Tiger & Elin Woods is the most public Swirl breakup/divorce that I can remember in ages.  And while they are celebs and live the life that most people can only dream of, their issues are common.  Broken relationships aren’t always fixable.  And as much as it pains me to write about Tiger Woods & Elin… I have to.  They are a visible interracial couple and popular topic. (google hits)

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This must be “dad give a speech” week.  I have no idea what my 2 kids are thinking.  Dirt Bike Boy needed an attitude adjustment and is living with me.  Now I have to deal with Alpha Boy.  He and I have always remained very close.  We talk every couple days and text almost daily.  But juggling a social schedule during the holidays and anything else you can image, we stay very busy.  And Alpha Boy is no different.  He also has his plate full of activities and responsiblities.

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Sooner or later a father has to step in and correct the attitude of a son.  That day arrived for Dirt Bike Boy last week.  It was an accumulation of bad behavior and his mother’s lack of discipline.  I was alerted by a brief conversation with his mother.  She mentioned that he had after school tutoring, as a result of not doing his homework for the last 2 weeks.

My natural response to this revelation was, “why did they wait 2 weeks before they notified you?”  As logical as that sounds, I didn’t find out the answer for a few more days.  A couple days later I decided to visit the school and his teacher.  I could tell that something had been going on, because Dirt Bike Boy let out a big sigh and held his head down.  Within 5 minutes I was well informed on the problem.

On a typical school day, Dirt Bike Boy is sent home with homework.  Once he arrives at home, he tell his mother that he doesn’t have any home work.  She assumes that he’s truthful and doesn’t worry about anything further.  When he goes back to school the following day, he tells the teacher there wasn’t enough time at home to get it done.  This process continued for 2 weeks, until the teacher called.[singlepic id=302 w=320 h=240 mode=watermark float=right]

I assured the teacher that the problem would be resolved.  And that’s when things for Dirt Bike Boy drastically changed.  After dealing with Frisco ISD last year, I decided that I was going to take control of the problem.  My approach was much more drastic than he expected.  When we arrived at his mother’s, I instructed him to go inside and pack a bag.  While he was inside, I called his mother and told her the news.

Dirt Bike Boy is changing his address.  He was no longer living with mom.  He’s living with me, until further notice.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a week, a month or longer.  I’ve taken total control of the situation.  At first, he displayed some resistance – crying, pouting and having a tantrum.  Within 20 minutes, he realized that I wasn’t affected by any of his ploys.  It’s 5 days and his behavior has changed.  His homework is done.

Thursday evening I was having dinner with Alpha Boy and Dirt Bike Boy.  Dirt Bike Boy asked, “when am I going back to my mom’s?”  I replied, “you’re with me until further notice.. could be 1 week .. could be 1 month.. it depends on if your behavior.”  Alpha Boy shook his head, “one day you’ll learn.. dad don’t play.”

So with my daily routine totally changed, I’m adjusting my dating life accordingly.

Of course, you have your idea of good sex, which isn’t always the same as the next person.  Well I judge good sex on the type/intensity of the orgasm that a woman has.   Naturally I’m a pleaser.  I like to give my sexual partner orgasms that will make her remember me for days or weeks later.  If I’m lucky she will even remember me years later.  So this is my list for the men to know if you’ve taken her to the heights of passion she’s never experienced before.  And I’m sure the women will agree.

5.  Legs shake –  One good thing about having a great orgasm is having your woman’s legs shake or quiver.  This is a minimum requirement if you ask me.  This is achieved when a woman has 2-3 intense orgasms and she is at a sensory overload.  I love looking down at her legs and noticing her knees twitching like a tree limb in the wind. This is usually when she feels relaxed and ready for a nap.

4.  Ringing Ears – If your partner has never experienced this, she’s missing out.  I know it’s not caused from screams or moans of ecstasy.  I’m not exactly sure what causes this, maybe it’s the sudden rise of blood pressure. It doesn’t really matter to me the why, but I know that when my partner has ringing noise in her ears, she’s ready to explode!

