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Lesbian Movie Review: "The Kids Are All Right"

2010-08-01T14:14:00.000-07:00

MOVIE REVIEW

BY CYNTHIA RODRIGUEZ

"THE KIDS ARE ALL RIGHT"

Directed by Lisa Cholodenko

Starring Julianne Moore, Annette Bening, Mark Ruffalo

"The Kids Are All Right" is more than all right because of the outstanding acting by the above mentioned actors. Even the kids held their own. I don't think it would have been as good if it were a bunch of nobodies. I have to say it wasn't exactly what I expected though. On one hand, I think it's wonderful that a movie about Lesbian parents was able to reel in some big actors that have been in more mainstream movies. Although, at the same time I am not surprised that in order to see it, I had to go to our local indie film theatre which will usually feature the movies you know they won't show at your local mall. A lot of them end up being the "Sundance Festival" films and/or the ones you know will become an IFC cult favorite. I don't know if it's because it was opening weekend or an early Saturday afternoon, but oddly enough, there seemed to have been a significant number of senior citizens in the theatre when I walked in just in time and sat all the way at the front when the film was about to begin. I know this for a fact because even in the almost pitch black dark towards the end of the last preview, I felt like I was completed surrounded by a lot of white haired heads. I thought to myself, "Great, it's like watching a lesbian film with Grandma. Do they even know this is about LESBIANS? What are they doing here? This should be interesting. If there are any sex scenes, this is gonna feel a little awkward."

I always find it intriguing how Hollywood deals with gay. Sure, it's come a long way. See: "The Celluloid Closet" (which by the way, I watched at the same theatre.) Yes, they've gone from the ideals of us being either just a bunch of sissies, butches, and deviants, to gay-sploiting us to their advantage to the now somewhat attempts to show that we can be "normal" like everyone else, such as getting married, and having the perfect little family.

Summary: (which I'm sure you've already heard, read about, or have seen the trailer) A very long term relationship Lesbian couple raising two teenagers they each gave birth to thanks to the local sperm bank. One is the artistic, new agey "house wife" who has been trying to find her niche in employment in like forever, the other the bread-winning established professional ( A Doctor ). The 18 year old daughter is getting ready to go off to college. The son, he's like the typical 15 or 16 year old that hangs out with his prickish little friends and rides his skateboard. The son, endlessly curious about their biological father makes his sister track down their "bio-Dad" who turns out to be a motorcycle riding, carefree, lovable bachelor who runs some organic, hippie, co-op type of restaurant. Apparently meeting him is not enough. They introduce him to the rest of the family, and that's where the havoc begins. What starts as seemingly innocent get togethers, and just hanging out turns into an invasion of the estrogen controlled household he helped create that exposes the maybe not so perfect world they thought they had.

It's dificult to dislike any of the main characters in the film. Annette Bening's "Nic" is a little uptight but cool as shit. Julianne Moore's "Jules" is cute as hell, and Mark Ruffalo's slightly flawed "Paul" is the most adorable I've seen him since "13 Going On 30". In the end you just want everything to work out for all of them. There is really no "villian", which I don't think is usually the case in any film.

Now for my take on the whole thing withought doing the spoilers: I appreciate their attempt at showing that a gay couple can do it just like everybody else. Have a long time partner, have children, work, etc. And also that any marriage be it straight or gay especially after a lot of years together can have it's ups and downs, just like everybody else. What I'm a little torn on is the relationship that begins to develop between one of the Moms (Jules: Julianne Moore), and the bio-Dad Paul (Mark Ruffalo). Part of me is afraid it will perpetuate the myth that I believe many feel that all a Lesbian needs is a good man to "change her ways". I mean, I see where they are coming from but I feel people will misunderstand and not realize that in the end, when it comes to that part, it really has nothing to do with anyone's sexuality at all. It also doesn't help that there is more hetero-sex featured in the film than between the two women. Sometimes I think they do that in these types of movies so it will appeal more to the mainstream masses. I believe that as long as people are open to and comprehend that when watching the film, they can truly hold dear the lessons they can learn from the film. A lot of times I think that when people, particularly the straights watch a Lesbian themed film, that they think they will be in for some good girl on girl action. That is not always the case. Afterall, we DO have other things to do as well. It's not always about the sex. Sometimes it has nothing to do with that at all. We work and play like everyone else, but we just happen to be of that sexual orientation.

So, when people come at us with their snide remarks regarding all of the above, you can always say (my favorite line in the movie by Annette Bening), “I need your observations like I need a dick in my ass.”

Not that there is anything wrong with that. Just sayin'.

Challenge to DOMA in Massachusetts

2010-07-09T00:22:00.000-07:00

I'm not religious, but Hallelujah!!

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Freddy and Me, Horror Re-Makes, and "Nightmare On Elmstreet" 2010

2010-06-14T10:28:00.000-07:00

FREDDY AND ME, HORROR RE-MAKES, AND
"NIGHTMARE ON ELM STREET" 2010

by Cynthia Rodriguez

I'm going to tell you about the longest "relationship" I've ever had. It's complicated so you may not understand. It's as complex as the other person involved. He is a troubled, disturbed, socially unaccepted, completely psychotic and calculating individual. Who is this charming madman? It's no other than the man of everybody's dreams, Mr. tall, sienna-burnt dark, and fugly himself, Freddy Krueger.

It all began at the tender, impressionable pre-teen years. From the time I experienced the first, original "Nightmare On Elm Street" movie I was hooked on horror films. Freddy gave me a new appreciation for the genre. A cousin of mine used to joke that it was a good thing I turned out to be an artist, or else I probably would have been a serial killer. Well, it was amusing at the time anyway. What may have given everyone that idea was the fact that I was so obsessed with Mr. Krueger and it manifested itself in several ways. I was Freddy for Halloween for about 4 or 5 years of my life. It was a blast scaring the neighborhood kids at the door trying to get Halloween candy. But hey, that's why they say, "Trick OR treat", right? That costume was one of my prized possesions. I owned every bit of Freddyabilia I could get my fake, knife gloved hand on. I believe there is more merchandise available today than there was back then, including a site which sells custom made REAL knived gloves. Sure they cost about one month's rent but I am SO getting one of those. I could imitate his voice almost perfectly. I used to have fun freaking out my friends on the phone with it. I have a very cool watercolor I did of him when I was a teen which I guess would probably count as my first portrait painting. I also have an old picture of me at one of my first jobs (I believe it was a local drug store in Queens, NY), one of the years I dressed up as him for Halloween. That may have been a contributing factor of me becoming unemployed shortly after. Also, who else would come out in their Highschoool yearbook dressed up as Freddy Krueger? Sure, at one point my parents considered sending me to therapy for it, but I convinced them it was just part of my creativity, and entertainment. Yes, I was an interesting child. Some kids slept with their teddy bears, and Rainbow Brites, I slept with my talking Freddy Krueger doll.

One, two, the re-makes coming for you, oh excuse me, they call them "re-imaginings" now. What a crock o' shit. I think that horror films may be the most re-made, (or re-imagined), recycled, re-done, re-altered movie genre of all time. I believe there are several reasons for this. This is when I feel comparing horror films to porn is appropriate. Lots of similiarities. One is that both can be made in someone's basement. With horror, throw in a mask, a couple cutlery utensils, some ketchup, and voila. Second, both genres' actors are not exactly known for their Oscar caliber, suberb thespian skills. Most of the time it's a bunch of nobodies. At best, with the horror, if you're lucky you'll get the latest teen sensations from music and television on the screen for five minutes until they get slashed out of the picture. Now I didn't say it would be any good, but with horror, even when it's bad, it's good. A horror film that may blow at the box office can become a "cult classic" on DVD.

Three, Four, this bitch is at your door. Feeling this wouldn't be complete without a little feminist slant, I must say, even as a staunch horror fan, it has not gone unnoticed that just as in other genres such as most sci-fi, and action movies, or MOST films period, with the exception of the "chick-flicks", the horror film has also been dominated by the male species. Perfect example of this would be the fact that pretty much every horror icon is of the masculine type. Freddy, Michael Myers, Jason Vorhees...Chucky. There is yet to be a huge, superstar female serial killer slashing her way to horror film greatness. It would certainly be a refreshing touch to see some sociopathic, bloody action from a gal spewing some smart ass commentary of her own, while stalking and terrorizing some scantily clad drunken frat boys, "Don't run, don't run. Your castration will be so much easier, (for both of us), if you just stay still."

Five, six, hold on to your ____, (okay that one is just too easy.)

Now lets get back to Elm Street. I thought the original was brilliant. It revolutionized horror films. When the nightmare began, it was a dream come true for a whole new world of fantasy horror. Of course since then they have dragged it out, milked it dry. As they have others. They send them to space, to hell, to Manhattan. They tag team with other. These are not just horror films. They are franchises, and Freddy is no exception. Seven, eight, now for the part that I hate...

I was dreading the re-make. I knew it was coming even before it was announced. It was inevitable. They had already taken Michael, and Jason so I knew it was only a matter of time. And of course they were ripe to pick a new Freddy which just the thought of that gave me chills, and not in a good way. Anyone around my age thinking themselves worthy of being called a "Generation X"er knows there is no Freddy Krueger unless it is Robert Englund. Yes, Jackie Earle Haley is an excellent actor but there is no comparison.

Because of this Gen X bias I realize I cannot fairly rate this film. Not that that's stopping me from doing so. On it's own, it's okay. It's watchable. It has all the ingredients, and usual suspects. Plenty of slash, bam, thank you ma'am moments, and cute, young stars of today. Back then, we had Johnny Depp in the original, now they have one of the hunky guys from Twilight. Even in this genre, it has become guilty for CGI overkill. No more just using latex, and cornflakes. In the future I suspect we may be victim to more Elm Street "re-imaginings", maybe a prequel, Freddy as a child or in his tweens, with Robert Englund doing a cameo as his Dad. Whatever it may be, I know I'll be stupid enough to be right there in the movie theatre to see it.

Nine, ten, here we go again.

Lesbians like "Sex And The City", too!

2010-06-03T22:28:00.001-07:00

LESBIANS LIKE "SEX AND THE CITY", TOO!

by Cynthia Rodriguez

It's not all about the L-Word, Will & Grace, and Ellen. Lesbians like other T.V shows, too. I mean, we do realize other entertainment exists out there that's not necessarily gay. One day I was scheming with a friend about our pre-weekend plans for our "Sex And The City 2" evening shenanigans. Another colleage eavesdropping couldn't resist on harping me with, "How can you like Sex And The City? You're a Lesbian". As if the show had some kind of secret rating I was not aware of. "RATED 'S' FOR STRAIGHTS ONLY." I was like, "Bitch, please. I read the book by Candace Bushnell, and I've seen every episode". I've loved it for years. Albeit an ex-girlfriend got me into it, as ex-girlfriends do. Each ex leaves their mark on you a different way. You get into some musician or band with one. With another, you learn to love a certain movie after watching it with with them about fifty times. And yet, with another, you get hooked on a particular show. Enter Sex And The City.

