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Holiday Stress

2024-12-25T20:10:00.000-06:00

The holiday season can be festive and fun; however, it can also be absolutely stressing. It is not only about preparing food or finding gifts. It just seems a chaotic time for a "festive" time of the year. Unfortunately, not everything this time of year is usually happy and joyous. I can not provide answers, but I can discuss a number of things that can go wrong during the Holiday Season. Maybe I can also provide some advice. Let us discuss this topic further on "John's Life Space," shall we?

Holiday Stress

Thanksgiving is a great time to enjoy family get-togethers as well as eat great food together. Christmas is a joyous time of exchanging gifts and bringing families together. Both of these times are usually anticipated by many people. However, what happens between these times can be chaotic. Not so "festive," so to speak.

Holiday Stress: Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving time can be a challenge as some families prepare food for the family to eat. There are maybe a few issues that may get into the way of having a successful time preparing food. A possible issue would be if (for example) people struggle to cook things like turkey. That is not really a problem.

What does become a problem, though, is when people may get sick from some of the offered food. Undercooked food or some food somehow getting to someone can be enough to bring one to sickness.

A bigger issue involving Thanksgiving involves travel and trying to get people together. Some people may live far away and have to make the trip to wherever the Thanksgiving festivities will take place. Some people may not even have a real set of people to have for a Thanksgiving gathering. Issues with travel around Thanksgiving can really take its toll on peoples' minds.

Holiday Stress: Christmas.

Don't let a classic song fool you- Christmas is not always the most wonderful time of the year. Christmas can be just as brutal as Thanksgiving. Wondering what gift(s) to get someone, preparing Christmas dinner, inviting over family members, travel, and countless other considerations can make Christmas a mental and even financial burden.

My primary concern I have with people is wondering how families are able to be financially able to provide for getting gifts for others. Some families financially struggle. Some families may even have trouble trying to make ends meet. These can lead to not having as great of Christmas.

Christmas gifts can be mixed results. People could give others the exact gift(s) to others that they will love. They may even get some inexact gifts that can still be enjoyable. What if you give the discriminating person a gift that they simply dislike? Christmas can be an exercise in thoughtfulness. Some others, though, may be so ungrateful and picky. Another issue that may arise with gifts is in the stress of trying to wrap up gifts as best as possible. Someone would feel strange getting a package that looks like it was wrapped haphazardly. Perhaps the stress of hoping someone will accept a gift can be its own Christmas issue.

Christmas shopping itself can be stressing. There are literally people who will seek certain gifts and treat them as if they are health essentials. A new television or an exciting toy is NOT like a human heart or a blood transfusion. People will even go as far as to inflict violence, damage property, engage in gunfire or stabbing, and other things. These are all from people going too far in trying to properly do Christmas shopping. As a non-related gift issue, there is also the issue of packages getting stolen from porches from online shopping. This too can add to stress on Christmas.

Just like Thanksgiving, prepared food can still make some people sick should things reach such extremes. Certain food can make people sick if the food gets to them. Food allergies can also be an issue. As with Thanksgiving, Christmas food can be just as a hassle as Thanksgiving can be. Be sure to take care of yourself if you end up feeling sick. If you have to, see your doctor or get some medical attention if you are having some health issues that may be more complex thanks to food.

Some people celebrate Christmas at home with their family. Some others go to elaborate Christmas parties. For the latter, an issue may arise over parties involving alcohol. One must avoid being overly intoxicated. One's train of thought or perception can be an issue when drunk. So make sure to know your limit and drink responsibly.

If trying to invite over families and others, there are travel concerns thanks to the weather, airport conditions, and more. You and/or your loved ones will want to be able to convene and meet up safely.

It is really sad that most people tend to get sick most during the holiday season. Anyhow, now that we have unpacked the woes of Thanksgiving and Christmas, it is time to delve further into the stress aspects of these holidays.

Holiday Stress: Dealing With Stress

As with nearly any topic discussed in this blog, there is no one-size-fits-all answer as to how to address and treat these issues. Thanksgiving and Christmas are no different.

When it comes to Thanksgiving, have a plan as to getting as many people as possible to your Thanksgiving function safely. It helps to have the freshest-possible food. Sometimes having frozen over food from months ago or so can end up making people sick when cooked again. It may help to provide various food options for everyone. As one might know, certain people would love certain foods. It is best to treat everyone right food-wise.

Experts recommend for around Christmas time, do your Christmas shopping early rather than try to get last-minute gifts. Be especially cautious over unruly people who value certain Christmas gifts like life essentials or absolute rarities. Most of all- practice patience. If gathering people, make sure can reach the destination effectively regardless of various conditions. If attending Christmas parties, especially those which have alcohol, be sure not to get overly drunk. Make sure your packages don't get stolen if you have done online shopping for your gifts. Just like with Thanksgiving, be sure not to eat too much or get sick during this time of year.

For both Thanksgiving and Christmas, be sure to look after your health should you get sick during these times of year. Get some medical attention if there are certain situations that may require visiting healthcare professionals. Be sure not to eat too much, drink too much, or get into some sort of compromising health situation.

The holiday season can be festive, but it can also be hectic. So make sure to keep yourself in check and look after yourself to make this season less stressing than it has to be.

These can be tough times, but you can pull through them. Just take it easy and do what you can to mitigate the madness. Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Support me further by connecting with me on social media; and if you are inclined, feel free to donate to me (tips/donations are voluntary but would be appreciated). Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Children and Arguing Parents

2024-11-13T20:38:00.000-06:00

Arguments will happen between loved ones. However, if a child witnesses parents who can't get along, the child may feel threatened, heartbroken, or like they are part of the issue. Parents who argue can leave a rift that can be tough to repair, especially if things turns toward divorce or in worse cases, domestic abuse. The feeling is tough to process. This topic is no doubt difficult to discuss. As you may all know, though, it is a necessary discussion to have. So allow me to discuss further the impacts of witnessing parents argue and what can be done to remedy this.

IMPORTANT NOTE...

Part of this blog post introduces elements of domestic abuse. Domestic abuse is a serious situation. If you or someone you know experiences an episode of domestic violence, immediately contact local authorities, file a police report, contact hotlines, or seek help from healthcare professionals or other qualified individuals. DO NOT let these situations linger.

Children and Arguing Parents

Though an unpleasant mood, let me set the mood here with a picture...

^ from: parent.com (links to article) - Being a child experiencing parents argue can be damaging and uncomfortable. It is even more so damaging if disputes lead to violence or an unsafe home environment.

In the case of disputing parents, a child may feel part of why the parents are at disagreement. Most of these times do not involve children as the basis of argument among parents. This is an assuring thought if a child feels one is part of the dispute between parents. However, just being away from the parents yet still hearing them oppose each other is enough to make a child feel queasy, depressed, and anxious.

The good news for a child is that most debates among parents does not involve a child or children within distance of arguing parents. The debate would have to be about if a child contributing to a problem in order for children to feel they are part of an argument among parents. That usually is not likely why parents may be at odds with each other. As an example of when children play a factor in what two parents may be arguing about, it may be if one parent punishes a child too harshly either by spanking or by making children depressed, and that the other parent thinks that loved one is being too harsh. Most of the time, a lot of arguments among arguing parents do not involve children as part of the debate.

The real trouble area is about what the future holds if one or both parents reach their boiling point or reach a certain level of tolerance. What could end up happening could adversely affect the life of a child or children for nearly the rest of their lives.

Should Children Try to Step In?

It is best to let the parents settle their issues if they can. If children try to get in the middle of disputing parents, it could end up in children getting harmed or possibly make a dispute worse. It is better to try to help a situation rather than add to it. Incidents such as arguing parents impacts all parties. So for the sake of children, it is possibly a great idea to not get involved or be a factor in diffusing disputes.

Let us discuss the aftermath of arguing parents and the correlation with children.

Aftermath of Arguing Parents

The situations involved may not pertain to everyone, but these are prime indicators of what is possible. Take a look...

Argument Alone.

Loving couples will argue at times. It is natural for there not to be much to be happy about for whatever reason. A couple that simply argues usually has their say, and things do not go overboard or to extremes. Arguments that end peacefully and without excessive conflict usually are just moments of disagreement that do not get into anything hairy.

As children who witnesses just an argument, do not feel part of the problem unless one truly is part of the problem. Most parents usually resolve their arguments without any sort of retaliation. Therefore, children can feel happy and can relax a bit.

Argument, Followed by Verbal Abuse.

A more serious situation involves when scathing words and thoughts are tossed around among a disagreeing couple. Regardless of who seems more at fault, the feeling of a disputing couple can bring great sadness among the two. Verbal abuse can alter the mental health of one or both parents. Depending on what it is said and how it is said, it can lead to someone feeling thrashed. Children who experience this become fearful of one or both parents.

These are the mild cases of arguing parents. Now let's get to some extremes...

Argument, Followed By Domestic Abuse.

I hope any sort of dispute among parents leads to domestic abuse, but that can happen. This is where an argument between two parents can lead to one or both loved ones inflicting physical violence against each other. A child hearing or experiencing two adults attack each other can be crippling. Violence is never acceptable or warranted. The worst that can happen is for arguing parents to be injured or even worse- get killed. Even more worse would be a murder-suicide between the two- whereas one parent is killed, followed by the assailant killing oneself afterwards. As one can imagine, children who experience parents domestically abuse each other can feel heartbroken and alone.

A possibility may exist where one or both arguing parents could end up in children being attacked and abused. This may happen if one or both parents are so distraught with each other that it also involves having children involved in the dispute. Domestic abuse is bad enough; child abuse is just as bad. Disputes should never come down to violence, but it happens.

IMPORTANT: If domestic abuse occurs, contact local authorities, file a police report, or even contact domestic abuse hotlines or qualified healthcare professionals.

Argument, Followed By Divorce.

Maybe the best thing to happen to a couple is to end the relationship. This can be a good way to settle matters without inflicting violence. A peaceful end to a relationship is better than things providing an uncomfortable experience at home. If children experience divorce, it will feel like someone helpful is now gone. Depending on how involved someone is with children, this can range from not missing anything to not having a major ally. This situation involves money and certain claims.

Or maybe...

Argument, Then Make Up.

Maybe parents can have their argument and learn to be happy together again. Forgive and forget usually is not easy, but it happens. If disputes can be settled without any extreme disputes or retaliation, a loving balance along with togetherness helps a family stay together. At the moment, children can feel happy a dispute ends and that happiness is restored. Resolutions like this can make a family stronger.

No matter what situation(s) arise, these are moments that can change lives radically.

Aftercare From Arguing Parents

What happens after arguing parents have had their say? It is time to think about people can move on.

Aftercare: Arguing Parents.

If a dispute is settled or no longer wanting to be together, what happens next is thinking about how to move on after tough times. Some parents can deal with these moments better than others. It could result in families being closer together and more powerful. If things come down to divorce, handling financial matters is key in moving forward. This can take some time if the process gets hairy. Most important is to remember to still be a loving parent. And speaking of...

Aftercare: Children.

Offering a sense of assurance to affected children is helpful once parents drop their abuse. Children may not be powerful enough to serve as individuals who can diffuse an intense situation as arguing parents. They can, though, be factors in whether such situations get settled. Children have to make sure they do not let parental matters impact their chain of thought or how they live their lives independent of arguing parents. In more extreme cases, children may have to join other family members or possibly go to foster home care to be treated properly just to get away from hostile parents.

Aftercare: The Family.

As long as disputes aren't a combination of the arguing couple along with children, these should be moments to bring families together and make them stronger. If divorce or moving on is what it takes for a family to become better again, the plan moving forward is to try to be better equipped for the future.

Coming up are final thoughts.

Children and Arguing Parents: Final Thoughts

Couples will argue and dispute things. If children are near or are involved, the psychological impacts will be on the couple and children. Most children usually are not part of the problem(s) that may exist among arguing parents. Despite this, it is understandable for children to be impacted by what happens when parents argue. Whether or not disputes get settled, keeping a family together will involve getting some professional help or even settling disputes without inflicting violence. Divorce may sometimes be the answer if the two can no longer get along and with no hope of resolving their issues.

Children are not powerful enough to get in the way and try to diffuse situations involving arguing parents. They can, though, be factors in how a family or a home can move forward after parents are done arguing. What should never happen is for children to suffer the same abuse and hostility parents may experience. Adding fuel to the fire never settles a dispute. Childrens' lives may be affected for a long time or lifelong the aftermath of arguing parents leads to being depressed and/or anxious.

If you can afford it, it helps to have some professional help available if you have those resources available. Most of these moments do not resolve themselves in short order. The pain can last for a very long time. Make sure you are ready to handle life after two parents are at odds.

I hope all of you do not get to experience something like this. If it does happen, though, recovery can be difficult, but very possible. Do not give up on hope, and do not do anything too rational. A lot is on the line regarding relationships among parents and also relationships among children. Do not squander or severely damage any sort of loving bond. Difficult topic, I know, but that is what I do here- discuss difficult topics and offer calming comments to help deal with such matters. I would appreciate your support if you enjoyed my material here. Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Support me further by connecting with me on social media; and if you are inclined, feel free to donate to me (tips/donations are voluntary but would be appreciated). Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Saving Money and Major Purchases

2024-06-06T01:39:00.002-05:00

Things cost money. When things cost a lot of money, you want to save up finances. Major purchases are an exercise in saving finances. How you handle the saving process depends on being able to make major purchases. So for this blog post, I discuss making major purchases. Hopefully this will be a discussion to your liking if this topic interests you.

Making Major Purchases: At a Glance

When something you need or want costs a lot of money, you will need enough finances to make a purchase happen. You need enough credit to acquire something anyways. Some items require more money for which to acquire. There is no one specific way to save up enough finances to buy anything. What may work for one person may not work for another.

I always try to be transparent and real regarding topics I feature in my blogs, so let me share that I am as much into major purchases as you are. For me, I have been trying to save up money lately to get myself a modern gaming console. The original plan was to get a Nintendo Switch. That plan changed to getting a used PlayStation 4. Now, I have considered saving up to get a PlayStation 5 [Disc Version]. The plan I have currently means I have to consider saving up more money to get what I want.

I have made enough strides to save money for things. I remembered saving up money towards buying a computer, a Chromebook, an MP3 player, a PlayStation 3, and a few other things. I have done things like get PayPal money and even doing paid blog posts. I have done nearly anything to try to make and save money.

Inspiration/Motivation to Save Money.

Let me share some of my motivations and inspirations regarding saving money.

A TV program I used to watch years ago (around 2012) about saving money was called "Deals" on the Live Well Network (now known as LOCALish). The host of this former show, host, Katishia Cosley, would offer up money-saving advice ranging from spending less on items to even making your own items to save money. Watching this show around 2012 or so was helpful in knowing what is possible for stretching dollars. ABC 13 here in Houston also had a segment on their afternoon news called just that- "Stretch Your Dollar" with former newscaster, Patricia Lopez. Nowadays with this topic, I watch "Sullivan's Smart Sense" with Heather Sullivan on FOX 26 here in Houston. Saving money can help towards making major purchases in case you are planning on making any major purchases. That is my own personal inspiration towards saving money and in making major purchases.

Now that I have discussed the individual nuances of saving money and my own situation, let's delve deeper into the matter of making major purchases and saving money.

Making Major Purchases

So you want to plan a big purchase some time soon or in the future? Good! Be mindful of a few things, though. Please consider the following...

Major Purchases: Needs and Wants.

If there is something you are looking to buy, is it a need or a want? When it comes to more expensive things, the importance of having it warrants saving up for them.

A need involves something necessary and essential to living. A major purchase as a need includes things like houses, rent, vehicles, some furniture, some electronics, certain services, enough for groceries, going to school/college/university, tuition, and things like that. Needs can also include saving for retirement, paying for insurance, disability benefits, credits for services, and more. Saving up for something essential is surely is serious regarding major purchases.

A want is something you'd like to have that is not essential towards living. These can be simple things like video game consoles, gaming computers, video games and computer games, some clothes, certain footwear, collectibles, and the like. Things non-essential to your living but like to have is a want. Starting a business can also be a want if you are looking for a long-team deal of staying financially stable or being able to provide for your family and others.

