Watch as Jeremy Soul does what he’s best known for as he stops beautiful women on the streets of Sweden. Also included are commentaries and live discussion with one of the women!

Watch the video here.

Any idea how girls feel about approaching guys? A journalist from SF Weekly covered my recent sold-out Day Game workshop in San Francisco, and proposed we turn the tables and look for girls who would be interested in some dating coaching. Starlight posted this blog about what we found out.

Jeremy Soul

Girl Game

So, last weekend Soul, Bonsai and I ran a sold-out Day Game workshop in San Francisco. SF Weekly sent out a camera crew and female reporter to cover the event, which was fun in the sense that sometimes girls would see the photographer’s lens poking out of the bushes while we were in set in Union Square!

Anyhow, after the event ended, over a few drinks, the reporter threw out the idea: “Hey, how about we put up a Twitter alert for 6 girls looking to improve their love lives with a few professional dating coaches?”

Hmm…coach girls on how to approach & open guys? Sounds fun. A whole new storyline for SF Weekly to play with. And the chance to put a lot of brainstorming with Soul and Whim to work.

So we showed up in the Marina at 8p to meet the 6 lucky ladies.

There was a tall blond personal trainer looking to meet potential mates outside of her profession, a twentysomething Asian advertising exec that just loathed being approached by guys…but yearned to meet new people and build connections in neutral territory before even broaching intimacy.

We sat outside under the clear night sky and heat lamps, getting a feel for all of there relationship lives of late. A lot of interesting stuff came up.

Turns out there are a lot of girls out there who are frustrated that guys don’t “do what they’re supposed to” when they give invitations to approach like smiling, looking at you or doing a double take.

So we decided to flip the script and have them open guys, riffing on the stereotype:

“Hey, so I know I’m supposed to stand over and smile at you until you come talk to me, but…I thought you looked cool, so I wanted to come say hi”

Guys jaws dropped, a couple thought they were kidding, but only ONE guy-set blew out our chics all night

Here is a mindmap that Soul & Whim created to map out Girl Game

Soul and I also got a chance to confirm some of the material that we teach:

* Female attraction works like a volume knob; it’s not just on/off like a light switch, and needs to be ramped up through a variety of emotions and intrigue.

* Girls do not get all dolled up just to go dance with their girl friends. They want to meet cool, interesting guys, but generally have come to despise being approached by guys who “just don’t get it” or are “sleezy and weird,” or perhaps worse of all: “guys that are just plain boring”

* That they are irresistibly (and sometimes unexplainably) attracted to guys that “just don’t give a fuck” or can be jerks sometimes…that aren’t afraid of what other people think. (I think this is because it’s a good counter-balance to female hyper-awareness of relative social value, and there place in the hierarchy)

An important takeaway of mine is summed up like this:

Read more of Starlight’s blog.

Most men are interested in dating science because they want to get better at interacting with beautiful women. Whether your goal is to land a playboy model, or to start dating that cute barista at Starbucks, you need to learn how to sexually progress. Otherwise, you are likely to get the all too familiar “let’s just be friends”. Unfortunately, most men are afraid to act out on their sexual desires, and the result is that they never push any boundaries with women. This causes their game to plateau below their potential, leaving the best opportunities to those willing to push the limits.

A good parallel is with an athlete trying to improve their skills. I have a friend who white water kayaks, and he was telling me about his adventures. If he never paddled rapids out of his comfort zone, he would still be kayaking on dinky one foot waves. Instead, he goes out with friends that he can learn from, and makes sure he paddles a section of the river that is just a little bit out of his comfort zone. That way he can improve his skills, while making sure he doesn’t end up in the hospital. Now when he goes white water kayaking, the dangers are real – but he takes constant, yet small steps to take things up a notch. Not surprisingly, the worst thing that has happened to him is a pulled muscle.

In comparison, if you are too afraid to leave your comfort zone while learning to meet women of quality, you will find that the quality of women you approach is always low (i.e. your version of the dinky one foot wave). It’s safe but not very fun, and you will never improve.

