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Common health myths – Debunked with scientific evidence

2026-04-13T10:56:00.001+05:00

Health myths are widespread, deeply rooted in culture and increasingly amplified by social media and informal advice. They influence how people use medicines, trust vaccines, choose home remedies and interact with healthcare providers, often leading to delayed treatment, complications and preventable deaths.

This write-up examines common health myths in Pakistan, explains what the science actually says, and offers clear, evidence-based guidance to support safer decisions for you and your family.

Myth – Vaccines cause infertility, disability or serious illness

Misconceptions about vaccines, especially polio and more recently COVID-19, are common in certain parts of Pakistan and often linked to rumours about infertility, “Western” conspiracies or haram (illegal) ingredients.

What does the science say?

Decades of global research and the WHO recommendations confirm that routine childhood vaccines, including polio, measles and others, are safe and highly effective in preventing deadly diseases. Studies in Pakistan show that most vaccine refusals in high-risk areas are driven by misconceptions and rumours rather than real safety concerns. There is no credible scientific evidence that the WHO-approved vaccines cause infertility or long-term disability.

Risks of believing this myth

Persistent polio transmission in Pakistan, one of the last two endemic countries
Outbreaks of preventable diseases such as measles and diphtheria
Severe illness, disability or death in unvaccinated children

Evidence-based guidance

Follow Pakistan’s Expanded Programme on Immunisation (EPI) schedule for all children.
Rely on information from the WHO, UNICEF and national health authorities, not anonymous social media forwards.
If you have concerns, discuss them with a qualified paediatrician rather than refusing vaccination outright.

4/04

Common health myths – Debunked with scientific evidence

2026-04-12T20:54:00.012+05:00

This write-up examines common health myths in Pakistan, explains what the science actually says, and offers clear, evidence-based guidance to support safer decisions for you and your family.

3. Herbal and ‘desi’ remedies are always safe because these are natural

From qahwa and kaadha to hakeemi syrups and totkay based on herbs or natural mixtures, many people in Pakistan assume that anything herbal cannot cause harm.

What does the science say?

Studies among Pakistani physicians and paediatricians show increasing use of herbal medicinal products, but also report concerns about their safety, lack of regulation and limited evidence. Research has documented adverse effects, including kidney injury and harmful interactions between traditional medicines and conventional drugs. The WHO stresses that “natural” does not automatically mean “safe” and calls for regulation and proper evaluation of traditional medicines.

Risks of believing this myth

Liver or kidney damage from untested or contaminated herbal products
Dangerous interactions with prescribed medicines (e.g., for blood pressure, diabetes, or epilepsy)
Delay in seeking hospital care for serious conditions such as cancer, heart disease or infections.

Evidence-based guidance

Inform your doctor about any herbal or hakeemi products you are using.
Avoid unlabelled or unregistered products and those advertised with 100% cure claims.
Use herbal treatments as complementary (if at all), not as a replacement for evidence‑based medical care.
Prefer products registered with the Drug Regulatory Authority of Pakistan (DRAP) and supported by some clinical data.

3/04 – To be continued

Common health myths – Debunked with scientific evidence

2026-04-08T12:39:00.001+05:00

This write-up examines common health myths in Pakistan, explains what the science actually says, and offers clear, evidence-based guidance to support safer decisions for you and your family.

2. Antibiotics work for flu, cough and every fever

In Pakistan, antibiotics are often viewed as powerful, all-purpose medicines that can cure almost any illness, including viral infections such as influenza and the common cold.

What does science say?

Antibiotics kill bacteria, not viruses. The World Health Organisation and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC – U.S. health agency) state that antibiotics do not treat viral illnesses, such as the common cold, most sore throats, viral diarrhoea or influenza. Pakistani studies show widespread irrational use of antibiotics, including for minor and likely viral illnesses and highlight a strong link between such misuse and rising antimicrobial resistance.

Risks of believing this myth

Growing antibiotic resistance, leading to infections that no longer respond to standard drugs
Higher risk of side effects such as allergic reactions, kidney or liver damage, and gut disturbances
Increased healthcare costs and hospital stays when infections become resistant.

Evidence-based guidance

Do not demand antibiotics from doctors for simple flu or viral cough.
If antibiotics are prescribed, complete the full course exactly as directed.
Never use leftover antibiotics or share them with others.
Support national efforts to combat antimicrobial resistance by using antibiotics only when medically indicated.

2/04 – To be continued

Common health myths – Debunked with scientific evidence

2026-04-05T23:33:00.002+05:00

This write-up examines common health myths in Pakistan, explains what the science actually says, and offers clear, evidence-based guidance to support safer decisions for you and your family.

1. Self-medication is harmless if I know the symptoms

Self-medication is extremely common and often seen as a way to ‘save time and money.’ Many people keep leftover medicines at home or go directly to pharmacies without seeing a doctor.

What does science say?

Studies show that the prevalence of self-medication in Pakistan is very high (pooled estimate around 60% in recent meta-analyses), much higher than in many developed countries. Research from Pakistani outpatient clinics links self-medication with adverse reactions, drug interactions and increased antibiotic resistance.

The WHO and other global bodies warn that unsupervised use of medicines is a major driver of antimicrobial resistance and treatment failures.

Risks of believing this myth

Incorrect diagnosis and delay in proper treatment
Dangerous drug interactions (e.g., painkillers with blood thinners)
Masking serious conditions like a heart attack or meningitis
Contribution to antimicrobial resistance, making common infections harder to treat.

Evidence-based guidance

Always consult a qualified doctor for new, persistent or severe symptoms.
Do not reuse old prescriptions or share medicines within the family.
Ask your pharmacist about side effects and interactions if a doctor has prescribed multiple drugs.
Use over-the-counter medicines (e.g., paracetamol) only according to recommended doses and not for prolonged periods without medical review.

1/04 – To be continued

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Why do women find ‘bad guys’ appealing?

