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religion, good manners and toxicity

2022-02-21T23:46:00.002-08:00

There's this toxicity in the air of people who hold good manners and religion in high esteem, most of y'all beef probably because you don't have the capacity, or you have the capacity but because you chose another way, you decided to beef those in the former way.. its called bitterness, you're never truly happy for any good news, you're all over the place wishing it happened so you can say "I told him" 😂🤲 ... you are bitter, I don't blame you, I blame many churches, they don't teach you love, and love is what religion is all about, they just mention love, they really don't teach you.. dumb you, you're always correct 😂🤲 Why? Because you feel you're the one doing it right. TBC

not all battles are meant to be fought

2022-02-17T08:01:00.001-08:00

Everyone seems to have forgotten about Nnamdi kanu, Sowore, Sunday igboho... I hope it makes sense to you that you can't always fight every battle... in this country? I didn't write this to cause controversies oooo . You get my point bah? Some things are better left locked up.. you don't speak, nothing changes, you speak... guess what ? Nothing changes too... there's something about bad parenting and power hungry politicians... they always kill your desire to speak.. and they do it starting from intimidating you even till extents of killing you if it's necessary... you know how your lecturers do too na... boss just lockup, don't start a war you were never destined to finish. Just STFU!

the best relationship advice.

2022-02-16T01:55:00.000-08:00

decided to be informal today.

The best relationship advice I can give now are in two phases.

Firstly, it's a personal relationship, listen to advices but don't let people decide if you'd love your potential partner or not.. Work together, build your dreams together groom him/her and if they don't follow suit.. run for your life.. don't let anybody poison your mind against your partner o no be them go marry am, na you o!

Some of you are very childish, you and your stupid friends 😂🤲 na so so busy body.. dey poison people's minds.. anyway na you dey indecisive.

Secondly.. I laugh in tongues when you believe that your relationship with your partner is totally based on understanding and communication... that's true too o but have you tried prayer? Believe it or not some people hate seeing your relationship work! And what they do is to summon spirits of division and bad-luck into your relationship.. this part of relationship is neglected and my spirit has been pressing it on me to write about it but I didn't wanna sound too spiritual... regardless, boom 💥 here you go.. have you tried prayers.. many people have started saying they don't know who they got married to after wedlock, it didn't use to be like that ooo.. it just started after the wedding,

God forbid, imagine your spiritual partner, becoming a womaniser after wedlock or your wife becoming a pain in your ass after wedlock.. the sweetheart that couldn't say pim is going from coast to coast saying you're a beast or you're not treating her well or your pim is small while in reality nothing like that is true 😂🤲 bobo shey o ti try adura? It might be your wife's best friend summoning spirits of division to your marriage or someone in your street that you didn't even know lived on the same street as you 😂🤲 people are wicked oo.. you go sha dey see say e no work, when you were dating them no do anything because they feel the breakfast will go round.. you con marry while they've had the

10th breakfast experience... now, based on say they no fit ruin your relationship physically so that una go dey the same plane, they go spiritual.. I'm just realising the time is 1AM rn sef😂🤲 I'm sure this write up is someone's deliverance.. so, na juju them dey use o.. no be everybody dey happy say you happy o 😂🤲 you gats fight back. Fire for fire .. I'm not saying you should forget physical principles too o but try dey pray.. if you wan come finish them ehn, make you and your partner come dey pray together 🤣🤲 that spells trouble for them because e no go work o.. na brotherly advice I bring come sha 😒✌️

Phases Of A relationship

2019-10-19T11:18:00.003-07:00

Phases In A Relationship.
1.Obsessive emotional rush; at this point the partnership process is strong, addictive, it burns like fire, at this moment it is thought to be a lasting effect, it is fun, you think you can't do without this person. Females stay in this phase much longer than males.
2.Little derails from the emotional rush; at this point calls starts being infrequent, it becomes an obligation, pretending partners stay in this phase longer than sincere ones.
3. Slackness; then both parties totally slack and the fire of romance is obviously dying, they, at this point consider breaking up as there is no fun like it used to be, I call it the pepper phase
4. Crash (two phases); total crash and recoverable crash,
Total crash marks the end; both parties might end up hating each other sorely.
Recoverable crash; both parties can decide to call it off just for the frustrations they can't deal with or for the fondness of each other.
If yours ended in total crash, sorry as you might not have experienced the next phase.
5. Rejuvenation ; the early days becomes open deja vu, both parties miss each other and each is waiting for the first to break the jinx and apologise. The fire is re-ignited but pride becomes the barrier.
6. Resilience; the healing process is complete and the 'strongest ' apologises first. I'd come again, 'the STRONGEST apologises first' He or she might be crying but believe me, provided that person apologises before you, it gives them the rank of being stronger. Weak people remain hostile and too weak to do that.
7. Stronger bond; then number one phase happens again but this time with a deeper understanding.

2019-08-05T01:35:00.000-07:00

Before I wrote this, I was already careful about my words, since they were going to be sensitive.... I reached a conclusion that I was going to rate this post 18 but I took a rethought.
I thought of every post on 'feeds' and how interrelated they are, then I kicked my thoughts in order with the question 'what's the use of rating it 18'? When the children I once carried as toddlers are sending friend requests to me already!
They even look plum, rigid, tall and matured!
Toddlers that couldn't talk back then in my hands are now 'snap-chatting',
Look there is no age bracket for this post.
Provided you can read?
Then you're matured enough to comprehend what I'm going to be talking about!
This is what I'm saying, you are, what you are based on how you feed your mind.
Why did I say that? the reason is 'if you haven't watched pornography all your life, just stop here and take a walk'.
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Thank you for being sincere, okay now that everyone reading this post has or is still watching pornography let's continue '

Be patient, I'd try as much as humanly possible to avoid being unofficial.

I heard of pornography and the site for the first time in my life while I was in J.S.S3!
Yes!
I'm sure we have those that weren't aware about it probably till S.S 2..
I'm laughing in Spanish, keep yours to yourself, no one is embarrassing anyone here.
Amazingly, I met a young lad this year, he's 'of course' big, but still very young and he has started watching pornography at quite a matured class!

Guess what class!

Primary 5.

I'm really feeling bad, ..
This young lad uses a sophisticated phone compared to me.
I'm an undergraduate..
And if I had the kind of phone he has, hmm, I don't need a laptop.

Now, things have changed overtime! I taught in primary school before gaining admission and I have seen children,
O God, children! Smarter than their small, cute, innocent looking bodies!

And this stigma ends it!

More and more damage is the order of each day.
I have seen girls in primary two, talking, not just talking but talking about sex and how to collect money from 'her so-called' boyfriend!
So I'm writing on point and not amiss!

If I don't play my part in curbing all these, the brunts are inevitable!

With the help of God, discipline, choice and the right people I have learnt how to purge these abnormalities.

Ma, sir! It's not easy and it hasn't been easy to leave a wrong life!
Don't let anyone tell you it's easy!
I was at the A.T.M today and some ladies were discussing... Chai, sometimes I wonder if they weren't bothered about talking so blunt outside even if they disguised their point, I knew.

One of them was talking about the last time she was broke she obviously was letting her other friends know it's been a long time, she later spoke on one of her ex that is now a rich guy and was saying she left him because she never thought he could be rich in his life,
Then she said something, she said ' I should have waited and I know he can't use me because I too was my body with diabolical soaps'
Her friends laughed like it's a normal thing.

I was embarrassed on their behalf!
I was so embarrassed that I couldn't look at them till they left.

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How on earth do you want to fulfil purpose on the devil's platform?

She also said a guy called her and she told him she's coming for three days and it's 15k.

Whatever the case might be, your body is a precious jewel and not for sale!

I don't want to deviate,
Back to what I was saying,
Is it by force you use the internet?
Are you working on a project that'd help you or you're just too free to deviate?

I was on Facebook and some people's post made me stop checking feeds, I'd just go straight to my page or profile.
If you aren't careful it's those harmless looking pictures and writeups that'd dip you into being corrupt.
I saw a post and the lady was using the features of her body to praise her boyfriend just like the owner of my ________ and many others rubbish,
I stopped at the look of it.

When would you not be turned on again?
When?
You would!
Provided you want to stop you have to fight it with ' blood bought' seriousness!
Don't.....
I sincerely have much to say.
I know I'm not brief enough,... it's the condition of this generation's multidimensional ignorance that made me write this long.

If you like don't share, you're part of the story!
I'd come up with solutions in the second post and it'd be brief.
Fb.me/factsinfacts

2019-04-17T04:14:00.001-07:00

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Hot 2019 Key Points In Physics Part 2

2019-03-15T03:29:00.001-07:00

51. The ground is always cold at night because the earth radiates heat to the atmosphere at night.

52. The escape velocity of an object from gravitational field of the planet increases with mass of the object and also increases with the mass of the planet. Escape velocity, v =√2Gmp/rp = √2gprp

53. A transverse wave and a longitudinal wave travelling in the same direction in a medium differ essentially in their direction of vibration of the particles of the medium.

54. The different time rates of flow of fluid is due to viscious force.

55. The electrical property of germanium can be altered drastically by the addition of impurities. The process is referred to as doping.

