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Teach Me how to become a Giver of Love

Intuition Girl — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 13:28:43 +0000

Giving and receiving love are two of the most beautiful feelings on Earth. When you are the receiver of love, you experience the joy and passion that is not only revitalizing, but it is equally intoxicating. Once you receive it, you want more and more of it. To receive love, however, you must become the giver of love. The giver of love is one who gives it unconditionally without strings attached.

This means that you must also learn how to forgive. You can only truly become a giver of love once you learn how to forgive others as well. That is sometimes easier said than done. After all, many of us carry around a lot of emotional baggage from past hurts and haunts because we believe it is too difficult to let all that sorrow and anger go. We would rather hold onto it because it emboldens us whenever we are angered. It makes us feel powerful when we get mad, upset or want to rehash old feelings. Then when we are feeling sorry for ourselves, and dumped upon, we dig up and recycle all those negative emotions and relive the sorrow and pain as we fall back into our rabbit hole. Sound familiar?

Let me teach you how to become a giver of love. You, too, can become an individual freed from the chains of your emotions. You have the innate ability to give and receive love without condition. No more resorting to old and negative feelings because now you are ready to move forward without the attachment of the old abusive feelings from your past. Just knowing that can remove those unwanted emotions and grief is already a freeing feeling, isn’t it?

The truth is, in order to be able to give love, you must truly feel safe inside of you and become comfortable being vulnerable. This is truly not an overnight process but rather one that may take you a while to achieve, yet it is truly worth the journey. All of this is an inside job and has nothing to do with another person. What you need to do in order to feel safe inside of you is to connect and love all the pieces in you that you feel are wounded. You also have to learn to trust yourself and realize you are the driving force in your life. Do you trust that you can put yourself in good, positive situations that serve you? This is something very important to look at and heal for you.

Allow me to assist you in your path to learning how to forgive and to become a giver of love. Once you have the keys to unlocking the chains that bind you, you will be able to finally rediscover the joy and love that has been missing from your life. And that, my friends, is the first step to leading a joy-filled life. Let’s connect!

I am here to help you learn to love yourself unconditionally.

Until we speak again, I am

Joan Marie, Your Intuition Girl

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By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl

About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to: www.joanmariethegift.com

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How prepared are you?

Intuition Girl — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 00:15:46 +0000

The Scouts got it right a long time ago when they enlisted the motto, “Be Prepared.” By being prepared, your body, mind and spirit are always in a perpetual state of readiness. Now that does not mean that you need to be so worked up and anxious worrying about something horrific waiting at every bend – it simply means that you have the mindset to be ready and willing to take charge of a situation by creating alternative choices for yourself. Being prepared also means that you are ready to face any challenge by understanding what it is you need to do and how to do it.

A prime example of “being prepared” was demonstrated perfectly in the Miracle on the Hudson in 2009. 155 passengers all survived what could have been a fatal crash landing on the Hudson River; but the calm Captain “Sully” Sullenberger was mentally and physically prepared to do what it took to save life and limb. Sullenberger was later quoted as saying,” One way of looking at this might be that, for 42 years, I’ve been making small regular deposits in this bank of experience: education and training. And on January 15, the balance was sufficient so that I could make a very large withdrawal.” Do you have a sufficient balance of experience, education and training from which to extract should the time arrive?

Of course the vast majority of us will never be involved in such a near-calamity as that as the good Captain Sully, but we may have other life circumstances creep up on us unawares. No future is written in stone and that is why it is vital to your health and wellbeing to be prepared for whatever roadblock or difficulty arises. Think of it in a more simplistic way: If you are in the process of entering into a legally-binding contract, do you dot your “i’s” and cross your “t’s”? What I mean by that is are you making certain that no stone is being left unturned? Are you reading, re-reading and understanding the fine print?

When you invest your time in a new work project, are you conducting a pre-mortem? What’s that, you ask? A “pre-mortem” is a checklist of all the things that could go wrong during and after final production. So if you are a manufacturer and you have engineered a new type of vacuum cleaner, did you take into account all the components and how they could interact with other materials? How about trustworthiness? Is your new product going to be reliable and do everything as promised? The same holds true for matters of health, heart, home and relationships in general.