2026-03-31T16:51:00.002+05:00

The appeal of ‘bad guys’ is not a mere coincidence – it arises from a complex interplay of psychological, biological and social factors influencing attraction.

The allure of bad guys is often rooted in the excitement they bring, their confidence, and the hope of transformation. However, it is critical to recognise the distinction between temporary attraction and long-term compatibility. While bad guys may seem thrilling in the short term, relationships with them often lack the stability, respect and emotional safety.

Here is a concrete breakdown of the reasons behind this phenomenon:

1. Confidence and charisma are magnetic

Bad guys tend to project elevated levels of confidence, assertiveness and charm, which are universally attractive traits. Their rebellious and carefree nature often feels exhilarating, especially when compared to more predictable or passive individuals. This charisma can draw women in, creating a sense of intrigue and fascination.

2. The thrill of unpredictability and risk

Bad guys often bring a sense of unpredictability and adventure to a relationship. This unpredictability can stimulate the brain’s reward system, leading to a heightened emotional state. This makes relationships with bad guys feel more intense and exciting, even if they are ultimately unstable.

3. The desire to fix or transform them

A significant appeal of bad guys lies in the ‘project mentality’ – the belief that their flaws can be fixed with patience or love. Women with nurturing instincts may feel compelled to uncover the ‘hidden good’ in a bad guy, seeing themselves as the one person capable of bringing out their better side. This desire to change or heal someone can give a woman a sense of purpose and emotional investment in the relationship, even when the relationship is unhealthy.

4. Rebellion against societal norms

For some women, being with a bad guy represents a form of rebellion against societal expectations or traditional roles. Choosing someone unconventional or dangerous can feel empowering and liberating. This dynamic creates the illusion of control or significance, even if the relationship itself is far from healthy.

5. Media and cultural influence romanticise bad guys

Pop culture routinely glorifies bad guys as brooding, mysterious and passionate, weaving narratives where their ‘dark side’ is tamed by the love of the right woman. Movies and books often depict these individuals as misunderstood heroes who transform into better people because of love, reinforcing the idea that bad guys are secretly good at heart.

Don’t avoid difficult conversations – Engage with courage and clarity

2026-03-30T13:42:00.004+05:00

Avoiding difficult conversations might feel like the easier path, especially when dealing with toxic individuals, but it often leads to unresolved issues and lingering resentment. Instead, it is essential to face these conversations head-on while maintaining your composure and clarity.

Here is how and why staying engaged and expressing your needs can make a significant difference:

1. Address the root cause

When you avoid difficult conversations, the underlying issues remain unresolved, creating a cycle of tension and misunderstanding. By staying engaged, you can identify the real problem rather than just addressing symptoms. Clearly communicate your needs too.

2. Take control of the narrative

Toxic individuals may try to dominate conversations or deflect blame. By staying calm and engaged:

You maintain control of your side of the story and prevent them from gaslighting or twisting your words.
You can focus the discussion on facts and your feelings, avoiding emotional traps they may set.

3. Build your emotional resilience

Difficult conversations challenge your emotional stamina, but they also help you grow:

You learn to advocate for yourself without losing your composure.
You develop the confidence to handle similar situations in the future, whether with the same person or others.

4. Use ‘I’ statements instead of blame

When engaging in these conversations, focus on how the situation affects you rather than attacking the other person. For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” try, “I feel unheard when I share my thoughts, and it’s frustrating for me.” This approach minimises defensiveness and encourages the other person to listen rather than retaliate.

5. Recognise when to walk away

Not all relationships are meant to be saved. If the toxic individual:

Repeatedly dismisses your feelings or refuses to engage in meaningful dialogue.
Uses manipulative tactics like guilt-tripping, gaslighting or stonewalling.
Shows no interest in changing toxic behaviours…

It’s a sign that the relationship may not be salvageable. Walking away, while difficult, can ultimately free you for healthier connections. Difficult conversations are often a turning point in any relationship. They either pave the way for healthier dynamics and mutual respect or reveal that it is time to let go.

Living in a toxic relationship – run away as fast as possible!

2026-03-26T16:18:00.000+05:00

Living in a toxic relationship can be emotionally draining and challenging. While forgiveness for the other person may help you heal, it doesn’t mean you have to tolerate their behaviour or let them back into your life. Opt for pointwise practical strategies to help you navigate and potentially escape such situations!

1. Recognise the signs of toxicity: A toxic relationship often involves manipulation, gaslighting, constant criticism or emotional neglect. If you feel drained, unworthy or constantly doubting yourself, these are red flags.

2. Set clear boundaries: Define what behaviours you will not tolerate. Communicate these boundaries clearly to the other person. If they repeatedly cross these boundaries, it’s okay to take a break or distance yourself.

3. Prioritise self-care: Engage in activities that boost your self-esteem and mental health, such as exercise, meditation or hobbies.

4. Talk to someone worthy of trust: Share your experiences with a trusted friend, family member or therapist. An outside perspective can help you see the situation more clearly and remind you that you’re not at fault. And also, surround yourself with healthy, supportive relationships to counterbalance the negativity.

5. Don’t avoid difficult conversations: Confront the toxic persons – Instead of avoiding tough discussions, stay engaged and express your needs. This can help you assess whether the relationship is salvageable.

6. Plan your exit strategy: If leaving feels overwhelming, take small steps. You don’t have to leave all at once. Start by creating a plan, such as saving money, finding a safe space or seeking professional help.

7. Reclaim your power: Stop focusing on the toxic person’s behaviour and instead concentrate on improving your own situation. This shift in focus can empower you and reduce stress. Remind yourself that you deserve respect and kindness, and it is okay to walk away from relationships that don’t provide that.

8. Forgive yourself, not the toxicity: It is common to feel guilt or shame for staying in a toxic relationship. Practice self-forgiveness and understand that leaving takes time and courage.

