I know that there's not one day that goes by that I don't worry about my kids. From the moment the pregnancy test turned positive is when it all started! I remember thinking about that baby every second of the day hoping he or she would be o.k. I just wanted to get through the first 12 weeks. Once I was in the clear and I saw that baby move, I breathed a huge sigh of relief. Then of course, I worried about the baby's health. Once it came close to delivery, I worried about the birth. Thankfully, I delivered three healthy babies but that didn't mean I stopped worrying! I know it's only natural to worry about your own child but I have to wonder if it gets easier or harder the older they get.

While I'm convinced that the young years are the hardest mentally and physically, I've asked a few couples with teenagers what they think. I got the same answer from all of them. Basically I was told that the teenage years are the hardest hands down. One father of two teenagers told me that he would take the toddler stage over the teenage stage. He said that as they get older, the harder it was because the problems just get bigger.

So, what separates a mother/parent worrying from being over-protective? I know how hard it was to let my oldest son get on the bus for the first time. I was worried about everything from him riding the bus, eating his lunch I made him, going to the bathroom unattended, playing and socializing with the other kids. You name it. But I had to let go and not let him know how worried I was but more so how proud I was that he was a big kid now! When my daughter had to go to the hospital when she cut her chin open, I had to hold her in my arms kicking and screaming. I had to try to comfort her and soothe her to let her know it was going to be alright. Did I know it was going to be o.k.? No, but I had to put on a brave face. When my youngest had a fever of almost 105, I was scared to death but I held it together and went into complete "mommy mode."

As much as I would love to put my kids in a bubble to protect them from everything, I know that sometimes I need to let them go. Let them figure certain things out. If I don't give them the chance to be kids, I feel like they won't be able to make their own decisions without me. All I can do is instill confidence in themselves and respect for others and hope they do o.k! So, like I said before, there's not one day that I don't worry about my kids. Now I'm convinced that no matter what age they are, I will always worry. Even when they are adults and have children of their own.

What do you think? Are the younger years easier or harder than the teenage years? Why?

Jessica

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After holding my newborn nephew recently, I've come to the conclusion that I am done, capital D.O.N.E. having kids. You know how you hold a baby and you get that good old baby fever feeling? The feeling that won't go away even after you get a good night sleep? The good news is I woke up and still didn't want another baby! I guess it is true what they say that you know when your done having babies. I'm assuming I've hit my max with three kids.

I recently found out that baby fever actually decreases for a woman after they have had kids. (This explains my lack of desire to have another baby.) What's interesting is that baby fever actually increases for a man! Even though the intensity of baby fever varies from person to person, it's pretty normal for both men and women to experience this emotion. While women feel that having another child comes with a great deal of work, men get the desire to hold another baby.

So, what's the difference between having baby fever and a women's biological clock? We all know that fertility significantly increases at the age of 35. I have to wonder if a women's "biological clock" real or is it a sudden urge to have a baby and the pressure to have one after a certain age? I know for a fact that women don't hear the clicking of a clock sound that it's time to have a baby! I can only imagine that this is a psychological response when it comes to having a baby before it's too late. In other words, I think baby fever is much stronger the older you get.

Do you have baby fever? Here's a short list that you may be ready!

1. You get teary-eyed when you see babies on T.V.

2. You hear a baby cry and immediately want to hold them.

3. You think about having a baby all the time.

4. You dream about having babies and raising a family.

5. Your life seems "incomplete" or like something or someone is missing.

Is your "biological clock ticking?" Here's a short list that will help you decide!

1. You are over the age of 35 and have the sudden urge to have a baby.

2. You have spoken with your doctor and he recommends you start trying.

3. You have babies on the brain all the time.

4. Again, you feel you are missing something and your life would be more complete with a child.

I know that I've experienced baby fever before! Did you get that baby fever feeling? What made you decide it was time for a baby?

Jessica

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When I was pregnant, I would day-dream about what my child would look like. I wondered if he/she would they have dark hair like my husband or light hair like me? Would they have brown eyes, blue eyes, green eyes...eyes at all? Sometimes it would make me crazy wondering if they were going to come out healthy! My daughter was born a month premature and that was pretty scary at first. Luckily, she came out just fine and was able to go home with us. Let's back track a bit and talk about genes. My first two children were born with dark hair like my husband. My third was born with snow-white hair and blue eyes. That was probably as big as a shock as when my daughter came early. My oldest son had blue/hazel eyes until a year and they turned brown. My daughter had blue eyes until she was two and they turned hazel and she looks a lot like my husband. My youngest has kept his blue eyes and is the spitting image of me. My oldest looks a lot like my husband and a little like me.

I guess what I'm trying to say here is that you never know what you're going to get! The baby may come out and look nothing like either one of you!

Here's an interesting study:

"The paternal-resemblance hypothesis got some scientific backing in 1995, when a study in Nature by Nicholas Christenfeld and Emily Hill of the University of California, San Diego, showed that people were much better at matching photos of one-year-old children with pictures of their fathers than with photos of their mothers. (Scientific American is part of Nature Publishing Group.)"

"In a 1999 study published in Evolution & Human Behavior, French and Serge Brédart of the University of Liège in Belgium set out to replicate the paternal-resemblance finding and were unable to do so. In a photo-matching trial with pictures of one-, three- and five-year-old children and their parents, subjects identified mothers and fathers equally well."

"Two other studies in Evolution & Human Behavior, one in 2000 and one in 2007, found that newborns actually look more like their mothers than their fathers in the first three days of their lives, as judged by unrelated assessors. But the babies' mothers tend to say just the opposite, emphasizing the child's resemblance to the father. That, too, has a possible evolutionary explanation, according to D. Kelly McLain of Georgia Southern University and his co-authors of the 2000 study. "The bias in how mothers remark resemblance does not reflect actual resemblance and may be an evolved or conditioned response to assure domestic fathers of their paternity," the researchers wrote."

In other words even after all these interesting studies, there's still a slight chance he/she may look like your great-uncle Henry or your great-grandmother, Agnes! Want to see what your baby might look like? Try this interesting website! Just upload a picture of yourself and your spouse. It's free!

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 Jessica

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I have three kids. Two boys and one princess. I really have to wonder who's easier to raise? I've yet to hit the teenage years which to be honest, I'm not completely looking forward to! As sweet as my daughter can be, she is certainly very different from my boys. There's plenty of drama and tears are shed over the little things. She's a girly girl and already into picking out her clothes, putting on lip gloss and carrying her purse everywhere she goes. My boys would wear the same outfit all week-long and it wouldn't bother them!

I have days where I think raising boys is a lot easier. They don't seem to mind what outfit I pick out for the day and they don't have much hair to brush which is always a plus! Then again, I have days when I think girls are easier. My little helper of a daughter actually enjoys picking up her toys, going grocery shopping and helping me cook. The boys, well they could care less! They are more into leaving their toys everywhere and eating me out of house and home! I guess the big question is who is actually easier to raise? Are girls easier to raise or are boys easier? Do you think it depends on the child?

This nursery rhyme seems fitting for this post!

What are little boys made of?
Snips and snails, and puppy-dogs' tails,
That's what little boys are made of.

What are little girls made of?
Sugar and spice, and everything nice,
That's what little girls are made of.

What's your opinion? Who's easier to raise girls or boys?

