Orlando, FL

Speaker: Jud Wilhite

Topic: Staying Grounded

Text: 2 Corinthians 5:11-15

Date: April 24, 2012

• Ministry is messy because sin is messy.
• If no one has accused you of doing anything crazy lately, maybe it’s because you’re not doing anything significant for God.
• Don’t make your crazy mandatory. And, don’t make someone else’s crazy your crazy. Be crazy for God in the way that he has called you.

3. Be compelled by Christ’s Love (5:14-15)

• “You’re responsibility before God is not a spectacular ministry. It’s a faithful and sincere heart, grounded in what God has called you to do.”
• When you get to the end of life, all that matters is (1) your relationship with God, (2) your faithfulness to his calling, and (3) your faithfulness to the people He has placed in your life.
• You have to be content and joyful with 4 or God will never allow you to lead 4,000.
• We must throw away the old/traditional scorecard, and e,brace the scorecard that God has for us.

Orlando, FL

Speaker: Wayne Cordiero

Topic: God’s Sifting

Text: Luke 22:33-34

Date: April 24, 2012

• When the Holy Spirit corrects you in private, repent in private.
• If you do not repent in private, you will one day be corrected in public.
• One of the devil’s crafty tactics is not bringing about consequences, but withholding them. He withholds his opportunity to pounce so that it is eventually much worse (Ecc 8:11). He knows you will keep sinning. He’s setting you up. Don’t let it happen!
• God put mentors in th Bible for us in the form of the biblical characters. Every problem you will ever face, someone in the Bible experienced it before you (Heb 11:4).

• “Suffering will change you, but not necessarily for the better. You have to choose that.” (1 Peter 4:19)

3. Learn to lead yourself to Christ.

• When you get tired, sick and discouraged, you must learn to lead yourself back to the cross where you started.
• If you made all of your life decisions when you’re sick, tired, and mad, what kind of life do you think you’d have? A bad one.

Orlando, Fl

Speakers: Shawn & Trishia Lovejoy

Topic: Marriage & Ministry

Date: April 25, 2012

• Church planters are known for fighting for the Gospel. We need to fight for our families!
• We must fight for date night and family night.
• Sometimes we must fight against religious/churchy people.

2. Have a last 10% family

• We typically only share 90% of how we think or feel. We keep back the last 10%.
• Be honest with each other.

3. There is only one enemy in your family.

• The enemy is not: your spouse, your family, or your church.
• The enemy is the evil one (John 10:10)

4. The family trully is a partnership.

• Date nights are your responsibility.
• Family days are your responsibility.
• Family items (meals, allowances, prepping for the day, etc)
• You are partners in marriage and ministry.
• The stronger your partnership is at home, the stronger your ministry expression will be.

• The reason that our church is a textbook “simple church” is not just because we think it’s the best model for building a church but because we believe that it’s the best model for protecting our marriages and families.
• Many of you are not tempted by moral failures, but you are tempted to put ministry over your marriage.

Orlando, FL

Text: 1 Timothy 3:15

Date: April 26, 2012

About Marriage

1. This is constantly a process.

• Be careful of weighting your whole life condition on just the past three days of family and ministry.
• Principle of 3s: Check the last 3 days, 3 weeks, and 3 months.
• If you’re not careful, the church will become a mountain in the middle of your house, and everything will revolve around it.
• Think of the ministry as a marathon, not a sprint.

2. Take care of yourself

• Most church planters gain 20-30lbs in the first year. The stress pushes them to over eating, lack of sleep, caffeine pills, etc.
• You must take a Sabbath (whatever is restful for you).
• You must stay healthy (work out and eat right).
• Don’t believe the lie that your stress level and busyness equals importance and significance in ministry.
• There is humility in understanding that you have limits, and you are living in tandem with God to work within these.

3. Take care of each other.

• Date Night: You must figure out how to continue dating each other. Doesn’t have to be dinner, late nights, or expensive. It can be a simple lunch.
• Weekly Meeting: Talk about family plans, matters, and schedules.
• Don’t treat each other like a problem to solve. Instead, treat each other like a mystery to discover.

About Family

• Daddy and Mommy have a job, but it’s not that much different than God’s calling
• Don’t talk about church junk around your kids. Talk about the wins, but not the losses.
• When you blow it, apologize and repent to your kids about it. Always, explain to them upcoming scheduling items that impact them.

2. Value the uniqueness of your kids.

• Every child will have a different response to your role in ministry. Let them develop in that process.
• You don’t parent your children. You parent each child. Differently (Proverbe 22).

3. Set boundaries to protect your family.

• How many nights per week will you be out?
• Is your family the mission? Or, will you leave your family aside, for the mission? What’s the important mission?
• Your house: what are the boundaries for your home? You must be hospitable (1 Timothy 3). Find a way to make it work in a way that your family can accept.

