This is how the most advanced city in the world sprung from the desert sands of Dubai in less than 10 years.

This is how Bugatti built the 253 mph Veyron.

This is how Steve Jobs created the iPhone.

Whatever that dream may be in your mind…

Whether it’s unlimited time with your family, a new dress, the chance to work full-time for your favorite charity, or your dream home…having the financial means and the ability to say,

“Yes, I can make this real if I want” is the ultimate expression of wealth that someone can experience.

That is being rich. That is wealth.

I got there, and so can you. And it all begins with mindset…

Step #1: Forget The Past And Forget The Present

Your past and present circumstances have nothing to do with your future.

The first thing you need to realize is that whether you were rich or poor growing up doesn’t matter.

No one within my family tree has ever been what I consider wealthy, and all of the rich kids I envied back in high school are living uninspired lives of financial mediocrity today.

I started busing tables the day I turned 16. I was an average B/C student in high school and barely squeaked through college.

After graduation, I spent the next five years failing in my network marketing businesses and bouncing from one corporate job to another in order to pay the rent.

Looking at me from the outside, I was nothing and no one.

But deep inside at my core, I held an unwavering belief that I would be a millionaire before 30, and that I would change the world for the better.

You can make the conscious decision right now to let go of your past and let go of your present.

Accept the belief that you deserve to be wealthy and that you will become wealthy, even if you’re not sure how it will happen just yet.

This will set your subconscious on a mission to create your new reality. You’ll start to make different choices, and better decisions that will lead you toward your goal.

Step #2: Realize What Money Truly Is…

For most people in this world, money is this scarce, all-powerful force that controls every aspect of their life.

Money is their master. It controls them. It determines the quality of life they get to experience, and some people are just luckier to get more of it than others.

The rich think differently.

They believe and accept that they have the power to change and shape their lives as they wish. Money doesn’t own their lives, they own the money. They have the power.

In reality, money is a physical representation for energy and value.

And energy can never be destroyed. It can only be transferred from one source to another.

Step #3: Know that Money is Abundantly Available

If money can never be destroyed, that means it is infinitely and abundantly available.

A critical step to acquiring wealth is to have an “abundance mentality.”

And that simply means you realize your life and the world has an unlimited abundance of money, wealth, energy, happiness, hope, and prosperity.

And that these things are not privileges of a lucky few, but they are available to all.

It’s this mindset of abundance that allows you to destroy the one thing that’s holding you back…

Fear.

• Fear of loss when it comes to your job or an investment.

• Fear of judgment.

• Fear of mistakes.

Letting go of scarcity means letting go of fear so that you can open up your heart and mind to creation and abundance.

So how do you foster and develop that abundance mentality? Well that leads us to…

Step #4: Choose Your Friends Wisely

You may have heard the saying that your income is destined to be the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

This is absolutely correct.

Our minds are like sponges that are constantly absorbing every piece of stimulus we encounter, either consciously or unconsciously.

To become rich, you must surround yourself with people who are already rich…

…because you will adopt the ideas, beliefs, and mindset of the people you spend the most time with, (including the people found on TV, in books, or on tape), which will lead you to make similar decisions, which will lead you to assume a similar life and lifestyle.

Obviously that might be difficult to do in person, but the great news is that your time spent with the wealthy of the world doesn’t need to take place in person.

All that matters is the amount of exposure, whether it’s by reading a book, watching videos at The Elevation Group, or listening to CDs in your car.

You must consciously protect yourself from people with a poverty mentality, and open your mind to those with an abundance mentality immediately.

Step #5: Understand that it Is Your Obligation To Be Rich

I’m not here to teach or preach religion, but I will simply share my personal feelings with you on this particular topic.

It is my firmest belief that God wants each of us to be rich, so that we can experience the incredible gifts that he has created for us.

We’re only here for a short time, and I personally feel like it would be an insult to Him if I did not do my absolute best to see and experience all of the amazing things he’s created on this world.

If I’m not driving the best, eating the best, drinking the best, seeing the best that life has to offer, and helping my fellow man do the same, I’m insulting his generosity, and I’m turning my back on what he’s trying to share.

God is by definition a creator.

