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3 Fun Ways to Deal with Feelings

2025-04-09T08:22:00.009-04:00

3 Ways to Help Kids Deal with Feelings

Using feelings faces in therapy, in counseling or at home with your child, can be an effective way to help children express and understand emotions, which provides a foundational piece for social-emotional skill building. Bonus points if you can turn it into a game or fun activity! The more fun something is, the more it sticks in our memory.

Here's Why It Matters

~ Emotional awareness is closely linked to improved academic performance and mental health.
~ Children with emotional awareness tend to exhibit more self-control, focus, and motivation in school settings
~ Emotional awareness minimizes the risk of anxiety and depression, enabling children to approach life's challenges with confidence.

Here are three easy ways to have fun with feelings:

1. Emotion Matching Game: Create a set of cards with different feelings faces and another set with emotion words. Have clients match the faces to the corresponding emotion words. This activity can help improve emotional vocabulary and recognition skills. To make it more engaging, you can turn it into a memory game where players take turns flipping over two cards to find matching pairs. For younger children, print two sets of the same feelings and cut out one set of faces, leaving the other set intact on the sheet. Have them match the faces by putting them on top of the corresponding faces. Our Zebra Feelings resource offers a fun way to play.

2. Feelings Charades: Use feelings faces as prompts for a charades game. Have each participant draw a card with a feelings face and then act out that emotion without using words, while others guess which emotion is being portrayed. For younger children, limit this to a few of the more basic feelings. This game encourages non-verbal expression and helps clients understand body language and facial expressions associated with different emotions.

3. Storytelling with Feelings: Provide a selection of feelings faces and have clients choose one or two. Then, ask them to create a short story or scenario in which the characters experience these emotions. This activity promotes creativity and empathy, as children explore the causes and effects of emotions and consider how different situations might lead to different feelings.

Be sure to include some discussion about what we can do to cope when we are having different feelings. Allow the kids time to think before jumping in with ideas. Kids come up with some of the coolest and most innovative ways to manage things, when given the time and space to do so!

These games foster emotional intelligence and communication skills...and all can be played by creating your own feelings faces, cutting them out of magazine, drawing them...or using one of our newest resources:

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More on Feelings

To see our other posts with more information about dealing with feelings, simply type "feelings" into our search bar at the top of the blog.

If you are looking for resources that explore feelings and self-regulation to use at home, in the classroom, in counseling or therapy, check out the many digital download options we have available by going here.

Here's just an example of a few of the fun feelings activities that await:

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Something to Keep in Mind...

When teaching kids about emotions, both human faces and animal faces can be effective tools, depending on the context and the age of the children. Human faces are often more relatable and can provide more realistic depictions of emotions, helping children understand the subtleties of facial expressions and social cues. This can be particularly beneficial for older children who are developing more complex social skills. Conversely, animal faces can be engaging and fun for younger children, capturing their interest and making learning feel like play. Animal characters often emphasize exaggerated expressions, which can make it easier for young kids to identify and understand basic emotions. Ultimately, a balanced approach that incorporates both human and animal faces can cater to different learning styles and developmental stages, creating a comprehensive and enjoyable learning experience.

Until next time,

Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD, is the founder of Kidlutions and co-author of BLOOM: 50 Things to Say, Think and Do with Anxious, Angry and Over-the-Top Kids, co-creator of BLOOM Brainsmarts, and creator of The Joyful Parent. She is the author of numerous workbooks and resources to help from the preschool through the teen years.

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Tantrums: What the Research Says

2025-03-30T19:48:00.005-04:00

Tantrums: What the Research Says

Tantrums are a natural part of childhood, but they can be challenging for parents to navigate. Research in the past five years has provided valuable insights into the causes of tantrums and effective strategies for managing them. Let's start off with the neuroscience of a tantrum.

The Neuroscience Behind Tantrums

Tantrums occur when a child's emotional regulation system is overwhelmed. The amygdala, the brain's emotional center, becomes hyperactive, while the prefrontal cortex, responsible for self-control, is still developing.

This imbalance makes it difficult for children to manage frustration or distress. Studies have shown that tantrums are often triggered by fatigue, hunger, overstimulation, or unmet needs.

What might look like "manipulation" (I want that candy bar and I can't have it...queue the tantrum) is more likely indicative of poor self-regulation, or the ability to calm down and accept "no" for an answer. While your child doesn't benefit from you giving in and getting them the candy bar, they will greatly benefit from you helping them learn social-emotional coping skills. Even with social-emotional coping skills on board, the brain will still need time to mature before it all comes together.

The Role of Anxiety and Stress

Research highlights that children experiencing anxiety or stress are more prone to tantrums. A study found that tantrum intensity and frequency were positively correlated with higher levels of anxiety in children. This underscores the importance of creating a stable and predictable environment to reduce stressors. Routines are the name of the game here!

Knowing all of the above is one thing, but what's a parent to do when things go sideways and the tantrum is epic? Read on...

Evidence-based Strategies for Parents

Parents play a crucial role in helping children navigate tantrums. Here are some evidence-based strategies:

Stay Calm: Modeling calm behavior helps de-escalate the situation. Deep breathing or counting to ten can help parents maintain composure. As we talk about in BLOOM: 50 Things to Say, Think and Do with Anxious, Angry and Over-the-Top Kids, remember that you are in the BIG body with the BIG brain and your child is counting on YOU to help them navigate wayward emotions. It's really step number one in helping your child.

Validate Emotions: Acknowledge the child's feelings by saying, "I see you're upset." This helps the child feel understood and supported. Other things you could say are:

"This is hard for you right now."
"You wish you could have that candy bar, and now is not the time."
"It doesn't seem fair to you that you can't have a playdate with Clara. I can see how upset and sad you are."

Be sure to follow up with some ways to calm down. Giving options is always a good approach!

Set Clear Boundaries: Consistent rules and expectations provide a sense of security for children, reducing the likelihood of tantrums. Be fair, but firm.

Teach Emotional Regulation: Encourage children to use words to express their feelings and practice calming techniques, such as deep breathing or using a "calm-down corner." If you need more ideas and hands-on resources to help teach your child self-regulation, check out all of our research-based activities and downloads.

Avoid Reinforcing Tantrums: While it's important to comfort a child, avoid giving in to unreasonable demands during a tantrum, as this can reinforce the behavior. Stay strong.

When to Seek Help

While occasional tantrums are normal, frequent or severe tantrums may indicate underlying issues, such as anxiety or developmental delays. Consulting a pediatrician or child therapist can provide additional support and guidance.

By understanding the neuroscience of tantrums and implementing these strategies, parents can help their children develop emotional resilience and navigate challenging moments with greater ease.

