And sometimes I would go to a club with men friend, and I would see these guys that would approach a beautiful women and 30 minutes later, his leaving the club with her on his arms. I think to myself “wow! That was amazing, how he do that? I wish I was him.” Yep… that use to be me, the bench warmer watching from the side line that is until I learned the 5 secret traits of how to attract women naturally.

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Anyway… so what makes these men naturally attractive to women? And can you learn how to attract women naturally and effortlessly? Of course you can! The very first secret of these men who naturally attracts women is that they have all learned it, they all have spent time to learn how to attract women, whether consciously or unconsciously.

All these men’s have traits, and deep down inner believes that draws women to them. We are not talking about techniques, pickup lines, or ways of tricking on women into your bed. Pickup lines, and techniques do work but only to insecure girls who would buy into them.

That is not what this article is about, if you want to learn pickup lines, and techniques, there are lots of others sites for them. This article is about developing you in the best men you can be, a man who naturally attracts women.

Trait #1: Have a Life Outside of Her

One of the biggest lie in our society right now, is the ideal of a perfect love relationship between the sexes. I’m not a cynic I believe in love, I love romance, and I love hanging out with my girlfriend. What I’m against is the ideal relationship that most people expect, especially when you’re young.

I remember when I was a teenage; I would tell my friends that “if I met a girl I love, I want to spend every moment with her!” That’s a LIE, and everybody done it. It doesn’t matter if you’re a girl or a guy, you probably have had that though sometimes in your life, and most men still do. They might not think about it anymore, but they sure act like it when they meet a hot girl.

So what does this have to do with having a life, and learning how to attract women? Well, let me ask you this question, if you met a girl, and all she does is call you all day, ask what you’re doing all the time, and gets pissed if you don’t pick up your phone, would you like a girl like that?

Of course not, you’ll probably think she is needy, clingy, and have no life. But that’s exactly what most men do when they meet a beautiful girl; they make the girl their only reason for living. They call too much, are always available if she has a problem, and are so afraid that if he doesn’t cater to all her needs she won’t like him anymore.

I must admit, some guys do become smarter, at least they think they did. They realizing that being needy and clingy doesn’t work. So the instead they take the opposite approach, now they wait 3 day to call her, and they don’t become available to her all the time.

But that doesn’t work either, why? Because these “guys” has only change their strategies on how to attract women, but not their core approach. Everything they do to avoid being seen as needy is still coming from a place of insecurity. All their attention is still focused on her, and not on their own life.

So if you really want to learn how to attract women, and become a man that is naturally attractive to women. Then have a life outside of her, find a hobby, focus on your career, do anything that isn’t just about her.

To read on about traits 2,3, and 4 of how to attract women and be rejection proof see part 2 of How to attract women.

Wouldn’t it be nice if she would just tell us? Yes it would but that’s against the very nature of most women. Women are indirect, it has been tough to them ever since they were a little girls. Let the boys talk to you first, don’t let him know you’re interested too easily or he won’t like you, or what a slut she just talk to 3 different guys.

That’s why women use signs, and codes to communicate their interest to men. And it is your job as a man to understand the signals and take it to the next step. So I offer you 4 very simple signs that you can look for from a women that says “I’m interested in you”.

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1) She Gravitates Towards You.

If a woman gravitates towards you, it is a pretty big sign that says “I’m interested in you dummy”. This is particularly true with women that are complete strangers to you. The problem is, most men are often stuck in their heads thinking “does she like me?” rather than paying attention to the signs that most women send. Other than that, I’ve also mislead you a little bit, I used the word “big”, but in reality it is actually subtle, but compare to most signs women send, this one is pretty big.

Look for the subtly when woman passes by you while giving you an extra occasion to start conversation with her. She might walk back towards you, or stays within your range just for a little while longer. It is subtle, but once you are aware of it, that would the answer to you quest “does she like me?”.

