Heartbreak Nymphomania

Pleasurists #68

Wilhelmina Wang — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 02:30:14 +0000

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Compartments

Wilhelmina Wang — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 10:45:56 +0000

Before I started dating J, I went "hunting" a lot. Often, I didn't begin the night with that as my intention; it's not like I went out and planned to spend my night looking for someone to bang. That's just what I ended up doing. (Well, along with socializing and drinking and all that other stuff one does at a party.) I noticed as much after I started going out with J, and thus had a consistent sexual partner, and thus didn't need to go looking for people to have sex with anymore. The first week or so after we started going out, I'd be at my frat, or at a party, beginning to scope people out, and then remembering - wait, I don't actually need to do this anymore. I can just hang out with people normally. What a relief!

... Or maybe not a relief. I began thinking a little more about the relationship between my sexuality and how I interact with people. If you're a long time reader, you'll remember my discussing how sex is never "just" sex to me. While I don't always attribute love to it, I do attribute many other things to it; may it be emotional connection, or attention, or a self-esteem boost. Conversely, many things lead me to think of sex; perhaps uncommon things. I must have reached a certain point where sex became just another way of getting to know someone. There have definitely been times where I've been getting to know someone new, socially or at work or anything, and I was enjoying getting to know them, and I'd randomly wonder what it would be like to have sex with them. Just a passing curiosity, you understand, I might not really want to have sex with them or even be attracted to them. I'd just wonder because maybe it would tell me something more about them.

J has remarked before that it sounds like I mix up sex and intimacy a lot, when sometimes they're actually mutually exclusive. Some close friends have also remarked that I mix up friendship and love, or friendship and sex. Friendship, romance, and sex are all kind of blurry to me. I see moving from one to another just like shifting gears, or viewing the same thing through a different lens. They're all the same matter, but just have different forms. I mean, it's not like I think that I could love or want sex with all of my friends. Sometimes the possibility just isn't there. But when it is, moving from one to another isn't really very difficult for me. I never found much of a problem with it. Many people I know have clear boundaries between each thing (friend, fuckbuddy, significant other) but I didn't really ever set those boundaries in place. So what happened was everything just kind of... spilled into each other. And so I ended up having sex with many of my closest friends; having undefined sexual/romantic relationships; hooking up with someone and then becoming friends with them; or breaking up with a boyfriend but continuing to sleep with him for a while after that.

I think that blurry view is changing now.

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(Notice that I'm not addressing love or falling in love here. That's too big for this conversation, I think. I'm merely referring to the nature of different kinds of relationships.)

Anyway, this never used to worry me, but it does now because I think I used sex to relate to people, when I'd have been better off doing something else. Honestly? There have been times when I felt more comfortable making out with someone I was just getting to know, compared to trying to approach someone at a party. I remember when I was first getting to know the Professional, I invited him to a rope bondage workshop with me. Doing that put a clear sexual overtone to whatever was going to happen between us, while, at the time, I didn't even know if I was interested in him yet. Inviting him to a rope bondage event just felt more natural to me than... something else.

There could be many reasons for that, and they're probably all correct: I'm fairly comfortable with my sexuality, whereas I'm socially anxious and don't like interacting in large group situations; if I'm "offering" sex then the person has more incentive to hang out with me (yeah, for a long while my self-esteem was just that low). I can't keep using sex as a social lubricant though, and not just because I'm dating J. It just isn't very sustainable.

My lack of boundaries also worries me because... well, let me put it this way. Having multiple friends-with-benefits and fuck-buddies, when that's all I had, didn't matter. It's quite different once you're committed to someone and you have a past life that's full of friends-with-benefits and fuck-buddies. Many of the people I slept with were also close friends of mine. They're all over the US now, but I still keep in touch with them and they're still a part of my life to some extent. It's a little awkward when I want to tell J about them or when I want to tell them about J. In a way, they're not just my close friends, they're also my "exes," even though we were never in a relationship. We were sleeping together for a sustained period of time, and there was some kind of interest expressed by both parties... that's basically enough.