56. The wave property which can be used to confirm water to be a transverse wave is Polarization.

57. In a common emitter configuration, the output voltage is through the base.

58. When a ball rolls on smooth level ground, the motion of its center is Translational

59. A vapour whose molecules are in dynamic equilibrium with those of its own liquid is said to be Saturated.

60. In a good thermos flask, the main cause of heat loss is the silvered walls and shiny metals.

61. The north pole of a magnet can never be separated from the south pole because of a property known as magnetic dipole.

62. An iron spoon placed inside hot tea becomes hot due to the conductionof heat from the tea through the surface of the spoon.

63. A constant-volume gas thermometer operates under which gas law? Pressure law.

64. A vapour whose molecules are in dynamic equilibrium with those of its own liquid is said to be Saturated.

65. Red light travels faster than blue light when both of them pass through a glass prism because the refractive index of blue light is greater than that of red light.

66. Heat reaches the food which is being cooked in a saucepan chiefly by Conduction and Convection.

67. The force that tend to pull an object undergoing circular motion towards the centre is Centripetal.

68. Radiation is energy travelling through space.

69. A body cannot undergo “relative motion”. Relative motion usually involves two bodies.

70. The type of wave emitted by a loudspeaker is Longitudinal.

71. The prolongation of sound wave after which the source has been withdrawn is called Reverberation.

72. The mouthpiece of a telephone primarily converts sound energy into Electrical.

73. The quality of a musical note depends on what? Harmonics

74. The resultant force in a couple is Zero

74. The most suitable instrument for measuring the diameter of a thin wire accurately is a micrometer screw gauge.

75. A rainbow viewed through a blue sheet of glass will appear blue.

76. The slope of a straight-line velocity-time graph represents uniform acceleration.

77. The unity cycle per second is the same as hertz.

78. Trombone is a wind instrument.

79. A chemical balance is used for measuring mass

80. Sound wave cannot be polarized.

Key Points In Jamb Physics

2019-03-15T03:27:00.000-07:00

1) The classification of Wave are:

Mechanical Wave (E.g Water and Sound Wave)
Electromagnetic Wave (E.g Gamma and X-Rays)
Progressive/Travelling Wave (Water And Sound)
Stationary/Standing Wave (Nodes And Antinodes)
Longitudinal Wave (E.g Sound Waves)
Transverse Wave (E.g Waves in Pipe and Strings).___________________________________________________________________

2) Stationary Wave occurs when two interfering waves of the same amplitude and frequency travel in the opposite direction.

3) The velocity of Sound In:

Air is 332m/s
Water (Liquid) is 1435m/s
Iron (Solid) is 5000m/s

4) The velocity of Echo is equal to the total distance travelled by the sound divided by the time taken.

5) The quality of sound depends on the number of overtones or harmonics. It makes it possible to distinguish between two instruments playing the same note.

6) Vibration can either be free, forced or resonance.

7) An eclipse occurs due to the travel of light in a straight line.

8) The application of plane mirrors is Periscope, Kaleidoscope and Sextant.

9) Refraction occurs at a constant frequency.

10) Hydrogen spectrum has all colours of white light, Sodium vapour has a yellow line (spectrum) and Mercury vapour has Blue and Green spectrum.

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Hot Points And Topics In Jamb Physics (10 to ......)

11) Another word for electrolysis is the chemical effect of current.

12) Passage of current through liquid doesn’t obey Ohms law.

13) Magnetic fields are oval in shape.

14) The angle of dip is 90 degree at the magnetic poles and zero at the equator.

15) The strength of Magnet is greatest at the pole.

16) All electric charges are multiples of the charges of an electron.

17) Factors affecting capacitance are Area of plates, distance between the plates and dielectrics between the plates.

18) Examples of dielectric materials are Paraffin wax, Polythene, Ebonite and Glass.

19) Sliding friction is less than limiting friction.

20) EMF is the algebraic sum of potential difference acting in a circuit.

21) Electromagnetism is the production of current from Magnet.

22) In a closed circuit, the induced EMF gives rise to induced current.

23) Eddy current is used in damping moving coil, speedometers and induction coil.

24) The transformer steps up or steps down voltage at the same frequency.

25) The Inductor finds application in choke making industry.

26) Choke is used for varying current.

27) The induced voltage is equal to the rate of change of magnetic flux.

28) Solar cells convert sunlight energy directly into electrical energy.

29) Local action is caused by impurity of zinc plate.

30) Eddy current is reduced by lamination.

31) The induction coil is used to step up voltage in DC circuit.

32) The generator operates based on the principle of self-induction.

33) DC doesn’t oscillate and as such does not have a frequency.

34) Telephone receiver or earpiece works on the principle of magnetic effect of current.

35) Plane mirrors do not enlarge or reduce the size of object. Object size is the same as image size.

36) Factors affecting resistance are:

Length of conductor.
Area of conductor.
Temperature and
Type of material used.

37) Triangular prism with two convex lenses is used to produce a pure spectrum.

38) If light energy is less than the work function, no electron will be emitted and vice versa.

39) Work function is the energy that can produce threshold frequency (W=hf).

40) The uncertainty principle only works for atoms and not irons.

41) The applications of total internal reflection are Mirage and Fish view under water.

42) Binding energy is the reason for mass defect.

43) Bismuth is diamagnetic.

44) Current is the rate of flow of charge.

45) Kirchoff’s current law states that the algebraic sum of currents flowing into the circuit is equal to the algebraic sum of currents leaving the circuit.

46) Kirchoff’s voltage law states that the sum of all the voltages around circuit loop is equal to zero.

47) Example of refrigerants is Ammonia and Ethyl Chloride.

48) Kaleidoscope is designed to obtain different color patterns.

49) To convert a Galvanometer to Ammeter, a low resistance called shunt is connected in parallel with the meter.

50) As temperature increases, the speed of sound increases.

50 Notes And Key Points In Jamb Chemistry

2019-03-15T03:21:00.000-07:00

1. The most reactive metal known is Francium.

2. GEL is a SOL which contains more solid particle dispersed in liquid than usual.

3. The hardest substance known to man is DIAMOND.

4. The lowest Oxidation State of IRON is ZERO

5. Quantum Numbers only describes ELECTRONS and not ATOMS.

6. Hydrogenation of Alkynes gives Alkanes

7. The Law of Definite Proportion is also referred to as the law of ConstantComposition.

8. Sodium liberates H2 from Water = False.

*Sodium liberates H2 from Steam = True

9. The electrolyte used in DOWN CELL is Molten NaCl fused with Cacl2

10. Na is not stored under water because it Tarnishes.

11. Burning Kerosene gives CO2 + H2O

12. Dissolution of Calcium in water gives CaO.

13. All Nitrates are Soluble in water. Also, all nitrates unstable to heat.

14. N2O is the first Anaesthetic man ever used.

15. The flame used by welders is called Oxy-acetylene flame

16. Consecutive members of the Alkane homologous series differ by CH2.

17. The difference between drying and dehydration is that drying is removal of water while dehydration is the removal of elements of water(Hydrogen and oxygen).

18. Benzene is an Aromatic hydrocarbon.

19. Atomic mass is the mass of proton and neutron in the nucleus of an atom.

20. Atomic number is the number of Electron an atom has.

21. Electrons revolve around the atom while Proton and Neutron are insidethe Nucleus of the Atom.

22. Radioactivity is the spontaneous disintegration of the nuclei of an atom to emit energy and radiations such as ALPHA PARTICLES, BETAPARTICLES AND GAMMA RAYS.

23. Alpha particles have the least penetrating power. Beta particles can be stopped by Aluminium foil while Gamma rays can only be stopped by LEADBLOCK.

24. The ability of CARBON to form long chains, branched chains and ring is called catenation.

25. Elements that can combine with carbon to give compounds are:

Hydrogen
Oxygen
Chlorine
Nitrogen
Bromine
Phosphorus

26. Aliphatic Hydrocarbons could be Cyclic, Acyclic or Alicyclic.

27. Pure substances have definite boiling point and melting point.

28. Example of radioactive material are Uranium, Thorium and Polonium.

29. The most notable scientist who contributed to the development of Periodic table between 1817 ti 1895 was Dmitri T. Mendeleev

30. The fourth and fifth period contains 18 elements each.

31. Elements in the same group are called CONGENERS.

32. Free Hydrogen (H2) is the lightest gas known.

33. Viscosity is the resistance to flow in liquids.

34. Water starts boiling when the saturated vapour pressure is equal to the atmospheric pressure.

35. Factors affecting boiling points of organic compounds are branching, volatility, polarity and impurity.

36. The most reactive nonmetal known is fluorine.

37. Impurity increases boiling point but reduces melting point.

38. Ernest Rutherford is the father of nuclear science.

39. Radioactivity can also be called transmutation.

40. NUCLEAR ENERGY is produced by Nuclear fission and Nuclear fusion.

41. Energy from the Sun is as a result of Nuclear fusion but reaches the earth via Radiation (Correction Credit: Saheed Soneye).

42. The two types of radioactivity are natural radioactivity and artificial radioactivity.

43. Every nucleus is positive.

44. For solid which sublime, sublimation can be used to isolate the solid from its impurities if the impurities themselves do not sublime.