Other times if a woman really wants you to engage her in a conversation, she might walk by you several times in a venue, just so you’ll notice her. Women will always gravitate towards guys that are fun, exciting, and are surrounded by other women.

But don’t be too excited if is happening to you, because it doesn’t mean that she wants to marry you, or take you to bed. It is simply her way of telling you, I’m interested in you, lets chat.

Keep in mind that this will only happens if you’re in a positive mood (vibe), which means you’re having fun and enjoying yourself. Rarely will it happen to someone who’s in their head, and are just having a terrible time, maybe with the exception of very good looking guy.

2) She Makes Time For You.

A few days ago you met a girl, you both seem to enjoy each other, and had a good time. So you decided to call her today to arrange a date to see her again. She picks the phone and you guys begin to plan for next get together. However, after a while both of you realize that you’re schedules aren’t going to work out. So you say something like “I’m busy on all these other days. I’m only available on Tuesday, or it’ll have to be next week!”, and suddenly, she tells you she can make time for you on Tuesday.

This is another obvious sign that answers the question “does she like me?”. If a beautiful and intelligent woman drops her plan just to see you, she is definitely interested in you. This doesn’t mean she will drop anything for you; she is not desperate (most likely). But if a girl really likes you, and you are genuinely busy she will make time for you.

Sometime girls will play games; they’ll pretend to have a full schedule just to see if you’re going to make time for her. This is actually a good thing; it means she cares enough to want to know if you’re willing to make time for her. Often what you should do in this situation is to stand strong, let him know that you really are busy.

However there are other times when a girl really can’t make time to see you, this doesn’t mean that she’s not interested in you. Do not assume, and give up, she might really have something serious happening in her life. If a girl is going off for a weekend to a faraway country to attend her sister’s wedding, it is unlikely she will drop the wedding to just hang out with you.

Be smart, and measure the situation for yourself, there a time when a girl is genuinely not interested in seeing you again, so don’t be an idiot and keep on pushing.

3) She’s With You

This might sound ridiculous, but most guys never really consider it, again they are too busy trying to figure out “does she like me?” than to actually think about it. Sometimes the sign can be as simple as her being with you. Unless she’s a needy or manipulative woman, she would be busy doing something else if she wasn’t into you.

Think about it his way, she can do anything she want, go out with anyone she want, but rather she is with you. Now when we talk about her being there with you, it doesn’t only apply to a girl you’re dating, sometimes a girl showing up everywhere in your daily life can also be a sign.

Take this for example: when you’re at a bar doing you own thing, a girl might just come stand next you. Does she like you? Just because she stand beside you? No, but considering her presence as an possible indicator of interest, either way, thinking the girl is into you won’t hurt your chances.

In our society, a woman standing around you is her way of saying that she interested in you. When you think about it, this is as far as she can go to express her interest to a men, because if she would do anymore more than that, her friends and entourage would judge her.

Women have to keep their social value so they have to appear nice, and not easy. So what they usually end up doing has to give you subtle hints that won’t compromise their status. Guys often ask themselves the questions “Does she like me?” too easily, without considering a women’s pressure due to the limitations of our society.

4) She’s Curious about You

When a man is interested in a woman, he talks about himself, but when a woman is interested in a man, she asks him questions. That’s why women say “men don’t listen”, but that’s not our focus for this article. Women in general are way more curious then men, they love to experience new stuff, and if they like you, they want to know all about you.

She wants to know what you do, what you like to eat, what’s your favorite music, and movies, pretty much anything and everything that has to do with you. And it doesn’t just stop there, she’ll be curious of everything you do, and reading into every movement you make. If you think this sounds crazy, but in the world of females, this is what they call “a girls night out”.

Seriously what do you think girls talk about for hours and hours with each other on the phone, their jobs, and sports? Of course not, they talk about relationship, and the men they have met or are in their life. With the information they gather about you, they tell their friend, and then spent hours analyzing every little thing that you do. Ladies if you’re offended, I’m sorry but this is the truth.