See more here:

[Tantrums and Anxiety in Early Childhood: A Pilot Study](https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ1084951.pdf)

[6 Surprising Findings About Temper Tantrums](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/behavior-problems-behavior-solutions/202106/6-surprising-findings-about-temper-tantrums)

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5 Ways to Help Kids Deal with Fear

2025-03-28T23:39:00.008-04:00

5 ways to help kids deal with fear:

Open Communication Encourage children to express their fears by listening to them without judgment. Create a safe space for open conversations where they feel heard and understood. This helps them process their emotions and feel less alone. Have a child who has trouble opening up? Try going about it with a Family Feelings Journal!
Normalize Fear
Explain that fear is a normal emotion everyone experiences. Share examples of your own fears and how you manage them. This normalizes the feeling and reduces any shame or embarrassment they might feel. After normalizing fears, give kids the opportunity to identify what can help them reduce the worry. Try our Worry Pop activity.
Teach Coping Strategies
Help children develop tools to manage fear, such as deep breathing, visualization, or mindfulness exercises. Simple techniques like imagining a "calm place" or counting slowly to ten can empower them to regain control when they feel scared. Here are some great techniques you can teach kids: Balloon Bellies and Bubble Breathing.
Use Stories or Play
Books, storytelling, and role-playing are great ways to help children confront fears in a non-threatening way. Characters in stories often face challenges similar to their own, which can provide a healthy model for how to cope. Try Feeling All My Fear for kids ages 3-6, Anxious Axolotl, for kids 8 and under and Outsmarting Worry for ages 9-13.
Gradual Exposure
Gently expose kids to the things they fear in a controlled, supportive manner. By gradually facing their fears step-by-step, they build confidence and learn that they can handle difficult situations. Letting kids "get out of" doing things that cause anxiety actually backfires and reinforces the anxiety. While it may offer relief in the moment, it increases it for the long haul. For kids with phobias, try What to Do When Fear Interferes for ages 7-11.

These methods can help children feel empowered and better equipped to manage their fears over time.

Find all of our resources to help with anxiety, fear and stress by going HERE.

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The Unique Needs of Grieving Teens

2025-03-15T16:41:00.007-04:00

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The Unique Needs of Grieving Teens

Grief, often described as a storm of emotions, is a complex journey for anyone. For teenagers, however, the process can be particularly challenging as they navigate the intersection of grief and their critical developmental stage. Adolescence is already a time of immense change—emotionally, physically, and socially. Adding the weight of loss can make this phase feel even more overwhelming.

Emotional Turbulence

Teenagers are in the midst of developing their emotional regulation skills. Grief introduces intense emotions such as sadness, anger, guilt, and even relief—all of which can be difficult to process. Teens might struggle to articulate these feelings, leading to mood swings, withdrawal, or unexpected outbursts. Some may even try to suppress their grief to fit in with peers, further complicating their emotional health.

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Identity and Independence

Adolescence is a critical period for exploring identity and seeking independence. The loss of a loved one can disrupt this exploration, leaving teens feeling unanchored. They might question their beliefs, values, and even their sense of self. In some cases, grief can foster a premature sense of responsibility, where teens feel the need to fill gaps left by the deceased, potentially stalling their own development.

Peer Pressure and Isolation

Teens are naturally inclined to seek validation and support from their peers. However, grieving teens often find it hard to connect with friends who may not understand their experience. This sense of isolation can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and detachment. On the flip side, teens may also experience pressure to conform to their peer group's behavior, leading them to hide or downplay their grief.

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Academic and Cognitive Struggles

Grief can affect cognitive functions such as memory, concentration, and decision-making. For teenagers, this might translate into declining academic performance, missed deadlines, or struggles to stay engaged in school. The pressure to meet expectations during this time can intensify their stress and anxiety.

Coping Mechanisms: Positive and Negative

Teens may experiment with various coping mechanisms, not all of which are healthy. While some might channel their grief into art, sports, or community activities, others may turn to risky behaviors like substance use or self-harm as an escape. Understanding and guiding their coping strategies is crucial to ensuring their well-being.

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Support Systems Matter

The role of family, friends, and community cannot be overstated. Open communication, empathy, and professional counseling can make a world of difference in helping teens navigate their grief. Schools and community programs can also provide safe spaces for teens to express themselves and connect with others who understand their journey.

A Multifaceted Challenge

Grieving as a teenager is a multifaceted challenge, but it also presents opportunities for growth and resilience. With the right support and understanding, teens can learn to navigate their emotions, find meaning in their experiences, and emerge stronger on the other side of their grief. If you know a grieving teen, let them know they're not alone—and that it's okay to ask for help.

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Grief Relief Workbook for Teens

2025-03-15T16:16:00.007-04:00

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Navigating Grief: A Workbook for Kids and Teens

Grief is a complex and often overwhelming experience, especially for children and teenagers. Understanding and processing loss can be challenging at any age, but for young people, it can be particularly confusing and isolating. That's why a specialized grief workbook designed for kids and teens can be an invaluable resource. The Grief Relief Workbook for Teens has been designed specifically with teens in mind.

For our blog post on how teen grief is unique, go HERE!

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Addressing Tough Questions

One of the most daunting aspects of grief for young people is the myriad of tough questions that arise. "Why did this happen?" "Will I ever feel normal again?" "Is it okay to be angry?" A well-crafted grief workbook provides a safe space for kids and teens to explore these questions. Through guided exercises, reflective prompts, and age-appropriate explorations, the workbook helps them make sense of their emotions and the events that have transpired.

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Exploring Difficult Feelings

Grief brings a whirlwind of emotions—sadness, anger, confusion, guilt, and even relief. For children and teens, these feelings can be particularly intense and bewildering. The workbook offers various activities such as journaling, drawing, and storytelling to help them express and process these emotions. By engaging in these activities, young people can begin to understand that their feelings are valid and that it's okay to experience a wide range of emotions during the grieving process.

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Honoring Developmental Stages

It's crucial to recognize that teens are at a specific developmental stage, and their understanding of grief will vary accordingly. Our thoughtfully designed grief workbook takes this into account, offering tailored content that resonates with this population. For teens, it involves more complex reflections and opportunities for deeper self-exploration.

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Conclusion

Our grief Grief Relief Workbook for Teens is more than just a collection of activities—it's a compassionate guide that supports young people through one of life's most challenging experiences. By addressing tough questions, exploring difficult feelings, and honoring their developmental stages, the workbook empowers children and teens to navigate their grief journey with resilience and hope.

What's more, our workbook is teen-approved. It's been developed through the years following our clinical work which has helped thousands of teens. It also has been tweaked and improved upon with input and ideas from teens themselves.

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Positivity Potion: A Craftivity that Enhances Self-Esteem and Improves Mood

2024-10-24T20:24:00.007-04:00

Helping Kids Think Positively

Thinking positively can rewire kids' brains in a powerful way. We've known it for years. However, telling kids this is one thing and actually drilling down and helping them identify meaningful, positive thoughts that will work for them is quite another.

