La Belette Rouge

Freudians are sexy; Jungians are not ( at least not this last weekend)

La Belette Rouge — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 06:41:58 +0000

I spent Friday night with Jung and Saturday morning with Freud. That sounds kind of bad. It sounds like I get around, at lease theoretically speaking. Doesn’t it? And the truth is, I do. I am a bit of a psycho-dynamic polyamorist, meaning I love Freud and Jung and Lacan and Winnicott andFairbairn and Bion [...]

Labels that lower your worth or J Crew as Bad Faith

La Belette Rouge — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 18:21:21 +0000

Okay, so here’s the deal, most of us…me included….like our labels. No, I am not talking about Gucci, Pucci and Fiorucci–although those are some nice labels. Actually my labels of choice are more likely to be JCrew, Kate Spade, Diane Von Furtstenburg and Tory Burch. But those are not the labels I am talking about. [...]

Not sure where to start

La Belette Rouge — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 23:22:39 +0000

So much time has passed since I last wrote that I don’t know where to start. Weekly I think of two or three topics that I could write about and then don’t. The longer I don’t write the more I feel that the first post back has to be super-special and somehow encapsulate in some [...]

Rudolph the Depressed and Traumatized Reindeer

La Belette Rouge — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 00:31:50 +0000

Last Year I wrote this on the psychology of Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer for Psychology Today. I thought it might be fun to pull it out of storage and repost it. I hope you enjoy! When you think about how you want to spend your holidays, I imagine that activities like shopping, cocoa drinking, gift [...]

Not the Mamma/ You Can’t Always Get What You Want

La Belette Rouge — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 06:22:32 +0000

If you have read my blog for long then you know how very much I wanted to be the “Momma”. I did everything in my power; I went to acupuncturists three times a week; We remodeled our chi thanks to Feng Shui and Chi Gong. I sought out astrologers for the most auspicious dates for [...]

Step by step

La Belette Rouge — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 14:21:31 +0000

Sunday I ran a 10K, which in “American” is seven miles. It wasn’t just a run—it was the culmination of a long journey. So, do you want to know the secret to my completing the seven mile run? A single step. Seriously. The entire run was accomplished by taking “just one more step.” It is [...]

James Hillman, April 12, 1926- October 27,2011

La Belette Rouge — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 05:17:34 +0000

This morning, my boyfriend and teacher and long-time inspiration, Dr. James Hillman lost his battle with cancer. And to say I am sad doesn’t quite do it. I loved Hillman. I did. And I still do. Anyone who knows me knows that I love Hillman. Loving Hillman is part of my identity. I have, with [...]

Change in status

La Belette Rouge — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 05:51:15 +0000

No, I’m still middle class, middle aged, middle of the road when it comes to politics, and still frequently have a have a middle part in my hair. It’s just that my Facebook status has changed. For the last eight months my status has read “separated” and for years before that I was, I thought, [...]

Internet/dating

La Belette Rouge — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 11:51:19 +0000

So I’m dating a boy. Well, he’s not really a boy…he is more of a man. I suppose I could even describe him as a mature man; 55 years old definitely qualifies him for man status. But for some strange reason it feels better to call him a “boy” when I tell people I am [...]

Scotland: the West Coast Edition

La Belette Rouge — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 03:44:18 +0000

Thanks to a dear and lovely friend’s extreme generosity I am spending the weekend in this ideallic location. Lucky me, huh? Something about this place reminds me of the Moors of Scotland, not that I have ever been there but I have watched the Monarch of the Glenn. I plan on spending this weekend with [...]

Running scared

La Belette Rouge — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 12:57:23 +0000

No, I’m not running away. Really, I’m not. I’m okay. In truth, I am better than okay. I am great. I’m sort of surprised by how great I am. Nothing like a little earthquake to make you appreciate solid ground and for the most part I am crazy with solid ground. I like my life. [...]

I just got a Dear John letter

La Belette Rouge — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 15:05:57 +0000

…It turns out that I was right. He sent me a letter detailing why we aren’t a good match. I won’t share the details except to say that the idealizing wasn’t enough. It turns out that I am not enough for him. When we spoke he told me he told me he was telling me [...]

How to write about what I feel like I can’t write about

La Belette Rouge — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 17:28:48 +0000

So I’m dating. I’m dating someone I like, someone I like a lot. And we are getting to know each other and we are in that phase in which we are idealizing each other and it is a whole lot of fun. It truly doesn’t suck to be idealized. He thinks I am sweet and [...]

I hate to brag but I here I go, I have the number one memoir blog

La Belette Rouge — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 05:01:53 +0000

The kind people at Adult Education Course.org have named La Belette Rouge the #1 of the top 50 memoir blogs. I am HIGHLY honoured. If you like reading memoir then check out their impressive list of memoir blogs. Something about this honour has sort of kicked my memoir writing a** and has made me want [...]

What a difference a year makes

La Belette Rouge — Tue, 30 Aug 2011 03:34:28 +0000

Can you see how happy I am? I hope it shows. If you can’t see my happiness then you can at least see my cute leopard shoes.

Ordinary day

La Belette Rouge — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 17:45:55 +0000

Today I have had circled on my calendar for the last month. I have waited for it. I have talked to my therapist about it. I have prepared emotionally for it. My friends have texted me this morning to tell me they are thinking of me. Other friends will call tonight to check in with [...]

I was wrong

La Belette Rouge — Sun, 14 Aug 2011 19:06:26 +0000

I don’t even know how to communicate to you how WILD it is to be here. Something about coming back to La Belette Rouge makes me so very aware of how very much my life has changed. I actually don’t like that last sentence as it makes it sound like the change happened to me [...]

La Belated Rouge

La Belette Rouge — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 16:53:56 +0000

I keep thinking about my blog and about writing something. Mostly I think about it when things are going REALLY well(those periods are short-lived and I tend not to want to write during that happy time as I want to enjoy it and not stop to over think it) or when things are not going [...]

What smarty-pants psychoanalysts say about shoes that defends my obsession

La Belette Rouge — Wed, 15 Jun 2011 19:32:31 +0000

This shoes thing won’t let me go. For over 20-years I have been unable to do heels. I had foot problems. I was a Pisces who was more suited to swimming than walking. I was imbalanced. I couldn’t stand the pain. I was constitutionally incapable of walking in them. High-heels were just for special occasions. [...]

By their shoes you shall know them

La Belette Rouge — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 01:30:12 +0000

Okay, that isn’t a famous quote. I think that the actual quote that I have intentionally misquoted is biblical and it goes something like, “by their works you shall know them.” But my father wasn’t one to throw around a bible verse. The closest he came to the word of God was a spirited “God [...]