Brian Light | Talking about love

A tribute to faithfulness

Laeticia — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 05:34:49 +0000

Yesterday I was reading the newspaper when a title strikes me, “CHERYL COLE WAS TO CONDUCT LIE DETECTOR TEST ON HIS HUSBAND”. On the first sight, it didn’t do me nothing because I don’t personally know them and I think their marriage problems is of concerned only to them and not to the entire world. Then, I remembered something what happened some time ago.

This thing was the Tiger Wood case. I don’t know exactly what happened because I don’t like the stars news because it is often only about marriage, divorce, re-marriage and re-divorce but what I know is that Tiger Woods and his wife was having problem in their couple (wait, I’ve been searching for more information about Tiger Woods… hmmmm…. I’ve got a title saying “Tiger Woods: Sex addict or immoral?”…. you can read it here, it’s an interview on Fox News.) You ca ask why I am talking about it and what is the relation with the title, it is simply that faithfulness to somebody we love, in this world, has become crap for many people. Most of the people we hear about on TV, we read on newspaper or on blog are about cheating, taking someone else’s wife or husband or whatever else. Faithfulness is an issue that is no more important in this world. I’ll show you can a very important example about how faithfulness is considered importan nowadays. Just do this:

Ask yourself how many people, direct relatives around you have suffer or has inflict pain because of unfaithfulness? Now take it further and ask yourself how many relatives of your relatives? And now ask yourself how many friends talk about they can cheat on their wife/husband with the beautiful girl/guy they just saw? How much time have you imagine a girl you saw on your way to work to be naked?

The beginning of unfaithfulness is in our head, the moment we start to imagine someone else in our life, in our bed; being unfaithful starts to drive in your head. You know the worst part, people are now able to cheat without having to have sex. You know about it?! Emotional cheating. Oh God, where has faithfulness gone??

The art of romantic for dumb.

Laeticia — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 06:55:31 +0000

Hello everybody, since some time we’ve thinking of redesigning the humanwired blog and giving it a new soul. We have been working on it and we now have something new for you. We are upgrading the website to something new and more localised one. We are changing to be something more Mauritian. We will give you more information as time comes. For the time being, we are giving free an ebook (in French): L’art d’être romantique pour les nuls. Download the free ebook by clicking here. To save the ebook, right click on the link and then click on “Save target As”

Parents or partners: Whom would you chose to save? Both.

Laeticia — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 05:45:30 +0000

It’s been a long time since the last post and I must confess that I was quite busy working on some new project (moving the blog to a top-domain and some other stuff). But I will always return to this blog because it is my preffered one. For this “great” return, I would like to share something with you, a question: would you prefer to save your relationship with your parent or relationship with your partner?

Just take the example of someone who love a girl/boy but his or her parents are against this relationship (some of you might identify yourselves to this situation), would you prefer to save what binds you to your parent or this relationship you are about to build up with the one you love. Throughout my life, I’ve encounter tree kind of reaction to this situation. The first one was to break up with the partner and the second one was to give up what they had with their parent in profit of their relationship but there’s a third one, rarely used, that I would like to share with you; the decision to stay with the partner and make the parent accept the relationship.

In the perfect world of perfect couple, the third situation will be as easy as pie but it is not like this. I knwo the case where a girl had to fight for 2 year before the family accepted the guy and in other case, it might never be the case but why should someone take the risk to fight even though he/she knows the family will never accept the person. Simply because there’s no small relationship: what you’ve build up with your parent is very important because it’s something which took time, since your birth, to build and on the other hand, what you are about to build with your partner is as important simply because it is your choice. That’s why you should fight to preserve both, make concession and drives your parent and partner to make concession because afterall, what your parents and your partners wants for you is your happiness, it’s a first common point on which you could drives them to know each other more.

My conclusion (and yours should be this one too) is that neither relationship (unless it is destroying you) is of no importance, you should always preserve it because it took (your) time to build it up…

Cheerio…

I prefer how I was to how I’ve become, you too. Changing might be dangerous.

Laeticia — Sat, 16 May 2009 04:42:27 +0000

People says that everybody changes, and even the band KEANE sings about it. It’s been so true since the beginning of time I think and one thing that can be dangerous about changes is that we might change in the bad way. What do I mean by changing in the bad way.

I was reading this blog from the beginning, I was reading the first posts and I came across one which says
Tell her you are proud about her success where I outlined the fact that we must always tell the person we love how precious she is to us and how we are proud of every little thing she succeeds in. I ended the post with “I like to be a mushy”. But since then I’ve changes and you too. I no more want to be call a mushy. This doesn’t mean we don’t like our partner anymore but some changes occurred with made us different from what we were before. You no more do these little things that made her felt you love her. When was the last time you cooked her favorite dish together, when was the last time you both got some time to relax?

We must confess that there are some changes that are really appreciated, like being no more ashamed of doing things in front of her but we must remains as much as possible the persons our partner liked in the beginning. Always remember, she liked us as we were, not as she thought we would be later on.

I’ve read the bible and saw what it says about love. Oh my God!!!

Laeticia — Fri, 15 May 2009 04:37:00 +0000

Yesterday I was at the bible school and when the Pastor was teaching, I saw a well known verse about what the God says about love. I’ve read this verse several time since I’ve started to read the bible and yesterday it strikes me because I realised everything I’ve written since now can be resumed in these verses. My advice is, even though you are not Christian or doesn’t read the bible, just read the following verses as if it was one of my post and believe me, it might helps. And for those who studied the bible, read this and try to study it.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians Chapter 13: Verse 4 – 13 (Taken from the bible New International Version)

The fantastic three (secrets to revive the flame).