Do men do this? You know honestly sometimes we would like to, we also wonder if “she” like us or not. But if I call my buddy and talk about my feelings, the phone call would probably last no more than 5 minute if I’m lucky. So instead we bottle up our feelings, and “be a men” as our buddies would suggest

Anyway if a girl is curious in you, it is definitely a sign that she likes you. But be careful with this one as well, some girls are just curious about everyone, and they just want you to like them to satisfy their ego. They know that us guys are way too into ourselves, so what better way to get you to like her by being curious about you.

Is this manipulative? Yes it is, is it intentional? Some girls are while some girls are genuinely like that. The point is don’t let your ego get in the way, if a girl is curious about you great, but don’t just use that as you’re only way of know whether she likes you or not.

The reason for that is as follow: you’re in your head and not in your body, and that is actually the worst possible thing you can do before going up to a stranger. You will appear as creepy and weird, because you’re nervous.

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Learn to Use Social Vibe, and Stop the Usual Anxiety

Courage is a bit of a misnomer for what is needed before going up to a girl you like. What really is needed, aside from having great confidence in your own body and inner self, is social momentum, also called social vibe.

If any preparation is needed before walking up to that special girl you like, it is to be in a great social mood. Being in your head and talking to yourself certainly won’t help. And certainly if you just spend the past few days alone watching T.V, it would be hard to turn on your social mood like a light bulb.

Furthermore, it is almost necessary that you have surround yourself in a socially dynamic and fun environment for a while previously, and preferably involving women. The best way in doing this is to include those environments in your everyday life, so that the right social vibe is built into you. Courage is not the right ingredient to get past approach anxiety. Social vibe and social skills are what’s needed to get a girl you like.

Also, your dynamic vibe, and your awareness as well, must be sincere. You need to really experience them internally. Some of the best of the best guys with women are always in a great social mood day and night, so to them there is not nothing particular or special about it. That’s just how they live.

They don’t prepare for their interactions with beautiful women, they are constantly in state (mood). Of course, you could use the building of your social momentum as a way to warm up for interactions with the girl you like. Just like profession athletics doing their stretches, before going out for the actual event. But it would be way more powerful to fully integrate these behavior and rhythm into your everyday life, and apart of who you are.

You Deserve Her

Now that we’ve cleared up what is really need to approach, and get the girl you like, Let’s go over what it really takes to actually attract and get a girl you like, or you really want.

First, you must really believe and understand that you truly deserve that girl you like. General rule of life is, when you feel like you deserve something, you’ll act more confident, and most likely end up getting it. On the other hand, if you don’t feel like you deserve something or that someone. and believe he/she is better, or too good for you, you’ll act desperate, needy and approval seeking. And we all know nobody likes to hand around someone that is needy, insecure, and approval seeking.

So how do you truly feel you deserve being with the girl you like? Let me tell it, it isn’t easy at first to really feel that you deserve something you’ve never had, but do it anyway. One good way is to make a list of everything that you can offer, it might be your knowledge, or a skill, or your positive person, as long as it is really you, and trust me you definitely has something to offer.

Now read the list, and while reading it really feel that you have something to offer to the world and not just her. I know this might seem like the self-help affirmation stuff, but trust me it really works.

Once you truly feel deserving around the girl you like, you’ll act more confident, become none needy, and that is what it takes to really get the girl you like. She want a men who has something to offer, a men take can bring her on an adventure.

Oh by the way, girls actually do like guys who don’t think of themselves as deserving. That is true, those guys usually end up as her “pet”, the men who caters to all her needs, just to prove that he can live up to her standard. And of course she accepts it, toys around with him for a while, until she gets bored. And trust me that is not the men you want to be.

Have the Courage to Change, and Go for What You Want

Apart from feeling deserving, you need to have the courage to question yourself and understand why are you doing what you’re doing in life. Are you doing things to please others? Do you have dreams, and are you going for them? Have you constantly been justifying to yourself on why something can’t be achieved?

