Inspirational Christian Chatter

Supersize My Order by Crystal Reyes

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 23 Aug 2012 18:30:14 PDT

“I would like a double portion of your spirit.” Imagine those words being directed toward you. These days everyone wants to be like a superstar but how many people strive to be like you or me? Is there anything about us that someone else would like to imitate and model after spending time with us?

Are you living a life worthy of following or are you living for self? There is a saying, “everybody wants to go to heaven but no one wants to die.” We must understand that in order to live we must die to our wants and to our will and intead give birth to a new way of thinking and living.

2 Timothy 4:7 states “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.(NIV)

My sisters let’s continue to fight on and live a life worthy of our calling. Let’s make God smile when he looks down and see his children doing the work of a soldier in his army. While we continue to remain strong in this army let’s not forget the new recruits and that they are watching. Let’s live a lifestyle that is attractive and desired by others. Let’s work on super-sizing our love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. These are the fruits that keep us strong and healthy.

Elijah was a great mentor to Elisha and this faithful servant was committed to his disciple. He said: “As surely as the Lord lives and you live I will not leave you”. Ladies are we that committed to the cause of Christ?

Elisha asked for a double portion of his master’s spirit. When he asked for this gift, Elijah informed him that he asked for a heavy responsibility. Remember to whom much is given much is required.

Elisha was ready; his only requirement was to have his eyes focused on his master at the time of his departure. The Chariots of Fire pulled up and Elijah went up to his Master and the young servant wish was honored, Elisha received a double portion. How many times have we missed opportunities in life because we weren’t ready? Elisha was ready, willing and able.

Ladies lets supersize our faith! Let strive to be the mother’s, daughters, wives, mentors, soldiers and servants we know we can be and let’s live in such a way that others want the type of spirit we display!

Take the High Road by Crystal Reyes

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Sat, 18 Aug 2012 08:00:28 PDT

How many times have you come across a difficult personality or a not so friendly co-worker? Did you say to yourself, "I’m going to let them have a piece of my mind ?!!" Trust me we’ve all been there at some point in our lives. Unfortunately, some of us never get passed this stage of fighting back and letting go of the the small stuff.

There was a time when Jeremiah was complaining to God about how evil mankind was and God’s response was “If you have raced with men on foot and they have worn you out, how can you compete with horses?... (Jeremiah 12:5)

My sisters I encourage you to take the High Road. Learn to take an insult, swallow it and let it go, understand we are not here to wrestle with flesh and blood. There are higher forces that want to defeat you but how would you ever know if you continue to look past them and instead wrestle against flesh and blood? God told Jeremiah that it gets tougher than flesh. We can attempt to race man, but would you be prepared to run in the Kentucky Derby? My Sisters we can’t sweat the small stuff, we have to continue to build up our faith so we can run in the Derby of Life.

Taking the high road means getting to the point where you are a GPS (God's Proud Servant) and you are navigating around the office, in your home, and more importantly in God’s house more effectively. You turn left, right or make a u-turn because a voice (God's word) has directed you until you reach your destination. You understand that God is in control and that he gave his Son so that you may be free. Instead of fighting fire with fire, rely on God's grace, mercy and strength to deal with the negative actions of others. Only you can allow people to bind and tie you up by their words or actions. We must understand that if they didn’t respect the Savior and his word they may not respect the soldiers in his army. It’s okay to take the high road as this means we are taking the road our Savior walked. So, instead of reacting to negativity let us forgive and let go! Let's also encourage others to take this same walk and be an example for them to follow.

"You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden.” (Matthew 5:14)

When you come to various intersections in life, there should be no question about which road to take. Understand that none of us are perfect and we may fall off this road a couple of times but remember as long as the sun comes up there is always hope. The sun represents another day God has blessed us with and we should take advantage of the opportunity to make better decisions and live a better life. Remember that God is not like man and as long as you have the opportunity to see the sun rise, he is waiting for you to make a detour if you’re not on the right road.

I encourage you to get on the right road and encourage others along the way.

How To Fly Like An Eagle With Wings Like A Wimp!

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 14:14:06 PDT

Jonas Gadson

I had the priviledge to interview Jonas Gadson known as "Mr. Enthusiastic". We were able to spend some time together and I was able to soak in some of his wisdom. We spoke about the troubled economy and the effect it has on people's spirits. Mr. Gadson gave many encouraging words , ideas and suggestions for those who find themselves a bit perplexed and depressed. He gave a few power packed thoughts which he calls "A Bonus From Jonas". I want to encourage everyone to listen to the message below and also to forward it to someone else who you know will be blessed by this powerful message!!!

PS. A link to his book , How to fly Like an Eagle With Wings Like A Wimp is listed below for your convenience. Listen to some of the Amazon.com Reviews:

"How To Fly Like An Eagle With Wings Like A Wimp!" L. Strother, Educator Boston

Everyone has a story to tell! Mr. Gadson's story, "How To Fly Like An Eagle With Wings Like A Wimp!" about developing personal and professional greatness, is an inspiring and motivational one that all should hear. His enthusiasm flows through his writing.

Using analogies, acrostics, inspirational quotes, and stories of his life's struggles and accomplishments, he "ignites the eagle spirit in you." It is a message of personal growth that energizes you and makes you think about life with an "I Can" attitude regardless of the challenges or stage of life you're in.

I found it easy to relate his messages to situations and challenges in my own life. "Deciding to go for greatness" is not always easy, and self-motivation comes from being motivated. Mr. Gadson truly inspires you to "stick to it" and strive for more than mediocrity and his book does just what he said it would. It offers "HOPE: Having Only Positive Expectations for you!" that anyone can achieve greatness!"

Need Encouragement? Need a lift? Here you go!!! By Tanjanika

This book is brilliant. For anyone who feels as though failure is what your in or trouble, this book will help you figure out that your the best at whatever you want to be. Mr. Jonas tells how to put the Lord first and discover you can fly above the horizon of limits! His bonuses helps the reader to realize life is what you make it and dont worry about what others say. Since the day you was born you was a winner. This book is for anyone who wants to reach the level of greatness and enjoy their life. I would recommend this book for anyone young or old who feels like this world is too hard to handle or fly in. Jonas will make them realize the Lord has a special plan for all who keeps a positive attitude and keeps his word first. Love it and would read it again!

Great Read! By Gabriel
This book is a great read. It inspires the reader into following his/her dreams. It is easy to settle for mediocrity, but we are all so much more capable of that. I have learned a tremendous life lesson from this author, and I look forward to reading future publications.

Mr. Gadson is a Nationally-Known Motivational Speaker, Certified Trainer, Consultant, Radio Personality and Author. He is committed to helping people develop their personal and professional Greatness! Mr. Gadson brings over 30 years of corporate knowledge, skills, expertise and experience from Xerox Corporation and Eastman Kodak Company to the speaking and training arenas. At Eastman Kodak Company he trained over 8,000 people from 69 countries. Toastmasters International invited Mr. Gadson to deliver his signature speech at their 65th International Convention in St. Louis. He earned a standing ovation from over 500 people from around the world and his speech remained on the Best Selling List for two years! He was recently inducted into the Beaufort High School Alumni Hall of Fame (2010) for distinguishing himself in "profession, leadership and service!

Get Your "Bonus from Jonas!" in his new book.

What’s your money personality? By Joseph Lorick

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 13:41:21 PDT

Many people believe financial planning comes down to making sure their net income exceeds their total expenses. This mentality often leads to the same outcome of most diet plans; failure. Where did they go wrong? Most forgot to account for their money personality. If you find yourself to be one of these people, don’t feel bad. Many people have no clue what type of money personality they have. Here’s a little help to get you closer to identifying your money personality. Take a look at these four money personalities and see if one fits you.

(Disclaimer: Keep in mind; while you may relate to several of these personalities, one is usually more dominant than any others.)

The Chaser: Chasers are people that consistently attempt to acquire more wealth than someone else. These individuals perceive life as a race where first place is the only winner. This results in more financial risks being taken. They determine their level of success based on the failures of others. They also have a high regard for social status. People like Bill Gates and Warren Buffet are used as barometers of success. They may often be heard saying, “I haven’t made it because I’m still not on the level of…..” People with this money personality will relocate more often than others. Their insistence on social advancement will not allow them to live in one setting for a long period of time.

The Builder: Builders desire to increase everything they acquire. These individuals may be considered rich, but want to expand their assets as much as possible. They perceive life as an individual race with the goal of beating an ever changing best time. They may often be heard using the phrase, “I am working to expand my empire.” These individual are semi-stable, but relocate more often than managers or victims.

The Manager: Managers desire to manage their assets with extreme care. Income level is not their major concern. When it comes to their career, they are inspired to advance, but not solely for the purpose of increasing income. They often use phrases like, “As long as I do my part, everything else will fall in place.” These people are less likely to frequently relocate and usually live a stable lifestyle.

The Victim: Victims consistently blame their financial failures on others and circumstances. These individuals are not willing to do what it takes to change their circumstances. They often perceive life as a fixed race and feel cheating is necessary for victory. You may often hear them say, “It’s not my fault.” They are semi-risky partners because of their lack of desire to change. Victims may complain about their lifestyle, but will not take advantage of good opportunities to improve it. These habits make victims a difficult spouse to live with.

So, which one do you identify with the most? Remember to be honest with yourself and adjust your plans to fit your personality.

To learn more about money personalities and get other tips for good financial planning, pick up a copy of my debut novel, “Did Everything But Think: D.E.B.T” (Available on Amazon.com in kindle and paperback formats).

You can also follow me on twitter @DidEvthButThink or through my Facebook page, http://www.facebook.com/#!/DebtDidEverythingButThink.

Woman to Woman - What is this thing called Life ?

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 13:48:05 PDT

What Is This Thing Called Life?
Woman to Woman
By Crystal Reyes

When I grow up I want a husband and car and two children with a big house surrounded by a white picket fence. I want fame and fortune and I want to be so happy that life will love me and I will love life. I want to live happily ever after just like all fairy tales end. So now that I’m at this vending machine called life I would like some money, some peace, a butler, a baker and a candlestick maker.

In school we have classes on home economics, sewing, cooking and even shop classs. These are good skills to know for life. The moment we start school our brains and minds are being groomed to absorb information so we can progress to the next level. We are taught at a very young age to compete and to do our best. Let's face it we all want to win and succeed in this thing called life.