45. CRAO. Reduction takes place in cathode and oxidation occurs in the anode.

46. Compound that rotates plane polarised light is said to be optically active.

47. Cathode ray tube was the forerunner of of today’s television tube.

48. R.A Millikan found the charge of an electron to be -1.60×10-19C

49. Antoine Becquerel discovered Radioactivity while Marie Curie suggested the name “Radioactivity”.

50. Each Hydrogen spectrum produces six series and each series produces lines while each line has a specific wavelength.

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Bonus Chemistry Key Points:

Venus is the only planet that rotates in opposite direction to others
The atmosphere is composed of 78% Nitrogen, 21% Oxygen and 1% other gases including Co2,

water vapour, the noble gases, dust and air pollutants.

The lithosphere is composed of rocks and soil
The industrial preparation of HNO3 is carried out using Ostwalds’s process
Heavy chemicals are those chemicals used in large quantities in Industries.
The most used chemical in industries is H2SO4.
NaOH is used for making soap
Fine chemicals are not produced in large quantities. However, they are produced with a high degree of accuracy, e.g AgBr. Fine chemicals include drugs.
Thermite process is used for Welding broken ends of metal parts.
Bessemer process is used for the production of stell
Acheson process is used to produce Graphite
Nigerian Crude oil is called sweet because of its low sulphur content.
Alkanals can be oxidized but alkanones cannot, why? It is because alkanals have an oxidizable hydrogen atom attached to the carbonyl carbon but alkanones do not.
Newspaper appear yellow after prolonged exposure to the Atmosphere because the bleaching action of SO2 from which they were made is reversed by atmospheric oxidation.
Atoms with the same mass number but different atomic numbers are referred to as Isobars
Amines have a characteristic fishy smell
Aromatic compounds are those with one or more benzene rings.
Aliphatic compounds are those with open chains as well as cyclic compounds that do not have benzene ring in their structure.
Hydrocarbons are compounds that contain carbon and hydrogen only.
Water is not added to acid because it could cause an explosion. Addition of water to acid is violently exothermic.
Bunsen Burner is used for heating and for exposing items to flame
Methane is called fire damp because it is the main cause of explosion in poorly ventilated coal mines.
There are basically two types of radioactivity viz natural and artificial radioactivity
Oxygen is the most abundant element in the earth crust.
Nigerian crude oil is called light because it has a low density due to its composition of low molecular weight hydrocarbons.
An Oxide that dissolves in water to form acid is called Acid Anhydride
A metal is an element that ionizes by the loss of (electrons)

Key Points on Jamb Biology Hot Topics For 2019

2019-03-15T03:15:00.001-07:00

1. Possession of four limbs, counter shading of coat colour and development of long tails are adaptive features for arboreal life.

2. Nitrobacter converts nitrites (from ammonia) to nitrates. Azobacter is a nitrifying bacteria.

3. The number of offspring produced from a mitotic division is Two.

4. Large vacuoles are absent in animal cells but present in plant cell along with Chloroplast and cellulose cell wall while Chromosomes occur in both.

5. The energy released during cellular respiration is stored in the form of Adenosine Triphosphate (ATP)

6. At the end of mitosis, the number of cells produced is four.

7. During inspiration, the diaphragm contracts and flattens out simultaneously as the rib muscles contract, causing the ribs to be raised.

8. Each kidney is connected with the bladder by a Ureter.

9. The structural similarities in Paramecium and Euglena are in the presence of anterior and posterior ends.

10. The oxygen given off during photosynthesis is gotten from Water.

11. The long necks and legs of the present day giraffes were some of the basis of Lamarck’s Theory of Evolution.

12. The pancreas secretes insulin a hormone which controls excess sugar in the blood.

13. Anemometer is used for measuring wind speed.

14. Mitochondrion is the site for the production of ATP.

15. Dry weight is the mass of the weight of an organism after all the water has been removed. It is the most accurate measurement of organic masses and weight.

16. Amoeba moves with pseudopodia otherwise known as “false feet”.

17. Soil permeability refers to how easily water passes through the soil.

18. The processes involved in water cycle are Evaporation, Condensation and Precipitation.

19. Sahel savanna is in the drier regions to the north of the Sudan savanna, in the north eastern part of Nigeria.

20. The earthworm possesses a hydrostatic skeleton.

21. The factors that produce character in living organisms are Genes. Genes are character producing in an organism.

22. Phytoplankton has the highest biomass in a food chain

23. The hierarchy of organic evolution in plant: Schizophyta, thalophyta, bryophyta, Pteridophyta and Spermatophyta.

24. Gestation is period of time which a zygote develop to the time of birth.

25. Binary fission is a mode of production which is common to both paramecium and amoeba.

26. The pancreas secretes hormone which controls excess sugar in the blood.

27. Plasmodium needs supporting cellular machinery to survive as it is not a free-living organism.

28. In a food chain on land, green plant is the producer.

29. Neurons that receive stimuli from receptors are called sensory neurones.

30. The cerebrum controls voluntary movement and interpretation.

31. When a person moves from a dark room into a bright light, the pupils become smaller

32. Water makes up about 77.5% of the living protoplasm in various living things.

33. Wildlife conservation is enhanced by discouraging elimination of endangered species.

34. In humans, sex is determined by the difference in the nature of X and Y chromosomes in the male.

35. The structure of the ear which is responsible for balancing is the semicircular canals.

36. Chorion is the outer layer that surrounds both the embryo and the yolk sack.

37. Which of these is not a type of fingerprint?

38. The opening and closing of the stomata is by Osmosis

39. Hermaphrodite have both male and female reproductive organs.

40. Flooding and earthquakes are part of abiotic factors that control the human population.

41. Clay soil has the highest water-retaining capacity.

42. An organism that has been extensively used to test the chromosome theory of heredity is Drosophila Melanogaster.

43. The mitochondria is the reservoir for energy in the cell.

44. Inbreeding involves the crossing of individuals of the same species, especially over many generations.

45. The phloem tissues transport manufactured food from the leaves mainly to other parts of the plant either for use or for storage.

46. Fossil records require the use of carbon dating to prove that evolution has occurred.

47. Melanin is the pigment that gives skin, hair and eyes their color. Melanin is produced by cells called melanocytes.

48. Tissue is a group of cells that are similarly arranged together to perform a specific function.

49. The presence of four-chambered heart is a characteristic feature of mammals.

50. Morphologicial variation refers to the noticeable physical appearance of individuals o the same species.

51. Retina is the part of the eye that is sensitive to light.

52. Population size varies due to factors like natality, mortality, immigration, and emigration.

53. Nucleus controls all life activities of the cell.

54. Amoeba, Paramecium and Chlamydomonas are at the cellular level of organization.

55. Pollination is the transfer of pollen grains from the anther to the stigma of a flower.

so, my basic advice to you is to read and at least master them...... this is one of the very important things everyone would like to know.

success.

I think it's harmless, let me try

2018-03-12T06:33:00.001-07:00

As a little girl the lectures, morals and lessons consistently installed into you would have seemed insurmountable by the natural signals of where you found yourself.
You had least expected yourself in what you now find yourself,
You have a vivid memory of how it all started but it ended at the very verge of unprecedented relationship success.
You knew that guy, you naturally loved his charisma but he didn't seem to like you, you've watched him closely and your whole body is whispering 'he's the one'.
Of course you kicked against the mild whispers, that very week someone spoke bitterly against it in your church.
You hate the new feeling of discovering your hips enlarged and your boobs obviously increasing.
Well, now the guys started staring at you, you tried avoiding them to some extent but it didn't work effectively.
You wanted to stay shut in privacy behind a closed door always, your emotions couldn't condone the feelings you got.
You abruptly hated yourself.

An unanticipated pendulum of lit hope started sweeping across your body when your friends spoke of how you felt and how they felt too when it all started, your confidence began rejuvenation,
Now you fed your dignity and let nature run its course in you.
You suddenly started noticing paved ways and in less time than expected you were proud of being a lady.
The world around you was 'smily'

You now abruptly loved the feeling.

Thence came another pendulum of brilliant hope sweeping across your body. Now he starts noticing you,
Your heart sank
You wanted him
You couldn't believe he chose you
You ran so quick in meeting him..

But some hands held you

The hands of your friends......
They were happy for you but they warned and gave you cautious signals of signs you should run for.
They taught you to act 'lucratively' and not 'cheaply'

The boy on the other hand, noticed its like you aren't cheap after all.

Then he became frightened to approach you.
And you on the other hand, too, was afraid if he approached you. You fear that he might not like your body or your accent or your smell or your hair or your academic performance or whatever but you still had hope somewhere and you always felt slightly depressed because this was your first time of 'officially falling in love'

Finally he too dressed well with well creased trousers and Kemp hair.

Then he came.

You felt the ground was going to swallow you when he said hi.
You were too shy, he too was.
You smiled just as you were taught and said 'hi'
Now his heart sank.
He was pointless. He started shaking seeing you, your smile, loving your smell, your face.

Then you noticed he was shy and that fed your confidence and you helped the conversation 'how are you, hope you enjoyed the maths class'

He saw you as 'friendly', he got along but was still afraid of asking you out.

Everyone tagged you both, he wanted you, same as you but you'd wait for him.
You guys got along with each other.
Then one day..