When kids focus on positive thoughts and outcomes, they can develop a stronger ability to cope with stress and setbacks. This mindset helps build resilience, making them more likely to bounce back from challenges. Positive thinking can also enhance their self-esteem, improve their mood, and foster a more optimistic outlook on life.

Give Mental Health a Protective Boost

It's like giving their mental health a protective boost. Plus, it can improve their social interactions, as kids who think positively tend to attract more friends and support. So, it's not just about feeling good; it's about building a foundation for a healthier, happier life.

Building in Positivity

Leading kids through a focused activity on positive thinking can assist them in having a handy reference during challenging times. We've made it easy by pulling together four different spins on one easy-to-implement activity!

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Loving Your Spirited Child Through the Storm

2024-04-21T12:21:00.008-04:00

Parenting a child with strong reactions and big feelings is akin to sailing through tempests. The winds of defiance, the waves of unpredictability, and the lightning strikes of tantrums can leave even the most seasoned parents feeling shipwrecked.

Ahoy, matey! I know it firsthand! Fear not, these tough moments do not last forever, even though they feel as if they will!

In this article, we’ll hoist our metaphorical sails and explore how to navigate these tempests with creativity, resilience, and a dash of humor.

1. The Art of Weathering the Storm

The Unpredictable Forecast

Your child’s moods can change faster than a summer squall. One moment, they’re a sunbeam; the next, a thundercloud. Embrace the unpredictability. After all, life would be dull without a few lightning bolts.

The Captain’s Log

Keep a journal—a chronicle of your parenting adventures. Document the highs (that time they built a Lego castle) and the lows (the epic broccoli battle). Years later, you’ll look with nostalgia at the scribbled notes: “Day 37: Negotiated bedtime peace treaty.”

2. Crafting Your Life Raft

The SOS Signal

When the tantrum tsunami hits, send out an SOS (Soothing Our Souls).

Sing silly songs, blow bubbles, or dance like nobody’s watching. Creativity is your life raft; cling to it.

And guess what?

Singing, blowing bubbles for your child to pop and dancing...all of these things help regulate nervous systems!

That is HUGE!

Music always seems to soothe the savage beast, as well.

The Compass of Empathy

Remember, your child’s storms are their way of communicating. Decode their Emotional Morse Code.

“I hate broccoli” might mean “I had a really tough day,” or "Nobody played with me at recess." Respond with empathy, not a life jacket lecture.

Your child is counting on you to bouy them up. You are a lighthouse in the dense fog. You'll light the way back calm for your child.

3. Treasure Hunts and Hidden Islands

X Marks the Spot

Create treasure hunts around the house. Clues lead to chocolate coins or bedtime stories. Your child’s eyes will sparkle like pirate doubloons. Bonus: It tires them out for smoother sailing.

Time spent with your child in focused fun is an investment in better self-regulation and behavior for your child.

The Isle of Imagination

Visit the Isle of Imagination. Build forts, invent secret languages, and explore magical lands. Your child’s creativity is the compass guiding you through uncharted waters.

4. Navigating the Bermuda Triangle

The Siren Song of Screen Time

Beware the digital sirens! Limit screen-time; otherwise, your child might vanish into the Bermuda Triangle of YouTube videos. Instead, set sail for real adventures—leaf piles, bug hunts, and cloud gazing.

The Lighthouse of Laughter

When the waves get rough, steer toward laughter.

Here's the caveat...allow your child to have their big feelings without distracting them from them. And keep in mind that silly jokes, tickle storms, and goofy faces can offer just the right amount of levity when dosed out appropriately. Remember, a child’s laughter is the brightest lighthouse.

BONUS: Laughter is one of the greatest stress reducers at our fingertips! Laughter builds connection. Used at appropriate times, it can be a game-changer!

5. Anchoring in Love

The Harbor of Acceptance

Drop anchor in the harbor of acceptance. Your child isn’t a problem to solve; they’re a person to understand. Love them fiercely, even when their sails are tattered. Even more so in those moments when they are highly vulnerable and highly emotional.

The Constellation of Hope

Look up.

See those stars?

Each one represents a moment of resilience, a hug after a storm, a whispered “I love you.” Those constellations guide you home and back to love.

So, fellow storm-tamer, embrace the chaos. Your spirited child is a tempest of potential, a hurricane of heart. And as you weather the gales together, know this:

You’re not just parenting; you’re captaining a magnificent voyage.

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The Notice and Know Technique for Parenting

2024-03-21T23:43:00.004-04:00

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The Notice and Know Technique

The other day, I was thinking about the challenges inherent in raising intense children...and I know full well all that it can entail.

I came up with an easy two-step process to keep ourselves grounded and self-regulated, first, so we can have a better chance to help our kids do the same!

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Step One: Notice

Step One: We need to notice how we are feeling. It's helpful to take stock of what our own nervous systems are are doing...and the first line of defense is always to calm ourselves first!

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Step Two: Know

Step Two: Know that our children are not out to get us...they are out to get our help!

That's it.

These are the first steps towards helping our children get back to calm. It all starts with us.

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Fun with Feelings: A Workbook

2024-03-14T19:20:00.002-04:00

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Fun with Feelings and Changing Times

A lot has changed in the past 11 years: research, information and technology, as just a few small examples. One other small change has been my ability to create graphics...thanks, in big part, to technology and software changes!

Take for example this one little workbook...one of our first digital downloads!

It hit the presses looking like this...and over 53K people engaged with it!

I remember creating this resource as if it were yesterday. It was good for the times...but times have changes...and we've given it a facelift!

While the cover was cute enough, and I could even see it working in today's market (and indeed, it has...people have purchased it as recently as a few days ago)...the inside was improved and modernized beyond recognition.

A Whole New Look

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Ch-ch-ch-changes

It's the same as the original version in content...but just a bit different aesthetically!

The new changes are keeping in line with more modern design principles and aesthetics, but the content inside remains the same. And this resource has helped parents, educators and clinicians help kids hundreds of thousands of kids for over a decade.

To sweeten the deal, the resource remains at the same price it debuted at...just $1.99. Less than half the cost of a daily coffee can still help countless kids begin to think about basic feelings and what to do about them.

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Supporting Emotions for Challenging Children

2024-03-10T22:11:00.001-04:00

Challenging Children

All children can exhibit challenging behavior, but some children present with more intense emotions, more often than others. It can take more parental energy and more time to support children who enjoy these more intense temperaments. But every effort put forth pays dividends in success for your child!

Emotion Coaching Helps

Emotion coaching is a powerful approach that helps children recognize and manage their emotions effectively. All children benefit from this kind of support, and challenging children absolutely need us to double down on our efforts towards this end.

Let's delve into why it's crucial:

Emotional Awareness

Emotion coaching supports children in recognizing and labeling their feelings. By understanding their emotions, kids can navigate them more skillfully and express themselves appropriately.