As we get older and start to reflect, we ask ourselves the following question; “What have I done with my life”.

Psalms 90:12 states; “So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.

We should understand that time waits for no woman. Life is here today and gone tomorrow and we need to do our best to make our days count.

What happens when life doesn’t work out as we dreamed? What happens when our dream starts crumbling and we’re stuck at a certain levels in life? The bible tells us to run in such a way that you win. What is your strategy for running and winning in life? Below are some strategies for you to consider in this life.

1) Get a Life by being a giver

Understand that no one owes you anything. There are two kinds of people in this world, givers and takers. Believe it or not most people think they are givers. However, a simple survey would negate that conclusion. Also there are givers who only give from their abundance. No abundance...no gift.

True givers give not solely out of their abundance but because they desire to bless others. They are willing to step out of their comfort zone and put someone else's interests in front of their own. realizing this is only their reasonable service.

Takers tend to talk the talk but don't walk the walk. They paint a picture but for some reason they are never in the picture. They can tell others how to bake a cake but for some reason they are never the main ingredient.

Be a giver!! It will pay eternal dividends.

2) Be a Living Sacrifice

Our educational system is not set up to have all the answers, they teach the basics. I have yet to read a scripture that states graduate from any school and you will be successful. What I have read is that the older women should teach the younger women. Teaching our girls does not guarantee them success but it alerts them to danger and happy experiences in our own lives. As a Christian women, people should see a difference in you and the way you relate to others. Come out from among them and be ye separate.

3) Read Your Bible

Feed your mind some healthy food. Read your bible, this is where you will get your strength. It’s a lifeline that you need within. Some things you have to experience for yourself, the word of God lets you breathe and sleep better, t comforts, protects and provides strength and guidance to the reader. Those who have ears to hear let him hear.

4) Pray

Prayer is a key to a successful life. The bible says that the effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much." (James 5:16) So we must pray not only for self but also for one another. Let's spend time with God and allow him to fight your battles for you. Sister, Pray when life is up, Pray when life is down. Because God is good all year round!

5.) Serve - It's not about what you get, but it's about what you give! Question what are you giving or doing? How are you serving? What is your ministry? I believe we all have a ministry that God has called us to, equipped us for and desires that we serve within. Look within yourself, ask others and if you still don’t know the answer to this question, pray, read your bible, and start trying to be a living sacrifice.

I pray that God will use you in a great way, I pray blessings upon you and that you would be a blessing to others.

The Importance of Self Esteem

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 13:50:55 PDT

The Importance of Self Esteem

By Jackie Christiansen

“Self-pity is our worst enemy, and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world.”

– Helen Keller
Millions of Americans suffer from low self esteem, and you may find it difficult to get out of your rut for a number of reasons. The biggest factor in self esteem comes from our youth experiences, whether positive or negative. For many people, self esteem can be achieved by simply reading a self-help book or starting a new hobby. However, others may have already fallen to depression, gang involvement, substance abuse, obesity, or illness and may need to complete a specialized treatment program to strengthen their confidence and find meaning in life.
Self esteem is defined as “Confidence and satisfaction in oneself.” While it may sound personal in nature, self esteem (or lack thereof) really underlies everything we do in life and how our relationships with others develop too.

Low self esteem strips us of our self confidence and when we think little of ourselves, we feel we do not deserve to be happy or successful. We feel unworthy of love.
Positive self esteem increases confidence and happiness, while improving the overall quality of our lives. We are comfortable in our own skin and treat others without any illusions, jealousies, hang-ups or insecurities.

So what’s the foundation for a positive self image and good self esteem? It’s about believing in yourself and knowing that you are unique, special, and designed for a purpose in your life and others. It’s about being the best person you can be and giving 100% in everything you do.

Here are a few ways to begin building your self esteem today:

Help others. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, help an elderly person grocery shop, hold the door for someone, instruct your child on a difficult homework assignment, or listen to someone in need of advice and offer your expertise.
Develop a talent or start a new hobby. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to learn to ski, paint, play guitar, ride a horse, or dance the salsa. Taking courses may awaken your passion and esteem.
Get a makeover. As we get older, we may become more slovenly about our appearance – whether we’ve already found someone who loves us unconditionally, we’ve lost a spouse, or we’ve just given up hope. Start looking good – not for others – but for YOU. Buy a new outfit, get a new haircut, change your hair color, go to the spa for a relaxing day, get a new pair of glasses, or buy a new accessory. If you’re not sure which direction to take, meet with a professional fashion consultant to gain exposure to new possibilities.
Reflect. Sometimes it’s a matter of ‘fessing up. Write down skills, talents and pursuits that you have. Ponder over awards you’ve won, compliments you’ve received, or good grades you got in school. Truly you have talents that no one else has. Not everyone can be a professional athlete, but perhaps you have a general proficiency in many different sports and that makes you special. Maybe you’re not the best at your job, but you bring a smile to your coworkers’ faces or provide inspiration that motivates others.
Push yourself outside your comfort zone. Do you fear public speaking? Are you terrified of walking up to a stranger and introducing yourself? Are you paralyzed by a fear of crowded elevators? Does the idea of being caught in public without makeup or without having shaved terrify you? Do something that you’ve been afraid of doing – not just once, but several times. Eventually, you will realize you can and will survive the experience – and you’ve come out stronger.

Remember, we cannot pick and choose what happens to us in life. We can only adjust our expectations and our attitudes.
Best,

About the author

Accomplished Entrepreneur & Executive Success Coach. Helping people achieve overall wellness through ultimate health and a positive mindset. MLM Coach and Leader. http://jackiechristiansenblog.com

Take Time to Sharpen Your Axe and Relax !!

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 13:54:58 PDT

We are busy people living in a busy world. We stay so busy that many wake up each morning, work all day long and when evening comes drop into bed, get a few hours sleep aand get up to reenact the same routine.

We live in a world that keeps us extremely busy. We're busy with our jobs, busy raising children, busy making (and spending) money, busy cleaning our homes and doing countless errands.

Today I want to challenge you to unbusy yourself!!! I want to encourage you to stop and smell the roses. Your mission, should you choose to accept it is to pamper yourself.

Sometimes we feel guilty taking some time out for ourselves. After all there is so much to do! Right?? Well, take some pointers from this story:

A Tale of Two Lumberjacks

Two lumberjacks, a younger one and an older one, raced to see who could cut down the most trees in a single day. At the end of the day the winner was obvious. The older lumberjack had won. The younger man could not believe it!

"How could you have cut down more trees than I did?" he asked. "Every hour you sat down while I kept right on cutting. I don't understand. How could you have cut more trees while sitting so much?"

When I sat down, I was sharpening my axe," the older lumberjack said. "Why didn't you stop to sharpen your axe?" "I didn't have time," the younger man said. "I was too busy cutting!"

I love this story!! It shows that when we slow down we are not being lazy. No, we are "sharpening our axe". In the bible God worked for six days and rested on the seventh. The seventh day was called Sabbath.

The Sabbath was instituted by God for the benefit of Man. Look at what Jesus said regarding Sabbath:

Mark 2:27, "Then he said to them, "The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath."

In the Old Testament not only was rest important for people. It was also important for the land. Lets look at God's command in Exodus 23:

Exd 23:10 And six years thou shalt sow thy land, and shalt gather in the fruits thereof:
Exd 23:11 But the seventh year thou shalt let it rest and lie still; that the poor of thy people may eat: and what they leave the beasts of the field shall eat. In like manner thou shalt deal with thy vineyard, and with thy oliveyard.

God obviously desires that we take time away for rest and renewal. I have read several scriptures that show Jesus retreating from his ministry in order to pray, rest and "sharpen his axe."

If Jesus had to do this What makes us think we can just keep going and going and going (energizer bunny reference) ??!!!

Here are some helpful ways tips to break away from the normal routine in an attempt to rest, relax and sharpen your axe.

1.) Pray - duh!!! :)
2.) Get some good sleep.... double duh!!
3.) Listen to some calming music - classical, meditational music, jazz, ext.
4.) Exercise - great for stress relief and weight control/loss
5.) Learn some deep breathing exercises- this helps oxygenate your blood
6.) Get a massage - they are not real expensive (especially if you are married) but make you feel like a million dollars
7.) Go take a stroll at a park, beach, etc. the combination of sights and exercise are great. You may also want to stop and pray while you behold the beauty of God.
8.) Take yourself to the movies - find something inspirational and moving!!
9.) Soak in the Tub - add some bath oils and bubbles for a nice home Spa.
10.) Read - bible, inspirational books, good clean novels. Feed your mind with good things

I hope you take some time to pamper yourself and to rest and relax. After all, you deserve it!

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 13:56:16 PDT

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, an enormously popular book by author John Gray, contains many suggestions for improving relationships between men and women through understanding the communication style and emotional needs of the opposite sex. As suggested by the title, the book asserts the notion that men and women are as different as beings from other planets, and that learning the code of conduct of the opposite sex is of essential value even if individuals do not necessarily conform to the stereotypical behaviour

Chapter 1: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

It is important to remember that men and women have reciprocally different natures. Men and women need to appreciate these differences, and cease expecting each other to act and feel the way they do.

Chapter 2: Mr Fix-It and the Home Improvement Committee

Men love to have their abilities recognised and appreciated, and hate to have them scorned or ignored; women love to have their feelings recognised and appreciated, and hate to have them scorned or ignored. Men don't rate feelings highly as in their view they can result in hotly impassioned, wildly unstable behaviour; women don't rate abilities highly as in their view they can result in coldly dispassionate, aggressively competitive behaviour.
Men like to work on their own, and exercise their abilities by solving problems quickly and singlehandedly; women like to co-operate, and exercise their feelings through interactive communication with one another. Men value solutions, and view unsolicited assistance as undermining their effort to solve problems alone; women value assistance, and view unsolicited solutions as undermining their effort to proceed interactively. Men desire that their solutions will be appreciated; women desire that their assistance will be appreciated.

Chapter 3: Men Go to Their Caves and Women Talk

When faced with tough problems, men become non-communicative so they can work out how best to help themselves, while women become communicative so that others can work out how best to help them. Men like to demonstrate their abilities by being allowed to solve problems without interference; women like to demonstrate their feelings by being allowed to relate problems without interference.
When men do communicate, they like to get to the point, and generally only want to listen if they feel the conversation has a point; women enjoy talking for its own sake, and are happy to listen unconditionally.

