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A WISE MAN IS A MAN WHO KNOWS HE IS A FOOL

2021-08-15T16:51:00.000+05:00

Introduction:

In this world of ours, most men are fools. The fools in human society may be divided under two heads;

1: firstly, those who are really ignorant but always think that they know much.

2: Secondly, those who know much and yet think that they know little.

Inspired fools versus Reality philosophers in disguise:

The first group of fools may be described as a set of inspired fools while the second group of fools are, in reality philosophers in disguise. The fools of the first type are numerous. We often see on the political platform demagogues who play upon the feelings of the mob and mislead men. They think that they understand the deeper political problems of the country in their international context. But the case is just the reverse. They freely make use of cheap rhetoric and the other ordinary arts of capturing the mob mind.

In recent times, there has been no doubt a great industrial development in the country. But it is a painful fact that most of the industries are not run on strictly scientific lines: for instance, in some of the biggest galvanized iron industries, the scrapings of iron-sheets are thrown away as waste material. The managers of those concerns do not know how to apply the latest advanced methods of science to the industry.

“They are inspired fools who think that they know much but, in reality,

know little and are fooled to the top of their bent."

Self-deception is the greatest of deceptions

Modern psychology the psychology of Freud-teaches that in the unconscious life of man where various forces which control and guide his waking life; these secret forces of the unconscious mislead and deceive man in the different spheres of life. A man who says that he does not like flattery often really likes it as Julius Caesar did in Shakespeare's play Julius Caesar.

There are many people who having saved some money at the end of their career, desire to invest it in business with a view to growing rich soon. In reality, they do not know the secret of business and, in consequence, lose their money and meet with disappointment. Lastly, it is a commonplace occurrence that many students in the several Universities of Pakistan take up subjects for which they have no aptitude and meet with failure at the Examinations.

A wise man always subjects himself to self-examination:

Every man in this world has strength as well as weakness. Therefore, everyone should practice self-criticism in a mood of humility and find out his limitations as well as capabilities. Humility is the condition of wisdom. It is said about Newton, the greatest mathematician of England, that, in spite of his deep and vast knowledge of Science, he used to knowledge. I am just picking pebbles on the shore of the sea.

Stephen Lea-cock, the well-known political economist of Canada:

In his Model Memoirs, speaks of an eminent Professor, who had worked for fourteen years on the subject of Machiavelli, the great political thinker of Italy. When the Professor Published his book on Machiavelli, the book was declared by competent critics as immature and full of wrong judgment. Now the Professor who was convinced of the justice of the review was an example of wisdom and humility.

Difference between knowledge and wisdom:

The difference between knowledge and wisdom is always sharp and clear, Knowledge always makes one proud; it makes one forget one's limitations. Wisdom, however, is always humble. In Memorial, Tennyson draws a fine distinction between knowledge and wisdom, he describes knowledge as "earthly" and wisdom as "heavenly"

For she is earthly of the mind,

and wisdom heavenly of the soul.

Wisdom is in fact, the flowering of the spirit:

If too much reading, as Solomon said, is weariness of the flesh, excessive knowledge is a tyranny of the mind. Wisdom is in fact, the flowering of the spirit. A wise man is he who is ever conscious of the limitations of the mind and walks cautiously on the pathway to Reality. The English poet, Cowper rightly remarks:

“Knowledge is proud that he has learned so much:

Wisdom is humble that he knows no more.”

OPTIMISM

2021-08-09T15:55:00.002+05:00

Who are Optimists?

There are in the world two types of men who have two distinct attitudes towards life. Some men always look to the bright side of life they are full of hope and are not easily cowed by the disappointment and failures in life. They are the optimists.

Who are Pessimists?

There are others who always look to the seamy side of life; they are full of disgust with life, they would put wrong constructions on every little incident of life and read into it the curse of God. They are the pessimists.

An optimist is sometimes defined as one who believes that this nation’s optimism is the dominant note world is the best of all possible worlds, while a pessimist is described as one who believes that this world is the worst of all possible worlds.

In the history, nation’s optimism is the dominant note:

In every age and in every land, there have been optimists as well as pessimists; in every literature, these two view on life have developed and expressed themselves in different accents. But if we read aright the history of the world, we find that in some nation’s optimism is the dominant note, while others develop a pessimistic bias.

Message of Optimism by Two great poets of this sub-continent:

Two great poets of this sub-continent, namely, Allama Iqbal and Tagore give us a message of hope and optimism, and announce in poetical accents their new creed of optimism.

Tagore’s saying:

"Salvation lies in the enjoyment of life, not in its renunciation,"

Says Tagore in one of his poems.

Tagore, it is said, has been deeply influenced by the idealism of the Upanishads and the optimism of Robert Ernest Hume.

Iqbal’s poem:

Iqbal sings in one of his famous poems.

Life shines forth in the will to conquer

Let your Heaven Within be created from this Earth

For life is Action.

Iqbal, it has been pointed out, has been profoundly influenced by the philosophy of the great German poet philosopher Goethe.

I always triumphs over pessimism and cynicism:

The dominant note of European poetry and philosophy is that of optimism: I always triumphs over pessimism and cynicism. The famous German philosopher, Leibnitz was the first to express in philosophical terms the optimistic view of life, and Schopenhauer was the first German Philosopher in the West to build his philosophy on pessimism.

A book entitled 'Pessimism’

In 1877, James fully wrote a book entitled 'Pessimism’ in which he discussed optimism and pessimism, in their philosophical bearings. He concludes the inquiry with the remark that optimism and pessimism are deep-rooted tendencies of the human mind and that both are needed for social uplift, the former pointing to an ideal and the latter critically examining the means to that end.

Types of optimism

In our view, optimism is of two kinds.

1: First, there is the case, self-complacent variety of optimism which always foolishly believes that something good will finally come out of evil. Those who hold this kind of optimistic view on life often say that whatever God does he does for the best.

2: Secondly, there is the reasoned type of optimism, founded on discretion and wisdom. Careful consideration of facts and balance! Conclusions reached in the end.

The second type of optimism characterizes a wise man's attitude towards life.

At the conclusion of the First World War in 1918, when

the League of Nations was set up, people became optimistic about the future of the world; they thought

that eternal peace would dawn. With the declaration of the Second World War in 1939, people

relapsed into pessimism and lost faith in the League of Nations Again, with the setting up of the United

Nations Organization, the nations of the world, great and small, are in the full tide of faith and hope and

optimism.

Optimism, alternates with pessimism:

As in international affairs so in private life, optimism, alternates with pessimism hopes with fears, joys with sorrows. Life is, in fact, a long struggle, dark and difficult is the way. The crown of success is at the journey's end.

Why is Optimism important?

Optimism and pessimism are, indeed relative terms; One cannot exist without something of the other. The sufferings of misfortune drive the weaker minds into pessimism; and the pessimist vote’s life a failure. But the stronger folk in the world are in the majority. They look facts in the face, weigh them in the balance and at long last develop the reasoned optimism which is to them a source of never-failing strength and inspiration. Suicide is the last refuge of a pessimist; the ideal of making life and, if possible, best is the optimist's constant urge as well as aspiration.

As Clough sings.

In front, the Sun climbs slow, how slowly,

But westward, look, the land is bright.

THERE IS SOME GOOD IN EVERYTHING

2021-08-02T17:48:00.002+05:00

Men have always been interested in the world around

them. It is their home, their setting, their environment,

whatever we like to call it. We see in the world of

objects, sights and sound, many things that are

pleasant and agreeable we feel satisfied to that, but

many things that we think to be evil may not actually

that harmful to that extent we might think of. This is

something related to human psychology,

The thing we feel good from, always consider good,

And the thing we feel bad from, considered always bad.

Good and Evil are different degrees of the same thing:

Ancient philosophers have preached that everything has some purpose of good, although we

may not be able to see clearly. A few years ago, the farmers in an English country thought[

that crows were very destructive birds. They saw the crows among the crops of young corn

and in the yellow fields of harvest time. It was decided that the crows were stealing or

destroying the grain, and a campaign was started to destroy them. Thousands were shot.

Next year, the farmers got a very poor harvest of grain and fruit, because there was a great

increase in the number of wire worms and various destructive insects. These were as a rule

killed by the crows, and formed a main part of the crows, food. So the crows were the

farmer's friends, and not his enemies.

Is any man or woman wholly bad?

As a rule. Shakespeare has shown that even his evil characters have a spark of virtue in

them. Attila, the Hun, slew thousands, but was very fond of a small bird which he kept

in a cage.

Word worth was the most spiritual of poets but Wordsworth committed great sin. An old

jingle of rhyme said:

There's so much ill in the best of us,

And so much good in the worst of us.

That it ill becomes any one of us.

To speak ill of the rest of us.

A bad man is one who has more badness and goodness, and a good man, unless he be a saint,

has some human frailty. In Shakespeare, Iago is the only wholly bad man, and he does not

quite satisfy us. At any rate, he had boldness and courage.

The doctrine of a universal God:

The ancients preached the doctrine of a universal God, a spirit pervading all things.

Wordsworth too found that God was in all objects of nature, in all the things of the material

world. This is what we call pantheism, the theory that God is universal and in everything.

But if God is in anything, how can that thing be called bad?

One modern writer has argued that there is also a universal spirit of evil, and that in some

men and some places, this spirit, rather than God, is in possession. If that is so, we should

see that our hearts are thrown open to God, for God is Good.

Example is better than precept, an English essay, proverb explanation

2021-07-08T18:03:00.002+05:00

In every sphere, “example is better than precept”. That is, it is far more effective to show a learner how to do something by doing it before him correctly oneself, that merely to tell him what to do.

Learning Drill:

This is how the drill-sergeant teaches raw recruits their military drill. He first goes through the various movements himself before them, sloping arms, presenting arms, trailing arms, fixing bayonets, and so on. His pupils watch his movements, and then try to copy them.

Technical Education:

So in crafts, technical education is not picked up from books. The learner must go into the carpenter’s shop, the smithy, the engineer’s work room or the mill and watch and copy trained workmen as they actually do their tasks before him.

Importance of Moral Sphere:

But it is in the moral sphere that example is so much more effective than precept, both for good and evil. Take the training of their children by their parents. Children are very observant and are keen critics. They notice very quickly whether their father does himself what he teaches them. He teaches them it is wrong to tell lies, for example: but if he himself is untruthful, his teaching will have, but a very little effect.

Training of Children:

Children are great mimics they always try to copy their parents. If the parents are really honest, truthful, kind and unselfish, their kids will do the same as they have been seen to their parents. But on the contrary if they find their parents as unfaithful, dishonest, selfish and harsh, they undoubtedly imitate them. To set children a good example is far more important than teaching them any number of fine moral maxims, so as a bad example is far more harm than any amount of sound teaching will do them good.

Religious Teaching:

Any man who sets himself up as a moral teacher must see to it that ha does not undo all the good that his teaching might effect, by the bad example. He must practice, what he preaches, or his preaching will do more harm than good. As our Holy Prophet (PBUH) warned the Muslims to go astray from the true path. He himself set the example, and said “follow me”. So the moral teacher must follow the example of “Goldsmith Village Preacher”.

“He tried each rat, reproved each dull delay,

Allured to brighter worlds, and led the way.”

The example of real goodness set before men by a really good man will do more for morality than hundreds of eloquent sermons or tons of moral advice.

The evil of idleness Or Dangers of idleness,English essay

2021-07-02T17:36:00.004+05:00

Of all the evils that a man suffers from, idleness is the greatest. The opportunity for getting work uncongenial atmosphere are altogether different thing but under normal circumstances work must be done. It is a natural law, even animals and plants are being involved in continuous activity. Work means life, and absence of work or activity means death, decay and degeneration. It is, thus not natural and healthy that men should be idle. Idleness means lack of desire to do work or to be irregular in the work undertaken. Waste of time and energy is harmful to be happiness and prosperity of the individual. One may be interested in sports and games, gossiping or sightseeing but none of these should be such as overwhelm a man’s tendency and desire to work. Idleness of the mind and the body leads men to evils, degeneration and demoralization.

One of the main evils of idleness is that it spoils the health and happiness of man. A body which remains useless start decaying. Likewise a man who does now physical labor rots and allows his body to become unhealthy and weak. An idle man will hate doing work and will be inactive and inefficient. He can’t make good progress and his happiness and the happiness of those who depend on him will be affected. If the bread-winner of the family is an idle man and does not take interest in this work, all chances of promotion and progress are finish and his wife and children become unhappy and miserable. The health of the children is all neglected. Men who are idle in some case it becomes vicious. It is often said that,

An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.

