Inner Wizard Blog

Muster the Moxie to Open Opportunity Doors

Valery Satterwhite — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 23:04:27 +0000

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

For those of you who are new to this blog, the Inner Wizard is your unique expression of the human spirit. Some people call it a Higher Self, Inner Being, Soul, Heart-centered God force, or any number of other names that describe the voice of authenticity, intuition and the source of inspiration within each and every one of us. I playfully call it the Inner Wizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

What do those who achieve extraordinary success – Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey, Steve Jobs, J.K. Rowling, Bette Midler, Mary Kay Ash, Angelina Jolie, Howard Stern, Danica Patrick and Ellen DeGeneres have in common?

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

In a word, you’ve got MOXIE!
“We are all divine, but I was the only one who had the nerve to call myself that.” — Bette Midler
To apply this formula you must first ask, acknowledge and honor what would make your heart sing. If you don’t know the answer to this question or are feeling miscast in the story that is your life you may be on a path that is not your own.

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.

To achieve, maintain and enjoy extraordinary success you have to stand centered in the truth of who you really are. You must think, speak, act and renew your commitment to express your Moxie as you live and breathe each and every day.
Join me to Claim Your Truth, Own Your Power, Command Your Stage at http://www.MoxieTherapy.com to Muster Up Your Moxie!

“Laugh at yourself, but don’t ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don’t leave any of yourself safely on shore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory.” – Alan Alda

You will be getting an email from me in the next day or so to convert your InnerWizard.com subscription (if you have one) to www.MoxieTherapy.com. I have some powerful new free tools to give you so that you can Muster Up Your Moxie, become the hero of your opportunities instead of the victim of your circumstance.

With love and laughter,
Valery, your Moxie Master

http://www.MoxieTherapy.com

A Conversation with Dad: The Shock that Rocked My World

Valery Satterwhite — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 18:45:17 +0000

When you show up with love in your heart, what is returned to you is pure love.

While I knew this piece of universal wisdom to be true, I never experienced it so profoundly as I did the other day. I flew to Miami to see my aging ailing Father. I have a good, although not very close, relationship with Dad. My childhood was tumultuous. My parents went through a long drawn out battle of a divorce that left a lot of emotional debris. My father, who was a renowned neuro-psychiatrist, went on to make some horrendous decisions in his personal life. His misguided thinking and its outcomes were splattered across the media headlines on more than one occasion. Other bad choices liquidated the wealth he had built up over his lengthy career.

I defined my Dad by these life-altering choices. Taking the lessons I learned with my as I watch his life experience crash and burn, I made different decisions – took different paths – in my own life. What I didn’t know, until the other day, that the greatest gift I would ever get would be from my Dad.

This week my Dad taught me the following:

1. You do not know what you do not know
2. The natural human spirit creates life and faces the end of life with grace and dignity.
3. As long as there is breath in our lungs there are gifts in the lessons that can be learned – we continue to grow.
4. When you show up with love in your heart, what is returned to you is pure love.

In earlier visits with my Dad I showed up as if I was fulfilling a family obligation. I had my expectations about what the short time we spent together would be like and got exactly what I expected. Year after year. All I did was reaffirm what I thought to be true about my Dad and my relationship with him; Dad was a selfish SOB and he never knew or cared much for me.

This time I knew it might be the last time I would see him while he was still lucid. He’s bedridden and cannot see or hear very well. I prepared his tiny meals and fed him as I would any infant. Sitting at his bedside I decided that I would give him the gift of closure, peace of mind, so that he could let go comfortably. I decided to arrive in a state of love instead of expectation.

I wasn’t prepared for what I experienced. Here was a man who I thought was devoid of emotional tenderness, any interest in who I am as his daughter, and full of himself. Who I experienced was a man stripped of all ego, all parts of him that he used to cope with his own inner pain, freely expressing his truth. It was the most profound awakening I have ever witnessed. The awakening wasn’t within him. This new perspective came from within me. I woke up to who my Dad really is at his deepest core and it rocked my world.

Dad expressed the lessons he learned, his love for me, my siblings, his wife whom he was once estranged and his love of life. While his Alzheimer’s made it difficult for him to fully communicate what he wanted to say he spoke of his appreciation for life and all that it had to offer. When his memory failed he would fill in the gaps with a little joke, a rhyme or pieces of an old song that surfaced out of nowhere. I was captivated and engaged as an observer and witness to the joy and delight that is my father. My time with him flew by and I longed for more.