So, after this little catty exchange with my nosy cohort, I couldn't help but wonder...

Is there straight - gay segregation in the world of entertainment?

After I typed that last line I thought to myself, duh, of course there is! Just like everything else. Why should this region of activity be any different? When people make snarky remarks, or ask me dumb questions like that I can't help but think to myself, "Should we be using separate restrooms, too? Oh thank you my dear heteros for allowing us to drink the same water. May I go see your straight movie now? In exchange, you are more than welcomed to Netflix "Pink Flamingos" if you'd like."

As you can see, this is not any type of review for either of the S.A.T.C movies. It's just another rant in hopes that breeders can understand that when someone comes out, they don't necessarily cut out all forms of entertainment in their life if it doesn't have anything to do with gay. It's also an excuse to publicly applaud one of my favorite shows of all time .

Sure, I must admit, when I first came out, I almost thought it was a requirement to see, hear, and do all things queer...and nothing else. I felt if I dare strayed from the freshly paved, yellow brick road I'd have my newbie permit revoked and be banished from New Dyke City forever. This was around the same time my then apartment was struck with rainbow fever, when even my toilet seat cover couldn't escape the force of the rainbow pattern. I had to hang out in only places that were gay, listen to gay music, gay T.V, gay movies, all people, places, and things had to be...gay. Well, that didn't last. Like a good little dyke, of course I like my gay entertainment just like the next queer, however, I realized if I could just see over and beyond the rainbow, there was much more out there just as amusing. I made an amazing discovery. Straight people can be funny, too. Looking back at my hetero roots I began to grasp the concept of mixing it up, learning that there was a whole world out there that was fun, too, and *GASP*, had nothing to do with gay. Just because I dropped certain things like...men, didn't mean I had to abandon things I enjoyed before because they would be considered some type of straight tendency. I believe that in doing so would be a bit Lesbo-nazi-ish.

So, getting back to the wonderful world of "Sex And The City". First off, I loved the book. More than I think I want to admit. Okay, so it's not "War And Peace", but so what. I was fascinated by Candace Bushnell's stories. The way she just put herself out there, whether they were true or not, it didn't matter. They were realistic enough. If it didn't happen to her, I'm sure it happened to somebody. I had never read anything like that before. That lion-hearted way to go out there and taste life, love, and everything in between. That's what I like about the lead character in the show/movies as well. Her emotional cojones, her confidence, her swagger. Even during all the pitfalls that would rock her emotional foundation, she at least always had the insight to take a moment to step back and examine what was going on. Her choices, way of life, where she was, and where she wanted to be. I guess it helps that it's kind of her job to do that, being that she is a professional writer. But not just anyone can put their life experiences out there, and serve it up on a delicious platter, for the world to feast on, and enjoy.

I guess this is where the Lesbian side of me peeks through. You won't hear me raving on and on about the fashion, the shoes, oh the shoes, I know, I know, the shoes. Yeah, whatever. Sure, that's nice, too. It's definitely all a very purdy package to look it. Cue the dork in me, this is when I say, it's so much deeper than that. I think the producers were brilliant in knowing how to lure the straight women, and gay men into watching this show. The CLOTHES. Then they got sucked in because it actually spoke of important stuff. Relationships, sex, love, etc. Though, just to point out something about the show's famous clothing. I know it means absolutely nothing coming from someone who owns 500 t-shirts, and 3 pairs of jeans, but I must say a lot of what I've seen them wear and people praise them for, like giant flowers on their chest, and huge, awkward hats that can't possibly be practical in any way, other than for runway models and celebrities trying to be all "cutting edge" on the red carpet, who actually wears any of that stuff? First of all, who can afford it? (See prior sentence). And second, seriously, who wears that? No one looks that fabulous just walking to the store to get some milk. Somebody get me my pajama pants and slippers...

The other thing I love are the friendships. Like TRUE friendship. The kind of, years go by, I haven't seen you in awhile but feel like I just talked to you yesterday type of deal, the people get married, have kids, get divorced, get married again, have affairs, I fucked up, you fucked up but I love you anyway, and I know you love me, evolving, everlasting type of friendship that survives, and surpasses all obstacles, and relationships that may come, and go, and come and go. That tight circle of love that wraps around you, reminding you that no matter what, you are never alone. As they would say on the show, "soulmates".

Finally, I love the sometimes raw and risque, in-depth analysis of relationships via their lively, witty conversations and love portrayal are as if taken straight out of women's private talks with each other. You hear yourself doing a lot of "Oh my God, that's so me.--- I've thought that. --- I've said that. --- I've done that". Not that the show hasn't had it's moments with the whole homo-eroticism thing, and has opened doors for other T.V programs to do the same, but the point is relationships are relationships, be it straight, gay, bi, tri- (anything once) sexual, whatever. Some may find themselves relating to a particular character more than another. It certainly makes a SATC party run smoother when people stick to their roles, but in the end, us Sex And The City fans find a little bit of all four of them in each of us.

In case you were wondering:

Character I most relate to: Samantha

My favorite: Charlotte (YUMMMM)

The New Fight for the 40-Hour Work Week

2010-04-24T20:32:00.000-07:00

Workers of the industrial age fought long and hard to secure a 40-hour work week. According to labor historian Prof. Philip Foner, "No single issue in nineteenth-century labor history produced as many songs and ballads." Here's one for you:

       We mean to make things over; we are tired of toil for naught,
       With but bare enough to live upon, and never an hour for thought;
       We want to feel the sunshine, and we want to smell the flowers,
       We are sure that God has willed it, and we mean to have eight hours.

       We're summoning our forces from the shipyard, shop, and mill,
       Eight hours for work, eight hours for rest, eight hours for what we will!

The Fair Labor Standards Act in 1938 realized this dream on a national scale. Mission accomplished? Not exactly.

Like a cruel joke, we workers today have our own struggle for a 40-hour work week; unfortunately ours involves fighting to maintain a full 40 hours in the face of furloughs, hours cuts, "permatemps", and part-time reassignment. A 32-hour work week sounds bad when a person starts out with 40, but consider the plight of the 10% of the American populace who can't find any employment at all--for them, not even a 1-hour work week.

If employers could run companies with only managers and no workers, they would, and this nightmare becomes more and more plausible with innovation in technological advances. Even when employers owned slaves and had no obligation to pay their workforce, they still rejoiced at the introduction of the cotton gin that meant fewer laborers required to make even more money. That's been the name of the game since the beginning of capitalism.

With the abolition of slavery (excepting interns), employers may mask their contempt a little better, but they still find it obnoxious that workers always want stuff--like money, or healthcare, or dignity--that ultimately cuts into their pocketbooks. Sadly for the Boss, until SkyNet becomes self-aware and our robot overlords can fend for themselves, workers will remain a necessary evil to the people who employ them, much to the employer's chagrin.

The cunning employer recognizes this and attempts to persuade the worker into a new frame of mind. The ruling-class employer says to his working-class employee, "Now, now, I am no better than you; we are a team! We're all in this together to make the company the best it can possibly be!" Employers often embellish this lie with a call to sacrifice; "I'd like to pay you overtime, but would you really want to put the company in that position of financial burden?" or, "Think of the company before you come in here and selfishly ask for a week's paid maternity leave."

Our grandparents saw this for what it was--baloney. They recognized that if they had a job manufacturing gold-plated turds for TurdCom Incorporated, an attack on their integrity was not worth a nicer, sleeker, faster, shinier, more efficient gold-plated turd (now with less fragrance!). No amount of sacrifice on their part was going to result in a better gold-plated turd, anyway. It was the job of the Boss with the Seven-Figure-Salary (how quaint) to earn that salary with Big Money-Making Ideas about what kind of company to have and what to produce; the worker's only role was to keep production moving. If the company really needed to save money, why not let the Boss's paycheck take a hit? He (yeah, likely a dude in this scenario) could certainly afford it.

The disparity in wages made the class divide perfectly clear then, and the divide could not be clearer now when even "nonprofit" CEOs can make millions of dollars per year; workers today turn a blind eye to this, however, getting suckered into the "team" mentality only to find that they're the only ones on the "team" doing work for offensively low wages and making sacrifices of any kind. We've all had the experience of involuntarily doing the heavy lifting, and we all can agree it sucks; why are people falling for it now with such vehemence?

It can't be the recession, because our grandparents win that contest of financial hardship. Perhaps it is that the lie has become more believable, now that we live in a world where companies have more rights than humans enjoy. I'll let Jon Stewart explain:

We're all just grist in TurdCom Inc.'s mill, in other words. The company's rights override all others. As far as employers are concerned, workers should waive their right to ask for compensation that the law "guarantees" them--did you know that 75 percent of employers in California break the law by neglecting to pay their workers for overtime?--because it impedes the company's Supreme-Court-awarded right to make money, and the company's rights "win."

Too many workers buy into this and start having aspirations of working their way up through the company's ranks, riding the Gold-Plated-Turd-Train into Big-Money-Station; best way to do that they figure is to kiss ass, work extra hours for no extra pay (often just to keep up with their heavy workloads), and stay docile. Besides, complaints about working conditions are anti-"team" (i.e. "anti-company") and thus subject to punishment; too many complaints, and a worker gets furloughed, has hours cut, is reduced to part-time status, or is replaced.

This is even worse than where we started. Our GREAT-grandparents got paid 60 hours' wages for 60 hours' work; meanwhile, the workers at 75 percent of California's workplaces work 60 hours and get paid for 40. Welcome to 2010, everybody.

Hey, Boss! Got too many employees qualifying for full-time benefits? Fire them all, and hire twice as many part-timers with zero benefits to replace them. Better yet, hire a "temp" from an agency to work for you permanently--no benefits AND no promotions, guaranteed. Best of all, ship all your jobs to someplace like India where workers can live in your factory like this:

Heck! If they live there, you'll never have to pay them overtime! Problem solved!

According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, only 12.3% of American workers (11.3% of female workers) in 2009 were represented by a labor union; I figure that makes my being a lesbian union maid especially rare. I would like to say that none of this applies to the labor union world, but I can't. Where the union worker of 1933 stared down hired guns (and occasionally lost to them) to defend the right to a fair wage, union workers today toil furiously for nothing, disillusioned by labor leaders who work hand-in-hand with management in propagating (and propagandizing) the "coalition" mentality and fearful of becoming the next ex-TurdCom former employee battling to find even part-time employment.