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I've had my share of terrible two's! In fact, my son is two as we speak and boy oh boy can this age be trying! He is a very determined little guy who is into everything and has his fair share of meltdowns especially when I tell him "No." When my other two children turned three, I was convinced three's were worse. What I'm really hoping is that this time around, it only gets better! Sometimes I wonder if these tantrums are due to his lack of communication. I've decided to come up with a few strategies to help him cope with this phase and I hope they help you too!

Here they are:

1.Limit the Word "No"

Try using the words "Please" or "Try this."  In other words, redirect them. Bring out a new toy or activity for them to play with. I'm a big believer that the word "No" only makes them more frustrated.

2. Speak Clearly and Directly

If your child is doing something that is dangerous and you fear they may hurt themselves, explain it in a way they can understand you. Keep your explanation short and to the point. Two-year old's have a very short vocabulary and also a very short attention span.

3. Reinforce Positive Behavior

This really works well with all ages. Children love to know they are doing a good job and behaving well. Instead of only telling them what not to do, try the opposite!

4. Keep Them Safe

Set their playing space in an area that they can't get hurt. This will help keep accidents to a minimum and will help tantrums as well.

5. Get Down to Their Level

Again, this works with children of all ages. When you speak to your child, bend down so you can have direct eye contact. This helps your child understand you better.

I know that these young years can be frustrating for parents as well as for children. Just remember your child doesn't have the language skills yet to express his needs. The best thing we can do for them is to be patient. You know the old saying "This too shall pass." Or should we say "This TWO shall pass?"

How do you cope with terrible two's?

Jessica

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I don't like blood. I'm not a fan of hospitals but I have to wonder who really is? Last week my lovely daughter was twirling around in the living room when she lost her footing and hit her head and chin on the corner of the fireplace. She let out a wail of a scream so I knew something was wrong. I immediately picked her up and checked her head which seemed fine. I looked down to notice she had cut her chin open and didn't realize it. I knew immediately she needed stitches or something. I called the doctor and they told me to bring her in. Of course my wonderful husband only wanted the best for his little girl and told me to tell them he wanted a plastic surgeon to sew her up. "Oh lord." I thought. "This should be interesting!" When I brought her into the doctor's office, the doctor knew that she needed either glue or two or three stitches. My amazing little girl didn't even bat an eyelash and was all smiles about thirty minutes after it happened. (Boy are kids resilient, but anyways!) I had to tell the doctor about my overprotective husband wanting a plastic surgeon. He told me that they usually don't do little things like this and my best bet was to bring her to the hospital since they take care of facial injuries all of the time. So, we headed to the hospital and after 3 hours, she left with some glue and steri-strips. She also got a red popsicle and stickers and she was very happy about that! I was so proud of her. She did fantastic. Had we had to have stitches, I know if would have been another story! I was thankful she didn't need them. Unfortunately though, my poor baby will have a scar on her chin forever. I'm pretty sad about that. I'm just really hoping it's not that noticeable.

With that said, I use to cringe at the thought of having kids and knowing that they would need stitches, break bones and vomit all over the place! I never had a stomach for these types of things and my husband never had the stomach for needles or blood. I was afraid for us as parents! It's amazing what mode you morph into when your kids are hurt or sick. It's like you're a mama bear trying to protect her cubs.

As much as we try to prevent accidents, things like this are going to happen. The only thing we can do is comfort our little ones and give lots of hugs and kisses. I guess your never truly a mom until you've been thrown up on, peed on or been to the ER.

Oh the joys of parenthood!

Jessica

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So, my almost 7-year-old is having a birthday next week. He's very excited. In fact, he's been talking about his special day for weeks if not months! He's really big into Lego's this year and he's having a Lego Ninjago party. The problem? They don't make Lego Ninjago birthday supplies. I had to think outside the box for this one. As much time as a mother of three has, I opted to go online for some help. I found many different people and websites that offer to make you specialized party supplies. I managed to go through a website called Etsy and I was able to get four goody bag favors for each kid and cupcake toppers all with Ninjago labels. They are really great and I know my little guy was pretty pumped when he saw them. I will probably add some candy fillers into the goody bags and we'll be good to go!

This year I really sat and thought long and hard about who to invite and who not to invite. The problem I ran into is now that my son is in first grade, he has many friends in his class. Since many of mine and my husbands friends had kids at pretty much the same time, I had to really cut the list down this year. What I really needed to do was ask my son who HE wanted to invite to HIS party. So, what it came down to was he wanted all the boys in his class.(He told me he doesn't play with the girls which is fine by me!) He also wanted to invite a few friends from his kindergarten class last year and a couple of his good friends outside of school. The grand total was 14 which is a perfect size right? Had I invited all my friends and all their kids the total would have been around 30. I really wanted to keep it simple this year. I think simple is better and I think having that many people at a birthday party can get overwhelming especially for a seven-year old. I know how overwhelming they can get because I've done the big birthday parties in the past and I know how much work it is for me!

I decided to come up with some tips to do a birthday party on a budget. Here they are!

1. Set a Budget!

I think it's important to set your budget amount for your party. I know how crazy and out of hand birthdays cost! It's good to know how much you want to spend that way you can cut corners and/or add details to the party.

2. Indoors/Outdoors

Instead of booking an expensive party venue, keep it simple. Plan the party indoors or even outdoors to save money. Kids will be happy either way!

3. Do it Yourself!

Instead of buying decorations and expensive games, make them yourself! You can even go as far as printing your own invitations and labels for the party. If you are not into that idea, try going to your local Dollar Tree store. They carry many different and inexpensive party supplies.

4. Make the Cake!

Better yet, make cupcakes! Kids love cupcakes and it's really inexpensive. You could even make labels off the computer and attach them to toothpicks and place one in each cupcake.

5. Have Fun!

I think simple parties are key! What's great about keeping kid's birthday parties simple is that you really get to enjoy your child's birthday party and take it all in.

Jessica

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I have to talk about this topic because it's been really bugging me! So, I was at the park the other day with two of my children. My daughter was happily swinging on the monkey bars and the baby was running around being silly like he usually does. My daughter went over to a group of boys who were sitting a tire swing. She asked if she could join them. One of the boys blurts out "This is a boy's club only, no girls allowed!" He was being quite mean to her telling her that she couldn't join the "club." My daughter just looked at me with these sad eyes like "Mom, say something!" She came running over to me and all I could do was hug her. I felt so bad. I told her to find a group of girls and make a girl's club. What I really wanted to do was go up to this little bully and knock some sense into him! (Of course, I held back!) I looked around the park and didn't see one parent to these kids. That really upset me. Not only were they being fresh, they were unsupervised which is terrible since they were no more than 7 years old. I guess had this kid been really mean to her like calling her names, I probably would have added my two cents! I know this topic is touchy for some but I'm wondering if other parents feel the need to discipline other people's kids. I know that if someone was physically hurting my child, there is no doubt in my mind that I would jump right in! I guess it really depends on the situation. I hate to think that there will be days when my kids get older and they are without me and a situation comes up that I have no control over.

Just recently a friend of mine had a situation with her a girl in her daughter's class. This girl kept telling her girls they had nests for hair and that they were ugly. My friend kept quiet all year until finally she couldn't handle it anymore and approached the teacher. Apparently this girl was not being taken care of at home and was going into foster care. Well, my friend felt terrible. She wished she never said anything but there is no way she would have known. I think bad behavior is bad behavior no matter what the situation is and it should always be addressed. It could have gone so much further so I'm glad she said something.