I kissed him goodbye when I left. The flight home was tearful as I felt a wave of stuck toxic energy within me release itself. The resulting hole in my inner being was filled with love and appreciation for the resiliency, enormous power and inner wisdom that is the human spirit. I am grateful that I had learned enough of my own lessons to get out of my own way so that I could experience what I never thought possible….to know and love and be loved for who I am for and by my Dad.

I was completely wrong about who I thought my Dad was. His actions were always well intended yet his choices of execution were woefully misguided through his own Inner Critic, his own pain. Dad is a man filled with love for his children and his purpose in life, to heal others in pain. He never gave up his quest to become the man his heart longed to express. I was blessed to be a witness as he revealed his truth, all that he had learned, and all that he still had to share.

I invite you to show up with love in your heart the next time you visit with what you assume are your dysfunctional family relationships. Give yourself the gift of the profound power, energy and lessons that can be learned through the purest expression of the human heart.

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.

How to Stop A Downward Spiral

Valery Satterwhite — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 19:36:13 +0000

Have you ever felt a little out of control, perhaps short-tempered, not in a good place, spiraling downward and not sure why? I help lots of people every day rise above this state so that they can master their opportunities instead of continue to crash and burn as a victim of their circumstance.

So you can imagine my surprise when I recognized that I was smack in the middle of my own tumble and fall.

It happens. To everyone. The key is to be aware of where you are so that you can examine what brought you to that place so you can turn yourself back around.

A downward spiral starts with an event or two that sets off a trigger. This charge stirs up old outdated coping behavior that only serves to add energy to the emotional roller coaster. Events in and of themselves do not cause stress. It is what we have these events mean for or about us that ignites the fall from grace.

In my case it was the notification and the cold realization that my Father won’t be with us for very much longer. He lives 3,000 miles away and I only see him a couple of times a year. I fly in and fly out as quick as I can for the obligatory visit. We were never very close.

I made my peace with my Dad years ago. He’s 94 years old so I’ve been well prepared for this day for a few years. Even with a good attitude, the life he’s living now hardly able to walk with very little eyesight or ability to hear isn’t what he wants. So why was I on such a downward spiral, unable to get out of my own way?

I stopped everything that I was doing so that I could quiet my mind. In the silence, that calm inner wisdom, what I playfully call the Inner Wizard, spoke to me. It told me that I was not reacting to the eventual death of my Dad, I was beginning to mourn the loss of not having a warm loving close relationship with my Father – ever. If he was gone, then it is certain, I will never know what that kind of parental relationship feels like. This pain, this profound sadness, had been buried deep within me all these years without me realizing it. And now that pain was bubbling up to the surface. I allowed myself to feel the deep inner pain of that realization.

After some time, I turned my attention to the lessons I learned as a result of the dysfunctional parental upbringing I went through. I understood that my Father, too, never had much of a childhood. He came from a very poor family, raised himself on the streets of East Orange, New Jersey and became a recognized expert in his field. His personal life was riddled with his own downward spirals, major crashes and severe burns. I learned a lot of valuable life lessons as the observer of his life experience. I also knew that he was always well intention, just very misguided by his own inner pain, his jabbering Inner Critic. How could my Father express his love for me when he couldn’t even love himself.

As a child I thought he considered me to be a disappointment, a moron. His word for me, “lamebrain”, echoed in my mind. Through my own personal journey of self awareness I realized that everyone is doing the best they can with the light they have to see. My Father was just misguided and misdirected. Even as a brilliant neurologist, he was missing several batteries in his flashlight when it came to his own perception of himself and the world.

What I discovered as a result of having gone through the experiences, the pain, the sadness, the anger, resentment, the self-loathing enabled me to turn all of that into forgiveness, peace, joy and unconditional love. I discovered that he really did, and does, love me. I would not be who I am today without my Dad. I may not have reached a point where I felt so lost and shut down to muster up the courage and the strength to do something about it. I became committed to claiming my truth, owning my power and commanding my life direction. I love who I am and what I do in my life today – teaching others how to do the same.

Wow. My Father went through a lot of pain to give me a priceless gift. He gave me the gift of empowerment and self-actualization. We are complete. I now feel nothing but love for him. At peace, and off the downward spiral, I booked a flight to see him so I could tell him, in person, how much I love him and thank him for all that he has given me.