That being said, strong unions could win the new fight for the 40-hour work week just as they did the old one; whether or not working- (or even middle-) class Americans can (or even want to) organize themselves well enough to take on such an endeavor remains uncertain. My own union puts into practice every day that jobs not only can be protected but made better, yet the successes we achieve are possible only with formidable and vigilant effort (and a good measure of unpleasantness between managers and union personnel). Until America's workers quit empathizing with the glorified pimps running her businesses today, this codependent abuse of her working people will continue. As The Boss likes to call it, that's "teamwork."

Lesbian Fan Fiction: Starring You

2010-03-15T00:14:00.000-07:00

Reflections on Deflection

-by Jianda

Remember the Margaret Cho routine where the lesbian couple's on an Olivia Cruise? "Were you checking out…her, or her, or her, or her…?" Drama happens. Femmes can have an aggro-crisis, and our butchies and transbrothers can reveal to us the softest hearts. Postmodern label-less women might get tweaked if you do give them a label or a pronoun--accidentally, or otherwise. And Girl, I don’t even have the time or space to talk about U-Hauls.

Any way you serve it up, lesbians are emo creatures. Doesn't matter how many butch-like stripes you're rocking on your uniform. Sapphic sistahs can bust some emo-screamo moves.

Emotions unfold our learning, and our beauty. Louise Hay's always said, "No, it isn't a crappy day, or a drab day, it's just a wet day…" in reference to rain. The same holds true for the raining of our emotions.

Still, women get a bad rap for carrying all the emotions. Even men, be they gay or straight, are in a constant dialogue with fully embracing the femininity of emotionality, or bastardizing it. I don’t know if it's Eve's fault, or who started it, but Honey, it's time to shut those false impressions down. Carrying children is not a curse, and we don't have to be the poster-girls for carrying the emotional weight of the world (or spending a lifetime denying that we do...to others). The nature of humanity is to feel our feelings fully, and denial of that only leads to--ironically--more and more extreme dramatics, and fallout.

Frankly M'Dears, I love it. I wouldn’t have it any other way. I think the phrase Dyke Drama is damning and overrated, ranking right up there with "lesbian bed death." Mind and Spirit is powerful, and if you make it a reality, prepare for the story you create to play out before you. By your speaking it into existence, you're creating it by your own powerful hand.

Write for Your Life

If you're going to create or believe in drama in any kind of pejorative sense, if you're going to be bothered or burdened by either your own emotions, or your partner's or your friends', there is an escape: lesbian fan fiction. Only this time, make it have to do with you.

Fictionalize it: break the back of its power, its hold over you, by birthing something else. Representation metabolizes it into something else, something new, and something outside of what you think you know about the situation.

Creation of art, any sort of expression, is made to be such an abstract thing. Immediately we have to "write convincingly," fashion an amazing piece of art, take dazzling photos, record something we can automatically sell, assigning value to our utterances and art-babies before they've even seen an hour of sun.

I say scrap all that and fuck what you heard. Just fingerpaint. Just get tribal with it. Write freestyle, draw freehand, film a rant (YouTube posting not recommended, unless you're an Ani Difranco'ian grrl), and make it really real.

This is not a Get out of Jail Free card to unleash your theater of anger and ugly to whoever's within yelling distance. You've got your big girl pants on, and have a healthy amount of home training by now, yes? If that's up for debate, there's still a way for you to gauge your proximity to the red zone. If you don’t know, Child, you better ask somebody.

Emotion is a gift, a barometer. It's an arrow to your bow. Even the misuse and the scandalous abuse of it can teach you so much. So long as you're safe and not physically harming yourself or anyone else on the receiving end of it, a healthy and honest expression can lead you to love, light, life, and relief--if you let it.

As-Is Emo/Creativity Resources:

ButchVoices.com

TheWayoftheHappyWoman.com

Lisa-Nichols.com

OnlineAlano.org

LouiseHay.com

QueerSpiritualSpaces.com

Trans-Spirits.org

About Jianda

A health-conscious artist, musician, vocalist published writer, Jianda’s a lifelong learner and Spiritual Creativity practitioner, currently developing a Massage Therapy business. She's performed at a wealth of LGBTQ prides and events, and has volunteered for several LGBTQ organizations. Supportive of lesbigaytrans issues and community concerns, she plans to tailor her MT practice around facilitating healing in our community, for PTSD and abuse survivors, transgender individuals, LGBTQ people, full-figured folks and communities, and individuals with a particular need for a keen sensitivity and an open, conscious space of recovery. She advocates freedom of expression and growth for all, at all times. You can find her projects at www.Jianda.net and SunMoonHealingHeart.com, and you can reach her by clicking here.

Good, Inexpensive Date Ideas For Two 17-Year-Old Lesbians

2010-03-09T14:25:00.000-08:00

By Kaylee Larson from lesbianlovenow.com

The teen years are incredibly difficult for everyone, especially when it comes to dating. This is even truer for young lesbians, particularly if they aren’t completely ready to come out to their friends and families just yet, or are still confused about their sexuality. So, how can two 17-year-old lesbians enjoy an inexpensive night out, especially if they haven’t told anyone about their relationship?

If you are a teenager, you probably either get money through an after-school job, or you rely on the allowance your parents give you. So, needless to say, you probably don’t have much to spend. There are, however, still all kinds of things that you can do to have a fun and romantic date, and it doesn’t have to cost much at all.

If you go to dinner, that can be expensive, and you may risk being discovered, but there are still ways you can enjoy a romantic meal together. Why not pack a nice picnic lunch, complete with a blanket and nice wine glasses (remember, you’re underage, so no actual wine)? Take a romantic walk through a nice wooded location, and sit by a river or brook and have your meal as you talk and enjoy each other’s company.

Enjoy the time that you are spending alone together. If it’s nice out, take a swim. Or, when you have finished your meal, talk to each other about your dreams and aspirations. This is a great way to get to know each other. If either of you has a driver’s license, a nice drive in the country always makes for a pleasant afternoon date. And you can always stop somewhere for your picnic.

Or, why not find some sort of hobby or activity that you both really enjoy, and make this something that you do together. Take some classes together, or just hang out at the mall and go window shopping. Or, if you are both into working out, schedule workout dates together, either at a local health club, or in one of your homes. If the two of you are really serious about each other, everything you do together will seem like you are on a date. Use your imagination, and you are sure to have a terrific time!

Lesbian Rock n Roll Meets the Arts!!

2010-03-08T07:00:00.000-08:00

Annie Parkhurst's Cut&Paste Rock&Roll

Cut&Paste Rock&Roll is a celebration of music and art supporting queer culture and creativity within LGBTQIA community within Southern California. Currently this is a grassroots DIY organization however we are working on obtaining an official 501(c)(3) status for The AMP Organization which eventually will be responsible for CPRR and other queer events. The AMP Organization: Art, Music and Philanthropy, was formed in 2010 and will focus on supporting, promoting and empowering the talented people within the LGBTQQIA community. www.amporg.org

The 2nd annual Cut&Paste Rock&Roll was a huge success. We met our fundraising goals for the CPRR Queer Youth Scholarship and we had our biggest turn out yet. Thanks to everyone who donated their talents, time and dedication to making this event and idea come to life. Check out the Flikr stream on the Feb 5th show, hilarious stuff!

I have some exciting news to share with you all!

First, I would like to proudly announce that Sylvia and I are moving forward with the nonprofit 501(c)(3) status for The AMP Organization that will be responsible for Cut&Paste Rock&Roll and other events like it. We will be putting together a board of directors soon and applying for a few grants to help us get on the ground running. I welcome your ideas, suggestion and interest if you'd like to somehow get involved. The AMP will continue the quest of CPRR; Promoting LGBTQQIA creativity, culture & community. We plan on hosting more events in different areas of interest like film and dance, along with workshops, meetups and volunteering opportunities.

Secondly, I have received a great deal of feedback suggesting that CPRR be a more frequent event and not just an annual thing. In hopes of raising money for the startup costs/legal fees for The AMP Organization, CPRR #3 will go down on August 20th 2010. We'll be doing the show from the same venue however I've worked out a plan to host the vendors/artists out in front of the club and clearing out the tables inside giving everyone more room inside along with giving the vendor tables the elbow room they deserve. Below are a couple of items that I could really use your help and input on regarding the upcoming CPRR #3. Let me know if you have any ideas you'd like to share.

#1) Booking bands and artists. Particularly queer ones, however allies are a big focus of mine so I'm open. I want to keep it fresh each year and no re-book people/performers that have played before. If you have any ideas on local artists, bands, performers that you think would want to play, send me their info. See the performer tab on the site for details: http://www.cutandpasterockandroll.com/PERFORMERS.html

#2) Sponsors. If you know of any business/organizations that you think would want to sponsor this event send me contact/links if you have them. There are several levels of sponsorship, and discounts for non-profit like minded organizations. At the bottom of the page here there are more details on what sponsors might be looking for: http://www.cutandpasterockandroll.com/CONTACT.html

#3) Queer Survival Kit goodies. Last year Condom Revolution, Blackheart Records, Queer Control Records, Daisy Rock Guitars, Teen Line, The Trevor Project and several local bands donated goodies to the gift bags. If you know of any businesses, organizations or nonprofits that fall in line with our rockNroll theme and want to support this queer event, send me your suggestions and contacts!

Also, if you have any suggestions or ideas in general, send them over, I'm all ears.
Lets make magic!

High five,
Annie

Annie Parkhurst
Cut&Paste Rock&Roll
5318 E 2nd Street #186
Long Beach, CA 90803
www.cutandpasterockandroll.com
www.twitter.com/cutandpasteRnR

A Celebration of Queer Music, Art and Community since 2008

Book Review: "Voices Of Women Artists" by Wendy Slatkin

2010-02-13T20:06:00.000-08:00

BOOK REVIEW

by Cynthia Rodriguez

"Voices Of Women Artists"

by Wendy Slatkin

Even in today's day and age, unfortunetly, the arts are still a male dominated field. Those bastards. Oh, do I sound bitter? That is because I am. I am a solitary practicing Guerrilla Girl. That's how we do.

I was given this book YEARS ago by an artist friend of mine. She had forewarned me it was more of a textbook. I didn't realize how textbook it was until I recently read it, (which I dragged out, and took me a few months). Disclaimer: this book is for SERIOUS art students, artists, and art aficionados. If you are not, do not even bother. A shame such a fascinating subject that is basically my life wasn't written interestingly enough. Well, not for me, anyways. I believe this is one of the reasons people stop reading after school, be it highschool, college, or whatever. Text books are BORING. Can't text book writers spice it up just a bit? How can you expect to keep students interested and really learn somethin' if they are nodding off on chapter 18 or pressing pause on their reading assignment to log on to Facebook?