Coping Strategies

It involves teaching children practical coping strategies to handle both positive and negative emotions. These tools contribute to better self-esteem and emotional regulation.

Resilience Building

When parents coach their children about emotions, it fosters resilience. Kids learn that emotions are normal and manageable, which helps them bounce back from challenges.

Problem-Solving Skills

Emotion coaching enhances problem-solving abilities. Children become adept at finding solutions to emotional dilemmas, leading to better decision-making overall.

Confidence and Self-Esteem

By feeling understood and supported, children gain confidence. This emotional foundation positively impacts their self-esteem and interactions with others.

Academic Success

Emotionally aware children often perform better academically. Their ability to manage stress and focus on learning improves.

Social Skills

Emotion coaching contributes to better social skills. Kids learn empathy, effective communication, and how to build healthy relationships.

An Emotional Toolkit

In essence, emotion coaching is like providing children with an emotional toolkit—a gift that empowers them throughout their lives. If emotions were something that were never discussed in your home while growing up, if you have a hard time knowing what to say or how to say it...we've listed a few of our posts below that may help!

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Resources to Help You Help Your Kids with Emotions

Helping Little People Handle BIG Emotions

7 Skillful Ways to Help Kids Handle Intense Feelings

Everybody Calm Down: Stress Management for the Entire Family

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5 Ways Calm Parents Help Their Kids

2024-03-06T17:37:00.005-05:00

Have It to Teach It: Self-Regulation Skills

Self-regulation is a critical skill for both children and adults. As parents, our ability to manage our emotions, reactions, and behaviors significantly impacts our ability to teach our children to do the same, and ultimately it impacts the trajectory of our children’s development.

Five Ways Calm Parents Help Their Kids

Let’s explore why parents need self-regulation skills and how they can, in turn, positively influence their children to develop the same:

1. Modeling Behavior

Children are keen observers. They learn by watching their parents navigate life’s challenges. When parents demonstrate self-regulation—remaining calm during stress, handling frustration, and making thoughtful decisions—they provide a powerful example.

Here’s how modeling behavior benefits children:

Emotional Intelligence: Children learn to recognize and manage their emotions effectively. They witness healthy coping mechanisms and learn to express themselves constructively.

2. Creating a Supportive Environment

A stable and nurturing environment is essential for a child’s emotional well-being. When parents practice self-regulation, they:

Provide Security: A calm parent helps a child feel safe. Children learn that emotions can be managed, which reduces anxiety and promotes trust.

3. Teaching Coping Strategies

Parents equipped with self-regulation skills can teach their children practical coping strategies:

Deep Breathing: Teach kids to take deep breaths during stressful moments. This simple technique helps regulate emotions and promotes relaxation. Practice these skills when everyone is calm, so they are easier to access during stressful times.

4. Enhancing Parent-Child Interactions

Effective communication is vital for parent-child relationships. Self-regulated parents:

Listen Actively: Attentive listening validates a child’s feelings. It encourages open communication and empathy.

5. Promoting Emotional Well-Being

Parents who prioritize self-regulation benefit themselves and their children:

Resilience: Managing stress and emotions contributes to a parent’s mental health, and in turn, the mental health of their children.

Struggling with Your Own Reactivity?

Struggling to support your child due to your own reactivity? We are all human, and it can be tough when we get stuck in our own emotional brains.

Here are a few of my fave books to help parents better help their children:

Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach

Raising Your Spirited Child

Bloom: 50 Things to Say, Think and Do with Anxious, Angry and Over-the-Top Kids (Full disclosure...I co-authored this book, so it's clearly an approach I embrace!)

The Conscious Parent

Resources to Help Your Kids with Self-Regulation

Need a Quick and Helpful Resource

for BIG Emotions?

For ages 7 and Up,

and Younger Kids, with Guidance!

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The way we support our children daily makes a significant difference in their overall ability to manage BIG emotions. The resource above makes easy work of helping kids identify ways to calm down and improve their overall self-regulation. It's a helpful resource for kids ages 7+.

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For Early Childhood

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If you are parenting or teaching younger children with intense emotions, you'll definitely want to check out one of our all-time best selling resources, Ice Cream Cones and Frozen Pops.

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Emotional Intensity in Gifted Children

2024-03-04T00:26:00.009-05:00

Emotional Intensity in Gifted Children: Nurturing Their Inner Worlds

More than a High IQ

If you are parenting a gifted child, you may have already noticed that giftedness isn’t solely about intellectual prowess; it encompasses an emotional dimension as well. Just as gifted children’s thinking is more complex and profound, their emotions follow suit.

And that's not always easy...for the child...or the parents.

We know that gifted children have complex emotions, that intellect and emotion are inextricably linked and that parents are tasked with nurturing their child's emotions and inner worlds.

The Demands of Parenting Gifted Children

In comparison to parents of average-ability children, parents of gifted children typically recognize the extra demands of their parenting journey. They face increased parenting challenges that require them to develop strategies that guide and support their child’s exceptional needs [1]. This increased burden of responsibility can and often does exacerbate stress in parents of gifted children, compared with other parents [2].

Add to this the fact that many educational systems are not prepared to meet the complex academic and social-emotional needs of gifted children, and that these are typically left unaddressed [3]. Invariably, the parents of many gifted children tend to take a highly active stance in making educational decisions such as school placement and are closely involved in the psychosocial adjustment of their children [4].

Let’s delve into the intricacies of emotional intensity in these exceptional individuals.

1. The Complexity of Gifted Emotions

Emotional Depth: Gifted children experience a vast range of emotions simultaneously. Their emotional palette is vivid, absorbing, and commanding. It’s not merely about feeling more; it’s about experiencing the world in a quiveringly alive manner. Let that thought marinate for a moment. Gifted kids simply experience their emotions in a much more intense way.

Expressing Intensity: Emotional intensity manifests in various ways:

Positive and Negative Feelings: Gifted children feel joy and sorrow intensely. When they are happy it's like they shout it from the rooftops and when they are sad...they can bellow from the depths of their souls.
Complex Emotions: They might swiftly transition from one emotion to another. This can look and feel exhausting.
Identification with Others: Empathy runs deep; they may feel others’ emotions keenly. They can be moved to tears watching the suffering of others, both in media and in real life.
Bodily Symptoms: Tense stomachs, sinking hearts, blushing—emotions resonate physically for gifted kids. They can feel their feelings with their whole body!

No wonder gifted kids can look (and feel) so dysregulated.

2. The Link Between Emotions and Intellect

Fuel for Passion: Emotional intensity fuels their zest for life, passion for learning, and drive to express their talents.

Intellect and Emotion: These two facets are inseparable. Together, they shape gifted individuals profoundly. Giftedness isn't solely about IQ; it's about the fusion of intellect and emotions, creating a vibrant inner world where brilliance and sensitivity co-exist.