Much like a kayaker challenging himself to find the perfect wave, you must push the limits of sexual escalation before you can find the right balance. Without ever pushing too far or too fast, you will never know if you are pushing fast or far enough. When you don’t get the result you wanted with a woman, make note of it, and then you adjust your approach for next time.

A prerequisite for being able to progress with women is understanding that they enjoy sex just as much as men – they just take a different route towards sex. All one needs to do is pick up a copy of “My Secret Garden” by Nancy Friday to have this epiphany .The book is an evocative collection of fantasies sent to Friday by normal, everyday women.

Now that I’ve covered some of the background on sexual escalation I am going to provide some practical tips:

You Don’t Need “Big Moves”

When meeting women you should always be commanding a sexual presence. Your two best tools for this are speech and body language. To start off, try holding your initial handshake for a second longer than normal while keeping eye contact. After that, try calibrating her to see if she is receptive to your sexual overtones. When talking, keep a slow pace, measured pace, and make sure to use pauses to add effect. Have fun with this – you can even try ordering a coffee using sexual subtext.

By immediately creating a sexual presence and calibrating the situation you can quickly screen for a women’s sexual openness. That way, if she doesn’t respond you can quickly move on to something else.

Leave Them Better Than You Found Them

This is a principle I have always operated under, and I cannot stress this enough. Don’t make a girl do something she doesn’t want to do – she should feel great doing even the most “dirty” things. Make her feel like she is sharing in a fun, exciting sexual adventure with you.

This also applies to setting the right frame for later on when you progress further. If there is something you want to happen down the road, make her feel good about it. Tell her “you would look so hot doing …” or “the most fun I ever had with a woman was doing…” Those sorts of statements will create positive associations with whatever sex act you are talking about.

Most women derive pleasure from pleasing someone they like. Let her know you are enjoying whatever she is doing to/for/with you. Tell her “I love the way you do that” or “you look really sexy doing that”. It is important to be supportive of a woman as you progress with her. Men that express their sexual desires without any regard for the woman are considered to be sleazy, and you don’t want to fall into that group. This sort of disregard for women is also a good way of guaranteeing there will be no repeat performances.

Creating the Right State of Mind

To successfully progress with a woman, you must demonstrate to her that you want her, but that you do not need her. This is another example of the importance of finding the right balance. If you pretend you are not interested whatsoever, she will move on to someone else, or just peg you as a friend. However, if you act needy towards her, she will be turned off. Beautiful women like a little bit of a challenge. That is where wanting comes in – make it clear that while you are interested in her sexually, you live in a state of abundance, and will meet your needs somewhere else if she doesn’t respond to you. Basically, you must always be willing to walk away.

Finally, I know I’ve written about this before, but it is essential to remember that this is all a part of one great learning process. There is no such thing as rejection – only feedback. As you start to push the limits of sexual escalation, keep track of how women are reacting. Be confident, have fun with it, and keep escalating faster and further until you have to bring things down a notch – that is when you know you are starting to approach the right balance in your game.

Jeremy Soul

Project Rockstar 2010

Become a Social Master

Official site: Project Rockstar

What is Project Rockstar?

Project Rockstar is a unique life coaching program sponsored by www.lovesystems.com for six carefully selected participants from around the world to train for six weeks in London & Stockholm with dating coaches, pick-up artists, fitness trainers, entrepreneurs, and other self-help experts in Europe and internationally.

The program is being run by Jeremy Soul, Love Systems’ Chief Day Game Instructor, recently voted No. 8 Pick Up Artist and Dating Coach in the world by TSB Magazine. Mr M, Director of Love Systems Europe, originally founded Project Rockstar in 2008, and will act as consultant to the project this year.

The aim of Project Rockstar is to transform six specially selected men and women into true “Social Masters” and showcase how dating science can lead to the achievement of the truly aspirational Rockstar lifestyle. It is sponsored by www.lovesystems.com, the world leader in dating science.

The project is based on cutting-edge concepts of interpersonal change, self-help, NLP and social dynamics – including, but not limited to “The Game”, Social Circle Mastery, Inner Game, achievement psychology, networking technology and other aspects of dating and lifestyle science. While it is true that participants will achieve the highest levels of dating skill, the aim of the program is to go beyond this and for participants to achieve a truly aspirational lifestyle which involves both significant interpersonal change and lifestyle mastery.