He tells you how pretty you are and how you made his heart melt.
He said 'he loves you'.

You were like 'yay' but you didn't show it.
He then asks you out and you said
'yes'

Then the world frowned at you.
It was a worse feeling, you loved him so much, you couldn't stop thinking about him.

He'd promise to marry you.
You're sure he'd.

After three years, you guys had passed through a lot, you guys decided to keep the relationship.

One day, you guys talked and played,
Out of true love he decided to kiss you, your heart started pounding so hardly, you've only watched people kiss, you didn't know how to kiss.
You couldn't deny him of a kiss, then he reached for your lips and kissed you.
Kissing felt like heaven to you, you haven't felt it before, you were happy, very happy.

Nothing else mattered.

Another time came,
But
Tragedy struck because you, now, asked for another kiss.
To your surprise he said 'no'
You begged him so much because y
ou want to feel heaven just like you did the first time.
He insisted 'no' and left your presence.
You were scared of his decision but you knew he loved you too much.

You didn't stop begging him for a kiss..
Finally he allowed another kiss
But this time he kissed out of lust...
If there were anyone you wanted it was him,
He didn't stop kissing and you too didn't stop.
....
You loved it,
Your mind and heart wasn't getting corrupted but you didn't know you were corrupting his.

Until you felt the natural urge for sex, it was then you started being sensitive to his body around you.
You desperately wanted to have your own taste.

You succeeded.
While you kissed you intentionally aroused him, he was enjoying every bit of what you were doing but he was shocked when you stripped yourself shyly.
You expected him to excuse you like he'd always done but he didn't leave.
His eyes ran around you in full lust.

Then it happened...
You gave him your virginity, you loved sex now more... Much more than the kissing.

Now you're afraid if you'd get pregnant.
Luckily for you after planning on getting an abortion, you discovered that you we're pregnant.

As for the boy,
He said he can't marry you now.
He called you names.
He changed.
He's married to someone else now.
Now, you too changed.
You now hate all men.

It's left for you to choose my dear,
There's a life that surpasses all these.
Be patient. See what the Bible says

Song of Solomon 8:4 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

See verse 10 too
I am a wall and my breast are like towers, I am as one who brings contentment.

A wall? Towers?
A wall isn't accessible! But you? Are you a door? That anyone enters?
Are towers accessible like flats?
Be wise.

No one might know what you do, trust me, God does!
He's equally willing to accept you if you want to stop.
If you are suffering from any serious sexual addiction you can tell me, I'd help out the way the LORD directs.

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Why.

2018-02-17T10:58:00.001-08:00

So, after all the sallat, after all the jumat , after all the sermons, after all the gospel, after all the vigils, after all the discipline, after all the fasting, after all the prayer meetings, after all the Ramadan, after all the dos and don'ts, after all the seminars, after all the casting of demons, after all the speaking in tongues, after all the typing , after all the humiliation, after all the prophecies, after all the tough decisions, after all the early hours in church, after all the late hours in church, after all the days of peril, after all the days of discomfort, after all the silent days, after all the days of seeking God,
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.
.
After the rapture
You still miss heaven?
There's nothing as heart breaking as realizing that all...... All .... Everything was a waste because of that 'little' sin...
You're refusing to heed God's word
If you refuse God's people why don't you accept his word then?
You're confidently perpetrating the desires of 'you' just because you are convinced it's no longer a problem?
You watch pornography comfortably?
You have sex comfortably?
You steal comfortably?
You pretend comfortably?
You lie comfortably?
No wonder you sometimes feel empty, no wonder you adamantly cover your face against the truth.
No wonder your helpers haven't helped you because both you and your helpers are in the same control with the gods of this world.
. No wonder you're so talented and yet no one seems to be noticing.
No wonder you desire to abundantly remain stubborn.
No wonder you pray for forgiveness of sins before sleeping, so in case he comes he'd take you.
I'd tell you the truth, retrace the truth, find the truth yourselves and it'd set you free... You want to know the truth?.
.
..
.
... Find Him.
Relocate your ways...
Turn back
Drop what you need to drop
Cherish the truth when you find it.
No one is forcing you to know the truth, we all have to find the truth.
Now, who is this truth you may ask..
Find Him
He's in the two most popular books carried by millions, read by millions but only known by thousands.
He's everywhere
He's with you
He's with me
He's waiting
He's knocking
He's pleading
He's begging
He loves you more than anyone can tell
He's patient just for you
......
Find Him
His name is Truth.

7 signs that explicitly points out your 'girlfriend' isn't ready for marriage or perhaps isn't a 'wife' material

2018-02-02T08:48:00.001-08:00

1. When she often lie:
Lies is the best sign for you to know that your lady is just not marriage material. In relationships, trust is very key. The attitude of lying is one which is so difficult to deal with. Not even you, the prospective husband, could help her get out of this attitude. Run away when you realize this she finds it difficult to come clean with you.

2. When she stops you from seeing her family :
Any lady who gives excuses as to why you can't see her family might be having doubts about you marrying her. It's either that or the case that she is scared her parents might reject your proposal. In this confusing development, you need to find out from her what exactly the reason could be, But if she still insists you can't meet her family then just know that she is not ready.

3. When you always have to start a conversation:
Ladies are gifted with the talent of being good communicators. However, it gets worrying when this talent is not translated into a relationship. It is expected that 90 percent of women in relationships call or text their male partners more than the men themselves do. But if you realize the opposite in your relationship, when you get to find out she never calls or texts, then maybe you must take a decision.

4. When she is so rude:
No lady who truly loves her man will be constantly rude to her man. Being rude to someone means you either hate the person or are just not into that person. Should this constantly happen then you must know that you are just not in her circle. Marrying such a rude lady could spell doom for you.

5. When she is not ambitious:
Marriage is not all about you the man, it is also about the lady. So when you realize that the lady is not driven enough, she always says "I will do it tomorrow, next week...and so on" then just know that she is just not serious about her life. A procrastinating wife poses a grave threat to her family. Avoid her if you realize that all efforts to change her is just not working.

6. When she always is in the he 'mess' of 'other' men:
You get to find a cheating future wife from the beginning of your relationship. It's very simple! Do you always get threats from men who say your lady is theirs, or you always find her moving out with men? If you realize that your lady is in a web of love triangles then just know that she will be giving you huge troubles.

7. When she does not want to settle:
Ever heard her say "I am not ready, will let you know when I am?" If so then you must be having a second thought especially when she always tells you this whenever you pop up the issue of marriage. A woman will always be happy to find out her man is ready to get married to her. But if she always shifts aside the question, if she always tells you to take your time, if she always avoids the topic of marriage then just know she is just not ready to have you as a husband. Don't waste your time....move on.

MONEY MISTAKES

2017-10-17T17:21:00.000-07:00

WE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS.
It'll add more to you, it can't steal from you!

*Money Mistake 1*
Never borrow money that accrues interest to start a business . That is to say, never borrow money to start a business expecting that the business will generate income to pay back the borrowed money plus the interest.

*Money Mistake 2*
Never spend money you haven't received. Don't even promise someone money based on a promise you have from someone else. If someone tells you: "Ezra, come to my office tomorrow at 9am and pick #30K"don't go out to buy items on credit based on this promise, with the hope that you will pay off your creditor when the promised money comes; it may not come as promised and this will leave you in problems with your creditors.

*Money Mistakes 3*
If you want to save, whenever you receive money, don’t start spending hoping that you’ll save what remains. Normally what remains is zero because as long as money to spend is available, the numerous things you can spend it on are also available. And things to spend on even incite their 'relatives' so that you spend even more than you had planned. When money to spend is not available, we naturally find a way of doing without it.
Before you spend any money, put your savings aside then spend what is left after saving.

*Money Mistake 4*
When you get an opportunity to meet a very wealthy person, never ask for money. Ask for ideas on how to make money. They may even choose to give you money on their own after seeing that your ideas are great, but let getting money from them never be your objective.

*Money Mistake 5*
Keeping your seed instead of planting it. Many people stop at saving. It's very, very difficult to save and have all you need to maintain your lifestyle especially after retirement. When you save, your savings are seed; plant it. When you just keep the seed (saving money) some seeds begin to die (eaten by inflation and the like). That's why I recommend that you read about the different types of investment vehicles you can use to grow your savings. I am not necessarily talking about putting the money in a business, because you can easily lose money in business. I am talking about putting it in an investment.

*Money Mistake 6*
Never lend someone money you are not willing to lose. By the time you lend someone money, be contented in your heart that should the person fail to pay, you will not die. You should not even lose that person's friendship if they fail to repay the money you lent them. If you feel the person might fail to pay you and this will not affect your relationship with them, then lend them money. If their failure to pay would make you hate this person’s entire clan, please advise the person to go to the bank.

*Money Mistake 7*
Never append your signature to guarantee someone on a financial matter if you are not willing or able to pay the money on their behalf. Do I have to explain that one? No, it's self-explanatory.

*Money Mistake 8*
Avoid keeping money you don't intend to use in the short-term within easy reach. For instance, don’t walk with #100K in your pocket when all you plan to do in a day costs #20K. Like I mentioned in Money Mistake 3, there are always expenses available to gobble any money that is within reach, so if you don't want to lose it, put it away in a safe place.