After growing up around art all my life, I believe it is just downright shameful that most of the women in this book I had never heard of. Some of them I related to, some I didn't. I'm almost embarrased to say that most of my artistic influences growing up were from mostly male artists. I feel now that may have been different if I had been exposed to more female artists. I think a lot of the turn off was that many of the female artists/art shown to me I considered to be more of the "girly" arts, if that makes any sense. Such things like the fabric arts, quilting, knitting, all that folky stuff which back then I considered to be "not real art". Art that apparently has always been deemed okay for women to do. Of course, today that has changed, and over the years I've developed a true appreciation for all of that and realized the importance of it.

I realize the type of art I'm more known for would be considered stepping into male art territory. There is NO daintiness about my work. This ain't no macrame. (Not that there is anything wrong with that.) It's the rough, raw, brut shit. I'm okay with that. I also notice it's usually more popular with a certain type of female base. Guys are usually alright with it. Those that aren't afraid of it, anyway.

A couple of artshows that were a HUGE influence on me as a woman and an artist were the infamous "Bad Girls" (Part 1 and 2) art exhibits at my favorite museum, the New Museum Of Contemporary Art in New York City. Look it up, and you'll see what I'm talking about. Exhibits like that, and the popularity of artists like Frida Kahlo because of the feature film and such help us tremendously. That is the only major motion picture of a female artist that I can remember.

As women artists, we have definitely come a long way. It's so appalling the bullshit that women went through back in the day just to be artists, to do what they love. Many times while reading the book, I'd find myself yelling out loud, "Geez, just let the woman fucking paint!"

I did learn much about these wonderful artists I read about. That's why with this mixed review, I give it a mixed rating. As a just reading for fun book, I give it two stars. As a text book, I give it three stars.

To focus more on the positive, I'll let the artists from the book do that in their own words. There are MANY great quotes, but here are a couple of my favorite ones:

Janet Scudder, sculptor (1869-1940), arguing with a local politician regarding her rejecting an offer from the city to make a sculpture:

"I won't add to this obsession of male egotism that is ruining every city in the United States with rows of hideous statues of men--men--men--each one uglier than the other- standing, sitting, riding horseback- every one of them pompously convinced that he is decorating the landscape!"

I LOVE that.

Louise Nevelson, sculptor (1889- 1988), on women artists:

"No one has a monopoly on creativity. I never recognized that whoever created humans gave a brain only to one sex or the other. I never recognized that distinction. It seems to me that I was quite sure I was born this way, and I wanted to live my life as I understood it. I was so absorbed into what I was doing, the creative problems, that at the time I wasn't so aware of that kind of prejudice".

This was exactly my mentality growing up.

So yes, we've come a long way, but we still have a long way to go. What else is new, right? Oh well, we just keep trekking along.

Grey's Anatomy: Navigating the Lesbian Landscape of Love, Part 1

2010-02-02T08:13:00.000-08:00

This two-part special on the Lesbians of Grey's Anatomy is brought to you by Lesbiatopia's guest blogger Selin Ildokuz

Callie Torres is an Attending Orthopedic Surgeon at Seattle Grace Mercy West Hospital. She likes to sleep around and not just with anyone, no, with Mc Steamy aka Mark Sloan. She was previously married to George O’Malley and then everyone made fun of her and called her Callie O’Malley. Callie dancing is pretty darn sexy.

Erica Hahn was an attending Cardiothoracic Surgeon at Seattle Grace Hospital. She was a mean person to everyone on the show except Callie, whom she has a thing for as we later found out. We didn’t really know much about her past, just that she was second in her class. (She is not really my cup of tea, if I may say so myself.)

Callie and Erica’s Story:

It all began when Erica and Callie were always hanging out, like they were inseparable. They used to hang out at Callie’s apartment and have a couple of beers and whine and just talk about how their day went. Erica was always mean to young up-coming Cardio God Christina Yang, it was like her favorite hobby and it really angered poor Christina. So she talked to Callie and she got Erica to “soften” up a bit. Not too much but she was still her evil old self. Then Addison Adrianne Forbs Montgomery-Shepherd (that’s a mouth full to say!) who is Callie’s friend from Los Angeles, comes by and starts wondering if Callie is “speaking the Vagina Monologue now?” Callie just looked at her and said “No. I like penis. I am a huge fan of penis.” (So she says for right now). In an episode called “Losing My Mind” Callie and Erica taught Mark Sloan (man whore) into having a threesome. But Mark claims that he was a new man and got up and left. Later in that episode, Callie, Erica and Mark all get in an elevator. (And if I know one thing about Grey’s Anatomy it’s that, that particular elevator must be the slowest elevator in the world). Erica and Callie are still taunting Mark about a threesome and Erica mentions to Mark that he cannot handle a threesome. He argues with her and then Erica kisses Callie on her lips. After kissing Callie, Erica walks out of the elevator and tells Mark he really can’t handle it. Mark tells Callie to meet him in the on-call room in ten minutes and then walks off pissed. Callie (is complete and total shock) then walks out of the elevator and fallows Mark. (Note: On-Call rooms in Grey’s are not used for sleeping). Callie the next day calls Mark her boyfriend and shuts Erica out. Erica tells her that she doesn’t make friends easy but she made friends with Callie, and Callie ends up feeling a little bit bad. In the last episode of season four which is called “Freedom” a patient stuck in cement comes into the hospital. (There are many odd cases on Grey’s this just so happens to be one of them). The boy had laid down in a bed of cement because the girl he likes was watching his every move and he just could not chicken out. (This episode revolves around Callie and how if she wants to be “free” she has to tell Erica how she really feels, and “escape her cement”) At the end of the episode Callie finally confronts Erica and kisses her, and Erica kisses back. This is the beginning of the only regular bisexual/lesbian couple currently on network television. (As stated by on After Ellen)

Callie and Erica soon in an episode called “A Brave New World” (which was for Callie and Erica, now known as Callica) One of my favorite quotes from the series would be from Dr. Miranda Bailey “The va-jay-jay is undiscovered country. It is the mother land. You've never traveled there... You don't know its customs and ways. Now me? I've always wanted to go to Africa. But if I go, I'm going to have to learn a few things first. I'm going to have to prepare. I'll need shots. Bring my own syringes, in case something goes wrong. And I'll wanna know how to get to the embassy.” Another great quote from the episode would be from Callie herself “It's awkward. Because she's a colleague and because she's an attending and because she's a ... she. There's been kissing, but ... no touching and what if I'm not into it? What if I'm horrible at all that stuff... south. I've never been south of the border. With a female. I mean, I've never even been over the ... northern mountains, if you know what I'm saying.” So they have sex and Erica has a revelation! She realizes that she is truly gay.

News of all of this goes up to the big boys in the ABC Company, and soon Brooke Smith is fired from the cast of Grey’s. The last episode that Brooke Smith was working on, I believe to be her best. Callie took the side of one of the doctors in the hospital over a matter that happened about 2 years ago. (Don’t kill me if my time line is messed up!) Erica got mad that Callie and the rest of the staff at Seattle Grace was coving for her. She yelled at poor Callie and said that she had no idea who Callie was and stormed off into the parking-lot-of-doom. (There is this hole back-story to Grey’s about how they can’t keep a single Cardio surgeon and with Erica gone that makes the count to 2).

(The reason Brooke Smith got fired was “not because she was a lesbian” but because “there was no chemistry between Erica and Callie. I believe this to be false, but that’s just me and I can actually think like a writer on Grey’s. I believe she got fired because she was playing a lesbian role, now I didn’t really like Brooke’s acting as the lesbian, but I liked her better as the bitch that everyone hated. But I mean if word came down from the heads of ABC to fire her, no questions were asked, but everyone knew semi-why.)

Callie is completely crushed until, well until Sadie comes along. Sadie is a natural flirt and she is very annoying and odd. But I suppose everyone has a place. Callie believes that she is falling for Sadie and she soon realizes that she was only replacing the hole in her heart and not actually letting it heal. Sadie gets fired because she has no idea how to be a doctor, or how to actually save people’s lives. She leaves and we are once again left with one lesbian. (Sad I know but its get waaaaay better!)

Arizona Robbins played by Jessica Capshaw Picture below:

She is the head of Pediatric surgery at Seattle Grace Hospital. She is kind of like a child herself. She wears roller shoes and is super perky. And I mean SUPER! She is also pretty hot (if I do say so myself). She has her down moments and sometimes ends up crying. Her personality is “quirky.” She replaced another doctor who died of a heart attack. During Arizona’s residency she was chief resident. She wears a pink scrub cap to appeal to her little patients.

Stay tuned for Part 2 of "Navigating the Lesbian Landscape of Love" with Callie and Arizona’s story...

LT Music Feature: Listen Up: Florence + the Machine

2010-01-13T07:00:00.000-08:00

One of the best shows I saw in 2009 was Florence and the Machine. London born, Florence Welch, presented her album "Lungs" with astonishing vocals and dynamic melodies that left me in awe. Similar to Cat Power, Adele or even Feist bringing the beauty of raw singer/songwriter heart to the table, she has tricks up her sleeve that will make you sway back and forth one minute and jump up and down the next. It's not everyday you get the opportunity to absorb such superlative and authentic talent such as hers weather it's live or through your speakers. I highly recommend "Lungs" by Florence and the Machine.

Movie Alert: Julianne Moore and Amanda Seyfried Lock Lips Cougar-Style in 'Chloe'

2010-01-12T09:51:00.000-08:00

Chloe is the remake of the French 2004 thriller Nathalie directed by Anne Fontaine starring Gerard Depardieu, Fanny Ardant, Emmanuelle Beart. Egoyans Chloe stars Julianne Moore, Liam Neeson and Amanda Seyfried.

Meet Catherine (Julianne Moore) and David (Liam Neeson). She's a doctor, he's a professor, and both are, at first glance, the perfect couple. Happily married with a talented teenage son, they appear to have an idyllic life. But when David misses a flight and his surprise birthday party, Catherine's long simmering suspicions rise to the surface. Suspecting infidelity, she decides to hire an escort, Chloe (Amanda Seyfried) to seduce her husband and test his loyalty. Catherine finds herself 'directing' Chloe's encounters with David, and Chloe's end of the bargain is to report back, the descriptions becoming increasingly graphic as the meetings multiply.