So every time I mention one of those friends to J, there's a little tension there. Not too much to be unhealthy, but it's still a little awkward. I think J is mature enough not to let those things get in the way, and that I have good enough judgement to not harp on my past sexual relationships constantly for no reason (hmm. I hope). I introduced J to the Rationalist, and he reacted with the same tenseness and shiftiness at first, but after they ran into each other more often and had more conversations, they got along pretty well, which is nice.

And, of course, my "exes" have their own reactions to when I talk about J, ranging from happiness on my behalf, to defensiveness/protectiveness, to suspicion, to silence.

As J said, it's the elephant in the room: "we both fucked this girl at some point in time." With my friends who I didn't have a sexual relationship with, that tension is not there. J is friends with his ex-girlfriends as well, and I don't have a problem with that or feel jealous, but I do think of them differently than the rest of his friends.

I don't regret anything I did in the past. I did what I did, and I'm dealing with the ramifications now, and they're not awful or all that difficult to deal with. I didn't write this post because I'm stressing. These things are just probably good things to know for future use. I think I need to re-evaluate how I approach boundaries.

All part of growing up, I guess.

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Review: Spartacus Adjustable Broad Tip Clamps

Wilhelmina Wang — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 22:01:33 +0000

I have quite a number of "beginner's" BDSM toys to review - a few days ago I reviewed a Wartenberg Wheel, and today I'm reviewing a pair of Spartacus Adjustable Broad Tip Clamps, also from Sextoy.com.

First, I guess a quick intro to nipple clamp types is in order: the three most common types I've seen so far are tweezer clamps, alligator clamps (and variations thereof), and clover clamps. These clamps are a type of alligator clamp. Tweezer and alligator clamps are more suitable for beginners, as adjustable versions are produced as well. Clover clamps are intense; they're heavier, are much more painful, and yanking on the connecting chain actually tightens them.

Tweezer clamps can be adjusted by sliding a metal piece up or down the tweezer part. I've never used tweezer clamps, but I expect them to be more difficult to adjust, because I imagine the metal piece might slide up or down if the clamps were jostled, or if you were slightly on the clumsy side. These broad tip clamps, as well as other alligator clamp models, are adjusted by a screw, which seems much easier to me, and once you adjust them, they stay in place.

Another difference is that tweezer clamps are narrower, thus don't clamp onto much flesh. I also own a pair of "eagle clamps" that are very similar to alligator clamps, except that the clamp area is pointed, not broad and flat. A narrower clamp means that the pressure is concentrated on a smaller area, so is probably slightly more intense. However, broader tips clamp onto more flesh, making them easier to use on tiny man-nipples. You can just pinch a big area of flesh - the aureole as well as the nipple - so it will stay on easier. One of the difficulties I had trying to use my eagle clamps on the Optimist was just getting them to stay on.

These clamps are also linked by a chain, which can be fun to yank on and lead your partner around with. Some clamps have vibrating bullets, or pretty colored beads, but I liked having the option to yank someone around by the nipples.

Basically, I picked these clamps as one of my first pairs because they seemed easier to use and more versatile than other types.

Pointed v.s. broad tips

So far, I've only used the clamps on myself. The "easy to use" part was only half true: the tips of the clamps are coated in black rubber, which probably prevents hard metal poking into your nipple. However, the coating coupled with the wideness of the clamps makes the clamps fall off easier when the chain is yanked, or if I have sweat on my skin. The adjustment screws were kind of long - a bit too long, actually, since you can't turn them all the way and open the clamps to that extent. The clamps just don't open that wide. The screws also aren't fixed in place, they have been slid through a hole in the clamp. I left these clamps loose (i.e. not in a storage baggie) in my toy drawer for a while, and one of the screws got detached and lost. Annoying. So now I store them in the plastic clamshell they came in.