Depending on your situation, you will have to weigh your needs and wants. Some wants can be needs if something is very important to you. So even the most comical of things can be something you feel you must have. Maybe you do need something non-essential to help live better or open opportunities to new things. It all depends.

Considerations After Planning Making a Major Purchase.

What can be more important than a major purchase itself is in dealing with finances after the purchase. You may have bought something for about $340 USD, but have you thought about having money left over? I always consider the price of something, the sales tax for it, and then how much money I'd have left over. It would be a bad idea to try to buy something without having sufficient money remaining or any way to rebuild finances after a purchase. It would be an even worse idea if you are involved something that may involve periodic fees. You want to have enough money to handle certain other purchases.

The best thing to think about in this situation is to consider the price of something and add sales taxes (if applicable). Let us use the PlayStation 5 Disc Version example here for a moment. I also suggest you get a little math lesson out of this. Wal-Mart sells the PlayStation 5 for $499.99 USD. Sales tax here in Texas is usually 6.25% or up to 8.25%. Here is the math:

(price of item/service) x (sales tax) = total price

Multiply the price of the item by the sales tax to get the final price. You obviously want to round that total to the nearest hundredth. Then, make sure you have the money to pay for that thing. So in my example, a $499.99 USD PS5 Disc Version coupled with a sales tax of 8.25% here in Texas means you would need to save up $541.24 to buy it. What if you wanted to buy a game or two along with that? What if you wanted to get a gift card to use PlayStation Plus? That means you would have to add those things towards what you want to pay for. That means paying for what you want in addition to anything extra you want with the major purchase you have planned. So that means taking the price of the major purchase and adding on whatever else you want to get with it. That will more than likely equal a higher price tag than just the major purchase you plan to make.

If you do not have enough money to get certain things in addition to making a purchase, you will need to save more money and plan to buy something else later. If you have something that is a periodic payment, such as a subscription to a service or monthly fees, you also have to take that into consideration in having leftover money to handle some other expenses or to add to what you already have. Having no more money and no way to pay for any extra items or expenses can lead to some poor financial health. Think critically about planning any major purchases.

One more important thing to remember about major purchases is that life happens. "Life happens" is not only the motto of this blog, but it is the truth. Trying to save up money for some sort of major purchase can give some obstacles and challenges often times. For example, you may get injured or no longer be employed at a job. These things may require you to find other ways to make money or pay for other things outside of what you want to buy. It is therefore imperative to handle as many financial expenses as possible even while you are trying to buy something you really need or want.

Now it is time to discuss saving money. The next section discusses this matter.

Saving Money

The most important element of making a major purchase is to save money. How you go about saving money depends. Doing whatever it takes to save up money is the challenge.

Some people who barely make any money or are given money will try to save up their finances in hopes of making a major purchase. I hear stories of people who save up a little money and hopefully be able to start a business. Some major companies started out with having just a little money and then saving up to start businesses that ultimately become million-dollar and even billion-dollar companies. Saving up money is a huge part of this process.

If a parent or someone gives you money, this is something to definitely save up for. If you need to use any given money, make sure to use it sparingly. What you want to do is save enough money to make a sort of major purchase. Twitch streamers and YouTube video makers sometimes have streaming services that allow for donations. Some even use the likes of PayPal or Venmo to carry out financial tasks for their work. Regardless, taking advantage of such things is crucial towards saving.

What one certainly wants to do in the case of income and expenses is to make sure expenses do not exceed income. You don't want spending to go over the top.

Saving Tips.

Here are a few random tips of things I know regarding saving money.

• I used to have an account with a bank that charged monthly fees. If you want to save money, try going with a service that does not charge monthly fees. It may also help to have a debit card so you don't have to worry about paying off credit cards. One example of a company that does not charge monthly fees is Bluebird's debit card.

• If you are in a financial pinch and are subscribed to services, get out of subscription services. For example, you may choose to get out of a Netflix subscription just to save some extra money. Getting out of subscription services can help you save some extra money.

• You may also think about signing up for less expensive services or holding back on buying certain things. If you go to a grocery store offering cheaper prices on some of the same items, shop there to save some money.

• If you can make something yourself that costs less than buying from a store, you can try that as well. Some people who have farms or some animals could produce their own products to feed their families. Think about having chickens hatch eggs so you won't need to buy eggs at a grocery store, for example. Some people even meal prep so they will not have so much indecision on what to eat for a day or a week. This can save money especially if your creations are cheaper than something similar you would buy at a store or online.

• Take advantage of sales and discounts. Some things you need or want could be offered for discounted prices. You may be able to score some deals if what you want is sold for a cheaper price than its original price. So take advantage of these opportunities.

• Use coupons if you have any. Coupons will allow you to get certain things for cheap when you go to check out things at stores. For online sales, using certain discount codes work just like coupons. These online codes for online sales can allow you to get a discount like a coupon for goods online.

• Use gift cards or special cards if you have any. If you have a card that can be reloaded with money, be sure to add funds to that card so you will not have to pay so much for anything. Be warned some services may not accept certain cards. For example, I tried buying games on the popular PC game store GOG, and I was unable to purchase games because of my gift card. Be careful in these times.

If you tag some companies on social media with things you make or promote, companies may offer you things as a showing of respect. This can be good to get things without needing to save up money. These usually can come in the form of reviewing things from a company. You may even be compensated for your involvement.

• Want to not spend your own money on things? Have someone else pay for things! This could be great if someone gives you something that you want but have someone else pay for it. You could receive something as a gift. If you are a content creator, try to engage your audience into helping get tips and donations to help you finance something.

• Set up or get involved in crowdfunding. Crowdfunding is where many people join together and donate money towards being able to finance certain things. You may see donation goals for certain online streamers and content creators trying to finance something. For example, an online streamer may set a donation goal towards buying a new gaming system or a better PC or laptop. Even if you do not make your own money, it at least is helpful to have an active, paying crowd to help you with certain financial goals.

• You can sell a lot of things you are not using any more or simply want to get rid of. You can build up your finances and save money to help towards making a major purchase or simply having extra money on hand.

• If you have a method of passable income (such as blogging or selling goods), use those services and get the revenue to help in building your finances. All that has to happen now is saving that extra money up.

Of course, these are only a few suggestions towards saving money. You may be able to find other ways to save money for making purchases.

Saving Money and Major Purchases: Final Thoughts

Money is important to acquiring certain things. When you do have insufficient funds, the task is to save money. How you do so depends on your financial situation and whatever it is you are looking to purchase. What may seem like a want may be a legitimate need for some people. Everyone has different situations in terms of buying something. People may have to sacrifice certain things for which to save money, especially when planning buying something major.

Money is never abundant. We all know money does not grow on trees, so it isn't like you could pick money from trees as you would some fruits. It is best to save money when you can. If you are planning major purchases (or even simple ones), having enough money to cover costs goes a long way towards your personal happiness. You may want to speak with financial advisors or seek solutions from your bank or credit union if you want to make proper decisions regarding your money. Also remember that life can get in the way of making any planned major purchase. Be sure to handle and consider all expenses in addition to making a major purchase.

Make as many smart decisions to handle your finances before, during, and after planning a purchase of any scale. Surely have major purchases in mind, but make sure to be able to pay for all of the associated costs and expenses.

If you are planning any major purchases any time soon, I hope you will be able to save up enough money to help finance whatever it is you need or want. This post is over right now. Feel free to offer your own suggestions if you wish. Help me help others. Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Support me further by connecting with me on social media; and if you are inclined, feel free to donate to me (donations are voluntary but would be appreciated). Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Discussing Your Mental Health Issues

2024-02-29T18:19:00.000-06:00

Discussing your mental health issues with others is a touchy topic. It can be a good thing to share your mental health issues. Conversely, it also can seem like making excuses, and not many people will buy your claims. It is a conversation you must try to make when you can. Especially if there are individuals you care about and think can be better people, you want to be able to express your mental health issues and try to get a better understanding with others.

I always want to stress you are not a failure or a disappointment just because you have mental health issues that deter your well-being. While it can be painful to discuss any mental health issues you have, releasing is better than holding back. Bottling up your emotions can only make things worse. If in crisis, there may be a point where your mental health ends up taking over your daily functions and may take you over the edge. You could either find yourself in a mental health mess, or you may become violently angry and hostile to where you do something that may be unforgivable to loved ones.

Be understanding and mindful that such mental health issues are real by people who admit them. Try to work with others and not do and say things that can only make their situation worse. RECOVERY IS POSSIBLE! Most of all, honestly share your issues in a non-violent and sincere matter. Do not discuss such manners casually if you are truly impacted by some mental health issues. Most of all, do not belittle or take advantage of someone who may be suffering mentally. We all must do what we can to help make life better for everyone. This includes friends, family, and others.

I am always looking to make a difference for others. Hopefully this post helps. Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Support me further by connecting with me on social media; and if you are inclined, feel free to donate to me (donations are voluntary but would be appreciated). Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Feeling Cursed

2024-02-18T23:06:00.001-06:00

Feeling cursed makes you feel incapable of being happy or content. You may feel while cursed constantly tortured or be capable of little or no success. This can make living feel difficult. Being hopeless and depressed can result from feeling cursed. This is a casual post about feeling cursed.

When you feel cursed, you feel as if something anyone can easily do is a hassle or near impossible for you. You may also fear there will be that moment where you become broken down and humiliated. That moment may also make you fearful of even leaving your room or even your bed. It is something you may hear a lot among sports circles. It felt like a curse when decades passed from when the Boston Red Sox won the Championship in 2004 after last winning the World Series in 1918, and it also impacted the Chicago Cubs winning the Championship in 2016 after last winning it all in 1908. The thing to take from here is that failure and torture are never eternal.

Everyone is capable of great things; but when you feel cursed, you feel more likely to fail than do anything successful or noteworthy. For example, you may successfully prepare a delicious meal but still feel unable to be happy or satisfied. You may create a great work of art or compose a well-done song and still feel concerned. Feelings of being cursed can take over your life and make you feel less of yourself.

Sometimes, feeling cursed can stem from a host of bad experiences and missed opportunities. If you feel your failures impact you more than your successes, then feeling cursed makes you feel like you are only capable of wrong. You were meant to be amazing and do amazing things. When you feel cursed, the only things you feel you can do is amazingly fail. Any feelings of not being good enough or not being capable of greatness only make us not give full effort often times because the end result of failure is inevitable.

Do You Need Spiritual Guidance If You Feel Cursed?

Some people who feel cursed actually believe in evil spirits impacting their lives. Therefore, some spiritual help can help drive away demons and spirits who feel they are cursing others' souls.

Some Final Thoughts.

Do not ever feel you are not able to enjoy success. Not everyone gets it right or has the best of days constantly. Everyone is going to experience lulls and shortcomings. If you feel cursed, just remember not everything wrong with the world is your doing. Everyone has their demons. Not every demon is focused on you. All you can do is keep going and hope for the best in each moment of your life. Never give up on any opportunities or feel you are not able to accomplish certain things. Everyone who feel cursed will eventually break out of their curses. If you feel you need spiritual guidance to help you break being cursed, seek help from spiritual sources. Everyone is capable of greatness. Feeling cursed can limit your success, but do not let feeling cursed undermine your ability to do great things for yourself and others. Curses do not last forever. You will break free from being cursed with good fortune and luck. Just do not give up in your pursuit of greatness.

I often times do not like discussing tough topics because they sometimes make me feel depressed simply mentioning them. There is a reason for this, though. At least this shows I am mindful of things that impact our lives. Moreover, I care about providing solutions and advice. So hopefully this discussion was to your liking. I also hope I was able to help you any way I could. Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Support me further by connecting with me on social media; and if you are inclined, feel free to donate to me (donations are voluntary but would be appreciated). Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Emergency Meal Kits

2024-01-18T00:33:00.001-06:00

In case of disaster, can you feed yourself and your family? You may not have access to a microwave, toaster, air fryer, or even a stove in times of emergency. Meals in general and not fancy meals are more important in these times. It is therefore paramount to be able to have enough meals to feed you and your family after disaster. One such way to do so is with emergency food kits. That is the focal point of this blog post. I will share my thoughts on these emergency food kits in general.

About the Label: Crises

Blog posts under the label of "Crises" has to do with a number of different life issues involving disasters and critical situations. This includes, but not limited to: extreme weather, mass violence, natural disaster, etc.

About the Label: Survival

This category of blog post contains information on how to survive in the wake of certain disasters.

Emergency Food Kits

^ from: (Amazon) - For when you are unable to feed yourself and/or your family for an extended amount of time due to disaster, you may want to invest in an emergency meal kit.

Before I go any further, I want to hope no one has to go through a situation where you will struggle to feed yourself and/or your family. If you do experience a time where you have to rely on emergency food kits to feed yourself and others, I hope you will be able to feed yourselves properly.

An emergency food kit can be purchased in case you experience some sort of disaster. These disasters can range from being without power and electricity, floods, hurricanes, snowstorms and/or blizzards, tornadoes, earthquakes, tsunamis, mudslides, terrorism, war, and things of that nature. Anything that prevents you from living comfortably and being fed qualifies as disasters which can require you to seek other ways of staying fed. You might even be poor and not able to buy groceries and may have to look to an emergency food kit to stay fed. No matter what, an emergency food kit can be of great help for when you are unable to feed yourself and/or your family due to some sort of external influences.

Starting circa 2019 or so, I saw an emergency food kit from a company called Augason Farms. There are a number of different companies that offer emergency food kits. Besides Augason Farms, there are other companies that make emergency food kits, such as Hoosier Hill Farm, 4Patriots, My Patriot Supply, ReadyWise, and Emergency Essentials among others. The point of emergency food kits is to provide quality meals that can be prepared when you do not have access to fancy cooking equipment. These are meals you can prepare as essential meals to feed you and/or your family. On the other hand, there are some emergency meal kits that offer different food and drink styles. For instance, I saw an emergency meal kit consisting of chocolate bars. Think of these kind of like military food rations for home use and civilian use. These emergency meal kits have a very long life. Most of these emergency food kits can last for up to 25 years (around 30 years if stored properly), so you won't need to consume them quickly to prevent the emergency food from spoiling.

Don't think about your favorite comfort foods with these meals because these are essential (and even healthy) portions meant to keep you fed in the case of emergency when you can't feed yourself properly. The purpose of emergency meal kits are to provide meals for you for survival and not necessarily your favorite snacks or comfort foods. Emergency meal kits can include things such as mashed potatoes, noodles, macaroni and cheese, oatmeal, rice, soups, and a lot more depending on the package.

Emergency food kits come in a variety of denominations meant to feed you and/or your family for a certain amount of time. Such packs of food consist of prepared foods that can be easily prepared to suit any length of time. Some of these kits can provide food for you to use for one day, and some emergency meal kits can feed you and your family for even four weeks to a full month and even longer.

Should You Invest in Emergency Food Kits?

For one thing, emergency food packs are not meant to be your entire meals for the day. They were meant for if you are unable to go to the store to buy food after something like a power outage or flooding. Emergency food kits can be a great investment for when you will be out of electricity and/or running water for quite some time.

Prices for these kits depend on how long the pack is meant to service you. In my research of this topic, I saw one retailer sell an emergency food kit for one day sell for about $30 USD. An emergency meal kit meant to last for three days sold for almost $70 USD. As a final example, a one-month supply of an emergency food kit sold for $279 USD. I also found one company offered a full year's worth emergency food kit for an estimated $1,960 USD in my research of this topic. So you have a full range price-wise and package-wise for the emergency food kits you wish to buy. You can purchase an emergency food kit at most grocery stores and many retailers. Home improvement stores also offer these kits.

It helps to buy an emergency food kit to suit the needs of you and your family. You may not know when you might need having an emergency meal kit for feeding after disaster or other circumstances, but it is nice to know you can be fed in the wake of such times with an emergency food kit.

For More Information...

I mentioned a number of companies that offer emergency food kits. You can visit these sites to learn more about the emergency food kits offered by retailers and even by companies themselves. Click on any that interest you. (NOTE: Check the Affiliate Disclosure section for more information about posted links on this site.)