For those of you who have always played out the Cougar fantasy in your head (or in real life) then you know the hotness involved in the whole "older woman meets younger woman" scenerio. Remember the 2006 release of the movie"Loving Annabelle"? I'm pretty sure there are women out there who are still drooling over that one. If you liked that, then chances are you will be interested in Chloe, being release by the The Montecito Picture Company on March 19, 2010.

SIDEBAR: I've been a fan of Amanda Seyfried since Mamma Mia and then became more of a fan after that luscious kissing scene between Megan Fox and Amanda Seyfriend in Jennifer's Body. In case you missed it, I have graciously shared with you the delicious enticing kiss scene from Jennifer's Body. I have two words for you: CLOSE UP.

At first glance, Chloe looks like a typical romantic thriller involving a femme fatale and a married man with disastrous consequences. And I am perfectly fine with that, but after watching the trailer, lesbians and bi-curious straight women everywhere will be in shock at the glimpse of what seems to be a hot lesbian cougar twist thrown into the movie. It should come as no surprise that it is based on a french movie and if anyone knows anything about hot steamy sex and passion, it's the french. Here's the trailer, we hope you enjoy it as much as we did and would love to hear your thoughts on it.

Engaged volunteers needed!

2010-01-11T10:37:00.000-08:00

Engaged volunteers needed!

I am looking for volunteers for a study of attitudes towards marriage and parenthood among engaged couples. The study consists of a 25-30 minute online survey. To qualify for the study, you must be 20-35 years old, live in the U.S., and plan to marry or have a commitment ceremony within the next 365 days. You and your romantic partner must not have children, and this must be the first marriage for both of you.

You can:

-Help a doctoral candidate;

-Increase the pool of scientific knowledge;

-Support research on marriage and families; and

-Spend some time thinking about your relationship!

I am working with Dr. Charlotte J. Patterson, a Professor of Psychology at the University of Virginia. This study has been approved by the University of Virginia Institutional Review Board #2009025800.

If you and/or your romantic partner are interested in participating or want further information, please email me at survey.couples@gmail.com. I will send you a link that you can use to access the study.

Thanks!

Cristina Reitz-Krueger
Doctoral Student
University of Virginia
(434) 243-8558
survey.couples@gmail.com

The Trevor Project Announces The Palette Fund Internship Program for Youth Leaders

2009-12-10T11:43:00.000-08:00

Internship program provides leadership development for young lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) advocates

LOS ANGELES (Dec. 10, 2009) – The Trevor Project, the leading national organization focused on crisis and suicide prevention efforts among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) youth, is proud to announce the launch of The Palette Fund Internship Program. Made possible by a $25,000 grant from The Palette Fund, a philanthropic organization that honors the legacy of Rand Harlan Skolnick through collaborative grantmaking and programs that value human rights and education, this innovative program is designed to provide annual internships to LGBTQ youth who are interested in pursuing a career in the LGBTQ movement.

The Palette Fund Internship Program provides the opportunity for up to five young people to work in the development, communications and program departments at The Trevor Project. The interns will play important roles in the organization’s day-to-day operations, and the program will provide them with leadership development as tomorrow’s LGBTQ leaders. As the need for The Trevor Project’s programs and services continues to grow, interns play an integral role in supporting the lifesaving work of the organization.

“Investing in youth is a top priority for The Trevor Project, and part of this means providing a training ground for young people to develop the skills they need to succeed in future leadership positions at non-profit organizations,” said Charles Robbins, executive director and CEO, The Trevor Project. “Today’s youthful generation is full of many talented, passionate LGBTQ advocates, and we are committed to empowering them to become confident and successful leaders in the movement.”

“Encouraging the next generation of leaders in the LGBTQ movement is important, and The Palette Fund is proud to support The Trevor Project as it provides unique opportunities for young people to gain professional experience while serving the community,” said Terrence Meck, executive director, The Palette Fund. “We are confident that many capable young leaders will emerge as a result of The Palette Fund Internship Program.”

The Trevor Project will recruit a diverse pool of intern applicants, paying special attention to ensuring diversity in gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation and gender identity among its intern class. Interns will work at The Trevor Project’s national headquarters in West Hollywood, Calif. and at its Randy Stone East Coast Call Center in New York, NY.

Current interns at The Trevor Project include: Wing-Sum Doud (development), Rene Melara (program), KB Perry (communications) and Genevieve Sublette (program). These interns will be sustained through The Palette Fund Internship Program.

About The Trevor Project

The Trevor Project is the leading national organization focused on crisis and suicide prevention efforts among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. Every day, The Trevor Project saves young lives through its free and confidential helpline, in-school workshops, educational materials, online resources and advocacy. The organization was founded in 1998 by three filmmakers whose film, “Trevor,” a comedy/drama about a gay teenager who attempts suicide, received the 1994 Academy Award® for Best Short Film (Live Action). For more information, visit TheTrevorProject.org.

About The Palette Fund

The Palette Fund honors the legacy of Rand Harlan Skolnick through collaborative grantmaking and programs that value human rights and education. Specifically, the foundation is focused on four health and/or social issues: the role of nutrition in healthcare and cancer, LGBT youth, HIV/AIDS and patient navigation. Rand committed his heart and soul to his philanthropic work throughout his life, and The Palette Fund seeks to continue and grow his pioneering vision. More information can be found at ThePaletteFund.org.

Double Book/Film Review: "Push" and "Precious"

2009-12-06T16:14:00.000-08:00

BOOK REVIEW

BY CYNTHIA RODRIGUEZ

"PUSH"

by Sapphire
This short but disturbing read will burn a hole through your heart. The poet Sapphire's debut novel has been hailed as a modern day "The Color Purple". This is not just another kid from the ghetto story. It is a heartwrenching book that covers a multitude of issues that must be paid attention to such as child abuse, teen pregnancy, AIDS, racism, obesity, (just to name a few), and a fucked up social system that allows certain individuals to fall through the cracks, and a dysfunctional, enabling society that turns a blind eye to their own people.

The story revolves around, and is semi-illiterally narrated by sixteen year old Claireece Precious Jones, a Harlem teen in the 80's. One, who has thus far survived some horrific things, in the hands of her extremely scumbag father, and her unbelievably cruel mother. Every unspeakable, disgusting, physical, sexual, and emotional abuse from the two people in her life that are supposed to be there for her to love her, protect, and defend her. Yes, the book is painfully graphic, and at times I felt sick to my stomach and had to put it down temporarily to recover from certain parts.

Being that almost the ENTIRE book was written phonetically, it takes a little getting used to in the beginning. I think it was a brilliant touch though, and did not take anything away from the novel for me. I believe it takes skills for someone to do that. It's like an opera singer attempting to sing bad on purpose for a certain role.

In spite of her colossal obstacle course, you can see that little, itty, bitty light at the end of the tunnel that is her spirit trying to fight and break free from the life she was born into, and take control of her own destiny.

I have to say, also while reading this and pondering the monstrosity of the hand this young person has been dealt and somewhat overcomes, I thought to myself a few times, "Oh my God, I woulda hung myself right about now". I know that sounds terrible, but just being honest. Goes to show ya', while the rest of us are being whiny, little bitches about the holidays or some other pathetic crap, they are PLENTY of people out there coping with some serious, horrendous shit.

This is the type of thing that makes people want to get into social work. Oh wait, I already do that. As tough and intense as it may be, I think I'll keeping doing it.

MOVIE REVIEW

BY CYNTHIA RODRIGUEZ

"PRECIOUS"

DIRECTED BY LEE DANIELS

PRODUCED BY OPRAH WINFREY AND TYLER PERRY

This film was as painful to watch as the book was to read. This heartbreaking interpretation on screen was right on. Of course, they had to lighten it a bit for a general audience that would be more likely to see the story in movie form than would actually read it.

I'm not at all surprised that Oprah backed this film, especially since she starred in the classic, "The Color Purple" back in the day.

I was surprised however by the outstanding performances by quite a few in the film that I would have never expected such hard hitting presentations of the characters from the book. I guarantee you'll see these people again around Oscar time. If we don't, it would be criminal.

Newcomer Gabourey "Gabby" Sidibe is truly believable as the movie's main character Precious Jones. So young and talented. I can see her doing a lot in the future as long as she doesn't get pigeon holed into stereotypical roles, which unfortunetly happens with such breakout roles such as these.

Comedian Mo'nique. Wow. Like you've never seen her before. She plays a very convincing and disturbing portrayal of the truly fucked up, repulsive mom. By the end of the movie, no, mid movie, shoot, the beginning of the movie, you just wanna reach out into the screen and beat her down.

Mariah Carey. I didn't even recognize her in the trailers. Holy shit. Not a HUGE part in the film as the social worker, but a very powerful performance. She definitely redeemed herself after "Glitter".

Paula Patton as Ms. Rain, the alternative school's teacher and Precious' savior is such a gem in this film. You cannot, NOT fall in love with her character. And did I mention, she also plays a LESBIAN? Hot. Not that, that is necessarily pertinent to the story or this review, but afterall, this IS Lesbiatopia so...

Moving right along, last but not least, Lenny Kravitz. Hot little singer with the nice butt, who woulda thunk it? Playing a small but important role as Precious' nurse, he's deep, and very sweet. Enough to make straight women swoon over him as much as they do over his music videos.

You can see "The Princess & The Frog" all over the place, but a future classic like this? You have to either go out of town or get a hold of a freakin' bootleg to experience it? That's some bullshit.

However you can see it, see it. It'll hit you hard and make you think. Long after any Disney song you get stuck in your head.

Artist Spotlight: Heather Connell & Her Award Winning Documentary Film 'Small Voices'

2009-11-30T11:54:00.001-08:00

I meet a lot of interesting people in LA, especially filmmakers, writers, actors and aspiring artists of all types. I love hearing their stories of inspiration, perspiration and the incredible amount of drive that lives in all of us to accomplish our hopes and dreams.

Recently, I was lucky to meet one woman, Heather Connell, who hails from a small town in Massachusetts, not far from where I grew up myself. Heather moved to LA a few years back in hopes of following one of her biggest passions: making documentary films that deal with social issues. Heather, a go-getter to say the least, wasted no time in putting her dreams into motion. In 2006 she began the initial stages of filming her very first documentary about a subject she is very passionate about: the lives of children in third world countries.

Please take a moment and read the incredible story of how "Small Voices: The Stories of Cambodia's Children" was born, written by producer/director Heather Connell (originally published in IT Magazine).

And if you're interested in purchasing a copy of the DVD, being released this week, you can visit http://www.smallvoicesmovie.com/. Please support amazing lesbian artists!