Chapter 4: How to Motivate the Opposite Sex

A man's instinct is to look after himself, even if it means sacrificing others; a woman's instinct is to look after others, even if it means sacrificing herself. In a relationship, a man has to learn how to care for his partner rather than sacrificing her needs in favour of his own, and a woman has to learn how to be cared for by her partner rather than sacrificing her own needs in favour of his, so that the needs of both are met. If they do this successfully, both win, unlike their instinctive behaviours where one person gains from another’s loss. This has to be worked at, because if either partner feels their efforts towards the relationship are not being successful in pleasing their partner, they may feel hurt and decide to revert to their instinctive behaviour. Unfortunately this then causes the other partner to do the same, and the relationship unravels inexorably.
In a relationship, a man needs to feel that his attentions are needed, and a woman needs to feel that her needs are attended. To achieve this, a man has to express his desire to fulfil her needs and her worthiness to receive his care, and a woman has to express her desire for his care and his worthiness to fulfil her needs. Both must remember to appreciate, accept, and forgive the other, and avoid blaming them when they fail.

Chapter 5: Speaking Different Languages

Men talk in very literal terms for the purpose of relaying information; women employ artistic licence and dramatic vocabulary to fully express and relate their feelings.
Men like to sort their thoughts out before communicating them, and have the tendency to become distant and non-communicative as they ponder their concerns. At this time, a woman needs reassurance that her partner still rates her as worthy of being taken care of. Women like to sort their thoughts out in the process of communicating them, and have the tendency to pour forth a litany of general grievances as they relate their concerns. At this time, a man needs reassurance that his partner still rates him as worthy of taking care of things. Both must try to avoid feeling personally to blame when their partners are dealing with problems.
When a man is troubled, he does not want his partner to express concern for him, but loves to be told that the problem is easily within his abilities to rectify because of the implicit vote of confidence in his abilities. When a woman is troubled, she loves her partner to express concern for her, but does not want to be told that the problem is a simple one to solve because of the implicit dismissal of her concerns about the issue. A solution should be sought once her feelings have been fully listened to: too quick a solution justifies his abilities but devalues her concerns, too enduring a problem justifies her concerns but devalues his abilities.
Men feel validated and gratified when they are left to sort things out by themselves, and feel undermined by being offered sympathy or unsolicited assistance. Women feel validated and gratified by being offered sympathy or unsolicited assistance, and feel undermined when they are left to sort things out by themselves.
To accommodate their partners' responses, each should make small changes to their behaviours and communication towards the other, but without compromising their own true natures.

Chapter 6: Men Are Like Rubber Bands

Men periodically bolt for cover when they suddenly fear that their self-sufficiency is becoming threatened. At these times they may become utterly unapproachable, demanding the right to be left on their own and to be allowed not to express their feelings, but if given support by being afforded space for a little while, they will soon feel better and spring back into their usual loving selves once again. It can be hard for women to handle the suddenness and speed with which men bolt for cover, and then subsequently spring back.
At times when men retreat into themselves, they can assist their partners not to be overly concerned or take it personally by providing some brief reassurance that they will return in due course. Women should resist the temptation to try to drag their partners back prematurely or criticise them over this natural behaviour.

Chapter 7: Women Are Like Waves

Women periodically sink into a depression when they feel it is time for emotional cleansing and resolution. At these times they may become utterly negative in their outlook, dwelling on every problem which troubles them, including long-standing ones which will generally have been raised and addressed before, and if they cannot find any real issues to concentrate on, then they will find some random other things to worry about.
They suspend their normal giving natures, demanding the right to express their feelings and not to be left on their own, and if supported and allowed enough time to express and release their negative feelings, they will begin to feel happier again and return to their usual loving selves. The slowness in which they sink into depression and subsequently recover may be hard for men to handle.
At times when women sink into themselves, they can assist their partners not to be overly concerned or take it personally by providing some brief reassurance that it is not their partners’ fault. Men should resist the temptation to try to lift their partners back up prematurely or criticise them over this natural behaviour.
Men demand the right to be free from time to time; women demand the right to be heard from time to time. When a man feels free he finds it easier to support a woman’s need to be heard; when a woman feels heard she finds it easier to support a man’s need to be free.
If a man’s periodic need to be free coincides with a woman’s periodic need to be heard, the best solution is for the woman to make do with being heard by her friends instead.

Chapter 8: Discovering Our Different Emotional Needs

Men and women need to remember that the emotional needs of the opposite sex are not the same as their own. Providing our partners with the wrong type of emotional needs will not be greatly appreciated.
Deep inside every man is a knight in shining armour seeking a damsel in distress who will love him, and shower him with trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement. Deep inside every woman is a damsel in distress seeking a knight in shining armour who will love her, and shower her with caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance. Men must listen attentively to women to understand their needs, avoiding getting angry or defensive; women must have faith in men's abilities and best efforts to fulfill their needs, avoiding trying to change or control them.

Chapter 9: How To Avoid Arguments

Communication between relationship partners should be loving and respectful; verbal attacks by contrast are highly destructive. It is often not so much what is said that causes the damage, but the tone of voice and body language which accompanies it.
Arguments thrive on men failing to pay sufficient attention to women’s feelings, and women being critically disapproving of men. Either one may be the initial trigger, because a man’s inattentiveness can cause a woman to get upset and express disapproval, and a woman’s disapproval can cause a man to get defensive and stop listening to how she is feeling.
When men make mistakes they become frustrated and angry, and are best left alone until they calm down. Men consider apologies to be admissions of guilt; women view apologies as expressions of compassion. This difference of perception is why men are generally much less willing to apologise than women.
When engaged in an argument, men use strong and aggressive words to ensure that they win the argument, and women are frequently forced to back down in the face of a totally determined and implacable opponent. Men then feel that they have won the argument, but it is a hollow victory as their partners have not changed their views, but merely buried them in order to avoid an ever-escalating conflict. Sometimes people prefer to evade arguments instead of engaging in them. Men tend to do so by withdrawing inside themselves and refusing to talk; women often just pretend that the disagreement has been forgotten. The resultant peace is a cold one, because the issues continue festering unresolved.
To stop communication degenerating into arguments, men should strive to listen without getting defensive, and women should try to express their feelings without criticising their partners.

Chapter 10: Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex

Men feel loved if their efforts at giving are appreciated; women feel loved according to what they receive. For women, loving someone means knowing and attending to their needs without waiting to be asked, and so a loved person should never have to ask for anything as their needs ought to be anticipated ahead of time. So women give unconditionally, and proactively seek ways to help others, whereas men only give when they feel that their efforts will be fairly appreciated and rewarded, and often will not know how or what to give without being specifically asked. Men often quickly suspend giving when feeling pleased about having done something; women may only suspend giving when feeling displeased with their partners for doing nothing.
Men value results; for women it’s the thought that counts. Consequently, men value big things much more than do women, who feel more appreciated by receiving lots of little gifts instead. A woman may consider a bunch of flowers to be just as good a proof of love as an entire month of hard work towards paying the bills.
If men and women do not take account of these different perspectives, they may fail to give their partners what they actually want. When this occurs, the man will frequently suspend giving as he feels he is not receiving enough reward back for what he has given, but the woman will continue to give unconditionally even though she feels she is giving more and has started to feel unloved, unappreciated and resentful.
Men should try to identify various little ways to give to their partners without waiting to be asked first, and should avoid the mistake of assuming their partners to be happy giving and not asking for anything back. Women should be careful not to give a false impression to their partners of being happy when they are not, and if they begin to feel resentful they should gently reduce their giving, learn to ask for things back, and be sure to keep expressing lots of appreciation of their partners’ efforts so as to encourage them to give more. Men should try to listen lovingly and respectfully to women’s feelings, women should try to express their feelings in a loving and respectful manner. If men give, and women appreciate, both end up feeling happy.

Chapter 11: How to Communicate Difficult Feelings

Unresolved negative feelings can cause us to act in ways we really don’t want to, or become manifest in all kinds of compulsive or addictive behaviours. Avoiding our negative feelings doesn’t make them go away, but compassionately embracing them can heal them and enable us to start loving again. By acting as loving parents to our own inner child, we finally allow our repressed feelings to be fully expressed and released.
To ease the pain and win love, men often obsessively seek success, and women obsessively seek perfection. Men may use anger, ego, or oblivion (such as burying themselves in their work) to avoid vulnerable feelings of pain or fear; women may lapse into depression or confusion to avoid having aggressive feelings of anger.
Constructive communication is a learned skill, and many of us must first unlearn the paradigm of negative communication and repression of feelings which we experienced during childhood. Communication works best if it presents the full picture, so that the root of the problem is revealed rather than just the symptoms.
Writing our feelings down is excellent for expressing our negative emotions (anger, pain, fear, and regret) in a controlled manner, rather than letting them explode at our partners in the heat of the moment. Having done so, we can get back in touch with our loving feelings, and are then in a much better state to explain to our partners what we are feeling, and what they can do to help us feel better. It is important to communicate such feelings in a loving atmosphere because we may need to feel securely loved while communicating such intimate and revealing feelings, and our partners may need the same if some of those feelings will be painful to hear, or could be taken personally. At times it is worth discussing them with friends or counselors first.

Chapter 12: How to Ask for Support and Get It

Men love to do things which are appreciated, and hate to do things which are demanded. Criticising him or giving excessive instructions will make him feel more like a slave than a loved and trusted partner.
Men love to prove their worth through the things they do, but they generally wait to be asked, and take a long time to learn to offer their services unsolicited. Women should therefore control their expectations of men being able to anticipate their needs, ask for help without making it sound like a demand because they resent the need to do so, and appreciate the help they receive even though it needed to be requested first.
Women should avoid requesting help from a man in a way which either doesn’t sound like a clear request, or carries implicit criticism that he should have already done it. Questions which begin with the words ‘Could you’ or ‘Can you’ are often interpreted by men as questioning their abilities, and they therefore respond more positively to the same questions if they begin instead with ‘Would you’ or ‘Will you’. The difference may seem tiny, but it can feel as different as the man saying ‘No I can’t’ or ‘No I won’t’ in response to the request.
It is best to allow a man the freedom to do things in a way and at a time that works for him. If a man is busy doing something and a woman needs his help on something else, she should feel free to ask him for help, but be prepared for him to request to defer it or even to refuse it; if requests always require positive answers, they are really demands, and men will sense the difference. If a man grumbles about a request then he is actually considering it, and the best approach is to simply wait for him to come to a decision without saying anything further, and aim to accept the outcome graciously.