This is where the real courage resides. It resides in asking questions about yourself that might lead to answers that you don’t want to face, but it is good in the long run. It is a way to get rid of the bad, and welcome the good. To honestly assess yourself, to understand what is really stopping you from getting a girl you like. And perhaps you’ll finally realize that the only thing that is stopping you from getting that girl you like, is yourself, and nothing else.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve master the art of social vibe, or you feel deserving of the girl you like, if you don’t have the courage to act, and go for what you want you’ll never get a girl like. So the truly it isn’t about “Do you have the courage to get a girl you like?”, but rather “Do you have the courage to claim what you want?”

So have the courage to admit it to yourself, that you’re the only want that is stopping yourself from getting the girl you like. Accept your flaws, weakness, and strength, then make a change toward the better. It is a ashamed that most people refuse to change, as it is more comfortable and easier to live in their past, then to really go for what they want. It is easier to just watch T.V and drink bear with your buddy, then to actually go talk to the girl you like.

With that being said, don’t be too harsh on yourself either, you don’t have to treat your past actions as mistakes, and punish yourself, simply accept them, and move forward. Winners never dwell upon their mistakes, they move forward.

Guys often go online expecting dating websites to be the place where they will take a shortcut through the social system and have the greatest love story with that perfect woman, all that with a few clicks and no efforts.

This is the first mistake guys make when meeting women online, having unrealistic expectations. Remember that the online world is very similar to the real one, competition is present, the ratio between the successful, and the dateless are there..

It is surprising with the amount of choices online dating offers, that particular guys and girls are more abundant in getting dates, in fact more than they can handle, while most others struggle even getting a response back. The ratio is about the same as far as popularity goes. So what gives…

In many ways you must understand that online dating share much characteristics that are very similar to the real world, such as:

While there are many similarities shared between online, and offline dating, the rules of online dating can very different. And you will have to accept the learning curve that goes with it. Results are far from instantaneous, but you can get as much dates as you want if you play it right. Here are a few of the particularities of online dating you should take into account:

Now before making a quick rundown of the standard steps for getting a date effectively, you must understand that meeting women online should always be used as a supplement to your normal dating life. The best mindset to have is an abundant dating life and little temptation to be hooked by online relationships. This leads to our first step.

Meeting Women Online: Be Prepared

You have to establish how you want to supplement your dating life. Do you want 1 extra date per month, 3 dates per week, or do you want to use it to simply practice your interactions with women in slow motion?

Once you can answer this, now chose how much time you expect to spend at your computer while being on those dating sites, and most importantly, stay true to it. It is pretty much necessary to establish a time limit because it is easy to get hooked and stay on the computer for hours when meeting women online. Don’t lose sight of the objective of transferring these interactions into real ones.

Meeting Women Online: Setting Up Your Profile is The Key

You shouldn’t be busy sending messages and browsing other profiles when first logging in on a dating website. Instead, you should be properly setting up your profile along with main and secondary pictures.

Your main picture should only display you on a very nice, beautiful and clear image while your secondary should display your lifestyle, both in quality and in variety. You should be seen with friends, guys, girls, family, kids, animals, etc… You should also be seen in various contexts: out at night, in vacation, traveling, doing hobbies and maybe even a glimpse of your professional life.

Make sure these pictures are clear and natural. Avoid using self-pictures and pictures of yourself flashing with cars or else, kissing girls or anything involving ex-girlfriends no matter how fine they were.

Finally, write your description with proper use of English language, or whatever language dating site you’re using. Have your description written in a sincere, exciting, funny and inviting tone so that the woman can picture herself doing certain things with you.

Try to paint pictures and give details in your description. For example, if you mention restaurants, don’t just say eating at a restaurant. How are the lights set up? Is it noisy with an exciting vibe or is it quiet beside a nice view, or beside the beach? What are you eating? Are you talking, laughing or just staring at each other? Are you taking dessert? Ask yourself tons of questions for each of your hobbies to add a unique tone to each one so that they reflect your personality.