*Money Mistake 9*
Avoid keeping money in inappropriate places e.g. in socks, under the pillow, in a pit, in the sitting room, in the bra, in a travel bag that you will place somewhere in a bus ... impulse buying is a devil that will keep you busy!

*Money Mistake 10*
Spending money on an item that you can do without (at least for the time being). These days when I pick money from my pocket or wallet, before paying for something I ask myself: What would happen if I didn’t buy this? If I find I can live with the consequences of not having that thing, I smile and walk away.

*Money Mistake 11*
Paying an amount for something that's not the minimum you can get that same value for. In other words, if you are around Wuse market and you pay #5K for a shoe that you can get at #3K at Utako market, that's a money mistake except for those who have achieved financial freedom.

*Money Mistake 12:*
Consistently spending all you earn or more than you earn. It's like having a drum where you have an inlet that's smaller than the outlet. It will never get full. And should the inlet ever reduce significantly the drum will run dry. If you do it the other way round and the inlet is bigger, it will get full and even overflow. Hence, we have to always ensure we are widening the inlet while narrowing the outlet – all the time. Your side hustle comes in handy!

*Money Mistake 13:*
Thinking about short-term only and forgetting about long-term or thinking about the long-term and forgetting about the short-term. For instance, Lydia was told that there's money in land. She saved money over a long period of time and bought 30 acres of land. Now she has the land but she is always broke. She is always complaining. She's disgruntled and she doesn't seem to see herself earning from the land in the near future. Now, let's ask ourselves: Having 30 acres of land and no money to feed your family or take a child to hospital, is that wealth or poverty? I think Lydia only looked at long-term needs and forgot that she has short-term needs that require money. What of those who find they are one paycheck away from salary? Are they thinking about the long-term needs?

Let’s take stock of our finances. How many mistakes are you guilty of? Do you now feel better-equipped to do better with these tips? Good luck, savers!

*God bless you as you work on your financial prudence*

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HAVE WE STOPPED

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Have we stopped? Aren't there other ways to teach children how to read and write without using a cane? I know quite well that there are "stiff-necked" and stubborn types in other countries and somehow, I wonder how they effectively teach those children how to read and write without having to use a cane? Some parents, too, . lol. if you sit with them when they are teaching their children..... You'll think you're watching a comedy skit... Ah, the velocity of deposited slaps, the curses and 'concentrated knocks' can make you burst into laughter (although it's not funny) Amazingly, it works for some children... I can remember one of the statements of my friend he said "I'm good in maths today because my dad knocked them into my head"... Even the shape of his head can tell.... lol.. Just concerned, although I'm quite aware that the level of using canes in schools these days are alarmingly low... Chaai, I remember those days in primary school... I only hated school back then because of the teachers judicious use of the cane.. Walking down the pathway to school then, was like walking through the valley of the shadows of death.. I wasn't 'productive to the core'... I dreaded each day.. I was equally happy when the closing bell was rung... Well, I couldn't change the situation.. Obviously to some extent, it helped me too.. Well..... #grin I don't believe in teaching ' constantly ' with a cane. Although it's productive to some extent, I think reasoning with that feeble mind is better than spanking... I had always thought my generation would be the smartest.. Well these feeble minds have broken that, they're wonderful.! seems God programs 'generations' differently... Let's seek for what would catch their interests towards academics, rub minds together, inspire them .. # coughs and if that doesn't work out.... Find something else to do or rather pray for wisdom to deal with the situation

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What we fail to realise about love...... part 1

2017-03-23T03:41:00.001-07:00

It is quite disheartening to notice mistakes and misconceptions about love!
Virtually everyone has the thoughts in mind to go for a wonderful person, be it male or female.
Love is about your vision and maturity!
Many fail to realise that 'love' 'slacks', of course, it really does!
In fact, most marriages do not last long due to lack of understanding!
I will be sharing my post right here on what we fail to realise about love.
The world is globally interconnected with people of different cultures, ‘views’ and ‘enlightenments’ but one thing is common in all corners of this planet and that is ‘love’.
Basically many claim to fall in love while others say they grow in love but many have forgotten one of the constant things that happens ‘during’ love.
It happens that when the feelings get slacked, the lady starts being afraid that the man doesn’t love her anymore, whereas she doesn’t know this ‘slackness’ is natural in every relationship no matter how ‘wonderful’ or ‘romantic’ it might have started.
Here are some reasons behind getting tired of ‘love’
(1) Trends
you certainly have come across stories that ended like ‘and they lived happily ever after’, haven’t you? Of course you had!
Now, with that mentality of ‘living happily ever after’, relationships can’t last long!
Have you ever tried to take a critical look at the rate by which divorce is rising?
It is based on the mentality ‘and they lived happily ever after!’
What in the world told you your spouse wouldn’t get on your nerves?
That mentality ‘and they lived happily ever after’ is a wrong mentality!
I’ve seen couples that got divorced just for a tooth paste ‘misunderstanding’.
The man said ‘hey lady, stop squeezing the paste from the middle’
The lady replied ‘that’s how we do it from where I came from and I can’t stop now’
They got infuriated when it happened constantly and called for a divorce, imagine!
They had failed to embrace their ‘similarities’ and ‘differences’ and that’s due to the mentality ‘and they lived happily ever after’

(2) Wedding thoughts and plans!
Wow, a lot of people would love a very big wedding ceremony but only few are ‘realistic’ about what comes ‘after’ weddings!
Ladies love a very colorful wedding ceremony and can go to peaks just to make it colorful!
Believe it or not, this mentality can cause anyone to get ‘tired’ of love.
If you took your time out to ask young ladies why they love weddings, you’ll receive replies like, ‘for the cake’, ‘for the wedding gown’, ‘admirations’.
Most, aren’t realistic with the facts behind it.

(3) SEX
Many believe love is based on ‘sex’ and ‘sex’ only, hey, look here, that’s a wrong mentality totally! LOVE IS NOT ALL ABOUT SEX.
Let’s take for instance a man with a ‘sexual’ stamina of 45 minutes and a lady with a ‘sexual’ stamina of 11 minutes!
How in the world do you think that lady wouldn’t call the man a dog?
With that ‘disapproval’ from her which triggers his ‘dissatisfaction’, he tends to go out to other ladies with the same ‘stamina’
then she discovers he’s cheating.
Would that make love stronger?
Absolutely not!