Chapter 13: Keeping the Magic of Love Alive

In relationships, unresolved negative feelings can pop up without warning, and we suddenly become upset, or sensitive, or distant. When this happens to our partners we should encourage them to work through it, accepting that it may take some time and that they may need support from outside as well as from ourselves, and do our best to control any impatience or resentments we may feel towards them during these times.
Love inevitably changes over time: the pristine bliss we feel when we first fall in love doesn’t last forever, and over time our personal faults and negative baggage inevitably become exposed. But if we stick tight through the ups and downs of life and each other, then our initial bliss gradually changes into a mature form of love which can become stronger and fuller with every passing year.

Article Source: WikiSummaries.com

A Prayer For Father's Day Dad's

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 14:04:25 PDT

Father's Day is approaching quickly and I want to give a shout out to all the men who are truly being the men that God has called them to be!

Ladies:

If you have a good man, Praise Him!

If you he is a good provider, Serve Him!

If he loves you and your children, Cherish Him!

If he lives as a Man of God should, Support Him!

..because the sad reality is that these men (of whom I feel privileged to be counted in the number) are hard to find, and often their qualities are overlooked and underappreciated. I'm telling you being a father is in day and age is a challenge probably like no other time.

So I want to lift up my brothers!

Daddy, I Lift you Up and ask our eternal Father to come beside you and support you.

Here is my Prayer:

Our Father in Heaven, I ask that you would bless the fathers of this nation. I pray that you would bless the families that they lead. Please help these men to know and to have a true meaningful relationship with you! Please help them to love themselves, their children, their wives, and others in the same way that you love us. Help them to be patient with others as you are patient with us. Help them to be kind, and even willing to suffer for the benefit of others. Lord, I ask that you strip the "machismo" attitudes that have been instilled in many. This living is often contrary to your definiton of a man. Help men with the addictions that we are susceptible to: drugs, alcohol, pornography, infidelity, and other sexual addictions, among others. Father I ask that you break the chains of bondage for those that struggling and who are tired of being enslaved to these and other sickness'. Father, please help men tak their rightful place in their homes, society, in church. I pray that you help, them to realize that you made them and poured greatness into them. I ask that you may lead some to another Godly man who may help teach and mentor one another. For I believe that every man needs a mentor. Father, I thank you for your Love, Grace, and Mercy. It is in the name of Jesus the Christ that I pray..

Amen!

Happy Father's Day Dads!!

Any man can be a father but it takes a real man to be a dad.

Facing the Storms of Life

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:47:50 PDT

When I was younger I remember some fascinating things about storms. Storms were very scary. The thunder crashed loudly, the lightning illuminated the dark skies. Images would peer through my room and I would swear the boogie man (or Cuco as we called him in Spanish) was out to get me. The storms often drove me in search of my parents for comfort. Although, storms were not an every day occurrence when they came I most certainly knew it.

A lot has changed since I was a child. Natural storms no longer have the same type of impact on me and most other adults. Although natural storms are no longer a major disruption to our lives the storms of life seem to rage often. These storms can be categorized in the following ways:

Financial Storms
Marital Storms
Emotional Storms
Parenting Storms
Employment Storms
Relationship Storms
Religious Storms
Physical Health Storms
Addiction Storms
Mental and Emotional Storms

This list is by no means exhaustive but the point is that we face a variety of differing storms that are able to attack at any moment. The dark clouds, thunder claps, and lightning strikes can and do appear quickly. So it is important that we learn how to approach these storms and rather than becoming victims...we become victors!

How do We face the Storms:

1.) Expect Them

1Pe 4:12 Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you.

I used to flip out when something went wrong. My blood pressure would shoot up and anger and frustrations would abound as I got upset with myself and others. However, after a while I realized that I was only making the storm bigger by how I reacted to the situation. Peter tells us plainly not to be surprised about the trials we are going to suffer. The reality is EVERYONE goes through storms!

Noah had a storm in which he saw all the world perish.
Jonah had a storm that caused him to stop running from God
Job lost his children in a storm
The Disciples feared there life in a storm
The Apostle Paul was shipwrecked after a storm

Everyone goes through storms. So since we all must go through them. Why not face them?

2.) Face Them

As I stated earlier, I used to get so upset and waste valuable time reacting emotionally to the storm instead of facing them. When I say we must face the storms I am really saying that we must look at the situations we find ourselves in and begin finding a way to resolve them. Mourning time needs to be brief, if at all. When you find yourself in a storm it's time to get creative! Here are just some ways we can face the storms:

a.) Pray - If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. James 1:5

b.) Seek Wise Counsel - for waging war you need guidance, and for victory many advisers. Proverbs 24:6

c.) Read God's Word- Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path Psalm 119:105

d.) Trust God - Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Prov 3:5-6

Once we have faced the Storm I believe it is imperative that we learn from the storm.

3.) Learn From Them

Pain is often one of our best teachers. see my post on "How to Profit from Pain" We learn so much for the storms of life. Through reflection we are able to see if and/or how we contributed to the storm. If we are able to see our part we will be able to save ourselves from a similar trial in the future.
When I was in my early twenties, I remember going to the casino with my mother and brother. I walked out of the casino with $50.00 on a $5.00 investment and was ecstatic. That feeling led me back to the casino on my next payday. I thought for sure I had learned a trick that would allow me to double or triple my $400.00. Well, if you gamble long enough you will realize what I realized that night, The House Always Wins!! Needless to say, after losing every penny I walked out of there feeling tormented, humiliated and stupid. I vowed never to gamble again. You see, that pain, that self induced storm taught me a lesson that stuck with me now almost twenty years later. Storms do teach if we listen!

Storms have their scary moments and are often very intimidating. Yet I want to challenge you to face that Storm just like the eagle does. When the eagles sees the storm coming, he positions himself at a high place. When the storm hits instead of fleeing from the storm or even seeking shelter the eagle uses the storm. The Eagles spreads his mighty wings and uses the fierce winds to carry him high above the storm.

When your storms hits. Why not use the storm to carry you to that high place above the storm. For there you will meet God, pray with him, learn of him and be changed by Him.

May God Richly Bless You In And Out Of Your Storms... Domingo Reyes

That's My King Lyrics

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:38:41 PDT

That’s My King

The Bible says

He’s the King of the Jews

He’s the King of Israel

He’s the King of Righteousness

He’s the King of the Ages

He’s the King of Heaven

He’s the King of Glory

He’s the King of Kings

and He is the Lord of Lords

Now that’s my King!

David says, The Heavens declare the glory of God

And the firmament showeth His handiwork

No means of measure can define His limitless love

No far seeing telescope can bring into visibility the coastline of His shoreless supply

No barriers can hinder Him from pouring out His blessing

He’s enduringly strong

He’s entirely sincere

He’s eternally steadfast

He’s immortally graceful

He’s imperially powerful

He’s impartially merciful

That’s my King!

He’s God’s Son

He’s the sinners’ Saviour

He’s the centrepiece of civilisation

He stands alone in Himself

He’s august

He’s unique

He’s unparalleled

He’s unprecedented

He’s supreme

He’s pre-eminent

He’s the loftiest idea in literature

He’s the highest personality in philosophy

He’s the supreme problem in higher criticism

He’s the fundamental doctrine in true theology

He’s the cardinal necessity of spiritual religion

That’s my King!

He’s the miracle of the age

He’s the superlative of everything good that you choose to call Him

He’s the only one able to supply all of our needs simultaneously

He supplies strength for the weak

He’s available for the tempted and the tried

He sympathises and He saves

He guards and He guides

He heals the sick

He cleansed the lepers

He forgives sinners

He discharges debtors

He delivers the captives

He defends the feeble

He blesses the young

He serves the unfortunate

He regards the aged

He rewards the diligent

And He beautifies the meek

Do you know Him?

My King is the key of knowledge

He’s the wellspring of wisdom

He’s the doorway of deliverance

He’s the pathway of peace

He’s the roadway of righteousness

He’s the highway of holiness

He’s the gateway of glory

He’s the master of the mighty

He’s the captain of the conquerors

He’s the head of the heroes

He’s the leader of the legislators

He’s the overseer of the overcomers

He’s the governor of governors

He’s the prince of princes

He’s the King of Kings

And He’s the Lord of Lords

That’s my King

That’s my King!

My King

His office is manifold

His promise is sure

His life is matchless

His goodness is limitless

His mercy is everlasting

His love never changes

His word is enough

His grace is sufficient

His reign is righteous

His yoke is easy

and His burden is light

I wish I could describe Him to you

He’s indescribable

He’s incomprehensible

He’s invincible

He’s irresistible

I’m trying to tell you

The heaven of heavens cannot contain Him

Let alone a man explain Him

You can’t get Him out of your mind

You can’t get Him off of your hands

You can’t outlive Him

And you can’t live without Him

The Pharisees couldn’t stand Him

but they found out they couldn’t stop Him

Pilate couldn’t find any fault in Him

The witnesses couldn’t get their testimonies to agree

And Herod couldn’t kill Him

Death couldn’t handle Him

And the grave couldn’t hold Him

That’s my King!

He always has been

And He always will be

I’m talking about

He had no predecessor

and He’ll have no successor

There was nobody before Him

and there’ll be nobody after Him

You can’t impeach Him

and He’s not going to resign

That’s my King!

Praise the Lord

That’s my King

Thine is the Kingdom

And the power

And the glory

The glory is all His

Thine is the Kingdom

And the power

And the glory

For ever

And ever

And when you get through with all of the forevers

Then

Amen

How to Profit from Pain

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 14:06:00 PDT

How to Profit from Pain

Who likes Pain? I surely don't. As a matter of fact if you answered in the affirmative most people would probably think that there was something wrong with you. Although most of us do not like it, pain is a natural part of life.

I have just returned from the gym and I saw a friend of mine there. Initially I went to do some cardio on the treadmill. However, he urged me to lift weights with him and I complied. Well, I have not lifted weights in quite some time and he acted more like a drill instructor than an understanding friend. I was pushed to the limit and I know I will be sore and in pain tomorrow. But as the saying goes, "No Pain, No Gain"

Isn't that statement so true? Think of the times you grew the most and learned the most. No doubt there was probably a lot of sacrifice and pain involved.

Since Pain isn't all bad I want to show you an easy way to remember the benefits of pain and how you can profit from painful experiences. To do this we are going to look at the acronym P.A.I.N.