9. Take small steps toward independence: If you feel stuck, start by taking small actions, like spending more time with supportive people, exploring new hobbies or learning new skills. These steps can help you regain confidence and independence. Leaving a toxic relationship is not easy, and it is okay to take your time. Remember, you are not alone, and some resources and people can help you through this journey. Prioritise your well-being and take steps toward a healthier, happier life.

Relativity of the truth … Know thy truth -- As perceived from the Bollywood movie ‘Ankhon Dekhi’

2023-11-15T16:54:00.001+05:00

Retrospectively referring to an incident, protagonist Rajesh Bauji (played by Sanjay Mishra) dreams of flying in the air, like a bird. Going through the skies with an inexplicable pleasure is a reality to him, and nothing is superfluous about this. The incidence of confronting and thrashing her daughter’s boyfriend Ajju (played by Namit Das), jolts him from his slumber of believing in what others have been saying. “We have been filled with lies of others,” he regrets, and pledges to trust only what he sees or hears. His only reply to generally accepted realities and truths is … may be. The impressions imparted by the acquaintances, made him realise that the assertions are disseminated on unfounded perceptions. Through this event of confrontation with Ajju, he concludes, “One is your truth, and the other is mine.” From this onwards, he is a man in search of his truth – not of others – the truth is only which you have lived, while the rest are mere lies or if facts, then those are to be verified,” he opines. Baujee questions the authenticity of the news too – whether published, broadcast or spread through word of mouth. To him, the credibility of any information lies in what comes to anyone’s notice – seen or listened to – himself. For Baujee, the rest is mere gossiping. “How stupid are we when we believe in others’ tongue-wagging?” he asserts. His understanding is …. The human beings have become vulnerable to trusting others, and their minds have been filled with lies. The masses have been consumed by lies trusting those to be true. He does not want to believe in what others say, what is seen by others, and others’ beliefs to be true. Bauji stops offering his morning prayers, and for his family, friends and associates, he is a non-believer now. The religious offering ‘parsad’ is good in taste, and he does not attach any piety to it. With this mindset, he rejects the intangible existence of god. Bauji questions his working as a travel agent, and resigns without any information to the family. When he reaches his workplace, he simply refuses to impart the information, which is already available through various sources, or the information being thrown on to others. This whole scenario alienates him from his family and friends, and he whiles away his time roaming around, much to their dismay. With the family in disarray, more discomforts are approaching fast – now it has become an eventful family, based in Delhi. Was he trying to break away from the status quo? He is certainly! Resultantly, Baujee is caught in the worldly wrangling, and is distraught with his situation since he loses his support from the system. A financially-crippled Baujee, he voluntarily goes mum. A man in search of the truth, joins a gambling den – perhaps giving equal weightage to an illegal game and living a life of the truth. Baujee marries his daughter to her liking. Now, he was free of the domestic burdens. Goes out with his wife one last time. As the events turn out, the dream is repeated in reality – Baujee is flying, perhaps to live only in the plot of the film.

Paused for a while!

2018-06-21T16:10:00.001+05:00

We are constantly on the move – from home to office and back. We meet the family every day, friends every week or on occasions. Even then, we have lost the connections and relationships. We are nowhere but everywhere. We are with all, but with none. Individuals are no more individuals, walking bodies, awake minds, sleeping hearts, and ironically, we are the humans of the post-modern era. Are we connected with ourselves? I doubt! Do we sit with ourselves? Nay! Where are we? Constantly running to reach somewhere! Still running! Yes! Is it fast-paced life or our general attitude? The wrong gone into us is unfigured. The solution at the moment! We need to be with ourselves after disconnecting from the world – may be for a short while today and everyday.

This time, it’s female MPA

2018-06-21T12:35:00.001+05:00

This time it is not a male parliamentarian, rather to jump into the already-boiling fray of irregularities and illegalities by elected representatives is a female MPA Shumaila Rana, who was ‘chosen’ on reserved seats to serve the masses.

The Pakistan Muslim League-N has vowed to fulfil all legal formalities in investigating the case. On the other hand, if found guilty, Shumaila Rana will lose her seat, as no convicted can become a parliamentarian, and stands disqualified as conviction as per the Articles 62 and 63 of the Constitution.

Previously, it were MNA Haji Pervaiz Khan from Rawalpindi and Minister Prisons Ch Abdul Ghafoor of the N-League, who indulged in impersonation and acted highhandedly at the Lahore Airport respectively. Interestingly, the MNA lost his seat after a committee found him guilty, and the Minister was given honourable exit from the charges by the PML-N leadership despite the fact that the committee found him guilty on more than two accounts.

Prior to Shumaila Rana’s case, another N-League’s MPA Munawar Gill was indicted in a rape case. He is said to have been found innocent in the case.

Shumaila is the fourth PML-N parliamentarian, who has been found guilty of indulging in a criminal activity.

The first timer to the Punjab Assembly Shumaila Rana, reportedly found guilty of stealing credit card from another female’s bag, and indulging in ‘illegal’ shopping, is member of the Standing Committee on Religious Affairs and Auqaf. Moreover, she is also member of Chief Minister’s Coordination Committee for the Internally Displaced People, which is an offshoot of Punjab Chief Minister’s Fund for the IDPs of NWFP.

Unmarried Shumaila Rana is daughter of Hidayat Ali, and she climbed the ladder of becoming an MPA by virtue of her mother Anjum Ara’s services to the Party, as the latter has been worker of the Party for about two decades.

Anjum Rana, a retired schoolteacher of a private institute, was not a graduate, and after her successful canvassing for her daughter, a reserved seat was given to Shumaila Rana, who is said to be in her mid-20s. She is the first MPA from this family, and has nothing tangible to her credit for which she should have been given the slot.

MPA with humble family background, she has been a vociferous supporter of women rights, and their empowerment. She had also promised to lobby for the charter of demands presented by women farmers recently.

A resident of Bedian Road, Lahore, Shumaila Rana had switched off her mobile, while her residence landline phone was kept continuously busy.