I do not want you to start beating yourself up and thinking that you need to worry about every single detail, but it is important to focus on the big picture and what missing details may be critical to your overall success. For instance, if you were going to participate in a marathon, would you go without training for months and eat all the foods that are wrong for your body? Absolutely not. Of course you know better than that. You have to be prepared both mentally and physically to be in the right state of mind and shape to take part in such an event.

How does being prepared affect love? Oh yes, that’s a good question! When opportunity presents itself, are you ready to effectively communicate with a potential significant other or are you going to rely on old and outdated pickup lines? Be prepared. Be prepared.

In the end, you do not have to be Captain Sully – all you must be is yourself and understand that life happens. We all experience our equal shares of ups and downs. It is in your life choices and life-preserving measures, however, which will ultimately be the decisive factors as to whether you fail or succeed.

Until we speak again, I am

Joan Mare, your Intuition Girl

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One Million and One Choices

Intuition Girl — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 13:25:11 +0000

Do you really know what it means to be a winner in life? I am sure you have heard others speak about folks who appear to have it all – a happy marriage, a great home life, a solid career, good friends, a nice home. When you notice that some people have such comfortable lives, does your heart pine to have a similar lifestyle?

It all boils down to the choices that you make in life. Each day, in fact, you make countless decisions of which you do not give a second thought. For example, when you wake up in the morning, take a shower, eat breakfast, drive to work, do your job, go shopping and then come home, you have made six choices already. But it is all the in-between decisions that sometimes have the most impact. The thing about these choices, too, is that there is an underlying reason or purpose as to why you do all the things that you do. What determines your choices, actions, behavior and end results is the motivating factor or drive. What convictions do you have about the life you want to lead? If you are simply going through the daily motions of “living” but not loving life, you may not truly have or achieve the lifestyle you deserve.

To become a winner in life, you must have a winning attitude of gratitude. The more you learn to appreciate the blessings in your life, the greater chances you will reach greatness in everything that touches your life. “I am grateful, but I am simply not going anywhere,” you say? What choices can you make today to jumpstart the road to your individual success? You must take a look at the motivator behind what you do – the seed you have planted to grow your abundance. Is the seed just a withering way to get by and make ends meet, or is the seed being nurtured with a strong and productive strategy to go beyond the average and into the extraordinary life you want to have? Do not “pine about” what you could have. Instead, take action steps. Make every choice count for something. If you are stuck in a dead end job, and you know that it is a dead end job, why are you still there? The same holds true for relationships. If you are in a negative relationship, or if you do not have the love of your life in your life, then what are you doing about the situation to rectify it? Look at your past, your present and your future. Where have you been, what choices have you made, what choices are you making today, and what choices do you need to actively make to achieve the end results you want? If you are making the same decisions that you have made 10 years ago, isn’t it time you switched strategies?

You have one million and one choices (and beyond) to create a joyful and prosperous life of individual freedom. Plant the seed of success in your heart, your mind, and your spirit. Give it wings to fly by following up on lifestyle-changing choices so you too, can soar to greater heights. Until we speak again, I am

Joan Mare, your Intuition Girl

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New Year – New Attitude

Intuition Girl — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 12:42:54 +0000

I know. Every year it is the same thing. You are all pumped up for the big event, and you have already made out your wish list of resolutions that you plan to carry out in the New Year. Yet year after year, you continue to do the same things that keep holding you back in your life. Why? Is it because you are used to leading your life a certain way? Is it because you have grown complacent to the comfort of knowing how each day is going to be like for you? Or is it because somewhere deep inside of you, you are afraid to let go of all the “stuff” that you have been holding onto?

I realize it is easier said than done. In fact, it is often a challenge for many of you to release things that give you some form of comfort. Even negative feelings and past hurts can sometimes be a comfort — because you know that you can use those as a crutch whenever you want to blame something or someone for your choices in life. The problem with that type of behavior is that the longer you hold onto your emotional baggage, the harder it is for you to move forward in life.

New Year – New Attitude

Why not try something extraordinary this time? Instead of doing things the same way you normally have in the past, use this New Year to reward yourself by pursuing opportunities for positive change. This means that you must challenge yourself to let go of that old pessimistic attitude and reinvigorate your soul being with the awareness that anything is possible – if you choose it to be.