You have the power within you to turn around irrational coping patterns that manifest as emotional tornadoes of angst. Downward spirals are a signal that you have a tremendous opportunity to rise above, reach even greater levels of expanded awareness and possibility. If you are in such a state, love and value yourself enough to get the gift in the profound lessons you can learn to heal and grow.

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.

Prepare To Be Mystified!

Valery Satterwhite — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 17:51:05 +0000

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” - Bob Dylan

Some of you may have noticed that I have not been blogging in the last two weeks. Empowered by my Inner Wizard, I am busy joyfully creating a new and even more powerful website jammed packed with new goodies for you! For those of you who are new to this blog, the Inner Wizard is your unique expression of the human spirit. Some people call it a Higher Self, Inner Being, Soul, Heart-centered God force, or any number of other names that describe the voice of authenticity, intuition and the source of inspiration within each and every one of us. I playfully call it the Inner Wizard.

The outer expression of the Inner Wizard is:

Worthy

Inspirational

Zealous

Authentic

Responsible

Deliberate

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself. Stay tuned. I will keep you posted.

“Laugh at yourself, but don’t ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don’t leave any of yourself safely on shore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory.” – Alan Alda

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.

How To Identify and Transform A Victim Mentality

Valery Satterwhite — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 01:11:57 +0000

In one of the Harry Potter books Harry comes face to face with a mirror in which he sees his parents staring back at him. He longs to stay with the mirror to continue to see his parents and Professor Dumbledore tells him he must stop. This mirror shows exactly what the viewer wants to see instead of what is.

You view your life through such a mirror.

What you see and what you experience is really what you want or expect to see at your deepest core. What you see is not reality. It is merely an interpretation shaped by your belief system and internal thought patterns – too often created by your Inner Critic, the voice of self-doubt and fear that you hear chatting endlessly in your mind.

Your husband doesn’t appreciate you, your boss is unrealistic in her expectations, the economy is holding you back, and the grass is most definitely greener in someone else’s yard. Bad things happen and you want to say that the people or circumstances around you are to blame for these things.

You can’t be, do or have what you want because of someone or something else – outside of you. You don’t take responsibility for your life because you think that these other people and circumstances have power over you.

The challenge with this thinking is that it turns you into a victim. Some experiences are too painful to admit that you had a hand in it so you would rather look the other way and say it is someone else’s fault. Well, it is someone else’s fault in a way – it is the fault of your Inner Critic. Oh wait, your Inner Critic is your own creation – so it really is your fault.

Not really. While your experiences are your responsibility the word fault, shame, or blame has no place in you examination of the events of your life. You do not deliberately create bad experiences for yourself. You do not deliberately set yourself up as a victim of your life. Unfortunately where you struggle, you have unconsciously given your power over to your Inner Critic and you are now victim to its misguided opinions and demands.

When you are in this state know that it is your Inner Critic just trying to do his job of keeping you safe. He does this by holding you back. By Finding Excuses And Reasons he will not allow you to move forward out of your safe comfort zone where you will have newer unknown – therefore potentially scary – experiences. By the way – the words Finding Excuses And Reasons create the acronym FEAR .

Your Inner Critic is afraid of anything it does not already know. You may not like your current comfort zone but your Inner Critic knows it to be safe so you’ll stay right where you are, thank you very much!

To hold firmly to your personal power, to deliberately direct and govern your life experience you must reclaim the power you have given to your Inner Critic. Restore it to the voice that comes from your heart, the place of your authenticity, intuition, passion and inspiration. Some people call this their Higher Self, Soul, or Inner Being. I playfully call it the Inner Wizard. Look within and ask from your heart what role you played in creating a specific experience.

Let go of any judgment when you ask this question. Just look for information. When you discover how YOU created the bad stuff you now have the knowledge to put in corrections to have a better experience the next time a similar situation is presented. Without such examination you will continue to repeat the same unwanted patterns of behavior that create the same bad experiences over and over again.

In your examination, you will realize what you can do to turn the situation around so you can have a good experience moving forward. Sometimes, just realizing that you have the power to create even the bad stuff brings relief and new awareness.

If you have the power to create the bad stuff you also have the power to create the good stuff. Examining good experiences will give you the recipe to create a similar good experience over and over again.

If things are not going well for you - stop. Take a breath and tap into your Inner Wizard. She will tell you where you went off track and give you guidance on how to get on the right road again. Ask for help in seeing a bigger picture. This new perspective can be as simple as understanding that you absolutely without question have the power to change your life. You are a victim to no one and no circumstance.