"Small Voices: The Stories of Cambodia's Children" by Heather Connell

It was well over 100 degrees with 100% humidity the morning I arrived in Phnom Penh, Cambodia in early March of 2006. Despite the fact my photographer Theresa and I had just spent a VERY long 24 hours of travel time crammed into the most decrepit airplane ever -- I was feeling energized. After a year's worth of pre-production, I was finally ready to begin filming on my documentary Small Voices: The Stories Of Cambodia's Children, an in depth examination of the struggles of the street and garbage dump children who live and work in a society that has largely forgotten them.

I couldn't wait to get started -- as we took a taxi to our hotel on the Tonle Sap River, I begin planning how I would find the street children. Where did they hang out? What part of the city did they live and beg? I decided I would spend that first day speaking to people and finding where these children were so I could begin my work. First, I decided to walk from our hotel to a nearby store to buy some bottled water. In those three dusty, grimy blocks, children and beggars besieged me. A sickly woman with a naked baby held her hand out from where she sat looking up at me from the curb. Poverty was everywhere and I'd only gone three blocks. I realized I didn't have to search for what I was looking for. All I had to do was open my eyes. I have since realized that this is a concept we should all pay more attention too. If we all take the time to just open our eyes to what is going on in the world around us and in our own backyard, what a difference we could make.

FINDING MY WAY TO CAMBODIA
How I found myself in Cambodia to begin with was a journey in itself that was much longer than a year in the making. I had moved to Los Angeles eight years ago with vague ideas of finding fame and fortune as a storyteller. Shortly after I arrived, the writer's guild went on strike and I began looking for other ways to stay creative. Without having the first clue about what I was doing, I decided to make a short film. While the film wasn't exactly a masterpiece, I become hooked on the idea of using visual media to raise awareness. Our collective attention span as a society is fairly short and the idea that film could be used a way to excite people about social issues and social awareness was very compelling. I founded Displaced Yankee Productions with that basic principal as a platform.

Several years later, I had grown quite a bit as a filmmaker and felt I was ready to expand my horizons beyond short film and branch into features. Documentary storytelling -- about real lives and events -- was a natural progression for me. There are literally thousands of stories just waiting to be told. I needed to find a niche that matched my passions. Children's issues have always been something that I have connected with on a personal level. How the crises of poverty, health care, environment and education affect our children globally is of high importance to me. I was also interested in countries that had recently suffered genocides and how that had effected the subsequent generation of children. Cambodia was on a short list, but Darfur was top of my list. Then fate stepped in and planted me firmly on the path toward Cambodia.

I attended the premiere of The Hotel Rwanda and found myself at the typical Hollywood after party face to face with Angelina Jolie. Anyone in the industry knows, you only get these kinds of opportunities once. I knew she was passionate about the issues in Cambodia, so the writer in me took over and I pitched her out of thin air on the Cambodian documentary I was already working on. The next morning, with her contact information in hand, I was frantically writing a proposal for my "current" project. While she ultimately did not become involved with the film, as soon as I really started to dive into the issues, I found my passion for it. I realized how off the map Cambodia was for most people. I would talk about my project with strangers and friends alike and many of them didn't even know Cambodia has suffered genocide or that is was in Southeast Asia. Often, people would tell me how wonderful it was I was going to Africa. In fact, most of them only knew that Tomb Raider had been filmed there. I realized I had found a story that needed to be told.

WHAT GOOD ARE MY GOOD INTENTIONS?
A year later, I was wondering if I had taken on more than I could handle emotionally. I had been there less then a day and was already overwhelmed by the problems. Worn down and hungry, Theresa and I had collapsed into chairs at an outdoor restaurant to rest and refuel. The food was wonderful, but it was hard keeping our appetites and our composure when confronted by the scores of hungry children trying to catch our eye. What do you do? Guilt, sadness, and anger over the situation...then a boy of about eight appeared next to me. He didn't want to be seen by the police lingering near the entrance, so he squatted down between two large potted plants next to my chair and looked up at us with big sad eyes. He pointed to my plate and then to his mouth, pleading. I didn't know the words, but I understood the language. It was heartbreaking. I palmed some vegetables into his hand and he shoved them into his mouth and scampered off. Theresa and I looked at our plates of food and wanted none of it. We continued to pick away. I was distracted and frustrated. Faced with something like that, how much difference does all my good intentions make? How much change can I really effect and does it really help? Certainly that boy cared nothing for documentaries. All he wanted was a bite to eat. It gave me a lot to think about.

Several days later, I found myself at Stung Meanchy, the city's garbage dump. I thought I was prepared for this. I really did. After all, I have read about it, heard about it, even seen pictures of it. This is why I'm here. But I was utterly unprepared for the reality of the dump.

A heavy haze of smoke hung over acres upon acres of smoldering garbage. The landfill was enormous, stretching as far as the eye could see. Hundreds of people are picking through the refuse. The sting of the smoke in our eyes is nothing compared to the rotting, cloying smell. Standing in the dump are make-shift shelters -- homes -- for these desperately poor people. The conditions are not fit for any human being, let alone for children. Dozens and dozens and dozens of them. While some thankfully wore rubber boots, others were barefoot. Massive dump trucks and backhoes moved with surprising speed through the throngs of people, digging and dumping piles of fresh garbage. The children worked diligently and for the most part, silently. A new truck means new opportunity and as soon as one appears, everyone crowds for it -- so close it is easy to see how someone could be run over or buried in the rubble. I didn't know where to focus. The flies swarmed around me and the smoke filled my eyes. I tried not to breathe. There is another child picking through molded and rotten food. There is one wrapping himself in a piece of old carpet he has hooked out of the pile. An intelligent young man who spoke excellent English struck up a conversation with Theresa. He wanted to know if she knows why they are here, why they live and work here and where they come from. He was the picture of lost potential. Given just a fraction of an opportunity, imagine what these kids could accomplish or do.

A CHILD DOES NOT KNOW THEY ARE A DROP IN THE BUCKET
I knew in that moment that I would do whatever it took to see this project through and raise up the voices of children like that young man in the dump. Over the course of three years as I struggled with finding the resources and the emotional toll of making the project -- and the guilt of my own privilege, I would think of the children I had met, their quiet struggle and innate goodness while facing a bleak and uncertain future -- and I would be reinvigorated. The challenges I face would suddenly seem insignificant and trite when compared to the life of a boy in the dump who buries dead babies he finds to pay them respect. It really puts things in perspective.

Cambodia continues to be one of the poorest countries in Asia, with nearly half of the population under the age of 18. Only 1.2% of the population goes on to achieve higher education. There is a growing health crisis, with Hepatitis A & B spreading at an alarming rate. With no access to education, clean water and health care, the situation for the street and garbage children of Cambodia can seem overwhelming and bleak. But in the course of this project, I have come to realize that it is impossible as an individual to change the big picture. However, the changes we can effect on an individual level will be the catalyst that turns the tide.

It is often difficult to watch documentaries like Small Voices and
walk away without wanting to do something. But often the problems
seem so overpowering; it is an easy excuse for us to do nothing,
thinking that it will not actually make a difference. But a child
does not know they are a drop in the bucket. Whether that
child in need is in Cambodia, Africa, or East Los Angeles - our
obligation is the same. All we need to do is open our eyes.

Heather's film won multiple festival awards, and is now available on DVD, order yours today!

(original article can be read here)

Movie Review: Paranormal Activity

2009-10-31T09:26:00.000-07:00

HORROR MOVIE REVIEW

by Cynthia Rodriguez

HAPPY HALLOWEEN my fellow Lesbiatopians (and allies & friends of Lesbiatopians)! And HAPPY SAMHAIN to my fellow Wiccan Lesbiatopians! I figure since a lot of Lesbians have a tendency towards paganism beliefs as much as vegetarianism and Doc Martens I thought the spiritual shout-out would be appropriate.

To celebrate this glorious and much misunderstood holiday I thought it would be loads of fun to kick off my favorite day of the year by dipping my toes into the bloody pool of HORROR MOVIE REVIEWING.

Yes, girls and ghouls, consider this my official, on-line debut of the creepy, spooky, scary, heebie-jeebie world of horror films. My favorite genre of movies. Well, that and porn, but I will get to that at another time. I realize not everyone is a fan. For those of you who pretty much abhor horror films, please skip to the next blog. Just for the record, I have done a horror movie review once, years ago for a local paper who asked me to do that, it came out pretty decent so I thought, "what the hell?, I'll do it again..." So here goes...

"PARANORMAL ACTIVITY"

Directed by Oren Peli

No one can deny this little mockumentary horror movie that could. This over hyped film with it's 7 day shoot and $15,000 budget with no name actors (that use their real names in the film) and first time director with no formal training has thrown the country into an insomnia frenzy.

I went to see this a couple of weeks ago with two friends of mine. Their very different reactions to the film was probably the most entertaining part for me. One practically cackled with laughter through most of the film, the other I believed would have missed half of the movie if I weren't there to constantly nudge her to open her eyes, covering her face with her jacket. That's when she stopped holding the popcorn for us and held up her apparel like a shield. Of course, afterwards, the one who covered her eyes claimed the movie was only "20% scary", although she admitted to not be able to sleep for three days. The other one who had the attack of the giggles, apparently had some issues sleeping that night as well. It is a well known fact that laughter is a common coping mechanism when people watch scary movies. It helps them deal. As for myself, fortunetly when I turned off my light at night when I went to bed, I probably thought about it all for a few seconds until my head hit the pillow, then I slept like a rock. I must confess though, I did make sure my blanket covered my feet...

I didn't know much about "Paranormal Activity" when I went to see it, and it wasn't exactly on my "must see" list for the Fall. It's been 10 years since we've ALL been gipped by the hype of a low budget, "is it real? is it real??", home movie style fright flick where the camera work makes you a bit dizzy. Yes, it IS the new Blair Witch Project. And yes, I was one of the many idiots who thought the Blair Witch Project was real, until I saw the actors on MTV. I even bought a book about it, and was even planning a trip to Burkittsville, Maryland. I'm glad I didn't go. The "scariest" things I probably would have encountered would have been a bunch of local teenagers playing pranks on tourists, and bumping into campers having unprotected sex and smoking pot in the woods. So they got me with that one, but I wasn't gonna fall for it THIS time, no sir.

Except for a brief special appearance by a paranormal expert, the movie is basically a cast of two, three if you include the "demon spirit". It follows the couple's few weeks adventure in trying to figure out all the "WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT?" noises and strange goings-on in their abode. Armed only with their home video camera, we get in inside glimpse of the spirit's constant shenanigans against the freaked out couple. Things escalate overall affecting the couple's relationship and way of life in general.