The P stands for Protection – Pain often protects us from further harm. Imagine a life void of any pain. We would certainly be in a heap of trouble. When my daughter was 2 she touched a very hot iron and burned her hand. Her hand blistered and it really hurt her. However, every time she see's an iron she is reminded of the pain she had to endure. That memory has protected her from making that mistake again. Likewise, pain often protects us from future hurts in any areas of our life.

The A stands for Awareness- Pain causes us to look for answers and solutions to our problems. Most people do not like Pain. When most have a headache they reach for a pill. When we have a cold we take some cold medicine. Why will drug manufacturers always be big business? I believe it is because we do not like pain and will always be looking for something to alleviate us from feeling pain.

In Psalm 141:1 David is crying out to God. He states: LORD, I cry unto thee: make haste unto me; give ear unto my voice, when I cry unto thee.

David was obviously in pain. Yet in verse 8 he states:

"But mine eyes are unto thee, O GOD the Lord: in thee is my trust; leave not my soul destitute."

David's trust and awareness for God was magnified due to his stressful situation.

The I stands for Instigates – Painful situations often move us to do things we would not do without the prompting of pain. In the parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32) once he was in that far away country pain got his attention. The Prodigal Son's financial misfortune in a famine caused him too move. He devide a plan on how to approach his father and then made the long journey back home. Pain instigated his move as it often instigates us to move.

The N stands for Needfulness – In pain we realize that we need God's comfort and the fellowship of others. We live in a society that realizes the need for support groups. Most of these groups were started because those who experienced pain realized they needed an outlet. They also realized that no one understootheir dilemma better than others who have experienced or where experiencing similar tragedies.

I hope you have been able to see that there is some purpose to pain. I wish no one any pain. However, if you find yourself in a painful situation look to God for comfort. He might just comfort you so you can comfort others. Be blessed -Domingo

"Blessed by the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort; who comforts us in all our affliction so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ."

How To Heal From The Pain Of An Extramarital Affair

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 14:08:36 PDT

How To Heal From The Pain Of An Extramarital Affair by Greg Baker

Your spouse cheated on you. Nothing you can do will change that. Still, you've decided to stick it out and try to make the marriage work. Only you don't trust him/her anymore, you are incredibly suspicious, and your anxiety of possibly being betrayed again is eating your heart out. You still feel intense pain over the last betrayal, and you can't get past it to do your part in healing the marriage. This article gives some hints and tips to help you.

FIND A GOOD PASTOR OR MARRIAGE COUNSELOR

This is important. You need someone who has your marriage at heart. You need counsel, wisdom, and an impartial perspective. The Bible teaches us that attempting to help someone (such as your spouse) while struggling with your own problems often leads to something worse.

Matthew 7:4-5 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.

Someone who does not have an emotional stake in your marriage is much more apt to give you sound advice. Many arguments, tears, and time will be saved with a good pastor or marriage counselor.

I deal often with extramarital affairs in my community. Those who come to me often do so as a last resort. A lecture, some advice, and a few tools often will set them on the right path. Within 2 or 3 weeks they nearly always thank me for the obvious improvement in their marriage. It wasn't me; it was the impartiality and clear headedness of a third perspective that allowed this to occur.

When my wife and I have problems a rarity we go to one of two men for advice. I understand my own weaknesses. Since I have an emotional stake in my own marriage, my thinking and feelings are clouded. I need that outside perspective.

It really helps.

I would make this mandatory. I would tell your spouse there is no negotiation about this. He or she may be embarrassed and may just want to put the whole thing behind them, but stick to your guns on this. Counseling isn't to determine blame. It is to heal the wound.

BEGIN YOUR HEALING PROCESS BY CLEANING YOUR WOUNDS

As both a Christian and a pastor that deals extensively with marriages, I have found a simple, yet effective, technique to help the injured person heal from the pain of an extramarital affair. If you are not a Christian, I still suggest you give this a try, for it works.

Emotional pain is like an infection. If we don't purge it from our system, it just spreads. Many a betrayed spouse has spoiled the possibility of salvaging his or her marriage because they never were able to get over the pain and distrust that such an act produces. But in order to heal, all those negative feelings need to come out. Just like any other physical wound, you need to clean it and get out all the infection before it will heal.

The procedure is simple:

1. Each day, write down how you currently feel about what your spouse did to you. Be expressive, honest, and forthcoming. Don't lie to yourself. Write it all down.

2. Take the letter or list to God and tell Him all about it. Tell Him how you feel and why you feel that way. Tell Him how unfair it all is. Cry a little if you need to.

3. Then ask God to help you forgive. You may not be able to right that moment, but ask God for the strength and peace to do so.

4. Do steps 1-3 the very next day, and the day after that and so forth.

Over a week or so, you'll find your emotions not so devastating. You will find that when you write how you currently feel, it isn't so negative. You will find that soon, you can forgiveand will forgive. Your prayers will change. Your heart will be more at peace. You will reclaim hope.

In regards to this procedure, a woman told me recently at a follow up marriage counseling session, "I didn't think it would work. But it really did. Thank you."

Getting the infection out is essential and this is a good way to do it! Don't let it bottle up inside you. Don't take it out on your spouseon one likes to be confronted with their own weakness, sin, or failure. You may end up pushing them away even more. Tell it to God!

1 Peter 5:7 - Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

GIVE YOUR SPOUSE OPPORTUNITY TO EARN YOUR TRUST BACK

This will be one of the harder steps you will take. Once you are betrayed, it is hard to put yourself in a position to be betrayed again. But you must allow your spouse the opportunity to earn your trust back. Else, your marriage is doomed.

Talking with a shattered wife once, she mentioned how she just couldn't ever trust him again. I pointed out that her fear was killing any hope she had of having the marriage she wanted. Until she could get her eyes off of her fear and onto the hope of a good marriage, she would never have a good marriage.

It isn't fair. You were not the one who did the wrong, but now I am asking you to take the chances. I know it isn't fair. But it is the only way. You must give them a chance to earn your trust.

Here is an idea to allow you to do this.

1. Write out a list of rules on how your spouse will conduct himself/herself around the opposite sex.
2. Be sure the rules are reasonable. Involve your pastor or counselor if necessary.
3. Ask your spouse to keep these rules to earn your trust back.

This will help you. When your spouse is talking to someone of the opposite sex, instead of fearing what he/she is thinkingsomething you can't possibly knowwatch to see if he/she is keeping your rules. If the rules are being kept, you know they are thinking of them and you. It will help you rid yourself of your fears.

This has been very successful for those who do it.

HOW TO KNOW WHEN YOU ARE COMPLETELY HEALED

Like any wound, when it is healed, it may leave a scar. The scar, however, doesn't bring pain, it just brings memories. You know you are healed when you can use what happened to you to help someone else.

While the wound is fresh and raw or when infection still resides in it, any mention or attention to it brings pain. But once it has fully healed, you can refer to it without pain, usually to help someone else who has suffered in a similar manner.

When you find yourself using what happened to you to try and heal someone else's wounds, you have healed. More at http://www.fitlyspoken.org/

Wise Words on Failure

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 14:10:06 PDT

Wise Words on Failure by Karl Warren

Some of the greatest thinkers of all time can teach us the most important lessons.

"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new." Albert Einstein

To be successful we need to begin, without taking the first steps there can be no success. Many people do not begin because they fear mistakes. Welcome mistakes, learn from them and then you will ensure you do not make the same mistake again.

"Remove failure as an option." Joan Lunden

Did you set your goal so that you would fail? NO. Success was the only option then, and is the only option now.

"Success is the proper utilization of failure." Unknown

Every failure is a learning experience. A successful person will analyze their failures with smart questions such as:

How can I do it better?
What mistakes did I make?
What did I learn from this?
What can I do differently to ensure success?

By identifying the causes of failure, you can start again with more confidence and knowledge. Every failure will bring you closer to success.

"A man is not finished when he is defeated. He is finished when he quits." Richard Nixon

The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is failure. You can only fail if you stop trying. You must continue trying in order to succeed.

"Success is going from failure to failure without a loss of enthusiasm." Sir Winston Churchill

Failure is only an obstacle. If we visualise failure as a brick wall, we can see that there is a way over it. There may be a dozen brick walls in our way, if we climb each one with the same enthusiasm with our goals in sight we will never fail.

"Many of life's failures are men who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." Thomas Edison

When you have put effort into achieving your dreams you must keep going. There is no crystal ball, success could be right around the corner. You owe it to yourself to keep trying. The worst punishment in life is to look back and wonder "what if...."

Karl Warren is dedicated to motivating and inspiring people all over the world. If you want to achieve your dreams, he wants to help you. You can get free tips and advice, and also his popular report "Achieve Your Wildest Dreams" from: www.karlwarren.com/motivation

Dare to Dream Again!

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:40:00 PDT

DARE TO DREAM AGAIN!

Do you remember when we were young and an adult would ask us that question: "What would you like to be when you grow up?" We would answer with some of the following: Lawyer, Doctor, Policeman, Fireman, and even President of the United States. We didn't put limits on what we could become. We mentally reached for the stars. However, fast forward to today and if polled most of us can't think past the career we settled into or the job we took to just to pay the bills. There is little time to think about the future because we are worrying about simply surviving today. Complacency has definitely set in.

I want us to step into a mental time machine, to push the rewind button, and erase certain events from your memory. Which events? Well, mainly the failures, the falls, the losses and the setbacks. I want the lessons learned from those f.f.l.s. to come with you. But I want the memories of pain to be permanently erased. Why, you ask? Because those thoughts of pain, failure, and loss are enough to scare us from daring to dream big dreams. Subconsciously, we tell ourselves things like "I can't" or " I already tried that" or " I am not qualified" or "I don't have a degree" etc.

The fact is it is easier to discard your dream than to try and fulfill it. To fulfill it will take time, hard word, risk, patience, education, resources, etc. In other words it will be challenging! Yet, anything big takes crazy thinking and even crazier risking. I remember on the streets there was a saying, "Scared money don't make money." That meant if you were going to make money you were going to have to risk money.

Risk is a scary word. Here are two quotes I hope help.

If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary. - Jim Rohn

Life is inherently risky. There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing. -Denis Waitley

I want us to imagine for a moment that we could go back and get that ability to dream again! To dream big dreams! To dream in such a way that others thought we were crazy.