3. Nurturing Your Emotionally Intense, Gifted Child

Acceptance: The most crucial step is to accept their emotions. Gifted children need to feel understood and supported. Telling them to "calm down" or just "relax" or to "stop overreacting" invalidates their experience and is not helpful.

Self-Awareness: Encourage them to use their intellect to develop self-awareness and self-acceptance.

Empathy: A little empathy and support for intense feelings goes a long way. Need more help with this? Dr. Lynne Kenney and I put our heart and soul into this book to help all parents and early childhood educators support the emotional world of their children, gifted or not: BLOOM: 50 Things to Say, Think and Do with Anxious, Angry and the Over-the-Top Kids. It can be an invaluable resource!

Conclusion

The emotional lives of gifted children places more demands on parents, due to asynchronous development, increased emotional sensitivity, and a tendency toward negative perfectionism. Attuned parents see the need to respond appropriately to the inner experiences of their child.

Emotional intensity in gifted children isn’t a flaw; it’s a testament to their rich inner lives. As parents and educators, let’s embrace their intensity, nurture their emotional well-being, and celebrate their vibrant existence.

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1. Jolly J.L., Treffinger D.J., Inman T.F., Smutny J.F. Parenting Gifted Children. Prufrock Press; Waco, TX, USA: 2011. [Google Scholar]

2. Renati R., Bonfiglio N.S., Pfeiffer S. Challenges raising a gifted child: Stress and resilience factors within the family. Gift. Educ. Int. 2017;33:145–162. doi: 10.1177/0261429416650948. [CrossRef] [Google Scholar]

3. Tomlinson C.A. Grading and differentiation: Paradox or good practice? Theory Pract. 2005;44:262–269. doi: 10.1207/s15430421tip4403_11. [CrossRef] [Google Scholar]

4. Webb J.T., DeVries A.R. Gifted Parent Group: The SENG Model. 2nd ed. Great Potential Press; Scottsdale, AZ, USA: 2007. [Google Scholar]

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Keep Calm: Fun with Self-Regulation

2024-03-04T00:26:00.008-05:00

Teaching children self-regulation skills is the first step towards giving them the ability to manage BIG feelings and feel a sense of control over their emotions.

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The Rumor Mill: How to Avoid Gossip and Help Your Teens Do the Same

2024-02-28T14:22:00.009-05:00

Part III of a three-part series!

Part I can be found here.

Part II can be found here.

How to Avoid Gossip

Trying to avoid getting swept away by the gusty winds of gossip? Good for you! Way to model healthy behavior for your tweens and teens.

I'd like to say that nixing gossip is as simple as just saying "Hard pass," but I believe it's a bit more nuanced than that! So let's get to it! Here are a few time-tested ways to do so:

1. Sort the Wheat from the Chaff:

o Not all gossip is created equal. Some is as harmless as a butterfly’s whisper; other times, it’s a venomous serpent. Discern between the two.

o Harmless gossip: “Did you hear about Susan’s new cat? She always dresses him in bowties!

o Toxic gossip: “Sally from the main office is cheating on her husband.” (Even if true, people don’t need to know that.)

2. Question Your Intentions:

o Ask yourself: Why do I want to share this tidbit? Is it necessary? Does it serve a purpose? Would I say it to their face? (That is one of my favorite questions on the litmus test of gossip! If I wouldn't share it if they aren't in the room, it's best to keep it to myself!)

o If your motivation is to feel superior or boost your status, pause. Reflect. Maybe knit a tiny gossip-deterring scarf. ;)

3. Withdraw Attention:

o Gossipers thrive on an audience. When someone spills the tea, don’t sip it. Change the subject or pretend you’re suddenly fascinated by the wallpaper pattern.

o Remember, silence is your superpower.

4. Shift Your Thoughts:

o After a limited venting session (we all need one), redirect your mental GPS. Think of rainbows, unicorns, or the mysteries of quantum physics.

o The brain, like a fickle cat, can be lured away from gossip with shiny distractions.

5. Empathy, My Dear Watson:

o Imagine your life as an open book. Would you want others dissecting your chapters? Probably not.

o Put yourself in their shoes. Would you appreciate being the subject of whispered tales? Unlikely.

6. Avoid Gossip Triggers:

o Certain situations are gossip breeding grounds. Office water coolers, family gatherings, and social media comment sections—danger zones!

o When the gossip winds blow, seek shelter elsewhere. Perhaps under a cozy blanket with a good book?

Real Help for Teens and Gossip

1. Avoiding Gossip

Choose Wisely: Remind your teen that not every story is theirs to tell. Encourage them to be selective about whom they share things with.
Golden Rule: Treat others as you’d like to be treated. Confidential options, like talking to parents, siblings, or trusted friends, can help relieve tension around secrets.
Healthy Boundaries: Teach your teen that sometimes staying out of the spotlight is the best strategy.

2. Stopping the Cycle

Be Part of the Solution: If your teen witnesses gossip, they can choose not to spread it further. They hold the power to break the cycle.
Keep Secrets: When someone shares information, teens can decide whether they’re comfortable keeping it to themselves.
Let Go: If gossip targets them, encourage your teen to rise above revenge and focus on moving forward.

Remember, dear seeker of kindness, gossip isn’t just idle chatter; it’s a dance with shadows. So, step lightly, guard your words, and let kindness be your compass.

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The Rumor Mill: The Negative Effects of Gossip on Teens

2024-02-27T21:26:00.007-05:00

Part II of a three-part series!

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Part III can be found here.

The Detrimental Effects of Gossip on Teenagers

Gossip, while often viewed as a harmless aspect of teenage social interactions, can have significant negative impacts, particularly on teenagers. This article explores these impacts, drawing on various research-based articles on the topic:

Emotional Well-being: Gossip and rumors can destroy a teenager's self-confidence and affect their self-esteem.24 It can lead to depression, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders, anxiety, and a host of other issues.234

Social Relationships: Gossip can alienate friends, ruin reputations, and even lead to ostracizing behavior and other forms of relational aggression.2 This can be particularly damaging during the teenage years, a critical period for social development and identity formation.2

Empathy: Studies have linked gossip to lower empathy, especially in women, as those who engage in gossip tend to focus on others' flaws rather than strengths.3 This can be especially damaging for teenagers who are still developing their sense of self.3

Cyberbullying: With the advent of social media, gossip has taken on a new dimension. Cyberbullying, which often involves the spread of rumors and gossip online, can have severe consequences for teenagers, including emotional distress and even suicide.2

In conclusion, while gossip may seem like a normal part of teenage life, its negative impacts are far-reaching and significant. It's crucial for parents, educators, and teenagers themselves to understand these impacts and strive to foster a positive and respectful social environment.

