Great Sex After 40

Young Man struggling with Premature Ejaculation

I am 18 years old but am already feeling the effects of premature ejaculation. I broke up with my girlfriend partly because she was unsatisfied with my performance. I believe it is attributed to both masturbation and pornography. But my question is, do you need a partner to complete your program, or can it be [...]

Can I shorten my refractory period?

As I get older, it takes longer to get hard again after orgasm/ejaculation. Are there any studies about this? Are there any effective treatments such as exercises, herbs, medications, etc.?

Erection Myths—And The Truth About Erections

In many men over 40, sexual myths contribute to normal middle-age erection balkiness and to more serious erectile dysfunction (ED). Here are the most erection-deflating myths—and the truth about these issues: Myth: Erection is something men “achieve.” The American Urological Association (AUA) defines erectile dysfunction (ED) as “inability for at least 3 months to achieve [...]

Sex and Marijuana: Findings of My Informal Survey

In a blog post a year ago on PsychologyToday.com, I posted about marijuana’s contradictory effects on lovemaking, an impact notably different from other recreational drugs. The sexual effects of alcohol, cocaine, narcotics, and meth, you name it, are well-documented and predictable. But not marijuana. Its sexual effects are all over the map, from “I can’t [...]

Wanting to be supportive of my boyfriend with PE

My boyfriend and I haven’t been together very long. We had sex for the first time not too long ago and it brought up some ongoing issues he has with Premature Ejaculation. He hasn’t been in a relationship in quite some time and he says that 95% of the time when this happens, it was [...]

Any chance for erection anymore?

I am 60 years old in a few months. Have not had successful erection to ejaculation in approximately 12 years. Diabetic, and low testosterone. Treating both medically. Is the diabetes just plain going to prevent erections again, regaddless of whether I get the Testosterone back?

Is Maca an Aphrodisiac?

Maca (Lepidium meyenii) is a perennial ground cover that grows high in the Andes under very harsh conditions where few plants can survive. Ancient Andean shepherds ate the fleshy root (similar to ginger) as a vegetable and fed it to their livestock. They noticed that the herb improved their herds’ health and appeared to increase [...]

Husband wants me to fuck a black man

My 55-year-old husband’s fantasy is for me to have sex with a black man. He gets very aroused by this fantasy. He also enjoys watching interracial porn–black men, white women. I’m not interested in sex with anyone but him. I don’t want to fuck a black man, or any other man. But my husband keeps [...]

Don’t Douche!

Behind “that clean, fresh feeling” touted in ads for feminine hygiene products is the implication that the vagina is a dirty, smelly organ that turns men off during sex. But the ads have struck a nerve. An estimated 15 percent of U.S. women to douche regularly. Some use home-made water-vinegar solutions, but most spring for [...]

Do Older Adults Have Sex?

A while back, I read a headline: “Sex After 70? Not Much.” The Bloomberg News story said a University of Chicago study of 6,000 Americans showed that “the average person’s sex life ends by age 70.” No way, I thought, so I read the study in the British Medical Journal. It did NOT say sex [...]

The Hymen: A Membrane Misunderstood

“Hymen” derives from the Greek for membrane. Hymen was also the Greek god of marriage. These two facts summarize the conventional wisdom about this widely misunderstood tissue, that this fabled membrane covers the vaginal opening, and is “pierced,” “broken,” or “torn asunder” when women wed and have intercourse, presumably for the first time. For thousands [...]

Persistent Gential Arousal Disorder?

I have been looking for anything about men with this disorder. It started only 1 month ago and is increasing in frequency and intensity. I’ve read that the male version is called priapism, but I am having the symptoms that women report. I am having over 50 orgasm a day, and they all feel very, [...]

VIbrator Myths—And Truth

Vibrators are by far the most popular sex toy. According to a recent nationally representative survey by University of Indiana researchers, 53 percent of American women have used them. But some women don’t use vibrators for fear of harm, and many men wonder what a woman’s use of a vibrator means. I hope to set [...]

Is masturbation harmful physically and psychologically?

I am a 23-year old single adult from Afghanistan and my religious affiliation is Islam. I am in a confusion between the Islamic perception of masturbation and that of the Western countries. In Islam, it is strictly forbidden and in most of their books and articles they say masturbation is forbidden and extremely harmful both [...]

Yohimbine for erection?

Please advise where I can get yohimbine to treat male impotency. Thank you.

Intercourse problem: Erectile dysfunction AND Premature Ejaculation

I am 53 years old. I find my organ not erecting smartly or lasting long. I discharge very prematurely. I have full desire but can’t carry on as I wish. Can you help?

Loose vagina

My vagina is horribly loose and I need some advice.

He’s over-sexed. I’m under-sexed.

He sends me his pictures in the nude. Is it normal?

The Rare Truth About Penis Size

Ask any credible sexologist about penis size, and you hear three words: It doesn’t matter. But size matters a great deal to many (most?) men. Why the disconnect? Many reasons. Are there any safe, effective ways to increase size? Yes! Here’s why sexologists say size doesn’t matter. Any size penis can provide great pleasure for [...]

She insists on missionary only

I am married for 15 years and have a good sex life, but my partner likes only one position, me on top missionary. I’ve tried many times to convince her to try the doggie style position but she completely refuses and justifies it by saying that she felt a pain in her pussy so i [...]