’s a new dawn
It’s a new day
It’s a new life
For me
And I’m feeling good

I’m feeling good!

I’m am grateful for all of the blessings that change and transition brings. I am only becoming more of myself. Spreading my wings wide.

How do you deal with transition in your life? What do you do to stay “full of joy”?

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Hello everyone! I am getting all the last details together in order to start the first series of Smart Girl, Wise Woman workshops here in North Hollywood. I am working on a location and we have an amazing photo shoot planned in just over a week! Workshops will start in a few weeks.

I am trying to raise the funds to be able to provide Journals and art supplies for this first 3 groups of young women. Do you have a couple of $$ to toss into the fund? Head over to “Chip In”. If you want me to, I will list you as a contributor on my links page with a link to your website. Thank you so much!

We are also planning a big outdoor pot luck women’s circle in early July for all of you local women. Stay tuned for more info. I can’t wait to see all of you!