The saying is most true, for an idle mind is not occupied and harbors evil and destructive ideas. A man may start doing ad things which may harm others or to break monotony of his own existence he may become addicted to drugs and narcotics. one finds examples of such ruined men in the form of thieves , first the man feels unhappy, then for relieving the dullness of life and inactivity he want to do things to recreate himself and is always led on make him cheat and robe people and in the end he will catch and punished . Another evil of idleness is greater than all these, some unfortunate talented people ruin their lives by being idle while men who own of lesser intelligence but are persevering and hardworking will be more successful, happy and prosperous. It is often said that in the scheme of things talent is but one percent inspiration and ninety nine percent perspiration. Even intelligence becomes a waste if the possessor of it is not industrious and hardworking.

If the prosperity and happiness of the individual and the welfare of the society and the state have to look after then we must discourage idleness at all costs and by all means. Proper division of work and recreation be observed but no quarter or encouragement should be given to either idleness or idlers.

Boost Your Self Confidence, Build Your Confidence

2021-06-25T17:18:00.000+05:00

you confidence isn't walking into a room thinking that you're better than anyone it's walking in knowing that you don't have to compare yourself to anyone, comparing yourself to another person, that isn't even in your system there's no thought of comparison there is no competition with any other human. You are not above anyone, you are not below anyone that's

your Confidence.

How to gain self-confidence?

When you can get to the place in your life where comparison is dead? Where you are good enough not to others but to yourself, that is confidence and you can be good enough right now, because you are good enough. Right now you might just need to change your mindset.

Confidence can be developed in many ways

You can start with your physiology, your posture. If you try to find out that, what a confident person looked like? You be able to discover that they look strong sure of themselves, how are they standing? They’re standing tall? How are their shoulders? They are back upright. They make eye contact their head is up not down.

Tips of self-confidence

Now a shy or introverted person might say, well that's all good for outgoing people but I will never be confident. Anyone can develop confidence somebody has to work on it harder than others because they've conditioned themselves into a lack of confidence for much of their life.

But anyone can develop confidence even the majority of sad people have moments where they aren't shy like around people, they trust maybe family, friends or their partner moments where they can be themselves. So the shyness is selective which means you can make confidence permanent if you consciously decide to be the person and do the things you do not just around those you trust the most. But all the time being confident doesn't mean you are loud, it isn't about being the one that has to be noticed.

It’s the opposite it's knowing you're great without having to be seen, it's the silent winner, and it’s the humble champion. If you lack confidence you can change, if you lack anything you can change, you can be anything in life including radical personality change. If you are committed to finding the answers, unlock the greatest version of yourself, your true nature of confidence of pure positive energy, unlock your authentic power, from today.

Self-Discipline, Own your mind

2020-09-25T18:14:00.001+05:00

whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are, just whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of a good report, if there be any virtue, if there be any praise think on these things don't let the bad eat up the good think.

On these good things you cannot win the war against the world, if you can't win the war against your own mind, the marines have a saying everybody wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die and that's just real at the center of bringing any dream into fruition is self-discipline.

This is not something as simple as food and eating, is not about your body, as much as it is about your mind. Actually it's getting command of your mind, to be able to choose actions that are in your own best interest.

Every day we are choosing that's not in our own best interest, so if the world is attacking you and the world wants to fight you and the world’s trying to hold you down, so you won't kick yourself in the balls, you are going to stop yourself from getting what you dream.

Self-discipline is the center of all material success is by recognizing and it all depends on how you handle the good times, the way you handle your good years will determine. if you survive the bad news when the bad times come, you will become cynical, you will become critical you will become depressed, discouraged, you'll become negative, so that we will think right especially in the bad days because if we think right, we will do right, if we think right, we will act right.
one man said we need a checkup from our neck up, I like that if you don't get a checkup from your neck up, you'll become guilty of stinking thinking and you'll begin to allow the bad to swallow up and eat up the good and that's not god's will for you to allow that to happen.

You got a phone and you're not learning a second language that's your fault you got a phone and you don't know how to do calculus or any other important subject, that's your fault you got a cell phone a smartphone you can go on the internet and all you're doing is being social on it.

The thing is to confront to the time, it’s the time to take ownership, we are victorious and more than conquerors not just in the good times but we're more than conquerors in the bad times. If you don't let the bad eat up the good, humans don't want to die because deep in their hearts they know that they have not finished what they were born to start, and that’s why they don't want to die.

When a person have discovered their purpose and have fulfilled their destiny they welcome, death never threatens a human who discovers their purpose and became successful. Success is something that every human wants, everybody wants to succeed.

But for you to succeed in life there are five questions you must answer and every human being on earth is trying to answer these questions. these five questions control the human race, these five questions motivate everything you do, these five questions are so powerful that they create everything in this planet that humans do, these five questions are the source of all of your problems, they are the source of all the crime in your country, they are the source of all of your broken homes, they are the source of all corruption, these five questions are the source of every problem the human faces is in these five questions.

In other words our attempt to find the answer these five questions is the cause of all of our behavior as a matter of fact i have reduced all of human life to five questions,

1. First question “who am I?”, it's a tough question to answer most people have never asked nor answered that question because it's a frightening question the average human never answers that question who am I.

2. The second question that you must answer to become successful in life is, “where am I from?” Where am I from, again 99 of the world's population never answers that question that question has nothing to do with your ethnicity where am I from.

3. The third question every human must answer to become successful on this planet is, “why am I here?” why was I conceived? Why was I born? And I am certain that most of you sitting here in this room still have not answered that question why am I here on this planet.

4. The fourth question every human must answer to be successful is, “what can I do?” that question has to do with what am I capable of again over 90 of the world's population haven't answered that question.

5. The last question every human is grappling with is the question, “where am I going? “It is the question of destiny where am I going?

Study In Silence, Let Your Success Make The Noise!

2020-09-13T00:08:00.001+05:00

study in silence let your success make the noise your success isn't recognized when you're studying until the early hours of the morning it's not recognized when you're the first person walking into the library at 7:00 in the morning yet this is where your success is made it's during the daily habits and routine when you're putting in the discipline and building your work ethic on a daily basis and applying these skills consistently this is what will push you to the next level it's the discipline that you cultivate in the lonely nights of studying in the early mornings to have the results you've got to be willing to do what everyone else is not willing to do you have to go places where everyone else is not willing to go if you look at the all-time greats all throughout history the top at 0.1% the true leaders the Titans look at what they do they don't seek short-term pleasure in everything they do that's what the 99% dude the top is 0.1% do the opposite because they understand that if you want to have a great life look at what the 99% do and do the opposite and if you are truly in the 0.1% be prepared your life will change like you can't even imagine you can help people on a scale that is unfathomable you can buy cars and houses like you didn't think was possible but be prepared as you start changing the world you will be called a freak a misfit greedy they'll say that you just got lucky but remember this if you don't have people hating on you then you're not there yet you can be world class or you can fit in with the world you don't get to do both and I'll leave you with the words of Matthew Hussey because this video was made for all the crazy people the irrational z' for everyone that doesn't want to just live an average life in order to craft a life that you love more than the life that you have today you have to start being a little irrational reasonable people adapt themselves to the world unreasonable people attempt to adapt the world to themselves all progress.

therefore depends on unreasonable people so you have two options right now you can either be one of life's reasonable people or you can be someone who's slightly unreasonable somebody who demands more from life and if you haven't already started you can start right now starting with one small decision how many hours are you planning on studying tonight or tomorrow ask yourself that right now how many hours are you planning on studying that's great now double it that's how many hours you will study tonight it's an easy first step to make so simple but it can kick you out of your comfort zone go with the non-traditional path the road less traveled be a leader be revolutionary.

Cut the excuses, (Never accept the life that's being given to you)

2020-07-16T18:21:00.000+05:00

Never accept the life that's being given to you. If it's something that you never liked I need you to change it, never accept the life that's been given to you if you think that it'll never become who you are meant to be you, don't have to accept the life that's been given to you. so if you want to change it you can actually change it ,you don't have to accept the life that's been given to you when nobody wants to support you and they're not standing up and clapping or they're not motivating you to become better or they're not pushing you to become better.

There were some things that I had to change, that I needed to become, I had to cut out the excuses so in order for you to be successful in life. I need you to cut out the excuses, I need you to end it all, no matter what it may look like I need you to stop it right now because if you continue to come up with excuses through life you'll never get to the level that you need to and you'll always stay in your comfort zone.

It’s a beautiful place but nothing grows there and you got to take advantage of the opportunity in this lifetime because if you never take advantage of the opportunity, you'll continue to make excuses, and you’ll continue to be who people always said that you would be so,

I need you to block out the haters.

I need you to block out the lies, I need you to block out the people that don't support you, and I need you to block it all out. No matter what it may look like because understand that God gave you the vision he didn't give it to them, so when they don't see your vision I need you to understand that listen he gave it to me so,

I'm locked in and I'm focused

No matter what it may look like no matter, what you may say no matter, what type of opposition that comes my way I need you to understand this understand that no matter what it is and then what level or whatever level you may get to in life understand your purpose and understand that he gave you the vision so I need you to walk it out because we know if it was easy everybody would do it but it's not easy understanding your purpose,

It’s not easy walking out your purpose,

It’s not easy being successful, it's not easy being entrepreneur, it's not easy being married, it’s not easy being a mother or father, it's not easy to be whom you are meant to become and you think. Nobody understand what you're going through or you think. Nobody can feel your pain but what you do, you're supposed to harp on it. You’re supposed to sit right here and get down on your grind and stay locked in and stay focused.

No matter what it may look like, no matter what they may do, no matter what they say, no matter what they do, we can get it out the mud and we will become who we were meant to become.

I get my motivation from my kids, I get my motivation from the people in the community, I get my motivation from the people that's going through pain and they quote the things that I say like those are the real trophies for me. I just care about the impact that

None of this would be possible,

but I wasn't from that side of the track, I wasn't from that side where they provided me with a silver spoon in my mouth, I wasn't from that side where you had much support or love, so the things that I didn't have I made sure that I became those things because I said the negativity stops with me.

I looked opposition in its face and I said you'll never be able to get my kids or company. So I'm challenging you right now that you do not have to accept the life that's being given to you, anytime you face opposition, any time you face any obstacle, anytime there's a hurdle in your way. You can jump the hurdle it may not move but you can jump through it and if you can't jump then go around it anytime you face any type of opposition.

Do you have the ability to have the humility that when all the stars and all the things that are lined in your favor can you be humble enough to step up to the challenge and not let the screams and the cheers get the best of you? Don’t let it get to you because there's going to b

The person that's on the inside of you needs to come out because the person is the person that's on the inside of you is bigger than any type of our position that you face. So put your one foot in front of the other and to stay locked in, to stay focused. There were people that were before you that fought for you to have the opportunity that you have right now because they didn't accept the life that was given to them.

So today is the day that you become, who you are destined to be. today is the day that you become the person that people said you would never be, today is the day that you find your purpose and you start to project yourself forward, as today is the day that come hell or high water you'll come out swinging because your back is against the wall and you have no other choice but to move forward. You jump over the hurdle and that you choose to not allow fear to paralyze because now is the opportunity for you to turn your dreams into a reality like never before because you can only do this there isn't anybody else that can do it you can but you got to believe in yourself.

e family and friends that are not going to support you they're going to be family and friends they're going to tell you that you cannot turn your dreams into reality they're going to be family and friends that they believe that listen if I just hang on your coattail just for enough time or if that you will make it and I can always say that you will do it but I never believed in you from the beginning.

you see I'm talking to somebody because I got it out the mud and I understand what it feels like I understand what it feels like to have those people that are two-faced it. I understand what it feels like to have those people that tell, you can't turn your dreams into a reality I also understand that you have those people that are rooting for you and I know that it's far and in between.

You may have more negative people in your ear more than you have the positive people but it gets better to stand here, is that you can turn your dreams into a reality. you must believe in yourself because how you see yourself is how the world going to treat you and so if you see yourself as a piece of gum on the bottom of a shoe then you can't complain and get mad when nobody believes in you because see there's somebody right now that's looking for what you have there is somebody right now that is warning,

The words of encouragement that you have to say,

but because you're too scared to speak life into that person they'll never get it you see I had to understand that in order for me to go to, another level in life in order for me to do what I'm doing.