I think there's also a big difference in correcting bad behavior and discipline. I mean I would never put someone's kid in time out. If there was a situation that needed to be addressed, I would correct them and hope it didn't happen again.

How do you feel about disciplining other people's kids?

Jessica

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1. Make Easter Egg Hunt Baskets

Find inexpensive baskets and have your kids make their own egg hunt basket. There are so many cute ideas for this project. You could use ribbon, glue, glitter and felt. They could even personalize it with their name for an added touch.

2. Easter Egg Decorating

Gather some kids and have an Easter egg decorating party! To make it easy, you could request everyone brings a carton of white eggs. Don't forget to tell them to boil them! Set up an area surrounded by newspapers or a vinyl tablecloth. We all know how messy decorating eggs gets! Have a variety of colors and decorations set up on the table like stickers, gems, glitter, sponges and paint.

3. Have an Easter Egg Hunt

There's nothing sweeter than this! You can even keep this inside if necessary. For fun, set up one or two golden eggs with an extra special treat.

4. Bake

Kids love to help cook and they especially love to eat treats! There are so many cute Easter treats to make so I'll name a few. Easter cookies are always a hit in my house and the decorating is a lot of fun. You could also make peanut butter chocolate eggs, egg cake pops or Rice Krispie treats in various shapes for Easter. For holidays like this, I usually keep food coloring, frosting, marshmallow, coconut, a box of Rice Krispie cereal and a couple of boxes of cake mix on hand.

5. Egg and Spoon Race

You will need spoons, raw eggs and markers like flags or cones. Set everyone up in teams. When the whistle is blown, the first member in each team must complete the course and pass the egg. The object is to pass the egg to the next teammate without dropping it. If you drop the egg, you must resume  at the starting position to start over. This is a lot of fun for all ages!

Now that you have some ideas this Easter, here's a little bit of Easter bunny history!

The Easter tradition started in Germany in the 1500's. Children would anxiously await the arrival of "Oschter Haws" every Easter. They would make nests out of their caps and bonnets and wait to see if they would receive colored eggs. In the 1700's, the German settlers introduced Easter to the Americans when they arrived in Pennsylvania Dutch country.

The Easter bunny actually started from a book that was published in the 1500's about a rabbit laying eggs and hiding them in a garden. That's where the tradition of making a nest and hiding eggs came from.

Happy Easter! What's your Easter tradition?

Jessica

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I think as a mom we all feel like it's the hardest job in the world. I know I feel blessed to have three wonderful little beings but it's a very challenging job. Having three kids, I find I do a lot of running around, organizing, cleaning and multi-tasking. I actually amaze myself sometimes at what I can accomplish in a day. I guess that's where the old saying comes into play "A mother's job is never done."

My biggest challenge is trying to find balance amongst all the chaos in my household. I know the idea of a calm, organized house seems like something you only see in your dreams. I've decided to take some steps in order to make my dream a reality! Here are a list of things I think will help me stay organized and I hope it helps you too!

1. Get up Before Everyone Else!

I think it's so important to take some time out for yourself in the morning. Make a cup of coffee, start a load of laundry, take a shower and get a head start on the day. Even if it's just 15 minutes, I truly believe it makes all the difference in the world!

2. Make Plan Ahead Meals

I try to make snacks and lunch the night before for school that way I can pop them into their backpacks in the morning. I find it's so much easier. I am also trying to get in the habit of planning out dinner meals for the week so I don't have to stress what to make for dinner. I'm a big fan of crock pot meals and I like to make a lot of those especially in the winter. I find the most stressful times in my house are around dinner time. If I can coordinate meals ahead of time, it seems to flow much easier.

3. Keep a Monthly Calendar on Hand

Life can get hectic with all the appointments, notes and activities and if I don't have a calendar, I'm lost. I keep a monthly calendar with me at all times just so I can keep track of everything. I also track appointments on my cell phone and send myself a reminder 1-2 days before. This is also great for birthday reminders too.

4. Set Time for Yourself

I think it's so important to give yourself a little break too. Even if it's an hour away to clear your head and refresh. A great way to clear your head is to work out. Set up time to go to the gym or take a walk. If you can't get someone to help, take your kids for a walk or sign up at a gym with a daycare built-in.

5. Delegate!

As a mother we feel like we have to "do it all." In other words, we sometimes feel like it's our responsibility to keep the peace and keep things running smoothly. I really think it's a great idea to delegate some of the responsibility. I really like the idea of chore charts. It's a great incentive for kids and it's a great way for moms to lessen the load. I also like the idea of having one day a week that maybe your spouse/partner makes dinner. I've been trying to encourage my kids to bring their dishes to the sink after meals. This is something you could also incorporate in their reward charts.

There you have five steps to becoming a multi-tasking mama! I hope this helps! How do you multi-task?

Jessica

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Want a way to put a spring into your child's step? Help your child grow an organic pizza garden! You can start your project indoors about 2-3 months before the final frost. Your seedlings are going to be indoors for a little while before you transfer them outside. Kids will love taking care of their very own garden. All you need are organic seeds, containers, natural compost, popsicle sticks for labeling, plastic wrap, water and plenty of sunlight.

Directions:

To start, gather your materials. You can use egg crates, yogurt containers or any small type of planting container. Containers should be no larger than 3-4 inches across since you will be moving your plants into larger containers as they grow. You should poke holes in the bottoms of the containers and add a tray for drainage underneath. Fill the soil about half way. Place seeds and press down gently. Add another small scoop of soil and press down. Add water to the containers so soil is moist. Label your plants with popsicle sticks. You can also cover with loose plastic wrap to allow air in. Place somewhere warm like the top of the refrigerator to start. Once buds are through the surface, remove plastic wrap and place in a nice sunny spot. When the plants are ready to move outside, you and your child can really get creative in the garden! Start by making a large mound of soil in the shape of a circle. Use garden sticks to create the shape of a pizza. Layout the plants in each slice of the pizza so you know where to plant them. Start planting your garden with your child. Make sure to add extra compost to the top of the pizza garden. Don't forget to have children place their popsicle sticks behind the plants. Finally, most pizza gardens need 6-8 hours of sunlight each day and a generous amount of water!

Did you know there are advantages of starting an indoor garden? You have more variety to choose from when selecting your seeds, it's cheaper and most importantly plants started indoor have a higher survival rate than those started outdoors.

If you want to keep your pizza garden inside year-round, get a large metal container with handles. Container should also have drainage holes. You can keep this inside before planting season or outside in full sun on your patio during planting season. Use organic compost and fill the container half way so the soil is loose. Make sure to place plants a couple of inches apart to allow for growth and cover with more soil. Have your child draw a picture of the plant or write the names on the popsicle sticks. Find a sunny spot and have your child water their pizza garden every day!

Here's a list of herbs and vegetables for your pizza garden:

Basil

Chives

Oregano

Parsley

Thyme

Tomato Plant (Roma is best)

Pepper Plant (Red, green or yellow)

Time for a pizza party! Once your garden is ready, have crust, cheese and pizza sauce ready. Your kids will be very impressed by the pizza garden they have created. This is also a great way for parents to get kids to eat their vegetables. Enjoy!