The six-week project will blend seminars, theory sessions, homework assignments and live, in-field coaching in the social arts (largely, the ability to attract the opposite sex, but also networking and social circle building). Love Systems normally charges thousands of dollars for this kind of training (and for a six-week program, the cost would easily run into tens of thousands of dollars), but this particular project is run free of charge. However, applicants must be selected for participation and must be able to fund themselves for the duration of the training.

This year will also be the first year that we train women to be Rockstars as well as men. It is our goal to transform selected female applicants into Social Masters of love, sex and relationships, as well as have female dating coaches teaching on the program for the first time ever.

Project Rockstar 2009

If you didn’t read about last year’s Project Rockstar, you can search the official blog to see what you missed out on.

2009 was even more incredible than the previous year. The Rockstars consisted of a 21-year-old millionaire fashion mogul, a young internet marketing guru, an ex-drug addict turned self-help enthusiast, a rogue Frenchman entrepreneur, and an all-American, army-trained boy-next-door.

Their willpower, emotional integrity and physical constitution were tested as they woke for early morning seminars (learning about dating, wealth and health), practiced Day Game in the afternoons and bar and club game in the evenings, almost every day for the entire eight-week project. Their missions to charm the women of the world took them to London, Stockholm, Munich and Las Vegas.

Their lives will never be the same again. Since the end of Project Rockstar 2009, many have changed their life paths from traditional routes of business school, corporate ladder climbing and social circle limitation to entrepreneurial endeavors, choice with women and friends in their life, geographical freedom and more lifestyle adventure than they previously imagined they were capable of.

Project Rockstar 2010

In Project Rockstar 2010, we have the benefit of two years of learnings to make this year’s project the best ever. This year, we aim to:

* Make it more streamlined. There will be less time spent traveling and more focus on dating and social coaching.
* Make it more personalized. Each Rockstar will be given a high level of personal attention, as well as having elective parts of the program to choose from.
* Get more interactive. Rockstars will be required to perform various tasks in line with their personal electives, for example, a public speaking or comedy performance.
* Expand the syllabus to include Relationship Management and Work Productivity.
* Make it more public. Project Rockstar 2010 is an opportunity to get the world involved and passionate about lifestyle change. Much of the event will be filmed for publicity purposes.
* Have female Rockstars. Wait, what? Yes, women will be included among the six participants of Rockstar.

There will also be female dating coaches to assist.

What will Project Rockstar entail?

* Participants will focus on a specially designed syllabus for six weeks, requiring several hours a day for most days of the week. There will be time for them to rest as well so they can participate most efficiently during the program. It is encouraged (but not mandatory) that participants do not work or at least minimize working commitments for the 6-week duration.
* Talks and speeches from top dating coaches, pick up artists, fitness instructors, business advisers and lifestyle coaches will be featured.
* Emphasis will be placed on live and interactive training, including but not limited to “in-field” pick up training given at bars, nightclubs, streets, shopping malls and cafés.
* “Homework” assignments and special projects may also be assigned to participants.

Women in Project Rockstar

This is the first ever year we’re going to include women as participants (and as dating coaches) in Project Rockstar.

My experiences as a Dating Coach the last few years have shown me that we have the power to change the lives of men the world over: to make them stronger, to give them choice in their love lives, and to make them happier with who they are.

I know that we can do the same with women. The issues that women face in dating are distinct from those men face, but just as there are evolutionary and social principles at the root of Love Systems methodology for men, so too do such principles exist at the root of dating dynamics for women.

If you are a woman reading this, you might not be interested in “picking up” a man in the same way that a man might want to learn to meet a woman, but there are probably issues you have in your own dating and love life that you wish you had answers to. It might be issues of finding the right man, keeping him when you find him, or letting go of your social fears and becoming a more confident, attractive person in general. Whatever the issue, our coaches will be able to help you.