3.  Runny nose – After intense sexual activity and orgasms a woman’s nose will run.  Keep Kleenex handy.  She is just getting wound up.  Sometimes the only thing you’ll notice is her sniffing.  That means you’ve hit the spot.  If you continue to massage that spot, you’ll be surprised what happens next.

2.  Crying –  Sexually experiences for women can be a very emotional event.  If you reached this point, proceed with caution.  This is where stalkers can be created.  The overwhelm of emotions can make her cry in pleasure.  Because the intensity of an orgasm can leave her feeling very emotionally raw. Thus, the strongest emotion she is experiencing under the surface is now free to be expressed.  It is common for a woman to experience some hormonal fluctuations at orgasm, with the release of the hormone oxytocin contributing to the crying jag.

1.  Squirting –  This is also known as female ejaculation.  This refers to the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by women.  Female ejaculation is mostly accomplished by stimulation of the G – spot.  More rarely, ejaculation can be accomplished through external stimulation of the clitoris alone.  By the time she achieves squirting, she has probably experienced all the others on this list.

Post your comments, I’d like to hear your thoughts.

One thing that the Tiger Wood saga has created is a lot of talk about the black men being faithful spouses/mates.  I have the same conversation for years with friends, dates, and acquaintances.  And even though the concept that black men can’t be faithful and are sex addicts is practically as popular as the “hung like a horse” myth, it deserves to be my topic of the day.

Recently HW32 mentioned, “we all know that blk men have a VERY BAD rap sheet…Not to say all blk men are bad..but most white woman don’t trust a blk man in a relationship…”

Is that true?  Or is this just a local Dallas issue?  I’ll admit that Dallas has a very high divorce rate and there are cheating spouses/mates in every social circle.  But the one thing about dating in Dallas, there are more available women than men.  And if you’re a attractive black man that is open to swirl relationships, white women will line up to experience your coco cream.  It becomes a matter of supply and demand.  The demand for black men in the interracial scene is above average.

Being in demand is a good thing.  It allows me to have an almost endless supply of dates.  I can be picky with who I date.  I can date multiple women at the same time and not lie about it.  It allows me to have a low tolerance for bullshyt and drama.  It allows me to dismiss a high maintenance woman.  And every now and then, I wonder if there a limit to what I can get away with.

So the question arises, what would make me settle down with one woman?  What would make a black man settle down with one white woman?

It becomes an issue of meeting my needs.  Yes, it’s all about me.

• It means she is on the same social page as me.  I’ve met plenty of women that were social turtles.  They were slow to expand their social circle.  They retracted into their shell at the sign of any social events.  These are the women that were great to hang out with at home, but never wanted to go out on the town.[singlepic id=301 w=320 h=240 mode=watermark float=right]
• It means she remains the same sexy woman that I met.  As I’ve always promoted my 20% rule, there are so many women that don’t maintain their physical appearance.  It doesn’t take long before they don’t shave their legs, neglect their pedicure schedule and more.
• It means that she’s still has that insatiable thirst for sex.  Self explanatory… but just in case I need to spell it out.  She’s still a freak.  She enjoys sex before work.  She enjoys sex 4+ nights a week.  She even enjoys sex in public places.  ie. elevators, parking garages, golf courses, and ect.
• It means she’s not a buzz kill and ruin a good time with an attitude or jealousy.  I recently experienced this problem when I was out with some friends.  And the night didn’t end well.
• It means that if I dream it, she can make it can happen. This only applies to my dream woman, if she exists.

How could this be true?  I’ve been in several committed monogamous relationships.  And I didn’t cheat.

Why do black men have a bad “rap sheet”? Is it the endless supply of women that makes black men cheat?  Is it because women are slacking?  Or is it because black men are such fabulous lovers, the white women can’t resist?