Source(s)

1. Understanding the Impact of Rumors and Gossip - Verywell Family

2. GoodTherapy | Gossip

3. How To Talk About Gossip To Teenagers: Strategies to Reduce ... - Medium

4. Can't stand gossip? New research suggests that gabbing about others is ...

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The Rumor Mill: Why We Gossip

2024-02-26T00:22:00.011-05:00

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The Rumor Mill: Why We Gossip

Gossip, that age-old pastime, dances through our conversations like a mischievous sprite. Words roll off our tongues with little concern as to how it may impact others (or perhaps it's intentional, at times).

Rumors and gossip are not just limited to the middle school cafeteria, as it cuts a wide swath through all social sectors and can run rampant in certain circles. From the classroom to the boardroom to the employee lounge and beyond, gossip and rumors are not something people seem to outgrow. It's an interesting dynamic, to be sure. Start here for our three-part series on gossip.

Why does it happen, you ask? Let’s dissect the reason behind the whispers, secrets and silent shuns, okay? Okay!

Here we go...

1. The Thrill of Power:

o Gossiping gives us a peculiar sense of control. As we put someone else’s life, under a microscope, we momentarily escape our own troubles. It’s like wielding a tiny scepter over the kingdom of chatter.

o Imagine this: You’re sipping your coffee, and across the room, two colleagues murmur about another colleague's latest blunder. Suddenly, you’re part of an exclusive club - the "We Know Stuff" club. It can be intoxicating.

2. Misery Loves Company:

o When we hear tales of others’ misfortunes, our brains light up like a Times Square billboard. It’s not schadenfreude (okay, maybe a little). Instead, it’s our way of saying, “Hey, at least I’m not the only one stumbling through life.”

3. Bonding Over Bashing:

o Shared dislikes forge stronger bonds than shared positives. Two strangers become fast friends when they dissect the third person’s quirks. It’s like saying, “Our disdain for pineapple pizza unites us!”

o So, gossip becomes our secret handshake, our code language. “Did you hear about Lilly’s parking skills?” we whisper, and suddenly, we’re allies.

4. The Brain’s Curious Dance:

o Neuroscientists peeked into our gray matter. When we hear gossip—whether good or bad—our prefrontal cortex does a little jig. This region helps us navigate social complexities.

o It’s like our brain saying, “Ah, juicy tidbits! Let’s analyze, judge, and maybe giggle a bit.”

5. The Social Media Circus:

o Social platforms are gossip’s grand stage. Anonymously, we fling digital mud at distant acquaintances. The negative info spreads like wildfire, leaving a trail of virtual chaos.

o Remember, though: What’s posted online stays online. Forever. So, tread carefully, my friend.

In the grand theater of life, gossip plays its role—a mix of comedy, drama, and intrigue. So, next time you lean in for a whispered secret, remember: You’re not just gossiping; you’re weaving the threads of human connection, but tread lightly...and filter your words in a manner that uplifts others, rather than denigrates them.

Stay tuned: We'll be covering the toxic side of gossip in Part II of our series!

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The Rumor Mill: A Resource on Gossip for Tweens and Teens

2024-02-25T23:51:00.019-05:00

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The Impact of Gossip on Teenagers

Gossip—those whispered conversations, secret-sharing, and rumors—can significantly affect teenagers’ lives. While it might seem harmless or even entertaining, gossip can have serious consequences for both the gossiper and the subject of the gossip. Here, we explore why gossip is an issue for teenagers and how they can navigate it.

Why Does Gossip Happen?

Social Bonding: Gossip serves as a form of social grooming. It helps teens make sense of new information and allows them to feel “in-the-know” as they build connections with others. However, this bonding comes at a cost: trust can be lost, and feelings can be hurt.

Counterproductive Relationships: Ironically, gossip often undermines its purpose of building relationships. It can lead to broken trust and strained friendships.

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The Harmful Effects of Gossip on Teens:

Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem: Being the subject of gossip can destroy a teenager’s self-confidence and negatively impact their self-esteem. It’s essential to recognize that words have power.

Mental Health: Gossip can contribute to depression, anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts. The weight of rumors can be overwhelming for vulnerable teens.

Eating Disorders: The stress caused by gossip can trigger unhealthy coping mechanisms, including eating disorders.

Reputations and Relationships: Gossip can alienate friends, ruin reputations, and lead to relational aggression. Teens may find themselves ostracized due to rumors.

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How Teens Can Deal with Gossip:

Avoiding Gossip:

Encourage your teen to be cautious about sharing private information.

Remind them that sometimes a story is not theirs to tell.

Teach them the golden rule: treat others as they would want to be treated.

Suggest confidential options like talking to parents, siblings, or trusted school staff.

Stopping Gossip:

If your teen witnesses gossip, they can choose not to spread it further

Encourage them to decline information they’re uncomfortable with.

Help them move on rather than seeking revenge if they’ve been the target of gossip.

Promoting Anti-Bullying Efforts:

Teens can start or join clubs that condemn gossip, creating a positive peer influence.

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Why Limiting Screen Time Matters

2024-02-20T20:15:00.003-05:00

Screen Time: How Much is Too Much?

It used to be that the American Academy of Pediatrics discouraged any screen time for children under the age of 2 and encouraged 2 hours or less of screen time for children over age two. These guidelines have been updated and relaxed, considering several different factors. You can read the updated guidelines here, along with finding several links that explore digital citizenship and family agreements about online activities.

Still, there are good reasons to limit screen time and encourage other activities. Some of these reasons are outlined below.

Limiting screen time can benefit children in several ways:

Physical Health: Excessive screen time is associated with a sedentary lifestyle, which can lead to obesity and other health issues. Limiting screen time encourages physical activity and reduces the risk of health problems.

Mental Health: Research suggests that excessive screen time, especially on social media, can contribute to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues in children. Limiting screen time can help protect against these negative effects.

Sleep: Screens emit blue light, which can disrupt the production of melatonin, a hormone that regulates sleep. Limiting screen time before bedtime can improve sleep quality and duration.

Social Skills: Spending too much time on screens can reduce face-to-face interactions, which are crucial for developing social skills and emotional intelligence. Limiting screen time encourages children to engage in real-world interactions.

Academic Performance: Excessive screen time has been linked to poorer academic performance. Limiting screen time can free up time for homework, reading, and other activities that support learning.

Behavioral Issues: Some studies suggest that excessive screen time may be linked to behavioral issues such as aggression, impulsivity, and attention problems. Limiting screen time can help reduce these behaviors.

Overall, limiting screen time can help children develop healthier habits, improve their physical and mental well-being, and support their overall development and academic success.

Need an extra resource to help get a family media plan together? Check this article out from the American Academy of Pediatrics for more support!

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Hope in Difficult Times

2024-02-19T13:12:00.009-05:00

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What are we without hope?