Jessica

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You may have heard the term Attachment Parenting thrown around here and there. You might know what it means already but I have to tell you (for the ones that don't know) that's it's a pretty interesting point of view on how to raise your child. Attachment Parenting was created by Dr. William Sears to help mothers bond with their babies and stay connected. His theory is that there are eight principles to parenting. Here they are:

1. Preparation for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting
2. Feed with Love and Respect
3. Respond with Sensitivity
4. Use Nurturing Touch
5. Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
6. Provide Consistent Loving Care
7. Practice Positive Discipline
   
8. Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life

In other words, Attachment Parenting strives for a natural birth, skin to skin contact with your baby immediately following delivery, breast feeding, co-sleeping or sleeping close by, keeping your child in a sling most of the time, and a gentle approach when it comes to discipline. His theory suggests that the child's emotional and physical needs be met almost immediately forming a secure attachment and bond.

So what is the down side of Attachment Parenting? While this theory may work for some parents, others are use to a more traditional approach and argue this round the clock parenting isn't necessary. Since there isn't enough evidence to support Sear's theory, many people argue that Attachment Parenting isn't the correct way to form a bond with their child. Not only that, many people believe that co-sleeping is dangerous and should be avoided completely. As many of you know, the American Academy of Pediatrics strongly urges parents to not co-sleep due to an increase in SIDS.

How do I feel about Attachment Parenting? While I think some of these principles are correct, I feel that this theory is a little too strict in my opinion. I think as a mother we know what's best for our child. When they are hungry, we know because we feed them. When they need to be soothed, we rock them. When they have a problem, we address it. I for one think that a child should never co-sleep with their parent especially when they are infants. There also needs to be a separation from parent to child so a child can gain independence and self esteem. My problem with Attachment Parenting is that if you are constantly at your child's every beck and call, it doesn't give the child enough space to thrive and grow. Not only do I think it isn't healthy for the child, I think it's unhealthy for your relationship with your spouse. Yes, I'm a big believer in breast feeding and skin to skin contact. I am also the type of parent that likes to have their newborns close by when they sleep. Many of these parents who live by these rules don't have a cut off on age for co-sleeping which means their child or children are still in bed with them! If we try to constantly protect our children by keeping them by our side at all times, how do we let these children "go" when it comes time for school or social settings?

How do you feel about Attachment Parenting?

Jessica

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I always knew that I wanted a boy and a girl. I was very lucky to get the opportunity to experience both. See, my husband is one of four boys. Since technically the male is responsible for choosing the gender, I was sure my daughter was a boy. In fact, I almost fell over when the ultrasound technician told me I was carrying a little girl. When I was pregnant with my second I couldn't believe the questions I was asked. I would hear things like "Are you hoping for a girl this time?" My friends would also get questions when they were trying to conceive that I couldn't believe. They would hear things like "Are you going to try for a boy?" Honestly, I never understood that question. We all know you get what you get! Or as my kids would say "You get what you get and you don't get upset." With that said, I understand how parents of say three boys really long for a little girl or vice versa. I totally get that but I have to wonder; where do you draw the line?

This leads me to this controversial topic; Gender Selection or Social Sex Selection. Technology has certainly come a long way. It's actually possible now for parents to choose the gender of their child through this procedure. Basically scientists sort the sperm for parents to choose their desired gender. It's almost 100% guaranteed you will conceive what you hope for but the procedure isn't cheap and it's pretty uncomfortable. Not only that, it's quite controversial. Some parents think it's unnatural and that parents shouldn't try to "play god." Some people also think that there are more natural ways to conceive a baby like timing ovulation and conception. This is method is called the Shettles Method.

So, what is it with Gender Selection that is such a touchy subject? Apparently, abortion opponents believe that these embryos destroyed after this process, are people. The process is actually quite similar to IVF where embryos are also destroyed.

What do you think about Gender Selection? Are you for it or against it? How do you feel about discarded embryos? Do you feel it's similar to abortion?

Jessica

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I never thought that getting kids to eat their vegetables would be so hard! Actually, I remember my childhood and I never liked them either so I don't know why I'm so surprised! I feel like its pure torture every night at the dinner table. Our dinners usually consist of me making 3-4 different meals since not everyone likes the same things. (Don't even get me started on that subject) You think that when you have a family and you’re able to pull off the family dinner thing that it's actually going to be enjoyable..but it's not all that much fun. It usually consists of me running around throwing meals together that everyone likes and then trying to get everyone to eat what's on their plate. I usually don't get to eat a hot meal myself when all is said and done but I've come to terms with that already! What I really just want is for my kids to eat healthy. So, even though I try to make them things they like, I do try to throw in some vegetables in there too. I use to try to sneak vegetables into their food but they always wondered why their macaroni and cheese tasted funny! No matter what they are eating, I add a vegetable in the hopes by some miracle they will eat it without a fuss. We have even gone as far as trying to reward the kids that if they eat their vegetables, they will earn stars on their reward chart to eventually get a prize. It actually worked for a while and the kids were excited about it but the novelty wore off. My husband as even started the whole "If you eat your vegetables, I'll give you a dollar." Funny how desperate times call for desperate measures! I'll be honest, I was starting to get worried that my husband might be starting to lose it! The more I thought about it, I thought it was a good idea. In fact, I'm ready to try anything at this point!

I found this fantastic article by Lucy Cooke who is a psychologist at University College London. Her and her team did a study and found something very interesting when it comes to getting your kids to eat vegetables!

Here it is:

"At the beginning of the study, 422 children (ages 4-6) were shown six vegetables  (carrot, red pepper, sugar snap pea, cabbage, cucumber, and celery).  They were asked to taste a piece of each, rate how much they liked it (on a scale from yummy to yucky), and put them in order of best-to-worst tasting.

The researchers focused on the fourth-ranked vegetable for each child, inviting them to eat as much as they wanted, and measuring the amount eaten (usually, not much.)

The children were then offered that vegetable again on each of the next twelve days.  Some of the children were offered a tangible reward  (a sticker) for eating it, some were enthusiastically praised for eating it, and others were not given any kind of reward.  (Children in the control group were not offered the vegetable each day.)

At the end of the twelve days, and again after 1 month and 3 months, the researchers offered the vegetable again to all the children, but this time without any rewards, and observed how much they freely chose to eat.

Initially, after the rewards were removed, the children who were given a tangible reward ate the most of their vegetables.  Those who received praise, and those who were simply exposed to the vegetable each day, ate less than the sticker group, but still ate significantly more than the control group.

But after three months, the sticker group was no different than the praise group - and both groups were eating nearly twice as much of their vegetable, of their own free will, than the control group kids.

So if you want to encourage your children to embrace the delights of broccoli and green beans (and be able to look your pediatrician directly in the eye), try introducing rewards into your dining routine.  If you aren't comfortable with the idea of paying your kids to eat, the good news is that some enthusiastic cheerleading works just as well in the long run.  Personally, I'm planning on investing in a lot of stickers."

This article really gives me reassurance that it's ok to offer my children a reward to eat their vegetables! How do you get your kids to eat theirs?