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW

2017-02-24T10:10:00.002-08:00

Men Are Like Rubber Bands Men are like rubber bands. When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. A rubber band is the perfect metaphor to understand the male intimacy cycle. This cycle involves getting close, pulling away, and then getting close again. Most women are surprised to realize that even when a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer. Men instinctively feel this urge to pull away. It is not a decision or choice. It just happens. It is neither his fault nor her fault. It is a natural cycle. Women misinterpret a man's pulling away because generally a woman pulls away for different reasons. She pulls back when she doesn't trust him to understand her feelings, when she has been hurt and is afraid of being hurt again, or when he has done something wrong and disappointed her. Certainly a man may pull away for the same reasons, but he will also pull away even if she has done nothing wrong. He may love and trust her; and then suddenly he begins to pull away. Like a stretched rubber band, he will distance himself and then come back all on his own. A man pulls away to fulfill his need for independence or autonomy. When he has fully stretched away, then instantly he will come springing back. When he has fully separated, then suddenly he will feel his need for love and intimacy again. Automatically he will he more motivated to give his love and receive the love he needs. When a man springs back, he picks up the relationship at whatever degree of intimacy it was when he stretched away. He doesn't feel any need for a period of getting reacquainted again. WHAT EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW ABOUT MEN If understood, this male intimacy cycle enriches a relationship, but because it is misunderstood it creates unnecessary problems. Let's explore an example. Maggie was distressed, anxious, and confused. She and her boyfriend, Jeff, had been dating for six months. Everything had been so romantic. Then without any apparent reason he began to distance himself emotionally. Maggie could not understand why he had suddenly pulled away. She told me, "One minute he was so attentive, and then the next he didn't even want to talk to me. I have tried everything to get him back but it only seems to make matters worse. He seems so distant. I don't know what I did wrong. Am I so awful?" When Jeff pulled away, Maggie took it personally. This is a common reaction. She thought she had done something wrong and blamed herself. She wanted to make things "right again," but the more she tried to get close to Jeff the more he pulled away.
After taking my seminar Maggie was so relieved. Her anxiety and confusion immediately disappeared. Most important, she stopped blaming herself. She realized that when Jeff pulled away it was not her fault. In addition she learned why he was pulling away and how gracefully to deal with it. Months later at another seminar, Jeff thanked me for what Maggie had learned. He told me they were now engaged to be married. Maggie had discovered a secret that few
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women know about men. Maggie realized that when she was trying to get close while Jeff was trying to pull away, she was actually preventing him from stretching his full distance and then springing back. By running after him, she was preventing him from ever feeling that he needed her and wanted to be with her. She realized that she had done this in every relationship. Unknowingly she had obstructed an important cycle. By trying to maintain intimacy she had prevented it. How a Man Is Suddenly Transformed If a man does not have the opportunity to pull away, he never gets a chance to feel his strong desire to be close. It is essential for women to understand that if they insist on continuous intimacy or "run after" their intimate male partner when he pulls away, then he will almost always be trying to escape and distance himself; he will never get a chance to feel his own passionate longing for love. In my seminars I demonstrate this with a big rubber band. Imagine that you are holding a rubber band. Now begin stretching your rubber band by pulling it to your right. This particular rubber band can stretch twelve inches. When the rubber band is stretched twelve inches there is nowhere left to go but back. And when it returns it has a lot of power and spring. Likewise, when a man has stretched away his full distance, he will return with a lot of power and spring. Once he pulls away to his limit, he begins to go through a transformation. His whole attitude begins to shift. This man who did not seem to care about or be interested in his partner (while he was pulling away) suddenly cannot live without her. He is now feeling again his need for intimacy. His power is back because his desire to love and be loved have been reawakened. This is generally puzzling for a woman because in her experience if she has pulled away, becoming intimate again requires a period of re-acquaintance. If she doesn't understand that men are different in this way, she may have a tendency to mistrust his sudden desire for intimacy and push him away. Men also need to understand this difference. When a man springs back, before a woman can open up again to him she generally wants and needs time and conversation to reconnect. This transition can be more graceful if a man understands a woman may need more time to regain the same level of intimacy-especially if she felt hurt when he pulled away. Without this understanding of differences, a man may become impatient because he is suddenly available to pick up the intimacy at whatever level of intensity it was when he pulled away and she is not. Why Men Pull Away Men begin to feel their need for autonomy and independence after they have fulfilled their need for intimacy. Automatically when he begins to pull away, she begins to panic. What she doesn't realize is that when he pulls away and fulfills his need for autonomy then suddenly he will want to be intimate again. A man automatically alternates between needing intimacy and autonomy.
For example, in the beginning of his relationship Jeff was strong and full of desire. His rubber band was fully stretched. He wanted to impress her, fulfill her, please her, and get close to her. As he succeeded she also wanted to get closer. As she opened her heart to him he got closer and
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closer. When they achieved intimacy he felt wonderful. But after a brief period a change took place. Imagine what happens to the rubber band. The rubber band becomes limp. Its power and stretch are gone. There is no longer any movement. This is exactly what happens to a man's desire to get close after intimacy has been achieved. Even though this closeness is fulfilling to a man, he will inevitably begin to go through an inner shift. He will begin to feel the urge to pull away. Having temporarily fulfilled his hunger for intimacy, he now feels his hunger to be independent, to be on his own. Enough of this needing another person. He may feel he has become too dependent or may not know why he feels a need to pull away. Why Women Panic As Jeff instinctively pulls away without any explanation to Maggie (or to himself), Maggie reacts with fear. She panics and runs after him. She thinks she has done something wrong and has turned him off. She imagines he is expecting her to re-establish intimacy. She is afraid he will never come back. To make matters worse, she feels powerless to get him back because she doesn't know what she did to turn him off. She doesn't know that this is just a part of his intimacy cycle. When she asks him what's the matter, he doesn't have a clear answer, and so he resists talking about it. He just continues to distance her even more. Why Men and Women Doubt Their Love Without an understanding of this cycle it is easy to see how men and women begin to doubt their love. Without seeing how she was preventing Jeff from finding his passion, Maggie could easily assume that Jeff didn't love her. Without getting the chance to pull away, Jeff would lose touch with his desire and passion to be close. He could easily assume that he no longer loved Maggie. After learning to let Jeff have his distance or "space," Maggie discovered that he did come back. She practiced not running after him when he would withdraw and trusted that everything was OK. Each time he did come back. As her trust in this process grew, it became easier for her not to panic. When he pulled away she did not run after him or even think something was wrong. She accepted this part of Jeff. The more she just accepted him at those times the sooner he would return. As Jeff began to understand his changing feelings and needs, he became more confident in his love. He was able to make a commitment. The secret of Maggie and Jeffs success was that they understood and accepted that men are like rubber bands. HOW WOMEN MISINTERPRET MEN
Without an understanding of how men are like rubber bands, it Is very easy for women to misinterpret a man's reactions. A common confusion arises when she says "Let's talk" and immediately he emotionally distances himself. Right when she wants to open up and get closer, he wants to pull away. Commonly I hear the complaint "Every time I want to talk, he pulls away. I feel like he doesn't care about me." She mistakenly concludes that he doesn't ever want
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to talk to her. This rubber band analogy explains how a man may care very much about his partner but suddenly pull away. When he pulls away it is not because he does not want to talk. Instead, he needs some time alone; time to be with himself when he is not responsible for anyone else. It is a time for him to take care of himself. When he returns then he is available to talk. To a certain extent a man loses himself through connecting with his partner. By feeling her needs, problems, wants, and emotions he may lose touch with his own sense of self. Pulling away allows him to re-establish his personal boundaries and fulfill his need to feet autonomous. Some men, however, may describe this pulling away differently. To them it is just a feeling of "I need some space" or "I need to be alone." Regardless of how it is described, when a man pulls away, he is fulfilling a valid need to take care of himself for a while. Just as we do not decide to be hungry, a man does not decide to pull away. It is an instinctual urge. He can only get so close, and then he begins to lose himself. At this point he begins to feel his need for autonomy and begins to pull away. By understanding this process, women can begin correctly to interpret this pulling away. Why Men Pull Away When Women Get Close For many women, a man tends to pull away precisely at the time when she wants to talk and be intimate. This occurs for two reasons. 1. A woman will unconsciously sense when a man is pulling away and precisely at those times she will attempt to re-establish their intimate connection and say "Let's talk." As he continues to pull away, she mistakenly concludes that he doesn't want to talk or that he doesn't care for her. 2. When a woman opens up and shares deeper and more intimate feelings it may actually trigger a man's need to pull away. A man can only handle so much intimacy before his alarm bells go off, saying it is time to find balance by pulling away. At the most intimate moments a man may suddenly automatically switch to feeling his need for autonomy and pull away. It is very confusing for a woman when a man pulls away because something she says or does often triggers his departure. Generally when a woman starts to talk about thing with feeling a man starts to feel this urge to pull away. This is because feelings draw men closer and create intimacy, and when a man gets too dose he automatically pulls away. It is not that he doesn't want to hear her feelings. At another time in his intimacy cycle, when he is needing to get close, the same feelings that could have triggered his departure will draw him closer. It is not what she says that triggers his departure but when she says it. WHEN TO TALK WITH A MAN When a man is pulling away is not the time to talk or try to get closer. Let him pull away. After some time, he will return. He will appear loving and supportive and will act as though nothing has happened. This is the time to talk.
At this golden time, when a man wants intimacy and is actually available to talk, women
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generally don't initiate conversations. This occurs for these three common reasons: 1. A woman is afraid to talk because the last time she wanted to talk he pulled away. She mistakenly assumes that he doesn't care and he doesn't want to listen. 2. A woman is afraid the man is upset with her and she waits for him to initiate a conversation about his feelings. She knows that if she were suddenly to pull away from him, before she could reconnect she would need to talk about what happened. She waits for him to initiate a conversation about what upset him. He, however, doesn't need to talk about his upset feelings because he is not upset. 3. A woman has so much to say that she doesn't want to be rude and just begin talking. To be polite, instead of talking about ber own thoughts and feelings she makes the mistake of asking him questions about his feelings and thoughts. When he has nothing to say, she concludes he doesn't want to have a conversation with her. With all of these incorrect beliefs about why a man is not talking, it is no wonder that women are frustrated with men. NOW TO GET A MAN TO TALK When a woman wants to talk or feels the need to get close, she should do the talking and not expect a man to initiate the conversation. To initiate a conversation she needs to be the first to begin sharing, even if her partner has little to say. As she appreciates him for listening, gradually he will have more to say. A man can be very open to having a conversation with a woman but at first have nothing to say. What women don't know about Martians is that they need to have a reason to talk. They don't talk just for the sake of sharing. But when a woman talks for a while, a man will start to open up and share how he relates to what she has shared. For example, if she talks about some of her difficulties during the day he may share some of the difficulties of his day so that they can understand each other. If she talks about her feelings about the kids, he may then talk about his feelings about the kids. As she opens up and he doesn't feel blamed or pressured, then he gradually begins to open up. How Women Pressure Men to Talk A woman sharing her thoughts naturally motivates a man to talk. But when he feels a demand is being made that he talk, his mind goes blank. He has nothing to say. Even if he has something to say he will resist because he feels her demand. It is hard for a man when a woman demands that he talk. She unknowingly turns him off by interrogating him. Especially when he doesn't feel the need to talk. A woman mistakenly assumes that a man "needs to talk" and therefore "should." She forgets that he is from Mars and doesn't feel the need to talk as much. She even feels that unless he talks, he doesn't love hen To reject a man for not talking is to ensure that he has nothing to say. A man needs to feel accepted just the way he is, and then he will gradually open up. He does not feel accepted when she wants him to talk more or resents him for pulling away.