Also, to adjust the clamps, you need to pinch the clamps open, and then turn the screw to the desired tension. If you don't hold the clamps open while adjusting them, the screw gets stuck. With my eagle clamps, I just have to turn the screw to adjust them. A moot point, perhaps, but I think it says something about Spartacus' design.

After being disappointed by the shoddy quality of one of their crops, I was suspicious of trying out another Spartacus product. But apparently, they make halfway decent clamps.

Specs:
- Type: Nipple clamp
- Clamp width: 0.4"
- Chain length: 12"
- Price @ sextoy.com: $11.70

Further reading:
- Nipple Clamps 101
- How to Play with Nipple Clamps

Three out of five hearts.

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Pleasurists #67

Wilhelmina Wang — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 20:26:35 +0000

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Wilhelmina Wang — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 09:24:30 +0000

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This is going to be my first personal post in a long while, and it's not about sex or relationships at all, really. This blog seems more and more like it's going to turn into mostly a toy review blog, at least for now... I haven't really felt like writing erotica or about my and J's sex life. Maybe it's because I have someone consistent to share those sectors of myself with, now?

Anyway, I would have just written this in my private journal, but I kind of want to see if anyone who reads this might have something helpful to tell me. I apologize if it's a little long or incoherent.

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I've been feeling a certain way for about a year or so now, but it's become more pointed recently: I call this feeling deep apathy. Throughout my college career, I've never been a particularly diligent student. However, for the past month or so, I've done hardly any of my readings. I've missed most of class. The last couple of days, I slept 12 hours each night, and didn't get up until about 3pm. I wasn't even tired, I just didn't want to get up. I've often felt like dreams were preferable to a typical, mundane day, but I feel that even more now. This morning, I had a dream about me and my family getting on a plane or a boat or some kind of traveling contraption, and going on a long trip. I dream about my family a lot these days.

Today, I know that I was sleeping because I was specifically avoiding the day. I had to turn in a few pages of fiction to a professor for my independent writing project, and while I had planned to write a page a day until the deadline, I didn't end up doing that so ended up with no pages the night before I had to meet with him. Typically, I would have stayed up until I had gotten something written, but I couldn't bring myself to do even that this time. Academically, I am going through the motions - doing enough to get by, to not get in trouble, but I feel like I've mentally checked out. I think I checked out a long time ago.

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I spend a lot of time in my room. I feel safe and in control here. I just don't want to do much of anything anymore... I don't care about social events at Zeta Mu, I don't care about blogging, I don't care about my work. I've let my email from distant friends pile up, which has never happened before. I don't take the time to dress up as much anymore. I've been neglecting my family and my friends.

I'd suspect myself of being depressed, but I don't feel sad, miserable, hopeless or awful. When people ask me how I am, I say "alright", and it's true. I'm just... neutral. If anything, I'd say I'm kind of bored or listless.

I can count the times I felt excited this term on one hand. When I got a job, which ensured I'd be able to stay on for the next term even though I'd have finished all of my requirements, and would technically be graduated already. Bizarrely, I've felt strangely happy on days after I'd had conflicts with J. He's had doubts; about whether we're "right" for each other. Some of the things we've talked about are things we can work on - others aren't. About those things, I feel like I have no control over. One night after talking about that with him, I went back to my room and cried. But the next day, I felt cleansed. Renewed, almost. Like - okay, I can do this. I can deal with this. It's weird that I'd feel calm and almost content after that, though. Why would I feel content about something like that? I don't like that J has doubts about us. I want to stay with him. So why the contentness?

I think maybe because, even though it's something unpleasant, it's some kind of upheaval. Maybe because even that is better to me than mundanity.