With the New Year comes new opportunities – I want you to bid farewell to those feelings of old. Remember, only you have the power to transform your life into one that will be joy-filled and prosperous. Your metamorphosis will begin to take shape once you understand and apply a renewed sense of purpose in all your undertakings. That purpose is to enrich your life in every aspect; but you must truly want it with all your heart. You achieve this by letting go of the past. Then, you can begin to build upon the experience and wisdom of your history to manifest the foundation for your present and future. Make every minute count! Go into this New Year with a new attitude and watch the pendulum swing in your favor!

Joan Marie, your Intuition Girl

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I wanna be a Billionaire!

Intuition Girl — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:04:01 +0000

Don’t we all have a similar dream? Rap singer Travie McCoy (featuring Bruno Mars) about it in his hit single, “I Wanna be a Billionaire” and actually turned his pipe dreams into a reality. He found wealth in his gift of musical talents. In the lyrics, you’ll hear, “Go in your pocket, pull out your wallet and put it in the air and sing.” There is a metaphor in that we have to put our money where our mouth is.

How often do you have a dream or desire but then you back down because you are afraid to move forward? Or maybe you think you just do not have enough start-up money to get your feet off the ground and running? Well, if you keep beating yourself up and quit before you get started you are probably right. It is all about putting your money … or your clout, where your mouth is. Yes, “you will miss 100 percent of the shots if you do not take any,” so says professional hockey player, Wayne Gretsky. How many shots have you missed because you gave up before you even began?

Can you imagine if JFK would have decided that it was not a good idea to be the first country to send men to the moon? Or what about Alexander Graham Bell? What if he had decided that the phone just was not a good enough invention after all? Or better still, what if Mark Zuckerberg just decided that Facebook was just a silly novelty and pulled the plug before it ever made it to the Net? Where on earth would many of us be today without some of the innovations of the past and recent past? It is not a matter of whether or not you can or cannot do something; it is a matter of whether or not you are willing to go the distance.

So what is it that your heart truly desires? Do you want to make it to American Idol? Are you trying to expand your catering side job into a full time business? Do you really want to earn that degree in civil engineering? How far are you willing to go? How much courage do you have to do what it takes to get you to where you need to be? If you are willing to take the leap of faith and follow your heart, you may just surprise yourself with the end results. I imagine Travie McCoy did, as did Mark Zuckerberg, Bell and Gretzky, among others.

Until we speak again,

I am your Intuition Girl, Joan Marie

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When I Wish upon a Star…

Intuition Girl — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 12:56:26 +0000

Do you remember a time when you saw a shooting star and you caught yourself making a wish? It’s okay to admit that you have… a lot of us have. And even without a shooting star, we sometimes find ourselves wishing for things that we do not have, for what others may have, and things that we could have had. Quite frankly, it is probably human nature to strive for bigger and better things…

This reminds me of a song that topped the charts back in 1995. Hip hop rapper Skee-Lo debuted with his one-hit wonder, “I wish”. In his song, he talks about how he wishes he was a bit taller, among many other things. The funny part about the lyrics is that the whole song is a big “pity party”. When wishing becomes the greater part of who you are, you begin seeing all the negativity in your life opposed to all the blessings that surround you now. In fact, when you create your own pity party, you can no longer focus on open doors of opportunity. The world becomes too difficult and all that you see is what you cannot have. That is not the way you are intended to live your life.

What is it that you heart desires right now? If it is a relationship, then what are you doing to create and manifest the connection you are seeking? If you are simply wishing for a relationship it is simply not good enough. Words and thoughts without deeds go nowhere. The same applies to the word “try”. For example, “I tried to have a relationship but it just didn’t work out.” If you truly “tried”, what was it that you did differently to make things work more effectively and mutually? Make a list of things that you can do right now to create the life you want to lead. After you have crafted your list, you need to follow through on those modifications so that you will not just be trying, but instead, doing.

“When you DO all that you can do to support and manifest the dreams that you have made in your heart and soul, then your wishes can come true.” When you DO what your inner soul truly wants you to do, all the obstacles you see before you become stepping-stones and opportunities for learning and growing. Remember too, dreams and wishes are the heart’s laughing place – a tender spot in your heart that keeps you striving and thriving. Never let go of your heart’s desires – but in order to fulfill them, you have to do more than just try – you simply must do.