Which means the closest you can ever get to God is when you allow yourself to use the gifts he’s given you to design and create your greatest life.

Your destiny is unlimited abundance if you’re a simply willing to accept that gift.

Author Bio:

Mike Dillard is a 33 year old native of Austin Texas. A recent husband and father, he went from waiting tables to millionaire by the age of 26. Over the past five years he has founded two publishing companies, producing $20,000,000 in combined revenue. Over 1,000,000 entrepreneurs from 65 different countries have subscribed to his online newsletter.

Four months ago, he walked away from everything in order to share the urgent message and mission of The Elevation Group, which teaches others how to be rich.

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Your subconscious mind has astonishingly strong power.

Have you ever heard a parent say to a child, “You’re going to fall if you climb up on there.”

What happened?

The child probably fell. He or she believed what the parent told them.

Now turn the situation around:

What if the parent said instead, “You are so strong! I think you’re going to make it all the way to the top of that!”

Chances are, the very same child who fell before will succeed this time.

As adults, we carry within us an inner coach or critic, and that inner voice (our subconscious mind) has the power to help us succeed or fail.

Watch the video below to see a shocking demonstration of how even our bodies obey our inner beliefs.

Everything you need is within you, just waiting to be directed toward (rather than away from) your dreams.

Money, relationships, career, parenting – it doesn’t matter what area you’re working on; this method of redirecting your subconscious mind toward your highest goals takes less than 5 minutes a day!

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If you want money, you only have to do one thing…

It’s the one thing some of the wealthiest people on the planet have done and are doing.

It’s the one thing written about in various ancient cultures and still promoted today.

It’s the one thing that will bring money to anyone who does it — but at the same time, most people will fear doing it.

What is that one thing?

John D. Rockefeller did it since he was a child. He became a billionaire.

Andrew Carnegie did it, too. He became a tycoon.

What is the greatest money-making secret in history? What is the one thing that works for everyone?

Give money away.

That’s right. Give it away.

Give it to people who help you stay in touch with your inner world. Give it to people who inspire you, serve you, heal you, love you. Give it to people without expecting them to return it, but give it knowing it will come back to you multiplied from some source.

In 1924 John D. Rockefeller wrote to his son and explained his practice of giving away money. He wrote, “…in the beginning of getting money, way back in my childhood, I began giving it away, and continued increasing the gifts as the income increased…”

Did you notice what he said?

He gave away more money as he received more income. He gave away $550 million dollars in his lifetime.

P.T. Barnum gave money away, too.

As I wrote in my book on him, There’s A Customer Born Every Minute, Barnum believed in what he called a “profitable philanthropy.”

He knew giving would lead to receiving. He, too, became one of the world’s richest men.

Andrew Carnegie gave enormously, too.

While some might argue that these early tycoons had the money to give so it was easy for them, I would argue that they got the money in part because they were willing to freely give.

The giving led to the receiving. The giving led to more wealth.

Today it’s fashionable for businesses to give money to worthy causes. It makes them look good, and of course it helps those who receive it.

Anita Roddick’s Body Shop stores, Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield’s ice cream, and Yvon Chouinard’s Patagonia, are living examples of how giving can be good for business.

But what I’m talking about here is individual giving. I’m talking about you giving money so you will receive more money.

If there’s one thing I think people do wrong when they practice giving, is they give too little.

They hold on to their money and let it trickle out when it comes to giving — and that’s why they aren’t receiving. You have to give, and give a lot, to be in the flow of life to receive.

I remember when I first heard about the idea of giving. I thought it was a scheme to get me to give money to the people who were telling me to do the giving.

If I did give, it was like a miser. Naturally, what I got in return was equivalent to what I gave. I gave little. I got little.

But then one day I decided to test the theory of giving.

I love inspiring stories. I read them, listen to them, share them, and tell them. I decided to thank Mike Dooley of tut.com for the inspiring messages he shares with me and others every day by email.

I decided to give him some money. In the past I would have given him maybe five dollars. But that’s when I came from scarcity and feared the giving principle wouldn’t work. This time would be different. I took out my check book and wrote a check for one thousand dollars.

Mike was stunned. He got my check in the mail and nearly drove off the road as he headed home. He couldn’t believe it.