No one can take away your personal power but you can surely give it away. Take it back from wherever you’ve parted from it. Let your heart-centered Inner Wizard guide you to the places you left your personal power behind.

Own and face your responsibility in any situation. Learn the lesson and forgive yourself for the part you played if it is an unwanted experience, and let it go. Remember how you felt when you gave up your power and became a victim. Notice how you feel now that you have reclaimed your personal power and are creating the experiences you choose to have.

If you ever want to know whether you are operating from a Victim mentality just check to see how you feel. If you feel bad, you have allowed yourself to be a Victim of your Inner Critic. If you feel good, you are standing solidly in your personal power deliberately creating a life that makes your heart sing.

You and you alone are responsible for the quality of your life. You have the inner resources to be the deliberate creator of your life experience. By disarming your Inner Critic and empowering your Inner Wizard, you will transform your victim mentality to a powerful creator. You will then be empowered to succeed in the passionate and authentic pursuit of your deepest desires.

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.

The 3-Step Inner Wizard Formula For Success

Valery Satterwhite — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 01:11:18 +0000

There are what seems to be an infinite number of books that provide a formula for success. They will tell you to work hard, pay your dues, earn advanced degrees in your education. The Inner Wizard formula for success, however, is a bit contrary to many of those strategies and quite simple.

There are 3 Essential Empowering Factors in the Inner Wizard Formula for Success:

•    Authenticity: Who You Really Are & What You Want to Achieve
•    Confidence: Self-esteem and Intuition
•    Alignment: Mindfully Speak & Act in the Direction of your Highest Goals

To apply this formula you must first acknowledge where you currently are and get clear on what success looks like for you. What would make your heart sing? If you don’t know the answers to these initial questions you may be on a path that is not your own.

Do you even know who you REALLY are? Do you show up in your life authentically? Or have you become who you “SHOULD be” or are “SUPPOSED to be”? Are you expressing your authentic self each and every day or have you learned to express who you were conditioned to be from an early age? If you are chronically tired or feel unfulfilled then you’re probably living through your conditioning instead of who you came into this world to be, your natural self. If you have a lot of energy and feel good about who you are and what you’re doing then you are living as, or very close to, your true self, your true nature.

How you feel will tell you whether or not you are led by your Inner Critic or your Inner Wizard. Your Inner Critic is the conditioned voice that speaks through self-doubt and fear. The voice of your Inner Wizard is the voice of your truth, your intuition and deepest desires. If you believe your conditioned self is your true self and make life decisions based on that false view you set yourself up for a lifetime of struggle. You’ve empowered your Inner Critic and become it’s victim.

To achieve, maintain and enjoy success you have to stand centered in the truth of who you are as you live and breathe.

Confidence is the factor that convinces you that you are capable of achieving whatever goals you set for yourself. Self-esteem is rooted in how you value yourself. If you have high self-esteem you know you are worth whatever effort it takes to achieve your goals and realize your dreams. Without a healthy self-esteem, you will just buy the books, attend the seminars, buy the gym memberships, make the New Years resolutions and so on, and never follow through. Your Inner Critic will continue to lead your life’s direction.

You’ve already been there, done that. To the extent that you have not yet achieved your dream is the extent to which you have allowed yourself to fall into the trap set by your Inner Critic to keep you safe in your current comfort zone. If, however, you tap into your own intuition you will be guided by inner wisdom to propel you forward. You will naturally focus your energy and intention upon your deepest desires. You will pay attention to your gut feelings – you know, the voice you said you should have listened to instead of making the decision or taking a step that didn’t end well.

The third factor for success is to speak and act in alignment with what it is you long to achieve. Mindfully pay attention to your words, your thoughts and your actions. Do they move you closer to or away from your goals? Do they support success or limit your ability to triumph? If how you think and feel goes against what you intend to create then reach for a newer and better perspective. You must rise above unconscious unsupportive self-talk, procrastination, limiting beliefs and any actions that only serve to hold you back. Even a decision to not do something, such as public speaking, is an action that keeps you from success if getting out in front of people will move you up a few rungs on the proverbial ladder to success.

Once these three empowering Inner Wizard factors are actively in place, your success is guaranteed. You will naturally and intuitively work tirelessly and joyfully as you turn your dreams into reality. You will continue to grow and expand your vision of what it possible for you to achieve reaching higher and higher levels of achievement you wouldn’t consider possible today.