Now I had to believe in myself, I had to stay consistent, I had to block out the noise, I had to block out the people that hated on me I had to block out the people that always had something negative to say. so what am I challenging you with right now I'm challenging you with to believe in yourself I'm challenging you with staying consistent and last but not least I'm challenging you to fight it out, no matter what, why be normal when you can be extraordinary.

Are Parents to Blame for Juvenile Delinquency?

2020-07-01T18:36:00.001+05:00

To talk about pretty interesting question, "Are parents responsible for juvenile delinquency?" So, who is responsible for juvenile delinquency? If we look at our society today and I guess any time in the history. You know, of our world. We've always had juveniles or young adults who make poor choices. Who choose to break the law and to do things that, you know, are not in their best interest or the best interest of others.

So, in order to address this topic, we're going to approach it like we do everything else. From a principle based approach, in order to answer this question correctly, we need to make sure that we're understanding it correctly and we look at the principles and beliefs upon which this question is based. So, there are three foundational principles. Those foundational principles are,

Accountability:

Accountability Which says that each one of us are accountable for our own lives and nobody can take that from us and we can't give it away to anyone else.

Principle of control:

The second principle is the principle of control which says that we control 3 things.

Our conscious thoughts, our emotions and our behavior.

We can't control anything else.

Principle of choice:

And the third thing is the principle of choice which says that in any circumstance or situation, we always have a choice over the things that we control. So,

We have a choice over what we think, we have a choice over how we feel and we have a choice about what we do.

So, let's look at this question then based on those foundational principles. Are parents responsible for juvenile delinquency? Well, the question is, "Do parents have control over their children?” That is no, they don't. Parents have influence over their children but not control the only way that parents can control their children is for what they are physically able to force or control them to do.

But even if I am with my child, I still can't control what they do. For example, if my child wants to cry, I can't make my child stop crying. So, I can't make my child obey the law. It's impossible. That's a violation of principle. So, the truth of this question is, "Are parents responsible for juvenile delinquency?" Absolutely not. The individual responsible for juvenile delinquency is the juvenile who's making that decision or a choice to break the law.

Now, we could just stop right there but we can also go a little bit further. So, parents may not be responsible for juvenile delinquency. However there may be things that they do that contribute to it. But they're not fully responsible. So, we can look at... Instead of... Because as a society, oftentimes what we want to do is, we want to put the blame on parents for the problems that we're experiencing with youth.

Well, can you see the problem with that approach? If we're putting the blame on parents and we're expecting them to fix the problem, we're expecting them to do something that it is impossible for them to do. And what happens is, I've seen this often times in the court. So, in my work, I've worked with youth and families for a long time. And I've spent a lot of time in juvenile court. And there have been times when the judge basically has reprimanded or gotten after parents for not controlling their son or their daughter. And put an expectation on the parent to control their child. Now, if I'm a parent that comes out of that situation where I've been blamed and the judge has put the responsibility on me to control my child, all of my efforts now are going to be on trying to control my child. Which again, I cannot do.

But oftentimes, we create exactly what we don't want or the opposite of what we want. And so, if I'm trying to control my child but I've got a rebellious child, so we have this power struggle going on between us. I've got fear now from the judge that I need to control my child. As I exert more control, I'm going to meet up with more resistance. And I may end up creating more problems than existed beforehand. So, what's important to understand is the principle involved in this? If I know and understand that I can't control my child, there may be something that I can try to do to educate the judge or to educate Society.

But short of that, if the expectation from the judge is for me to control my child, I need to look at, "Okay, I can't control them but I can influence them." So, what do I need to do in order to have an influence on my child to want to make better choices? Now my approach with my child will be completely different. Because I will focus on strengthening and building that relationship so that I have or influence instead of trying to control and as a result maybe creating more of what I don't want.

Just one other example. Just too kind of illustrate what we've already talked about as far as parents creating juvenile delinquency. You know, there are also kids that come from families where maybe the parents don't obey the law. And yet the children choose to be law-abiding citizens or members as a community. So, parents don't control their children either way.

We can't make them obey the law and we also can't make them not obey the law. The truth of this or the answer to this question is parents are not responsible for juvenile delinquency. Juveniles are responsible for their own behavior. And as a society, we can help in this situation by becoming aware of that and putting the responsibility where it needs to be. So we need to hold the individual who's responsible for the behavior, responsible for the behavior that they chose. We do.

Everyone a disservice. When we put the responsibility for someone's behavior on someone else. If we can make this change in the way that we see and understand things in our world. So, we look more at controlling ourselves and influencing others. And again, we influence others by creating relationships with them and by setting boundaries. But boundaries are things that we can control.

So, I will set a boundary of this is what I will do or what I won't do. You can do whatever you're going to choose to do but you'll experience the consequence of the choice that you make. Which allows the other person to learn from their choices. Let all of us continue to work on being aware of what are our thoughts and the beliefs that are driving our behaviors. And make sure that our beliefs are based on truth and principle and try to live our lives in accordance with those truths.

Traits that make you high status

2020-06-23T18:39:00.002+05:00

As a masculine, one of our biggest desires is to be dominant, respected and admired in other words high status. So today we are going over some quick and easy tips you can do right now to become more high status.

Did you know that 60 to 65% of interpersonal communication is composed by nonverbal behaviors or body language? What is interesting and alarming is that most people spend most of their time focused on what to say but only 7% of communication is through spoken words. So the way you use your body can create a big impact on how people respond to your high stat itself.

One of the most obvious yet ignored traits of a dominant body language is to simply take up more space think about someone who is not dominant. what type of body language should they have usually those who aren't dominant tend to make themselves small and take the least amount of space possible while the dominant has a very open body language.

More space is not to be intimidating but to be comfortable and in control of the environment in our society:

this even happens naturally in the animal kingdom have you ever seen a happy dog, they feel good so they expand, they wag their tails while a dog who is scared tends to shrink down and fold their tails between their legs seem with cats whenever they need to establish their dominance especially with other cats they tend to expand to make themselves look bigger.

Now in humans we have a more interesting dynamic since we are a very socially intelligent species, we do not need to try to look bigger in order to be dominant but rather to show how comfortable we are in the space since we don't live in prehistoric days anymore. the biggest man doesn't mean he is the more dominant in fact if a guy tries to make himself look big he might be perceived as someone who is trying too hard to be dominant.

The real reason behind taking more space is not to be intimidating but to be comfortable and in control of the environment in our society, however some control of the environment is the dominant person. Imagine two scenarios you are having a conversation with someone at a coffee shop and someone new walks into the shop.

In the first scenario, the person you are talking to quickly turns around to see who came in.

In the second scenario, the person you are talking to completely ignore the new person and just continues with the conversation,

Which one do you think is higher status?

see low status individuals are the ones who are very reactive to their environment whenever something happens in the environment they easily lose their focus, high status individuals on the other hand are not easily controlled by their environment whether they are working on their computer or having a conversation with someone they do not lose focus on what they're doing just to react to their environment.

State control is the practice of being in control of your emotions:

Your state is the way you feel, your mood at any given moment. So state control is the practice of being in control of your emotions. By practicing state control you will learn to remain unaffected by outside distractions, so your emotions are only dependent on you and nothing else. One of the biggest slice about your state is that you are just along for the ride the things around you like the weather being sand in your cloudy will define whether you feel good or bad.

But this is like being a professional athlete and depending on the cheers of your fans in order to feel good, about competing it might sound good at the moment but they won't feel in control over their own emotions. Many people think that the way they feel at any given moment is just out of their control. So what if I ask you on a scale from 1 to 10 how do you feel right now?

you play your favorite song you make it loud and then you just jam to it whether you sing or dance or head bang it doesn't matter as long as you enjoy it, the funny thing is that in 2 and 1/2 minutes you can completely change your mood, if you were feeling a 4 you might be feeling an 8 if you felt an 8 you might be at a 10. See the way you feel is fluid and it changes and you can have control over it number four the ability to be carefree.

Most of the people we meet fall into two main categories

1. Carefree,

Most carefree people seem to always be relaxed they have a great vibe and just go with the flow of life. Carefree people are naturally more attractive because nothing seems to faze them.

2. prone to worry

People prone to worry are the opposite they hardly relaxed and their vibe can be pretty negative. See these people were not born with the ability to not worry, the reason why these people can be so careful is because they are clear on two main things

on the things they can control and the things that matter to them a great exercise for this is to take a piece of paper and list out everything that is in your mind for around three to four minutes then go through everything you listed and circle the things that are within your control then go through the things you circled those things that you have control over and put a star on the things that really matter to you these are things you will dedicate most of your energy on see these awesome carefree people don't have zero worries but they do not give mental energy to the things, they cannot control most of the stress and anxiety in our lives are from those things out of our control.

Having ambition, a big source of energy

Having ambition, a big source of energy for these high status individuals comes from their hunger their ambition to complete their goals to fulfill their destiny. this is one of the reasons why they are nonreactive or seem to be carefree because they are focused on one thing their mission they find the reason why they do what they do the reason why ambition plays a big role on status is because when you become incredibly passionate about your mission in life you become more fearless, since nothing is more important than to dominate your life, nothing can really take you down you create a sort of indifference to things. Unrelated to your mission making you more powerful respected and attractive.

Be a high status person

The reason why high status people are more attractive is because everything else comes after their mission they know that most things don't matter so therefore they can enjoy their life much easier so to be a high status person you must understand that most of communication happens with your body language. So by having an open and comfortable body language you show that you are in control understand that very few things outside of yourself are actually important.

Let your ambition be the fuel:

Therefore do not spend time reacting to them focus on practicing state control remember your emotions are not out of your control identify what you can control in what matters to you the most. this way you become more carefree and stop giving energy to things you cannot control and let your ambition be the fuel to lead you through your high status life you.

Secret to raise your social status as an introvert

2020-06-18T18:28:00.001+05:00

I think a lot of times in society we look at introverts and say hey! You’re just going to have a lower lot in life. you're just not going to be able to attract the best relationships partners friends, you're not going to have the most success in business or asserting yourself in life and you're probably going to be insecure and not as comfortable with yourself.

I think that its understandable how our society comes to this conclusion because that often is the case for introverts but I'm going to give you people three pillars. I'm going to basically share with you people how you can go from having maybe not the best social skills as an introvert to becoming very successful socially. So you can really live the best life possible and this is coming from someone who grew up.

Better social skills to be learned:

You were totally introverted, you are still introverted and you don't have to change and become extroverted but learned better social skills,

1. The first step for the journey of developing your social skills is interrupting strangers

getting in high-pressure social situations on a consistent basis.

2. The second one is raising your self-esteem.

3. The third is developing the habit of consistently overcoming fear.

the main step is to interrupting strangers, approaching strangers and it sounds kind of extreme but it's pretty simple what I discovered is that humans we have like kind of this biological nature that kicks in, when you get approached by a stranger and it's because we come from 150 person tribes like millions of years ago, where if you meet someone who's a stranger meaning that they're outside of your tribe, your brain instantly kicks in and starts scanning them to understand, are they a friend or a foe an enemy or are they trying to sell you something.

what's going on and when you approach a stranger, you're basically flexing your social muscles in building them over time because you're put into this high pressure of social situation where it's kind of sink or swim win or fail and you have to basically show up and be confronted in that social interaction.

A case study:

I must share a case study, a person had a door to door sales for two year, where he was knocking doors six days a week, cold calling on people interrupting them in trying to sell them inexpensive product and what comes out of this I think if you think about social skills and think like okay what actually are social skills what does it mean when someone has a high quality social skills and really it's the ability to read social cues. So it's being socially aware and being able to tell what someone is thinking, feeling not from the words that are coming out of their mouth.

But from the energy of the environment, women are typically much better at this than men. As likewise when that person started doing door-to-door sales, he was blown away. When he reached the point where he could start to tell, if people were telling the truth or if they were lying, and that like completely blew his mind. Because when he was younger, he couldn't really read social cues as well so I think the place where you're approaching loads of strangers or where you're having to interact with new people on a consistent basis, you can easily learn to cope with such social mass. If you work in computer program or something where you're by yourself most of the time, it’s quite difficult to overcome your fear of a high pressure social interactions.

I would recommend outside of your job that really push yourself to say to hello to everyone that you pass to smile at people to engage with everyone. You come across with to basically build your social muscle and developing a higher self-esteem.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is essentially how much you like and respect yourself, it’s how much you love and accept yourself and it's how much you understand and have compassion for yourself. The higher your self-esteem really the happier you are in life, but it also leads to much better social skills.