In the bible there was a man named Joseph that dreamed he would be a ruler and that even his family would bow down to him. Well, he shared that dream and his family didn't like it and they certainly told him. Yet, he could not shake off what was inevitably his. He fulfilled that dream in spite of being sold into slavery by his brothers and being innocently jailed for a crime he did not commit. Yet, Joseph worked hard, was faithful to God, to his employer, to those who ran the jail and eventually to the King. Joseph became 2nd in command to all of Egypt and even his family bowed before him.

It took time, sacrifice, hard work, chance, risk, and Godly intervention but he did fulfill his dream.

What are your dreams? Are they big enough? Can you visualize it in your mind? Are you willing to step out in faith in order to accomplish it? I hope so!

Don't let the dream snatchers snatch your dream away! There are many dream snatchers out there you know?

Many of you may have heard of the Monkey Experiment. If you haven't let me briefly retell it:

The experiment begins with a cage containing five monkeys. Inside the cage a banana is hung on a string and placed over a set of stairs. Before long, a monkey will go up the stairs and towards the banana. As soon as he touches the stairs, all the other monkeys are sprayed with cold water. After a while, another monkey makes an attempt with the same result, and all the other monkeys are sprayed with cold water. Pretty soon the monkeys will try to prevent anyone from climbing to the top.

After a while the monkey's are replaced one by one until there were five new monkey's who had never been sprayed and guess what? Although they had never been sprayed, they were conditioned not to go up the stairs out of fear of being attacked by the others.

So sadly, no monkey ever approaches the stairs again, none dare to climb and those that do get beat down by the others. This experiment is sad but true. This even happens to many of us.

There are others that will force you to play it safe because it didn't work out for them. They may even mean well and have your best interest at heart.

There are others also who don't want you to suceed because they didn't. (Sometimes people call them "haters")

Are the dream snatcher's snatching away your dreams? Is the crab in the bucket syndrome happening in your life? It's a new year my friend and if you are going to fulfill that dream you need to get started!

Tell the haters to stand back! Tell the ultra conservatives that you appreciate the concern!

HOWEVER

DARE TO DREAM, BROTHER!! DARE TO DREAM, SISTER!!

DARE TO DREAM AGAIN!!

- D. Reyes

Check out my post Think Like A Champion! Run to Win! for some tips for accomplishing your goals. http://www.inspirationalchatter.com/2011/12/think-like-champion-run-to-win.html

Secrets That God Loves

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:43:36 PDT

SECRETS GOD LOVES!

How many of you like to watch the Olympics? I also love to watch the Olympics. I enjoy seeing our country win as many gold medals as we can. One of the favorite things I like to watch is the Summer Olympics and especially the track and field events. It seems every year they are breaking records.

The current world record for the 100 meter dash is 9.58 seconds. A little less than 10 seconds of work catapulted Usain Bolt of Jamaica to stardom. In 10 seconds he became a worldwide star, placed in the record books, known as the fastest man alive. 10 seconds is all it took, 10 Seconds and instant stardom right?

Well, not really..

You see “Bolt” had been running tirelessly for years. He had done what so many elite athletes did.

He dedicated himself to his sport and his body
He ate the right type of foods
He worked extra hard in the gym and on the track
He got up earlier than most people in order train
He went to sleep later than others

In other words, He did what others wouldn’t do in order to have what others wouldn’t have.

While life was just passing many by he had a dream, he had a hunger, he had a burning desire to achieve something great and to be the best he could be for himself, his family and for his country!

This was only accomplished by blood sweat and tears.

But see in those 10 seconds he was rewarded, not mostly for what he did while the world was watching, but mostly for what he did when the world didn’t even know who he was.

You see what is done in secret will be brought to light. This principle works with sports and more importantly works within the framework of the Word of God.

That principle is: God openly rewards secret dedication.

Most of the times secrets have a negative connotation with them. However, Jesus shows us in scripture that things done not to be seen or in secret are precious to God. This is because they show God the inner dedication of man towards God.

Let’s look at the first Secret God Loves based in the Gospel of Matthew chapter 6

Give in Secret

In Matt 6:1-4 Jesus challenges us not to do good to people in order to be seen of men.

"Be careful not to do your 'acts of righteousness' before men, to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you."

In other words do not decide to give money, clothing, food or do some sort of service in order that others can be impressed by your dedication, your charitable giving etc. I want us to understand this Jesus is not saying don’t do this, for we should give, and occasionally people will see it.

He is saying do not let that be Your motive! If your motive is to be seen of others then you have already received your reward and God has no further reward for you!

But for the one who gave in secret, his reward is two-fold.

He feels good for a job well done and God is pleased and promises to openly reward us.

Pray in Secret

Mat 6:5-6 And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

Religious Piety is something we must always be on guard. God is not impressed by our religious lingo. He does not hear a prayer more because you have words in it that you can barely pronounce or because our prayers are long and done in order to impress others.

In verse 7 Jesus states that they pray in this manner,"...for they think they will be heard because of their many words." However, God wants us to come to him humbly with the right motive.

Jesus gives us a model by which to pray.. He is not saying pray this prayer, He is saying pray in this manner:

1.) Start by reverencing God – Our Father who art in Heaven, Hallowed be thy name

2.) Pray for God’s promises and desires.. Thy Kingdom Come Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.

3.) Ask him for your needs. Give us this day our daily bread

4.) Beg for his forgiveness – Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors

5.) Ask God to keep us strong- Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from the evil one.

While we are hovering over this area I want us to realize that Prayer works.

Jesus’ life was filled with prayer. He modeled prayer, lived a life of prayer, managed stress through prayer, sought direction through prayer, expressed his doubt and pains to the Father through prayer,and interceded for others through prayer.

Jesus taught his disciples that we must be dedicated to prayer, even when nothing looks like it is happening, when we think prayer is not working Jesus taught in Luke 18:1… “that men ought always to pray and faint not”
Friends, God sees your blood, sweat and tears..

He hears you praying for that child.. don’t give up!
He hears you praying for your marriage… don’t stop!
He hear you praying for your financial situation…keep praying!
He hears you constant praying for your soul… Don’t stop !!

For your secret prayers will be openly be rewarded!

Fast in Secret

Mat 6:16-18 "When you fast, do not look somber as the hypocrites do, for they disfigure their faces. But when you fast, put oil on your head and wash your face, so that it will not be obvious to men that you are fasting, but only to your Father, who is unseen; and your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”

Here Jesus rebukes the person who is fasting so others can see and make judgment on how spiritual a person is.

Instead he says..

Clean yourself up and try and look nonchalant about it by not making it obvious by your appearance that you are fasting. The person who purposefully puts on the somber face is waiting for someone to ask them," what's wrong?" to which they can then reply that they are fasting.

Jesus says if that is your motive for fasting then you have also received your reward. However, your secret devotion is seen by your Father in heaven and he promises to reward you.

God wants us to seek a relationship with him. To serve him because of how loving and great He is! I hope you are seeking His approval and not man's because after it is all said and done it is only what you do for God that matters. May Heaven shine upon you richly,... Domingo Reyes

Think Like A Champion! Run to Win!

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:43:59 PDT

Think Like A Champion! Run to Win!

I hear people say all the time that it's not whether you win or lose but how you play the game. While I believe there is truth in that, I am sure that if polled most people would confess that they would rather be on a winning team.

I have played sports since my youth and I have never walked away after a loss feeling great about losing. Please don't get me wrong, I understand losing is part of life; it's just that I would rather win than lose.

I want to win:

- Win as it relates to my marriage

- Win as it relates to my finances

- Win as it relates to my children

- Win as it relates to my faith

In 1 Corinthians 9:24-25 Paul parallels the Christian life and a race.

1Cr 9:24 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.

1Cr 9:25 Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last; but we do it to get a crown that will last forever.

I believe the two relate very well because of the following:

1.) They are both run with others yet prizes are awarded individually.

2.) It is a sport that demands intense training, often repeating the same things over and over until you build stamina.

3.) There is great self fulfillment in finishing the race.
4.) There is a start and a finish
5.) In both you will get tired and you must learn to respond correctly and run through the pain, doubts, weariness, etc.

As stated, I want to win in every are of my life and I want you to be the winner God has created you to be. So I want to share with you some ideas by which you can think and run in a way that will enable you to win!!

Run with Champs Not Chumps

There is a saying which goes, "If you run with dogs you will catch fleas."

In other words you will catch what those whom you surround yourself with have.

If you surround yourself with people with great vision, determination, positive energy, ambition, etc. their traits will inspire, motivate, and stimulate you to positive action.

However, if you surround yourself with people without these traits it will effect you and limit your potential. I warn people to be very careful who they allow into their inner circle. Be careful who you take advice from and to who you pour your heart out to.

I place people most people in two categories:

Toxic and Nourishing people

You can identify toxic people in your life in a number of ways.

Toxic people love to gossip and especially love to share bad news about others. They are often hyper critical that is they criticize anything and anyone they can. Toxic people do not rejoice in others good fortune (including yours) instead they rejoice in the misfortune of others.

Toxic people are dream killers, joy thieves, and dream crushers whose toxicity isn't satisfied with being limited to themselves. No they want to share it with others and poison other souls. Watch out for toxic people!

- Toxic people will slow you down

- Toxic people will give you a pessimistic outlook on life

- Toxic people will place doubts in your mind

- Toxic people will hold you back!! And since they won't succeed they won't let you either!

BEWARE.. BEWARE.. BEWARE.. (Did I mention...BEWARE!!!)

Nourishing People, on the other hand, are people who add value to your life. They listen and encourage you, admonish you out of love and rejoice in your success. They cry when you cry, hurt when you hurt and they lift your spirits and challenge you. Nourishing people feed your soul and encourage you to do more, think greater thoughts, to try harder and to be all you can be.

Run With Purpose

1Cr 9:26 Therefore I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air. 1Cr 9:27 No, I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.

If we are going to be winners in any area of our lives we have to run with vision and purpose.

In the text above Paul states that he isn't running without a clear purpose. He is not like fighting like a boxer who only throws haymakers. No, he is calculated, intentional on where he is going, why he is going, and he understands the importance of the sacrifices he is making.

Too often we jump into things without a clear picture of what it will take to accomplish it and without the passion to sustain the tough times that are will inevitable follow.

My suggestion is to get a plan and organize a strategy to making the most out of life.