You and you alone are responsible for the quality of your life. You have the inner resources to be the deliberate creator of your life experience. By disarming your Inner Critic and empowering your Inner Wizard, you will get out of your own way as you succeed in the passionate and authentic pursuit of your deepest desires.

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.

How To Empower Yourself for the New Year

Valery Satterwhite — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 01:11:51 +0000

This is the time of year when people get off the proverbial treadmill of their workday world and allow themselves some time to reflect on the past year – what they accomplished, what they didn’t, what was good, and what wasn’t so great. Too often people feel like they’ve fallen short of their expectations of themselves and spend the time beating themselves up over mistakes, missed opportunities or what ‘could have been’. Perhaps this is why many people fall into a bit of a depressed state at this time of year. Their Inner Critic is celebrating the holidays with a good dose of self-judgment, blame, criticism and added drama.

If this sounds familiar to your experience it is time to put the Inner Critic to bed for the year. Give him a sippy cup and a bankie. It’s time to let your Inner Wizard come out and play. Your Inner Wizard, the voice of your truth, intuition and inspiration, knows that mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow. Missed opportunities provide more gifts in the lessons they provide. Empowered Inner Wizards focus on what “can be” instead of what “could have been”.

It’s time to Empower your Inner Wizard. Let him join the party. As you slow down the pace, rest and relax over the holidays, have some fun with your Inner Wizard. Expand your vision for 2010. Reach deep within you to ask your Inner Wizard the following question:

For 2010:

If I got really radical today, stopped fearing the consequences, let go of any doubts about my ability to succeed and enthusiastically set out to be what I was born to be, what would I be doing?

Once you have your answer you have your intention for 2009. Write it down! Tell others about your intention to hold you accountable. Empower your Inner Wizard to guide you, give all of your energy, attention and focus to that intention, take action as guided by intuition. Mindfully speak and act with purpose and in the direction of what your heart is calling you to become and you will absolutely turn that dream into a very real experience.

I asked myself that question. I was not surprised at the answer. It was something that has been nagging at me for a long time. The funny thing is, the answer was rooted in what I have been resisting the most – public speaking. I know, with certainty, that what I resist out of – yes, I admit it – FEAR – is the very thing my heart longs for. So I have set my intention and have already taken forward action to ramp up my speaking engagements to larger audiences in the coming year. I’ve written it down. I’ve told you.

As creative beings our fundamental life-affirming need is to continue to move forward and grow. Like sharks, if we stop moving we will whither and die. If you notice that you are holding yourself back from acting upon your intention take a breath, acknowledge where you are and take one baby step forward. Then another. Soon you’ll be off and running again.

May 2010 bring you love, laughter and empowerment.

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.

Happy Holidays And My Favorite Things

Valery Satterwhite — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 01:11:06 +0000

I wish you LOVE, LAUGHTER, HEALTH and HAPPINESS now and for all eternity. This is a wonderful time of year to express your love for those who touch your heart and, most importantly, for your self. To the extent that you struggle in life is the extent to which you hold back love of self and others. Know that you are loved. I love you.

This is the time of year when we slow down a bit and reflect upon what worked and where we can learn a lesson or two in the experiences we’ve had over the past year. I’ve spent the last couple of days doing just that. What I realized was that I was doing a great job of teaching yet not a great job of sharing who I am with you. The Internet is a wonderful platform to get to know people from all over the world who share interests and with whom we can enrich each other’s lives. I’d love to learn more about you so please introduce yourself in the comment box below.

I’ll start. Here are a few things about me you may not know.

1. I have a wonderful husband, Al Satterwhite, who is a photographer and cinematographer. You can check him out on Facebook or at his website: http://www.AlSatterwhite.com.

2. We have 2 cats rescued from the Hurricane Katrina debris when they were kittens. They’re delightfully odd. Willow ‘prays’. I have a video of her doing that on my Facebook page, ID: Valery Satterwhite. Scroll down the page – its at the bottom left hand side of the page. Dakota loves Twizzlers! I had one on my desk one day and she ate half of it. I’m a good Mom, I don’t let her eat any more candy.

3. I have a sister, brother-in-law and niece who live about 5 minutes down the road from where I live. We spend time together most weekends. There’s always good wine and lots of laughter involved.

4. I have another sister, Father and Step-Mother in Florida as well as another niece and nephew. I’d love to see them more often.