Joan Marie, your Intuition Girl

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Filling the Cornucopia of your Life

Intuition Girl — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 13:28:32 +0000

In my life, Thanksgiving brings a sense of renewed hope, love and reflection. I take this time to honor the people and events in my life, which have given me the inspiration, motivation and support to be who I am.

Do you see the beauty and bounty in this simple yet nourishing horn of plenty? I do. When I look at the cornucopia filled with an array of fruits, flowers and nuts, I appreciate the wonder and miracle of Nature’s harvest. Moreover, the cornucopia is the promise of blessings to come; and if you put just a little motivation behind your short-term goals, you will eventually achieve your long-term aspirations.

How plentiful is your cornucopia? If you are so fortunate to have family and friends to share your turkey-day feast, consider yourself very lucky. But before the main event… before you chow-down on delicious pumpkin pie, sultry turkey and egg nog – I want you to reflect on all the gifts in your life. Really take a few minutes to think about all the things that have gone right in your life. There must be something or someone that has been a blessing to you. Whether it is a close friend, who is always there to lend a hand – a warm home to call your own – the pet that never leaves your side, or the job that has paved the way for all the material things you own, now is the time to give thanks for all those things you often take for granted.

But I am struggling, Joan Marie – how can you expect me to be thankful when I have nothing to be thankful for, you say? There is always a positive flame burning for you if you only seek it. Inside each and every one of you is an abundance of wisdom that you can use to step into affluence – affluence of health, wealth and joy. You only need to make the choice to pursue happiness and prosperity. Once you do, you are well on the way to filling your metaphorical cornucopia. Remember, your horn of plenty can only become plentiful once you begin adding to it. If you continue to see a barren placeholder for the things that you want out of life, it will continue to remain empty. Start seeing the beauty and wholeness of who you are and the blessings will begin to flow.

Until we speak again, I am

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Not Good Enough

Intuition Girl — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 13:21:28 +0000

Today you may have a financially-sound career and you may have earned the respect of your colleagues. But when you get home at the end of the day, you feel like something is missing from your life. Perhaps your personal life is empty – even if you have a significant other or “friends” on Facebook. Why do you feel the way you do? What triggers in your daily routine keep coming up that bring these past emotional wounds to the surface? Is it the stress of juggling career and home? Is it because you are the breadwinner and you feel like you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Or is it because deep inside, you just do not feel good enough to have something or be something better in your life?

Remember that little boy or girl who tried so hard to love and to be loved; and no matter what the child tried to do, it seemed to not be good enough for others? Some of you still battle with that child within. You may appear to have balanced lives, comfortable houses and nice cars… but your relationships are not whole or in harmony — primarily because within your inner being is that little boy or girl, who is still consciously or unconsciously clinging to past experiences. You put up a barricade so that others can never truly enter into your lives because you are fearful that you may be rejected, deprived, neglected or abused.

How do I overcome my anxieties, you ask? You begin by accepting the past hurts of your life and forgiving yourself and those around you who may have contributed to the feelings and the emotional wall that you have built around yourself. Even if you do not reconcile these issues in person, you only need to say aloud, “I accept who I am. I forgive those who have hurt me. I forgive myself for holding onto the feelings that I have created in my life. I am free.” Each time any triggers or emotions start creeping up in your life, repeat the mantra above. It will help you sort through your challenges and allow you to move forward guilt-free and uninhibited. Remember, only you have the power to overcome your emotional burdens. If you continue to focus on what is no longer a part of your life, you will build your metaphorical wall higher and higher until you can no longer see over it.

You are good enough. In fact, you are better than just “good enough”. You are unique in every way. When you begin to see beyond your emotional wall, you will finally be free from what has chained you for far too long.

Until we speak again, I am

Joan Marie – your Intuition Girl

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Life Lessons well Spent

Intuition Girl — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 00:04:32 +0000

In a day and age where technology appears to rule the day and the sky is virtually the limit in what we can achieve, I often find that young adults seem to have the most difficulty adapting to their new roles in life. Once young men and women get past raging hormones, acne and the feelings of peer acceptance – they are often still overwhelmed by the challenges and uncertainty of the times. It is easy for those of us, ripened with time and experience, to wonder how these feelings of lack and overwhelm can be so prolific in our youth. But given the nature of our socioeconomic environment, it is really no wonder at all. In fact, our high school and college graduates face a tough housing and job market. To them, everything is not as clear cut as it may have been for ourselves and those who came before us.