For retailers:
• Amazon, Emergency Meal Kit
• eBay, Emergency Meal Kit
• Wal-Mart/Walmart, Emergency Meal Kit
• Target, Emergency Meal Kit

For brands themselves:
• 4Patriots
• Augason Farms
• Emergency Essentials
• ReadyWise

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Rejection Because of Kindness?

2023-12-18T01:42:00.001-06:00

Speaking kindly about someone usually should be complimentary. Especially from the heart, it should be uplifting to express kindness. You are trying to show love and respect; not flirting or anything like that. Recently, I endured a situation that I had some pain trying to process in my mind. I will use this space to express something that I still feel horrible about that I felt was not my fault at all. As per usual, I am hoping my experiences will help other people relate and find ways to cope with certain situations. Let's talk!

Rejection Because of Kindness?

Allow me to set the story up.

I often times like to randomly show my appreciation for people by posting kind messages to others. I don't need a special situation or day to do so. I am someone who appreciates people being in your life and those who help you feel happy and maybe mean something to your life.

Last week, I endured what I considered a bad week on Twitch. I am admittedly a chatty person because I want to feel connected to what I love. I do not want to feel like I am just another soul, though technically, I am just another soul. I was banned from Chat on two different channels. One was from discussing something that I felt was not wrong in any such way, the other was from maybe expressing some kind words. The latter situation is what I will be discussing.

The channel's Chat I was banned from is from an up-and-coming DJ and producer whom I've supported by visiting Chat and even buying some songs from this personality online. I've been supportive and enjoyed my time Chatting with others along with the musician. Sometimes, I felt like I am left out or sometimes ignored. I felt connected, but not really connected to that community. I even made some complimentary and appreciative comments on Discord. I felt this showing of kindness, while not flirting or anything of that nature, probably led to me being banned from Chat on that channel. Afterwards, I immediately unfollowed that Channel and all or most social media connections from the musician.

I offered kind and supportive words, and somehow it's taken as something offensive enough to get banned from Chat on someone's Twitch channel? I did not use any sort of inflammatory words or try to flirt with the person. I simply said things along the lines of (not the exact quote), "thank you for your wonderful streams this year. I'm glad to have followed your channel this year and even buy your music online." What happened after? I get banned from Chat on that channel, possibly from kind words I offered elsewhere.

Being the depressed soul, I felt like I did wrong when I felt I was doing right. I even went to bed a bit earlier that night once I learned of showing respect ended up getting you rejected instead of respect. I felt this was another setback and also committing another mistake. Or at least, I committed something that regarded like a mistake rather than trying to be kind.

If you felt this sounds foul, let's discuss this further.

Rejection Because of Kindness? A Further Breakdown

I feel the world has too much negativity. I also feel not much love and respect is genuine. There are those who simply want to be kind to certain individuals for the sake of being kind or because of trying to boost one's "cool appeal." I do not think that way. If there is someone whom I feel is a great person, I let that person know. Depending on how great, I express my own happiness for how much that person means to me and that person's work.

No person in one's own correct mind would ever tell a loved one or someone the person loves to (for example) "go die in a hole," right? You wouldn't wish a loved one to get involved in a dangerous incident or get sick from a potentially fatal disease, would you? Of course not. But at the same time, you do want to say things to others to show your appreciation for them. If one person is hoping to get a job after an interview, you want to hope that person gets the job. You allow your heart to be open and express your support. Yes- words can be as powerful as actions, though actions are often stronger than words. Yet still, words still hold a lot of power.

The only situation(s) where I feel kindness can lead to rejection is if someone is only saying kind things and doing kind things only to be kind. You know- not being sincere about offering support. It may also be possible if someone may intentionally say something things taken as backhanded compliments. However, if you are someone who constantly says kind things to someone and the recipient sees it either as being fake or always being nice, it leads to rejection to those who you feel connected with. It shouldn't be this way! Sadly, though, it can be taken in a negative context.

Explaining Ways.

I have been a person who has had episodes of depression. I had people who I thought were friends feel like they betrayed me. I may even meet people whom I thought were friends, until they either show their true colors to me or direct me to some discussion either illegal or some scam. I feel like I did nothing wrong, yet still I no longer am friends with someone or no longer supportive of me. So because of this, I cherish and admire those whom I feel haven't betrayed me or appreciate what I do for others. There have been people I've encountered who have helped me through some tough times and even served as people I could talk to about my problems. I appreciate those whom have helped me along the way as well as those who help me feel better about myself in life and in general.

Therefore, I feel the need to express my appreciation and respect for others. Do I HAVE to express kindness on a personal level? No. Do I WANT to express kindness on a personal level? Yes. If I feel someone is a great person, I want to express that level of love and respect to that person. I want to show I am real and have been positively influenced. Using the musician as an example, I always have been supportive even to point to buying that musician's music. Maybe if I was traveling, I would even want to go to live shows for that musician. However, to be so kind and supportive to the point of financial support leading to being rejected by that entity, I almost felt like I have wasted my life trying to be kind and supportive.

Showing Respect in a Community Analogy.

The analogy I like to give regarding respect is with restaurants. If you love dining at a major fast food chain, you are just another figure who loves the company, and not many people among that fast food chain would really care about you. This is even though you do matter to that fast food chain's success. However, if you love dining from some small family's kitchen or a small business restaurant, you are like family. It is the reason why I sometimes avoid more popular platforms because it is like getting lost in a big rock concert. As much as you say and personally mean "I love you" or "you're the best," you're drowned out among other people who feel the same way. I don't want to be ignored or seen as something less of a supporter.

Can You Be Respectful Without Being Hateful?

I do understand it is unrealistic to always support someone and always agree with something. Though, nobody wants to be an out-and-out hater. You can always respectfully disagree with things. If being rejected for always being kind, you can always offer constructive criticism and respectful disagreement on things without getting on the hateful side of someone. Remember you are not telling someone you love and respect anything negative. What you want to do is show your support in your own way. The hope is that it is accepted and appreciated. Sometimes, though, it may get misinterpreted or make you feel like a superficial friend or fan of that individual or those individuals. If you get rejected, you feel your respect is going for nothing; and as a result, you want to disassociate yourself as much as possible from whom you originally thought was someone that you truly loved and respected. You end up feeling less of a person because you felt you were doing wrong when all you were trying to do was be kind to people.

Pretty betraying material in this blog post, isn't it? Well, I'll offer some final thoughts next.

Rejection Because of Kindness? Final Thoughts

Do not stop being kind. Do not stop voicing your overall love, respect, and appreciation for others. Support those you love as best as you can and as much as you can. If you try to offer your respect to those you feel are warranting of it, you have done nothing wrong. You have only done wrong when you are either insincere, offer it as a backhanded compliment, or if it is taken in the wrong context. Love and appreciation should be commended, not lead to rejection by the party(-ies) at large. Sadly, some people dislike compliments or don't appreciate being complimented. So you do have to be careful if you like offering your appreciation of others. Again, though- do not stop expressing kindness to those who you feel have made a positive impact on your life.

This has been both a helpful post and a mini-rant. Regardless, I am glad you found some special value in this post. Here is my discussion question to you if you wish to discuss:

Even if not everyone takes compliments easily, should you still prefer your appreciation to others? Also, should showing appreciation for others be warranting of rejection by some individuals?

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Not Your Day

2023-10-31T18:49:00.000-05:00

Many days of the year we look forward to and enjoy. Some others, though, not so much. Everyone has certain days of the week or in the year that they fear or have bad memories of. Saying that today is Halloween, this is my day I've feared most. A day that doesn't seem so lucky means you are on heightened alert for trying not to do something that makes you feel horrible inside. Even some simple mistakes can have you feeling horrible.

Always remember each day does not go as planned, and not every day is a good one. It is natural to have good and bad days. What becomes concerning is when a certain day or certain time of year is associated with you having some of your worst memories. My Halloween memories have been bad for me, ranging from being suspended for fighting to having my last day at a university when I was hoping to work towards my previous major of computer animation.

If you are not having a good day, one thing to be happy about is that you are still living, and you did all you could to live a certain day. Things could be much worse than what you experienced or done in a certain day. A bad day should just come and go. Move on to the next day, because tomorrow is a new day. Each upcoming moment should be times for you to try to have better times than what you experienced the previous day.

When it comes to a certain day of the year or days of the year where you begin to cringe, don't look at those days as opportunities to fail. Instead, treat them like you can have a better time on that specific day than you've experienced in the past. For example, you may fear April Fool's Day (which I think should be banned, but that's another story), but the next April Fool's Day could possibly go great for you instead of adding to a certain day being a nightmare for you. All you got to do is just live life as best as you can. It will not be easy, but it is better than cowering in fear or feeling like the heavens do not like you on that day.

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Hate Crimes

2023-07-26T21:54:00.000-05:00

WARNING: The following topic may not be suitable for all audiences. Due to the subject matter of this topic, viewer discretion is advised. Parents of younger children will need to restrict or limit younger viewers from viewing this material. Otherwise, you are reading this material at your own risk.

EVERYTHING about you is subject to praise or protest. Your age, ethnicity, nationality, culture, religion, political preference, sexual orientation, and other preferences make up your identity. They also can make you a victim of being martyred. A hate crime is exactly what it sounds like- a crime committed by someone based on injuring or killing people based on certain preferences. In this blog post, I will discuss this difficult and disturbing topic.

Hate Crimes

A hate crime is an act of violence committed against individuals of certain specific identities and categories. There have been acts of violence involving mass murder for whatever reason. Some people who commit these acts may be gang members, extremists, terrorists, and more. Such people who commit such hate crimes either pick certain occasions, certain locations, or certain random times to strike oblivious and unaware individuals. The most disturbing thought is that anyone and everyone are targets of someone cruel enough to want to commit a hate crime.

Let us look at some hate crime violence. There have been events such as the gay nightclub mass shooting in Orlando, Florida, USA where over 45 people were killed. There was the mass shooting in Buffalo, New York, USA whereas mostly Black people were shot and killed at a grocery store in a Black community. There was a mass shooting in the greater Atlanta, Georgia, USA area where the assailant killed about eight people by targeting certain spas, where most of the victims were Asians. So these incidents can happen at any time, anywhere. The motive(s) behind such actions can be as despicable as the violence itself.

The biggest factor to note about hate crimes is that they are not your fault. Unless you specifically did something to provoke a specific assailant, you did nothing wrong. You are just being yourself. Someone who just has a certain disdain of people of certain categories just decides to inflict violence at some moment in some specific location. Most of these assailants do not even care who specifically they attack- they just want to make a statement or feel like they are carrying out a certain task at the expense of innocent lives.

Living With Hate Crimes?

Society within the past 25 or so years has slowly declined to where people deem it is necessary or substantiated to kill multiple people. It seemed horrific when the Columbine High School shooting in 1999 happened. Much more incidents of mass murder would happen across America and even around the world since. You can't even enjoy entertainment gatherings without wondering if you will be safe- such as the 2017 mass shooting in the greater Las Vegas, Nevada, USA area.

Surreal as it may sound, mass murder and hate crimes have been intertwined into our lives. The majority of this post has regarded hate crimes. Simply being yourself and celebrating who you are can make you a target for anyone who wishes to commit a hate crime. You did absolutely nothing wrong. Despite all of this, you could be among the victim(s) of a future hate crime. This is basically something all of us will have to live with unless some sort of serious regulation suppresses these hate crimes. It is impossible to completely eradicate even the notion of hate crimes, but a lot can be done to where we can prevent such hate crimes from happening.

How to Protect Yourself.

What if you are in the face of potential danger of a hate crime? You may alert authorities if you feel someone is suspicious of committing a hate crime or some other sort of mass murder or terrorism. You may learn self-defense with or without weapons. This is helpful if you feel you are the target of a suspicious individual. Live your life normally, but remain alert and vigilant.

Now for some Final Thoughts on this difficult matter.

Hate Crimes: Final Thoughts

Regardless of who you are as a person and for what you believe in, these factors will leave you to ridicule and judgment from everyone. Many of these things you can not change can fuel an assailant's desire to commit hate crimes against others. Celebrate who you are and what you believe in; just remember some other people can be entirely jealous of you and/or what you believe in. It is perfectly fine to disagree with peoples' views, but it is NEVER acceptable to inflict violence because of who others are and/or what others believe in. Perpetrators of hate crimes face some sort of fear that they have to specifically target certain figures to defeat someone or something they do not believe in. The rash of mass murder and hate crimes in today's social landscape make living seem impossible. All we can do, though, is live our own lives while also remaining vigilant and alert to any impending danger about someone plotting to commit some sort of hate crime or domestic terrorism. Hate crimes can not be eradicated entirely, but what we can do is limit any any all threats to the greater public-at-large.

A Bonus Final Thought.

"If you see something, say something." If you fear someone may be plotting to commit some sort of hate crime or any other mass murder, be sure to alert authorities. It is possible you can foil a potential plot for disaster based entirely on your vigilance.

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Celebrate Responsibly

2023-07-18T16:15:00.002-05:00

This past Independence Day saw a lot of injuries and deaths due to various celebrations. The most common culprit is often celebratory gunfire. Firing off gunshots in celebration could lead to disposed bullets hitting someone or something. Not being safe using things like fireworks or sparklers can also be dangerous. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate certain occasions. If you are going to do so, though, consider your life and the lives of others as you celebrate. Any kind of celebration is meant to be just that- celebration, happiness, and jubilation. You don't want what should be a joyous time to end up being a somber time. So please be sure to celebrate responsibly when you can.

The impacts of celebrating can be further enhanced if smoking or drinking is involved. Impaired judgment can be just as damaging in regards to celebrating. You certainly want to be careful if you are drinking and/or smoking prior to or during celebrating. Any number of things can happen as you are high or drunk. If you are too drunk to where you can't drive home safely, have someone else [who isn't drunk or high] drive home.

Let me get back to fireworks and sparklers for a moment. If you are in a place where fireworks are disallowed, PLEASE don't use them in such locations. There is a chance you could start a fire or get someone hurt. People will still pop off fireworks in places and times where they are disallowed. You can't pardon the foolishness of such individuals, so make sure to take things carefully.

Having said all of this, I'd like to offer my condolences to those who may have been injured or killed celebrating anything recently. Just be careful and mindful as you celebrate. You may also elect to do the simplest things in this situation- either celebrate privately or don't celebrate at all.

This was just a simple blog post regarding celebrating responsibly. Usually, I do more detailed blog posts on topics. This one was more casual but still informative. If you enjoy my work, please Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work and want to support me any way you can. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Suspicious Profiles

2023-06-27T23:12:00.001-05:00

"(Name) has sent you a new friend request."

"(Name) followed you."

It is always great to meet new people on social media. Well, most of the time. Someone may seem completely innocent until this suspected "friend" may troll you or link you to something shady. Someone who may seem completely innocent may simply be a bunch of sexy pictures that probably isn't even that exact person. If you are trying to meet new people or gain new fans/followers, you have to be careful who you encounter. So this blog post discusses one of the pitfalls of social media- dealing with spam profiles. Let's get into it!

BEFORE I BEGIN...

Some of what I am about to discuss pertains to personal experiences of mine and intimate thoughts regarding meeting such suspicious profiles. While I may not cite specific individuals, I will make mention to certain individuals I've encountered.

Suspicious Profiles

I created this blog post almost as a chance to vent from a rash of fake profiles I have dealt with for months on end.

Social media is all about connecting with individuals close and far through cyberspace. While I have had the pleasure of meeting many people the world over through social media, I also had to deal with my fair share of fake profiles and spammers. It can be tough to fully trust some people sometimes. You may be fortunate enough to meet some complete stranger who actually does enjoy your work and does not just follow your profile(s) for the sake of following your profile(s). If that describes you, be happy! On the other hand, you may encounter someone who does mostly want to latch onto you and innundate you with spam or provide a number of shady links. If this describes you, be concerned.

A lot of social media allows you to control who you meet and who you can connect to. You do not have to accept just anyone if that is what is happening with you online. I will be discussing a few matters on certain social media platforms now. I will not mention every one, but I will make mention to some of the more popular ones.