With most of the teenagers, the common problem, although have pretty decent social skills but develop a chronic acne condition which leads basically lost all confidence, be reluctant to talk to people. Some of them never give up and tried hard to find different ways out like detoxification from raw foods, using herbs and try different exercises.

It also help to raise the self-esteem dramatically and help in putting so much self-love and acceptance into yourself and when you came out of it. Your social skills didn't even improve that much but you got completely different the quality of friends that were interested in you. So you must like and respect yourself so much. Because

“People always take you at your own self-assessment.”

So we're always telling people who in what we are and it's not the words that we're speaking it's really the body language is really the underlying everything beneath the words. We’re always teaching people who we are and it's like if you get approached by a homeless person and they're asking for money or cigarettes or something before they even say the words that are coming out of their mouths. You can kind of just tell that they're asking to take rather than give.

but on the other hand if you get approached by an individual who has high self-esteem oftentimes you'll stop dead in your tracks and you'll say wait a second this person has something important to tell me and so developing your self-esteem also means that you tend to attract into get into relationships with people who have a similar level of self-esteem so if you raise your self-esteem you're going to end up attracting higher quality partners, friends, business relationships and everything.

To overcome Fear through Meditation:

So one of the best ways really to achieve any of your goals is to learn how to overcome fear, because any time you're trying something new any time you need to approach someone, eat anytime, you need to do anything to accomplish any goal, you're always going to be scared and the best way that I learned how to overcome fear was through meditation. The reason being in meditation you learn how to tap into your body and you learn about physical sensations and how they relate to emotions and you discover that fear.

What is fear?

Fear is actually an uncomfortable sensation that we're feeling in our body that we're resisting so if you need to approach someone for a business deal, if you're doing a cold call or if you need to approach someone of any other purpose, you're always going to feel fear.

Ripping a Band-Aid off:

But the key is learning how to relax into your body to feel the sensations that are uncomfortable and that you are resisting and to take action anyways. So it's kind of like jumping in cold water or ripping a Band-Aid off it's you know that it's going to suck but you just take action in spite of feel the fear but take concrete action anyways.

Behavioral Theory - Nature vs Nurture Personality?

2020-06-17T18:25:00.001+05:00

What makes you entirely unique from any other person on this planet? Well one might argue that every person is uniquely the sub of every experience that they've had. We have all witnessed different things, we were taught specific lessons or experience certain events that have shaped, how we make decisions and how we display specific behaviors.

Let’s focus in on that last word behaviors, this discussion is all about the behavioral perspective of personality. While this theory of personality has its critics, it is the result of some of the most fascinating and well-known psychological experiments to date. So what is the behavioral perspective?

Behavior perspective or behaviorism is a belief that personality is a result of an individual's interaction with their environment.

psychologists can actually pinpoint and connect incidents and behavior to predict how a person's personality was shaped, these interactions might include things like traumatic life, experiences lessons that you learned from your parents or your teachers, lessons from movies or other forms of media, the relationships that you have and all the things that we have observed are great examples of ways that may contribute to the way that you behave. So taking every single interaction that a person has with the world can feel overwhelming.

So let's zoom in on two ways that we might be conditioned to behave one way or behave another way. According to behaviorism these types of conditioning shape all of our later decisions and ultimately our personality.

Psychologists have categorized behaviorism into two different processes:

1. Classical conditioning and

2. Operant conditioning

Now there are two important people that you should know in the world of behaviorism because they illustrate two different types of conditioning,

1. classical conditioning:

Ivan Pavlov, the father of the now-famous Pavlov's dog experiment, now in this experiment Pavlov set off a metronome-click for a group of dogs. Whenever the dogs heard the bell after this metronome, they would get a treat. This is a case of classic conditioning, soon the dog started to physically salivate whenever they heard that metronome because they knew that food was coming. They automatically associated to unrelated stimuli through behavioral training and if you want a good example, there's also an episode of the office where Jim conducts a similar experiment on Dwight, so are we like Pavlov's dogs do. We associate two stimuli to each other and grow to commit certain behaviors from the Association.

Well there's another study it's called the little Albert study and it says that we do this study was led by an American ecologist named John B Watson. Watson used a young boy named Albert as his so-called dog. Now he exposed the boy to images of a white rat and a bunch of other items anyways, whenever he showed the image of the white rat he would make a loud and scary noise. Soon enough the boy was literally classically conditioned to react with fear, whenever he saw the image of a white rat he showed him an image of the white rat the boy would get scared.

Now there's one caveat in this experiment, little Albert also begin to act in a similar manner towards other white things rather than associating his fear with a loud noise with the rat for being White. Albert made other assumptions and behaved in an unpredictable manner towards objects that he personally associated with the rat. So in this example we consider behavioral perspective as a comprehensive theory unless it can really account for how we associate two separate stimuli.

2. operant conditioning :

This type of conditioning can help to better predict how someone will behave rather than using two unrelated stimuli. Operant conditioning uses rewards and punishment to shape behavior. Now the person can predict the reaction they will get if they behave in a certain way and that might alter their behavior based on whatever type of reaction that they want. the man that many people associate with operant conditioning is named BF Skinner you can remember that Skinner and operant go together because they both have seven letters in their name, now along with Freud he is one of the top known psychologists in the world today Skinner and Freud didn't always agree but their theories coincide to help explain why people make decisions.

Freud believes that the unconscious mind is constantly seeking pleasure and avoiding pain in any way possible and Skinner he kind of agreed with this now we often associate rewards with pleasure and Punishment with pain

It’s going to believe that you can change a person's behavior by using a series of rewards and punishments. People are going to seek behaviors that they know will bring them pleasure even if they're not inclined to act that way. Skinner's work led him to teach pigeons how to play Ping-Pong and eventually it helped soldiers during World War two. We might not think that pigeons are naturally sporty and patriotic creatures, operant conditioning led them to display these types of behaviors that they wouldn't have otherwise displayed.

Skinner's box also known as an operant conditioning chamber is a famous laboratory piece used in the study of behaviors of animals. Within the box there's usually a small animal, it's usually a rat there is also a lever and a food dispenser and they're usually hooked up together, so that whenever the rat pushes the lever a food pellet will come out.

Skinner wanted to see if the rat would associate pushing the lever to dispensing food well it worked why the rat pushed the lever in the first place though because it surely didn't know that that lever would actually move or that it would dispense food pellets well. Rats are exploratory creatures just like us humans and they enjoy exploring their environment now this includes pushing random buttons like a lever so after a ton of research.

Skinner realized there are four ways to encourage or discourage any type of behavior and here's the definition with some examples of operant conditioning,

1. Positive reinforcement:

This is whenever you add something to increase the behavior, an example is to give a rat, a food pellet whenever it pushes a lever now here's a real-life example paying someone for a good job.

2. Negative reinforcement:

whenever you remove something to try to increase the behavior, an example of this is to continuously shock the rats feet and only stop shocking it whenever it pushes the lever, a real-life example is whenever you go to clean your room because your mom has asked you to do it over and over and over again and eventually your mom will stop asking you after you have cleaned your room now both of these reinforcement increases the behavior right but we go about it in two different ways, we either add a stimulus like food or remove a stimulus like stop shocking a rat now what do we want to do if we want to stop a behavior that's when punishment comes in. number.

3. Positive punishment:

whenever you add something to decrease a behavior an example would be smacking your dog and whenever it barks, a real-life example you might encounter would be a speeding ticket whenever you're going 20 miles an hour over right, you add a ticket to decrease the behavior of speeding number.

4. Negative punishment:

whenever you remove something to decrease the behavior, an example would be to stop paying attention to a barking dog eventually it'll stop barking, now something in real life that you might relate to is, when you go too fast over the speed limit you'll actually be arrested and you'll actually have your license taken away, you remove a license to decrease the behavior of speeding. Now you can remember these simply by knowing that the word positive like in math means to add something negative also like in math means to take away.

reinforcement means to reinforce a behavior punishment means to discourage it. so negative reinforcement would be to get rid of because negative means to subtract a stimuli that's the negative part with the end goal of increasing a behavior that's the reinforcement part a lot of people get these words confused, so I just wanted to take some extra time in this discussion to help explain them that how does behavioral perspective fit in with personality psychology behaviorism.

Personality psychology behaviorism:

Personality psychology behaviorism says that we and our personality can change every day if you're trained right you can become a person with any sort of personality trait. It certainly gives hope to people who may aspire to be more driven more punctual or have any other traditionally good or successful trait. If you enjoy self-development then you probably relate to this because you know that you can improve yourself, anyone who's ever successfully trained a dog to behave in a certain way knows that there is some truth to this theory behavioral perspective though is rather limited. When it comes to explaining the overall psychology of personality. Behaviorists don't take into account like the thoughts that people have or the feelings behind someone's actions, these are real things but they don't take into account in behaviorism. A person may be on time for work every day but not because they want to or because they are in general a punctual person but they may just be terrified of losing their job and not having any money.

Sometimes people choose to sacrifice their values and larger personality traits for wants their needs and their desires. So behaviorism is just one piece of the personality puzzle but it's also an important one - no we can't entirely discredit behaviorism because it really does influence how people do make decisions.

so as I think, some of your daily habits why do you do some of them are their rewards or are their punishments, do they reflect who you are overall as a person or do they just reflect the values and patterns of thought that you have established over the years what is your commitment to these types of values say about your personality.

How Childhood Trauma Can Make You a Sick Adult

2020-06-11T17:21:00.002+05:00

ACE study findings show that seventeen and a half thousand middle-class adults have traumatic life experiences in childhood that are lost in time and then further protected by shame and by secrecy and by social taboos against inquiry into certain realms of human experience—that those life experiences play out powerfully and proportionately a half century later, in terms of emotional state, in terms of biomedical disease, in terms of life expectancy.

There is a case study of a lady, she said that in 1985, she became interested in obesity program in early childhood really by accident. Another young woman came into the program. She was twenty-eight years old, and weighed 408 pounds, and asked us if we could help her with her problem. And in fifty-one weeks, we took her from 408 to 132. She maintained her weight at 132 for several weeks, and then in one three-week period regained 37 pounds in three weeks, which I had not previously conceived as being physiologically possible. That was triggered by being sexually propositioned at work by a much older man, as she described him. And in short order, she was back over 400 pounds faster than she had lost the weight. I remember asking her why the extreme response. After initially claiming not to have any understanding of why the extreme response, ultimately she told me of a lengthy incest history with her grandfather, from age 10 to age 21. Ultimately it turned out that fifty-five percent of the people in our obesity program acknowledged a history of childhood sexual abuse.

It mean, that obviously is not the only issue going on, but it was where we began. And as we went down that trail, then we discovered other forms of abuse, also growing up in massively dysfunctional households.

The ACE study was really designed to see whether these things existed at all in the general population, and if so, how did they play out over time?

We studied 10 categories of adverse life experience that were chosen because of their prevalence in the weight program: childhood sexual abuse, heavy-duty childhood physical abuse, major emotional abuse, recurrent humiliation, two categories of neglect, growing up in a home where, one of the members of the household, was chronically depressed, suicidal, mentally ill, or in the state hospital; growing up in a home without both biological parents; growing up in a home where, one of the members of your household was alcoholic or a drug user; growing up in a home where mother was beaten; growing up in a home where one of the members of your household was imprisoned during your childhood or adolescence. Those were the 10 categories. In a middle-class population, one in 11 people has experienced six or more of those adverse life experiences in childhood.

So this is very common. Totally unrecognized. It was difficult for us to accept their commonness. But on the other hand, these are issues that most people never touch. And so who would know without routinely asking? But at a so-called ACE score of six, experiencing any six of the ten categories that we studied, that person was 4,600% more likely to become an IV drug user than a person who had experienced none of those ten categories. Now, you know, you think, you read the newspaper, the latest cancer scare of the week, prostate cancer or breast cancer increases 30%, and everyone goes nuts. I’m talking 4,600% increase. The same ACE score of six produces a likelihood of attempting suicide that is between 3,100% and 5,000% greater than the likelihood of suicide attempts in someone with none of those life experiences. So the power of this relationship is enormous. So ultimately the question arises:

How life experiences in childhood end up with disease do states a half century later?

