This is a natural thing that happens and some of these assumptions help us remain safe while others hold us back from the success we desire and deserve if we are willing to pay the price.

Some of the assumptions are so embedded in us that we do not even know that they are there. If these assumptions are holding us back, we may go to our grave and not even know they are there.

There are habits that we can develop that can break the assumptions that are holding us back.

Basically you have to develop a “new” habitual way of thinking to replace the old limiting habitual thought that is holding you back.

I will give you a personal example:

I am currently engaged in a fitness goal that I am proud to say, I am making great headway on. Anyway, I was looking in the mirror and the thought entered my mind, “Be careful, you don’t want to get too skinny.” I caught this thought that was rattling around in my head.

Now just some quick background, I have gotten to where I am right now in my fitness level but this has always been the point at which I would start to slide back into old habits and the waist line would start to expand again.

But this time I caught the thought that was constantly holding me back from getting to where I wanted to go in this area.

The thought that I caught was “Be careful, you don’t want to get too skinny.” and this thought was formed in my mind when I was 8 – 10 years old. At that age, I was constantly teased about being skinny, and I hated it. From that point till the day I caught that thought, I am convinced that I would have continued my yo-yo fitness level and would have probably ended up with some serious health issues when I got older.

But…

After catching that hidden thought that was rattling around in my head for 33 years, I am more motivated then ever to reach my fitness goal and to stay there until the good Lord calls me home.

I would not have caught that thought without the help of Lee Milteer’s Habit Busting System. I am currently using this system to help me replace limiting thought and action habits that are holding me back from the goals I seek. I know that it can work for you as well, make sure to check it out!

I hope you find this useful!

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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If only this person would (fill in the blank).

or

I only wish this person would (fill in the blank).

This is a fundamental flaw in thinking that has left a lot of people very unhappy for the their entire lives.

The only person who is responsible for your life and your happiness is… YOU!

That’s it!

As a rule people don’t change… unless they feel it necessary for them to change based on their own decision.

I don’t know who said it but I have always liked this quote and it has helped in dealing with people and it goes, “Those convinced against their will, is of the same opinion still.”

When you are looking to have someone else change in order for you to be happy, you are relinquishing a lot of power to those people and if those people find out about this, they can make your life a living hell. And some people will do this on purpose because they know that it pushes your buttons.

The truth be told… You shouldn’t leave your happiness based on anyone changing. Only you should be responsible for your happiness.

Here are a few actions points to consider for your happiness:

1. Get a clear picture of what you want your life to be like – Some of this is like a broken record, if you have read this blog for any length of time. But you have to be clear about what you you want your life to be like in all areas including career/business, family, financial, spiritual and fitness. Write this down on paper, be specific, make it time bound and get busy on the actions that will take you there.

2. What steps or action do YOU have to do to make that picture a reality – This is very important. Not what things do others have to do but what do YOU have to do in order to make this happen.

You may be saying to yourself, “John, that sounds great but what about the people around me?” This is a very interesting question because we have been dealing with the same people for a long time. We have co-workers, family members, children, husbands and wives and so forth. And here is my answer…

When you start to be clear about what you want in your life and start to take direct action towards what it is that you are looking for, the world around you will change. Some people may resist your wanting to change your life but those who truly want for your best interest will end up supporting your efforts and even come to your aid when they know you are serious.

Don’t forget these people have seen you buy twenty time planners that are now laying on the closet floor. They walk by the exercise equipment with clothes hanging from them that you bought when you were going to get in shape the last three or four times but because you threw in the towel and never followed through on what you were going to do last time… Well you get the picture!

When you get serious about the clear picture in your life and make the necessary changes in YOUR life to make yourself happier, you’ll be much happier with those around you.

Stay on point and stay persistent!

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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You have been working on your goal and you have gotten some results but you seem to have stalled and you don’t know what you are doing wrong. This is a very frustrating situation and a situation that may cause you to give up if you don’t know what to do.

In most cases, if you are going after something that you have not accomplished before, you will run into some roadblocks. This is normal and natural. I think this is also by design because it tests your persistence to see if you REALLY want what you are after.