I loved making him so happy and I delighted in giving the money to him. Whatever he did with it was fine with me.

What I got was an incredible feeling of helping someone continue doing what I believed in. It was an inner rush to help him. I still rejoice at sending him the money.

And then something wonderful began to happen.

I suddenly got a call from a person who wanted me to co-author his book, a job that ended up paying me many times over what I given away.

And then a publisher in Japan contacted me, wanting to buy the translation rights to my best-selling book, Spiritual Marketing.

They, too, offered me many times what I had given my friend as a gift.

A true skeptic can say these events are unrelated. Maybe in the skeptic’s mind, they aren’t. In mine, they are.

When I gave money to Mike, I sent a message to myself and to the world that I was prosperous and in the flow. I also set up a magnetic principle that attracted money to me: as you give, so you will get.

• Give time and you’ll get time.
• Give products and you’ll get products.
• Give love and you’ll get love.
• Give money and you’ll get money.

This one tip alone can transform your finances.

Think of the person or persons who have inspired you over the last
week. Who made you feel good about yourself, your life, your dreams, or your goals?

Give that person some money. Give them something from your heart. Don’t be stingy. Come from abundance, not scarcity.

Give without expecting return from that person, but do expect return. As you do, you will see your own prosperity grow.

Try it and see.

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Time probably isn’t what you really need. What you really need is energy.

As a busy mom of 2 small children and owner of my own business, having enough energy to accomplish the many tasks required of me each day is mission critical.

Without energy, there’s no way I’m going to be able to…

...exercise, work all day, take care of my children and my home, and still find time for activities like reading and outdoor play.

Here are the 5 things I do every single day to ensure that I am always functioning at top speed.

And no, that does not mean I’m constantly running. But it does mean that I’m maximizing the time I have each and every day by keeping my energy levels high all day.

1. Include a healthy protein source into every one of your meals (this includes snacks as well).

Healthy sources of protein and good fat slow down the conversion of carbohydrates into glucose (sugar) in your blood stream, keeping your blood sugar stable throughout the day.

Many times the “crash” people feel after lunch or breakfast is their blood sugar spiking high and then “crashing” real low because they ate a meal that was carbohydrate dense and not balanced with enough protein.

Adding in a healthy protein source like organic eggs, natural meats or poultry, wild fish and raw nuts can ensure your blood sugar doesn’t go on a rollercoaster ride every time you eat.

So instead of grabbing pretzels from the vending machine in the afternoon, go for some raw almonds and a fruit and that will keep your energy levels sustained for the rest of the afternoon.

2. Stay hydrated all day.

Most people know they should be drinking water, but what they don’t know is that it directly affects their energy levels throughout the day.

Consider this: your brain is approximately 80% water.

Staying hydrated helps you maintain mental energy while avoiding fatigue and headaches.

Water also plays a vital role in your body’s ability to flush toxins.

Organs have to work harder when you don’t have enough water, thus causing fatigue.

3. Be cautious with caffeine intake.

I am not suggesting you completely eliminate your morning java or your breakfast tea.

But many people take their “cup of joe” and turn it into way too many cups of joe.

Yes, caffeine will give you a quick boost in energy, but it will almost always send you crashing just a few hours later.

Caffeinated beverages will also dehydrate your body, and dehydration will cause you to feel fatigued.

Try to keep your caffeine beverages to a maximum of 1-2 per day. I would also suggest drinking those before 1pm as drinking caffeine any later than that can disrupt your ability to fall asleep that night.

4. Beware of “white” carbs.

“White Carbs”(breads, pastas, cereals, baked goods) break down quickly causing a fast spike in blood sugar.

You’ll feel a quick rush of energy, but then a big drop… causing your energy (and your mood) to drop along with it.

Also, when too much sugar floods the system all at once, your body can’t use it all for energy and converts it to stored fat.

While it is correct that carbs give you energy, too many carbs at once will actually lead to fatigue and lethargy.

I would highly suggest keeping the white carbs to a minimum and eating healthier, fibrous carbs like oats, quinoa, sweet potatoes and a variety of fruits and vegetables.

And always be sure to eat those carbs alongside a healthy protein.