Punjab’s Minister for Law and Parliamentary Affairs Rana Sanaullah Khan said all legal formalities would be actualised in investigating the case. “The Punjab government and Chief Minister always ensure rule of law nor matter how influential is the person. Justice will be ensured and action will be taken as per law,” he said, while further adding that the PML-N would take disciplinary action as well if Shumaila Rana would be proven guilty, and she would be given a change to defend herself.

“Even if the PML-N does take action, like it did not do for Ch Ghafoor and Munawwar Gill, Articles 62 and 63 of the Constitution of Pakistan does not allow any person to remain member if ‘he has been convicted by a court of competent jurisdiction on a charge of corrupt practice, moral turpitude or misuse of power or authority under any law for the time being in force’” maintained a senior PML-N leader, seeking anonymity, who also opined against the ‘dishing out’ of tickets and nominations sans deep deliberations and scrutiny of the prospective members. “The Sharif brothers came back after about a decade in exile, and were not properly briefed by a few handpicked, who had their own agendas, and family connections to strengthen. Consequently, they indulged in nepotism, and to investigate it, top N-League leadership had already ordered an enquiry,” he said.

To him, Shumaila Rana was also nominated by the Party’s special group of Lahore. About Rana’s future, he was of the opinion that she might lose her seat even if the police did not find her guilty. “To hold the merit-flag high, this lady could be deseated by the PML-N leadership because in cases of Ch Ghafoor and Munawwar Gill, the top leadership seemed to have been hamstrung by unseen circumstances,” he predicted.

Action against five MOs – Not enough

2018-06-21T12:35:00.000+05:00

Issuance of the Medico-Legal Certificates is one the worst case scenarios in Pakistan, and the lot of people involved in criminal cases about injuring or killing others, depends on the MLCs and the forensic reports. Most of the times, these are based on fact considering the fact that most of the well-to-do can approach these doctors, who have been repeatedly found on the wrong side of the law.
Their mere transfer and keeping them under ‘watch’ will not solve the problem. Until they apprehend certain action will taken against them if they indulged in certain illegality, they will not mend their ways.
The Health Department, on the report of Enquiry Committee constituted by the Chief Secretary Punjab, has initiated action under disciplinary rules against five medical officers, involved in issuance of illegal medico legal certificates, and immediately transferred them from their present place of posting.
The concerned Executive District Officers (Health) have been directed that not to allow these doctors to work on medico legal or forensic science related cases.
According to the spokesman of the Health Department Dr. Frukh Humayun has been transferred from RHC Phool Nagar Kasur and his services have been placed at the disposal of EDO Health Rajanpur, similarly Dr. Mohammad Hasan transferred from RHC Rinala Khurd and given at the disposal of EDO (H) Layyah. Dr. Bashir Ahmed has been transferred from RHC Ayyazabad Multan and posted in THQ Hospital Hazro, District Attock, Dr. Abdul Haq transferred from RHC Sara-i-Sidhu, Khanewal and given at the disposal of EDO(H) Mianwali whereas Dr. Ashar Masood transferred from THQ Hospital Kabirwala and posted at DHQ Hospital Nanankana Sahib.
The concerned EDOs have been directed to watch the working of the said Medical Officers and if any professional negligence occurred on the part of these doctors it should immediately brought in to the notice of the Secretary Health.
Will it solve the problem? Certainly big NO is the actual reply.

Chief Minister Punjab violates decorum of House

2018-06-21T12:34:00.000+05:00

Leader of the House in the Punjab Assembly Shahbaz Sharif was found violating the decorum of the august House, when he was seeing ‘chewing’ something in his mouth.
Vocal and belligerent Opposition member Samina Khawar Hayyat – herself not having a clean chit for violating decorum of the Assembly – pointed it out to the Speaker loudly, “Sir! Leader of the House is chewing chewgum in the House.”
Speaker Rana Muhammad Iqbal, perhaps turning his blind eye to what was happening on the right side of his chair, replied, “I have not seen that.”
Immediately, senior parliamentarian Sirdar Zulfiqar Ali Khan Khosa was very quick to add, “Sir! He is not chewing chewgum, rather having alaychee (cardamom) in his mouth. However, this was enough to bail the CM out of an awkward situation for the time being.
On the other hand, no one pointed out that the Senior Khosa, as a routine, continues reciting on beads (tasbeeh), which amply hints at the prioritised ‘subject’ for the Chief of the Khosa clan.
Simultaneously, Sirdar Dost Khosa, and another female member from the PML-N Arifa Khalid Pervaiz were also continuing gnaw at something in their mouths.
Generally, chewing of gum in an official ambience is viewed with disfavour. In some cases, it is even considered a disrespectful demeanour. Speaking of Parliaments and legislative bodies, some like the US House of Representatives expressly prohibit eating as also smoking, drinking in the House. Though there does not appear to be any specific provision with respect to chewing gum, where eating is prohibited it should perhaps follow by implication that chewing of gum is also a taboo. Though no specific rule is traceable, the recognised convention in the UK prohibits eating, drinking and smoking in the Houses of Parliament.
Meanwhile, when the Opposition was vigorously fighting for sustaining the cut motions, despite Shahbaz Sharif being in attendance, Treasury members were continuously disturbing their adversaries. When PML-N ladies were heading the move, MPA from Sheikhupura Asghar Ali Manda also started hooting at the Opposition members.
Seeing no end to this despite his repeated futile efforts of keeping the House in order, Rana Iqbal commented, “Munda! Let me complete agenda!”
This brought a big laughter in the House.

After a long time ...