I'd feel more excited about my independent writing project, but... I feel like I'm doing it mostly for my professor, like I need to write something that will impress him and ensure he gives me good comments. I don't feel like I'm doing it for me. And I also haven't felt like writing at all. I've been blocked. And that's what I think my life is at the moment: blocked. I'm paralyzed, frozen, stuck. And being like this makes me feel like such an ass. Here I am, with this great education in front of me, a comfortable life, loving parents and a significant other... so why do I still feel like this?

I've sort of given up on college. I wanted to be successful, but even though I was smart enough to get into this college in the first place, I wasn't smart, talented or hard working enough to succeed here. All I've been doing is hanging on by a thread, struggling to get the work done... and it's not even like the work is particularly difficult in itself, I think I just don't know how to be a good student. But... I've almost gotten through college and I haven't won any awards, didn't do the honors track or a thesis, didn't really make any positive changes while I was here... My parents are proud of me for just making it through, but I don't think they should be proud of me. So I survived this without getting kicked out, or dropping out. Good for me, I guess. I know I've learnt an immense amount and grown a lot by being here, and maybe this is just the whining of a spoiled child. I managed to go to college, right? Something that many people don't to do... and a fairly illustrious one at that. And yet, this isn't how I envisioned college to be. I didn't do it "right." Therefore I just want to get it over with and forget about it.

It also didn't give me what I thought it would. I came in here wanting to be prepared for a career; wanting to be a better writer... Considering this is wishy-washy liberal arts, and I'm in the humanities (even more wishy washy, but unfortunately I'm not the science type), of course that's not how things turned out. I've been prepared... for what? I have no clue. I have no idea where I'm going to go from here. This is the first time I've probably felt that, and it's scary. I don't like it. I also have no idea how I'm going to get to where I want to be. I don't even know what I really want.

Next term, I won't be a student anymore. I'll be working about 26 hours a week, living off campus, and I will have more time for myself: to read, write, learn to cook, try and start running and losing weight, apply to jobs, try to figure out what I want to do next. I hope that will improve things, but I worry that this petrification will transmute to when I start working, too. What if I can't get myself to go to work? And what about after, when I have to get a real job? Will I be able to make anything of myself? Will I just turn into a deadbeat couch potato, who does nothing with my life? I really, really don't want that to happen.

This whole situation makes me sad. I want to be productive. I want to be accomplished. I want to be moving... somewhere, towards something... but I just don't know what to do to change this. I don't even really know where it's coming from, which, I think, is the biggest problem of all.

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Review: Kinklab Wartenberg Pinwheel

Wilhelmina Wang — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:50:37 +0000

The Kinklab Wartenberg Pinwheel from SexToy.com is a classic BDSM toy. It may look a little bit like a pizza-cutter (actually that's what J called it when he first saw it), but Wartenberg wheels were originally used to test neurological responses. It fell into disuse because of hygiene issues. Its medical-related background and appearance is part of its appeal to me; as is the lovely sensations it produces. Running it lightly over the skin results in a tickling or slight pricking sensation; if you exert heavy enough pressure, you can break the skin.

I tried it out with J. I got naked, and he gently ran the sharp tips over my back and arms, while I squirmed and giggled. Being naked while he was clothed, and having the steel points coasting all over me, was quite an enjoyable sensory experience. It's hard to describe. It felt like tickling, but very intense tickling concentrated on a very small area of skin. Then he moved on to my breasts and nipples, which definitely started to turn me on.

I teasingly ran the wheel over his arms a few times. He thought it was interesting; probably would get a bit overwhelming after a while, which was true for me. After about 15-20 minutes of tickling and poking, I had had enough.