5. Do a quick 5-minute mini-exercise circuit at any point during the day.

Yes, even a quick 5-minute exercise routine is enough to get your blood circulating, sending more oxygen to your muscles and brain and giving you a boost in energy.

Quick bursts of exercise will also increase your metabolism, not only helping you keep the excess pounds off, but giving you a burst of energy as well.

If I start to feel the afternoon energy crash, I will get up from my office chair and do…

• 1 minute of body weight squats
• 1 minute of pushups over my desk
• 1 minute of jumping jacks
• 2 minutes of lower and upper body stretches.

It may not sound like very much, but I assure you that in less than 5 minutes, I am pumped and ready to get back to work.

Give the above 5 suggestions a try and you will see firsthand that you do have more than enough hours in each day when you energy levels are at their maximum all day long.

And there are more great tips where those came from!

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You can’t seem to starve it off, and you’ve begun to wonder if there’s an issue with your genetic makeup that’s preventing all your hard work from, well, working.

And when’s the last time you were able to indulge in a rich, delicious dessert…guilt-free?

Guess what?

Fat loss isn’t about deprivation. And staying trim isn’t about having good genes.

It’s about hormonally programming your body to burn fat.

And that’s exactly what the easy-to-follow tips and intelligent ingredients in Fat Burning Baking will do for you!

In fact, not only does this way of eating work to shed fat fast… it will help you keep it off forever!

Here are the 3 fat-melting baking (and cooking) tricks that you must follow to unveil a sleeker, sexier you:

1. Stop the Blood Sugar Spike

Eating carb and sugar rich foods spikes your blood sugar and causes your body to produce insulin – the “fat-storage hormone.”

The number one way to send your body the metabolic message to slim down and burn fat is to limit carbs, keep your sugar intake low and avoid grains.

2. Power Up Your Fat Burning with Protein

Protein is the most thermogenic – or fat burning – nutrient on the planet. That’s because it stimulates glucagon – the weight loss hormone.

But be sure to choose clean proteins – like grass-fed dairy products and pastured, cage-free eggs.

Otherwise, you’ll get a hefty dose of obesogens – compounds that mess up your metabolism and stifle your weight loss efforts.

Be sure to include a source of protein at every meal or snack.

3. Feast on Fat

Think a low-fat diet is the way to a sleeker you? Think again.

Healthy fats – like those found in wild coldwater fish and those in nuts, nut flours, avocados, and olive oil (called monounsaturated fats) are metabolic power ingredients.

Another healthy fat to include is coconut oil. The body uses these unique fats for fuel, not storage.

And what about saturated fats?

If you’re eating grass-fed products (like butter, milk, ghee, kefir) you’re getting an excellent fat profile that includes a very unique fat-burning fat called conjugated linolenic acid (CLA).

CLA is so effective at burning fat that it is made into a supplement for that very purpose.

To keep your metabolism cranking on all cylinders, be sure to include a serving of healthy fats at every meal.

Did you think delicious desserts and sweet treats were out of reach forever?

Think again!

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Oh yes, there is this expectation for dinner to happen night after night! : -)

One of the best and easiest ways to get that done is with our friend, the crockpot.

Believe it or not, the crockpot is my secret to easy, healthy mealtime success.

Crockpots have come a long way since the 70′s. The old relics of stoneware that didn’t come out of the appliance and goopy knobs are long gone.

These days crock-cookers are sleek and modern and and they’ll even compliment your décor!

But more than looking good, they cook incredibly well.

This is one appliance no one should be without, regardless of how many you’re serving.

And if you’re trying to save money, eat healthier and cut your meal prep time, this terrific contraption can do just that by transforming inexpensive cuts of lean meat into savory dishes and taking a dried-up bean and making it over into a delicious, healthy soup or economical entrée.