Suspicious Profiles: Facebook.

Facebook has risen to become the biggest social media giant online. Previously, it was Myspace who was king. You now can access Myspace... through your Facebook account! Facebook has mostly been different in being more personal whom you meet and whom you connect with. While I do like to meet old friends on Facebook, some either don't remember me too well or want nothing to do with me anymore. It is a sad thing to admit, but it happens. I do feel that some people I thought would be lifelong friends and supporters ultimately want nothing to do with me anymore for whatever reason. I also may not feel I am truly a friend of someone. In some of these cases, I feel Facebook has rather DESTROYED some of my friendships rather than maintain them.

On the front of managing a Facebook Fan Page (here is mine: John Marine and JohnMarineDesigns), I am aware I may not have as much fan support as I would like. One thing I always like to say, though, is that I would rather have 50 loyal Facebook fans than 500 fake Facebook fans. I believe in being real and connecting with those who actually care. That even comes down to my fans of my Facebook fan page. I don't ever try to buy success or buy popularity.

Facebook can be a breeding ground for scammers. In my experiences, I may receive replies to Fan Pages along the lines of simply "hello" to "you seem like a great person, can you please request me?". This all sounds good on the surface. Everyone who I get requests from are those who I actually check to be genuine. A lot of the profiles I check mostly have maybe one or two pictures of normal to suspicious nature followed by maybe some quirky quote. Some profiles mostly are living advertisements to some suspicious adult-only website or some other kind of shady website. I make attempts to try to connect with most of my social media friends and family on a regular basis.

The reality of some of these people I have encountered on Facebook wait for a certain opportunity to connect with you and then hit you with shady material. Like, some people will pick a moment to connect with you and then make you fall for whatever scheme they have set up. One person I encountered basically feigned having some real ailment and tried to link me to some shady website. I IMMEDIATELY blocked (and maybe reported) this person. One other person who I thought was genuine years ago mostly wanted me to Become a Fan of (nowadays "Like") certain fan pages of suspicious pages. I felt this other person was suspicious, and I ultimately decided to drop this other person from my friends list. There were a few people who I added because I thought they were genuine... until I saw they had a bunch of profile pictures that are NOT of that person. For example, someone pretending to be someone else with genuine pictures, but then have a bunch of fake pictures for filler. As with other phonies, I blocked that profile and unfriended.

---Dealing with Suspicious Facebook Profiles---
What I ultimately did was limit any further friend requests to those I am already friends with. This is a measure that is good for cutting down on suspicious profiles on Facebook. It means only friends of friends can request you to be friends of yours. It does not guarantee friends of friends will all be genuine, but at least you will no longer get the random friend request of some suspicious individual. If you simply do not want to meet anyone new on Facebook, simply disallow any and all future friend requests.

I take an extra measure by looking at profiles that Follow my main profile. If I see a certain individual is Following my feed but not friends with me, I check to make sure a certain profile isn't suspicious in any such way. Someone who doesn't seem genuine a person I block- even if I don't have that person as a friend. You can allow or disallow people to follow your Facebook feed. Such people may not be your Facebook friends if they just Follow you, but at least you won't have to worry about getting scammed at some random moment from someone who you feel is genuine when you encountered that person on Facebook.

What about those Fan Pages where I get random people pretending to love my commentary? I report Spam. Afterwards, I have my tag removed from those comments, block that individual, and then hide any other comments from that person. You have to disallow suspicious material as best as you can.

Suspicious Profiles: Twitter.

Twitter can be a hot mess. It can sometimes be the most negative and toxic social media platforms online; and if you're not careful, you can be drawn into this downward spiral of a social media platform. It has been a place where I have encountered the most traffic from negative-minded individuals and also being followed by shady individuals. It also is a platform where people share news of people dying that haven't officially died (i.e., "RIP (somebody who hasn't actually died). It can be brutal on Twitter.

People can say whatever they want about Twitter of late being bought by a certain very rich person, but my real complaint has been in trying to defeat suspicious profiles. What am I talking about? I am talking about when you get mostly spam follows from what appears to be sexy women. They'll either link to their Only Fans (or some other adult website) or have absolutely nothing on their page but a lot of Followers and some picture.

---Dealing with Suspicious Twitter Profiles---
It used to be that you could report any sort of spam profile. Now, reporting is only done with more serious violations or conditions on the service. So all you can do with suspicious profiles is block them. It is a solution, but not a permanent solution. That (sadly) means you will have to continually block any and every suspicious Twitter profile so that person can keep making spam profiles and constantly annoying you.

Someone who may be friends with you may have their accounts hacked and deliver some spam E-Mails or spam messages. If someone you Follow has been hacked, don't fall for their hacked messages. It may also help to delete certain message discussions from someone hacked.

Suspicious Profiles: Instagram.

I surely have no regrets leaving Instagram. I had one too many bad experiences to where I felt the best thing I could do is leave. Sure, I lost my biggest outlet of sharing pictures, but at least I don't have to deal with some of the toxicity of comments as well as times where I got locked out of my account there. I thought about returning to Instagram as a business profile, but I still am away from Instagram and proud of it. Never again.

---Dealing with Suspicious Instagram Profiles---
What if you are dealing with supicious profiles on Instagram? Simply block whomever you find suspicious. Report anyone who is harassing you.

Suspicous Profiles: YouTube.

YouTube is the premier medium for sharing videos. In the past, I have had my fair share of haters and trolls on YouTube. Most of the spam and hate have been cleaned up.

---Dealing with Suspicious YouTube Profiles---
Should you see suspicious channels, block or report them. If you get certain suspicious channels in your Recommended videos, click on the three dots and select "Don't Recommend Channel."

Suspicious Profiles: TikTok.

I personally can not tolerate TikTok. However, I am on there to view various TikToks. A lot of people do find a good laugh out of short videos complimented with either lip syncing or some dancing or acting. Spam profiles may follow your work either sending you spam TikToks or are profiles laden with spam content.

---Dealing with Suspicious TikTok Profiles---
Report any suspicious profiles offering spam TikToks. Block any suspicious profiles as well.

Suspicious Profiles: Certain Services.

Examples of this section relate to certain services that are not social media platforms but certain services. Examples of this include: blog comments, media services, online marketplaces, etc. You may, for example, pick up a spam comment in your blog from a spam profile. You may get some Follow from a suspicious follower on a media-sharing website claiming to be a legitimate person who could try to promote your music.

---Dealing with Suspicious Non-Social Media Profiles---
Whatever resources there are to block and/or report suspicious individuals, use those resources to help protect yourself and your work. If there are individuals wanting to work with you to promote your content, be careful who you trust. Someone who may be genuine may be trying to cash in on your success or scam you. So make sure you can trust some people who come around to interact with your work.

A few final thoughts are coming up.

Suspicious Profiles: Final Thoughts

Social media can be a great way to meet new people and connect with those you know. Social media also, however, be an exercise in patience dealing with suspicious profiles. The best thing you can do is shun off people online who are suspicious in nature. Any combination of blocking and/or reporting fake profiles will go a long way in making the social media experience a happy one for you and others.

Social media may have a bunch of fake profiles, but there are actual genuine people who are worth connecting with. Do not entirely give up on meeting others and connecting with others if it is a goal of yours. You can still promote your work to others while also try to meet new people. Just make sure you know who are dealing with and always be vigilant.

I hope all of you on social media will be able to deal with these people as best as possible online. If you enjoy my work, please Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work and want to support me any way you can. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Can You Fear Your Own Anger?

2023-05-29T16:08:00.003-05:00

Being angry is a natural feeling among humans. Some people have controlled anger while others may have explosive anger. However, when you fear your own anger, you have angrophobia. Angrophobia suggests one can become so angry that he/she/they may fear damaging property, viciously injuring someone (including oneself), or even killing someone (even oneself) on their angry rage. It is as if someone's anger can be so vicious that even the one who gets incredibly angry is afraid of his/her/their own anger. It is that feeling of being overwhelmed by something so powerful within you. You realize and respect this awesome force and succumb to this force. I will share some more thoughts on this matter through this blog post.

Fearing Your Own Anger

Anger is a natural emotion to have and express. It is also okay to be frustrated from time to time. While it is okay to be angry or frustrated, how one handles being angry can make a big difference towards how people see you. Can a person handle being angry in a healthy way, or can one's angry rage only be stopped by that individual? Those who respect and acknowledge having anger problems often times can feel scared of their own anger.

Depending on the situation, one can become mildly angry or even become extremely angry. One's own rage can be enough to perform catastrophic damage to all in an enraged person's path and surroundings. Enraged individuals can do things such as punch holes in walls, damage property, scream loudly, grit one's teeth, and at the worst- commit violence and injure (or even kill) individuals. Being angry causes us to act in ways usually out of our character. A mild-mannered person who is generally kind can become a savage beast when one's anger is pushed to one's breaking point. Anger becomes this force that consumes us and turns us into savages. Once we let our anger loose, it can be difficult to control or suppress. Anger makes us do things we would never do on the normal and in a controlled state.

Those who are unable to manage their anger in healthy ways end up doing damage to more than just property or life. Some people even risk severing ties to family and loved ones. This can be critical in relationships. A parent upset about one's child or children doing bad in school/college or committing some crime(s) can result in the parent being so angry that he/she may borderline on child abuse or assault. A couple may have one or the other be so angry over some dispute that domestic violence may be involved.

I am transparent in my blogs, so let me admit- I can get intensely angry or frustrated. I got into trouble in the past at school because of my anger. I sometimes fear becoming scared of my own anger. While I don't consider myself a ticking time bomb, I do admit I can be consumed from my own anger if I reach my breaking point or am provoked beyond my level of tolerance.

Control Anger Before it Controls You!

It is okay to be angry, but just make sure you do not become too angry that you risk being a savage beast. Some people can not contain their own anger. Some who can not control their own anger end up being uncontrollable and unstable. If one is confrontational and belligerent, this can only enhance the impact of one's anger. They may even find themselves having to be strapped into a straitjacket, even end up in a mental hospital, or even jail/prison.

How to Treat Your Anger.

The best way to prevent the worst possible scenario is to seek ways to control your anger. One method is to take deep breaths when angry. One can also exercise to try to get one's mind right when dealing with anger. For more extreme (and potentially expensive) ways to manage anger, one might want to arrange with a psychologist or a psychotherapist for treatment.

Whatever it takes to manage your anger and avoid committing non-reversible damage to life and property, do so. You are a much more sane person when not intensely angry. You act in ways different in a controlled state than you are when uncontrollably angry. Keep it that way to avoid becoming a savage.

Final Thoughts.

While anger is a natural emotion, it can become a serious concern when one's anger becomes too uncontrollable to where life and property are threatened. Despite the fact that anger is common and natural, it can be concerning when one's anger can be so powerful that even that angry individual can become so angry that they fear their own anger and what damage he/she may likely commit. Anger can be controlled. Do not let your own anger consume you, especially if you fear your own anger will make you do something you could regret for the rest of your life.

You are not a bad person just because you have violent anger. It just means you need help keeping yourself in check when faced with anger. Anger is an awesome force that can be contained and controlled. Do whatever it takes and take advantage of any available resources to help make sure you control your anger. Most of all, try not to feel so fearful of your anger. Instead, just try to manage your anger in healthy and non-destructive, non-violent ways.

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Transgender Acceptance and Inclusion

2023-03-07T00:20:00.000-06:00

Recent controversy by a major candy maker has inspired me to discuss transgender acceptance and inclusion. As the LGBT community is being better accepted, transgender acceptance and inclusion is still a major hurdle. This blog discussion of transgender acceptance and inclusion may not solve any transgender issues, but it will be a chance to discuss transgenders being better accepted and included in a number of arenas and outlets.

Transgender Acceptance and Inclusion

Let me start this post by sharing the inspiration for this topic.

Hershey's Chocolate [of Canada] generated controversy recently when promoting their "HerSHE" candy. The controversy involves a transgender woman being among real females. In today's changing culture, a lot of people think this is an excellent move for a transgender woman to be regarded and respected as a woman. The anti-transgender crowd, however, thought much differently. Some even used the saying, "women are born not worn." This 2023 Hershey's HerSHE campaign fueled the desire of me to discuss transgender acceptance and inclusion.

In Case You're Interested...

Check out this brief piece that helped spark my discussion on transgender acceptance and inclusion:

^ "Hershey's Women's Day campaign featuring trans activist sparks backlash"

In addition to this bit of controversy, a number of different state governments in the United States are ruling things like drag queen shows as punishable crimes. There is still a great deal of transphobia ranging from violence and discrimination against transgenders. A number of transgenders have lost their lives due to senseless violence.

The LGBT community is still very much trying to get more support and bearings, but it is still an uphill struggle to be accepted and included. Some people think transgenders are more along the lines of those who *choose* to be a gender other than their birth gender. For example, it is like (in the minds of a transphobe) a male chooses for a day to be a female rather than accept that a male at birth identifies as and acts as a female. I even remember when a female-to-male transgender became pregnant. Regardless of the gender preference of an individual, it is best to respect and acknowledge those preferences along with preferred pronouns. If a male prefers any pronouns, respect that. If a female prefers "he/him/they," respect those pronouns and use them.

Until transgenders are better accepted by the general public, we have to strive towards helping them get the respect and attention they aspire. How do we work towards transgenders being better accepted and included? I'll begin by discussing acceptance. Next section, please.

Transgender Acceptance

A lot of people mostly think of transgender types either as crossdressing or something comical. As if most people believe some transgender types really enjoy *playing* as their opposite gender. LGBT+ as it stands is already an exercise in trying to be accepted. Being transgender is even more a difficult deal to try to be accepted. Transgenders simply want to be accepted and acknowledged for their gender preference(s). Perhaps the bigger issue would involve those who legally and medically have proper transgender transition going. Even those who still have their preferences towards gender should be respected for their choices.

A person's gender preference is as important and as intimate as a person's name. As much as someone hates being called out of their name, a person hates to be misgendered. Even if an M2F transgender specifically prefers being referred to as a she/her, she hates being referred to as a he/him. What could be a less stressing circumstance is if the transgender person prefers any or all pronouns.

I do think as the LGBT community is becoming better accepted, there eventually will be fewer transphobic types. You can't eliminate transphobia, but it can surely be curbed. The problem is that not many people are willing to accept certain transgenders.

Transgender Acceptance: Transgender Youth.

My biggest fear among transgenders is with transgender youth. One of the brightest beacons and hopes for the transgender community is Jazz Jennings. Having such a supportive family and actually going through with all the different nuances of transitioning properly has been handled nicely by Jazz and her family. Even if you never seen "I Am Jazz," just know Jazz was a little boy who always known she was a girl in a boy's body. The extensive experiences by Jazz has helped her to become the beautiful and strong woman she is today.

Most transgender youth, however, do not have such support that Jazz Jennings got. Some siblings actually get kicked out of their houses by their parents or relatives for being any denomination of LGBT, let alone transgender. I remembered the first transgender I've ever known how she hated to be kicked out of her house by her grandmother just because she's transgender. This was in my college days, but being transgender in grade school can be damaging. Imagine being 17 or younger and out of a house because of being transgender.

Young transgenders could be faced with such a tough life ahead, so it is best to work with them as well as offer hope and protection to them. It is best to give them hope rather than let them feel worthless. If you are a parents of a transgender (or even a genderqueer) individual at 17 or younger, try to work with them to ensure they will be okay for years to come. Among peers, respect a transgender and whatever pronouns and gender identity a young transgender may prefer.

This is all a tough subject. Now coming up, I discuss transgender inclusion.

Transgender Inclusion

As someone who follows fashion, the feeling of inclusion is what a lot of people want to have. Fashion designers have been more open to designing clothes for many more figures and even for the LGBT community. Hershey's offering inclusion for transwomen as part of the "HerSHE" campaign is commendable. It is commendable even if the anti-transgender crowd think Hershey's should be ashamed for including a transwoman to be among cisgender women. Playboy Magazine, known for their sultry models, even showcased a transgender model in the magazine's long history. There is certainly inclusion among certain entities to include transgenders.