2016-04-29T21:21:00.000+05:00

I do not exactly remember when I posted anything on my blog. However, I hope to continue. I am missing a person who really made me blog here. "Hey! Ours is a perfect case of being there and being unavailable simultaneously. Who says that we have forgotten each other? We have not and are still there. We both have suffered alone and traversed the longest journeys of our lives, but never communicating. Who stopped us? No one! Who will break the ice? No one! And who will tell both of us that we still need each other? No one.......But we will keep on fighting against odds, both alone in a world divided by implicit boundaries raised by no one but our egos." I believe that we have compartmentalised ourselves. 'You stay your ground and I stay mine. We are there, and we aint.' I am a changed man but for better. No doubt, it is all because of MYSELF and for ME only. We are dreading each other from sitting face to face though there is nothing to be apprehensive about. We know about each other........... where we are and what are we doing? I know you are facing the same old problems, but I have more problems. Interestingly, I cannot share my problems with any one, because those are mine. After these years, I believe no one can understand what I want to say. And probably you have many many people to do that. This depicts your flexibility, and I have become more rigid despite a few years have been added to my life. Many a time, theories are meant for books only and to be appreciated by those who have not tasted life. What else should I say....... I know you will come up with something. Secondly, I am back NIDO and Million Dollar Man in Spain.... NIDO needs interesting write-ups, and MDM is for Heart-To-Heart Talk though 'sells goods of multinational companies and NIDO is from Communication. The former is always looking for H2HTs, while the latter being extremely sensitive keeps up different appearances. Asi! I told you to avoid H2HTs but you fell in a very very deep rather an unfathomable ditch. Now you are desperately trying to reach the brim, while holding on to the weakest of straws artificially clinging to a rot wooden stem. However, you stay steadfast and I assure you success. Enough for today...........

Do we have any limit to our intolerance?

2014-09-22T10:43:00.001+05:00

Our society, comprising people who are more educated and affluent now, but they are equally intolerant to each other. Over a period, it has been observed that they are becoming more and more intolerant, and quite a few have either become or are on the verge of becoming radicalists. One can meet a lot of well-educated people, working in multinational companies, but they endorse suicide attacks, and are bent upon promoting one sect of Islam, while rejected others all together. In certain cases, they reach the extent of favoring elimination of others, if their insistence upon changing one’s sect does not help in ‘mending or correcting’ them. The religious lot is not only an utter failure rather they have further deepened this division, which is also done in order to have their grip further strengthened by promoting their own agenda of deep hatred so that they could be considered as ‘men of great honour’. On the other hand, our attitude towards family members, both immediate and distant, friends, colleagues and society at large, is if not condemnable then certainly not good, which imparts an impression of a society which by and large an intolerant one. We are not ready to accept others’ apologies what to talk of foregoing of mistakes. The educated disdain the uneducated or lesser educated, so-called enlightened reject other by asserting that the others do not have depth. One can be crude in his expressions, while they are considered worthless by the intelligentsia disparagingly. Now this behaviour is evident among the youth too, who are obviously following into the footsteps of their elders. This is continuing unabatedly in each stratum of the society. Only those are tolerant to each other who have certain interest weaved into their lives, social and businesses too. Politicians take the lead in this regard. Despite apparent differences, they are deeply connected to each other, like the businessmen, who have inter-marriages despite rivalries. In an overall scenario, the middle class is sustaining its resentments to the last, while the upper class makes hay under all circumstances.

Valuing the departed ones! … Why not in their lives!

2014-09-18T09:44:00.001+05:00

We, as a society, have developed an attitude of honoring and remembering the dead ones, instead of the living ones. Is it because of the fact that we consider people more precious after they leave this world? On occasions, one can see people thronging graveyards, showering flowers and praying. Quite a few have wet eyes, while the others give a somber look! One can see visible pain on everybody face, which is further augmented by any festive occasion. Do we value people when they are alive? We might be, but again the question is: Do we as much as we do afterwards? The answer would be a big NO! And if we know this, then we must change our attitudes towards our fellow beings! We have a sort of tradition now that we don’t condemn the dead ones, asserting that ‘his matters are with Allah now; so we must leave it to Him (Allah).’ May be a good attitude for quite a few, but others believe that criticising or condemning should be continued so that the living ones should know that people would hurl abuses at them even after their deaths; so they should mend themselves in this world as well. But good ones should be certain that they would be praised even afterwards, while remembering them good way whenever talking about them. Ideally it would be good to keep people, good or bad, in mind even during their lifetime. Can we do it instead of mourning after their deaths?

Replacement of human beings as quick as gadgets

2014-09-17T14:10:00.001+05:00

Everyday inventions in mobile, computer and other technologies are making people buy new gadgets with equal speed. Prior to the launching of any brand, especially mobile, it is talk of the world, and search engines’ traffic reaches its peak. The iPhone6 is the recent example. But on the other hand, do we realise how quickly we change people too. Even the indispensable lot is replaced certain other persons, while in relations, someone replaces the other. Will we stop somewhere? Do we really value people? Even an answer in positive would carry a big question mark. Now friendship are replaced with more friendship, may be to last little duration than the previous ones. One can see another trend among people now. He would befriend you, then after some time move on your friends, and one fine day you would find that your friend is closer to that person, and he is sort of manipulating his own way up. This cycle will continue till the person is exposed of being an opportunist. Beware of them!