Strengthening our spiritual walk with God does not happen by accident. It happens when we decide to go to church, bible study, fellowships, etc. It happens when we are intentional on when we will study, pray, how much we will give and how often we will serve. When we have a plan it helps us to stay on track and remain focused.

This holds true in every area of our lives. We must plan on the type of parents we want to be, the type of husband or wife, etc.

There is a saying which states, "He who fails to plan, plans to fail."

Run to Win

1Cr 9:26 Therefore I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air. 1Cr 9:27 No, I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.

As I stated earlier I like to win. I want to win as it relates to the quality of my life now and the destination in the life that is to come. Paul says that he trains and disciplines himself in such a way that he is not only helping others but also helping himself. It is amazing how skilled we are in giving others great, sound, and accurate advice to others yet do not heed that same advice for our own lives. Paul is in a sense saying, "I can not help others to win and become disqualified myself!"

If we are to win it is going to take training, discipline, surrounding yourself with the right people, planning and proper implementation.

I want to be a winner!! Go ahead say it, "I want to be a winner!!"

- I want to Win the game of life !!

- I want to have meaningful relationships with God and others !!

- I want to win as a Husband, Wife and/or Parent

- I want to Win as a Christian

- I want to Win in every aspect of my life

And more importantly I want to Win by hearing the greatest word that I will ever hear.

Matt 25:23 ...Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.

May God Give You The Strength To Win!!

D. Reyes

Fight For Your Marriage! It's Worth It!

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:44:29 PDT

I don’t believe I have to throw a bunch of statistics at you for us to realize that marriages are failing at a staggering rate. If a marriage lasts more than 5-7 years you are looked like as a marriage guru. Truly our marriages are in trouble.

I believe that our society has watered down the importance of the institution of marriage or the covenant relationship.

God created marriage and he regulates it. In the Garden we see God created Adam and Eve to complement each other. He was in the center of it and put it together. He also asks that we not pull apart what he has put together. Listen to Mark 10:6-9

Mar 10:6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

In these verses we see that God created marriage. It is no coincidence that the word says he created them male and female. This is the pattern for marriage. God also states that the marriage relationship will be stronger than our longest and most intimate relationship, namely that of our parents. Partners, will leave and cleave to one another, thus becoming one unit.

The marriage relationship will be stronger than any other relationship except for our relationship with God. This is because in marriage two actually become one. Because of this we must fight not only for the kids sake or to preserve our images, but because a piece of us dies if our marriage dies.

- There will be struggles but we must fight to keep our marriages intact

- There are going to be ups and downs yet we can persevere

- There are going to be storms yet with God’s help we can navigate through them.

We must have an attitude that we are willing to fight!

Too often spouses fight against each other while trying to win an argument or to get their way. The problem with this is that when one person wins, the other one.....you guessed it .... loses. And if the other loses, the marriage loses.

Pro 5:18 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. Pro 5:19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love.

Marriages often break down because of unfaithfulness. I know when we think of unfaithfulness the first thought is sex outside of marriage. While that is also the case, unfaithfulness is not limited to just that.

- We can be unfaithful by not loving our spouses like we should. By withholding love, attention, passion, desires, etc. from your spouse and/or offering it to others.

Listen to some words from the above verses in Prov 5:18-19... blessed,rejoice, satisfy, enraptured, love.

These verses show that our refreshment should come from each other… sexually, emotionally, etc.

If passion has been fading and complacency has set in, here are some tips to help you fight!

Decide to Change –

In Revelation 2 we read a report regarding the church at Ephesus. They are given praise as well as admonition. In verse two Jesus states that the church was faithful in teaching, in good works, in doing the things you would expect a church to do. However, he states even though they were doing the right things something was wrong.

Rev 2:4 Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love.

The church was going through the motions doing what they were supposed to be doing. However, Jesus calls them on the carpet because their passion, love, joy was missing.

Many marriages follow the same pattern. They start out hot, passionate, full of love, care and concern. Yet as times goes on, many find themselves in marriages where spouses are just going through the motions. Jesus was not content with the church, his bride, just going through the motions and neither should we.

Luckily, Jesus gives us a powerful remedy for this situation.

Rev 2:5 Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent.

A few takeaway's from this verse.

1.) Remember from where you have fallen - it is important that we realize where we are. In order to fix a problem we have to identify and realize we have one.

2.) Repent - Decide to change or make a U-turn. Even if your spouse is unwilling to change you can decide to become the change agent.

“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” Barack Obama

3.) Do The First Works- Here is a very important tool for restoration.

Doing the first works means doing what you did at first.

In the beginning of relationships people normally talk a lot. They want to get to know each other, ask questions, and talk on the phone to the wee hours of the night.

They go out to eat, go to see movies, go anywhere just to be with each other. They found out what each others likes and dislikes they are. Why?? because they are after each others hearts!

In the beginning we actually love to serve each other. These make love

deposits in one anothers love bank. The more loving actions are deposited, the more love
is fostered.

Try doing good deeds for your spouse. Cleaning the dishes, ironing

clothes, preparing a nice meal, sending flowers to her job, going out on a

date, etc.

This stuff still works. So I encourage you to work it!

Fight for your marriage! It is worth it!

God Be With You!

-Domingo Reyes

When Good Men Do Nothing. The Penn State Debacle

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:45:06 PDT

"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." (Edmund Burke)

I have been watching the Penn State debacle and Edmund Burke's quote popped into my head. I first want to say that I am a Joe Paterno fan. I believe he is a decent man from what I nkow of him. He has built a great football program that until now had been known to be clean and very respectable. In a time where money scandals are prevalent in college programs Penn State has gone relatively unscathed with these types of scandals. Yet today we could only wish that money was the scandal that was the captivating the headlines.

On Wed night 11-9-11 Joe Paterno the winningest coach in college football history and Penn State President Graham Spanier were fired from their posts for not doing more to stop the alleged abuse by Paterno's former defensive coordinator Jerry Sandusky.

Sandusky has been charged with molesting eight boys over 15 years. In 2002 an incident was witnessed by assistant coach Mike McQueary and reported to Paterno. Paterno did notify Tim Curley, the athletic director, and Vice Pres. Gary Schultz, who in turn notified Pres. Spanier.

Instead of going to the Authorities they decided to work it out "in house". The question I ask is why?

- Why didn't those who had been placed in positions of authority and trust not act behalf of these children?

- Why was the reputation and name of the school more important than those of the victimns?

- Why would you even want to fight for a person who would prey on the most vulnerable and abuse his position of leadership?

- Why would you allow the possibility for this to happen again on your watch?

Unfortunaltely I was in Paterno's shoes. The Senior Minister whom I served under was accused of fondling some young men in the congregation. This rocked our congregation and we were hurt and did not know what to do. The Minister wanted to play damage control and not let out what was going on. Yet, we had an obligation to let it be known to the church and to the authorities. These are not matters of preference but of obligation. I was critiziced by some and encouraged and admired by others. Yet, looking back I realize that all I did was tryand do what was right. If I were a victimn of such atrrocities I would want someone to fight for me.

Truthfully, I do not like to fight. I like peace and tranquility. However, sometimes something is dropped into your lap and you cannot ignore it. For when good men do nothing evil wins.

Let's pray especially for the victimns of these predators and not forget that they are the real story!

10 Keys to Defeating the Depression Dragon

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:45:31 PDT

Dragon called Depression

A Dragon named Depression is on the loose. He is on the prowl and at some point he locks on to each of us and with a great fierceness begins to spit fire. Have you felt his tormenting heat? Have you felt powerless toward this giant? Have his flames rendered you speechless?

I am finding more and more individuals that have fallen. Many are falling into bouts of depression. Many once vibrant and energetic souls are now hibernating and drowning in their sorrows. "Life is unfair" is the song they sing. This song drives them deeper and deeper into a state of dismay. I want to help extinguish the flames and help repair what the enemy has successfully taken away.

Here are 10 keys to defeating this dragon:

1.) Realize we all have our ups and downs- You may be down today but this too will pass.

2.) Focus on what is good in life - Don't focus on the darkness..look for the light and let it brighten your day.

3.) Exercise and eat right - it really changes your emotional state. Eat salads and fruits and take your vitamins!

4.) Talk to someone - it is important to share your hurt and gain comfort.

5.) Do a Good Deed - Find someone else hurting or in need and serve them. I guarantee you will come away feeling better than ever.

6.) Do you have a hobby? Express yourself creatively in music, art, sports, etc.

7.) Stop mentally and verbally rehearsing the pain - turn off the blues music and stop tell yourself lies about how bad things are. We actually will believe whatever we tell ourselves.

8.) Get out of your house- I mean it. Go outside and get some natural sunlight. It has a mood/energy ennhancers.

9.) Pray Pray and Pray. The song says , "take your burdens to the Lord and leave it there.

10.) Listen to upbeat inspirational music... also listen to my video below and my video on stinkin thinkin' Click here for video

My prayer is that God comforts you and blesses you with the peace that passes all understanding. If you have any additional helps please add them below. Also let us know if this post has blessed you.

Hallelujah To The Most High- Poem by Rebeca Reyes

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:50:22 PDT

HALLELUJAH TO THE MOST HIGH, BLESS THE LAMB THAT WAS SLAIN

I ONCE CURSED, NOW I GLORIFY, AND USE MY GIFT TO BLESS HIS NAME.

HOW MANY OF YA'LL IN THIS ROOM, KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE LOST?

WELL, THE ROADMAP TO SALVATION IS IN THE SHAPE OF THAT MAN ON THE CROSS.

HOW MANY OF YA'LL UNDERSTAND, I MEAN TRULY COMPREHEND,

THAT THE RESURRECTION MARKS THE BEGINNING, BUT IT ALSO MARKS AN END?

THE BEGINNING OF A NEW LIFE, THE SALVATION OF OUR SOULS,

ASSURANCE WE'LL MEET THE FATHER, AND SEE THOSE STREETS PAVED WITH GOLD.

THE END, NOT OF OUR SINS, BUT OF UTTER CONDEMNATION,

THE END OF SPIRITUAL EMPTINESS AND THE END OF OBEYING SATAN.

HOW MANY REALIZE WHEN WE SIN, THAT WE'RE OBEYING THE DEVIL?

NO MORE, FATHER GOD!!! I VOW TO BE MORE ACCEPTABLE!

JESUS CHRIST WAS BORN, LIVED AND DIED, SO THAT WE'D ALL BE BLESSED.