• Don’t make a false dichotomy between your church and your family. They are connected, but not insuperable. Your family is part of the church.
• To wives: Be your husbands biggest fan and his gentlest critic.
• People will feign allegiance to your mission, but what they really want is a personal counsellor and friend. But, you just can’t manage that many friends or needy people.
• If you do not have good boundaries, people will suck the life out of you.
• Introverts in the Church by Adam Mchugh. Quiet: the Power of Introverts… by Susan Cain
• Do the best you can to have friends outside of your church planting circle.

Orlando, FL

Speakers: Brian & Amy Bloye

Topic: Common Threads of Pastoral Moral Failures

Text: 2 Corinthians 11:3

• There is always someone close that they get involved with (it’s not a stranger).
• There is always deceptions.
• There is always secrecy.
• There is always a lack of connection between spouses (They became business partners).

Who is suseptible to moral failures?

How can we prevent moral failure?

Notes & Quotes

• You must intentionally prioritize your marriage over your ministry
• Book Recommendation: When Godly People to Ungodly Things by Beth Moore
• God did not call us to plant churches so that we can be worshipped.
• If I am not pointing people toward Jesus, chances are I am pointing people toward me.
• Many people are deceived into thinking that God is simply giving them a pass on their poor moral choices. If that’s you, you are being set up!
• If you are struggling with unconfessed sexual sin, please do not plant a church!

Orlando, FL

Speaker: Larry Osborne

Topic: Contagious Church

Date: April 25, 2012

• In th Christian world, we often use the same words, but a different dictionary.
• At North Coast Church, we don’t do any marketing or advertising.
• At North Coast Church, we’ve never done a special outreach or service.
• At North Coast Church, we are service and small groups (sermon-based).
• At North Coast Church, I’ve never asked people to bring their friends. If you have to ask people to bring their friends, you’re not doing something right. If you do the right things, people will tell people by world-of-mouth, without request.

Orlando, FL

Speaker: Larry Osborne

Topic: Discipleship

Date: April 25, 2012

• Matthew 27:57-61, Mark 15, Luke 23:50-54, John 19:38-40
• He was rich.
• He became a disciple (past tense).
• He fulfills Isaiah 53:9.
• He used his own tomb.
• He’s one of 71 key leaders in the nation. (And he’s even prominent among them).
• Good and upright man.
• He had not consented to the decision to crucify Jesus. (But, why didn’t he do much to stop it?)
• He was a discipleship of Jesus, but secretly…because he feared the Jewish leaders. (Isn’t that tough for us to handle? Isn’t a secret disciple supposed to be an oxymoron?)
• Nicodemus is also a secret disciple.

Application of This Discipleship Profile

1. We’re never as strong as we think.
2. We’ll be judged by the way we judge others.
3. Our job is to encourage(1)  the weak, (2) the struggling, (3) the back of the line, and (4) the not-yet-ready.

• Every person will relate to God differently.
• And, our discipleship process needs to honor that.
• What works for you may not work for everyone.

4. Whenever spiritual tools become spiritual rules they produce pride rather than disciples.

• People were men and women of God before Guttenberg invented the printing press.
• Not everyone is a reader, eespecially men.
• We can’t look down on people who use different tools than us.
• We should offer as many tools, paths and venues as possible.

5. Knowledge, self-discipline, and personal sacrifice do not equal godliness.

• You can be A+ in these and still be messed up.
• Be careful of pride.

6. When we use the Bible as a mirror, we become more like Jesus. When we use it like binoculars, we become pharisaical.

• Blind spots are not always sin spots.
• The High Place Principle (1Kings 3) – God looks at Solomon and says, “I love your heart. You’re going to

7. We are called to fulfill our calling, not our potential.

• Disciple people to live out their calling, not their potential.
• Sometimes, we must live beneath our potential because of our family, marriage, etc.
• “The day I got married, I changed my ministry potential.” Paul explains that a married life alters your potential (1 Cor 7).

8. If my definition of spirituality is out of reach for the regular guy, it’s out of line with Jesus.

• It’s a both/and. We need discipleship and leadership development. Let’s not cross the verses about the two, making leadership verses about discipleship.

• We’ve been raising the bar higher and higher.
• We’re confusing discipleship and leadership.
• Even Jesus’ disciples don’t consistently live up to our modern discipleship standards.
• If your discipleship standard is higher than Jesus’, then you’re an accidental Pharisee.
• We act like pride is an occupational hazard to discipleship. We act like it’s excusable for us to look down on others. But, pride is number one on God’s “I hate” list.

The truth is that this same sort of thing is true in the lives of people as well. In life, we stand side-by-side with our friends, family, and co-workers, and here’s the deal, when one of our “neighbors” has a life that’s demolished, by whatever means, we too are impacted. We are not immune to the collateral damage. As the saying goes, “No man is an island.” Our lives are intertwined with the lives of those around us, and when one of us hurts, we hurt too.

Challenge