I attempted some research on how to clean the wheel if you break a person's skin and then want to use it on someone else. Obviously, that can be dangerous since you're getting blood on the implement. Google yielded no results; I got the most responses from Twitter:

- soak it in a 10% bleach solution for 1-2 minutes

- boil it

- wipe it down with "medical wipes"

- sterilize it in an autoclave (can be found in tattoo parlors and used for a nominal fee); if any other method is used, wait at least 21 days before using on someone else

The best response I found was actually a comment by Mina made on Panthera Pardus' review of the same product:

I would sterilize it the same way doctors sterilize a lot of things. Go to the drug/grocery store and get yourself a bottle of betadine (or any brand of povidone iodine) It’s a general antibacterial sterilizer most commonly used to prep people for surgery. Put a little in a container and add water. You’ll want it to be a “tea” color. Put the wheel inside and let it soak for at least 10 min. The dry. Just note that the povidone iodine will eventually stain the container after continual use. Make sure to rinse your hands after using it, but if you are trying to be completely sterile I would suggest wearing gloves while handling the wheel during the sterilizing process or washing your hands with the povidone iodine as well. May I also suggest using hot water.

I've yet to determine if this wheel is made of surgical-grade, non-porous steel, which is the only safe material that would be share-able. Couldn't find any information on Kinklab's website.

The wheel also comes with a nice leather sheath that snaps shut.

I really don't have much to say about this product; it either works for you or it doesn't, and I don't see much opportunity, or NEED, for variation of any sort on its basic shape and appearance.

I really like Wartenberg Pinwheels. I'm glad that I own one.

Specs:
- Type: BDSM/Medical fetish toy
- Length: 7"
- Material: Steel
- Price @ Sextoy.com: $14.85

Four out of five hearts!

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Review: njoy Pure Wand

Wilhelmina Wang — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 10:34:49 +0000

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Ah, the Pure Wand. The Holy Grail of g-spot toys. Sexbloggers far and wide have heralded it's magical, squirt-worthy properties. The many reviews that have already been written probably already adequately describe just how wonderful the Pure Wand is; nevertheless, I'm adding my perspective to the mix, hoping that it will enlighten at least a handful of people.

When Tickle offered to send me a Pure Wand to review, I actually cheered. I got it in the mail, hurriedly took it out of the package, and opened the trademark, elegant njoy black box with pink satin lining.

The Pure Wand was intimidating. It's not enormous or anything like that, but c'mon. It's 1.5lbs of steel. My first thought: you could probably kill someone if you clobbered them with it. My second: that hard, unyielding, heavy thing was meant for my pussy? The third: hmm, shiny steel is pretty sexy.

So it was intimidating, but in a very sexy sort of way.

For a while, I did nothing but open the box and take it out, admiring and feeling the weight. I have to admit, after hearing about the Pure Wand making women squirt, I worried a little about whether the Pure Wand would "work" on me or not. What if it didn't?

Anyway, I finally got around to trying it out. I put down a towel, just in case. I dabbed on a few drops of lube - I didn't need much with its smooth surface - and went to town.

The end with the small "ball" made for a good warm-up. It tickled, teased and tantalized my g-spot until my wrists began to ache. The large-ball-end was pretty heavy, and thrusting while holding that end for an extended amount of time is tiring.

I switched to the large-ball end. I thought it would be difficult for me to get it inside me, since I typically prefer small toys, but it slid in easily. And pressed against my g-spot firmly and insistently.

It was at this point that I experienced a strange sensation: I was overwhelmed with pleasure, but also felt like I needed to pee. I continued to thrust, but I was so distracted by the need-to-pee sensation that I knew there was no way I was going to come like that. So I copped out, held the Pure Wand still, and got myself off by rubbing my clit instead.

A quick Twit and Google search later revealed that the needing-to-pee sensation was a typical precursor to squirting. I'd have to get over the weirdness of it first, though. It's not that I worry about peeing by accident, but I just associate needing to pee with, well, the toilet. Which I don't find sexy at all.

Doesn't it make you horny just looking at it?