To make a healthy meal with a crockpot and get the most bang for your buck, you need to follow a few rules of engagement:

1. Make sure the pot is full, but not overflowing.Ideally, it should be about 3/4 full. If your recipe doesn’t fill the pot up enough, double it or even triple it to get it there.Don’t worry about the leftovers; they’ll freeze beautifully!
2. Cheaper is better.You read that right.Cheap meat does better in the crockpot than more expensive cuts (and cheap cuts are often leaner and healthier to boot).More expensive cuts dry out and get tough in the crockpot.
3. Use a little liquid.It doesn’t need to be swimming but you need to be aware that a little liquid helps cook and tenderize tougher cuts of meat.For beans and such, make sure your beans are well covered and that the pot is filled 3/4 full.
4. Cut it up.I have found that even if you’re cooking something larger like a chicken or a pork butt or some such thing, if you cut up that bigger piece into smaller pieces it won’t dry out as much. 
5. Put a lid on it.And don’t keep taking it off to smell and stir. Crockpots can work unattended for hours.The more you take the lid off, the more you lose heat and it takes longer to cook and will eventually dry out.

Here’s a great recipe to get you started:

Crockpot Chicken Stew: Serves 6

6  boneless skinless chicken breast halves (or use thighs, no skin)

2  large  onions — thinly sliced

2  cups  apple cider

1  14 ounce  can  chicken broth

1  package  baby carrots — 16 oz

1/2  teaspoon  rosemary – crumbled with your fingers

1  tablespoon flour (can use arrowroot if you need to go gluten-free)

salt and pepper — to taste…

Place carrots and onions on the bottom of the crockpot. Layer chicken on top, salt and pepper to taste, and crush the rosemary over the top as well. Add cider and broth.

Turn crockpot on low and cook for 8 hours.

When carrots are tender and all is cooked, drain cooking liquid into a sauce pan and simmer over medium heat till reduced.

In a cup, add 1 tablespoon flour and 1/4 cup cold water and blend to make a paste, using a fork.

Make sure there are no lumps, then add to simmering cooking juices, blending the entire time with the fork to incorporate flour mixture with the cooking juices. When sauce has thickened, serve over chicken.

Per Serving: 190 Calories; 2g Fat; 29g Protein; 13g Carbohydrate; 1g Dietary Fiber; 68mg Cholesterol; 208mg Sodium.  Exchanges: 0 Grain (Starch); 4 Lean Meat; 1/2 Vegetable; 1/2 Fruit; 0 Fat.

Serving Suggestions: Serve with brown rice and braised kale.

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Get busy and plug in your crockpot this week. You’ll save time, money AND your sanity!

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You are a part of an elite group of people who eagerly seek to improve themselves…

…and are in the process of changing the world, especially yours and those you come in contact with.

You and I both know that it takes time, commitment and courage to step up day after day and face the realities of what life offers including adversities as well as successes.

It’s our intention for It’s All About Women to become your support system that assists you with the amazing journey you’re on.

We do a lot here at IAAW and I wanted to take the time to share 6 ways you can make your life even better while getting the most from your participation in our community.

1. Take what you need and leave the rest

Not everything we email you or post on our website will apply to you.

We support women all over the world who deal with all sorts of challenges and opportunities.

We do our best to offer a wide range of topics and expert advice on real issues that women face.

If something we share applies to you, please take the time to read it and implement at least 1 thing from it.

You don’t have to implement every insight or step to benefit from it.

If it doesn’t apply to you, first think about who in your life may need this information before ignoring or disregarding it.

You see, when you pass on the insights shared, those in your life begin to transform. That automatically enhances your life too. As they grow, you grow through proximity and vice versa.

As a reminder, at any time you can Manage Your Email Subscription and only select the emails you want to receive from us. You can do this at the bottom of every email we send you.

We’re taking great measures to give you what you want so you ultimately get what you need.

2. Let go of any attachments or expectations

You may get overwhelmed when you receive too many emails from us or fall behind in reading them.

Please give yourself permission to let go of your desire to read every email or your hesitation to receive less emails.

Here’s a few suggestions to help you:

• Read only those that apply to you

• If you fall behind, focus only on the new ones

• Schedule time in the evening or during weekends for focused time to sift through past emails for what most applies to you

• Manage your email subscription and choose to only receive the emails you want to read. You can do this at the bottom of every email we send to you.

Many of our articles and emails include an opportunity to purchase the expert’s product or service to further support your growth in the given area.

It’s been my experience that it takes an in-depth program or ongoing coaching to discover the cause of an issue and learn how to overcome it.