AND HOW DID WE REPAY HIM? EACH ONE OF OUR SINS DROVE YET ANOTHER NAIL INTO HIS FLESH!

YOU SHOULD FEEL CONVICTED, BECAUSE ALL OF US ARE GUILTY,

JESUS WAS AS PURE AS THE DRIVEN SNOW; IT WAS OUR SINS THAT MADE HIM FILTHY.

HE'S NOT THE EASTER BUNNY, AND AT CHRISTMAS, HE DOESN'T TRANSFORM INTO SANTA CLAUS.

THOSE ARE JUST FALSE IDOLS FOR US TO WORSHIP; THEY WANT US TO FORGET ABOUT THE CROSS.

DON'T ALLOW YOURSELVES TO BELIEVE, TODAY EQUALS EGG HUNTS AND EASTER CLOTHES.

TODAY SIGNIFIES THE DAY THAT MY LORD AND SAVIOR ROSE!

THEY BEAT HIM UNMERCIFULLY, THEY SPAT IN HIS FACE,

AND THE SAME ONES WHO ONCE LOVED HIM, CHEERED AS HIS LIFE SLIPPED AWAY.

HE WAS HUNG ON THE CROSS, STILL BLESSING US WITH HIS LAST BREATH,

THE SAME LOVING FACES AT HIS TEACHINGS, HAD FRONT ROW SEATS AT HIS DEATH.

HE WAS HUNG LIKE A COMMON CRIMINAL, THEY PIERCED HIS SIDE JUST TO BE SURE.

THEY ASSUMED, WALKING AWAY, THAT THE KING OF THE JEWS LIVED NO MORE.

HE WAS LAID IN THE TOMB, BUT IN THE MORNING WAS GONE.

HE LEFT BEHIND STRIPS OF LINEN, AND HIS BURIAL CLOTH.

OUTSIDE MARY MAGDALENE CRIED- TWICE NOW, SHE'S LOST HER MASTER,

AND A VOICE CALLED OUT TO HER, "MARY, WHO IS IT YOU SEEK AFTER?"

HER HEAD IS BOWED LOW, HER HEART- OVERFLOODED WITH PAIN,

SLOWLY SHE LOOKS UP SURPRISED TO HEAR JESUS CALL HER NAME.

YOU SEE, IT DIDN'T END ON THE CROSS- MAN CAN'T FINISH THE STORY WHEN GOD'S THE AUTHOR.

JESUS LIVED, DIED AND ROSE AND NOW INTERCEDES FOR US AT THE RIGHT HAND OF THE FATHER.

IF YOU'VE BEEN HURT ALL YOUR LIFE AND YOU JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE,

IF YOU'RE DESPERATE FOR A CHANGE AND YOU JUST DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START,

IF YOU CAN FINALLY FEEL HIS PRESENCE AND YOU DON'T WANT THIS FEELING TO EVER END,

TURN YOUR BACK ON THE DEVIL FOREVER; OPEN YOUR HEART AND LET JESUS IN.

WRITTEN ON APRIL 7, 2007

BY REBECA REYES

Tim Tebow, David and Goliath

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:50:37 PDT

TIM TEBOW, DAVID AND GOLIATH

Tim Tebow was born on August 14, 1987. He was drafted by the Denver Broncos in the first round of the 2010 NFL Draft. Tim Tebow played college football for the Florida Gators. He was a highly-touted quarterback known as a dual threat for his ability to run and pass. He is an outstanding athlete and is loved and adored by many.

Yesterday Coach John Fox said he'll start Tim Tebow against the Miami Dolphins when the Broncos return from their bye week. Tebow will take over the Starting quarterback job from Kyle Orton who has been struggling. The Broncos are now 1-4 and maybe just maybe Coach Fox has given in to those who have been anxiously calling for TEBOW...TEBOW!!

We know many quarterbacks who had great collegiate resumes and yet were utter failures in the NFL. Is Tebow the next next bust or the next Star? Well, only time will tell.

As I was thinking about Tim Tebow I thought about King David and his battle against Goliath.

- David was eager to fight against the giant. (You can't measure heart)

- He was unconventional in his approach (I mean 5 smooth stones and a slingshot?!!)

- Many, including his family, doubted his ability to win. (Yet David saw in himself what no one else did.)

- King Saul wanted David to put on his armor. (Those who don't want to get there hands dirty still want to tell you how to do it... amazing.)

- After David's success everyone jumped on the bandwagon. ( They even wrote and sung songs about him.)

Well Tebow, just like David's story we all love a rags to riches story. We root for the underdog and if successful his story will make a wonderful lifetime movie. :)

Well, I don't know if Coach Fox is making the right move.
I don't know if Tim Tebow will lead the Broncos to a championship.
I don't know if Tebow will even become a top rate quarterback in the NFL.

However, I do know that I will be watching!!! I won't count him out... because I saw 5 smooth stones in his pocket.. ;)

Lessons Learned From the Life and Death of Steve Jobs

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 18:46:15 PST

Lessons Learned From

the Life and Death of Steve Jobs

Over the past few days the world has been mourning the death of a man who has truly revolutized our lives. His story is the American story. I must admit that I wasn't an avid follower of Mr. Jobs. I know more about him now than I ever did. Yet he has impacted my life with the products he has engineered and, more recently, with his story. I was listening to the news reporting stations that are telling his story and a few thoughts came to mind:

1.) Your past doesn't determine your future - Steve was given up for adoption at birth. He was the product of an unmarried interracial couple in a time when that was heavily frowned upon. He was adopted by Paul and Clara Jobs of Mountain View California. Jobs was a bit of a loner and he found school boring. He dropped out of college after the first semester. I could go on and on with things that could have relegated him to a life of obscurity. Yet in spite of the strikes that were against him, he charged forward and carried his past in his hands and forged galiantly into his future.

How many of us are actively busy counting the strikes against us? How many of us have accepted mediocrity because that is all we know and expect out of ourselves? How many of us have forgotten that we are more than conquerors? We need to revive that conquering spirit! We need to adopt that attitude that says no matter what has happened in the past. No matter what the situation looks like now.. As a child of God, I will win!! My past will not determine my future!!

2.) Swim Upstream - Jobs started his business in his bedroom and his father's garage. Most businesses I know of need capital and a business plan to be taken seriously. Yet, Jobs (along with Steve Wozniak) worked passionately to make this dream a reality.

Many of the great pioneers and innovators of our time have an ability to see what others don't see and go where others won't go. They have a passion and a spirit which allows them to visualize something that does not exist as though it does.

I believe many probably thought Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell, Bejamin Franklin George Washington Carver and many other inventors were crazy for their inventions. Yet each of them had to swim upstream or against the tide in order to bring their products to life.

How about you? Are you willing to launch out into the deep? To travel in unchartered waters? Are you willing to swim upstream?

3.) Death is no respecter of person's - In spite of the many obstacles that Steve Job's faced in life he persevered and financially made it big. He ran three large companies. He engineered many great ventures and invented and priduced many great products. He was worth billions of dollars. Yet in spite of his fame and fortune at the age of 56 he died from pancreatic cancer. You see, he could not escape death. Death, my friends, is no respecter of person's!!

The rich and the poor ....... die
Blacks and whites ...............die
Young and old ......................die

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Courageous The Movie: My Film Review - A Must See

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 09:12:43 PST

Director

Alex Kendrick

Screenwriters

Alex Kendrick, Stephen Kendrick

Cast

Alex Kendrick, Ken Bevel, Ben Davies

Summary: Four men, one calling: To serve and protect. As law enforcement officers, Adam Mitchell, Nathan Hayes, David Thomson, and Shane Fuller are confident and focused. Yet at the end of the day, they face a challenge that none of them are truly prepared to tackle: fatherhood. (Affirm Films)

My thoughts on the movie:

I will give my thoughts and then I will give the cliff notes (scene by scene) of the movie. This will spoil the movie for most of you. So if you want to watch the movie and experience it correctly DO NOT Read past my thoughts/summary of the movie. I will make sure to correctly separate my thought from my written cliff notes.

I first want to say that this is a must see for both the Christian community as well as any father or potential father, namely any man. I went to see the movie without any knowledge of the plot. I was satisfied simply knowing that it was a movie produced by Sherwood Pictures the makers of Flywheeel, Facing the Giants (my fav.), Fireproof, and currently Couragous.

Having no in depth knowledge regarding the plot, I wish a fellow preacher and friend who saw the movie with his family had warned me to bring a box of tissues with me. Courageous is a touching movie I was really able to relate to.

It tackles the problems caused by absent, career focused, neglectful and complacent fathers. A lot of facts are woven into the storyline that support the notion that fathers are crucially important to a child's growth and development. Furthermore, that fathers have a profound bearing on the social, emotional, spiritual and intellectual development of children.

Being a father of five and a "family man" I can identify with the main theme of the movie. Having also had some negative experiences of my own I could also identify with the troubled teens depicted in the movie. I can recall two lives: One with my father and mother together and another (because of divorce) with him absent. I know personally the effects of not having your father there during those crucial years. I believe that is why I am so in tune with the message this movie is heralding.

The movie depicts four officers and one civilian who by God's providence develop a friendship which allows them to talk freely about their father's and a host of other things. A tradgedy ensues that shakes up how one of the men views himself and his performance as a father. He decides to embark on a journey to learn what God says about fatherhood. He realizes his failings and resolves to be the father God wants him to be. He shares his resolution with his friends and challenges them to join him in this quest to be the men God has called them to be. The movie depicts their success and failures trying to live up to God's expectations.

You will laugh and you will cry but more importantly you will be challenged to be a better father, mentor or influencer in the lives of our children.

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How To Get Rid of Stinkin' Thinkin'

noreply@blogger.com (Domingo Reyes) — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:49:18 PDT

Stinkin' Thinkin'

Have you ever seen someone talking to themselves? What did you think about them? You may have thought they were on the line between sane and crazy. I remember when I first saw someone with a hands free cell phone device and I saw and heard them talking to themselves. It made me a bit uneasy and caused me to keep my distance from that person.

Well,the reality is that we all talk to ourselves. Maybe not audibly but we often engage in internal conversations with ourselves daily. This is often referred to as self talk. We talk to ourselves all day long. When we look into a mirror we mentally talk to ourselves about how good or bad our outfit, hair, shoes, etc are. In other words that self talk takes place in our minds as thoughts. These thoughts have great power over our mental, emotional and physical (yes, physical) state.

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