This is not the time to get frustrated, this is the time to start thinking…

Here are a few actions ideas to consider when you hit the plateau…

1. Don’t get frustrated… RELAX! – This is the time to take a half step back and review what you are doing. Remember going for something that is just out of your reach requires growth from where you are to where you want to be. Take a LITTLE time and review and refine your goal, make it a little clearer in your mind. This may be enough to get you back on track. If not…

2. Try something radically different then what you are doing – I know when you are doing weight training and you have reached a point where you are not seeing gains, they suggest that you try lifting beyond your current ability or you lift well below your current ability. My guess is it kind of works like a defibrillator, it is a shock to the system and gets jumped started again. This may also work for you goal.

3. Seek advice from someone who has gone before you – We all have a tendency to be prideful and we want to go it alone, be our own person but there are times when we just need to reach out to someone for help. We can do this in many ways but there are books written and audio programs as well as coaching programs that are available to help us get over the curb.

Where are you right now with regards to your goal? Are you stalled?

This may be just the time to jump start yourself again and get moving towards your goal.

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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Here’s a quick question:

What goals are you destined NOT to reach?

The goals that you do not take daily action to achieve. It’s that simple.

If you are not taking daily action towards your goals you will loose momentum and motivation. And you will become stalled in you efforts.

And you when you become stalled in your efforts, you might have well not even set the goal to begin with.

When you become wishy washy about achieving your goals you get wishy washy results and the end result is blaming this personal development stuff and that it doesn’t work.

Here are some thoughts to consider when it comes to taking daily action:

1. You must control your thinking – You have to focus your mind on what you want and off of what you don’t want. This is a habit that has to developed in order to achieve any level of success.

2. You must control your actions – If your actions are NOT congruent with the goal you desire you never reach your goal. Let’s look at an example: Let’s say that you are looking to lose weight, this is your desire. BUT everyday you make it to the drive through for the double cheeseburger, super sized fries and super sized sugar filled soda, that action is not congruent with your desire and you will never reach your desired outcome. This is a habit as well.

3. If you are getting push back from yourself, you need to isolate the limiting thought that is creating the push back and replace it with another thought that is empowering and in line with your desired outcome – Here is a great example of someone that I was talking to the other day: He was telling me that all the women at crazy. Now this a person when you look at all his relationships, the women involved would be considered crazy.

But here is the real question: What was proceeded the women or the thought? I would say the thought. I suggested that he change that thinking immediately and if he did the women who came into his life would be greatly different.

All these things have one thing in common, they are all a result of the way we habitually think and act. When we take control of the way we habitually think and act, our life changes in dramatic ways.

The key is to take control of that habit. If you haven’t had a chance to check out Lee Milteer’s Habit Busting System and you are having challenges with your habitual thinking and actions make sure you get over there today and get it!

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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There are a couple of things that we have COMPLETE control over….

Those things are:

1. Our Thoughts

2. Our Actions

No matter what is happening in our lives good or bad, we have complete control over these two things.

Here is another eye opener… we are exactly where we are in our lives because of how we control these two things. Good or Bad.

If we have vague thoughts about our lives, we have vague results.

If we have very clear thoughts about our lives, we have very clear results.

And this is a good and bad scenario.

Here are some actions steps to consider when it comes to our thoughts and actions:

1. Become very clear about what you want in your life – It is key to become very clear about what we want in our lives and keep your thoughts off of what you don’t want. Make sure to be clear about what you want with regards to your relationships, fitness level, financial level, career and spiritual life.

2. Keep you actions congruent with the thoughts of what you want in your life – The only way to move forward towards the ideal picture you want in your life is to make sure that you keep your actions inline with the result you are seeking.

3. Pay attention to what you are thinking – Make sure to be conscious of what you are thinking. You will find thoughts that are rattling around in your head that will surprise you. You can also find these limiting thoughts come out of your mouth when faced with certain questions so listen to your stock answers when faced with questions. Some assumptions are very limiting and act as anchors that you are holding you back.

When we only have complete control over two things in our lives, it is extremely important that we make sure to protect those two things and make sure that we control these things with all of our might.

Lee Milteer’s Habit Busting System is a great program that outlines some very detailed ways making sure to get these two things to work together in a way that moves you to the life you are looking to have for yourself. Make sure to check it out!