Ever heard that old adage about earning a degree at the College of Hard Knox? Those are some of the best life lessons well spent. For those of us who have been there, we might have some words of wisdom to share. We have seen and experienced what curve balls life can throw our way. Because of the encounters that many of us have experienced in the past, we just might be the perfect mentors to our youth during these difficult times if they are willing to listen to our words about the life lessons that we have faced. I am sure there are many wise people who have sound advice to offer those who need it the most.

So how do we help them create an attitude of gratitude even when the chips are stacked against them? Though it is an easy question to ask, the answer is not always so straightforward. That is when your life lessons can come in handy. In a lot of cases, you or someone you know may have faced a similar situation when the burdens of life just seemed too much to bear. How did you or another individual make it past the hurdle? What mental and proactive strategies did you employ to overcome these trials? Remember, there are no “right” or “wrong” answers…only suggestions to help mentor those who need it. Teaching an attitude of gratitude – no matter what the circumstances may be – is the definitive sentiment to encourage in these desperate times.

Timing is also always the key. Knowing when to say something is equally as important as lending the guidance itself. Obviously, you need to search for body signals to determine the most appropriate time to speak with the young adult(s) in your life. Deep inside that mind is a battle of the wits. S/he is still trying to gain her/his footing as to where s/he is, where s/he wants to be, and ultimately, how s/he is going to arrive there. If you jump too quickly, you may feed her/his fear. If you wait too long, s/he may simply give up.

Wait for an opportune time to share your own life stories – not to dismiss the real emotions and experiences of the young adult in your life – but to make them aware of the fact that s/he is not the only one going through such adversity and tough times. Help her/him to understand that there is light at the end of the proverbial tunnel; and that no matter what life hands her/him, s/he will come out of it okay if s/he is willing to go the distance and appreciate the blessings that s/he has in the here and now.

In the end, we are merely the watchtower in the bay. We can offer light and a pathway. The journey, however, is for the young adult alone to pave. These will be (her/his own) life lessons well spent.

Until we speak again, I am

Joan Marie, your Intuition Girl

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When Darkness Falls

Intuition Girl — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 11:55:03 +0000

When you were little, were you afraid of the dark? It is okay to admit you were. Many of us have had fears about something we could not see, or we imagined to be real. Hallows Eve brings back memories of witches brew, candied apples, ghosts and ghouls, and everything in between. But for some of us, there are real fears of the unknown – fears from past trauma, fears of isolation, fears about loneliness and even fears about guilt. All too often, we would rather live with those constant fears than face them head on.

It is tough trying to wade through those murky waters. It is much easier just to forget what has made us so fearful and continue to live in those confines. We become complacent in fact, knowing that we can blame something or someone for the life choices we have made. But what happens when it becomes habitual? What I mean by that is what if you continue to repeat the same behavior and the same reactions time and time again – each time, with a worse outcome? Do you always blame that past event, situation or person for the choices you continue to make? More often than not, you probably are. It is actually quite convenient to say, “If it weren’t for so and so, I wouldn’t be in this situation.” Imagine however, if you really had to accept your own responsibility in what is happening in your life. Oh no, the dreaded, “I goofed up. I made a mistake.” The consequence of that is your acceptance to be responsible for the action or inaction. The ultimate outcome is a learning experience in which you can absolve yourself by forgiving yourself and moving forward. Once you do, you are ready to go beyond those confines and understand what it is you need to do the next time to successfully overcome it.

No more “boos” or demons in your life! From this day forward, I want you to take a proactive lead in your life to forgive your fears. Rise above your complacency and understand that you are making a full and conscious choice to take control of your life and the life decisions you will make. Remember, no one or nothing can make you do the things that you do, or feel the way you feel. The next time darkness falls, know that you are not be alone, but there just might be a lesson or message for you to figure out. You might need to step back and take a look at where you are in your life in an honest and truthful manner then take the steps to release the experience and prepare not to let it happen again.

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