There are at least two big categories to account for that. One is through the use of various coping devices. One smokes to feel better; one overeats to feel better; one drinks to relax. And those things carried out in heavy amounts have major destructive patterns, even though they may be immediately beneficial. The other broad category has to do with the effect of chronic major unrelieved stress on the workings of one’s brain and central nervous system. In recent years, this is relatively new, it’s become clear that chronic major unrelieved stress can produce the release of pro-inflammatory chemicals in a person’s body, and also can suppress immune system function. Of the ten categories that we studied, any six of them produces a shortening in life expectancy of almost twenty years. The magnitude of this problem is so huge, and the complexity of dealing with it after the fact is so huge, that realistically, the only serious approach is going to have to involve primary prevention. No one knows how to do that, but it’s the right question to focus on.

Natural and Herbal remedies for immediate depression, anxiety and stress relief

2020-06-09T22:12:00.000+05:00

Depression is a serious mood disorder, some people prefer to manage depression with herbs instead of prescribed medication. Fortunately, there are many herbal remedies that can help with depression and anxiety, modern prescribed medications (anti-anxiety and anti-depressants) come with a multitude of side effects. These medications include highly addictive benzodiazepines drugs like Ativan, Xanax, Klonopin and Valium, they have short and long-term permanent impacts on cognitive function depression symptoms. Living with anxiety is often a daily struggle. Long-term chronic anxiety leads to many other health issues, while many doctors prescribe medication for anxiety

The symptoms of depression include feelings of sadness or hopelessness difficulty concentrating insomnia fatigue and changes in appetite frustration and irritability suicidal thoughts loss of interest in hobbies or activities. Eating a healthy and well-balanced diet may help naturally control anxiety symptoms anxiety treatments without medication.

For long term relief, we must consider and try anxiety relief techniques and herbal remedies, Herbal remedies are substances derived from plants used to treat and prevent health problems. People have been using herbs for hundreds of years to treat all types of illnesses and symptoms. The ancient Egyptians used herbs in healing, in China herbs are an important part of Chinese medicine.

The body is like a small ecosystem.

The body is like a small ecosystem where everything is balanced just right when some part of the body becomes unbalanced, herbs can be used to help restore balance. People assume herbal remedies are safe because they are natural. However there can be exceptions herbal remedies that can cause side effects, they can interact with other drugs so seek medical advice.

Herbs remedy may include:

1. Adaptogens.

There are many herbals and natural remedies available that may help. So what herbal and natural remedies can help is a chai mushroom. Reishi is in a class of herbs called adaptogens. These help you adapt to stresses of modern life, they regulate the body's stress response via the tonic actions on the adrenal glands. This medicinal mushroom is calming and relaxing and is one of the best herbs for anxiety.

2. Hypericum perfer artim (Saint John’s Wort).

Saint John’s Wort is also known as Hypericum perfer artim. This herbal plant has been a mental health treatment for hundreds of years, however use with caution as a potential treatment for depression. whilst Saint John’s Wert is more effective than a placebo for treating mild to moderate depression and works almost as well as antidepressant medications.

3. Vitex Angus-Castus.

Vitex is also known as chase berry or chase tree it helps reduce anxiety especially for women just before periods with PMS. Vitex has been shown to reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety that occur during PMS.

4. Motherwort Turmeric Cur cumin.

Another herb that works well with Vitex which helps with PMS is motherwort turmeric cur cumin. Turmeric has been found to be beneficial in treating both depression and anxiety, turmeric is a root which when fresh doesn't look too dissimilar to its cousin ginger root it contains phytochemicals that reverse inflammation. Cur cumin is one of the principal ingredients derived from the spice turmeric it has particularly powerful anti-inflammatory effects which are helpful in reducing anxiety.

5. American or Asian Ginseng plant.

Ginseng comes from the gnarled root of the American or Asian ginseng plant. Practitioners of Chinese medicine have used ginseng for thousands of years it helps people improve mental clarity provides energy and reduce the effects of stress.

6. Roman Chamomile Essential oil.

Chamomile is a daisy-like plant that has been used for medicinal purposes since the middle ages like other herbal teas. Chamomile contains no caffeine lemon balm known as the gladdening herb lemon balm has been used for hundreds of years. It brightens the spirit it increases a sense of calm and decreases anxiety it is a good herb to combine with chamomile and lavender tea it is a very mild sedative, therefore is something you want to use in the evenings or on days off.

7. Caveat Kava Root.

This root can be used as a natural anxiety supplement, it works by stimulating dopamine receptors in the brain to produce a feeling of euphoria which improves mood and reduces anxiety. So we can consider carver, an excellent emergency remedy for panic attack .it is great to use when there is stage fright test anxiety or fear of flying three or four drops is often a sufficient dose of Carver. While it is safe for occasional use a few times a month heavy usage can affect the liver. Carver can be taken alone in capsules or herbal tincture, purple tinctures, liquid extracts of the herb are an easy way to take herbs. These potent liquid extracts allow you to take a tiny concentrated dose dissolved in water. Cavorts can produce mild side effects so be sure to use it under the guidance of a healthcare professional.

8. Lavender oil.

Lavender is one of our most effective herbs for anxiety both for chronic anxiety and acute situations. Lavender oil is popular for relaxation and reducing anxiety and mood disturbances. Studies have shown that lavender oil can work as a natural remedy for anxiety. Researchers found the essential oil to be just as effective as benzodiazepine an anti-anxiety medication put three drops of lavender oil in your palm and rub the oil on your neck wrists.

Natural remedy may include:

1. Anxiety and stress relief exercise.

The entire body benefits from regular physical activity including the brain exercise helps improve sleep quality improving energy level and reduce stress whether you prefer yoga swimming hiking or another form of exercise staying active can help reduce anxiety levels.

2. Vitamin b-complex.

B- Vitamins play an important role in combating stress and regulating mood. Vitamin b6 helps boost mood and balance blood sugar levels which naturally decreases anxiety. Vitamin b12 can also help the body fight stress depression and other mood disorders take a vitamin B supplement or add foods rich in vitamin B to your diet

3. Magnesium.

Many adults are magnesium deficient, magnesium helps the muscles relax and calms the nervous system a deficiency can contribute to anxiety take a magnesium supplement or add magnesium rich foods to your diet to boost your intake.

4. GABA or Gamma-Amino Butyric Acid.

GABA is an amino acid that is responsible for decreasing anxiety and relaxing the muscles. It can be used to relieve insomnia stabilize blood pressure and reduce anxiety. You can find GABA supplements in your local health food store.

5. Avoid sugar and processed foods.

Processed foods are full of sugar and artificial ingredients which can contribute to anxiety and depression. A diet full of sugar can cause blood sugar levels to fluctuate throughout the day increasing anxiety, nervousness and fatigue. Skip processed foods

and fast foods and stick to whole foods instead.

6. Avoid Consumption of alcohol and caffeine.

An excessive amount of alcohol or caffeine can increase symptoms of anxiety including nervousness and mood swings to reduce anxiety symptoms limit coffee and black tea to no more than one cup per day and limit alcohol to one to three drinks per week and no more than two at a time.

In summary, herbal and natural remedies for depression anxiety and panic attack may work well for some people. we would recommend seeking expert advice beforehand.

Useful habits to beat depression and anxiety

2020-05-29T18:06:00.002+05:00

Useful habits that will help you to beat depression and anxiety, there are some question always raised that,

What helped you overcome your depression?

What helped you overcome your anxiety?

There were a lot of factors but looking back the one thing that really did help me, was the useful habits that I started introducing, when I hit that period of depression that really decrease my struggling point, experience forever feeling fatigue, see in no real future. I didn't have any other daily habits to rely on, the only habits that I had were self-destructing habits that would get me deeper and deeper into that depression as soon as I started integrating good habits into my daily routine, I started to find myself feeling better, I started to find myself coming out of that depression and most important with these daily habits as well as they're actually going to help you manage your depression.

Different ways to boost your mood, so if you're feeling low, if you're feeling depressed then these different tips are going to help massively, now we have to talk about the pressure more because one in four people will suffer with depression and it's important to note that depression is something that you can handle. You know there's so many people that suffer with depression in the past and overcame it as myself also included. So it's important to notice that how you're feeling right now, can be changed and these tips are hopefully going to help you.

1. Mindfulness ( meditation), to deal with depression:

Mindfulness is a great way to stay calm, to deal with daily stresses, to not get angry and also to be able to deal with that anxiety and depression. Mindfulness could just be you sitting down quietly for a few minutes focusing in on your breath, a simple technique is to breathe in for four seconds and then double with that breath on the way out so you can breathe out. If you can't achieve that breathe out for six or breathe out for five but you want to make that out-breath longer than the in-breath, it's a very good way of just relaxing focusing in on your breath. When you're going to find that's going to help with mindfulness, you can take a deeper, you can do guided meditations, and you can do visualization.

2. Beating depression and anxiety is focused aim.

There’s times where I feel very low and I feel that depression coming back, but I can then relate back to these daily habits use some of them again to make me feel good that make me not fall deeper into that hole. The first daily habit that's going to help you is Beat depression and anxiety is focusing.

3. Self-awareness.

Some people said that coffee causes their anxiety, they can now see through self-awareness that the caffeine that they're taken in, is actually causing their anxiety so it's all about being self-aware knowing what foods make you feel depressed knowing what foods make you feel anxious and trying to cut them out.

4. Exercise help in the excretion of endorphins: feel-good hormone.

Now you probably know the benefits of exercise and you don't need me to tell you the benefits of exercise, but you know I'm not going to scientific on you but exercise reliefs is chemicals called endorphins and endorphins are simply what you call the feel-good hormone. When you do a bit of exercise, it's going to release endorphins and to make you feel better. So what you can do is when you're feeling low when you're feeling depressed just do a little bit of exercise. so think back to the last time you exercise try and think back to that feeling that you had once you completed the session, you felt good right well. that's what you really want to tap into the problem is getting to exercise, so don't think you have to commit to an hour to half an hour even if you just did five minutes of jogging on the spot ten minutes of jogging on the spot y, that's going to start to release those endorphins that start to make you feel better about yourself. So the next time when you feel quite low and quite depressed, try and do some exercise that help you massively.

5. Build your support network.

we find ourselves feeling very isolated we don't have that community we don't have that support and when we feel isolated we feel very depressed and community is all about getting out there and speaking to as many people as you possibly can now. just having that community around you where people knowing that you exist is really a great feeling when you actually are feeling depressed building your support network around you meeting up with friends meeting up with people that you haven't met for a while family members, your community, your support network is going to get you through these tough times don't feel isolated, there really is no excuse remember that we are all humans we're all the same species we all struggle with mental health one in four people will struggle with depression if not more so everyone is going through the same.

6. Satisfy your inner child.

you were you know a child from inside, you always got given something if you did something well you always want being rewarded and then you typically rewarded yourself as well so you're on a child is screaming for some kind of reward if you do something well reward yourself.

7. The power pose (celebrate your wins more often).

so if you do something good you know enjoy and celebrate it you know it could be as simple as changing your body language if you look into research about the power pose you know people would naturally do that if they win a race the arms go up and that's what's called the power pose and just that body language change makes you feel a lot better about yourself so you need to start celebrating your wins more often and when you celebrate more it's going to boost your self-esteem and it's going to boost your mood.

8. Laugh more than before for a better mindset.

Watch comedy, just go out with friends laugh more again. Laughing scientifically will put you in a better mood so it will put you in a better mood, it'll put you in a better mindset to start to laugh a little bit more. Although do take life seriously but also enjoy it also. Tap into your inner child things used to do as a child that you loved you know go and do that now. So have fun, laugh more and you're going to feel a lot better as well.

9. Journaling is a great tool to use.

you're going to be able to get through those worries those stresses and anxiety by writing them down onto a piece of paper, you can start to rationalize with them when they're here they become heightened they become very difficult to deal with but when they're in front of you on a piece paper they're almost like they're not your problems there's someone else's problems and you can start to rationalize with them. So grab a plain notepad, a pen and just write down whatever comes up in your mind, don't structure it, just write down. then by doing that I can then look at the paper look at what I'm journaling and I can start to rationalize those thoughts and I can also start to come up with solutions they then become more easier to deal with so journaling is a great tool to use.