As much as I would like to believe that a blog article or inspirational movie can do that by itself, it’s not very likely.

They both can create a temporary shift but if you’re looking for a lasting solution to the problems you face, the truth is you’ll need to make an investment of time and money for a credible product or service.

We do our very best to sort and sift through thousands of experts and programs to bring you the highest quality resources. You’ll need to use your own judgment before making a purchase.

We stand behind everything we recommend. If for any reason you have an issue with a vendor or expert we endorse, please let us know and we’ll do everything we can to rectify the situation.

3. You get what you give

This applies to just about everything you do in life.

The more emails you read, the more articles or movies you share and the more products you purchase and use… the more results you’ll see in your life.

It’s not always directly in proportion, but what I’ve found is that overtime it evens out.

In the beginning you’ll need to put in more, meaning you’ll need to give and do more and before you know it…the results will start to happen.

The important key here is that you must NEVER ever, ever give up and ideally you’ll continue to give and do with consistent persistence. It’s actually physics…you can’t lose.

Think about a garden as a metaphor:

As long as you’re planting the seeds, watering them and pulling out the weeds…the flowers will grow.

Where we get in trouble is when we get impatient and either stop doing the things necessary for them to grow or possibly even worse we judge the plant as not being good enough and become abusive with our words or actions.

Let me tell you from experience…

You ARE good enough and if you do what’s necessary over and over again, you WILL win.

One of my early mentors, T. Harv Eker, used to always say, “How you do anything is how you do everything.”

Build a habit for yourself to constantly play full out and “if you fall off the horse, get back on as soon as possible.”

4. Play full out

Those who win give it everything they got.

This applies here as well with IAAW. I recommend that you utilize all (or most) of what we offer to make your life even better.

Here’s a short list of what we do and how you can play:

• Motivational Movie Mondays – take just a few minutes to watch them then share them with those you care about

• Enjoy, comment and pass along any of our 700+ blog articles – read any of our 6 new posts sent through our newsletters each week or take the initiative and search the site for what you want or need

• Connect with us on Facebook – read, comment and share any of our daily inspirational and motivational posts

• Monthly Live Q & A calls – get on the call each month and ask a deeply personal question in a safe and supportive environment. Get the answers you so desperately want and need

• And so much more

I know you may not have time to do them all although as mentioned in step 3 – you get what you give. Each of us makes time for what’s most important.

If you make more time for you and your growth, you will reap the rewards of your efforts – and will others around you.

5. Don’t take yourself too seriously

You are human and you are going to “mess up.”

This is the good news and the other news. If you aren’t making mistakes every day and discovering new ways to NOT do something then you aren’t playing a big enough game.

Thomas Edison discovered 9,999 ways how to NOT create a light bulb. He didn’t give up and eventually uncovered the way TO create a light bulb that worked.

As a result, now billions of us have light.

Please be extra kind to yourself when you make a mistake. Learn from everything you do or choose not to do. The easier you are on yourself, the easier it will be for you to gain the lesson.

The harder you are on yourself, the more pain you’ll experience.

6. Enjoy the ride

Life is too short to resist or fight what’s happening.

Buckle up and enjoy the roller coaster ride with all the twists and turns you’re going to experience.

The good times, the bad times and everything in between.

The more you fully embrace and accept what does or doesn’t happen to and around you, the more you’ll enjoy your experience.

At the end of the day, it’s not about what happens, it’s about how you interpret what happens. You have the conscious ability to decide if something is good or bad, for your benefit, or for your pain.

I’m only suggesting that you create a story that supports you rather than one that tears you down. You’re making up the story either way.

Use It’s All About Women as a friendly guide and support system to uplift of your spirit and your enjoyment on this journey we call life.

These 6 lessons can also be used for how to participate in your life more fully and in any other community, group or team you’re on including your family, at work or anywhere else.

Your experience with us is important to me. If at anytime you want to send me a message directly, email me at: manny@itsallaboutwomen.com

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Why can’t guys just tell the truth?

Why do they need to lie to the women they love?

Whether it’s about little things (that don’t even really matter), as well as important issues in your relationship that depend on an honest conversation?

Why can’t men simply tell the truth?