Helping kids cultivate hope in challenging and difficult times helps build resilience. It allows them to learn that even though times may be tough, they won't stay as such forever.

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This two-page resource gives directions for how to foster communication about troubled times, with the notion that hope is within reach. It gives the belief in better tomorrows. We could all use a little bit of that.

This addition to our family of resources provides all the directions you need to help kids learn to deal with difficult times, while keeping their eye on future improvements.

It's an indispensable resource to add to your toolbox, whether you are a parent, an educator, a therapist/counselor, coach, scout leader or daycare provider.

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Parenting Hacks for Helping Kids Deal with Emotions

2024-02-16T22:21:00.009-05:00

Dealing with Emotions: An Important Life Skill

Helping children express their feelings is essential for their emotional wellness across the lifespan. If you were raised in a family that talked about feelings as a matter of course, this probably already comes naturally to you. If feelings were squelched or minimized in the family in which you grew up, it may seem foreign and a bit uncomfortable.

However, we know that talking about feelings is an important skill because it:

👉Enhances communication

👉Builds trust in relationships

👉Promotes self-awareness

👉Helps in resolving conflicts effectively

Understanding emotions in ourselves and others, and being able to express and process them can lead to:

👉Better understanding

👉Increased empathy and emotional connection with others

👉Healthier and more fulfilling relationships

👉Enhanced personal growth

👉Increased emotional intelligence

👉Improved overall well-being.

The research is clear, which makes it a good idea for us to redouble our efforts to work on identifying and processing feelings with our kids. BONUS: Our efforts in this helps strengthen our relationship with our kids. They come to learn that they can rely on us for our help in managing difficult times, which means they ultimately can learn to trust themselves and have confidence in managing whatever life throws their way.

Here are some strategies to help children open up about their emotions:

1. Create a safe and supportive environment.

Make sure your kids feel comfortable sharing their feelings without fear of judgment. Make all feelings okay! We've a vast collection of supportive posts to help you do just that.

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And a perennial favorite: What to Do When Your Kids Scream and Yell

2. Be a good listener.

Show empathy by acknowledging their emotions and validating their experiences.

Get some ideas here: 7 Ways to Communicate Better with Your Family

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3. Teach children about different emotions.

Help them identify and label what they are feeling. This Feelings Finder can help!

Here's a way to help kids communicate about feelings when they are hesitant to talk about emotions!

Do you have a super intense kid? Here are some ways to help yourself calm down so you can better help your child...you know...like when a kid says, "You are NOT the Boss of Me!"

4. Encourage open communication. Ask open-ended questions and engage in meaningful conversations about their feelings.

Don't try to minimize or talk kids out of their feelings!

Here a two part series on this topic alone: Part I and Part II.

5. Lead by example. Express your own emotions openly and demonstrate healthy ways to cope with feelings.

Need some ideas on how to help kids learn to cope with BIG feelings? This post gives many ideas!

If you have an intense or overly emotional child, you'll be working harder than most. I see you. Your work is not done in vain. This article is especially for you: The Making of a Mother.

All of your efforts towards helping your child develop social-emotional skills matter.

They really do make a difference.

Keep at it.

We're all in this together. 💓

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10 Ways Parents Can Foster Confidence and Optimal Mental Health

2024-02-15T16:48:00.005-05:00

Raising Confident Kids

Raising kids who are confident, feel good about themselves and enjoy good mental health is a goal of most parents. In some cases, our job as parents can go off without a hitch. In other cases, we have to work 100 times harder for lesser results. No matter how hard we are working as parents, it is always worth it.

Lucky for us, there are a number of ways we can prioritize and promote confidence and mental wellness in our kids.

Following are 10 Ways Parents Can Help Foster Optimal Mental Health

1. Encourage positive self-talk and praise efforts.
2. Teach problem-solving skills to tackle challenges.
3. Practice mindfulness and relaxation techniques together.
4. Offer emotional support and validate their feelings.
5. Help them reframe negative thoughts into more positive perspectives.
6. Create a supportive environment where open communication is encouraged, allowing them to express their thoughts and feelings without judgment.
7. Celebrate small victories and milestones to boost their confidence and motivation.
8. Foster a sense of resilience by teaching them how to bounce back from setbacks and learn from failures.
9. Encourage them to set realistic goals and break them down into manageable steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
10. Remind them that it's okay to ask for help when needed and that seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

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A Healthy Mix

While I'd like to suggest you pick one idea a week on which to laser focus (and you can totally do this, if you wish), I know the daily grind requires that we move seamlessly between strategies. Flexibility in all things, and there is nothing else quite like parenting that requires it more!

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Alligator Chomp: Cognitive Behavioral Strategies for Littles

2024-02-11T14:27:00.005-05:00

Cognitive Behavioral Strategies for Littles

Take a chomp out of negative thinking as early as the preschool years...and do it in a fun way! Give kids a great start at learning how to balance their thinking. It's a gift that will last a lifetime.

I've been honored to have a front row seat in the lives of countless children and families, and work beside them as they learned new ways to navigate the little and not so little upsets in life. Being able to balance our thoughts, and hence, our feelings (no matter our age) is a huge boon to our well-being!

What Parents and Educators Can Do to Help

Providing empathy to kids is a critical first piece,

"That had to be so upsetting!"

"That was really hard for you."

"That felt really disappointing."

"It hardly seemed fair, the way you were treated."

If that feels a bit foreign, be sure to check out BLOOM to learn strategies and the actual words to say when kids are dealing with big emotional upsets.

Now, It's Time to Strategize

Once we empathize, it's time to provide some strategies that help reduce the emotional fallout. It's one of the reasons so many resources I share get to the heart of the matter on helping kids change their thinking.

Cognitive behavioral strategies can help young kids by teaching them how to:

1. Identify and change negative thought patterns.
2. Manage emotions effectively.
3. Develop problem-solving skills.

Help Kids Say "Later Gator" to Negative Thinking

By using techniques such as cognitive restructuring and thought replacement, children can learn to cope with stress, anxiety, and other challenges in a constructive way. These strategies empower kids to build resilience, improve self-esteem, and enhance overall well-being as they navigate through their formative years.

Through consistent guidance and encouragement, young kids can build a strong foundation for lifelong mental wellness and success.

Our newest resource has been field-tested for two years and is a play-based way to incorporate CBT skill-building into therapy. It doesn't stop there...because CBT skills benefit anyone with a brain...from the preschool years and throughout the lifespan!

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What's Included:

🌴Full color printable to create the Alligator Chomp pocket holder.

🌴A dozen prompts and a blank template to create as many personalized prompts you care to!

🌴Complete directions to assemble and and suggestions for game play.

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Help for Kids When Parents Divorce: Playful Therapy Guide

2023-11-07T16:38:00.006-05:00

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Changes are difficult for everyone, but can be even more challenging for children, who may lack coping skills to meet the demands that BIG feelings require. When parents divorce, myriad issues impact the children, and through the decades, I have found that parents are always concerned about how their children will cope, adjust and respond to the big changes.