Jessica

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I'll be the first to admit that my house is being taken over by toys. They are everywhere! I find toys in every room of my house and it seems I'm constantly cleaning them up from the moment I wake up in the morning until the kids are asleep. I can think of tons of ways to clean up the clutter but it's actually finding the time to do it that's the most challenging! I've decided that it's time to get organized and I'm starting with the playroom first. In order to get organized the first thing I'm going to do is make a list so I know what I'm working with. The next thing I'm going to do is set up some time to organize when the kids are sleeping, napping or watching a movie. Since spring is right around the corner, it's the best time to declutter some of those toys!

Here's a list that I wrote to help myself get organized. I hope it helps!

1. Get down at your children's eye level during the sorting process to see what needs to stay, what needs to go and what you need to save.

2. Make sure your child is not involved in this process since toy separation anxiety might come into play.

3. Separate all the toys your child doesn't play with anymore and set aside vs. the toys they do play with.

4. Make a separate bin for the toys you can save for later use. It's best to keep a library of toys that you can rotate into their play area. It's a good idea to switch up new toys every couple months to keep things interesting.

5. At this point, you should have three piles of toys. (GOOD TOYS, OLD TOYS AND TOY LIBRARY)

6. Dedicate areas for toys, blocks, arts and crafts etc. Use plastic storage containers so your child can easily see what's inside. You could even go as far as getting plastic containers with lids for crayons, markers, pencils and supplies. Use the wall space where the arts and crafts are to hang up important reminders for your child's school, appointments and even special art work they have made.

7. When organizing space, make sure to use see-through containers for small toys like blocks and legos and keep them down low so your child can reach them.

8. Keep in mind that your child is small so everything should be located where they can reach them. Books, toys and anything heavy should also be kept below their eye level.

9. Label everything! You can even use pictures for younger children. For older children, you can either print your own home-made labels and have your child help you or you can simply use a permanent marker.

10. Introduce your child to their new area. I know that when I mix things up in the play room, my kids love it and will play for hours! It's worth all time you put into this project when you see the end result!

Jessica

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I have been trying to come up with some ideas to keep my kids busy during winter break. We have made plans to have a couple play-dates with friends but I've recently been on the hunt for some more activities to fill up the week! Since our winter is mild this year, there's a good chance they won't be playing in the snow. I would love to keep the cost of activities to a minimum so I've come up with a few ideas that won't break the bank! Here are a few ideas I had in mind:

1. Park

I plan on taking them to the park a couple of times to let them burn off some steam. I'm hoping to bring lunch or snacks so we won't have to leave when they get hungry.

2. Museum

I'm hoping to make it over to a local children's museum that's pretty inexpensive. I think the kids will have a good time. What I love about museums is there's usually something for everyone.

3. Library

What's great about the library is they often have free story times and crafts with the kids after. Not only that, the kids love picking out books with their very own library card. Funny how the little things make them so happy!

4. Sledding

My kids have been praying for snow all winter. We are hoping that their wish comes true, however we are also debating on taking them up north for the day so they can go sledding or maybe even try skiing.

5. Arts and crafts

I love doing projects with my kids. My oldest son is a huge fan, which is great because it keeps him entertained. My four-year old usually lasts 15 minutes and the baby, well he's just into coloring right now! I'm hoping I can find something for all of them to enjoy. My search continues and I will let you know what I find!

6. Movie night

My kids love when we do the occasional movie night. I usually set up three sleeping bags on the floor and they each get their own bowl of popcorn. I may just let them stay up later than usual a couple of nights as a special treat too.

7. Start planting seeds

I'm going to have my kids start planting some seeds. What's great about this project is that it's really inexpensive and enjoyable. Once the warmer weather comes, you can put them in the ground, which is a lot of fun for them. I’m hoping this will help them eat their vegetables too!

8. Local pet shop/farm

Sometimes I take my kids to the local pet store to look at all the animals. They love seeing the puppies. My youngest is a big fan of the fish. It's a great way to keep them entertained even if just a half an hour!

9. Take a mystery walk

There's nothing more exciting to kids then a last minute adventure. I am going to take them for a walk next week. Before I go, I'm going to write down everything they need to find. I'll give them a job to check off their items on their list. I may have to draw a picture of the objects for my daughter. I am also going to try this at the grocery store too!

10. Use their imagination!

I think it's so important to let kids be kids and not entertain them every minute of the day. While I hope to have a little something planned throughout the week, I'm really hoping they use their imagination and do a lot of pretend play.

What are your kids doing for winter break? How do you keep them entertained on a budget?

Jessica

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The question I constantly ask myself is "Am I a good parent?" Sure I have days where I feel like I did a good job. I also have days where I feel defeated, annoyed and just plain worn out. I think it's only natural to feel this way. I mean I'm only human, right? Honestly though, there are days where I wonder if I'm doing a good job as a mom. One day not too long ago, I phoned my mom to let her know what a bad day I had. My oldest wasn't listening and was in time out a number of times. I told her I feel like I don't know if I'm doing the right thing sometimes. I explained how stressful parenting is because you just never really know if you’re making the right decisions. She told me something very wise. She said, "You will always question whether or not you are a good parent." "Trust that you're making the right decisions and stay strong." Those words have gotten me through some pretty tough parenting moments. It really made me think what type of parent I am. Did you know there are generally four types of parents?

Here's a list of the four:

Authoritarian -This is basically the parent that sets the rules and keeps the rules. No if's, and's or but's about it. The perfect answer is usually "Because I said so." If a child breaks the rules, the parent is quick to punish. Long term, the child is pretty successful and obedient. Unfortunately, the setbacks of children raised by an Authoritarian are that the child generally has low self-esteem and is less happy.

Permissive -Permissive parents are more laid back when it comes to raising their children. The view their child as a friend and often have less rules. They expect less from their child and often indulge them. Children with Permissive parents often grow up unhappy and have problems with authority figures.

Uninvolved - Uninvolved parents rarely participate in their child's lives and are detach themselves. They are often referred as negligent parents. Children of this type of parenting have trouble relating to people and aren't that successful.

Authoritative - Authoritative parents often set rules and expect them to be followed. They are nurturing parents and communicative. Even though they punish the child, when they break the rules, the punishment is set so that the child understands and is responsible for their actions.  Children who grow up with this parenting style are usually happy and have good self-esteem.

I think we will always question our parenting choices. I really don't think there is a "right way" or "wrong way" to be a good parent. I think as long as there are plenty of rules and plenty of love, the rest will fall into place.

With that said, looking at the four types of parents, what do you think? What type of parent are you?

Jessica

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Now that Valentine's Day is almost here, it's a good time to reconnect with your spouse! I truly know how hard it is to find time when you have children. I really do! The constant running around and getting the kids ready for school, back out the door for sports and then home to have dinner, do homework, take baths and get ready for bed. I know how exhausted I am by the end of the day so; I've decided to just add a few nice gestures to let my husband know I'm thinking about him.

Here are a few ideas to reconnect with your loved one:

1. A quick phone call, email or text to say your thinking about them. You can also leave little notes around the house too.

2. While making yourself a cup of coffee, make him a cup of coffee too! Simple gestures like that definitely go a long way.

3. Set up a babysitter without telling him. Surprise him that night with a date just the two of you.

4. After the kids go to bed, plan a movie night and make popcorn.

5. Save dinner once a week when the kids are asleep so you can enjoy a nice dinner together. You can even light candles as if you were out to dinner.

6. Set time aside to talk even if it's just 15 minutes a day. Listening to your spouse about their day is a great way to stay connected.