Transgenders do not believe they are their birth gender. Some people experience gender dysphoria, the feeling of being dissatisfied with their birth gender or preferred gender. Some people wanting to transition have hated their lives living as their birth gender and want to start anew as another gender. A transgender can be very young or even be north of age 50. Regardless- all transgenders want to be included and respected.

I think a lot of people tend to look at transgenders as monsters. Fact is- transgenders are human beings as any other human. Unless guilty of committing legitimate crimes, they should be included among the rest of the world. The trouble to all of this is that transgenders have a tough time being included. Some just fail to see the person and only latch onto gender. Until more people are accepted for their personality and their abilities, this will continue to be an issue.

Allow me to close out this one with some final thoughts.

Transgender Acceptance and Inclusion: Final Thoughts

Transgender acceptance and inclusion can be tough to come by. Though in today's culture, it is becoming better accepted in a number of countries. A changing culture means that current culture has to keep up with new changes. Those changes include better accepting the LGBT community, including transgenders.

Acceptance for the transgender community begins with giving hope, protection, and respect to transgenders. Transgenders should be able to be accepted into the workforce and stay in families. Acceptance among transgenders also mean respecting the gender(s) and pronoun(s) they prefer. The acceptance process can be tougher for transgender youth, as the stakes can be higher for them. Parents who refuse to be as supportive to young transgenders can run the risk of severing the bonds of parent-sibling for the rest of a young transgender's life. So special care is needed to prevent the chances of some serious distrust.

Transgender inclusion is as big an issue as acceptance. It helps knowing a transgender can be accepted in a given space and not be subject to any kind of discrimination. If my earlier examples of inclusion were of any indication, I am sure more companies and environments will be more inclusive and respectful of transgenders.

I do feel LGBT types will be better accepted, at least here in the United States of America. If we can get over the mindset that transgenders are monsters or diseased, we can better accept them as people and with the proper pronouns they prefer. It took ages for racial injustice to be curbed. We can do the same for the LGBT community, including transgenders. Unless a transgender is guilty of legitimate crimes or commits crimes, all transgenders should be respected equally as non-transgender individuals.

For More Information...

I have a list of helpful resources for everyone, but I have a special set of helpful resources for the LGBT community. You may view my LGBT resources at LGBT Resources on John's Life Space.

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Asking for a Friend

2023-03-02T20:42:00.000-06:00

What has become the latest trendy phrase is "asking for a friend." The concept works like this- rather than the person in question ask for advice, his/her/their friend asks for them. Can another person be trusting enough to legitimately ask a question to someone else and get proper advice?

I actually think this is a legitimate concept if one actually is too afraid to ask on one's own. However, I do not think one person should feel overly embarrassed. If someone wanted to visit my blog(s) for advice on something, it's here for you- no need to ask, not really any shame if you have such concerns.

Asking for a Friend: Sample Scenario.

Okay- let us set up a scenario. Let's say a straight male has a romantic attraction to another male or a transgender woman, and he has questions regarding intimacy. That male would probably want to find out on his own answers to his questions, but he would feel embarrassed to ask on his own. So someone would tell a friend to get some answers speaking on his behalf. I think someone would have to be bold enough and trusting enough to help get answers to such questions.

Asking for a Friend: No "Friend?"

What if the "asking for a friend" was simply one person having an embarrasing question and not really asking on behalf of any person? This situation would be the kind of situation where someone can absolutely question the validity of asking others for advice. In a situation like this, the person would mostly pretend to ask for advice but is really lying about trying to ask a question on a friend's behalf when there is no one he/she/they asks for. Such people protect one's own character by pretending to ask on someone else's behalf when they are the ones wanting certain advice on something.

When Asking for a Friend Can Work.

The only real situation where I can see where asking for a friend works is if someone asks a friend about something to someone who may be tough to communicate with. For example, someone may want some advice from someone who may be tough to talk with. This is the only real situation where I can see asking for a friend actually working.

Final Thoughts on Asking For a Friend.

Salute to anyone who is willing to ask questions about things to other people on their behalf. I know it can be tough trying to ask on your own, but there is more credibility and honesty when you ask questions yourself or looking for answers on your own. It is okay to ask about embarrassing things to others. Especially if you have trust issues, it is best to ask about things on your own than rely on someone else to ask on your behalf. Maybe if someone is tough to talk with about things, then it may be okay to ask for someone to try to talk with such individuals. Other than that, try to gather the courage to ask about things yourself. Preserve your honesty and character by asking questions yourself that may embarrass or concern you rather than rely on friends.

At least... these are my thoughts regarding the whole "asking for a friend" thing. You are free to react any way you see fit. Or let me ask...

How do you feel about "asking for a friend" about certain things?

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Developing Other Passions

2023-02-01T18:59:00.000-06:00

No matter what profession you aspire to, it is always nice to know of other passions and hustles to indulge in. I began thinking about a lot of my personal friends and online friends and what they aspire to. Some have their dream jobs, some others develop other passions to enjoy and financially profit from. You can always train and work towards your dream job, but it doesn't hurt to get into other things. So I wanted to discuss having other passions.

Developing Other Passions

A college friend of mine enjoyed being a DJ. Later, he took on photography. Someone else I knew mostly did fashion design, but recently took up real estate. A fashion blogger took up wine and champagne. Occupations seem forever, but even the most lucrative jobs won't provide the best long-term solutions. So it is always great to take on new jobs. Actually, some of my friends have taken on real estate lately. Maybe since the housing market here in Houston has been hot lately, it was possibly good to take on being a real estate agent.

In some cases, you have a dream job in mind, but some number of factors prevent you from working your dream job. For example, you may choose to be a professional basketball player, but you may have suffered one too many injuries to competitively play basketball. So what one would do is take on some other occupation. Go find something else you can take part in and have a decent career with. If you don't get into basketball, try something like professional gaming or streaming. Just find something to occupy your time and that you can hopefully enjoy.

How to Get Into Other Passions?

Find something you like. If not that, have some interest in something, and then try to get interested in it. Just don't force yourself into any side hustle or other passion that does not interest you in the least sense.

I try to occupy myself in various creative outlets so I keep myself busy. I may get into 3D modeling at one point, but then change over to making music. I may also try to work on being a better cook at times. I always keep myself busy. I don't think I could completely develop a new fondness and make it a lucrative venture. I think it is best to develop a fondness and then try to possibly find some way to make it into a career or even make profit.

What if You Are Into a Passion That May Not be Wholesome?

You are free to get into any sort of passion outside of your main one. However, what if you may be into something someone else may disapprove? Maybe you want to get into something like wine making, (assuming you are a male) being a drag queen, or getting into the adult entertainment industry. Obviously, your parents would hate seeing you get involved into some sort of other passion that isn't wholesome. It is possible you may be into the adult entertainment industry while your lover may disapprove of you showing off your body to the world while still taken (or even married).

The reality is that you are your own person, and you are in charge of the decisions you want to make in your life. So while others may disapprove of your choices, who is making the career decisions ultimately- you or somebody else? Is being in someone else's shadow preventing you from getting into anything that highly interests you? Be sure to weigh your options before considering taking part in any sort of passion that interests you.

Developing Other Passions - Final Thoughts

Always have different interests and hobbies in mind. In case you are working towards your beloved passion or are taking part in your beloved passion, always think of other things you have interest in for which your beloved passion fails. It doesn't hurt to get into other passions or learn how to do other things. Don't be forced into thinking of other hobbies. Go with something you love or have some vested interest in. You are best served staying active rather than staying stagnant.

No matter what you enjoy, it always helps to have other passions to get into. So keep at it and be your own brand of awesome! If you enjoy my work, please Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work and want to support me any way you can. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Anhedonia

2023-01-26T19:34:00.000-06:00

Anhedonia is defined as the lack of experiencing pleasure, and it is often a symptom of major depressive disorder. Imagine partaking in your favorite activities- only to not enjoy them. That is what happens when anhedonia takes over your mind. You don't get to enjoy certain pleasures that give you pleasure.

A lot of us partake in activities and such to relax our minds. When you have anhedonia, however, doing what you love does not give you an sort of satisfaction or happiness. Depression limits your ability to enjoy life or even enjoy your favorite activities. Anhedonia makes you even more incapable of feeling pleasure. Depression and anhedonia, however, are not entirely the same thing. One needs not be depressed to experience anhedonia.

In addition to anhedonia, there are also conditions known as social anhedonia and physical anhedonia. Social anhedonia is an inability to feel pleasure through being with others. Physical anhedonia involves a lack of pleasure from physical or certain emotional experiences. Imagine not being able to experience joy being around friends/family or in actions such as shaking hands, hugging, or even kissing. Anhedonia is a bane to various social interactions.

If you experience anhedonia of any kind, a lot of what makes life fun and enjoyable does not seem to matter. You can not enjoy the pleasures of life as you normally would if you didn't have anhedonia. This is a condition that makes each day feel lifeless and meaningless. If you feel you have anhedonia, the best thing you can do is consult with your healthcare provider or seek help from a psychotherapist. It is not easy to root out the main cause of what may cause anhedonia in most individuals. Every case of anhedonia may be different from one another, so make sure to seek some professional help if you are in this situation.

Other Resources.

For more information on anhedonia, I have provided these resources for you:

• Anhedonia: Symptoms, Causes, Treatment - WebMD

^ What is Anhedonia?

If you or someone you know is experiencing or may have anhedonia, just know there is help out there for you to retain pleasure in your favorite activities or being around people. Do not give up on this. Get the needed help you have access to.

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Always Seen Negatively

2023-01-24T21:36:00.002-06:00

Do you feel like some people only communicate with you when something is wrong or when you fail? This angers me personally. Someone who may think so can range from peers to even family members. Maybe you do have certain problems that need to be corrected. Conversely, you may be around people who simply don't love and respect you enough to acknowledge your positive qualities rather than always attack you for doing wrong. No matter what the case, only you know most what you are capable of. It is time for me to speak on this topic.

Always Seen Negatively

All of us have qualities which make us good and bad. How much people view our qualities help establish a sort of overall opinion about ourselves. Are we great and engaging people that make us loved in the face of others? Are we poor enough to actually not be as loved as we could be?

Some people will say something along the lines of, "only God can judge me." This means that for whatever someone bad may say about us, no one person can absolutely judge us properly to give a final opinion about who we are and what we mean to this world. Why do we judge, though? Well, we sometimes want to know how other people think about us regardless of what we think about ourselves. It is a case of wanting to know... but then not really wanting to know.

Okay- that moment comes. "What do you think about me?" If are given positive remarks or mostly positive remarks, you're good! However, let's say you aren't as good as you may think. Now what?

Personally, I feel offended when I am only seen for my negatives instead of my positives. A person who mostly seems to communicate with you with your faults makes you want to cut that person out of your life instead of being re-reminded (to that person) how horrible of a person you are. What is worse is only being negative to someone and not offer any advice or help to someone who is facing problems. In this regard, you are essentially a bully if you only talk to certain people when they are doing wrong or if you only communicate with people when someone is at their lowest points. In some people with anger problems, it makes some disturbed people want to fight somebody or something. Constantly feeling seen negatively (or feeling this way) only lessens your worth to the world in your eyes. You know you are a better person than what most people think about you, so do what you can to help drown out negative thoughts about you people may make about you.

When Usually Viewed Poorly.

I sometimes think of celebrities and some other popular figures in this regard. As an example, there was a time when Miley Ray Cyrus was considered the worst celebrity influence. Many people (myself included) loved her as "Hannah Montana" on Disney. Outside of "Hannah Montana," she became the worst celebrity influence for children in 2009 mostly for her "Wrecking Ball" song and her sexual dancing. Despite this, many praised Miley Cyrus for being a positive influence, like with her song "The Climb."

There are times when media outlets only seem to focus on the negatives of people. This makes it to where it is easy to dismiss people on certain other qualities. For example, let's say a well-known celebrity does lots of charity work and encourages other people to be better... but he/she/they may be seen as a bad person because of some incident that person has made into a bad figure. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion about things- even including people. When you know you are a better person than how you are portrayed, it makes you feel terrible inside knowing you are better than what people may think. A person who is even trying to get into the better graces of people often want to feel loved or recognized.

The reality, though, is that not everyone will be seen in any positive light all the time. Some people even await when someone who seems a hero/heroine will do something wrong to where all of the positive qualities turn out to be lies. No matter who you love or are into, you are never going to be 100% supportive of everyone. Everyone (including myself) is going to have some quality you are not going to like and will give you a reason to hate someone.

Now let me talk about what to do if constantly feeling negatively.

Always Seen Negatively - By Peers.

You are going to encounter people who always seem to think of you negatively. Are you really a bad person? This is common in school. You know you are not going to be the most popular person on campus among other students. You will be picked on and possibly bullied.

Maybe you are part of a workplace where you always feel slighted by the general public. Do you still do your job at your workplace, or do you feel you are replacable, serviceable talent?

In the face of peers, always remember who are and what you really mean to people around you. Your purpose to others is not to be the butt of everyone's jokes unless you are seriously antisocial or lacking any positive qualities. Surround yourself with people who care about you and understand you. You do not have to go it alone or be more reserved.

Always Seen Negatively - By Family.

I always say the closest friends you'll make are your family. When you feel a family member, stepfamily member, or a relative keeps regarding you negatively; you feel hurt because that is someone close to you who looks at you in a negative way. I once researched the murder of singer Marvin Gaye thinking about this topic. Marvin Gaye was one of the most powerful and popular singers in R&B music until he was killed by his father.

Sometimes, we make tough decisions to cut some people out of our lives; or at least, not be reluctant to look to some people for help. That even includes cutting family members out of our lives. Anything to help us do and feel better has to be done for our betterment later in life including isolation from loved ones will have to be made.

If you feel a family member may be difficult to deal with, you may just have to choose to work independently and limit your association and contact with that person. It may not help your bond with someone improve, but it can help for you to feel better about yourself in the area of such people. This is one of those tough decisions you may want to make if you feel a family member always sees you negatively and have given up trying to get into someone's good graces.

Always Seen Negatively - Special Considerations.

Maybe the reason you are seen negatively by people is because of certain qualities that overshadow anything good you do. Namely, reasons because of religious views, governmental views, sexual orientation, and the like. You might be a person who helps others and encourages others. Despite this, you may forever be seen in a poor light because of something like coming out gay or being openly gay.

Cases like this really should encourage you to move on from others and only focus on yourself. This comes back to the quote of not pandering to someone who you do not see in your future.

What to Do To Not See People So Negatively

Here are some things to keep in mind in regards to not being so negative to people...

• Celebrate and respect someone's success. Even if you are someone who disapproves of one's work, at least respect the person is doing very well and is very happy. Only be concerned if someone really is going down a path that is considered dangerous or hazardous.

• Respect others' privacy. If someone chooses to be privately or not want to communicate with certain people, respect the privacy of others. Don't try to barge in.

• Let others have their happiness. Do not try to ruin someone who may be having happy vibes. People who are on a creative trip or a happy trip should not be brought down. Allow people to be happy.

• Remember you do not know what people are going through. Before you judge someone, do not assume you know everything a person is going through if they are doing so poorly. If someone is not willing to express their issues with you, either they choose to keep their problems to themselves, or they don't trust you enough to try to solve their issues. Just have patience with people you love or care about.

• Let a person be on their own if they can't be helped, but do not hassle or bully that person. It is tough to try to work with someone who may not want to be helped or can't be trusted enough. The best thing you may want to do is simply not associate yourself with that person. Just make sure not to continually harass or demean someone.

You are not a bad person just because someone is such a poor person in your eyes. It also does not mean you are a poor influence because you can't help someone who may need help. People just think in different ways to where even the best advice is not really helpful in the long run. You can only do what you can do. Just make yourself better as a person if you feel you can do better to better get through to others.

Now that we have established a lot of ground work, it is time I give some final thoughts. The next section wraps up this post, so move ahead.