The dating syllabus for female participants will vary from male participants and will include (but is not limited to):

* Makeovers and style consultations
* Self-confidence & body language
* How to get men to notice you
* Male psychology and deciphering their actions
* Finding good men and initiating interactions
* Selecting and filtering men when they approach you
* Going on dates
* Dealing with jealousy, competition and judgment in your social circles
* Relationship Management

If you are a woman and are interested in participating in Project Rockstar, fill out the application form as for male applicants. If you have any specific questions about the project that aren’t answered here, email me at soul@lovesystems.com.

The minimum age is 18 but there is no maximum, as long as you are able to physically participate in all the activities on the project. It doesn’t matter what you look like or what your past history of dating is like. We are more concerned with your willingness to better your life.

If you think you have potential to be a female dating coach (or indeed, some other kind of mentor for the Rockstars), email me with more information about yourself and how you think you could help.

Late last year I was inspired by a good female friend of mine who joined us on a lot of our www.lovesystems.com workshops. She told me that what she learned with us changed her life and made her a much more confident, happy person. I’ve since talked to a lot more of my female friends, and I believe that women need as much help in dating as men do.

This year, Project Rockstar can help you.

The Instructor Team

Project Rockstar brings together some of the top talent from the European and international dating community and showcases the most advanced breakthroughs in dating science.

It is led by Jeremy Soul, who is widely recognized as the No.1 Day Game expert in the world and an internationally renowned Dating Coach. In addition to Jeremy Soul, this year’s core instructor team will include:

Mr M (the original Social Circle Master and founder of Project Rockstar), 5.0 (High End Club Game master), Vercetti (body language and Sub Communications master), Dr Yen (Hedonism & Fetish Expert), Starlight (specialist in Entrepreneurship and Lifestyle Design), Keychain (Rapid Escalation master), Carbeau (Day Game and Approach Anxiety master), Farmer (Direct Game and Interracial Dating Expert), Riddler & Prince (certified NLP and Hypnotherapy experts), Bugsy (master of subtle seduction) and Mattsson (Property Investor mogul).

There will also be many assistant coaches and experts from outside of Love Systems contributing to the project.

When will Project Rockstar run?

Project Rockstar will launch on 13 June 2010 and end on 25 July 2010.

The first three weeks will take place in London (United Kingdom) and the last three weeks will take place in Stockholm (Sweden).

Participants will be required to arrange and cover the cost of their own accommodation, travel and daily expenses. The total cost to them may prove to be significant, but the time they are getting from various Love Systems instructors and other mentors and coaches is easily worth tens of thousands of dollars.

Who can Apply?

People from all countries are welcome to apply but note the below details on accommodation and cost of travel.

The minimum age requirement for Project Rockstar is 18. However, there is no maximum age and applicants will not be disadvantaged by virtue of their age.

In last year’s Project Rockstar, we had several people from overseas. We encourage people from all walks of life and places around the world to apply.

Criteria for Selection

We are looking for men and women who have and can illustrate amazing drive and passion to accomplish their hopes and dreams. We want participants that are willing to give 110% and have demonstrable evidence of this (in other areas of life) in their application.

To ensure you achieve the absolute best results and make the program worthwhile for participating instructors, our coaches want to work with people with amazing drive and passion. Dating success is NOT a prerequisite. Passion, desire, commitment and enthusiasm are.

As a bonus, the ability and desire to make the program successful and widespread is looked upon favorably. Actionable steps of what you could do during the program to make it more interesting and accessible to readers and followers (e.g. suggestions such as video blog, in-field footage etc) will also be looked upon favorably.

The Selection Process

* Applications. Applications will be accepted from February 10 2010 until May 13 2010. Applications will be reviewed on a rolling basis. The earlier you get your application in and the stronger you make it, the more likely we are to select you for interview.
* Interviews. You will be contacted within this timeframe if you are selected for interview to speak with one or more of the Rockstar selection panel over the phone.
* Test Exercise. If you do well at interview stage, it is likely you will be a given an exercise to complete, which will assess your various capabilities as a potential Rockstar.
* Contact. Due to the sheer volume of applications we get every year, we regret that we will not be able to reply to every application or inform you if you were unsuccessful in your application. If for some reason you believe there are extenuating circumstances surrounding your application, you can make these clear in your application form. If you are unsure if your application was successfully submitted via the web form, you can contact me with a short email to soul@lovesystems.com so I can check and confirm receipt of your application.
* Program Commencement. Project Rockstar will begin on 13 June 2010 (in London) and end on 25 July 2010 (in Stockholm).