There are 3 main reasons that men lie to women…

…and understanding them can be the key to getting them to open up to you and giving your relationship a chance to work.

1. The First Reason Why Men Lie

Sometimes men lie to women because they don’t think you want to hear the truth.

Have you ever asked, “Do I look fat in this?”

These sorts of questions have convinced men that there are too many potential traps in responding honestly, and rather than navigate them, it’s easier to simply tell you what they think you want to hear.

2. The Second Reason Why Men Lie

Sometimes men lie to women because they think if they told you the truth you just wouldn’t like them as much anymore.

You might ask, “What are you thinking about right now?” and you’re likely to get a very fast response like this one: “Uh, nothing honey.”

3. The Third and Biggest Reason Why Men Lie

But the third reason men lie to women is the one that shocks women the most…

One of the biggest reasons men lie to women is because men are scared of women.

Men are scared of women’s emotions.

It might sound weird, but emotions are actually harder for guys to deal with and to recover from for guys than they are for women.

According to Dr. John Gottman at the University of Washington. women can both enter and recover from extreme emotional states a lot faster and easier than guys can.

If you think about it, it makes sense.

We’ve all seen a woman burst into tears one moment only to be totally fine 5 minutes  later.

But when it comes to emotions, guys are a lot more “fragile.” Gottman says it’s because of evolution.Guys were evolved to be single taskers. To push everything out of their mind except the one thing they’re hunting.

And because of that they’re slower to get into an emotional state and much slower to get back out of it once they get there.

It’s like swimming. Getting “emotional” for women is a lot like jumping off a dock into a lake. You get wet, sure. But the dock is right there and just a few seconds later you’re safe and dry. . .

But for guys, “getting emotional” is like getting dropped in the middle of the ocean… Bobbing in the water. Surrounded by sharks. With land nowhere in site.

What does this have to do with LYING?

Everything.

From a very young age, guys learn that if they tell you the truth you could freak out on them;

…flood them with scary emotions, and push them out in the ocean where it’ll take them hours to recover.

So What Should You Do?

OK, so if guys are scared of your emotions, how do you get a guy to open up?

Well, it’s a little frustrating, but the way to get a guy to be emotionally open is to “talk like a native” and do what guys do.

For instance, you might notice that men never ask each other to “get together to talk” (in fact, if a guy ever said something like that he’d get dagger eyes pointed his way).

Instead, when a guy wants to talk about something that’s bugging him he always asks a guy (or a female friend) to get together to do something specific.

For instance: “Hey man, you wanna grab a beer?”

Or “Let’s go for a drive.”

“You wanna play pool?”

So if you want to talk to a guy about his feelings (or your feelings) the best way to pull that off is to “misdirect” him a bit by having something else to focus on . . .

And then subtly (and unemotionally) bring up the actual topic you want to talk about.

It may sound a little like “Love Judo” but I guarantee it works.

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Incredibly cheesy or super sexy?

It all depends on which dirty phrases you decide to say.

When learning how to talk dirty to a man, you could easily find a list of “pickup line” style dirty talk phrases…

…and instantly feel ridiculous and stupid just thinking about using them.

But talking dirty is not about saying a bunch of corny dirty words to your man and hoping that they turn him on without making you feel embarrassed.

Talking dirty is more about finding the right phrases that speak directly to your man and his unique sexual desires.

Start with dirty talk phrases he’s familiar with already. Any words he already associates with sex (i.e. body parts, actions, reactions, etc) are the first words you should include in your dirty talk phrases because he already interprets them sexually.

Include those words in your thinking as you look at the following categories:

Dirty talk phrase 1: Questions

Asking him questions like “do you like that?” as you’re pleasing him is a great first-step dirty talk phrase to start with.

Your active attention and obvious interest in his excitement is arousing to a man simply because you’re paying sexual attention to him, and you’re showing that you want to know what he likes.

Easy, right?

Dirty talk phrase 2: Confessions

Your confessions are the answers to his question of “Does she like what I’m doing?” This question is in his head far before he gets the courage to ask you.

Tell him (“confess” to him) what feels good, and give him direction as he pleasures you.

By talking dirty with confessions, you’re reassuring him of how good he is in bed so there is no doubt in his mind that you like what you’re doing together.