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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It may not be very clear at first but it is very important to make sure you have a very clear picture in your head and ON PAPER of exactly what it is that you want to achieve.

The goal may start off very vague but as you move forward towards it you must make sure that you define it everyday as you move closer to the goal.

Here are some ideas to work with:

1.It doesn’t have to be a perfectly clear picture before you get started – Action is still king when it comes to reaching your goals so make sure that you start right away when you get the idea in your head.

*Personal example: About two months ago, I made a firm commitment with myself to get myself in better shape. This was the original idea. So the first thing I did was I immediately went to the gym – ACTION! But I knew that I would have define that goal even further so I got some information on fitness and weight loss from a source that I trusted to help me further define my goal.

Now I have my goal stated in specific body fat % and I have a goal to run a 5K with my son at his pace and he is going to be 18 years old and runs cross country and is on the track team. If you are interested you can check out my progress at http://www.burnthefatproof.com

2. Be specific – When it comes to numbers make sure to be very specific. For example: Instead of something like, “I want to make more money.” to something like “I earn $125,000 a year.”

Instead of “I want to loss weight.” try I am fit and trim with an 8.5% body fat percentage.”

When you start to clarify your goals in specifics, your mind will lock on to it like a heat seeking missile and as long as you stay motivated and take action that is consistent with that goal you will get to it as long as you never give up.

3. Make sure to have your next specific goal in line – As you move forward to your goal and you have it defined clearly, make sure to have your next goal set up and ready to go when you reach this one.

This is an advanced process and will help you make huge jumps in your life.

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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We get up at the same time almost everyday, we progress through our days in pretty much the same fashion everyday, week in week out, year in year out. BUt here is where the problem lies…

If we are looking to get different results in our lives, then we NEED to do something different to make that happen.

We need to change the way we habitually THINK and ACT.

We can not just think our way out of this we need to take action on our NEW thinking in order to make the changes we desire.

Here are some action steps to consider when you are looking to make changes in our lives:

1. Desire – We need to have a desire to change something in our lives. This is the first step in all great endeavors. If you do not have a desire to change, you will not change.

2. What are you thinking that causes your current situation – There are thought patterns in your mind that are causing you to be in the current undesirable situation. You need to root those thoughts out and get them to the surface for extermination.

3. What NEW thoughts need to be in place to bring about the change you desire – We need to replace the old limiting thoughts with the new empowering thoughts.

4. Why do you want to make this change – This is a critical point, we need to tie emotion to the new thoughts so they can take root in our mind and choke out the old limiting thinking. The more reasons with emotion that we can tie to changing this limiting thought the better our chances are of making it stick.

So here are some thoughts to consider here:

Why is it important to change?

What will happen if I stay on this current path?

How will this change positively effect me and those around me?

How will staying on this current path negatively effect me and those around me?

5. Take action – We need to take action towards the desire we seek. Without action, we will never get there.

6. Adjust your action with the feedback and seek advice from those who have gone before you – If you are not moving towards your desire, you need to adjust the action you are taking. Make sure to seek advice from those who have done what you desire, NOT from those who have not. This is a key point.

7. Never Give Up! – No matter what, never give up. The only time that we truly fail in our lives is when we give up. So never give up and you will never fail. Your efforts before you get there may have failed but if you keep going and never stop, you will eventually get to your desire.

One of the best programs that I have found on Habit Change is Lee Milteer’s Habit Busting System, if you are serious about living a successful life life, I highly recommend it.

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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Before I am done writing this blog post I will probably be interrupted by something about 5 times, which is a habit that I am currently reprogramming.

The key to great success and staying motivated is to keep your energy focused on the task that has the highest pay off for you that is moving you towards the priorities that you have set for YOURSELF.

If you noticed I emphasized the word… yourself.

When we can create the habit of working on the things that mean the most to us, we have broken free from many chains that have been holding us back for years and years. If you develop this habit early in your lower 20′s, you can live a very fruitful and productive life.

If you develop this habit in your mid 40′s, you may be able to turn your life on a dime and live the rest of your life being extremely productive.

The point here being that this is one of the most important habits that we can develop to live a highly productive life.