10. Daily affirmations repeat over and over again.

you will repeat over and over again you have to think of your mind as your thoughts as a computer all it is a computer system, it's going to boot up the same way, it's going to open the same programs, it's just going to behave the same way, every single day unless you reprogram that and one of the ways that you can do, is through daily affirmations. if you don't feel good about yourself you have to train your mind and tell yourself that you are good, if you lack confidence you have to tell yourself and remind yourself that you are confident, if you don't feel happy you have to tell yourself and remind yourself that you are happy being accepting of everything, that you already have there's plenty of affirmations out there, that you can find that are related to any issue that you have you can also make up your own affirmations, but I highly recommend that when you do have an affirmation you say it over and over again, you say it loud and you truly mean it and within time and within consistency your mind is going to start believing that sentence. so try affirmations.

11. To seek silence.

You know we're so busy all the time but always try to relieve stress and clear your mind. it could be as simple as sitting at home in silence just try and do that more often because you'll start to self-reflect and you start to realize things about you and where you actually want to be going so seek silence.

12. To give to others.

just do a small good deed for someone, every single day ,when you're focusing only in on yourself, when you feel like a victim, when you're focusing in on your own insecurities, your own depression ,your own worries, your own stresses everything that's going wrong for you. you lack perspective that there are people in the world in a much worse off situation than you and when you do something good for someone else it's going to of course make you feel better it's just a natural human trait when you do something good for someone else you're going to feel good so why do we lack it. However smaller is to try and do something good for someone else every day.

13. Fuel the body with the right stuff.

on what you need now this is an obvious one and you'll probably thinking I know this already but honestly what you're putting into your body is going to have a huge impact on how you feel one of the reasons why I was so depressed and one of the reasons why I struggled to overcome. It was because I was just eating junk, I was just not fueling my body with the right stuff. Your God in fact has a huge link to your depression to your mental health and if you're not feeding your body the right stuff, if you're not fueling it correctly, it's going to have an on your mental health.

Gradually eating food like carrots and broccoli and healthy stuff with consistency, you're going to find that you're actually going to start to feel a lot better. it's all about understanding what works for you as well what works for me is fasting so I like to fast for sixteen to twenty hours a day that sounds like a long time but I sleep for about eight of those hours and I've spoken about intermittent fasting before but this works very well for me because I have a lot more mental clarity when I'm actually fasting.

when I start eating I cannot stop eating, I feel very fatigued so this is what works for me so you have to figure out what works for you understand what you're putting into your body is causing an impact on your mental health on your depression and on your anxiety.

14. To cut back the beard.

cut back the alcohol guys like there's nothing wrong with having a good beer having a good you know drink up at the weekend but if you're drinking every day you need to understand that alcohol is a depressant so if you're feeling depressed and you're drinking you're literally just feeding yourself a depressant so if you cut back the alcohol you might start to find that your mood and your depressive state starts to change as well.

15. More water intake.

Gradually water intake and drink more water is going to make you have a more mental clarity it's going to make you feel better

16. Take a cold shower.

now the second way, I recommend is to take your shower as you normally to put maybe some shampoo on, and then change to cold, and then simply use the cold water to rinse off the shampoo. Now it's going to be a real shock, as people have said that cold water shower helps boost testosterone and it has so many benefits. So really stick active, that's going to change your state and that's going to dramatically make you feel better as well so you can take a cold shower and that's also going to boost your mood.

How to cope with Depression and Anxiety?

2020-05-20T22:35:00.000+05:00

Do you sometimes feel sad or have the blues? This is quite normal and a part of our everyday living. It's also normal to feel depressed after a loved one dies or after a serious illness diagnosis. We may cry, have trouble sleeping or lose our appetite, but what's not normal is to feel this way for long periods of time. Depression is a mood disorder that effects how you feel and think and how you manage daily activities. You can experience depression at any time in your life. Major depression can effect more than your mood; for example, you might be sleeping a lot or not sleeping enough. You could lose weight or gain weight and generally lose interest in your life. You may even have thoughts about your own death. Sometimes depression happens when a person has other serious conditions like cancer, heart disease or PTSD. Also a person may be abusing drugs or alcohol or withdrawing from them and could also be suffering from depression.

Why depression is difficult to diagnose?

Depression can be difficult to diagnose, especially when a person has a tough time talking about their feelings. It can be a sensitive topic to bring up with a healthcare provider. However sometimes a spouse or partner will mention their loved one is having trouble sleeping and is grouchy all the time. With these symptoms there's often a problem with depression going on too. Some other signs and symptoms of depression may include feeling anxious or having an empty mood that won't go away, feeling hopeless or worthless, losing interest in hobbies or activities you once enjoyed, feeling aches or pains that don't have a clear cause even after they've been treated. The good news is that depression can be treated successfully so you can return to feeling more like yourself.

Treatment of Depression and Anxiety may include medication and psychotherapy:

If you are diagnosed with Depression or Anxiety disorder. Your treatment may include medication and psychotherapy, which is also called cognitive behavior therapy or a combination of both. Psychotherapy helps by teaching you new ways of thinking and behaving and changing habits that can add to your depression and anxiety. People usually do best when they receive both kinds of treatment. Gradually with proper treatment you'll start to feel better, during this time continue to do things you enjoy but go easy on yourself. Be active and be with other people, get good rest, eat at regular times, ask for help from your family, friends and your healthcare team. Put off making any major life decisions until you feel better. Remember don't use alcohol or drugs that are not prescribed to you because they can make your depression worse and harder to treat.

If you are concerned about a loved one who is talking about suicide or death, always take them seriously. If they refuse to get help, get help for them anyway. There you can find out about many programs and services to help. Remember depression can be treated.

Useful habits to beat depression and anxiety:

Different ways to boost your mood so if you're feeling low if you're feeling depressed then these different tips are going to help massively, now we have to talk about the pressure more because one in four people will suffer with depression and it's important to note that depression is something that you can handle you know there's so many people that suffer with depression in the past and overcame it and you know myself included so it's important to notice that how you're feeling right now can be changed and these tips are hopefully going to help you.

1. Mindfulness, to deal with depression

2. Beat depression and anxiety is focused aim.

3. Self-awareness.

4. Exercise help in the excretion of endorphins: feel-good hormone.

5. Build your support network.

6. Satisfy your inner child.

7. The power pose (celebrate your wins more often).

8. Laugh more than before for a better mindset.

9. Journaling is a great tool to use.

10. Daily affirmations repeat over and over again.

11. To seek silence.

12. To give to others.

13. Fuel the body with the right stuff.

14. To cut back the beard.

15. More water intake.

16. Take a cold shower.

Herbal and Natural remedies for immediate depression, anxiety and panic attack relief:

Fortunately there are many herbal remedies that can help with anxiety, modern prescribed anti-anxiety medications come with a multitude of side effects these medications include highly addictive Benzodiazepines drugs like Ativan, Xanax, Klonopin and Valium, and they have short and long-term permanent impacts on cognitive function depression symptoms.

For long term relief, we must consider and try depression and anxiety relief techniques:

Herbs remedy may include:

1. Adaptogens.

2. Hypericum perfer artim (Saint John’s Wort).

3. Vitex Angus-Castus.

4. Motherwort turmeric curcumin.

5. American or Asian ginseng plant.

6. Roman chamomile essential oil.

7. Caveat kava root.

8. Lavender oil.

Natural remedy may include:

1. Anxiety relief exercise.

2. Vitamin b-complex.

3. Magnesium.

4. GABA or gamma-amino butyric acid.

5. Avoid sugar and processed foods.

6. Avoid Consumption of alcohol and caffeine.

Pros And Cons Of Internet Access In Students Life

2020-05-14T10:23:00.002+05:00

Today when we talk about internet then we actually talk about all the tremendous changes that has made in all aspects or fields of life (whether domestic, educational and professional) due to the internet. And how it effects a student’s thinking inside and outside the classroom. Internet is one of the most valuable tool that we have available at our finger tips every day and we also get full advantage of this facility. We also can virtually do anything with our smart phone, tablet or computer. Numerous benefits have been taken by the students all over the world. As it is fast and relatively low cost access and study materials about every topic are available any time at any place. It is believed that visual data has a greater impact on learning and memorizing than plain text. When students have a digital proficiency, they are confident and critical user of internet in their work life, and in their studies. They feel more competent in the use of the internet when they become a part of professional life because mostly organizations conducted online interviews or interviews conducted by robots. Mostly internet is very helpful for the students in Non English countries. Students can easily access previous literature of any topic without wasting their time. Powerful search engines allow an organized and simple way to find the answers that student may need for assignments or projects. Having internet access broaden the mind of the students inside and outside the classroom which help them to perceive things in their own way. Monotony in studies makes the students feel boredom but use of internet bring some fun into the classroom and they are able to integrate computer learning into their normal schedule, even feel excitement in learning. Competency in this technology in early will help the students to get more advantages in the future with more perfection. Teachers are also using internet access to test the progress of the students. Through emails they can easily discuss their problems with family, friends and even teachers.

Social media (Facebook, You tube, Instagram and Twitter) is also another way for the students to interact and leave feedback for the school. The search engine like Google, Chrome and yahoo etc. help the students to search useful information. Social media is a best source of getting and exchanging knowledge so we can say, it helps in broaden the perception of the student inside and outside the classroom.

Any how the things we discuss if have a bright aspects, also have a dark side as well, so it is important to highlight both the aspects as it promotes the access to inappropriate content, lack of communication, lack of physical activity, enhances pessimism which leads to many mental disorders, the cyber-bullying trap, inevitable cheating etc. For getting optimist results, the need is careful consideration and supervision.

Anxiety Disorder

2020-05-13T22:54:00.000+05:00

Want to know about Anxiety Disorder?

It is the most common of neurotic pattern. Anxiety is usually defined as unpleasant feelings of fear and apprehension. The anxious person worries a lot particularly about unknown dangers that may lie ahead e.g. mothers who worries constantly about her child’s safety is afraid of number of accidents. Anxiety neuroses includes inability to concentrate, difficult in making decisions, extreme sensitivity, discouragement, sleep disturbances and excessive sweating.

Types of anxiety disorders include:

1. Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD)

2. Panic disorder

3. Social anxiety disorder (SAD) or social phobia

4. Obsessive compulsive disorder

5. Post-traumatic stress disorder

6. Specific phobias, like arachnophobia

Clinical Picture of Anxiety:

The anxious people lies in a constant worry and uneasiness. He is over sensitive in interpersonal relationships and depressed. Complains and muscular pain in neck and upper shoulder region, sleep disturbances, nightmare and heart palpation. Fears and fantasies combined with general sensitivity which keeps them upset, uneasy and discouraged anxiety involves 3 basic components.

1. Subjective reports of tension, apprehension, sense of impending danger and expectation of inability cope.

2. Behavioral responses such as avoidance of situation at hand impaired speech and motor functioning and impaired performance on complex cognitive tasks.

3. Physiological responses including muscle tension, increased heart rate, and blood pressure, rapid breathing, dry mouth, nausea, diarrhea and frequent urination.

Common anxiety symptoms:

1. Dizziness

2. Sweating

3. Trembling

4. Nervousness

5. Tension

6. Feeling tired

7. Frequency of urination

8. Heart palpitation

9. Feeling faint

10. Breathlessness

11. Worry and apprehension

12. Sleeplessness

13. Difficulties in concentration

Often someone with Anxiety disorder meets the diagnostic criteria for another disorder as well, this situation is known as comorbidity .

What are the Causal factors of Anxiety?

1. Anxiety defense:

It is the fundamental concept of psycho-dynamic theory that anxiety is at the roof of neurosis. Psycho-dynamic theorist believe that anxiety is experienced by the ego when there are excessive environment demands or when there is tension within id-ego superego system. They base this interpretation on clinical observation and inferences. Threat stemming from internal or external sources elicit intense anxiety this anxiety in terns leads to exaggerated use of various ego-defense mechanism and to mal-adaptive behavior.

2. Faulty learning:

According to learning theorist anxiety is a learned or acquired response, a symptom created by environmental condition, often within none. Learning theorist believe that the symptoms of anxiety disorders are learned in the same way that all other behaviors are learned. Faulty learning is seen in the typical failure of neurotic individuals to learn the competencies and attitude needed for dealing with normal life problems.

3. Block personal growth:

If individual main efforts are devoted be simply trying to meet basic need, rather than to personal growth and development. According to humanistic perspective such as life style can ultimately bring feeling of anxiety, lack of meaning and block personal growth brings feeling of anxiety.

4. Pathogenic interpersonal relationships:

Certain interactions within families and other relationships can set stage for children to develop neurotic life style in later life e.g. parents who over protect and indulge their children may prevent them from developing them independent, effective coping techniques required in their adult years.