7. Take a class together. Find something you both enjoy like a cooking class or an art class. Hobbies are a great way to keep your relationship strong. When you find something you both enjoy, it brings you closer.

8. Have a glass of wine together. Take some time out of your busy week and pour each other a glass of wine.

9. Play a board game. This kind of interaction is great because it's usually another side of your spouse you rarely get to see.

10. A simple "I love you" or a hug is sometimes enough too.

Simple acts of love really go a long way and mean so much. I know that when my husband makes me a cup of coffee in the morning, it makes me smile. It's easy to get disconnected when you have kids but it's important to remember they are here because of the love between the two of you.

Jessica

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Valentine's Day is around the corner so I thought I would share with you some ideas I had for a cute party!  Kids love to be involved in the party planning process and these ideas will keep them busy.

1. Make the Party Invitations:

Depending on the amount of guests, you can help your child cut out the hearts for the invitations. Use colored construction paper in pink, red and white. Use a ruler and draw three lines on the heart to announce the party, location and time. Cut out doilies in the shape of a heart. Use a hole puncher and make a hole in the heart and doily. Attach a pretty bow through the two holes to hold them together.

2. Decorate:

You and your child can decorate in no time! Just fold a few pieces of construction paper in half to create your hearts. You can do the same with the doilies. Take some yarn, string or even ribbon and cut in long pieces. Use your hole punch and create a hole at the top of the heart to string them all together. You can decorate doorways, furniture and even fireplace mantles with this garland. Another cute idea is to cover a table with a white, pink or red tablecloth. Take some more hearts in various sizes and cover the table randomly. For a cute centerpiece, take a large clear vase or bowl and add a bag of conversation hearts to the middle of the table.

3. Food:

I love the idea of having everything in the shape of a heart. For a fun, easy lunch idea you can get pre-made pizza crust, heart cookie cutters, pizza sauce, cheese and toppings. Layout these ideas on a table so kids can decorate their own pizzas. Have the children cut out their pizzas in the shape of a heart and decorate! After lunch you can have them get creative and decorate their own cupcakes with frosting and candy sprinkles.

4. Valentine's Day Game:

Before the guests arrive, count out the number of conversation hearts in the vase. During the party, have the kids take a guess on the number of hearts. Here's a cute poem for in front of the vase:

Roses are red.

Violets are blue.

Can you guess how many hearts?

If you do, they're for you!

The child with the closest answer wins the candy.

5. Valentine Exchange:

If you would like the children to exchange Valentine's, specify on the invitation so parents know in advance. It might be cute to allow each child to take a turn handing out his/her invitations.

There will certainly be a lot of love in the room this Valentine's Day!

Jessica

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I knew that after I had my first child I wanted another child. Not only for myself but to give him a sibling. I really didn't want him to be an only child. I was under the impression that two children was the magic number. One child per parent. Two hands. One for each child. It just made sense. In fact, looking back it made perfect sense. Even though it was an adjustment going from one child to two, our family seemed complete. When I found out I was pregnant with my third child, I was extremely nervous. I wasn't sure how it would work. I was concerned about the divided attention each of my children would get. I was concerned with many things, in fact I was petrified to add a third to the mix! It really did take some time to adjust to having a third. So, even though I'm still adjusting in a lot of ways, I know that three children is the magic number for our family.

Here's a thought:

Did you know the average family size is 2.6? The average family has 2 children, but in the family there is an average of 4 people.

Small family vs big family?

While one child may be ideal for some couples, larger families are ideal for others. Look at the Duggar's for example. They have 19 children and continue adding to their brood. I have to wonder what their secret is! How can they possibly give attention to all those children and still stay sane at the end of the day? I guess that is why everyone is so fascinated by their super sized family! It also makes me wonder how they can afford to raise 19 plus children these days especially when the cost of raising just one child is so high.

How much does it cost to raise a child?

As of last year the cost of raising a child averaged $226,920. This figure is from birth to age 18 and does not include college!( In other words, the cost of raising a child is outrageous.) Not only is this number disturbing, it's gone up by 40% in almost a decade. It really made me wonder how much the Duggar's will eventually spend to raise all 19 children. I did the math. Ready? $4,311,480.00 not including college! That figure certainly makes me feel better about sending my three children to college.

What's your magic number?

Since everyone has a different situation, I'm curious what size family works for you. What is your magic number?

Jessica

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In honor of Valentine's Day, I thought I would ask some kids what love means to them. Their responses are very sweet and very funny! Nothing like that old saying, "Out of the mouths of babes!"

What does love mean? (A child's perspective)

"Love means holding hands and giving someone a valentine." Jack, age 6

"Love means you share your toys." Josie, age 4 (almost 5)

"Love means hugging and having fun together." Sara, age 6

"Love means I love you." Jason, age 6

"Love means I love Mommy." Breanna, age 4

"Love means to me having the best family!" Elizabeth, age 6

"Love means to me being best friends." Maija, age 6

"Love means I want to kiss." Zoe, age 5

"Love means a heart." Emerson, age 5

"Love means a Christmas tree." Aiden, age 4

"Love makes me happy. It makes me want to hug. And, I love candy." Grace, age 4

"Love means hugging and kissing and saying goodnight to your mother." Cadence, age 5

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Happy Valentine's Day!

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Jessica

I have a very strong-headed four-year old. She is in her second year of preschool and is supposed to be attending Kindergarten in the fall. The problem? She insists she's not going. She throws a fit every time she hears the "K" word. Her teacher told me she can't mention when she's around. I swear I've tried every angle. I told her she gets to go to school with her brother and ride the bus with him. She doesn't want to hear a word about it. Nope! She's even gone as far as to not wanting to attend her dance or gymnastics class anymore. My theory is that she has become too attached to me. A little too attached! I obviously have a lot to figure out in the next few days since Kindergarten registration is next week. I have to wonder if I should hold her back and have her attend preschool for one more year. Should I just send her and if she hates it to the point of her not wanting to go back, pull her out? Should I send her kicking and screaming with the hopes that she catches up academically? You see my very stubborn daughter is not really into learning her ABC's and 1.2.3's. In fact, she has no desire. When I mentioned this to her doctor, he said not to worry. They will apparently teach her all of this in Kindergarten. Fine right? Well, they also start teaching them to read in Kindergarten now. It's not first grade anymore! That's a heck of a lot for a child to learn in a year in my opinion. My oldest knew his alphabet at two and a half. He was more than ready to attend preschool at 2.5 and right on track for Kindergarten. She is right on track socially so that's not the problem. I know that a huge part of learning stems from the social aspect so I'm not too concerned with that. In fact, she loves going to preschool and loves her teacher and her friends. Thankfully she likes going or we would really have a problem!

So, I really have to wonder if one more year of preschool will really hurt her. Maybe she really is trying to tell me something. I mean, she is an August baby and the cutoff for school is September 1st. My fear is that she will be forced to catch up and she won't enjoy attending and therefore fall behind. As much as I hate to let my baby girl "go" part of me wants her to hold her head up high and say, "I did it, Mom!" Part of me also wants her to cut the cord a little. Is that wrong?

What are you thoughts on the Preschool to Kindergarten transition? Do you think it's better to hold them back or send them and see how they do?