Sects of religions are profitable outlets for their founders and proponents

2014-09-16T10:49:00.001+05:00

All religions of the world have multiple sects, and now one can find everyday new sects coming to the fore from the existing ones, which is further dividing people into different layers. Moreover, these sects are becoming more and more radical in their practices, interpretations and inventions to the religion, leaving little for dissent. And if one questions them, he is labeled as an infidel, and even fatwas (decrees) are issued against them. It is a perfect example of self-aggrandisement by using religious interpretations. These sects are strengthened by domestic and foreign fundings. First it starts with ‘requests’ for opening a mosque or a madressah (religious school), which acts as a platform for propagating their particular ideology. The followers or Mureeds contribute according to their bank balance, while the rich with bigger financial interests outside the sect gather influence to warding the government machinery off, and thwart any threats to their business interest. Also, these sects look for unattended prime lands to construct places for religious prayers ostensibly – India and Pakistan lead in this regard – while the followers never question the forcible possessions either since they feel protected under the umbrella. Its next level is of either getting illegal possessions vacated upon a payment of at least 30 per cent of the total prize of the land, or deal is matured by getting the papers signed in their own favour, which is considered to be the most liked manner since the grabbers can claim that they have bought the ‘booty’. Whenever such religious outfits have to hold a congregation, their teams reach out to the ‘targetted’ businessmen and others for getting the grants. In Karachi and Mumbai this is the most likeable manner of extortion. Where is the writ of the government? The state machinery seems to be sleeping and even if one is harshly woken up, it turns blind eye to it, and never realising that it is actually a breeding ground for tomorrow since the social fabric is torn to threads by these religious mantra speakers, who love to create divisions-within-divisions to enhance their influence. On the other hand, foreign countries are also helping their followers to enhance the influence of a particular sect. Recently, in the remote Southern Punjab, in a road-side restaurant, a man was openly discussing a plan to construct a Medressah and construct a mosque in his village. Though apparently he himself was a person of reasonable means, but he was certain that he would get money from some of his foreign ‘friends’ which not only would be enough to run the mosque and the seminary for next ten years rather would also help in multiplying his wealth, while the state organs would not dare him question too. No doubt, with this, he would be given more ‘respect’ and gather influence in the society. Ultimately, the only aim of the founders and proponents seem to be fattening their bank balances, and gaining influence; it is no way a favour to the humanity, and to any religion. Political hobnobbing is part and parcel of it, and one can find a lot of politicians, bureaucrats and men in uniform being part of such religious outfits. At this point, it seems that majority of people are part of one sect or of another group. Its last stage is a proxy war, which is and are being fought on one ground of any country or another, ultimately to the trouble of the masses and benefit of a few.

Self-proclaimed leaders … laboratories of character flaws!

2014-09-15T17:22:00.000+05:00

Do we have leaders in its true sense? Can anyone name even a single person from the present lot, who stand even a chance to be considered as a leader. It carries a big question mark. Is there anyone who can be given clean chit? No one at all! If one is accused of massive corruption (Asif Ali Zardari), then his closest rival Nawaz Sharif has so many allegations in his kitty – from a dictator’s stooge to incapability (not strange for any such men of Khaki), from corruption to family-democracy, from … to … anything and everything. He is closely followed by cricketer-turned-politician Imran Khan, who can certainly be incorruptible financially in his personal capacity, but morally he can be little less shallow than the rest. What message would it be for ordinary people of Pakistan …… Your PM has fathered an illicit child. Who is not familiar with Maulana Diesel fame Jehad-seller? He is one of the greatest champions of democracy these days. Next to him is gentleman from Balochistan Mahmood Khan Achakzai, who turned his province into the land of the ignorant by not letting education reaching doors of the ordinary, but he preaches for ‘democratic nobility’ (read dictatorial ignominy) in the federal capital. We also have Asfandyar Wali, whose party ANP ruled the KPK during the last democratic spell, but his stay in the European countries was longer than in his own country. I think people have not forgotten his ‘pro-Pakistan service’ taking big money from India for working against the Kalabagh Dam. By the way, his mother has formed her own party. People still remember Jama’at-e-Islami’s history of stabbing in the back of democratic dispensations, and the worst (read bloody) role of its youth wing Islami Jamiat Talba. The military men and their children are already in the field and making their mark. The second tier leadership is also following into the footsteps of their top leaders. The Khawajas, the Mians, the Chaudharys, the Qureshis, the Makhdooms ……… the land of the pure (read poor) is being run by a few families. Now they all are preparing a next generation of leaders from their families. Bilawal Zardari, Hamza Shahbaz, Maryam Nawaz, Ch Moonis Elahi, Suleman Shahbaz, Asif Bhutto ……….. the line is pretty long, and quite a few of them have already surpassed their elders in the feats of corruption and moral turpitude. Luckily perhaps, females are so far lagging far behind to their male counterparts or I would rather not comment on them. To cap it all, they all have a background which is tainted by moral turpitude. Who has not been a womaniser? Someone has illicit children (Imran Khan); someone (Nawaz Sharif) is still offering his services to be find good boyfriends for a foreign correspondent (Jim Baraker); someone is known as a house-beaker (Shahbaz Sharif), and now the usual advice to new entrants in bureaucracy and politics is advised against taking their wives and daughters to their family functions. Now the situation has reached to such an extent that pointing it out as a negative trait of character is advised to be ignored as if it is a routine matter. Leaders do such things … is the usual rhetoric. This is only a brief of what our leaders are like. Much more is there! Where would true leaders be in Pakistan? I usually think …..

Fakeness is the call of the day … a disease becoming epidemic!

2014-09-15T16:49:00.000+05:00

Earlier it used to be a prerogative of female actors but now one can find even ordinary people feigning ‘fakeness’ in their routine life though posing to be hugely real. It has made them look more dubious, and their listeners become restless, while waiting for the moment when they would either stop talking or kind enough to leave. Their facial expressions are not in correspondence to their minds and hearts; resultantly their talk has no effect on the listeners. Moreover, with narrowed eyes, lined foreheads and unusually frequent movement of hands make them target of public ridicule. Do they realise this? Perhaps not since their effort is to look different and pose themselves as big shots. In the same vein they also talk of subjects distant to the knowledge of their listeners. Lo and behold! Let anybody utter even a single word of the subject, and they would immediately pounce upon the opportunity of showing themselves men of great knowledge. Also, these people have another habit of bringing others to their pitch by alluding to their favourite subject. And if the listener takes the bait, then he would have it from them since they would not let the listener speak for a moment. Now the ‘target’ has only one way of ‘getting rid’ of the knowledge man, and that is, either he has to leave or somebody arrives to change the subject. After some time, one will find the newly-arrived gentleman in hot waters since their formula approach would be enticed him to their pitches. The third types of fakes are best at name dropping. Earlier, their usual claim used to be about showing the listener that they were well-connected, and frequent big houses without any hindrance. Now they have reached another level of eulogising those big names, and if anyone dares to contend their assertions or contradict the speakers, it can set the perfect stage for conflict. Remember! Such people do not value others, and in their heart of hearts, believe that others are good-for-nothing fellows. They love to find faults even in those people who are respected in the society, or otherwise they are at least higher achievers, more than the ordinary. This psyche has become a disease now, which could become an epidemic one day, especially in a society like ours. Life would be certainly far easier if we try to be what we are, and keep ourselves within our limits, while depicting ourselves to be the same!

