Judy Ringer's Ki Moments Blog

Defusing Anger: Using Non-Verbal Communication Constructively

Tue, 21 Feb 2012 02:00:00 -0800

In a recent workshop with a highly-respected engineering firm, the HR director asked if I had any suggestions about defusing employees who come to her “hot under the collar.” This is what I suggested…

Awareness Training: I Notice, and I Take Delight

Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:00:00 -0800

Until you notice you’ve been hooked, you can’t do anything about it. You will unconsciously act out the emotion the same way each time because you aren’t there. But! When you can see yourself, even after the fact …. Ah! Everything is different. Because now you have awareness.

FREE WON'T: 5 Steps From Impulsive to Intelligent Behavior

Tue, 24 Jan 2012 02:00:00 -0800

When I choose a new emotional response and repeat it often enough — no, I won’t scream, I’ll breathe and center instead — I form a new habit. I move from impulsive to intelligent behavior.

No Spare Parts: Finding Your Purpose

Tue, 10 Jan 2012 03:00:00 -0800

When I begin something new—like a new project, a new creation, or a new year—I think about these things. What am I doing here? Why am I doing it? What impulse drives me forward? How will I find my way when (inevitably) I get lost, lose energy, or run up against a worthy obstacle?

The Assertiveness Dilemma in Health Care: Advice for Nurses and Nurse Leaders

Tue, 27 Dec 2011 06:00:00 -0800

Not long ago, as a staff nurse in a direct care facility, I was faced with an unsafe work situation.

The Gift of Christmas Presence

Tue, 13 Dec 2011 04:00:00 -0800

In the coming weeks, as you seek to find the perfect gifts for those you love, consider that what they might really want from you are not presents, but Presence—the true gift of Christmas.

How to Confront with Skill and Confidence: 7 Tips

Tue, 29 Nov 2011 08:00:00 -0800

If you’re contemplating confronting a coworker, friend, family member, or even someone you don’t know very well, this 7-step checklist will help you address the issue respectfully and take care of yourself in the bargain.

Resolving Conflict on Turkey Day: 5 Shortcuts to Peace at Thanksgiving

Tue, 15 Nov 2011 08:00:00 -0800

You sit down to Thanksgiving dinner with the best of intentions. You want to savor the stuffing and delight in the pumpkin pie. You know you have a long list of blessings to count. But then it happens . . . your mom treats you like a child, your uncle insults your political beliefs, and your brother, whom you haven’t seen in months, asks if you’ve put on a few pounds.

Many Lessons: Swimming, Aikido, and Life

Tue, 01 Nov 2011 08:00:00 -0700

I am given many dance partners in life. Whether the dance is easy or difficult is influenced at least in part by me.

What If They Don't Want to Resolve the Conflict?

Tue, 18 Oct 2011 09:00:00 -0700

I received a hopeful inquiry from a visitor to my Website recently.