Laeticia — Tue, 12 May 2009 07:12:43 +0000

Whether you just met someone or you are in a long term relationship, you always want to impress your partner, to make her/him feel that you still want them to love you. You want to make sure they will keep on loving you. It’s a normal reaction. Some people does plastic surgery and other buy new lingerie. All these a good. I’ve got three other one that may help you. I name it the Fantastic Three.

Give flowers:
The oldest of all trick I know and the best one. Evey girl I know loves to receive flowers but the more you give to them doesn’t meant the more they’ll like you, it’s not proportionate. The way to make them melt is to make it special. Imagine the situation where she is at work and she received bouquet with a card “I love you from Brian”. Or you fetch her after work with the bouquet or another idea for those who doesn’t live with their partner is to drop the flowers at her home and fetch her at work, on arriving at her place, don’t enter but leave her on the door and go away. I guarantee that she’ll phone you in seconds.

Dance with her:
I didn’t know that dance was such a good thing for dating or even to light up again the flame between you and your partner until I watch “Take the lead” and “Moulin Rouge”. You could go to dancing courses with your partner and then both of you could learn to dance. A tip, choose something that will bring you both the nearest possible, like Tango. Just believe me, two body forming only one, it brings out some hidden feelings.
P.S. I you already know dancing tango, teach to her (at home), it’s better.

Go to secret places or share secrets:
You both does something bad and keep it as a secret. What I mean as something bad is not to kill somebody or steal something but does something you won’t be able to tell anybody. Just like a student might play truant with her girlfriend and go wherever. I don’t mean I support student playing truant or people doing bad thing but to share an exciting secret is something you must experience. But you must promise to be the only two to know this, no friend, and believe me, each time you will talk about the secret between you two, this will increase the flame between you.

I’ve taught you my fantastic three secret to flame revival. Now, it’s up to you to practise and win or let go and die…

Cheerio…

Humanwired featured on lamauricienne.mu and platform96.mu

Laeticia — Mon, 11 May 2009 11:32:55 +0000

This morning when I was looking at the stats and referrer for the blog, I was happy to see that we received some visits originated from the website lamauricienne.mu and platform96.mu, two leading website in Mauritius. We are very proud (like this rooster) to have humanwired.wordpress.com featured on these two sites. A big thank for the owners of the two websites and keep it on…

Brian

You must cheat on your partner to have a successful marriage.

Laeticia — Mon, 11 May 2009 09:37:43 +0000

Many fans after seeing the title will suffocate with surprise or even anger, or they will read the title several times to be sure that they’ve read the title well. Yes, I’ve written that you must cheat to have a successful marriage. Read the post completely to understand what I meant by cheating is essential.
First of all, when I talk about cheating, it is not having an affair with someone else.. Not at all. Now that you are reassure, I can proceed with what I have to tell. When I say that you must cheat on your wife/husband cheat on your wife, it’s with you. Cheat on your partner with yourself.
My suggestion is that, you must allow your partner to discover you everyday, you must not allow him/her to know every part of you at once but on the other hand, you must know thyself (I like this word, thyself) completely: know what you like and dislike and allow, little by little, your partner to discover this also. Now comes the true meaning of the title of this post; do things you like like walking in your garden, painting or whatever else alone and enjoy yourself. It’s like cheating on your partner and don’t let him know, but give him clues about what you like. You will see that at once, it will not do anything on him but little by little, driven by his human nature firstly and then by his love for you, he will want to be part of your enjoyment and he will try to accompany you each time you will do your favourite thing. At last, you will found out that the cheating process (with yourself) will have the effect of attracting your partner more and more.

Cheating is a bad thing, and I will always say it but cheating your partner with yourself, is one of the bes thing you can do to make your partner grow closer to you.

Cheerio…

Light gives heat

Laeticia — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 09:11:56 +0000

I know there is no relationship at first sight between the post and the website but I wanted to outline the work of a groups of man and woman who have a cause at heart. The Light Gives Heat foundation who not only help people in need in African region but also are there to listen to them, to know them and then help.

Here is an extract of their mission statement and I find it wonderful:

But what if we were different? What if we were listeners instead of simply doers and what if we took a back seat to what is already being stirred in local people’s hearts and souls? What if we let their light shine? We have a feeling that if that were the case, their light would spread like wild fire – spreading hope from the inside out.

Click here for a direct link to their beautiful picture gallery and if you want to help to continue and grow this wonderful work, donate by going on their website, you’ll find the donate button.

How to manage your relationship as maths? 1 + 1 = from 0 to 1,000,000…

Laeticia — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 08:46:53 +0000

Maths are supposed to be a difficult subject to do at school. Forget about science because science’s hardest part is about calculation (like in chemistry or physics) returning to the point that mathematics is the hardest subject of the world. Even though it is difficult, I’ve got something more difficult, relationship.

For those who are not in a love relationship, you can continue to read; I’m not talking about a love relationship but about every relationship you can list. Say, friendship, brotherhood, relationship between you and your colleagues (and love relationship). What is the best part with mathematics is that whenever you ask a questions, the answer will be the same forever, 1+1 will remain 2 until your grand-children dies but in relationship, we cannot assume this, things changes everyday. You will not provide the same answer or emotion to someone on a day you ‘re happy like on a day you’re sad or angry, people changes at every seconds that’s why their answers changes everyday. But the real question is how to manage your relationships as maths, having the same answer everyday; you can’t…

People are not numbers and they cannot provide fixed emotions or as I like saying it, fixed answers. We can assume they will give such and such answer but find that their mood is different and they just say the complete contrary. Living life as maths is impossible, if it was possible, just with calculations we will be able to provide the complete future of a person because we know just how they work and think, with this, choice will not exists and without choice, there is not love. That’s why we can’t live life as mathematics, we cannot only live life.

So, go on living life and cheerio