Always Seen Negatively - Final Thoughts

While others' perceptions about us are not required to make, we at least want to know if we can be better people no matter what anyone thinks about us. Do not persuade people to give opinions about ourselves. However, always think about how you are perceived to others as opposed to what you think about yourself. Your actions can help determine if people will respect you or disrespect you.

It is not the end of the world because someone you care enough about always seems to be negative about you or only focus on you when doing wrong. It may mean you have to either try to build a better bond with such people or be more independent of that person's support. You could be a perfectly fine person who may be trying but still get looked down for whatever reason(s). Cut some people out of your life or limit your contact with someone who you feel you can't build a solid bond with.

One other important thing to think about in all of this is to not judge someone so poorly when you don't know what the person is going through. Even if you think you know what someone is going through, you really do not know EVERYTHING a person may be dealing with. So make sure to respect the privacy and thoughts of what someone is going through. Do not attempt to help someone by making backhanded compliments or only feeling someone only exists to hurt you.

We can do a lot to try to help be seen better than how a lot of us are ultimately seen. While we want to know how others feel about us, only you can judge you best. Some of us may be trying to better liked, but progress could be slow. It still does not mean we are failures because of our lack of trying or slow rates of success. We can always work to improve and be seen as better people. That is, unless some people have unrealistic expectations about us. No one person is a disgrace to humanity unless that person commits seriously offensive crimes (such as murder or terrorism). Anyone who is seen poorly can work to be better in the eyes of such people. If some people seem too complicated to work with or be associated with, the best thing you could do is simply cut that person or those people out of your life. Their loss will be your gain unless that person or those people can finally come around to respecting you as the person you truly are... IF they eventually do...

I hate discussing things like this, but I feel I need to get these things out based on thoughts of mine or personal experiences. If I am experiencing some things I discuss in my blog posts, I feel and want to believe others may need some help on the same matters. I always say we are all battling the same battles. From time to time, we need to rely on each other and build off of each other to help live better lives. That is what I hope I am accomplishing on "John's Life Space." So if you appreciate my efforts, please feel free to follow my blog(s) in some capacity. Support me and my work any way you can. If you enjoy my work, please Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work and want to support me any way you can. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Adoption

2022-11-24T17:26:00.003-06:00

If you want to start a family but not go through with having your own children, parents can consider adoption. Adopted children are not one's biological family, but adoptive parents can give children new hope and opportunities not previously had from their biological parents. Adopted children often come from either failed parents, divorced parents who lost custody, or from deceased parents. Regardless, children can have new opportunities and chances by being adopted by adopted parents. This blog post discusses adopting children and the challenges involved for both the children and the parents.

Adoption

What brings a lot of couples joy is in starting and maintaining a family. Some families may want to start their own family but do not get to have children of their own. So what some prospective families do is adopt children.

Adoption is the process of bringing a child or children of another birth family into one's own. Most adopted children come from orphans, divorced parents, or even parents whom lost custody of their children. Children without homes or families end up being without a family and/or a place to call home. While it is possible to live without parents, it surely isn't fun or productive. So rather than have to live the foster child life, there are parents loving enough and caring enough to take a chance at bringing someone into their own family to take care of them. Adopted children may also find themselves a forever family and/or a forever home outside of their biological parents.

As I mentioned, parents willing to take a chance to take in a foster child to adopt will be rewarded with being with loving parents and even taking in some new skills. There have been many famous foster children, but one I will focus on is Simone Biles. Simone Biles came from parents who dealt with drug-related issues. She went from being born in Columbus, OH, USA to being adopted by a family in Spring, TX, USA. Simone Biles would go from getting into gymnastics as a child to becoming a gymnastics superstar for Team USA in the Olympics. Simone Biles' story is encouragement in knowing what can be possible if adoptive parents take in the challenge of adopting.

Being part of a new family means you have to get adjusted to a new set of circumstances. For example, if a child grew up in one's biological family with any number of toxic environment factors, and then goes to a family with better income and better educated family; the adopted child will have to get accustomed to a new environment. So maybe an adopted child will get used to having things like broadband Internet and living in a larger house or a better community. Having things a child didn't have previously can be enjoyed with a new family.

Adoption Challenges.

Some of the challenges involved in adopting children is mostly the legal process, financial matters, and of course- disciplining foster children. Some foster children will take some time for which to get adjusted to being with a family and being taken care of in a family. That alone can be a challenge in its own right. Hurdles, both of the legal and financial variety, can also be taxing (no pun intended) on adoptive parents.

I would argue the challenge for adopted children is in trying to learn right from wrong and also trying to be functional members of society. Since a lot of foster children may not know how to socialize properly, this can prove a problem in developing them later in life. They will need to be properly taught how to conduct themselves in social settings as well as in school.

If you want an idea of adoption challenges for children, here is a video for you:

^ What adopted children think you should know

For the adoptive families, they'll have to learn how to become parents. Parenting is nothing that is taught formally at learning institutions. Families have to learn things on the fly. No parents are ever perfect, even and especially adoptive parents.

LGBT+ Couples Adoption.

Most people believe a child stands the best chance at life by having a mother and a father in his/her life. Having a mother and a father gives two entities a chance to nurture and develop a child. Much like how the lines of marriage have been blurred to where it used to be marriage defined as a loving bond between a man and a woman, parenting lines are being blurred as having a mother figure and a father figure. Can two gay men respectively be dad and mom? Can two lesbian women respectively be mom and dad? Male-to-female transgender women aren't able to get pregnant, so can a transgender woman be mom?

I was first introduced to this topic a many years ago on "The Ricki Lake Show." Ricki Lake (in the FOX days of this daytime talk show, not the NBC one) had one episode discussing if LGBT couples should adopt children. LGBT rights and responsibilities have changed through the early course of the 21st Century. Such LGBT people have become better accepted and less criticized and less comical. That even comes to the point of curbing discrimination among LGBT couples. Even as LGBT couples vie for various rights, part of that vying even comes in the form of wanting to be parents.

For the homophobic types, they would feel an adopted child would be ruined with homosexual parents as opposed to heterosexual parents. However, an LGBT+ couple raising an adopted child is just the same as adoption from a regular heterosexual couple. What matters most is a foster child being loved and taken care of by loving parents regardless of the parents' sexual orientation. So don't fret over a child being raised and protected by queer parents. Parenting is about raising and protecting children, and sexual orientation of the parents is a non-factor.

Don't believe me regarding LGBT couples? Check this video out:

^ LGBT Adoption: Redefining Family

Should YOU Adopt?

If you are a couple looking to start a family but may not want to make children of your own, if you accept the financial and legal and social challenges of adoption; then surely adopt if your heart desires. Just like any average parenting, adoptive parenting is a lifelong responsibility. So be ready for a long time of protecting and nurturing a foster care child if you are so inclined to be foster parents.

I have some final thoughts to share, so go to the next section.

Adoption: Final Thoughts

Adoption is a way of giving children another chance at life apart from their troubled biological parents. Adopting children incorporates a number of challenges of the financial, legal, and social (and sometimes religious) variety. Adopted children can have a chance to be part of a different sort of lifestyle and home apart from their troubled past. There are risks involved in parents who wish to adopt children, but the main goal is to continue to nurture and groom children whereas their biological parents failed to do so. Even if you are an LGBT couple, you can still choose to be loving parents for a foster care child. Being great parents has nothing to do with sexual orientation- being great parents is about being there for children in all aspects of life regardless of the sexual orientation of the parents.

Parenting is about working together for the sake of children. Whereas one's biological family may have failed in raising and nurturing a child, an adoptive family can help provide children a second (and maybe more than second) chance to be taken take care of and loved. Adoptive parenting is a risk and a challenge that can go a long way to help children whom otherwise may not get such opportunities again in their lives. You don't have to be perfect; you just have to be a parent.

That concludes my blog post about adopting children. Hopefully I may have inspired future parents to consider adoption. I may add resources about adoption in my "Helpful Resources" page in the future. For now, though, I am glad you can read my post and gain some more life insight as I provide per usual here. If you enjoy my work, please Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work and want to support me any way you can. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Rock Bottom

2022-11-14T22:48:00.002-06:00

If you feel like a hopeless and worthless failure, you are told to have hit "rock bottom." Being in rock bottom means you have hit one of the lowest points of your life, and it can be tough to get back to a happier place. I will use this blog post to talk about experiencing rock bottom and how you can get out of it.

Rock Bottom

When you feel buried in failure and disappointment, you feel further into the earth. The deeper you go, the more likely you may start feeling and seeing the rocks below. Rock bottom is basically that feeling. In my own life, I felt I have experienced feeling buried into the earth from constant and consistent disappointment. Some people just feel like all they are good for is nothing. Some people may even experience things like panic attacks or anxiety attacks when at rock bottom. In extreme cases, people who hit rock bottom may be violent- to the point of wanting to injure someone, or even kill someone... even oneself.

No one should ever have to feel like they have hit rock bottom. Unfortunately, there will be a time or times where you've hit your lowest point and are struggling trying to get your footing back. The first thing I would think about is to take account of what is actually bringing you down. For when I felt like I was at rock bottom, it was the feeling of being seen and treated as a failure by someone whom I try to get in one's good graces. Consider other factors as to why you feel you hit rock bottom. Try to find solutions to whatever issues you are experiencing. Finally, try to get the help you need or maybe execute better with your life.

You can hit rock bottom, but you don't have to remain at rock level of your life. Everyone deserves to live their best life and make the most of what opportunities are offered. Whether or not you believe in spiritual guidance, prayer also helps you to feel more confident. Just do whatever you can to get out of rock bottom status. Most of all..

Good luck!

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5 Years of John's Life Space

2022-11-09T16:47:00.003-06:00

"John's Life Space" turned five years old on November 8, 2008. I felt this was an opportunity to discuss this blog's success and what I want for this blog moving forward. I am sorry I did not post this entry on this blog's anniversary, but I made this post anyways to reflect on this blog of mine. So welcome to "John's Life Space" and another post on here!

Five Years of John's Life Space

Prior to "John's Life Space," I would post a host of life issues in my main blog, "John's Blog Space." I felt I needed a proper blog to discuss life issues and only life issues. I even try to find different ways to discuss different issues. After my grandmother passed away four days before releasing this blog, I decided to devote this blog and its content in loving memory of my grandmother. I want to make "John's Life Space" a safe space and positive space for discussing all kinds of life issues. So do not feel bad or punished being here.

A lot of what I discuss are based on thoughts of mine, but a lot of other issues are based on personal experiences. I have no shame in admitting I have done foolish things. I have no shame in admitting I have failed in points where I could have done much better. Whereas some people would see it as showing weakness or only posting for oneself about life issues, I see it as a chance to get real. Not everything has to be portrayed with some song followed by some dancing or acting. Sometimes, boring English tells the tale better than any short online video.

I sometimes have posted blog entries as a means of helping others by releasing my own bottled-up emotions. I tend to be someone who tries to feel better by releasing my frustrations in hopes I can relieve others of their own frustrations. I just want to make life better for myself and others.

Even though I try to offer advice on various life issues, I am not an expert at these things. I am dealing with a lot of the different issues others may be facing. I am trying to help people win their battles over life issues while trying to win my own battles with my own life issues. We are all in this together. I often feel bad about my own life issues as I try to make life better for others. It speaks to the level of strength I have in trying to get over these various issues.

The motto to this blog is simple- "Life happens." Life indeed happens. All the posts that are a part of this blog help us realize that life happens.

Mental Health Focus.

Mental health has become a serious factor over the years. I felt it was important to key in on mental health issues because a lot of us can feel horrible about our lives, but our mental health can play an influence in bringing us down. Some people may be absolutely amazing but are let down by their mental health. Do we condemn these people and everything they stand for? No. We instead need to help these people and instill hope.

A lot of the issues on "John's Life Space" pertains to certain mental health issues. So I feel we really need to consider and respect peoples' mental health situation. Do NOT let people suffer and feel horrible- instead, let's try to HELP people! You may not know or realize how much people may be hurting. It is important we try to help people feel better and happy. I am trying to do what I can.

Helpful Resources and LGBT+ Resources.

While I haven't gotten much feedback regarding my life issues posts, the most successful aspect of "John's Life Space" is the inclusion of Helpful Resources and LGBT+ Resources. I started my Helpful Resources page on July 21, 2021. I felt the need to include online resources to various issues to help people in different ways. You could find almost anything about online videos or the latest memes. However, what about things that REALLY matter? Like- help regarding abuse, addiction, bullying, relationships, and more? This is where I try to offer some support. I am often contacted regarding resource to help people with whatever life issues they want some resources for. I feel this has been the most successful part of my life issues blog. Though I do love this aspect, I want others to also look at my past blog posts for more insight.

You can say whatever you want about the LGBT+ community. I felt like the LGBT+ community isn't as respected as much because people don't really understand LGBT+. Some people just completely dislike the LGBT+ community and its beliefs altogether. No matter where you stand regarding the LGBT+ community, I included a new "LGBT+ Resources" community to help people better understand LGBT+ as well as get resources. While I do not admit being among the LGBT+ community, I am an LGBT+ ally and am highly supportive and understanding of the LGBT+ community. How does the LGBT+ Resources work? Well, pretend you have special feelings or romantic interests in a same-sex partner. You may want to say your romantic interests are bisexual, pansexual, or even asexual. You may even not feel happy with your current gender and decide to go the transgender route. Maybe you don't believe in gender at all; and you therefore consider yourself gender non-binary, gender non-conforming, genderfluid, or anything like that. Maybe you are the parent of an LGBT child or children, perhaps a child who is gay/lesbian or feels he/she was born in the wrong body and wants to have transgender surgery and therapy. Rather than feel ashamed for being LGBT+, you should get certain resources to take a look at to help answer your LGBT-related concerns. So on June 1, 2022; I released my LGBT+ Resources page to assist EVERYONE- not just the LGBT community.

One other important thing to note is that all material I find and feature are meant to be about factual and useful material. I try not to post anything that is comedic, derogatory, anything that is sexually arousing, and things of that nature. I also try not to post material that leads to suspicious websites or spam. I always review any resources suggested to me. I want people to get the resources they want to use and utilize without the fear of being short-changed. Not every resource suggested gets featured. I may decide a certain resource may not fit the scope of life issues or LGBT+ resources. I may instead add those resources to a different blog of mine or disapprove it altogether. For example, if someone contacts me about suggesting a life issues resource about an online fashion retailer, I may add it to my fashion/beauty blog (StyleSpace, by John B. Marine). I recommend people who suggest a resource tell me what category the resource should fall under so it becomes easier for me to put it in a certain category. I may add a new category if I feel it deserves its own place. Some resources may even be included in more than one category.

Future Plans and Considerations.

I hope to keep posting more topics on "John's Life Space." I want people to feel like they are getting help and guidance when they visit this blog. I don't get any real feedback except for suggested resources. Please don't stop suggesting legitimate and useful resources. I want to help everyone, even including the LGBT+ community. So keep suggesting me resources so I can help other people. Also, don't forget to read my blog posts for more information on certain topics. You may even suggest future topics I can try to help people with. If you are interested in making Guest Posts in my blog, be sure to contact me on that, and I will remind my audience these are guest posts and will offer the proper crediting.

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Swearing

2022-09-07T15:53:00.002-05:00

WARNING: The following topic may not be suitable for all audiences. Due to the subject matter of this topic, viewer discretion is advised. Parents of younger children will need to restrict or limit younger viewers from viewing this material. Otherwise, you are reading this material at your own risk.

As someone who watches a lot of online videos and live streams, I am used to the occasional swearing people make. While I don't make a big deal about swearing, I do often wonder if people feel turned off by such swearing. So for this blog post, I want to discuss swearing. Is it okay to swear? Is there a time and place for swearing? I will share my thoughts through the course of this blog post.

BEFORE I BEGIN...

(1) This blog post is not intended to show my thoughts on people who swear either rarely or often. I am just here to discuss swearing on a journalistic, factual perspective. I am also not here to shame anyone who constantly swears.

(2) Because this is a rather sensitive topic, you are reading about this matter at your own risk. So be ready for some bad language expressed in this post.