Meeting Women Online: From Online to Offline

Up to this point, you should be fine on your own, displaying your personality to the best and having honest conversations with women. However, there are still a few technicalities that could prevent you from having success online despite being great, honest, fun and sincere.

You must make sure your first message gets opened, so the title must be nice and intriguing, so it stands out in her inbox. For example, giving her a nickname right from the get-go in the title can be very effective.

Second be youself, instead of trying to be “original”. You don’t have to find the most clever line or title, just choose one that goes with your usual personality and profile. If she detects some “game” and lack of congruence, you will never get a single reply from her.

The content of the message should begin with something funny and interesting showing your personality while the rest of the message should be more about getting to know each other. What do you want to know about her? Why did you message her in the first place?

At the end of the message you need to tell her what you expect out of this interaction with her. Be precise. If you don’t have the time to e-mail back and forth for a while with anyone, say it. Tell her to give you her number right away and make the first date as simple and safe as possible in that case.

Finally the last, but also the most important advice of all when it comes to meeting a woman online. It is that you should focus on making a smooth bridge going from online to the first date. Your approach should vary depending on the girl. Some will want to arrange a date pretty quickly while some others will avoid the subject until they hear your voice on the phone. Be sensible to that need to speak on the phone first, she might express indirectly.

Also, make sure that the date isn’t focus on you two meeting and expecting to fall in love. It should be a fun, and a non-pressure date with no expected outcome.
As you can see, the online world run out pretty quickly as you progress, simply because you’re communicating with humans after all and each case is different. In conclusion, get the girl in front of you in person as soon as possible, and have a normal date like the Internet never existed.

This is a typical example of an European lover alpha male/artist type that women are Absolutely FALL in LOVE with. And yes, they are real, they do exist. But please don’t go to a club and do this tonight and say that Scott Riddle from HowtoAttractWomenAdvice.com told you that it would work, because it probably won’t work for you!

It worked for him because that’s who he is as a personal… are you an European artist that is passionate about beauty, love, sex, and good wines? Plus this guy is confident! It isn’t what he said that worked for him, but it’s his solid, “none bullshit approach” quoting Scarlett Johansson that worked for him.

However, with that being said you CAN BECOME a guy similar to that and become irresistible to women. You can develop that kind of unshakable confident with women, and easily and fearlessly approach women.

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WHY?…

Because the fact that you are not physically present with the person, allows you to release your inhibitions, relax and have a conversation that may not have been possible if you were face-to-face with the person. Here are some little things you can do in your quest to learn how to flirt online:

So, now that you know how to flirt online you can start right away with someone you have been chatting with for a while and really like. Begin applying what you have learned right away, as it takes time to master the art of flirting online.

When it comes to learning how to meet women online, you will want to choose the proper method based on what you are seeking. If you are seeking women for one night stand, then don’t go to a dating site. You will just insult the owners of the site as well as the users. Go find an adult site that offers those services.

On the other hand, if you want to meet your soul mate then don’t choose a free site. I say that because women, who are willing to pay the fees on for a dating website, are often the same ones who are looking for serous relationships.

The very act of a women committing to a monthly or yearly subscription just to meet her Mr. Right shows you that she is not just looking for a fling with a stranger she met on the internet. This also shows you that they are financially stable, and not just looking for men to take care of them(some men would refer these women as gold diggers).

Knowing how to meet women online is not hard…. typically anyway. If you choose the right online dating services, then you will find that both genders will be actively seeking each other.

Of course, your profile is must be well written, as well as it gives a full and honest description of who you are and what you are looking for. And if you can achieve that perfect profile of ‘YOU’, then there is very little you will need to do to successfully meet women online.

This is especially true of the dating websites that offer compatibility tests, once you complete the test, or tests, it will cause an alert to be sent to a woman that has also taken the test. The tests are for measuring compatibility and you can be sure she will at least have one thing in common with you!