The suspense, the waiting for something to happen, the it's too quiet kind of feeling then wham, bam, a door slams is what gets you. Also knowing that these types of experiences really do happen to people, that it's not impossible, also creeps people out. I have personally experienced paranormal activity myself. I'm a believer.

It was a little funny, too. The smart-ass male character Micah Sloat mostly brings the comic relief to the film while it's mostly the female in the film, Katie Featherston dealing with the brunt of the spiritual harrasment. Well, kinda.

Apparently, there are some alternate endings floating around on-line. I read about them, but I have yet to see them. I'm sure they will be included in the special features section of the DVD which will probably be out by Christmas. I'm sure it will include that and most likely some type of commentary by some famous psychics or ghost hunters or something ...

Props to the Director Oren Peli for not giving up on his little film that was actually released two years ago. I wish I could create something like this and make mega bucks out of it.

I've also heard rumors of, of course, a sequel. Paranormal Activity 2. Just like with Blair Witch Project 2. They gotta get greedy about it and fuck it up.

I have to share quick a couple of lines from other (mixed) reviews I read about it I thought were really good (from two different sources):

"...half the time I was hoping that it would kill the couple and move to a house with better actors..."

"Will this movie make you afraid to go to sleep , or put you to sleep?"

Classic.

Love it or hate it, everybody knows this will become a cult classic, and the actors will probably end up signing autographs at horror movie festivals.

Lesbian Book Review: "When Women Were Warriors" by Catherine Wilson

2009-09-28T06:11:00.000-07:00

LESBIAN BOOK REVIEW

by Cynthia Rodriguez

"When Women Were Warriors"
Book 1
The Warrior's Path

by Catherine Wilson

Women warriors kick ass. And besides, what is hotter than that? Be it the modern day ones, back in the day ones, all of them. The Amazons, the Suffragettes, all the Charlie's Angels, whatever. Myself being a "Vagina Warrior"/ "Warrior For Choice", I should know.

It took me a few chapters to get into this because the first thing is that these fantasy like in that time period pieces usually aren't my type of genre, however, I am pretty much open to all categories of books, so it's all good . Second, I was still in the high of the last book I had read which was pretty life changing for me. Of course, neither of these factors are certainly no fault of the author. They are my own issues which I have no problem admitting.

In spite of all of that, I did enjoy "Book 1", and look forward to the next two. Without giving anything away, I would like to point out of few things that really got my attention in a good way...

I really liked a lot of the characters in this book. Actually, most of them reminded me of my own friends. Strong, independent women. My favorite aspect of the book was the relationship between the main character, Tamra (a warriors's companion, basically meaning personal assistant who eventually turns into a warrior apprentice), and her warrior, Maara. It's like a Xena's Gabrielle narrating the story.

It's a coming of age tale of Tamra's journey from a young girl from an almost royal like family who is placed into the world of women warriors and on the way learns about herself, including her sexuality, her strengths, and loyalties.

At first both reluctant, but then Tamra connects with Maara, the dark, intriguing, warrior with the mysterious past in which an unbreakable bond is formed.

The story telling in the book is pretty cool. I don't think we do enough of that anymore. I consider it a lost art form.

I have to admit, the love scenes in the book were a little too "PC" for me and not enough "Bow chicka bow, bow". Again, those are my own perverted issues. With the novel's particular language those type of love scenes would have been completely inappropriate.

I would also like to put out there certain things in the book that I thought were highlights of it which I noticed were complained about in other's reviews of it, such as:

--- "There's no men in it/ not enough men". : Oh freakin' waah wahh wahh, HELLO, this is why it is found under lesbian books. Excuse my french, but fuck the men. They are in enough books. That's all I have to say about that.

--- "Too much drama and not enough fighting/war" : Which would probably be the case if women ruled the world. Now, is that really a bad thing?

When people are so used to bam, smash, thank you ma'am action in their media, something like this I guess would be a little too mild for them, so it's considered the equivalent of a "chick flick" in book form.

Warriors come in all shapes, colors, and sizes. It's done with a sword...or a pen, a keyboard, or one's voice.

Forget the haters, Catherine. You stay on your warriors path.

Coming Out Day Project from OURsceneTV

2009-09-26T10:29:00.000-07:00

OURsceneTV.com is producing a new video program, OURstories, a collection of coming out stories submitted by the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) public, to commemorate National Coming Out Day on October 11, the internationally-observed day for LGBT visibility.

Using social networks such as Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, as well as its newsletter and website, OURsceneTV has invited its viewers, friends and anyone interested in participating to submit short videos in which the participants will share their own personal coming out experiences. The videos will be complied and presented on the OURsceneTV.com website.

The OURstories' call to action states, "Visibility is one of our most powerful tools for fighting discrimination and ignorance. No two stories are alike, but all are life-changing and important. Whether your coming out story is painful, poignant or just a little peculiar, we want to hear from you. And if you're not out, but ready to take that step, we want to hear from you, too."

OURsceneTV Executive Producer Margaret Pergler said, "Coming out and living openly as gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans person is an act of true bravery. We're asking our viewers and friends to tell us their own coming out stories in the most compelling way possible - in their own words. This isn't a contest, but a collection of the emotional, sometimes amusing, but always inspirational stories of finding ourselves and sharing that truth."

Participants can learn more about the OURstories program, get suggestions on how to record their stories, and upload their videos at: http://www.ourscenetv.com/comingoutproject/index.html

About National Coming Out Day – National Coming Out Day is celebrated each year on October 11 to commemorate the 1987 Lesbian and Gay March on Washington and the first unfurling of the AIDS Quilt on the National Mall.

About OURsceneTV.com – OURsceneTV.com is an online television network featuring all original entertainment news, lifestyle and cultural programming catering to LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender) audiences. It is dedicated to creating dynamic content that truly reflects the diversity and uncompromised perspectives of the LGBT community. Visit www.ourscenetv.com.

Trendy Lesbian Bowling, Hollywood-Style

2009-09-14T11:47:00.000-07:00

It's always funny to click on a random video on the internet only to find out that a bunch of your friends are in it having a blast (as they always seem to do)! Thus is the case when a friend sent me to OursceneTV to check out the latest happenings in the lesbian circuit. Every 3rd Tuesday of the month some fabulous LA lesbians put on "Bender Tuesdays" at Lucky Strike Bowling Alley in Hollywood. What's more fun than drinks, dancing and bowling? I can't think of much!

Check out the video!

To quote OURsceneTV:

Nothing says party like dance tracks, cheap drinks, cute girls and rental shoes.

Los Angeles' Bender Tuesdays' lesbian bowling night at Hollywood & Highland's Lucky Strike is part sports night, part dance party and all for the ladies. In a town known for star sightings and skinny jeans, the coolest gay girls know where to go to let their hair down and get their game on. And what girl doesn't love a sport that lets her to sip a cold one while she plays?

Not only does Bender Tuesdays brings the ladies together each month for some hot competition and $5 cosmos, it's got LA's hottest DJ's and clears the decks for dancing and mingling. This is definitely not your mama's league night – it's the hottest lesbian party in LA!

Photo of the Week: Ellen Page & Drew Barrymore Hotness

2009-09-13T19:05:00.001-07:00

as seen in Marie Claire, October 2009. Meow.

Book Review: "Vincent Van Gogh" by Marc Edo Tralbaut

2009-08-31T14:14:00.000-07:00

BOOK REVIEW

by Cynthia Rodriguez

"VINCENT VAN GOGH"

by Marc Edo Tralbaut

Years ago I was inspired to make a mold of my ear and slap it on a piece of cardboard with a splash of red paint. Thus was my first tribute to Vincent Van Gogh. The overall reaction I recieved was, needless to say, less than enthusiastic and understanding. "That's disgusting!", "What the hell is that?", "What's wrong with you?" This heartwarming response to my sincere gesture to one of my all time favorite art heroes made me truly realize two things: 1- Vincent was right all along, people just don't understand. 2- Everybody's a critic.

Almost a decade ago there was a little used book shop on the main street in town that lasted about eight months. My then girlfriend happened to walk in one day, and stumbled across a huge, studio book on Van Gogh. This book, it turns out, worth over forty bucks, she practically stole it for a mere twelve dollars, and gave it as a gift, to me. Since then, it's been moved around a lot, mostly sitting around my art studio collecting quite a distinct moldy, dusty, basementy, type of scent. For some reason lately, I was moved enough, which I haven't been since MY "ear" incident, to dive once again into the world of Vincent. I knew this time, he would be in my life for good, and there would be no turning back...

This book has to be the most comprehensive book ever written on Van Gogh, and from what I understand Marc Edo Tralbaut is supposed to be the biggest authority on the artist. It was first published in 1969, at a time when certain people in Vincent's life were still alive. Of course, they were all about 100 years old when interviewed by Tralbaut, even still, it's amazing to hear first hand accounts of their stories regarding their interaction with the actual legend.

That combined with a preface written by Van Gogh's own nephew, name sake, and President of the Vincent Van Gogh Foundation makes this a truly unique literary masterpiece that can never be duplicated in any way.

This treasure also contains many other jewels for the hard-core Van Gogh fanatic. Of course, one being a large, studio book it contains tons of great pictures of his work, photographs, sketches, and plenty more illustrating his upbringing and travels. I'm not kidding when I say this book is big. It can probably be registered as a lethal weapon in most states.

Especially from an artist's perspective, as part of the illustrated segment of the book, I found it particularly delightful that they included real photographs of places where Van Gogh placed his easel to paint certain works of art. They position them side by side so you can see the actual locations.

Another plus is all throughout the book, you can read Vincent's own words through his letters to his brother Theo, whom apparently he used as a living journal. You gain a true appreciation of Van Gogh's sister-in-law, Johanna Van Gogh-Bonger and Vincent's nephew for saving and preserving all the correspondence that guides us into who the artist was.

The book takes you on a journey from his childhood to his inevitable final act, and all the beauty he created in between. For two weeks while absorbing his entire life, I dreaded reading the last chapter, knowing what was coming, and experienced my own mourning when I was done.

Many eye opening myth busters are also included, such as about the whole ear thing, about his three kinds of "crazy", among others. He apparently really was one of the most missunderstood of our time.

I've been so touched by this book I've decided to do my first solo art exhibit in almost five years. I'm calling it "Starry Nights In Allentown: A Tribute To Vincent Van Gogh", in which I am creating modern day, urban interpretations of his paintings. This is set for the end of February of 2010.

This "mad man" genius I have accepted as my Guardian Angel. This book has changed my life. Artistically and personally. I've always felt a connection but now more than ever doing my own independent study has really opened up a whole new world for me. It was more than just reading a book, it was a destination.