5. Biological perspective:

People whose nervous system are particularly sensitive to stimulation seen more likely to experience severe anxiety. Evidence also shows that anxiety disorder tends to run in a families. About 15% of parents and siblings of people with anxiety disorders are similarly affected.

How are the anxiety disorders diagnosed?

If symptoms are present, the doctor will begin with an evaluation of a complete medical history and physical examination specially the onset of the symptoms.

Although there are no laboratory tests to specifically diagnose anxiety disorders, although the doctor might use various diagnostic tests to rule out physical illness as the cause of the symptoms.

If there is no prominent physical illness appears, then person might be referred to a psychiatrist or psychologist, mental health professionals who are specially trained to diagnose and treat mental illnesses. Psychiatrists and psychologists use specifically well-designed interview and assessment tools to evaluate a person for an anxiety disorder. The doctor bases his or her diagnosis on the patient's report of the intensity and duration of symptoms — including any problems with daily functioning caused by the symptoms — and the doctor's observation of the patient's behavior and attitude. The doctor then determines if the patient's symptoms and degree of dysfunction indicate a specific anxiety disorder. The standard reference manual used for the diagnosis of recognized mental illnesses in the United States is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), published by the American Psychiatric Association.

What are the Treatments of Anxiety Disorder?

Drug therapy and psychotherapy used for treatment of anxiety disorder.

1. Drug therapy:

Tranquilizing drugs are the most common somatic therapy used to relieve anxiety. The group of drugs called Benzodiazepines marketed under the trade mane of Librium and Valium are used for treatment of anxiety and tension.

2. Psychotherapy:

Psychoanalytic uses two basic techniques for the treatment of anxiety neurosis:

Free association

Dream interpretation

Behaviorist use systematic desensitization and implosive therapy. Implosive therapy based on the belief that many conditions including anxiety disorders are out growth of painful prior experiences and that to unlearn them, the original situation must be recreated so that it can be experienced without pain and thus lead to anxiety reduction.

3. Gestalt therapy:

Empty chair techniques (empty chair and a personal). Behind the screen therapist is present. Patient addresses the empty chair.

Humanistic use client centered therapy (re-building the damaged).

Natural remedies are used for the treatment of anxiety:

To change Lifestyle can be an effective way to relive some of the stress and anxiety that you may cope with every day. Most of the natural “remedies” consist of caring for your body, to participate in healthy activities, and to eliminate unhealthy ones.

These include:

1. Eating healthy and nutritious food

2. Do exercise daily and be active

3. Getting enough sleep

4. Avoiding alcohol and consuming products containing caffeine

5. Quitting smoking cigarettes

6. Meditation

The outlook for people with anxiety disorders:

Early diagnosis and treatment can limit the problems caused by an anxiety disorder and help to improve the outlook. Unfortunately, many anxiety disorders are not recognized and, as a result, remain untreated.

Anxiety, Depression And Stress: why the differences matter

2020-05-11T15:01:00.001+05:00

You have heard normally that someone or even you are experiencing the emotions related to Anxiety, Depression and Stress. Every person so or far is going through the same emotions, because being humans, there is no life without emotions. As the overwhelming burden of our domestic and professional life or some social bonding never leave us live without stress.

But the need is to identify the difference among three, depression and anxiety are the Neurotic disorders like as, stress is the reaction to any stressful stimulus.

Anxiety:

“Anxiety disorder is defined as unpleasant feelings of fear and apprehension”. The anxious person always worried a lot about, particularly about unknown dangers that may lead ahead. For examples;

Mother is anxious about her kids’ safety from any possible danger.

Everyone is worried about job and earning.

Like now a days all the world is anxious about their safety from covid-19.

Following are the common symptoms of anxiety.

1. Nervousness

2. Feeling tired

3. Heart palpitation

4. Frequency of urination

5. feeling faint

6. Worry and apprehension

7. Sleeplessness

8. Difficulty in concentration

Depression:

“Depression is an emotional state with marked feelings of worthlessness, guilt and withdrawal from others”. When you feel depressed, it affects just about everything in your life-how you feel, think, behave and function .You may experience following symptoms like:

1. Disappointment

2. Sadness

3. Hopelessness

4. Anger

5. Feeling of apprehension

6. Lack of motivation or interest in life in general

7. Thoughts of suicide

8. Anger and rage

9. Low energy level

10. Insomnia

If you experience these emotion for two weeks or more, and this also affect your daily routines and interactions and social bonding’s, than most probably you may experience a major depressive episode.

In fact, both the disorders are interlinked so if those who diagnosed with depression are also diagnosed with an anxiety disorder.

Now what about stress?

Somehow stress and anxiety seems to be similar but actually they are not, because Stress is a response to daily pressures or a threatening situation, while anxiety is a reaction to the stress. Anxiety, which actually has no clear cause, tends to last longer and be more difficult to treat. If anyone faces the same situation, notice the symptoms describes below:

1. Trouble sleeping

2. Feeling overwhelmed

3. Problems in concentration

4. Short memory loss

5. Change in eating habits

6. Feeling nervous or anxious

7. Feeling angry, irritable or easily gets frustrated

8. Feeling burned out from routine work

9. Feeling that you can't overcome difficulties in your life

The symptoms of thrice are intermingled so if you are suffering from stress, anxiety or depression, don’t delay, urgently talk to a health care provider to get the help you need. So they can easily define the cause of your issues and getting the right treatment.

Rat Race Only Makes You A Rat

2020-05-07T22:21:00.000+05:00

Getting away from the futile way of life ( the rat race) is the farthest thing for an average mind. Unfortunately, only a few from the majority of the population figured out, how to get away from the futile daily existence (the rat race). Those that escaped, came to realize that how their time is valuable and precious. They comprehended the way in which they invest their energy defines what their identity is and how they live. Take a look of what number of individuals get themselves into this so-called this rat race (futile way of life). This might just be your current life being portrayed here.

Here we have a youngster who is brought into the world raised and couple years after, he goes to school. The proud parents are energized on the grounds that the kid exceeds expectations gets reasonable - passing marks and is acknowledged into a school. The kid graduates, maybe goes to a master's level college and does exactly as programmed afterwards - looks for a safe and secure job. This kid now as a grown-up, secures that position possibly as a specialist or an educator or joins the military or works for the administration, but now as an adult, money is finally being made. Having cash to consume the youthful grown-up goes to places where other youngsters like to hang out. They meet individuals they date, and sometimes they get married. Life is wonderful now because today both of them work with decent income. They feel fruitful! Their future looks brilliant and they choose to purchase a house, a vehicle, a television, take get-away’s and in the end begin to have kids. They accomplished the ideal life group and it appears to be great.

Aside from without acknowledging it. They got themselves in the discrete infamous futile daily existence (a rat race) thus comes the more prominent interest for cash that develops greater consistently and consistently. The upbeat couple concludes that their professions are crucially significant and starts to work more enthusiastically. Looking for advancements and raises. The raises come thus does another kid and a requirement for a greater house. They work more enthusiastically, become better representatives and gotten significantly progressively committed. They return to class just to get increasingly particular abilities so they can procure more cash. Possibly they accept a subsequent position. Their salaries go up. Be that as it may, so does the land burdens on their new huge home and their Social Security charges and the various expenses. They get their huge check and marvel inevitably where all that cash went. Presently their kids arrive at five or six years old. The need to put something aside for school for that increments just as the need to put something aside for their retirement.

Depleted, getting up right on time, get up to work, finish that 9:00 to 5:00, punch out, return home and crash and rehash. For this is a similar cycle for around five days seven days wishing along that one weekend from now would simply come quicker! This is the life of a normal instructed dedicated individual. This is the way of the futile way of life catching the cheerful couple for the remainder of their working lives, working for the proprietors of their organization, for the administration making good on charges and for the bank taking care of a home loan and Visas. What's amazing most families work from January to mid-may for the administration just to cover their duties! Maybe the greatest shock is that they prompt your own kids to the main examination hard, get passing marks and get a sheltered line of work or a profession. A significant number of times leaving them with minimal money related instruction so their children will buckle down for their entire lives. This futile way of life proceeds into another dedicated age Despite of the entirety of that, is there an approach to get away from the rat race (futile daily existence)?

As indicated by one of Robert Kiyosaki's book called Rich Dad Poor Dad, yes! There is! This man who has been living in money related opportunity clarifies that there's promise for those that are drained, who are happy to escape the rat race. I'll state this there is anything but an enchantment equation to leap out of it yet there are legitimate abilities that will be required to demonstrate your capability of both bookkeeping and contributing. Seemingly two of the most troublesome subjects to ace. In any case, there is promise for figuring out how to accomplish monetary opportunity by changing your own viewpoint to that who has been fruitful. As referenced before in the book Rich Dad Poor Dad larger part of the individuals' lives are controlled always by two feelings. Dread and Greed. This will keep them to get up for work, concentrating exclusively on covering their tabs in a progressing constant cycle. Unfortunately, individuals will consistently accept this will consistently be their world. I exceptionally encourage you to look at the breakdown and brisk clarification of the Rich Dad Poor Dad in this energized book survey I did here. Getting away from the futile way of life, Robert Kiyosaki's Rich Dad guided him with incredible exercises like concentrating on putting into resources, limiting liabilities, understanding the distinction between dynamic salary and automated revenue. Understood this. You could be in the futile way of life (the rat race) that is forestalling you to see the master plan of your life's latent capacity! Ask yourself. To what extent will you be in the rat race? I state get out! Your time is presently! On the off chance that you appreciate what you just observed, remember to drop a like.

The Surprising Cure Of The Fear Of Unknown

2020-05-01T22:38:00.001+05:00

The topic is really important for those of you who swings all their energy between certainty and uncertainty means (Fear Of Unknown). That's why, you need to acknowledge your fear of the unknown and the reason is, fear of the unknown stops you from experiencing life it keeps you within the same closed loop of your life doing the same thing in the same place with the same people over and over and over again and never expanding and experiencing even anything new in your life because you're afraid of what you don't know so you stay with what you do know at the expense of that unknown and the unknown is exciting as much as it as maybe terrifying so it's important to understand that there's a price to pay, of course for living with a fear of the unknown the thing is that your nature as a human being, as progressive, you are evolutionary by nature all human beings are evolutionary by nature we are to evolve, to expand, to learn, to explore, to adventure even within the small moments of our day-to-day life so you're not designed to stay stuck, you're not designed to stay in a closed loop even you're not designed to never experiencing anything more than you're currently experiencing.

So it's essential for your own achievement and fulfillment of your life for however long it is that you're going to be alive in this lifetime that you move past the fear of the unknown so you are able to fulfill that life experience as much as possible so before we get on to talking about the Cure I want to get you to do just a little visualization with me so you understand this concept of fear of the unknown from a few different angles.

So imagine that you're standing in a small circle and you can see a circle drawn around your feet where you are standing, now I want you to think of that as your comfort zone. so within that small circle is everything that you know, you know that small circle well you've been living inside that small circle for your entire life, you feel like you've got control that small circle because it's very familiar to you it feels very certain to you. you know what things happen in that circle you know who's in that circle you know how to do things in that circle you know how life goes within that circle that comfort zone, I want you to think of it like it's got a perimeter fence around it an electric fence and that electric fence is run by your fear which means that you don't cross the boundary of your comfort zone, your control zone, your certainty zone, your knowing and unfamiliar zone because of your fear. what lies beyond that circle for you, beyond that comfort zone out into the expanse of the rest of the world is what you perceive is totally unknown and uncertain for you, that even outside of that known circle, unknown territory unknown people, places, ways of operating are totally unfamiliar even not within your control in feeling and that uncertainty, the lack of control of the unknown generates the fear, that runs your comfort zone and you ask question to yourself that why you stay there.

Now the root cause problem of all of that fear of the unknown is one thing and that is, most people are addicted to wanting to know exactly what's going to happen, they are addicted to certainty and they are addicted to wanting control and that's why they stay within the comfort zone, control, certainty and familiarity. Now here is the hilarious paradox that you think you've got full control over in your comfort zone and outside of the zone you don't have control and that life is uncertain so you stay where you are, you stay away from anything new but you have no more control no more certainty standing where you currently stand. Then what happens, a few were to embark out on an adventure to go after a goal, to go after a dream to cross over the boundary of your for sewing you have no more control and no more certainty standing where you currently stand, then you have no other choice either to get adaptive to the situation.

certainty is a mental illusion that we create to make ourselves feel better and that might sound like it's a little dark and gloomy to say that but it's true you ask anyone who's had their life change in an instant because of circumstances changing beyond what they perceived could be possible and you start to realize, you don't know what tomorrow holds, you don't know what the next hour holds you don't have control over other people and over wider circumstances, you only have control over your energy your choices your actions your way of interacting with the world and so this is actually liberating and this is not sad and scary, the reason is it's liberty. It means every person have a right to live on its own terms.