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Through my 3+ decades of working with children and families, I have seen my fair share of kids trying to adjust and make sense of the changes divorce brings.

I've provide playful therapy all along, using two houses to allow my young charges to work through complex emotions and concerns.

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I was super excited to start using these folding, portable boxes in play therapy...and knew I had to share them with you.

I also put everything I do into a 7 page download that shares the playful activity and how I proceed, as well as 20 conversation prompts and 6 pages of printable activities.

You'll be able to use this in groups or in individual therapy, and it can stretch across several sessions.

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If you work with children experiencing divorce in the family, you'll definitely want to keep this in your rotation of activities!

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Foldable houses used in this activity

are purchased separately,

but you can use the play therapy idea

without the boxes, if you prefer.

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Mom's House, Dad's House: Playful Therapy for Children of Divorce

2023-11-07T16:11:00.005-05:00

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Mom's House/Dad's House

For decades I've done a little activity with children whose parents are going through a divorce, which allows them to process the feelings related to going between two houses, along with the myriad issues that come with this life-changing event.

While in the office, I've often used a set of two dollhouses, each one to signify either mom's or dad's house.

When doing homebased therapy, things get a bit trickier and I transitioned into using small paper lunch bags, inviting children to draw mom's house on one and dad's house on the other. It was a great way to accomplish the same activity, without having to schlep actual dollhouses from place to place.

Because...portability is EVERYTHING when you are on the run!

But wait...hold onto your hats, because I've just found something WAAAAAaaaayyyyy better!

Portable, collapsible, sturdy paper houses that are the things dreams are made of for creative therapists!

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Portable, Foldable Houses to the Rescue

Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine these cutie little, foldable houses (made to deliver delectable treats of all kinds to friends and family) that I could use over and over again with kiddos when playing out their feelings related to their parent's divorce.

The very minute I saw these beauties, I knew just what I would do with them!

Never mind what their intended purpose was (though it's a great purpose in and of itself), I was on a mission to make these beauties go to work in a whole new way!

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Therapist and Kid Approved!

I've been using these little house boxes for almost a year...and I have no intention of stopping anytime soon!

They have worked their magic with countless kids...allowing them to process thoughts, feeling, worries and concerns...as well as triumphs, joys and new hopes and dreams...as they have adjusted to their parent's divorce and the changes it has brought to their lives.

How I Use the Boxes, Plus More Ideas to Help!

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I've pulled together an instant download that explains to you exactly how I use the two-house-method in playful therapy with kids, as well as 20 question prompts and 6 worksheet pages!

You can purchase your guide RIGHT HERE and start using it immediately, or you can read more about it HERE.

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What You Get with the Houses

Here's how the boxes come! You get a set of 20, along with the quality ribbons for tying at the top!

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These are fantastic for being used as intended, for sharing holiday treats. The boxes are sturdy, well-constructed and are embossed so beautifully.

There's nothing flimsy or cheap here!

The Inventor of the Boxes

Pictured above is Karen, the inventor of the house shaped boxes!

The whole reason I even knew these boxes existed is because of my beautiful friend, Karen! I've known her for years online, and when I saw she designed a line of boxes that looked like houses, you know my first thought was, "I'm totally using these in play therapy!" It's only been about year, and I'm finally taking the time to write about it. And share how I use them!

Karen is a baker...and a very skilled one at that. You can find her online on Instagram @karen.t.ology

She shares recipes, tips and tricks. And makes ahhhhh-mazing holiday fare in her kitchen!

Check her out...and definitely check out her very cool boxes!

A Closer Look

Look at how beautiful they are, up close. There's so much attention to detail!

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Here's how these beauties were meant to be used, but I love to think "outside of the box", pun intended!

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You're Going to Love Them

I really think you're going to love these as much as I do!

You can get these lovelies in a set of 20 with bright ribbons or a set of 20 with neutral ribbons.

But don't stop there, because Karen has several different boxes available in the line-up, as well as some limited edition ones that come available during holidays.

How to Use in Play Therapy

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You can use the houses however you'd like in play therapy. You're only limited by your own creativity.

If you'd like to know exactly how I use them, just go HERE to find my instant download guide and worksheets!

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More Resources for Helping Children Cope with Divorce

Find a treasure trove of suggested activities and resources to help children cope with divorce by clicking right here!

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Strawberry Shortcake: Fresh Picked Feelings Game

2023-07-21T15:32:00.003-04:00

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Use your own container to create the product. We give you suggested uses
for the resource that help kids build social-emotional skills.

Sweet Resource for Feelings

It's strawberry season...so let's put a fresh spin on helping kids cope with feelings with a cute little game that is sure to capture their attention and make a sweet impression. When things are memorable, they take root and make recall easier!

That makes kids more likely to use what they've learned! And when it comes to social-emotional skills, we want kids to remember the skill-sets that make life easier, more enjoyable and less stressful!

Plus, using the resource in some of the ways we've suggested incorporates critical thinking, movement and teamwork!

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All Kinds of Feelings

You know we are all about embracing all sorts of feelings and helping kids recognize that no feeling is bad. It really comes down to how we manage our feelings.

This game is a delicious way to help kids savor all the feelings we experience, from sweet to sour and everything in between.

You'll want to save those strawberry clamshells you get when you're shopping for summer produce...and create this fun game! Alternatively, you can use any box or container you have on hand. I think it just looks so cute and realistic when it's in a repurposed strawberry clamshell!

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What You'll Get

The instant download includes a set of 36 feelings, ready to cut out or punch out with a 2.5 inch circle puncher, or scissors, if you prefer. All directions are included for game play, including four ways to use the resource.

Instant Download Product. Nothing will be mailed to you.
Use your own container to create the product. We give you suggested uses
for the resource that help kids build social-emotional skills.

Just $4.00

Things you'll need to create the game:

A copy of the instant download: Strawberry Shortcake

A 2.5 inch circle puncher

Paper for printing...I like to use cardstock for durability

A clean, empty strawberry clamshell (you get one when you purchase strawberries at most grocery stores). You can use whatever container you wish.

Instant Download Product. Nothing will be mailed to you.
Use your own container to create the product. We give you suggested uses
for the resource that help kids build social-emotional skills.

Yes, I Use This in my Office!

The products I use are created for use with my own clients. As the need arises, I create a new product to meet the ever-changing needs of my personal clients...from early elementary through college-aged and even resources to work with whole families.

Below is a picture of this product nestled in a basket with other Kidlutions' products. These products are tested and used before they ever hit the market.

You can find the Coping Cookies game HERE.

The Lettuce Talk About It game will be released soon!

Stay tuned because we a big ole' bunch of new resources heading your way!

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