5. A few of my favorite things:

- White chocolate
- Going to The Laugh Factory in Hermosa Beach, CA. They often showcase 10 comics for ten bucks! Going to see Eddie Izzard in January
- Traveling and meeting people from other parts of the world. They know the best places to go and things to do. Many have become lifetime friends.
- A story well told. Yes, I’m a sucker for a good chick flick.
- White chocolate
- Fashion. Favorite designers are Demeulemeester, Dries Van Noten, Holly Harp (Vintage), Temperley, Dinnigan and my Pucci collection.
- Mid-century modern and Art Deco architecture
- Music: Van Morrison is my ultimate favorite artist, although there are lots of other artists I like. Christina Aguilera has an amazing voice.
- Red wine. Can’t drink the white stuff. I use white wine when I cook.
- Dance. I love to watch a dancer ‘in the zone’. ok, here’s a secret: I danced on the Jackie Gleason show when I was really really really young.
- I don’t know how old I am. I was very young when I was born.
- Formula One. This is a new interest. It’s the only sport Al cares about. I’ve decided to get into the sport to know what’s going on. Go Hamilton!
- White chocolate
- Sunsets and sunrises. We’re up before dawn. It’s my favorite time to write.
- Being silly, especially with friends.
- An engaging conversation where I learn something new.
- TV: Grey’s Anatomy, Private Practice, Brothers and Sisters, Craig Ferguson, Charlie Rose, Inside the Actors Studio, The Daily Show. Studio 60 was great, really well written, but it got cancelled.
- Sushi
- The fish market at the Hermosa Beach pier.
- The friends I am blessed to have in my life
- Books. I’m an avid reader. Have recommended “Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert. Check out her video at www.Ted.org
- Ted.org – great site, very informative and inspiring.
- Did I mention white chocolate?

There are a lot of things I love to do and enjoy. But that’s enough about me for now. I’ll share more in future blog posts. I’d love to learn more about you so please tell me about you, your dreams, desires, what inspires you, what challenges you and what makes your heart sing.

Happy Holidays!

Much love,
valery

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.

Time For A Chuckle: 21 Ways To Annoy Everyone

Valery Satterwhite — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 01:11:42 +0000

51 Ways To Annoy Everyone

1) Pretend to be one of the (Bart) Simpson family. Doesn’t matter which.

2) Have an uncontrollable lusting for someone new every five minutes.

3) Pretend to be from different ethnic backgrounds every hour, and when people ask you about it, answer like a hillbilly would.

4) Act like a hillbilly. Period.

5) Improvise Italian operas.

6) Gossip about someone to their face.

7) Answer every question with a question.

Repeat yourself constantly.

9) Act like a member of the opposite sex.

10) Repeat yourself constantly.

11) Act like Mr. Flanders from The Simpsons.

12) Repeat yourself constantly.

13) Change what you repeat every now and then.

14) Use homonyms in your e-male that the spell cheque would knot sea as miss steaks.

15) Change what you repeat every now and then.

16) Talk to someone while looking at somebody else.

17) Employ in your casual banter extensive vocabulary that will befuddle thy contemporaries.

18) Change what you repeat every now and then.

19) One word: Caffeine.

20) Another word or two: Caffeine and Sugar.

21) stringwhateveryousayintoonelongwordsoitshardtomakeoutwhatyou’resaying.

If you love silly nonsense like I do, you just had a good chuckle, a guffaw or jello running out of your nose. A daily dose of laughter and joy enriches all aspects of life. It is a great stress reducer and encourages a number of physical benefits including the production of endorphins and disease fighting immune cells. Finding ‘the funny’ in daily life and the human condition heals and uplifts emotionally and spiritually too. When you laugh, you relax, feel energized and are able to see the lighter side of life.

A good giggle gets your blood flowing and raises your inner vibration. We live in a vibrational Universe. What you experience in life is a mirrored reflection of your vibrational level. It’s the vibes, man! Healthy good vibrations create good experiences. Defeating bad vibrations create unwanted or ‘less than’ experiences. It’s a simple as that. When you laugh you elevate your natural vibration, your self. In this way, laughter is like a magic wand that turns negative emotions, stuck energy and static thoughts into powerfully intuitive A-HA moments that propel you forward in your creative endeavors.

When you notice that you are anxious or stressed in any way reach for a moment that will tickle your funny bone. Watch a madcap movie, read a joke book, share some fun with family and friends. You will discover that you feel lighter and have a new and better perspective on any challenges you face.