Jessica

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Recently I have had the opportunity to go on vacation with my husband for a work trip. Since we desperately need a vacation alone, we have decided to leave the kids with their grandparents. I find that I struggle with leaving them just as much as I struggle with having to get things ready for them. I have written their schedules out, the notes about what they eat, what time they go to bed, when to give them a bath, what time they get up etc. My head is spinning and I'm sure the grandparents will be too! Last night I decided to pull out all of their clothes for the week. OH..MY..GOD..What a chore! Seven pairs of pajamas for each child, seven outfits for each, seven pairs of underwear and socks...for each. That equals 42 outfits bagged and labeled. Can you say neurotic? Yes, that's me. I don't normally do this unless I go away. I mean I do get the kids' outfits out the night before a school day but that's it. I'm trying to make it as easy peasy for everyone. I know they will be in good hands and I know they will be "fine." Of course I fear the worst, as any other neurotic mother would do. All the "what if’s." Like what if they get sick? What if they forget their homework or their snack for school? What if they need to go to the doctor's or hospital? What if the school calls? "What if something happens to us?" The list goes on.

Here is a list of things I've done in advance. If any of you are planning on going away without your kids, maybe this will help.

1. Bedtime schedule.

2. Meal time schedule.

3. Bath schedule.

4. Doctors note that allows certain family members to bring the children to the doctor's or other medical facility. Also leave insurance cards.

5. Appropriate notes to schools to make teachers aware of the arrangements.

6. General information about each child.

7. Have a will drawn up if this isn't already done. Something you don't want to do but something that needs to be done!

8. Leave all travel information and phone numbers.

9. Leave cash, check or credit cards for anything that may come up.

10. Wash, fold and layout all clothing for the week.(optional yet extremely helpful!)

With that said, I am going to stop the mommy guilt right now and go and enjoy my much-needed vacation! I will keep telling myself that they will be fine. I need to read that book I've been trying to get through for three months. I need to sit and daydream. I need to use the bathroom and take a shower in peace for once. I need to reflect and appreciate all that I have. Maybe I will actually get to have a conversation with my husband!

I think as hard as it is to leave, it's so important to do this to be able to come back relaxed, refreshed with that much more to give!

Have you ever left your kid(s) on vacation? How do you prepare?

Jessica

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Recently there was an incident at a Houston Target involving a mother (Michelle Hickman) who was breastfeeding her baby in the store. Apparently after she was finishing up some Christmas shopping, her son woke to be fed. She did what all mother's do when their child is hungry, she fed him. She discreetly covered up the child with a blanket and sat in the aisle in the women's department to feed her crying baby. When two female store employees noticed her there, they told her to move to the dressing area. They even told her they could report her for indecent exposure. The following day when the mother called to report this person, she was told she shouldn't go around "flaunting it for everyone to see." Again, she was upset and humiliated. Later on that day Michelle received an email from Target stating that mother's are urged to nurse in private places such as bathrooms or dressing areas. There was no apology.

Michelle Hickman has since then organized a "nurse-in" at Target stores for mother's to nurse in public. More than 7500 supporters also follow her Facebook page.

As a mother of three who has been in public with a crying, hungry baby, I am absolutely astonished that Target would go this far. I have had to feed my crying child in bathrooms, dressing rooms; you name it because those were my options at the time. Had I been brave enough to do it in public, I would have. I am appalled that a store that actually caters to women and babies and has the option to create a baby registry wouldn't have an area dedicated to mothers solely for this purpose. The majority of their business comes from mothers!

I give Michelle Hickman so much credit for standing up for what she believes. Breastfeeding is one of the best things you can do for your child. She was only doing what her mother's intuition told her to do.

What's your take? Do you think women should be allowed to breastfeed in public?

Jessica

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Gone are the days when June Cleaver raises the family anxiously awaiting the arrival of her husband at the end of the day so she can serve him dinner. Dads are more involved in raising the kids these days! Study shows that dads are more interested in their wives pregnancies and birth than ever before too. They are also more helpful with taking care of their children and they are more likely to help out around the house. Times have changed and even though most of the responsibility falls on the mother, the percentage of dads helping out has increased over the years. Even some dads have opted to stay home with their kiddos while their wife is more career oriented. This was certainly unheard of back in the day but times they are a changing! These days, I see more dads toting their tots around in a sling. I also see dads grocery shopping with their kids too and running errands or taking them to the park or out to lunch.

It got me thinking what the impact of fathers have on children these days. Here's a fact:

"Children with involved, caring fathers have better educational outcomes. A number of studies suggest that fathers who are involved, nurturing, and playful with their infants have children with higher IQs, as well as better linguistic and cognitive capacities.Toddlers with involved fathers go on to start school with higher levels of academic readiness. They are more patient and can handle the stresses and frustrations associated with schooling more readily than children with less involved fathers."

This is not to say that all dads are the same but there is a significant difference over the years. Here are some tips to get dad more involved in their kids' lives.

1. Have him help out with homework. Having dad more involved in schoolwork actually works both ways. Children actually do better in school when dad is involved, study shows and dads like being aware of what their child is learning at school.

2. Have one on one time with dad. This will be a special time and kids will love being the center of dad’s attention!

3. Have dad get involved in after school activities like sports etc.

4. Have dad read a story at bedtime. If your child can read, have him/her read to dad too.

I have to say, I am very proud of some of the dads these days! I think their role is just as important as moms!

What do you think? Are dads more involved?

Jessica

In order to keep your child safe in your home, you need to baby proof it! A good age to baby proof your home is around 0-6 months or while your child is still stationary. You can find these kits anywhere that sell baby items.

1. The first step you should take is to cover all outlets with plugs so your child doesn't risk putting small objects or even fingers into these small spaces.

2. Another very important area is the cabinets in the kitchen. Make sure you put a lock on the cabinets and drawers so you can keep your baby safe.

3. Do keep Ipecac syrup on hand in case your child ingests any poisonous chemicals.

4. I would also suggest putting the safety knobs on your stove and even a stove guard so your child doesn't risk putting their hands near the hot stove.

5. Safety gates are fantastic to keep your child in a designated area so they don't get hurt. Use these gates in doorways and also at the top and bottom of the staircase.

6. Safety doorknobs are also a must especially if you have an explorer! You can also put hook and eyes on doors too for piece of mind!

7. Toilet seat locks are also a must. This is a dangerous area where kids will try to play in the water and could possibly fall in. These locks will prevent any injuries.

8. Cover sharp edges of tables or fireplaces ledges with foam covers. This will help prevent any serious injuries.

9. Make sure all areas of the house have the proper smoke detectors and carbon monoxide detectors and make sure all batteries are working properly.

10. Secure all furniture like bookcases and armoires to the walls to reduce the risk of the furniture from toppling over.

Try crawling around areas of your house like your baby would so you can explore what safety measures to take. It's important to keep him/her out of harms way. We all know that accidents do happen. Following these steps will help prevent them!

Jessica

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I've heard mixed things when it comes to the right time to have a baby. Personally, I think you are never emotionally prepared to have a child but you adapt. Bringing a child into this world is by far the most rewarding time in your life. It's also the most challenging! I have to say I am glad that I had my first child when I did. I was 28 when I had my first. I was married and my husband and I were in a pretty good place in our lives. At the time I felt the only thing missing in our lives was a child. Had we had a baby any earlier, I think it would have put a strain on our relationship since we hadn't really established a career yet.