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A man who needs to pull away a lot before he can learn to share and open up will first need to listen a lot. He needs to be appreciated for listening, then gradually he will say more. How to Initiate a Conversation with a Man The more a woman tries to get a man to talk the more he will resist. Directly trying to get him to talk is not the best approach, especially if he is stretching away. Instead of wondering how she can get him to talk a better question might be "How can I achieve greater intimacy, conversation, and communication with my partner? If a woman feels the need for more talk in the relationship, and most women do, then she can initiate more conversation but with a mature awareness that not only accepts but also expects that sometimes he will be available and at other times he will instinctively pull away. When he is available, instead of asking him twenty questions or demanding that he talk, she could let him know that she appreciates him even if he just listens. In the beginning she should even discourage him from talking. For example, Maggie could say "Jeff, would you listen to me for a while? I've had a hard day and I want to talk about it. It will make me feel much better." After Maggie talked for a couple of minutes then she could pause and say "I really appreciate when you listen to my feelings, it means a lot to me." This appreciation encourages a man to listen more. Without appreciation and encouragement, a man may lose interest because he feels as though his "listening" is "doing nothing." He doesn't realize how valuable his listening is to her. Most women, however, instinctively know how important listening is. To expect a man to know this without some training is to expect him to be like a woman. Fortunately, after being appreciated for listening to a woman, a man does learn to respect the value of talking. WHEN A MAN WON'T TALK Sandra and Larry had been married for twenty years. Sandra wanted a divorce and Larry wanted to make things work. She said, "How can he say he wants to stay married? He doesn't love me. He doesn't feel anything. He walks away when I need him to talk. He is cold and heartless. For twenty years he has withheld his feelings. I am not willing to forgive him. I will not stay in this marriage. I am too tired of trying to get him to open up and share his feelings and be vulnerable." Sandra didn't know how she had contributed to their problems. She thought it was all her husband's fault. She thought she had done everything to promote intimacy, conversation, and communication, and he had resisted her for twenty years. After hearing about men and rubber bands in the seminar, she burst into tears of forgiveness for her husband. She realized that "his" problem was "their" problem. She recognized how she had contributed to their problem.
She said, "I remember in our first year of marriage I would open up, talk about my feelings, and he would just walk away. I thought he didn't love me. After that happened a few times, I gave up. I was not willing to be hurt again. I did not know that at another time he would be
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able to listen to my feelings. I didn't give him a chance. I stopped being vulnerable. I wanted him to open up before I would." One-sided Conversations Sandra's conversations were generally one-sided. She would try to get him to talk first by asking him a string of questions. Then, before she could share what she wanted to talk about, she would become upset with his short answers. When she finally did share her feelings, they were always the same. She was upset that he was not open, loving, and sharing. A one-sided conversation might go like this: SANDRA: How was your day? LARRY: OK. SANDRA: What happened? LARRY* The usual. SANDRA: What do you feel like doing this weekend? LARRY. I don't care. What do you want to do? SANDRA: Do you want to invite our friends over? LARRY: I don't know. Do you know where the TV schedule is? SANDRA: (upset) Why don't you talk to me? LARRY: (Stunned and silent.) SANDRA: Do you love me? LARRY: Of course I love you. I married you. SANDRA: How could you love me? We never talk any more. How can you just sit there and say nothing. Don't you care? At this point, Larry would get up and go for a walk. When he came back he would act as though nothing had happened. Sandra would also act as though everything was fine, but inside she would withdraw her love and warmth. On the surface she would try to be loving, but on the inside her resentment increased. From time to time it would boil up and she would begin another one-sided interrogation of her husband's feelings. After twenty years of gathering evidence that he did not love her, she was no longer willing to be deprived of intimacy. Learning to Support Each Other Without Having to Change At the seminar Sandra said, "I have spent twenty years trying to get Larry to talk. I wanted him to open up and be vulnerable. I didn't realize that what I was missing was a man who would support me in being open and vulnerable. That is what I really needed. I have shared more intimate feelings with my husband this weekend than in twenty years. I feel so loved. This is what I have been missing. I thought he had to change. Now I know nothing is wrong with him or me. We just didn't know how to support each other." Sandra had always complained that Larry didn't talk. She had convinced herself that his silence made intimacy impossible. At the seminar she learned to share her feelings without expecting or demanding Larry to reciprocate. Instead of rejecting his silence she learned to appreciate it. It made him a better listener.
Larry learned the art of listening. He practiced listening without trying to fix her. It is much more effective to teach a man to listen than to open up and be vulnerable. As he learns to listen to someone he cares for and is appreciated in response, he gradually will open up and share
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more automatically. When a man feels appreciated for listening and he doesn't feel rejected for not sharing more, he will gradually begin to open up. When he feels as though he doesn't have to talk more, then naturally he will. But first he needs to feel accepted. If she is still frustrated by his silence she is forgetting that men are from Mars! WHEN A MAN DOESN'T PULL AWAY Lisa and Jim had been married for two years. They did everything together. They were never apart. After a while, Jim became increasingly irritable, passive, moody, and temperamental. In a private counseling session, Lisa told me, "He is no longer any fun to be with. I have tried everything to cheer him up, but it doesn't work. I want to do fun things together, like going to restaurants, shopping, traveling, going to plays, parties, and dancing, but he doesn't. We never do anything anymore. We just watch TV, eat, sleep, and work. I try to love him, but I am angry. He used to be so charming and romantic. Living with him now is like living with a slug. I don't know what to do. He just won't budge!" After learning about the male intimacy cycle-the rubber band theory-both Lisa and Jim realized what had happened. They were spending too much time together. Jim and Lisa needed to spend more time apart. When a man gets too close and doesn't pull away, common symptoms are increased moodiness, irritability, passiveness, and defensiveness. Jim had not learned how to pull away. He felt guilty spending time alone. He thought he was supposed to share everything with his wife. Lisa also thought they were supposed to do everything together. In counseling I asked Lisa why she had spent so much time with Jim. She said, "I was afraid he would get upset if I did anything fun without him. One time I went shopping and he got really upset with me." Jim said, "I remember that day. But I wasn't upset with you. I was upset about losing some money in a business deal. I actually remember that day because I remember noticing how good I felt having the whole house to myself. I didn't dare tell you that because I thought it would hurt your feelings." Lisa said, "I thought you didn't want me to go out without you. You seemed so distant." Becoming More Independent With this new awareness, Lisa got the permission she needed not to worry so much about Jim. Jim pulling away actually helped her become more autonomous and independent. She started taking better care of herself. As she started doing the things she wanted to do and get more support from her girlfriends she was much happier,
She released her resentment toward Jim. She realized that she had been expecting too much from him. Having beard about the rubber band she realized how she was contributing to their problem. She realized that he needed more time to be alone. Her loving sacrifices were not only preventing him from pulling away and then springing back but her dependent attitude was
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also smothering him. Lisa started doing fun things without Jim. She did some of the things that she had been wanting to do. One night she went out to cat with some girlfriends. Another night she went to a play. Another night she went to a birthday bowling party. Simply a Miracle What amazed her was how quickly their relationship changed. Jim became much more attentive and interested in her. Within a couple of weeks, Jim started to come back to his old self again. He was wanting to do fun things with her and started planning dates. He got his motivation back. In counseling he said, "I feel so relieved. I feel loved ... when Lisa comes home she is happy to see me. It feels so good to miss ber when she is gone. It feels good to 'feel' again. I had almost forgotten what it was like. Before it seemed like nothing I did was good enough. Lisa was always trying to get me to do things, telling me what to do and asking me questions." Lisa said, "I realized I was blaming him for my unhappiness. As I took responsibility for my happiness, I experienced that Jim was more energetic and alive. It's like a miracle. " OBSTRUCTING THE INTIMACY CYCLE There are two ways a woman may unknowingly obstruct her male partner's natural intimacy cycle. They are: (1) chasing him when he pulls away; and (2) punishing him for pulling away. The following is a list of the most common ways a woman "chases a man" and prevents him from pulling away: CHASING BEHAVIORS 1. Physical When he pulls away, she physically follows him. He may walk into another room and she follows. Or as in the example of Lisa and Jim, she does not do the things she wants to do so that she can be with her partner. 2. Emotional When he pulls away, she emotionally follows him. She worries about him. She wants to help him feel better. She feels sorry for him. She smothers him with attention and praise. Another way she may emotionally stop him from pulling away is to disapprove of his need to be alone. Through disapproving she is also emotionally pulling him back. Another approach is to look longingly or hurt when he pulls away. In this way she pleads for his intimacy and he feels controlled. 3. Mental
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She may try to pull him back mentally by asking him guilt-inducing questions such as "How could you treat me this way?" or "What's wrong with you?" or "Don't you realize how much it hurts me when you pull away?" Another way she may try to pull him back is to try to please him. She becomes overly accommodating. She tries to be perfect so he would never have any reason to pull away. She gives up her sense of self and tries to become what she thinks he wants. She is afraid to rock the boat for fear that he might pull away, and so she withholds her true feelings and avoids doing anything that may upset him. The second major way a woman may unknowingly interrupt a man's intimacy cycle is to punish him for pulling away. The following is a list of the most common ways a woman "punishes a man" and prevents him from coming back and opening up to her: PUNISHING BEHAVIORS 1. Physical When he begins to desire her again she rejects him. She pushes away his physical affection. She may reject him sexually She doesn't allow him to touch her or be dose. She may hit him or break things in order to show her displeasure. When a man is punished for pulling away, he can become afraid of ever doing it again. This fear may prevent him from pulling away in the future. His natural cycle is then broken. It may also create an anger that blocks him from feeling his desire for intimacy He may not come back when he has pulled away. 2. Emotional When he returns, she is unhappy and she blames him. She does not forgive him for neglecting her. There is nothing he can do to please her or make her happy. He feels incapable of fulfilling her and gives up. When he returns, she expresses her disapproval through words, tone of voice, and by looking at her partner in a certain wounded way. 3. Mental When he returns, she refuses to open up and share her feelings. She becomes cold and resents him for not opening up and talking. She stops trusting that he really cares and punishes him by not giving him a chance to listen and be the "good" guy. When he happily returns to her, he is in the doghouse. When a man feels punished for pulling away, he can become afraid of losing her love if he pulls away. He begins to feel unworthy of her love if he pulls away. He may become afraid to reach out for her love again because he feels unworthy; he assumes he will be rejected. This fear of rejection prevents him from coming back from his journey into the cave. HOW A MAN'S PAST MAY AFFECT HIS INTIMACY CYCLE
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This natural cycle in a man may already be obstructed from his childhood. He may be afraid to pull away because he witnessed his mother's disapproval of his father's emotional distancing. Such a man may not even know that he needs to pull away. He may unconsciously create arguments to justify pulling away. This kind of man naturally develops more of his feminine side but at the expense of suppressing some of his masculine power. He is a sensitive man. He tries hard to please and be loving but loses part of his masculine self in the process. He feels guilty pulling away. Without knowing what has happened he loses his desire, power, and passion; he becomes passive or overly dependent. He may be afraid to be alone or to go into his cave. He may think he doesn't like being alone because deep inside he is afraid of losing love. He has already experienced in childhood his mother rejecting his father or directly rejecting him. While some men don't know how to pull away, others don't know how to get close. The macho man has no problem pulling away. He just can't come back and open up. Deep inside he may be afraid he is unworthy of love. He is afraid of being close and caring a lot. He does not have a picture of how welcomed he would be if he got closer. Both the sensitive male and the macho male are missing a positive picture or experience of their natural intimacy cycle. Understanding this male intimacy cycle is just as important for men as it is for women. Some men feel guilty needing to spend time in their caves or they may get confused when they start to pull away and then later spring back. They may mistakenly think something is wrong, with them. It is such a relief for both men and women to understand these secrets about men. WISE MEN AND WOMEN Men generally don't realize how their suddenly pulling away and then later returning affects women. With this new insight about how women are affected by his intimacy cycle, a man can recognize the importance of sincerely listening when a woman speaks. He understands and respects her need to be reassured that he is interested in her and he does care. Whenever he is not needing to pull away, the wise man takes the time to initiate conversation by asking his female partner how she is feeling. He grows to understand his own cycles and reassures her when he pulls away that he will be back. He might say "I need some time to be alone and then we will have some special time together with no distractions." Or if he starts to pull away while she is talking he might say "I need some time to think about this and then we can talk again." When he returns to talk, she might probe him to understand why he left. If he's not sure, which is many times the case, he might say "I'm not sure. I just needed some time to myself. But let's continue our conversation." He is more aware that she needs to be heard and he needs to listen more when he is not pulling away. In addition, he knows that listening helps him to become aware of what he wants to share in a conversation.
To initiate a conversation the wise woman learns not to demand that a man talk but asks that he truly listen to her. As her emphasis changes, the pressure on him is released. She learns to open
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up and share her feelings without demanding that he do the same. She trusts that he will gradually open up more as he feels accepted and listens to her feelings. She does not punish him or chase after him. She understands that sometimes her intimate feelings trigger his need to pull away while at other times (when he is on his way back) he is quite capable of hearing her intimate feelings. This wise woman does not give up. She patiently and lovingly persists with a knowing that few women have