And as with the law of cause and effect, with increased productivity comes increased rewards.

Here are a few ideas to that may help you get focused on your highest priorities:

1. Put together a goals list and list them from the most important to the least important – This will help you start to organize your mind and increase your focus on what is important to you. Another thing here that is very important is to make sure that you have a very balanced list of goals. This will help you when you come to a point that you can no longer work on one goal, you can easily move to another goal.

List should be balanced between: career/business, financial, relationships, fitness/health, spiritual, education/training

2. Write down the actions that are necessary to achieve the most important goals to you and then start taking action immediately on your highest priority goal – Do not wait until everything is perfect before you take action. Everything will never be perfect before you start. And make sure to do something everyday towards the accomplishment of your important goals no matter how small it is.

3. React to the feedback by seeking the advice of those WHO have accomplished what you are looking to accomplish – For some reason we all have a tendency to seek advice from those who have not accomplished what we are looking to accomplish. We will go see our broke uncle for financial advice. Or our overweight brother for fitness advice.

I contend that this is a form of procrastination unless we are seeking advise on what NOT to do but that will still be a waste of time.

We need to look for advise from those who can help us take the ACTION necessary to reach our goals.

4. NEVER GIVE UP – No matter what is happening in your life or how hard things get always make sure you are taking forward action. When your goals get bigger you will find a point that you will start failing. I believe this is necessary in our growth and is the price to be paid in order for us to deserve what we are going for.

I hope these tips help you in search of your goals, if we make this a habitual way of thinking and acting there is nothing that we can not achieve if we focus our energies in the right direction.

Make sure to check out Lee Milteer’s Habit Busting System, this is one of the most powerful programs that you will find on habit change. It has been working wonders for me and she has ideas that you can implement in your life starting today that will help change your life forever.

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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I think it is amazing.

Now here is the reason why this has been helping me to stay motivated.

As my belly shrinks my income has gone up.

Getting up that early allows me more time at the gym and with that my income has been steadily going up. It has me pleasantly baffled.

But here are some things that are happening because of getting up early.

I have been able to write more often on my blogs, which keeps people engaged on my sites. So I have been able to help people more frequently with my messages. And thank you for the kind emails, I appreciate them and it continues to keep me motivated to keep writing.

I am out of the house earlier to my accounts and I am making great things happen in these accounts due to the energy that I have from getting up earlier.

I am eating earlier in the day and more frequently during the day which keeps me motivated and energy level higher.

And when I reluctantly know I have to go to sleep between 9 and 10 PM, I go to sleep pretty much the minute my head hits the pillow.

I got up this morning at 5 AM, it is a Saturday. I got an extra hour of sleep this morning. The gym doesn’t open till 7 AM so I got to write this blog post and when I get back from the gym I have the whole day to do whatever I want with plenty of energy to do.

Getting up early has done wonders for my motivation, try it and see what happens in your life!

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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Should you wait until a monday? How about the beginning of the month? or the beginning of the year?

How about… NOW!!!!!

The best time to take action on a new goal or objective is the minute you put it on paper. Take some sort of forward action towards and don’t ever stop until it becomes a reality for you.

I am going to change the tone of this message for a quick second by quoting a statement by Wallace Wattles, the author of the great book, The Science of Getting Rich:

“TO set about getting rich in a scientific way, you do not try to apply your will power to anything outside of yourself.

You have no right to do so, anyway.

It is wrong to apply your will to other men and women, in order to get them to do what you wish done.”

I got this quote from this website, make sure to check it out: http://the-science-of-getting-rich-blog.com/chapter-9-how-to-use-the-will/

The reason why I bring up this quote is simple, You don’t have to change everything around you in order to get what you want. You have to change the way you think and the actions that YOU take.

I suggest that you read that entire chapter, it is very interesting.

The reason why we tend to put off getting going right away is because we have a HABIT of procrastinating and waiting for things to be perfect before we start. This is a great waste of time and possibly a life.

Changing the way we think and act is key to achieving our goals and reaching the heights of success that we want to achieve.

One of the greatest programs that can help with habit change is Lee Milteer’s Habit Busting System, this is a great program. Make sure to check it out!

As Always, Here’s to Your LifetoSuccess,

John Clark

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