These days it seems people are waiting until they are in their 30's or even 40's to have a child and focusing on their careers first. While this is great for some people to feel settled first, it's not for everyone. Having a child later in life can come with some risks. You may have a harder time conceiving a child after the age of 35. Many couples turn to fertility treatments if this is the case. Pregnancy complications for this age group are higher as well along with delivery complications.

I spoke with some mothers to see if they felt that the age they had their first baby was the ideal age. Some of the younger mothers all felt pretty confident that they were physically ready to have a baby when they did. They said they were glad they had a baby at their age because they had plenty of energy to play with and care for their child. The only drawback would be the financial aspect. They think that had they been established financially, it would have been a lot easier. I also spoke with a few mothers who had children in there 30's and 40's. They told me they didn't have any regrets waiting because they felt comfortable financially. Their drawback was the lack of energy. They also told me that pregnancy and delivery was a lot harder on their bodies. Some also had to go through rounds of IVF treatments which was hard on their bodies too. Insurance companies don't always cover these costs, which can be a very costly out-of-pocket expense.

There are definitely mixed feelings about the best time to have a baby. I think it's more of a personal choice.

How do you feel? How old were you when you had your first baby? What were the advantages? What were the drawbacks?

Jessica

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Since Christmas is right around the corner, I wanted to share one of my favorite letters with you from 8-year old Virginia O'Hanlon. This letter recently had me thinking about kids and Santa. I think believing in Santa is one of the most magical things you experience as a child. To see the joy on my children's faces this time of year is so special to me. I can't imagine telling my child the truth about Santa at such a young age. I'm hoping I can get them to believe that Santa exists for as long as possible. With that said, here is a special letter that you may all remember:

Dear Editor,

I am 8 years old. Some of my little friends say there is no Santa Claus. Papa says, "If you see it in The Sun, it's so." Please tell me the truth, is there a Santa Claus?

Virginia O'Hanlon

Virginia, your little friends are wrong. They have been affected by the skepticism of a skeptical age. They do not believe except they see. They think that nothing can be which is not comprehensible by their little minds. All minds, Virginia, whether they be men's or children's, are little. In this great universe of ours, man is a mere insect, an ant, in his intellect as compared with the boundless world about him, as measured by the intelligence capable of grasping the whole of truth and knowledge.

Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy. Alas! how dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus! It would be as dreary as if there were no Virginias. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The external light with which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.

Not believe in Santa Claus! You might as well not believe in fairies. You might get your papa to hire men to watch in all the chimneys on Christmas eve to catch Santa Claus, but even if you did not see Santa Claus coming down, what would that prove? Nobody sees Santa Claus, but that is no sign that there is no Santa Claus. The most real things in the world are those that neither children nor men can see. Did you ever see fairies dancing on the lawn? Of course not, but that's no proof that they are not there. Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the world.

You tear apart the baby's rattle and see what makes the noise inside, but there is a veil covering the unseen world which not the strongest man, nor even the united strength of all the strongest men that ever lived could tear apart. Only faith, poetry, love, romance, can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond. Is it all real? Ah, Virginia, in all this world there is nothing else real and abiding.

No Santa Claus! Thank God! he lives and lives forever. A thousand years from now, Virginia, nay 10 times 10,000 years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!!!

Jessica

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It can be quite a challenge to keep everyone busy and happy during the winter months. Since I live on the East Coast, winters here seem to last for months! Luckily my kids love the snow and love to go sledding and all that fun winter stuff. As much as they love to get out there, it seems to take so long getting them dressed and into their snow gear! In the end it's totally worth it because my kids are happy. Plus, a little fresh air is great for them.

I've come up with a few ways to keep kids entertained this winter. Here are a few ideas!

Inside Fun

1. Use music to keep everyone happy! Put the music on have your kids play freeze dance. My kids love this game so much. I also have them march around the table to the music and I will stop the music and they freeze. This keeps them entertained even if it's only for ten minutes! We also play musical chairs.

2. Make forts! We often take sheets and drape them over furniture and my kids think this is the greatest thing ever. I will often get them a snack and they also have a little picnic. They will often request certain toys and books too which is fine because they get such a kick out of our home-made forts.

3. Cook with kids! I find that my two oldest children want to help me a lot in the kitchen. I will often give them bowls and spoons and let them help me cook or bake. It's nice to have some little helpers too and they are so proud of themselves when they see the finished product.

4. Recycle old crayons! Just take the paper off and break up old crayons into a muffin tin. Pre-heat the oven at 250 degrees and bake for 15-20 minutes. You can also use oven molds with shapes and designs the kids love! Once cooled, pop them out and give the kids some paper. This is definitely a hit in my house.

5. Make play dough! Combine 2 cups of flour, 1 cup salt, 1 tablespoon cream of tartar, 2 tablespoons of oil and 1 cup water with food coloring added. Cook all ingredients on low heat, stirring constantly. Remove and knead the dough. Store in the refrigerator in a plastic container.

Outside Fun

1. Make some good old-fashioned snow angels! Kids love doing this and I think some adults secretly do too!

2. Make snow art! Fill water bottles with food coloring and let the kids make designs in the snow.

3. Go on a treasure hunt. Snow or no snow kids will love doing this any time of the year! Before you head outside, draw up a quick pirates map to locate the treasure. You can bury anything in the snow or in the yard like under a rock or under a pile of sticks. No matter what the treasure is, kids will love this idea.

4. Make a snowman or have a snowball fight!

5. Sledding is always a favorite but what about rolling instead? Kids will love trying this.

How do you keep your kids entertained in the winter months?

Jessica

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Recently I've been on the hunt for a sitter or a nanny to help me out with my three kiddos. I do have to wonder who in their right mind would want to watch all three of my children at the same time! Hopefully someone with the patience of a saint! The funny part about the whole process is that while it seems easy to some, I know my kids. I know their routines, their moods, their time of the day they are just absolutely crazy and all that good stuff. I guess that qualifies me to be their mother right?

Since being on the look out for some help, I have come across many different types of people with all different types of experience. Some with just a fondness of kids and some that are previous teachers or mothers and have loads of experience. What I really want to find is someone who "clicks" with my kids and someone they adore as well.

So, after much thought I had to ask myself  "What is the difference between a sitter and a nanny?" Here's the difference:

A babysitter usually takes care of the children on an as-needed basis. They don't usually perform all of the duties of a nanny like housekeeping, cooking and helping children with homework. A sitter generally fills in the void of a parent here and there like at night or on the weekends. A sitter is typically paid less than a nanny because nannies have more responsibilities. A nanny may live in or out of the home as well. Payment arrangements are usually made ahead of time and things like health insurance and benefits may also be available.

So, since I am looking for someone more on an as-needed basis, I would want to find a babysitter instead of a nanny. I think it's so important when looking for that right person, to do a background check. It's really important to request a resume to check references. Also, make sure the references are up to date. I would also prefer someone to be first aid and CPR certified as well. Many of the babysitting courses out there give the proper certifications and there are many courses out there to choose from. If you are interested in getting certified, try your local American Red Cross. Not only are these courses helpful for babysitters or nannies, parents should be first aid and CPR certified also.

My search still continues for that perfect person. I have to admit though; I wish Mrs. Doubtfire would knock on my door!

Jessica

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