FAQs for Applicants

Q: How much is this going to cost me? How much should I budget for if I’m applying?

A: Although none of the coaches and instructors are charging for their time, you will most likely have to take time off work to participate in the six-week project (see below). That means you have to be able to support yourself for the duration of that time.

The amount you need to budget for this will vary widely depending on where you are coming from, how comfortable you want to be during the project, and whether you are able to still do some work (or manage your work remotely) during the project.

Previous Rockstars have typically budgeted anything from two to fifteen thousand dollars to allow for their costs. At the lower end, you can find cheap, shared accommodation for three weeks in London and three weeks in Stockholm, buy grocery food on most days and book cheap flights well in advance. If you have more income or money saved up, you might want to invest in being more comfortable.

Rockstar instructors, coaches and other participants will give you guidance on securing accommodation and everything else you need to prepare for the project if you are successfully selected.

Ultimately, where there is a will, there is a way. If you are strong-minded and want to participate, you could always think of ways to raise the money so you can. Project Rockstar is not just a six-week holiday, but an investment for the rest of your life – and don’t people normally spend hundreds or thousands of dollars on short-lived holidays, anyway?

Q: I’m old, ugly, short, fat and bald. Is it worth me applying?

A: If that’s all you think you are, probably not. If you know you are capable of more than life is currently offering you, particularly in the romance and sex department, and you can demonstrate achievement in other areas of your life in your application form, then yes, it’s completely worth applying.

Q: Is this all just about having sex with as many women as possible?

A: The lifestyle change we teach focuses on dating (meaning in this case, meeting and attracting the opposite sex) in the first instance. But mastery over your dating life is just the beginning.

With the tools we teach you, we hope to give you the social tools to master all relationships in your life, including those with your friends, family, career and business. In short, it’s a psychological and social overhaul of your life.

In addition to social coaching, there will also be specific techniques taught for entrepreneurship, productivity, and physical well-being.

If you are solely interested in sleeping with a lot of women, this is not for you…

Q: Do I have to give up work for six weeks to participate?

A: Project Rockstar is a very intense program. To get the most out of it, it is recommended that you do not work or otherwise minimize working commitments for the duration of the project.

For high caliber applicants who make a strong case to participate in their application but absolutely cannot take the time off work, exceptions may be made. Be sure to clearly state how you think you will be able to manage your energy and commitment levels if you believe you will have to continue to work during the project.

If you want to be involved with Project Rockstar but cannot commit for six weeks, look at other ways you can get involved.

Q: How much competition is there going to be for places on Project Rockstar?

A: A lot. Last year we had over 300 applications. Make sure that you spend time thinking about how to make your application as strong as possible.

Many of the successful applicants from last year spent weeks composing their application and sending it to people they trusted to them to read and proof it for them.

If it’s clear that you haven’t put a lot of thought into your application (and accordingly, there are a lot of spelling or grammatical errors), then don’t expect to hear back from us. We are looking for high caliber individuals. Write your application to show us that you are one.

Q: Will I be photographed and public facing if I am chosen to participate?

A: Yes. Project Rockstar will be heavily publicized, so your face and name might appear in mainstream online, press, radio and TV media.

Media attention ultimately benefits you. It might feel strange and uncomfortable at first, but getting involved in media can open up avenues to you that are important. Besides that, learning how to present yourself publicly is an important part of becoming a Social Master.

Q: How do I add a photo of myself into the application form?

A: For the Photo URL box, please upload a photo of yourself to a site such as Image hosting, free photo sharing & video sharing at Photobucket and paste the link in this box.

What to do if you are Interested

If you are interested in becoming one of the best in dating science and lifestyle on the planet, if you are willing to take your life to levels deliriously above where you are right now and only if you are willing to work with absolute passion to accomplish that, then you need to fill in the application forum on the Project Rockstar blog.