BONUS BOOK REVIEW

by Cynthia Rodriguez

"THE ESSENTIAL VINCENT VAN GOGH"

by Ingrid Schaffner

Go to your local museum or certain galleries and you'll most likely find at least one of the "Essential" books on some artist. Apparently this series was created some time ago featuring a number of famous artists for people to get their favorite artist in a nut shell.

One of my fellow Book Sluts, (book club friend), lent it to me during our last meeting, seeing that I was still on the high of my Vincent book.

In one night, this book immediately followed my above Van Gogh big book experience so of course it felt like cliff notes for that one. I thought to myself, "Oh, how cute, it's like a 'mini-me' of the one I just read." After lugging the above noted book all over the place, this one was like carrying a little feather around.

For all art fans out there, who would like to know more about your favorites artists but don't necessarily need or want an entire 101 course on them, this series is for you.

What I liked about this particular one on Van Gogh was that it actually includes a few pictures of his work my big book doesn't, which at first I found hard to believe. I've already used it for one of my own pieces.

As I go through more "Essential" books from the series, I'll get into more of it's features that come with each book.

This series is also a good way to know which artist you really relate or connect to, personally or artistically, which can help you decide if you would like to study a particular one further.

You never know. One of these little, portable, books can definitely lead to bigger, and better things later on.

(SIDENOTE: A little announcement. I'll be guest blogging on other sites now as well as being a "regular" here. I'll post which ones they are on my staff profile at Lesbiatopia.)

Top Chef Las Vegas: The Lesbians Du Jour

2009-08-20T15:15:00.000-07:00

For those of you who are foodies like myself, you're probably big fans of Top Chef and have been watching it for years. I mean, one look at Padma Lakshmi, the Top Chef host, and you'll be wiping the corners of your mouth like a diabetic at a candy store.

One of the other great things about Top Chef is their open inclusion of members of hte LGBT community. There has been some sort of gay or lesbian contestant almost every season since the show aired 6 seasons ago. We like that. We like it a lot. This season, Season 6, is no exception to the rule.

Season six of the number 1 food show on cable returned on Wednesday, August 19th at 9 p.m. ET/PT. Top Chef: Las Vegas will pit 17 hopeful chefs from across the country battling it out in the kitchen for $100,000 to invest in their culinary career. Delectable host Padma Lakshmi is back once again alongside the no-holds-barred head judge Tom Colicchio. Food & Wine magazine's Gail Simmons and food critic Toby Young will once again round out the panel of judges this year.

This year, two lesbians will be gracing the screen.

Out lesbian contestant Preeti Mistry, 33, hails from San Francisco, where she works as the Executive Chef for Bon Appétit Management Company at Google headquarters. Google has a reputation for serving insanely amazing food to their employees, so hopes are high Mistry will concoct some culinary masterpieces. Mistry was also educated at the prestigious Le Cordon Bleu in London. Now don't get too excited and start swooning over this one, – she’s been with her partner for thirteen years.

Ashley Merriman, 32, may not lay claim to the same kind of international culinary background as Mistry, but she's worked on both coasts at classy restaurants and learned her craft at the Institute of Culinary Education in New York. Ironically enough, Merriman originates from Center Sandwich, New Hampshire – no really, that’s an actual place. Merriman loves to cook “robust” food and thinks a meal isn’t complete unless you’ve been “beat in the face by a stick of butter.” Plus, she is friggin adorable. How could not love that charmingly warm smile of hers?

Stay tuned for more updates on the fates of the "Lesbian's Du Jour" of Top Chef: Las Vegas.

Your Friendly, Gayborhood Clinic: The Allentown Women's Center

2009-08-15T21:15:00.000-07:00

Your Friendly, Gayborhood Clinic:

The Allentown Women's Center

by Cynthia Rodriguez

It was the best of times. It was the worst of times. It was the beginning of 2005 and the worst of it was that the former "King George the Second" was beginning his second term of office. I had just completed my latest activist adventure "celebrating" this momentous occasion by last minute organizing a rally in front of our town's City Hall for myself and like minded individuals to express our discontent over the matter.

As soon as I was done with that, I knew I needed to move on with another cause to keep my mind off my political depression. I happened to be perusing through the local paper the day after and a particular article caught my eye. The local abortion clinic getting a hard time from the local anti-choice protesters. From the looks of things, it seemed like an on-going thing.

I decided right then and there to "cold-call" the Director, Jennifer Boulanger, which I knew just from reading that article, and see if she'd let me organize an art event as a response to the "anti's" in the community. For a second, I thought to myself, "This is probably gonna sound crazy. She doesn't even know me". However, I didn't let that stop me.

So I called and fortunetly she was there at the moment. I introduced myself over the phone that I was an artist, activist, etc, etc, etc. We clicked immediately. I explained to her what I was interested in doing and she was ALL FOR IT. At one point I exclaimed "Why don't I know you?! and why don't you know ME?!" We promptly set up an appointment to meet and I was on my way.

Thus began a voyage into a whole new world. The best of times being when I stepped foot at the clinic the day of our meeting and started my journey with The Allentown Women's Center...

The following is an interview with the Director, Jennifer Boulanger:

1- How would you describe the clinic's relationship with the gay community?

"I would describe the Allentown Women's Center's relationship with the GLBTQI community as one that is friendly and developing over time. We provide gynecological care to the lesbian and bisexual community and we are in the process of expanding our health care services to include the transgender and intersex communities. We employ GLBTQI individuals and many of our volunteers are also part of the GLBTQI community.

We consider ourselves to be allies with the GLBTQI community as we are both groups that experience oppression in our society and are continuously fighting for basic human rights. We strongly believe in reproductive justice for all human beings, and in order to obtain true reproductive justice, our basic human rights must be met. This includes the right to determine one’s sexuality, the right to determine if and when you will marry, if and when you will have children, and if and when you will have sexual pleasure. Reproductive rights and GLBTQI rights are inherently interconnected - if either groups rights are violated, it will have an impact on the other.

Recently, the National Gay and Lesbian task force has identified Reproductive Justice as an LGBT issue - see http://www.thetaskforce.org/blog/20090601-tfstaff-tiller "

2- How would you describe the clinic's relationship with the gay
community in the past? Has it changed? If yes, how has it changed?

"Our relationship with the GLBTQI community has grown over the years. I think having GLBTQI employees has been a big part of that. It is important for our clinic to reflect who we are reaching out to in our community – this is a basic component of cultural competency.

We participate in more GLBTQI events more than ever before; in the next few years it is our goal to expand health service provision to treat transgender people and increase and expand our knowledge of treating intersex individuals. We want all people needing gynecological services to feel like they can receive healthcare in a confidential, non-judgmental environment.

It is a tragedy when someone feels like they cannot seek health care services for fear of being judged or ridiculed. We want to help break down the barriers for those in the GLBTQI community seeking health care services."

3- What has the Allentown Women's Center done to establish
communications and a connection to the local gay community?

"AWC has participated in many local GLBTQI events, such as the annual Pride in the Park festival in Allentown. We are members of the Pennsylvania Diversity Network and have sponsored their events, and we have collaborated with the Muhlenberg College Gay-Straight Alliance on various projects. Facebook has been a great way to network with individuals in the gay community and keep each other posted on events and issues on a local and national level.

I look up to the local GLBTQI leaders, like Liz Bradbury*, who have worked so hard and faced incredible obstacles in fighting for equal rights, but who has been instrumental in making positive changes in our community. "

4- What are your feelings on same-sex marriage?

"I believe in equal rights for all human beings, which includes the right to choose if, when, and who you will marry. When marriage rights are violated, it opens the door for other human rights violations. It is simply unacceptable."

5- What are your feelings on GLBTQI parents adopting children?

"I have seen some GLBTQI parents provide a better, more stable home life to children than some straight parents. I believe that GLBTQI couples are entitled to the same rights as straight couples in deciding whether or not to have a family."

6- What are your feelings on hate crimes/gay bashing?

"In a civil society, there is no place for any form of discrimination or hate crimes. Hate crimes should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. I believe that there needs to be stronger federal legislation against harassment, intimidation, threats, and violence for both the GLBTQI community, as well as the abortion provider community."

7- Do you think your personal views reflect the clinic's views in general?

"I wrote this speaking for the Allentown Women’s Center, but as the clinic’s director, it reflects my own personal views as well. Seeing things from a human rights framework puts everything in perspective. It is a challenge, a fight, and it is a lot of work. But we need to recognize everyone’s struggles and work together in order to move forward and make change."

8- Do you think local businesses can improve their relations with the
gay community? Any suggestions on how they can do that?

"There are so many opportunities for businesses to network within the GLBTQI community and improve their relations. Go to and sponsor GLBTQI events. Hire GLBTQI individuals. Advertise in GLBTQI publications. The expense is minimal, but the benefits are invaluable."

9- What do think of healthcare and it's treatment of the GLBTQI community?

"I think that there is still a lot of misinformation and stigma within the health care community which contributes to a set of unique barriers that GLBTQI individuals face when seeking health care services. There may be a certain level of fear or intimidation in seeking services as they may have at one time been subjected to derogatory comments, being treated like a deviant, neglect, attempts to change their sexual orientation, hostility towards a same-sex partner, undue roughness in a physical exam, or even denial of care.

Health care providers need more education, cultural competency / sensitivity training and work towards creating safe, respectful, patient-centered health care environments that do not discriminate against anyone based on sexual orientation or gender identity."

10- Any additional comments?

"I had an interesting moment in the clinic the other day when I was speaking with a group of staff members. I realized that I, the straight girl, was the minority in the room! It is just an example of how common (and normal) it is to be a member of the GLBTQI community. To not work with this community would jeopardize the success of any business.

Thank you for the opportunity to talk about this, and to work with you!"

In closing, I have to mention I truly love this place, and I am proud to be a part of such a progressive, and friendly GLBTQI workplace. Any business of any kind can learn a great deal from this. Imagine if everyone's place of employment was this gay friendly?

On a side note, being that this is LESBIATOPIA, I'd like to say, yes, I know my boss is hot. How many people can say that about their boss? Being that she was recently featured on our much loved Rachel Maddow show, among other things, she is a celebrity in her own right. Because of that I nominate her to be on Lesbiatopia's "Red Head List"...

(*Liz Bradbury is a local activist and author whose book was the first lesbian book review I did at Lesbiatopia.)

Check out: www.allentownwomenscenter.com

The Big Gay Sketch Show Loves Paula Abdul

2009-08-12T12:04:00.000-07:00

Lesbiatopia's favorite funny gal, Nicol Paone, is at it again in LOGO's newest American Idol skit, bidding Paula Abdul farewell as she has recently announced she will be leaving American Idol.

Paone's impression of Kara Dioguardi is spot on.

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