For some reason, the first time was the only time I felt the peeing-sensation with the Pure Wand. So, the Pure Wand didn't get me to squirt (it hasn't yet, anyway), but that hardly matters, because it feels so damn good. After the first long wank session, I've gotten off with the Pure Wand in under five minutes almost every time, unless I make a conscious effort to hold out. I love the firm pressure against my gspot. I love the weight of it in my hand. I love pulling it out of me and feeling how hot it is after warming up to match my body temperature. I love how cool and sudden it feels slipping inside me. I love the physical and psychological thrill of having steel inside me.

The Pure Wand is the only toy that has made me moan aloud while jacking off. And every time I was trying out the Pure Wand, my Twitter feed was literally a flutter with <3s; just ask my Tweeps.

It also works very well as an anal toy. I wasn't ready for the large-ball end, but the small-ball end feels great.

The Pure Wand does come with a bit of a learning curve (ahaha...), since its shape is quite unlike most dildos out there. I use the same kind of gentle rocking motion that I used with the Lelo Ella, instead of thrusting hard and fast, or trying to thrust with the curve of the dildo, which I did the first time I used it, but which served no purpose except to tire me out even faster.

Oh, also, since the Pure Wand is steel, i.e. nonporous, you can share it. Make sure to sterilize it via boiling, bleaching (with 10% solution) or dishwashing (top shelf, no soap) before sharing. Sterilize it as well if you've used it anally but want to use it vaginally the next time. Germs + vag = no.

So... the Pure Wand: it didn't make me squirt, but it does make me moan. And I fucking love it.

Specs:
- Type: Dildo
- Length: 8"
- Insertable Length: 7"
- Circumference: 5"
- Diameter: 1 1/2"
- Weight: 1.51lbs
- Material: Steel
- Price @ Tickle: $110

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Pleasurists #66

Wilhelmina Wang — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:31:27 +0000

Crimes of passion by `girltripped

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Editor’s Pick

Njoy Pure Plug Medium by Saraid

The base is probably the greatest thing in the universe. The neck is thin and long, so your plug won’t fall out due to the weight and the handle. . oh the handle The handle is something out of this world.

Editrix

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Vibrators

OhMiBod Club Vibe by Kaijah
Jollies Rider by Amber from Scarlet’s Letter
Rock Chick by Pretty Power Tools
Babeland Remote Panties by True Pleasures
G-Ki by Sarahbear
Kiwi by Pretty Power Tools
I Rub My Bondage Duckie by Mistress Kay
Cloud 9 by Melen’s Rayne
Twisties by Dr. Ruthie
LELO Ina by Pretty Power Tools
1969 L’insolete by Sexorcism
Touche Ice Small by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
VibroPod by Dr. Ruthie
Rock Chick by Zooey Rexie
Jimmyjane Iconic Duckie by Jessie Beth
Jimmyjane Iconic Duckie by Sexorcism

Dildos

Little Su by Red
Pink Bent Graduate by B & M

Anal Toys

Mini Waterproof Vibrating Plug by The Bonobos

Toys for Cocks

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

BDSM/Fetish

Adult Books & Games

Adult Movies/Porn

LA Pink by Domina Doll
Sunshine Highway 2 by The Porn Librarian
Velvet Tension Volume 1 by FrzKey
First Dates – Scene 3 by J.D. Bauchery
Pussy Eating Club by The Porn Librarian
Ride of the Valkyrie by FrzKey

Lingerie

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Review: Sliquid Organics Natural

Wilhelmina Wang — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 02:35:40 +0000

It's been a while since a brand of lube has really wowed me. ID has been my go-to brand... until now. Sliquid has quickly become a fast favorite. I've been wanting to try out one of their lubes ever since I heard of their Organics line, and I was lucky enough to get a bottle of Sliquid Organics Natural from Babeland.com to try out.