Incapable rulers!

2014-09-13T10:25:00.000+05:00

The worst problem of the rulers is their lack of vision, which emanates from their incapacity to work and inability to carry out plans even if they are provided with viable solutions. When the above-mentioned malady afflicts them, they opt for cheap heroics of visiting the disaster-hit areas, getting pictures printed while standing in knee-deep waters. One can see this happening since decades. Even today they have not opted for sustainable development and projects which could benefit the masses. Short span projects seem to be their priority. In continuation of this is the method of payment made to the affectees, and now everybody is expecting money after a disaster. This must be stopped immediately, and planning should be given priority.

Social and financial disparities to stay ….

2014-09-13T10:14:00.000+05:00

Social and financial disparities are to stay in any society, and if it is checked, its first casualty would be struggle, and when the latter happens, every society would get stagnant and its individuals would lose the urge to be successful in comparison to others. Perhaps this was one of the basic reasons that communism breathed its last because of its own ideology though external factors did play an important role too. People who profess to bring equality in the society would completely fail since it would be against the law of nature though everyday one finds a lot of people, especially the politicians, sermonising people about bringing equality among the masses. However, societies prosper where everyone is treated equally whenever the question of law arises. Criminals, whether rich or poor, influential or statusless, should be meted out the same punishment in the courts and treatment in prisons. Whenever, disparity occurs in the judicial dispensation, societies become pervert, and the result is of people joining groups, which ultimately become mafias of all hues – business, land, religious and finally political. The same can be observed in Pakistan where one find grouping of all colours, and somehow they are respected in the society. Even national political parties are actually groups-from-groups, and consequently, our society, especially national politics, has become umbrellas shielding criminals, who join these parties to gather more mass. Also in the same manner, business tycoons have formed their groups, who are further supported by people having comparatively small business holdings, and this trickledown effect goes to the small shopkeepers in the streets of the residential areas. These groups are then further seen spiraling their support to the upper ladders, which are of political nature. Now these mafias have become so strong that no government either dares to control them or put a check on them since they are either part of the ruling coterie or are hugely funding these political parties. Now the ruling parties opt for specific policies which would benefit their coterie sitting in their ranks. Even Special Regulatory Orders are issued from time-to-time for a stipulated period so that the ‘targeted’ beneficiaries could become richer. Hence this has become a vicious circle, which grills anyone who comes to put either halt it or put a check on it. Nevertheless, any person sitting at the top position with little interests can tackle them provided he has a team willing to make amends.

Respect begets love …. An end to differences

2014-09-12T09:20:00.000+05:00

Differences among human beings are primarily because of lack of respect since we have started believing more in professing love instead of practising respect. We rarely honour others in pure intention, and if there is any, it is carries with it an ulterior motive, which is usually materialistic. That is why one sees this ‘fake honour’ withering or eliminating totally after certain time because by then, either the objective has been achieved or has been defeated. Also, this ‘social love’ has become a routine among close members of any family unit. People can be seen adoring their family members, and pronouncing it publicly as well, but we rarely find people showing respect to each other. This results in differences as a routine, but because of love, these are mended after some time, depending upon the intensity of the conflict. If they would respect each other, certainly differences could be minimised, if not eliminated. The element of respect is rarely found among siblings and life-partners; that is why they are quarreling among themselves, while couples parting ways, even if they had spent decades together, while breathing in the same pace. The parents must teach their children to respect each other as well, besides being an example themselves. The same is true among friends as well. In our culture, it is believed that any friendship is not fast if level of frankness is not touching brims of hurling abuses and calling friends with ugly names. Respecting each other can add years to the friendship, and love too. Succinctly, in all relations respect should be given priority as the first step, while love would be a natural outcome.

Killing and Container Policy failure!

2014-08-14T19:38:00.000+05:00

Marchers have moved on without police resistance. It says a lot to the rulers – provided they like to listen – that when large number of people, even with specific mindset and agenda start a journey, it becomes masses’ voice. What has happened so far, and to the extent the political crisis has deepened, both Sharifs must take the onus, and even now try to resolve the issue. They let the situation reach this point, which can culminate into their exit. One cannot exonerate Shahbaz Sharif even. Who is responsible for creating Container Towns in the Punjab, and broad-day murders of innocent people. Forget their affiliations, but they were humans! Development projects, like Metros, bridges and roads matter little in the progress and prosperity of any nation. Real task is to educate the nation, and provide health facilities to the commoners; but both these sectors are worst hit in the Sharifs tenures. Nothing except embroidered slogans! Disappointing these 'self-professed' pious are! Why these short-term big cost projects? These deliver money at your doorstep in the shortest possible time, as observed by people. Nevertheless, this government should complete its term since it will bring an end to this 'dictator-product rulers'. 25 years in governance, and they have yet to learn how to face opposition and stay away from political landmines; instead they ensure that they tread them. Today, they are facing the consequences of this.