But this doesn’t mean you have or should wait for her to contact you. It only goes to show how easy it really is to meet women online. Remember to have the truth on your profile so you don’t attract a type of woman that you don’t like.

Even though you have taken the compatibility test, but you will still want to put the attributes of a women that you are looking for in on your profile. Also put the attributes in which you are not interested as well, in order to narrow down your search a bit more. This eliminates any misunderstandings and the potential of wasting your time with someone who was not truly compatible with you in the first place.

There are no hard and fast rules as to how to meet women online. Compatibility tests are now being offered various of dating sites, which makes it even easier for you to find women who is exactly what you are looking for.

Just make sure that whatever avenue you choose, you will place on your profile exactly what you want and what you don’t want. Make sure you point out the type of relationship that you want and let the viewer know that you don’t want anybody to waste your time. That is all there is to it when it comes to learning how to meet women online.

This is far from the truth. Most women nowadays are very independent and just want a man to complement them. They are looking for men that are passionate and who are not afraid to show their emotional side among other things.

What most women are looking for these days is a real man, one who won’t feel be little if she is earning more money than him. So, apart from the above there are a couple more easy ways that you can get a girlfriend. It sometimes just requires a little change in your ways.

Here are 5 great ways to get a girlfriend:

These simple ways to get a girlfriend don’t require you to spend lavishly or alter your appearance. All they require is that you change and accept the person that you really are so others can accept you as well.

1. Do you think about what topics of conversations will be appropriate before going on a date? Well, DON’T! I know a lot of dating advice out there tells you to prepare topics ahead of time so you don’t run out of a word, that’s fine if you want to do this for the rest of the relationships.

Never plan what your conversations, or think about topics. Stick to what you enjoy talking about the most, what you always talk to your friend about. But keep in mind don’t make the date just about you, it’s a date, she doesn’t want to listen to your autobiography.

2. You should never be late for your date. Women find this insulting and will think of you as insolent and one who doesn’t live up to responsibilities.

3. It’s a date and nothing more! A lot of men go on day as if they’re going to meet their POTENTIAL wife or girlfriend. And that sucks the fun out of the whole date, the women your dating don’t want that kind of pressures or tension. Just imagine how you would feel if a girl wants you to be her husband on the first day! So relax, enjoy and have fun that is it.

4. Be at your best. Open doors for her, pull out her chair, and make her see that you are a real gentleman and that she is special. These attributes are very hard to find these days so she will be more than appreciative.

5. Remember that conversation is a two way street and consists of more than just general sentences and statements. This brings us back to tip #1, the date isn’t just about you! You should ask questions and listen intently as she answers. Give her all of your attention so that she knows that what she is saying is indeed important to you. Be curious about her!

6. Never brag about your success and how much money you got. If you’re rich fine, keep it to yourself. She’ll find out on her own, you are on a date to buy her love, and honestly most women don’t care about how much money you got on the first date.

7. This one is related to tip #5…. There are a lot of advices out there telling men not to pay for dinner, or a drink, etc… This is only a good advice to those men who are trying to buy their affections from a woman, but if you only want to share something with her, I don’t see why not! If you want to pick up the tab that’s perfectly fine, there is nothing wrong with that. But, be honest with yourself; ask yourself why you are picking up the tab.

8. More than likely your job will come up. Be mysterious about it, make her guess or make up some ridiculous position and say it in a way that she knows you are joking. And you can do this no matter what you’re actual job is, whether it be the CEO of some big corporation, or you’re just the pizza delivery boy. However, don’t go over board or you might come off as a jerk and arrogant asshole.

9. If you think you need to touch up on manners and etiquette then you should do so. If you don’t think you need to do so, still take a peek into a book or search online. You may find something you never knew about before.

10. The last of the dating tips for men is for you to learn to dance. Yes, even a little bit helps. You don’t need to go to classes, just boogie down in front of the mirror and make sure you don’t look like a complete fool in public.