“You don’t stop laughing because you grow old. You grow old because you stop laughing.” – Michael Pitchard

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.

4 Steps to Manage Toxic People

Valery Satterwhite — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 18:09:33 +0000

Do you have people in your life who sprinkle misery wherever they go? When you spend time with them, do these people suck the life energy right out of you? Do you they make you wrong, make you feel angry, deflated, belittled, inadequate or unworthy? If so, you have become their victim. As a victim you can only create more experiences of victimization. As chocolate is poison to a dog, these noxious people have the power to reinforce limitations and low self-esteem within you that will hold you back from the successful pursuit of your creative endeavors – if you let them.

There is a distinction between someone who’s just having a ‘bad hair day’ and a virulent person. The former is experiencing a moment of stress or anxiety the latter demonstrates chronic toxic behavior. People who are just trying to cope, albeit misguidedly, on a particularly stressful day don’t feel good about lashing out at someone else. Those whom complain all the time or unload their blame or anger upon you and then feel better about themselves as a result are the ones to keep an eye out for and manage. If you don’t they will dump their negativity and pessimism upon you, drain you dry of motivation and inspiration to move forward in your life. The human spirit is like a shark. It has to constantly move forward or it dies.

“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.” – Benjamin Franklin

There is a simple test to recognize whether or not you have a toxic person in your life:

Examine the experiences you have had with this person. It doesn’t matter much what you were doing together, just reflect upon whether or not your are energized or depleted at the end of the event. Reflect upon more than one instance to discern whether there is an emotional pattern or a single incident. Were you tired or inspired? If you discover that you are left exhausted or weakened by your exposure to this person then you are in the presence of a toxic person. If you feel nourished by the experiences you’ve had with that person this is someone with whom you want to spend more time.

If you identify a toxic person in your life here are 4 Steps to manage and transform your relationship with that person.

1. Observe that this person is doing the best he or she can given the light they have to see. A toxic person is in the dark or at least missing a few batteries in their flashlight, their self-perspective and world view. You cannot change or control anyone.

2. Distance yourself from this person. Limit your exposure to and the time you spend in their presence. If it is a co-worker or family member and avoidance is unlikely, let whatever poisonous babble they expel go in one ear and out the other. Do not react or take on their anguish. Hold onto your personal power by refusing to engage, stoop down to their emotional level.

3. When they are complaining, finding fault with you, their circumstance, or the world in general ask them what they DO like about the matter at hand. Get them focused on a more positive note; what they like instead of do not like; what they want instead of do not want.

4. Feed your soul. Do something that replenishes and energizes you after your encounter with a toxic person. Center yourself by taking a few cleansing breaths to ground you as you shake off their destructive residue.

You and you alone are responsible for the quality of your life. You have the inner resources to rise above any and all adverse communication. As master of your life experience, you have the tools to deliberately create the outcomes you want to have with the people with whom you are in contact in your personal and professional life.
“You cannot cause a shadow to disappear by trying to fight it, stamp on it, by railing against it, or any other form of emotional or physical resistance. In order to cause a shadow to disappear, you must shine light on it.” – Shakti Gawain

Exciting News!

My gut, my intuition, my Inner Wizard has been calling me to allow it to come out and play, to boldly and fully express herself.

The day has arrived. The Inner Wizard now boldly expressing herself at Moxie Therapy. This is the last blog I will be posting at InnerWizard.

The Inner Wizard is:

Worthy
Inspirational
Zealous
Authentic
Responsible
Deliberate

When you show up in your life fully expressing those attributes, you’ve got Moxie!

Moxie

Those who rise above mere success to create an extraordinary life have the guts, fortitude, Moxie, the confident courage to achieve authentic greatness with unrelenting drive and passion.

“When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it – don’t back down and don’t give up – then you’re going to mystify a lot of folks.” – Bob Dylan

You are here to mystify a lot of folks. As such you already have within you everything you need to astound, amaze and electrify your world. You were given these gifts as your birthright:

M – ability to Master your opportunities

O – Omnipotent; having unlimited power to create

X – the “X” factor – your Authenticity; who you really are; unique purpose

I – Intuition: inner wisdom

E – Energetic expression: boldly thinking, speaking & acting with intention

Unless you are tapped in to your Nature, your authenticity, instead of your Nurture, your conditioning, you cannot express your MOXIE.