Swearing

When I was growing up, saying a *bad word* would get me spanked by my parents. Back in school, students would be shocked if someone out loud bursts a swear word. Saying bad words back when I was growing up in elementary school would get you into some trouble for being a "potty mouth." A lot of video games and computer games today have a handful of bad language that may be used. Of course, there are a lot of songs that have their fair share of foul language. Take it from me- someone who grew up listening to hip-hop. I heard songs and skits where "motherfucker" is said at least five times in one song or skit. Television and movies also have their handful of mild to strong language. To some people, swearing is just words and not meant to hurt anyone. However, such language isn't tolerated by some people and in some audiences. While you can not regulate swearing entirely, there are cases where a slip of the tongue can result in hearing a bad language word unintentionally or accidentally.

While the need to swear is not necessarily a bad thing, where and when you do so matters. Swearing is mostly okay around friends casually communicating. If around children or in some kind of religious setting, swearing is frowned upon. It can be very easy to poison peoples' minds and ears with a well-timed swear session.

Levels of Swearing.

Swearing can come in different levels. To prevent saying certain powerful swear words, some will use other terms to prevent saying *those words." We all are used to a lot of them. For instance, we will use words like "darn" or "dang" to avoid saying "damn." Recent times have seen "bad ass" or "badass" being used a lot. Some people even use "AF" or "A.F." to avoid saying "_____ as fuck." Such as in the case of "feminist AF." Hearing the occasional "F-bomb" happens.

Here are examples of certain swear words that showcase the extent of what swearing can be like:

* MILD SWEARING: damn (except for dams or "Van Dam"), hell, ass (when used offensively), piss
* MODERATE SWEARING: bitch (when used offensively), bastard (when used offensively), ho/hoe/whore (when used offensively)
* STRONG SWEARING: fuck or motherfucker/motherfucking, shit, dick (when used offensively or sexually), pussy (when used offensively or sexually), (almost any derogatory term or expression)

Hearing or seeing such words can bring others to cringe a bit.

More Examples of Swearing.

One time, I saw a boy maybe between the ages of 5-12 wear an athletic T-shirt that said "All Damn Day." There would be no way I would allow my children (if I had any) that young to wear a shirt like that. I even saw someone's car have a sticker on it saying "twins up in this bitch." This is rather unnecessary swearing there, despite the comedic value. One fashion blogger I follow rarely swore, until she started swearing a bit more in her blog posts to vent anger.

When I think of some people who change up their lives as they get older, one such entity is one of my favorite recording artists- Taylor Swift. Taylor Swift started out as a country cutie circa 2008. Rarely did she drop any bad language. Later in her career going from country pop to traditional pop, Taylor would have some songs with a little mild language. Then into her 30s, she began to swear more frequently and often in her songs. Thankfully, Taylor doesn't immaturely or casually swears to others. So someone can go from purely innocent to vastly offensive language-wise throughout one's life.

Swearing can also be a factor in love and relationships. Some may find it discerning when one's partner constantly swears. It may be a turn-off to some people to have a partner who swears often.

Moderators on live streams or online channels often filter out words that seem offensive. Some words get Auto-Modded when they are not meant to be used in a certain sense. So you have to be careful in some chat settings that you don't say anything that can draw the attention of moderators or have some censorship.

I often feel some people liberally swear just to show their community is not G-rated or for a general audience. Someone may also implement some kind of swearing or sexual innuendo to market to a more mature audience. Sometimes, these can be unnecessary and unintentional implementations of mature content. For a lot of Twitch channels and YouTube live streamers, the usual assumption is that one is 13 years or older when viewing certain channels. Some even are 18+ channels or have mature streams. In these environments, swearing can become more frequent.

My Own Swearing Experiences and Thoughts.

I don't make a big deal about swearing because I'm used to it and don't mind it. Though sometimes, I do feel that swearing when you don't need to or don't have to can sometimes be an annoyance. I will only swear when I am completely angry or frustrated about something. For example, I'd swear to myself if my beloved sports team gets scored on. I would also swear if I am having a disgusting day where nothing seems to go right. However, I wouldn't go casually swearing when I am communicating with others on social media or making some videos. It was kind of the way I was raised.

On the same note, I don't refer to my own Black people as (the N-word) as a form of endearment in the sense of, "my (N-word)." I just don't casually curse or feel like I casually curse just to show my material is not meant for a general audience. I feel swearing can only draw some people away or make some people want to cover the ears of younger people. Swearing is only acceptable to me if warranted or for comedic purposes. Just doing it casually and when not needed just seems immature and can be a turn-off.

How about we go with some Final Thoughts on this matter? Next section coming up...

Swearing: Final Thoughts

Eveyone uses swear words for all kinds of situations and for all kinds of purposes. Whether or not you approve or disapprove of this is not the point of this blog post. I simply wanted to discuss how and why we swear and use swear words. I am around lots of people who have no problem swearing up and down, sometimes unnecessarily. I am no hypocrite or anything in preferring people who casually swear more than those who only rarely or moderately swears. My blogs are fairly general audience, but even I had to break a few rules to discuss this topic to you all.

If you swear often, that is fine. If you rarely swear, that is also fine. Swearing should mostly be like consuming alcohol or using tobacco- best in moderation. However, life your life the way you choose to live life. If people disapprove, let them be. Just do you.

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Anxiety Attacks and Panic Attacks

2022-08-27T22:16:00.003-05:00

There will come a time where we reach a breaking point that drives us into a state of madness or a loss of control. When that moment happens, we enter a moment where we psychologically break down and in worse cases, experience body pains and anguish that drive us over the edge. Such attacks can last from a few minutes to even up to a half hour or longer. When faced with these moments of vulnerability and weakness, we are powerless to do anything about it. While I don't have any helpful advice, I at least want to discuss this matter with you all.

Anxiety Attacks and Panic Attacks

Though anxiety attacks and panic attacks seem the same, they are actually two different, yet similar things. Such moments in life can lead us to feeling broken down and weak. How we handle ourselves despite these moments can help determine whether or not we get through these attacks quickly or over time.

An anxiety attack stems from a brief moment that makes someone break down physically and mentally. An anxiety attack can be something triggered inside of us. These attacks can make anyone feel broken down and rendered helpless. People who suffer from anxiety may have a moment where are unable to perform and focus. The height of anxiety can come in the form of an anxiety attack. Certain techniques can help to ease anxiety attacks before they get potentially worse.

A panic attack, however, can be more serious. Panic attacks happen in much the same way as anxiety attacks, but effects such as nausea, shortness of breath, sweating, and more can result from a moment that brings fear. Panic attacks can happen without any trigger or warning. It is almost as if the mind decides when to get someone in fight-or-flight mode.

Either of these moments can make all of us be vulnerable at any given moment. At worst, having these attacks can lead to us being in an unstable condition or even lead us to hurt (or even kill) ourselves or others. This is very much a potentially serious situation that needs to be addressed.

Triggers of Anxiety Attacks and Panic Attacks.

Some people develop these triggers based on what is going on in their lives, certain mindsets people have, pressure to perform, and things of that nature. When there is a moment that brings us to insanity, we often act in ways that bring us down. Two serious triggers can also include not knowing what to think anymore or fear of impending doom. Someone may also have these attacks in the wake of feeling like you let a loved one down. In the wake of the COVID-19/Coronavirus pandemic, such mental issues can also form from all of the restrictions and such from this pandemic.

In these cases, it is important to try to recognize these triggers and try to find a way to restore control in the event of such attacks.

Treatment for Anxiety Attacks and Panic Attacks.

Self-treating anxiety attacks and panic attacks can be difficult. What you can you is practice breathing exercises, eat food or drink water. You may want to pull over if you are operating a vehicle and experience an anxiety attack or a panic attack. If someone of legal age is with you as you operate a vehicle, have that person take over duties. If you can and if you are able to, you may even exercise to try to bring yourself together better.

If panic attacks happen, medicine may be taken to lessen the effects of whatever is causing the panic attack. If you fear you may have panic disorder, you may want to consult with your doctor, as you may be facing serious physical and mental breakdown. Medicine can help to ensure your body and your mind remain intact.

It may also help to consult a psychotherapist for your anxiety or panic issues. See if you can schedule sessions to talk out your issues with a psychotherapist or any other mental health professional.

The most important thing to remember is that you will get through most any anxiety attack or panic attack. It is very unlikely one will die from an anxiety attack or a panic attack.

Let me try to offer Final Thoughts.

Panic Attacks and Anxiety Attacks: Final Thoughts

Life is tough as it is. Having to deal with panic attacks and anxiety attacks is equally tough. We all have our moments where panic or anxiety strikes us. Whether they last for a few minutes or over an hour, they do put an impact on our mental well-being. If you suffer from panic disorder (or even anxiety disorder), you may want to meet with your doctor to possibly get some medication to treat your disorder. The most important thing to remember is that you can't die from these attacks. You will get through anxiety attacks and panic attacks. Just be sure to take it easy and seek help when you can.

When I post topics like this, either they are based on thoughts of mine or on recent experiences in my life. Even if I don't go into details about most personal issues, I do have my fair share of issues. I want to try to help anyone who reads my blog posts. Hopefully I have helped someone through the means of blogging. If you enjoy my work, please Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work and want to support me any way you can. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Minimalism

2022-04-27T10:38:00.002-05:00

Minimalism is about less is more. Minimalism involves downsizing. The idea is to live your best life having as little as possible. Can you live your best life without having a whole lot? This "John's Life Space" post involves minimalism. I will even share my own insights towards developing this mindset. I am not here to convince you to live minimalist, but I am providing insight on minimalism if you are considering living a minimalist lifestyle or want some insight on minimalism.

Minimalism

In most cases, having so little is usually grounds for having sympathy for others. It makes people want to pour into their resources and try to help people whom they feel are struggling in life. However, minimalism is not like that. Minimalism is about having so few resources yet still living a perfectly fine life.

We have grown as a culture to where having a big living space, having a significant other, and establishing a family makes someone a success in society. When someone lives with so less, some people think they are failures and probably wished they would live the lives of what society deems successful. Some people who live a minimalist lifestyle have all they need and do not have to have loads of money and resources to be happy. It is because some people make changes to themselves and their lives to live happily while not having the best of everything. Such people realize what makes them happy, and they don't rely on having a materialistic mindset to be happy.

When someone does not have all kinds of goods that give status, does it mean someone simply is not successful? Absolutely not. I can speak from personal experience. I honestly never felt bad because I wasn't wearing Nike sneakers or have a Starter jacket unlike other school students. I did not feel required to have what everyone else had in order to feel happy. I was okay having knock-off goods. At least I had certain goods. As I look at the idea of minimalism, I would be greatly served having some of the cheapest material as long as it lasted. I didn't care if I wasn't wearing Nike sneakers or have a Starter jacket. At least I had clothes.

NOTE: Now before I go into further detail, I want to advise everyone that living a minimalist lifestyle does NOT mean people are failures. Minimalist people are not those who failed to live the American dream (at least here in the United States of America). I am not suggesting minimalist types need help. I am just here to discuss minimalist culture.

Why Minimalism?

I will give you a lot of thoughts about minimalism to help prove my points on minimalism. Check it...

Someone would want to imagine what the big deal is with minimalism. Well for a lot of people, having the best of everything does not equate to happiness. When you really think about it, a lot of things we are blessed with or have are not exactly REQUIRED to live our best lives. Some things are almost merely non-essential to our survival. We don't care about that often times, but it is true.

Minimalism can pertain to not being flashy or boisterous. Would you rather drive a basic economy car all in stock form, or would you drive an economy car that has flashy graphics and various aesthetic arrangements (such as body kits, spoilers, etc.)? To the minimalist, an economy car is all someone needs. A minimalist is not at all concerned about being under pressure to the better furnishings to compete with other people. A minimalist may also prefer having bland-looking resources rather than flashy look-at-me resources.

As a sometimes fashion/beauty blogger (PLUG: Visit my fashion/beauty blog! Here: StyleSpace, by John B. Marine :) ), I hear of fashionistas who have a capsule wardrobe to express minimalism. This is where fashionable types get rid of clothes they don't really need or like much and instead stick with favorites. Fashionable types still want a decent wardrobe, but they want to do so without having to shop for new clothes all the time. So a minimalist in this regard will stick to a certain set wardrobe.

Believe it or not, long before I considered the layout of my blogs and some of my other social media material, I had minimalism in mind. I feel I can market myself without having a lot of fancy things. I am proud to have online material that are not filled with bloated nonsense. I also believe in minimalism when I do my videos online. I never had the best of the best, yet I made the most of what little I have. A fancy looking blog will get more attention than a bland one, but I always believed in quality over quantity.

Hopefully this section gives you some ideas on how a minimalist may think.

Minimalism Inspiration: Teemaree.

I want to offer a real example to help express the concept of minimalism. Teemaree, once a veteran of various forms of entertainment as well as being a spokeswoman, had achieved loads of success. She was also one of my favorite go-go dancers. She even spearheaded a first-of-its-kind reality show about the go-go dancing lifestyle. One would think someone like Teemaree is head and shoulders above her peers with this much success. Well, Teemaree admits she was mostly trapped and needed guidance. So what she did was a lot of deep thinking and faith. Today, Teemaree is a life coach, author, and creator of "Transform With Teemaree," "Invite God In," and "ALLSWELL Lifestyle." Her life coaching is a mix of offering life advice as well as providing religious insight. Speaking of Teemaree's insight, let me share this with you:

^ Who Is Teemaree?

Teemaree isn't the only example of minimalist lifestyle. She is the best example to me to discuss minimalism that I can provide. I am using Teemaree as an example to help set up discussion minimalism using a real-life example.

Minimalism: How to Start?

Minimalism is not something that can be easily implemented. I do not know all of the nuances of minimalism, but I may help you get started. I will share some of my own minimalist insights and thoughts to help give you some inspiration if you want to take on a minimalist lifestyle. Follow my lead...

Minimalism: What Do You Need?

The first thing to consider about minimalism is to think about what you have and what you need. Especially if you are going to live "off the grid," you have to seriously consider what things are important to you in the moment. You will have to learn to sacrifice some comforts in trying to live the minimalist life you wish to live.

If I lived as a minimalist, I am very involved in technology. So what I would need is powerful WiFi Internet. I want to hold onto my two TVs, my HDTV monitor, my printer, and my Chromebook. I may even want to go from a PC to a decent-spec laptop. If I had the money, I'd invest in an HP laptop that costs around $500 USD (or maybe $600 USD) that has better specifications than my 2014-ish budget PC. A lot of space on my desktop would be gone, and I could use it around the house even if power goes out. As a gamer, I want to hold onto my systems. I don't need a gaming PC when I can do just fine with a simple PC or laptop that can still play a good amount of games while also serving as my personal PC/laptop when not gaming. I would want to cook with a microwave and an air fryer. I would want a place with decent lighting. I feel lighting lightens my mood.

Most important about minimalism is making money. You need to find some sort of revenue stream or grind to stay financially afloat. There isn't much I do to generate income. So in this regard, I would struggle unless I had some proper form of making money.

You also must consider utilities. If you can invest in solar power, it would be cleaner for the environment and possibly even energy efficient. You also need decent plumbing to handle things like taking baths and showers as well as washing dishes. If you plan on getting into farming, you certainly need to consider decent utilities for planting gardens and such.

Minimalism can be a challenge if you have a significant other and/or a family. Be mindful of needs for you as a couple and in maintaining a family when being minimalist. You have to account for taking care of your lover/spouse in addition to your family should you choose to live as a minimalist couple or as a minimalist family.

These are just a number of things to think about when wanting to think minimalist.

Minimalism: Where Would You Live?

Do you prefer living within the big city, living in the suburbs of a major city, or out in the country? Do you even want to live in your current state or country or move elsewhere? You want to be able to live in a place where you can comfortably live your life. The popularity of tiny houses these days make for a unique challenge of trying to live without having to pay high mortgage rates. You would be surprised at how some people maximize their lives living minimalist style. If you do think about the tiny house lifestyle or convert a van or bus into a home, that is something else to consider your minimalist lifestyle in.