Die smart for smooth burial

2014-07-23T11:00:00.000+05:00

No doubt it was not a routine burial owing to two reasons: First, it was a stuffy and hot evening, and secondly, the guy was a big fellow. Last week, a young man in his late 20s breathed his last after a protracted illness, primarily caused by a road accident resulting in head injury. As asserted by the family that he could have survived if the electricity transformer would have been replaced on-time though 16-hour loadshedding had bothered him already, but not to the brink. Nevertheless, ultimately it is deemed and pronounced by the attendees to be preordained by the Allah Almighty, and everybody, including the dearest ones find refuge under this guise; so stop blaming the players or the criminals who caused the death; and in this cases it was the Wapda, if not the ‘saintly’ government of the ‘most God-fearing’ politicians, off to spend the last ten days of Ramadan in Saudi Arabia. The burial ordeal started when the aggrieved family was advised by someone – on such occasions they are in plenty always – that the charpoy (body carrying cart) could be carried to the graveyard without much hassle since there were quite a few young lads, who were friends of the deceased too. This one-kilometre distance from home to the graveyard was covered with unimaginable difficulty since after a few steps every carrier would start feeling the weight on his back, and the fasting (roza) was an easy pretext for not carrying their friend to his last worldly destination. The pace of the funeral procession got slowed with every few steps. The advisors and the initial ambitious carriers were found missing. However, ‘others’ were able to take their friend to the Janzgah. Over half-an-hour wait was to add more trouble to the already exhausted bodies and parched throats since the cleric of a specific brand was to arrive from the other corner. One could very well imagine the poor family members who had been virtually shattered not only emotionally, rather physically too. And when his majesty the Mullah arrived, everyone heaved a sigh of relief. But to their dismay, he started his usual mantra of life in this world, of sinners and the pious, and preparation for the world hereafter. Who could tell the maestro to stop! He was more interested in proving his prowess of knowledge and oratory in a congested janzagah. When loud breathing first, and suppressed whispering started latter, he realised that his message was certainly falling on deaf ears, but he heard the suffering in silence. He was quick to start long brief to the funeral prayer, which was otherwise of longer duration too. One could very well visualise that the deceased father was a rich man, and so were various ceremonies, not only extravagant in nature, rather demanded more professionalism as well. Rarely has been a poor man’s funeral handled so professionally. It is the quickest always! Also, it was an occasion where people volunteer to carry the body to a distant graveyard, but only in loud voices mostly. The journey was to re-start after the prayer but now only oldies were advisors for taking the charpoy quickly, while the previous batch had either gone silent or hid somewhere. It was pretty difficult to carry the big body through narrow lanes, crossing graves on the way, and ultimately reaching the dark nook of the cemetery, which had been illuminated through different sources of light, including mobile torches. The last step was to down the body in the grave. These are the occasions when one would hear voices of those even, who have never been consulted ever or their advices have been slammed back into their faces with abuses. Double the measures were taken to land the body in the ground, rather he was virtually squeezed in the pit because of the size. Where were the advisors when the grave was dug up? BEWARE of your size, and advisors, before you die!

Waris Shah is calling from his grave!

2013-09-11T03:19:00.000+05:00

This is not the world, especially this part, which was known to Sufis like Waris Shah, who preached ‘love to all’ till they left the mundane world to meet their Creator again. Today he has more number of followers to what he had during his worldly days, but the levels of unrest, disharmony, despondency and hatred for fellow beings are the highest ever, if these have not touched their maximums. And now it seems that even his followers have forgotten Shah’s real message, and perhaps have become mere visitors to his last resting place, at least once a year during the Urs days, which is the 215th this year. How unsafe have become such places of people who preached peace and love for humanity, can be gauged from the very fact that the in 2011,the Punjab government had cancelled all the literary programmes and banned the gathering of more than 20 people in the premises of Waris Shah’s mazar, which had obviously disappointed the devotees. The question is: Can the provincial dispensation not even secure compound encompassing three acres? If it could have been done, then people could have re-enlivened the days of yore when recitations of Shah’s Heer Ranjha enthralled a many, allowed permeation of Sufi’s spirit and promoted feeling of brotherhood. But the ‘steps meant for security of people’ did not allow this to happen. India’s celebrated writer Amrita Pretam is less known in Pakistan, even for her autobiographical ‘Raseedi Ticket’ but mostly for 16-liner tribute to Waris Shah, where she has pleaded to the Sufi to rise from his grave, and have a look at the havoc played to this land. She says: I say to Waris Shah today, speak from your grave And add a new page to your book of love Once one daughter of Punjab wept, and you wrote your long saga; Today thousands weep, calling to you Waris Shah: Arise, O friend of the afflicted; arise and see the state of Punjab, Corpses strewn on fields, and the Chenab flowing with much blood. Someone filled the five rivers with poison, And this same water now irrigates our soil. Where was lost the flute, where the songs of love sounded? And all Ranjha’s brothers forgotten to play the flute. Blood has rained on the soil, graves are oozing with blood, The princesses of love cry their hearts out in the graveyards. Today all the Quaido’s have become the thieves of love and beauty, Where can we find another one like Waris Shah? Waris Shah! I say to you, speak from your grave And add a new page to your book of love. (This translation is from Darshan Singh Maini’s ‘Studies in Punjabi Poetry’.) Shah’s Heer is better known among the Punjabi speaking population of the world than Shakespeare’s Juliet, and the former’s message is far profound than the writings of the English dramatist but the literati of the sub-continent considered it a huge tribute to the ever-living Shah when he is renamed as ‘Shakespeare of the Punjabi Language’. It is an acceptance by those, who might not have understood and comprehended Shah in totality. If more Punjabi knowing people would have read or his writings would have been made compulsory part of the syllabi, then Waris Shah would have been the one of the greatest writers of the world, whose message is for believers of all shades. To some critics, Shah’s masterpiece Heer Ranjha is apparently a story of romantic love, through which he had tried to portray the love for God, the quintessential subject of Sufis’ writings. Someone has rightly put it, “the first poet of Punjab who sang full-throatedly about Punjab and Punjabiat and left a writing (Heer Ranjha) which is the soulful passionate expression of the Punjabi psyche, culture and aspirations.” Through this, Waris Shah is calling out at the top of his voice – Reaching out to Him (Allah) is the finality.