Dirty talk phrase 3: Commands

Learning how to talk dirty with commands is probably the most fun way to talk dirty because you basically get to boss him around.

Even aggressive men who like to stay in control are aroused by a woman commanding him sexually as an expression of her own selfish sexual desire.

A confident women who’s in control of her own sexuality has no problem commanding her lover to please her in any way she sees fit.

And what most women don’t realize is that men appreciate the guidance just as much as you like to see him deliver the goods.

Smart women understand that its not the specific words or phrases that matter, it’s the context in which you use them that counts.

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He’s a match! And he’s charming and smart and he makes you laugh.

But does he feel the same way you do? Are you allowed to refer to him as your boyfriend? Is it time to be exclusive, or will you be seeing other people?

These are questions you may think you know the answers, but can never really know for sure until you’ve had one little conversation.

Nothing is quite official until you’ve both talked about the status of the relationship.

It’s a conversation that many of us women put off for as long as we can under the false notion that having “The Talk” will ruin things.

After all, once you’ve had the “Relationship Talk,” there is no turning back. If you say too much too soon, you do so at the risk of scaring him away.

But if you put it off for too long, you may end up wasting valuable time on someone who never saw eye to eye with you to begin with.

So what’s the best way to approach the subject?

Make him bring it up first. Here’s how:

Step 1: Visualize your desired outcome.

The most important thing to consider before having “The Talk” is where you want the relationship to go.

Your conversation will most likely lead nowhere unless you can decide for yourself what your expectations are for the conversation and what action you will take based on that conversation.

Should you stay or should you go if things don’t pan out that way you’d like?

Decide this beforehand to prepare you for a likely outcome.

Step 2: Set yourself up favorably.

When you’re trying to get something you want from someone, you always want to approach the subject from a position of strength.

So if you want him to be your boyfriend and stop dating other women, then sort out all of your bargaining chips and determine what benefits he may want from you that he isn’t already getting now.

For example, if he wants to start having sex with you, but you always leave just when things start to get heated. Before you know it, he’ll be the one initiating “The Talk” to find out what he needs to do to have sex with you.

At this point, you can use your bargaining chips to let him know that you require an exclusive commitment before having sex with someone.

Step 3: Choose the right environment.

Two major factors that have an impact on how your guy responds are timing and atmosphere.

You want to bring up the topic of your relationship status at a time when he isn’t distracted and in a place where he can actually listen to and focus on what you are saying.

In general, men are pretty approachable when they are doing mundane activities like cleaning up after dinner or when you’re coming home from the movies.

Choose a time when you are feeling super connected with each other because he’ll be more receptive to discussing your relationship status when he feels particularly close to you.

Step 4: Select your words wisely.

Avoid starting the conversation with “We need to talk.” When a man hears this, his first instinct is to run for the hills.

Besides, the word “need” alone gives a man the implication that you depend on him more than you should.

Instead, open the conversation with a positive statement that reinforces his ego and lets him know you value his opinions.

Speak to his goal-oriented mindset and approach the subject with straightforwardness.

For example, you might say something like: “I really enjoy spending time with you. What do you think about seeing each other exclusively?”

If he avoids the subject or rejects the idea completely, than you’ll have a pretty good idea where you stand.

If you don’t like where you stand with him, then you need to…

Step 5: Be willing to walk away.

If after having the talk you have determined that the relationship isn’t going where you want it to go, you have to be willing to walk away without going back on your word.

Give him some time to contemplate the prospect of not being in a relationship with you.

Once you are no longer around, he’s either going to miss you or forget all about you. All you really can do at this point is be patient to see where he stands.

If you don’t hear from him or he doesn’t want to talk about his feelings, it’s probably because he doesn’t feel the same way about you.

If, on the other hand, he continues to call you and take you out, then you are back in a position of strength for a better outcome. Play your cards wisely this time.

Step 6: Seal the deal with a kiss.

Once you can both agree on the status of the relationship, ease into things slowly by gradually starting to refer to him as your boyfriend so you can give him time to adjust emotionally.

But the moment he starts falling back into old patterns…

…you may need to consider ending the relationship so you can be free to find a truly relationship ready man.

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