SEX

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One of the greatest headaches of many young
ladies in relationship is the issue of sex. While
they find themselves entangled in love, they also
would not want to offend God by fornicating.
Meanwhile, most young men of today are always
demanding sex before marriage as a proof of
love. If a lady denies her boyfriend (fiance) sex,
he tends to think she either does not love him or
she is seeing another guy. And this throws the
lady into so much confusion. She genuinely loves
the guy but wouldn't want to give in to sex. If
she denies him, she may lose him and if she gives
in too she disobeys God. Sorry to our ladies.
Gentleman, please know that it is absolutely a lie
from the pit of hell that if your fiancee does not
give you sex it shows she doesn't love you. How
can you use sex as a LOVEOMETRE? Have you
never slept with ladies you didn't truly love? If
you haven't then let me tell you that many people
are having sex with people they never love. And
the men are themselves the worst culprits.
If sex is a proof of love then we have to conclude
that prostitutes love all the men they sleep with.
If sex is a proof of love then we have to go about
sleeping with our best friends and even family
members to show how deeply we love them.
Even married couples, do not have sex to prove
their love. They rather have sex because sex is
part of marriage and it is meant for both
procreation and recreation - child birth and
enjoyment. Don't you know that there are married
couples who are not genuinely in love but they
still have sex as a matter of duty or just for
cover-ups?
Surely, sex plays a major role in love affairs. But
Eccl 3:1 says, "For everything there is a
season..." It is never the right season to have sex
in a relationship. This is because sex is a blood
covenant between husband and wife not boyfriend
and girlfriend. Gen. 4:1 says, "Adam knew his
wife". It does not say "Adam knew his girlfriend".
Stop going that far with the lady. If you want to
know about a woman's love for you sex is never
the answer. Leave her alone to serve God right for
your own sake if you truly want to marry her.
Song of Songs 2:7 says, "I charge you, O
daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelle...that you
AWAKEN NOT LOVE UNTIL IT IS TIME".
The gazelle is a very swift animal. It runs at least
96 km per hour. Bible compares romance to the
gazelle. If you start romance at the wrong time
you may crash because you will not be able to
stop it from running your life at top speed. So
until you are married, don't AWAKEN LOVE. Sex
has been the main reason for most broken hearts
and disappointments.
Sex is called love-making because it involves the
body, soul and spirit. Do you want your soul and
spirit to be tied to somebody who is not married
to you? Can you stand the consequences, Mr.
Young Man? Hear the Bible:
"O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my vows,
DO NOT SPEND YOUR STRENGTH ON WOMEN,
YOUR VIGOUR ON THOSE WHO DESTROY
KINGS." (Prov. 31:2)
Sex before marriage can destroy you, even your
Christian life. The funny thing is some
Brothers in Christ even worry the
Sisters in Christ for sex. So God says, "My
son...son of my vow". You are a son of God so
don't waste your energy on women. You should
rather be teaching her chastity and help her serve
God well.
Seeking love from sex is like looking for Jesus in
an empty tomb.(Word) Take it easy. When you marry
you will be fed up with sex. Your wife will be
chasing you with it and you will be running away,
saying, "Oh I'm tired, why?". Take time okay, Wait patiently. It will soon be laid at
your doorstep and you will notice how stupid it is
to chase sex when you are not married.
If you want a woman to prove her love to you,
allow her some space to be herself. Do not force
your will on her or control her. Her love, by
nature, will push her to do things that will signal
to you that you are her top priority. She will be
ready to marry you, than just have fun with you.
She will not be interested in you showering things
on her but rather, she would want both of you to
set your life and future right. She will support
your dreams and visions and help you build up
your Christian life. In fact, she will exhibit the
spirit of humility and you will also discover she is
a precious jewel in a glass jar, reserved for you
alone.
So from today, even if she herself brings sex, tell
her..."Do not awaken love until it is time." And if
you guys love each other, plan about marrying
and submit your plans to God. He will bless it and
put you two together as one.. Ladies...you should also
read before sending to him
I wish u read all to the last.....our ladies are dying in the hands of some unmerciful men.
Sex has turned many ladies into a mystery of
thinking what they feel for a particular guy is true love.
You meet a guy, he takes you out; He had a
great sex with you, it was like heaven to you. He makes you feel happy because you enjoyed him so much
you start assuming both of you are meant to
be together as husband & wife.
You start dreaming of your future with him
while he's just having fun. Your feelings for him has blindfolded you from seeing things from the reality point
of view. You find yourself infatuated with him just because you don't want to feel used & dumped.
Sometimes you need to sit down & ask yourself; what do i really love about this guy?
Do I see Christ in him? Is he a guy I can boldly take to my pastor? Can I introduce him as my husband to people who
are responsible? You know the guy is not
capable of being a good husband & father; yet you want to kill yourself because of him. But sometimes you need
to differentiate between what you just feel and what you really deserve. (Deep)
Don't start dreaming of your future with a guy who is just catching his fun. Don't attach a permanent feeling to a temporal person. Don't open up your heart to
a guy who doesn't open his bible. Stop chasing
after a guy who doesn't chase after God.(Word👌🏻)
Look, Maybe as a lady your lifestyle is not
pleasing to God, today is your day of salvation. Don't wait till when you marry & divorce before you realize you need Jesus. You don't have to wait till when you become a single mother before you aspire to
be an evangelist.
Give your life to Jesus now and He will give
you a man who will take care of you. You cannot receive anything from God until you first receive His only Son
because Jesus is everything that God has given for you.
Pls share with all youths.
Give to your female friends...
Give to your male friends..

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