I have seen people live in places ranging from tiny homes to vehicles converted into homes. This even includes people who have trailer homes. If I had one such home, I kind of would want a two-story home to possibly enjoy great views and maybe even sit on the balcony outside. Because I am so much of a city person, I feel an affordable housing option within an uptown setting or downtown setting would be the best for me. I wouldn't want to shy too far away from family and friends here in Houston. Look around on various tiny home retailers and builders to think about your minimalist lifestyle.

Minimalism: Sacrifices.

Just like almost anything in life, you have to learn to make sacrifices. A lot of the luxuries you are accustomed to can be given up to live the minimalist lifestyle. Even though air conditioning seems necessary, it is actually a luxury. Living here in Texas, I can't afford to sweat in all of this Texas heat! So I would need a great solution for air conditioning.

If you are the materialistic type, you have to realize some goods you enjoy aren't always goods you NEED. Fashionistas- that means you can do without Louboutin pumps, Michael Kors handbags, Chanel espadrilles, and various other luxury goods.

Most importantly, the biggest move you can make in adopting minimalism is to drop your materialistic lifestyle. Minimalism forces you to think less about owning everything and only focus on essentials. You can live better by understanding the essentials rather than feel like you need material goods to be happy. I will leave this discussion with a little quote:

"You can't have everything. Where would you put it?"

-Steven Wright

I want to present some Final Thoughts on this topic to close out my minimalism discussion. Please look at the next section.

Minimalism: Final Thoughts

Minimalism is about living your best life having only so many resources. Minimalists shouldn't be seen as those who fail in life; instead, minimalists are more concerned with making the most out of live by having the least of resources. Do not think a minimalist has given up on life or should be living a luxurious lifestyle. In fact, a lot of minimalist types have all they need to live a great life. They just do not need status symbols to prove their worth to the world. They also do not need status symbols to be happy with their lives.

A minimalist does not need help; minimalists just choose to live their lives without many of the luxuries many of us consider essential. While minimalists try to live with less, they don't need help or need to get psychological help. If you are a minimalist, you don't need a mansion, expensive cars, fancy gadgets, and the like to live happily. You live on bare essentials. Minimalism allows you to focus on more important things without being bombarded with many [usually unnecessary] things.

If you do choose to live a minimalist life, you need to plan carefully. Think about all of your immediate needs and wants. It is not easy to live a minimalist lifestyle without actually planning ahead. Be prepared to make sacrifices and let go of things you don't think are essential to you. Adjusting from normal life to minimalist life will NOT be an easy transition. However, moving to minimalism or tiny living is possible and doable.

Minimalists have not given up on life or need help; they just are living with as few resources as possible based on their needs. Not everyone is successful with the amount of money they have or the goods they own. They don't need outside help or sympathy for living a simple lifestyle devoid of status symbols. Minimalists just simply make "less is more" work. When you think about it, we do not need too much to live our best lives and to be happy. If we were not so fixated on having certain goods and resources to be happy, life can be much more enjoyable than what many of us make it out to be. Minimalists should be commended for helping a lot of us realize this about life in this regard. So if you are considering going minimalist, good for you! Minimalism is the best way to admire and appreciate what it really takes to live happily and freely.

Extra Resources.

I mentioned Teemaree earlier. If you are interested in learning more about Teemaree in regards to minimalism and minimalistic living, please visit her website at teemaree.com, and (optional) tell her John Marine sent you! :) You may also visit Teemaree's YouTube channel for more advice and insight.

That was really the only resource I can provide. I may open up a section regarding living different lifestyles in my "Helpful Resources" page. I hope you found something useful with this blog post.

That is all for this blog post. If you want to discuss, here is my question for you:

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Making the Conversation: Youth Relationships and Intimacy

2022-04-14T17:41:00.003-05:00

WARNING: The following topic may not be suitable for all audiences. Due to the subject matter of this topic, viewer discretion is advised. Parents of younger children will need to restrict or limit younger viewers from viewing this material. Otherwise, you are reading this material at your own risk.

No matter what age your children are, they will always be your babies, your precious, your... whatever terms of endearment. There will be a time where your little ones won't be so little. They will get into grown-up things. Some things grown-ups get involved in are sex and relationships. Making this discussion regarding both matters is not an easy one to start. It can be tough to try to start such a conversation or discuss these things properly to someone still quite young. So is there anything you can do to properly discuss sex and relationships to youth? I will try to explain in this blog post.

Before I Begin...

This blog post's suggested audience is with parents. I make a lot of references to children and youth, but this post was meant for parents more than children and youth.

About the Label: Making the Conversation

As it is important to generate needed conversations about things, it can be tough to try to properly get conversations going. This label helps to get a basis of conversation going towards any number of issues that need to be discussed.

Making the Conversation: Youth Relationships and Intimacy

The basic response some parents would make is that children and teens are too young to think about sex and relationships, and children should not be thinking about these things while they are still young. However, there will come a time where these things will cross the minds of youth. Youth should be equipped with enough information and advice to see them through something like intimacy and relationships.

School prepares children for life and educates them on various matters. Some things outside of what is taught in school can only properly be taught by parents. Two such matters involve intimacy and relationships. While a parent can talk to children one-to-one regarding some life issues, it is best to hold a discussion speaking on youth's level. A parent has to try to explain things on a child's level while not overwhelming them with thoughts.

Intimacy and relationships are two things that will be fresh in the minds of youth as they grow older, so they shouldn't be overlooked when a young person has thoughts and concerns regarding such matters. A young person may choose to marry someone. If indeed someone wants to get married, that involves getting into relationships. If someone wants to start a family, that means a young person wants to get involved in having sex (or a much safer option- adopting children). Do not put these things aside- address them for when curiosity looms. That is the purpose of my discussion of intimacy and relationships with youth.

Primary Considerations.

Just as with any topic matter, the primary consideration is to be attentive both in questions being asked as well as in trying to answer properly. Intimacy and relationships are not easy matters to discuss; however, they are not completely taboo. Being able to address any sort of concerns in an efficient matter helps to alleviate some of the process of gaining a general understanding.

Discussing Relationships With Youth.

Relationships are always a matter worth discussing even if they don't involve intimacy or romance. Relationships can range from innocent love to deeply involved relationships. Being involved in relationships shouldn't go to the level where it interferes with or mitigates with trying to get a quality education. Again- while relationships of many kinds are a perfectly fine topic to discuss,

If you are a parent who had to deal with deceased lovers or being in and out of relationships, while it is tough to bring up those matters, it is recommended to discuss when relationships go wrong and how to deal with those things when love goes wrong. If you were possibly a player in relationships, be sure to discuss trying to find love without being a player or without trying to get up hopes of a relationship with someone only to crush those dreams. Even tougher to discuss is domestic abuse. Domestic abuse remains a hot-button issue in today's society. Hopefully your children will not be involved with any issues regarding domestic abuse or sexual abuse, but it is okay to discuss these matters in addition to discussing when love goes wrong.

Discussing Intimacy With Youth.

Intimacy regards a number of issues which most youth may not easily grasp right away. Intimacy itself is not a bad thing to discuss, but it does play a role in most relationships. Intimacy can entail matters of libido (sexual desire) and can even delve into pregnancy. As is the case regarding getting intimate with others, there is also the possibility of transmitting STDs (sexually-transmitted diseases). If intimacy is to be practiced, youth must learn about safe sex or even practice abstinence.

If young ones are interested in intimacy, it is best to try to explain intimacy in an understandable and non-destructive manner. Do not allow youth to go on some sex addiction that ultimately scars them for life. Do not even punish youth for even having these thoughts in their mind. This is something that will impact youth for the rest of their lives. So try to be attentive and understanding in discussing intimacy with youth.

Discussing LGBT+ Relationships and Intimacy With Youth.

As a special topic regarding relationships and intimacy, as loaded a topic of relationships and intimacy are relationships and intimacy involving LGBT types. Imagine you are the parents of a boy who wants to be intimate with or have a relationship with a gay male partner or even with a transgender. Maybe you have a daughter interested in a lesbian relationship or wanting to be intimate with a lesbian female partner. You may even have a transgender child or gender non-binary individual who wants to be intimate and have a relationship with whomever. This discussion matter is a bit more volatile because not as many parents are as accepting of LGBT+ relationships or acts. Some parents may even threaten to kick children out of the house for being any denomination of LGBT+.

If you can as a parent, try to be understanding and mindful of your child or children who feel so attracted and loved to any LGBT+ partner. It is important advice to suggest that your child should be able to love whomever they feel most happy and complete with, even if it is a same-sex partner or some sort of heterosexual, bisexual, pansexual, etc. partner. It is then important to try to discuss intimacy and relationships properly keeping LGBT+ matters in mind. As with any discussion of intimacy and/or relationships, be mindful of trying to discuss these matters in a way youth can understand and apply. It is tougher when it involves LGBT+ matters, but it is not impossible.

Now that I started a few pieces of advice towards relationships, I will provide some final thoughts.

Making the Conversation: Youth Relationships and Intimacy - Final Thoughts

While a loaded subject with many different layers to process and unpack, relationships and intimacy are not taboo for youth. Just because this is a loaded topic doesn't mean it is impossible to discuss. It is important to try to discuss relationships and intimacy on an understandable level when youth have their concerns and thoughts in regards to both relationships and intimacy. It is a tougher discussion of relationships and intimacy when the discussion involves LGBT+ relationships and intimacy. At this point, a parent has to take into account LGBT+ acceptance in addition to discussing relationships and intimacy with youth when the matters involve LGBT material.

The discussion involving relationships and intimacy between parents and children is a tough but necessary topic to discuss. Rather than put the issues aside when youth has their concerns over these issues, discuss relationships and intimacy with youth to help prepare them for life. Make sure to discuss these matters in a way that youth can understand. Do not try to overwhelm them with thoughts that may scare youth. Pace the conversation easily and properly to make the discussion process easy. When there is a general understanding overall, both children and parents will win and benefit.

Enough conversation- MAKE THE DISCUSSION when the time arises.

I hope you were able to grasp the general concept here. Do your best to discuss relationships and intimacy with youth in an understandable, relatable level. I wish you well in your efforts. If you enjoy my work, please Subscribe/Follow my blog(s) in any capacity if you love my work and want to support me any way you can. Share my blog post(s) with others if you enjoy my work. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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I Hate Your Lover!

2022-03-30T21:07:00.002-05:00

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Everyone is free to be in a relationship with almost any total stranger they love. However, there will be people who hate your choice of partner for whatever reason. They may be hated because of a lover's character. They could be hated because that lover may potentially be using someone. They could be hated because they go against what some people hate (for example, politics, religion, sexual orientation, etc.). Regardless, while you and your lover may be totally happy, there may always be someone who disapproves of your relationship. So how do you deal with these times? That is the point of this blog post on "John's Life Space."

I Hate Your Lover!

NOTE: I was going to use an image to identify this post, but because there were too many immature ones linked to this topic, I choose to go without an image for this post. Now let's begin.

If you watch a lot of daytime talk shows, the notion of hating someone's lover is a common topic. For example, there may be one person's mother who disapproves of a relationship her son or daughter has with someone else. However strong the hatred is between someone else is can be a deterrent to further developing and nurturing a relationship with a loved one.

Who Hates Others' Lovers?

Almost anybody. Usually, it may be a member of your family who disapproves of you falling in love with a certain individual. Some of the reasons why such hate exists can be any number of reasons. Here are a few examples of why some people would hate certain people an individual is is in love with in the next section:

Why Hate Others' Lovers?

• Hate the personality of one's lover. In this case, someone may have a personality that someone else may disapprove of. For example, you know how some say that "good girls love bad boys." Well, imagine if that "bad boy" is a serial cheater or a player, yet the female who loves him doesn't care about that. This is not going to be an issue unless someone discovers this male cheating on his girlfriend.

• Hate the lover outside of ethnicity, nationality, or culture. This mostly pertains to people thinking a certain person loves someone outside of one's culture and beliefs. An example of this would be a Black person who loves someone of a Latin ethnicity. It is as if to say someone should only date with and love people within his/her own ethnicity or culture. The person who disapproves of an interracial relationship would feel like he/she is damaging a certain ethnicity by dating outside of one's ethnicity.

Another example is if one person of Christian religion dates someone of Islamic religion. A clash of religious beliefs can be a big deterrent in keeping some loving bonds going. Especially if someone is opposed to a different religion, it can be fuel for someone to hate someone who thinks differently among religious beliefs.

• Hate the lover's sexual orientation. Times today are more accepting of LGBT+ individuals than in past times. Even still, there are people who can't stand anyone who is gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, or the like. Some people are still stuck in the past in dealing with LGBT types with past beliefs. As we've seen, a lot more people are accepting of LGBT individuals. So let's say a male is madly in love with his boyfriend, a female loves her girlfriend, or perhaps a male becomes romantically involved with a transgender lover. Some people who simply dislike or outright hate anyone LGBT will likely cringe at the sight of someone kissing or being intimate with anyone LGBT.

In the case of someone who is romantically attached to an LGBT partner and living with family members, there is a possibility that this person may get kicked out of the house or disowned because of his/her/their relationship with an LGBT individual. The parent or family member may possibly say something along the lines of "I didn't raise you to be gay." Some may even go off into a tangent saying that one will "go to Hell" for loving a LGBT partner.

Hate for Lovers: Crisis Situations.

However, if there are reasons to legitimately dislike lovers, it is in crisis situations, such as the ones mentioned in this section:

• Hate for a lover because of being against one's will, and hate because of a controlling lover. A real reason someone can hate one's lover is if someone could be in love with someone because of being held against his/her/their own will. As if to say the individual has no control over being in a controlling relationship. These are situations such as rape and sex trafficking. Half the time, certain individuals locked into such relationships are part of relationships one does not want to be a part of. This is definitely a time to bring attention to law enforcement. In these cases, he/she/they did not choose to be in such a relationship.

• Hate for a lover for controlling/abusive behavior. Also, another reason to dislike one's lover is if that lover is controlling and abusive. If you are the parent or trusted friend of someone in an abusive relationship, you certainly have reason to dislike a lover he/she/they is/are with. These are times of crisis. If the situation looms worse, you may need to get law enforcement involved or various hotlines to call.

• Hate for someone in a May-December relationship. If there is a significant age difference between romantic partners (usually 11 or more years age difference), this is another reason lovers can be hated. Some May-December relationships may not be shady at all, so this is mostly on a case-by-case basis.

These may be the best reasons and most acceptable reasons why someone can disapprove of a certain lover.

No matter what the case, the hate people may have for certain lovers is substantiated. People have their reasons for expressing their hate for certain peoples' lovers. Next section offers some thoughts in regards to hating other lovers.

I Hate Your Lover! - Final Thoughts

No matter what reason(s) someone may have for hating certain romantic partners, people will have any reason why someone should not fall in love with certain people. Even if you disapprove of certain lovers, the most important thing to remember is unless a person chose to be with a certain individual, being in love with someone who makes one happy is that person's business; not yours. The only time concern should be raised about who one loves romantically is in cases of domestic abuse or potential crisis. People have always been told and taught to love whomever makes him/her/them happy. We have interracial and intercultural relationships because people simply want whomever they feel most in love with and complete with.

When it comes to LGBT relationships, it is the same story. Even if a person has never engaged in a same-sex relationship, even LGBT relationships suffer when some outside influence hates someone dating an LGBT partner. It is the same situation in dealing with the relationship choices a certain individual has made. Only that person can dictate.

If there is one situation almost anyone can agree on to dislike someone, it is because of a controlling lover. Some controlling lovers can be despicable to the extent of romantic involvement with individuals against their will. These reasons can include rape and sex trafficking. For these situations, one may potentially need to get law enforcement involved to save others from danger from a controlling and abusive lover.

No matter what romantic decision(s) one makes or who one choose to love, one thing to remember is... unless there is any potential danger in a relationship, allow people to get into whatever relationship they choose to be in. Respect one's romantic decisions and give a couple their space even if you don't believe in the beliefs of one's lover. If you can, try to coexist with others to limit any would-be hatred. Love works when all involved parties come together regardless of differences. Without some sort of coherence, love can not exist.

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