I'm quite impressed by Sliquid as a company in general. They recently won an AVN award for outstanding lube; their lubes are all completely body safe: free of glycerin and parabens, 100% vegan, and can be used with condoms (i.e. none of their lubes are oil-based). Sliquid lubes are primarily marketed towards women. While some of this is a bit over the top at times ("the ultimate choice for people who love their body!", the main website is pastel pink, etc), I mostly appreciate their approach, especially after seeing so many stupid and condescending marketing ploys that are supposed to be attractive to women. I very much like the simple packaging labels and discreet lotus-venus-symbol logo. It doesn't scream "STEREOTYPICAL FEMININITY!" but is still pretty and elegant.

Their Organics line is, as the name suggests, completely organic, anti-animal testing... the bottle is even recyclable. If you're someone who is conscientious about the environment, and prefers to consume organic food & body products, you'll love this lube.

Sliquid Organics Natural is water-based, so can be used with any type of toy. It doesn't really smell or taste like anything - it's slightly bitter, and I can only smell a faint scent when I hold the bottle right up to my nose. The consistency was what I found most interesting: while some water-based lubes are very... watery, or sticky, this lube has an slight oil-like quality to it. Out of all the lubes I've tried, this lube feels the most similar to vaginal secretions.

The only downsides to this lube are: it dries out fairly quickly, which I discovered after using a few drops of it on my fingers while playing with my clit. It's also not thick enough for anal sex.

Overall, though, I really like this lube. Go do your part to help the planet, and buy some.

Specs:
Type: Water-based lube
Size: 4.2oz
Ingredients: Purified Water, Plant Cellulose (from Cotton), Aloe Barbadensis*, Natural Tocopherols (Vitamin E), Cyamopsis (Guar Conditioners), Extracts of Hibiscus*, Flax*, Green Tea* & Sunflower Seed*, Citric Acid (Citrus Fruits), Phenoxyethanol (Rose Ether) Click for more details
Price @ Babeland.com: $13

5 out of 5 hearts!

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Pleasurists #64

Wilhelmina Wang — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:05:35 +0000

by Jen Dixon via modelmayhem

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Editor’s Pick

LELO Ina by Raven Quince

Yes! Yes! Yes! Do it again! Mmmmmm! Wow. Thank you, baby.

INA has given me insta-orgasms. On my first try, despite not knowing how to work the controller and accidentally attempting to insert both parts of it into me, I fumbled my way to a gushing orgasm in just a few quick minutes. The second trial included my husband’s cock and a butt plug – I came strongly and in no time flat. INA my new best friend.

Note: Possibly the most adorable LELO review ever! Who doesn’t love to see photos of the reviewer in a bunny suit to celebrate LELO’s awesome rabbit vibe! Seriously, go look at the pictures and read it.

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Vibrators

Better Than Chocolate by Sammi
LELO Gigi by Britni TheVadgeWig
Velvet Sweet Heart by LikeSunshineDust
Better Than Chocolate by Saraid
Layaspot by Undressed Reviews
Touche Ice by Alley
My Cute Tickler by Pretty Power Tools
Madame Butterfly Pillow Stimulator by The Duchess
Venus Butterfly by Rori
Kiwi by Alley
Onye Fleur by Carnivalesq
1969 L’insolite by Pretty Power Tools
Sqweel by Sexorcism
Satisfied by Alley
LELO Elise by BootyBandit
KiWi by Carrie Ann
Passion Flower G by Alley
Fun Factory Dinky Digger by Kynky Kytty
C-Teaser by Carrie Ann
Sex Tarts Kit by Alley
LELO Ina by Carnivalesq
Onye Fleur by Alley
Wahl by namelesschaos
Little Chroma by Carrie Ann
LELO Elise by Joan Price
Jimmyjane Form 2 by Joan Price
SaSi by Domina Doll

Dildos

Anal Toys

Toys for Cocks

Tenga Egg by Nadia West
Double Cock Ring by Kiss My Kitty

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

BDSM/Fetish

Adult Books & Games

Adult Movies/Porn

Storage

Tunti Illuminated Boudoir Case by Pretty Power Tools

Lingerie

Brocade Mini Skirt by Red

Miscellaneous

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