The world’s most multi-cultural golfer has been in the news for having an affair.  His wife Elin Woods, aka black woman in white woman’s skin, acted like Bom-quita and kicked his ass.   And even though I’m tired of hearing about it in the news, I decided to chime in on the topic.  The facts are that even though Tiger is the best golfer on the planet, he’s the worst “player” in the world.  So even though I personally wouldn’t cheat on a spouse, if I was Tiger I would do everything different.

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Recently I attended one of the largest annual charity events in Dallas.  It was the 33rd annual Margarita Ball.  Amazingly over 10k people attended the Margarita Ball.  This black tie event benefits the Dallas Children’s Charities.  My original date MT33 wasn’t able to attend.  I decided not to search for a replacement.  My thoughts were, if there’s 10k people there.. there must be at least 4k single women.  And I was right.

It wasn’t until the day before, I found out TR37 was attending also.  Since she was a volunteer, I didn’t see her until after the event started.  This was the first time TR37 met my friends.  She was a bit shocked and didn’t leave my side for most of the night.  The event was fun.  Most of the evening was filled with free Margaritas, dancing and meeting new people.  Since I was the designated driver for my group, I spent most of the time drinking sodas and trying to keep up with everyone.[singlepic id=297 w=320 h=240 mode=watermark float=left]

Eventually we combined our group with FA40 and her group of friends.  I gave her a big hug and took several pictures with her.  She was dressed in traditional Indian attire.  It was colorful, layered and sexy.  As soon as the DJ started playing Lil Wayne and Drake, she and all her friends began to dance.  As I looked around, I realized that the crowd was culturally diverse.  The dance floor had a international flavor.  It was out of control, in a good way.  Before I knew it, TR37, FA40 & my friends were intoxicated from the Margaritas.  It became hilarious to watch them. [singlepic id=296 w=320 h=240 mode=watermark float=right]

Sometime during the drunken chatter, FA40 introduced me to another group of people as an “swirl blogger”.  I had to quiet them down, because TR37 was standing close and I didn’t want her to find out about the site.  I answered several questions and eventually we all exchanged contact information with several of them.

Overall, the Margarita Ball was a success.  Over $151k dollars in toy donations were received in one night and it was probably the largest multicultural event I’ve ever attended.  So I encourage everyone to donate to a local charity during the holiday season.  Celebrate good time with your friends, family and share with the less privileged.

Normally I don’t get drunk.  And normally don’t drunk text.  But Thanksgiving this year I did both.  Since I allow my kids to spend the holidays with their mom, I usually spend the day watching football.  This year was no different.  I woke up late and went to Fox Sports Grille for a turkey lunch.

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My goal on this site is to write about my interracial dating experiences.  If they are funny, I want to share  the story.  If they are sad, I want to share the story.  I also like to write about my parenting experiences with my two biracial kids.  And sometimes I write about hot topics in the news and other random stuff.

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Over the last few months, I’ve decided that I want to travel more.  So I decided to explore the interracial experience in other parts of the country.  I know the Dallas area is very liberal when it comes to interracial dating, with multitudes of  biracial children and a explosive multicultural environment.  So I’ve decided to make some travel plans.  Currently I have 3 destinations on my itinerary.

1. San Antonio, Texas
2. Louisville, Kentucky
3. Tulsa, Oklahoma
4. Port Charlotte, Florida

I plan to spend 4-5 days at each destination over the next 6 months.  My goal is to check out local tourist attractions, restaurants, shopping malls, night clubs, bars and much more.  Of course I will write about my experiences and take plenty of pictures.  I’m sure this will give some of my readers a different prospective and offer some insight on how the local culture accepts or rejects interracial dating/relationships. [singlepic id=293 w=320 h=240 mode=watermark float=right]

If you have any destination suggestions, I’d love to hear them.  Make sure they airport.  I’m not traveling to any small towns.