Last week, I asked several women their view points on what types of men women should avoid. Here are six women’s opinion on the subject.

Pathological Liar

The one type of man that women should avoid is the pathological liar. This type of man lies to cover lies and lies just for the hell of it. The disturbing thoughts that emit from this type of man is that he is not opposed to lying to himself. The feelings, emotions, honesty and trust can never be true from this type of man. Sadly there are many types that should be avoided; but this one should be avoided at all cost. Women are emotional beings, that react emotionally and trust their hearts. When dealing with this type of man it is necessary to expose him early in the relationship so that there are no future expectations.

–Janna B.

The Abuser/Narcissist Type

In my opinion there are many characteristics we as women should avoid when choosing a good man for example his interaction with his mother. I feel we notice traits pretty fast but sometimes choose to overlook them. One type of man to avoid is the abuser/narcissist type which usually starts out loving and charming but in time begins to break down your confidence, separates you from your family and friends along with being emotionally or physically abusive. They want their victim to be willing to endure their abuse and to label this behavior as “love”. They usually are extremely possessive, jealous, and controlling and will go to any lengths to prevent you from ending the relationship. They will blame you for all of this behavior. This behavior is very dangerous which will end up very unhealthy. Stay true to yourself and love yourself more than to allow yourself to stay in an unhealthy relationship.

–Jennifer R.

The Man That Makes You Doubt Yourself

Women should consider avoiding men and relationships that make you doubt yourself.  How do you know you’re not the once confident and got-it-going on woman any longer?  A shift occurs.  Now, you’re second guessing yourself and looking over your shoulder.  That’s code for checking his phone, email, Facebook, pockets, restaurant receipts, and asking subtle questions to his friends to get information.

Remember, you’re more than the constant, obsessive thinking over him; your worth is infinite.  Do not doubt what your instincts are telling you.  When you choose to give the benediction, the deuces, or the finger to what’s bringing you down what waits for you is true love.

–S.C.R.

The Hangman

This brother is on the fence.  He wants to be with you but feels like he will miss out on something once he commits.  Avoid him because he will continue to hang on to you, thinking you are the most stable woman in his life but he still feels the need to look for more. As long as he feels like you will wait on him to decide, he will continue with his uncertainty.  If he isn’t sure about being with you, let him go. You don’t need a hangman in your life occupying space that a real man could be standing in proudly.

–Stephanie N.

The Needy Type

Hey ladies, we are all out here trying to find our “prince charming”, to sweep us off our feet and love us till the end of time. Some of us find him on our first try, while others are out here still searching. There are many “types” of men that give the male gender a bad name. Besides your “Mommas boys”, you have men that are EXTRA sensitive, and don’t forget your “wife beaters” and I don’t mean the t-shirt. There are many more types of men but, one in particular that I feel woman should AVOID are the guys who always want to be center of YOUR attention-your NEEDY type.

These guys don’t care how YOU are feeling or whats going on in your life, all he wants is all eyes on him. He wants you at his beck and call.  He tells you he’s tired, he’s hungry. You give him peace, cook dinner. Is that enough?  NO, there is always something wrong, something you could have done better. Can he do this on his own or is he JUST PLAIN LAZY? He begins to compare you to other woman,“why don’t you dress like her?, do you hair like her?”  I say STOP and put an end to it ALL because nothing will come from your relationship but grief. You cannot supply his wants and needs. Let him be and go on with your life.

–Brandy B.

The Immature Man

A man who can’t explain his role in the ending of his last relationship. A man who fails to prioritize his mate above his family. Or a man who doesn’t have a goal set ahead for himself. All of these character flaws show a level of immaturity that a woman can not develop in a man, it is either there or not. A man is the leader and tone setter to the relationship. A woman supports that, but if he fails to define his weaknesses, prioritized poorly and can’t have a vision for himself, a woman will only prolong his maturation.

–Sharon C.

Here are just six of many types of men women should avoid. What are your thoughts on the examples that are given and what some other types?

Have you ever made a decision that you wanted to take back, something that you wanted at the time but had a change of heart? I’m sure many of us have been in this situation. However, did your decision involve someone else, a friend or someone you loved? Someone whom you cared about and thought your decision would benefit them too. You thought you were making the right choice but just because you think its right doesn’t mean someone else will. If you have hurt someone in the process of a decision, you’ve made, don’t think you can heal the hurt that quickly. Every choice you make will have a consequence, just be ready to live with it.

Recently, I had to make some hard decisions that lead to something’s that I truly didn’t want to do. Things I really wanted but had to put them on the back burner because I wanted more for myself. Even though the decisions were tough, I had to do something that I have never done, I put myself before anyone else.

See if you’re like me, you constantly put other’s feelings first. It didn’t matter if it made you happy or not, because of love or just wanting to help, you always did things for others no matter how you felt. This isn’t good, you shouldn’t have to give to the point you’re unhappy. Still, it happens to many of us. Once I decided to start looking out for myself first, it felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulders. It was like I was finally doing something for me, something that I have never done.

We have to start putting ourselves first and stop thinking it’s a bad thing. You have to understand you can’t please everyone all the time. You have to start looking out for yourself. Even though I’m happy about the decision I made, a small part of me is still a little sad — only because I care. However, I’m moving on for me, I’m growing as a man. I prayed about it, and God told me it was best to move on. I had to follow HIS lead and now I’m looking for bigger and better things. I had to do what’s best for me and going forward, I will continue to do the same.