I'm going to give you six steps to help you with that to live powerfully and peacefully in the face of inherent uncertainty of life.

Step 1.Controls your decisions and try to overcome your dream or goal restricted nature slowly and gradually.

Step 2.You must get really aware of the ways and watch that addiction to certainty is limiting the experience of your life and is blocking your goals and your dreams and your aspirations.

Step 3. I want you to write down exactly what you would do right now in your life today if you wrote down every single thing you want to achieve and struggle.

It was guaranteed you wouldn't just step forth, you'd be running forth there'll be no stopping you because you want certainty and if you had certainty you'd jump after it.

Step 4. But if there's no certainty where you stand and there's no certainty out there it's you that's going to create the familiarity and it's going to be you that creates the gold or dream, there's nothing stopping you. the first thing to do is to at least acknowledge that you're done with the certainty that you're done with needing that you'll that you're done with living to that illusion and clinging to it and that you invite and these endless possibilities.

Step 5. As take one small action in relation to achieving the aspiration that you have your head for yourself just to kick-start the process of walking forward and to unfamiliar territory one tiny action anything at all reach out get information make a mind map of what you want to do list out the actions that you want to take anything at all that creates some kind of momentum and flow for you.

Step 6. Then lastly step is to just acknowledge yourself I want you to notice that despite opening yourself up to exciting possibility and being willing to live with the uncertainty of not necessarily knowing what's going to happen next you are still in one piece you are still alive and cooking and nothing bad has happened so it's really about saying gosh you know what I went beyond the comfort zone and look at me I'm fine and I've nudged the edges and my comfort zone is now larger I'm I've made the unfamiliar familiar the unknowing no one and then you've got to do this over and over and over again you just don't do it once you do it many times as you create a wider horizon for yourself.

So at the end, the really awesome quote,

“When you come to the edge of all the light you have and must take a step into the darkness of the unknown believed that one of two things will happen either there will be something solid for you to stand on or you will be taught how to get through”.

I just think that it's the most beautiful quote ever in relation to this topic of fear of the unknown so I hope this has been helpful for you.

Simplifying Your Precious Life

2020-04-27T21:55:00.000+05:00

We over-complicate our lives, connections, objectives, and daily agendas. We, as people, tend to make things more troublesome than they should be. Satisfaction is found in effortlessness — so how would you disentangle your life?

1. Dispose of what no longer serves you.

When was the last time you truly wore that shirt? Discard it. When was the last time you truly utilized that enrollment? Drop it. When was the last time you truly conversed with that companion? Quit making vows to hang out. "Cut back the excess," as it's been said, and just keep in your life what you truly need.

2. Make clear desires.

Strife emerges in uncertainty. Missteps happen in uncertainty. Disillusionment lives in uncertainty. Dissatisfaction is reproduced in uncertainty. In the event that you need to maintain a strategic distance from those things, set perfectly clear desires. The outcome, at that point, is unmistakably increasingly objective (rather than abstract).

3. Scale vertically, not on a level plane.

At the point when individuals consider development, they will in general think evenly, including the same number of pieces to the riddle as could reasonably be expected. Be that as it may, the more pieces you include, particularly various sorts of pieces, the more troublesome it becomes to change your cerebrum starting with one method of reasoning then onto the next. Such a large number of various kinds of ventures, or desire, or duties, and you wind up turning your wheels. Rather, think profundity. Consider plunging profound, rather than spreading wide. Less turns out to be more.

4. Change your group.

Monetarily, life becomes convoluted when you attempt to live or relate a long ways past your implies. Over and over again, individuals need to "show up" effective or "show up" rich, thus they endeavor to carry on with a way of life they can't really manage the cost of — and live on the edge as a result of it. In any case, except if you are doing as such in light of a quite certain objective, and considering it to be a speculation (for example "I need to hobnob with the correct individuals"), you are doing yourself a injury.

5. Don't overbook your schedule.

Is it brilliant to plan consecutive to consecutive gatherings? Likely not. I comprehend what it resembles to hustle, and in the event that you need to do it, OK, complete it. In any case, acknowledge where the tipping point is and when that timetable is not, at this point the special case however, the desire. It's not beneficial, and it's not maintainable. Cause things straightforward: To make your timetable in light of personal time.

6. Try not to babble. Ever.

The quickest method to entangle your life is show. Take the higher street.

7. Manufacture the correct every day propensities.

At whatever point something "terrible" occurs, it's anything but difficult to take a gander at the trigger occasion. Be that as it may, the genuine inquiry is: What propensities (did over a significant stretch of time) developed to this? Make the simple everyday propensities — what you eat, setting off to the rec center, and so on — the norm with the goal that you're not continually in recuperation mode. Be proactive.

8. Give, give, give, give some more, and afterward inquire.

The best things in life come because of what we have first offered ourselves. Things get confounded when we're continually in "ask" mode. Be that as it may, when we give, things will in general uncover themselves precisely when they have to. Give, give, give, and all will become all-good.

9. Try not to attempt to be everything, to everybody.

Lastly, probably the greatest wellspring of life worry for some is endeavoring to be what everybody needs, constantly. It's simply not justified, despite any potential benefits. Be you. Concentrate on you. Do what you have to do, first. Communicate. Remain consistent with yourself.

Furthermore, you will draw in all that you need throughout everyday life, normally, similar to a magnet, and repulse whatever else. It shouldn't be any more confounded than that.

The Future Of The Social Media

2020-04-25T20:23:00.001+05:00

Social media is continuously evolving and with the passage of time it becomes an essential part of our life without which we can’t even imagine to live. It is also important to realize that what will social media look like in the future? In the current climate of social media, brands are more concerned with the customer’s trust. This begins with how they connect with audience. Privacy concerns are on the rise as social media user are becoming much more aware of how their data is being used. Because of this, the future of social media will see an increase in user opting for what’s known as “dark social”. Actually the future of social media is a MOBILE. An estimated 3 billion people will have access to mobile phones by 2020. And continuously this addiction increases. That’s why the future platforms will be designed with smart phones in mind from the start.

People use social media for many purposes, socializing, finding, sharing information, shopping and so on. Social media is such a powerful source that can connect trillions of people in a one click. Increase self-confidence, especially good for introverts who are being empowered to express their ideas and got ability to create lifelong friends, get opportunity to develop different skills, explore the things we want. Social media play an important role in student’s life. Studies became more convenient and easier to access any type of information. Social media show incredible success in all respects of life whether related to education, business, marketing, communication, politics, religion etc.

Although it improves people’s life but although it also provokes many negative emotions among people like, anxiety, tension, depression, stress, poor sleep quality, dissatisfaction with body image and cyber bullying, eating concerns, low self-esteem, and suicide risks because of less social interaction. Social media also detract the people from face to face relationships, reduce investment in meaning full activities , increase sedentary behavior by encouraging more screen time which leads to internet addiction . Students spend more time on social sites and as a result they shows reduce academic performance. This reduce their communication skill.so they are unable to communicate and socialize effectively in person with others. This media is ridiculously unbalanced which means our brains are triggered more by negative media than by neutral and positive media
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There are some tips of going social media free:

Man is a social animal that he can’t live without people, so the solution is to take advantage of it on a moderate level, give the quality time to your family, friend, and neighbors. Maintain your dignity, and respect. Emphasis share worthy content. If you feel your life is upset then focus on meditation. Do more physical jobs. Get enough sleep, pick up new hobbies and change the routine towards optimism.

Power Of Believe In Yourself

2020-04-21T17:46:00.000+05:00

Nothing can be achieved without the believe that you have on your own .sometimes it seems the easiest way to get what you want, but as you move on, the realization of hurdles and the social pressure suppress, even forces to stop, for this you have to just start to take that first step you can do, anything that you want them out, without thinking what you've been told and conditioned to think growing up start from today to believe that you can do anything. The need is to take those tiny little consistent baby steps every single day that add up to achieving that goals then amazing things happen when you believe that you have something, your brain actively goes out to make it happen, help in achieving that strong believes that you can do it and work hard to get it and it's yours.

Actually we are all born with the same amount of time in a day and anything that they can do you can do too if you have something bad enough in that day, you doesn't need you to believe that It’s all my fault. if you're sweating up here crying and pour my heart out to you but if you have the mindset like nothing is ever going to change like some of you when they was doing that play and they were doing that skip, some of you felt it, they share my story but there was still a little voice in the back in your mind they say yeah but that's not really going to change. It’s easier to said than done no.. no.. no.. Listen to me, hear me loud but clear your mindset, your belief system is everything and it is so powerful.

You can call it a power of believe in yourself

you were here for a reason, although going through some hard times, life at times might feel rough or you might feel weird or things might be frustrating but it's not going to always be like this you're conditioned it's not your conclusion there is so much more that's going to take place, there is so much more power that's inside you if you make up in your mind, I choose to believe that you could do great things only the need is to seriously think about your life. Everyone knows that life is a constant struggle you've got so many pressures on you, You want to make your family proud, you don't say you want to give good grades you want to make you proud but then you also have friends and you want to be cool in their eyes and you want to kind of fit in there and then some of you were in a really rare place you feel like people don't understand you.

You feel like you're having a hard time to connect with people when you wake up in the morning you feel like you're in the slumps and you feel tired and drained like I get it I've got a message for you right the people those of you that's looking for us acceptance from others you're gonna have to make up in your mind and say you know what whether you accept me I'm amazing I'm smart I'm beautiful I'm talented because if not if you live for their acceptance you'll die from their rejection so you got to tell yourself, repeatedly that I'm amazing and I know I'm smart and those of you that feel like you're in a really weird place those of you that feel like nobody understands you those of you that feels like men I'm just here but I'm not having a hard time connecting with people you lost your zeal you lost your passion and the point of living. Here's my advice to you don't keep it to yourself the worst thing that you can do, when you're in that dark place, you should just let that things push you off in the corner, and come to the light and be bold and be brave enough and be vulnerable enough to say, that you can do anything that any celebrity can do, even more optimist than those.

You have the power to brighten somebody's day your words are powerful your energy is powerful. You have to avoid to paint such a negative picture in your mind. Your brain can do everything, fix disappointment. It’s going to be hard work and it's going to take ages your brain fix pain and avoids it. The first thing you've got to do is to get, what you want is believe that you can believe it's possible for you to have it. the next thing you got to start doing is focusing all the good that will happen when you get what you want not all this you got to go through to get there focus on how your life will be better and what your life will look like when you get what you want focus on all this in your life now and how I'm getting what you want and get away from all that you this and your brain will think that by helping you get what you want you're moving away from pain and towards pleasure, that you can do anything.

Here, in this old story a gentleman was walking through an elephant camp and in spite that the elephants weren't being kept in cages or anything like that are being held by chains all that was holding them back from escape in the camp was this small little piece of rope that was attached to their ankle as the man gazed upon the elephants he was completely confused as to why the elephants didn't just use a will its strength to break the rope and escape the camp they could easily have done so but instead they didn't try it all the men was curious and wanted to know more so he asked one of the trainer's nearby why for the elephants were just stand-in there and never even tried to escape and the trainer replied when they're very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and at that age is enough to actually hold them and stop breaking out as they grow up they're conditioned to believe that they can't break away they believe that the Rope can still hold them so they never even try to break free the only reason that the elephants weren't break him free and escaping from the camp, they're over time they've adopted this belief that it was impossible the moral lapse story is that no matter how much the world tries to hold you back always continue to believe that what you want to achieve is possible.

you know believing you can do something successful is the most important step in actually achieving it you can do and be anything that you want them out what no matter what you've been told and conditioned to think growing up start from today to believe that you can have that thing that you want all right it's yours it's staring you in the face right in front of you we've got to take it all the while you're standing around waiting doubting yourself telling yourself you can't have this and you can't have that for whatever reason you're never going to get it just like that elephant you might have this little rope around your leg conditioned to think that it's holding you back but you're big enough and strong enough to take on the world you've just got to believe it's possible so believe.