http://www.jayrusovichlive.com jay rusovich LIVE Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:17:54 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en Just for the hell of it, I Googled "the perfect wife," and this is the first image that appeared under image search. I only bring this up for the sake of irony, as this remains our post-feminist model of perfection, both physically - and presumably - psychologically. I also liked the cold ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/OxV1oA4Q5NA" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/OxV1oA4Q5NA/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/11/11/the-perfect-wife/ Box cover for my new book. Gay Media: Are you gay? Me: I identify as Heterosexual, if that answers your question. So, you’ve never dated a man? Forget it. I'll be whatever works for you. [laughter] You talk a lot about masks. Could you elaborate? Examples of masks appear on the news everyday. "Oh, he was such a ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/PUZFmkCGiCg" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/PUZFmkCGiCg/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/11/08/grandiosity-versus-self-destruction-or-how-to-safely-bounce-a-beachball-off-a-great-white-shark/ Last night I shot my iphone with a Beretta 9mm pistol, sending its obliterated components into the bark of an oak tree across the street. Just kidding. I actually just turned it off, which kind of had the same effect. I decided to shut out the rest of the world, to let life ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/mhJdnar5NQk" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/mhJdnar5NQk/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/11/08/my-cell-phone-ate-my-life/ Loose notes from an industrial trash bin: I’m a woman. What am I? See, it’s what - not who - because that’s what it feels like: a metallic pellet in a giant machine that rules the earth with indifference, and sometimes, disdain. But I no longer care. I’ve forgotten that feels like. I merely survive, ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/7si7ItFhGoY" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/7si7ItFhGoY/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/11/07/where-feminism-lost-its-groove/ While divorce statistics offer a snapshot of truth, what lies beneath is what you really want to know. You’re welcome. Okay, I live in a very big city. In the context of marriage, this is problem #1. With this in mind, Mike and Julie have been happily married for 17 years and live in ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/CLgXHGGOlok" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/CLgXHGGOlok/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/11/02/the-perfect-marriage/ The first trial associated with last spring's raids on the Yearning for Zion Ranch in Texas began this week. Raymond Jessop is charged with sexually assaulting a 16-year-old girl, whom he allegedly considered his wife. Is it just me, or does this guy look a bit odd? Like something that rolled ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/8ZNbhqufQIA" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/8ZNbhqufQIA/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/10/30/polygamy-extraterrestrial-invasion-what/ Imagine for a moment that I’m addressing a team of psychiatrists from inside a woman’s body. The following is a running dialog of what it feels like: This is really fucking weird. I’ve been in this woman’s body for less than a minute and already my nerves feel unusually raw and exposed, ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/jHaBTaXQ3Cc" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/jHaBTaXQ3Cc/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/10/26/girl-for-a-day/ Men expect to get laid as a matter of course -- and usually without remuneration, including dinner, or in more extreme cases, a Smoothie. When their expectation aren't met, they earn the moniker: asshole. This is particularly true when men suddenly dismiss you like something that doesn’t deserve a ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/H8znTwrgtZA" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/H8znTwrgtZA/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/10/22/dirty-words-and-drama-in-dreamland/ A mistress is a man's long-term sexual partner. The relationship  is generally stable and at least semi-permanent; however, the couple does not live together openly. Also the relationship is usually, but not always, secret. And there is the implication that a mistress may be "kept"—i.e., that the man is paying ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/0qo_I9QpYxs" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/0qo_I9QpYxs/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/10/17/21st-century-romance/ This is an interesting phenomenon, particularly in big cities where being flashy means being noticed. But it’s a problem for women with an aversion to things like big gaudy furniture. Just when you think you've found the perfect gentleman with lots of cash and flawless demeanor, you walk into his home ...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~4/Mx15XjWb5Uk" height="1" width="1"/> http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/jayrusovichlive_blog/~3/Mx15XjWb5Uk/ http://www.jayrusovichlive.com/2009/10/14/men-with-lots-of-money-and-bad-taste/