Before you do that, it is recommended that you spend time composing your answers in a word document first. That way, you can have a think about how you want to present yourself to us, you have your application saved in case your browser crashes, and you can send your application to your friends and people you trust to see how strong they think it is before you submit it.

When you are ready to submit it (and have proofed it all for spelling and grammatical errors – believe me, there is nothing in a swathe of applications that turns you off more than spelling errors every second word), copy and paste your answers into the form below and hit submit.

Do not be deterred by the small input boxes – you will need well thought out and comprehensive responses to differentiate yourself from the hundreds of applications. Consequently, try to make your application as descriptive as possible to satisfy the criteria.

For the Photo URL box, please upload a photo of yourself to a site such as Image hosting, free photo sharing & video sharing at Photobucket and paste the link in this box.

Please keep your total application to 1000 words or less. If you have any problems with submission, email Jeremy Soul at soul@lovesystems.com.

Please keep in mind that what we want from the answers you give is to have a holistic understanding of the person you are. Questions such as educational background, work history etc are there for us simply to fill in the overall understanding of you are a person.

Jeremy Soul and the Rockstar selection panel will personally review each application that is submitted on a rolling basis. We will contact you by email if you are selected for interview to arrange a suitable date and time (the interview will most likely take place over the phone, so it doesn’t matter where in the world you are).

The earlier you apply, you better you can prepare for the six-week summer program and make appropriate arrangements if indeed, you are selected. So it is in your interests to apply sooner rather than later.

Applications will be reviewed up until May 13 2010. If you submit an application after this date and believe you are an exceptional candidate for rockstar, you may contact soul@lovesystems.com directly with your application. Chances are we will have filled all the places by then, but it’s worth a try in the rare case that we haven’t.

Other Ways to Get Involved

We are looking for enthusiastic people to get involved with Project Rockstar.

As Project Rockstar is a non-profit venture, we rely on the goodwill of our instructors, guest speakers, benefactors and sponsors to make the program happen.

Anyone who can add value in any way to the program is welcome to join in on and learn from aspects of the program (which will vastly improve your social skill) or to simply be part of the fun and adventure.

Examples of ways in which you can get involved are (if you have expertise in any of these areas):

* As a Guest Speaker / Rockstar Mentor in Entrepreneurship, Wealth or Business.
* As a Guest Speaker / Rockstar Mentor in Relationships.
* As a Guest Speaker / Rockstar Mentor in Dating or Pick Up.
* As a Guest Speaker / Rockstar Mentor in Health, Nutrition or Fitness.
* On the PR front – if you can assist in generating publicity for Project Rockstar.
* On filming, sound and video editing (for video coverage of Project Rockstar).
* Providing a venue for talks, seminars and workshop. If anyone has a space (apartment, meeting room, lounge or otherwise) that we could use, this could be very helpful.

Contact soul@lovesystems.com if you think you can help in any of these ways with more information about yourself and how you think you can help.

We are also open to any other ways in which you think that you might be able to add value to the program. Anonymity and privacy is assured if you do assist on the program.

Regards,

Jeremy Soul & the Project Rockstar Team

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Soul in the Media – Blog – Background – Classic Writings

“Finally, two days of intensive training come to an end and we’re walking back to the subway. It’s been intense, a lot of nerves and stress, a lot of knowledge to take in in such a short time, moments of defeat and moments of triumph. I’ve been in the community for over three years and I had read all of Soul’s materials, so I’m surprised that I still got out so many new inputs and ideas. It has been inspiring to meet Jeremy and experience how he expresses his passion and positivity. I’m impressed by his sincerity and integrity – both to women, and to his students. And I think that he did a great job teaching me.” – Shameless

The major men’s magazine devles into the mysteries of the brain to find out what makes men and women tick. Along the way they get some help from Love Systems’ own Nick Savoy and Jeremy Soul.

No date this year? Time you brushed up on your “womenthink.” FHM’s graphical analysis shows you what your brain is doing and how you can use scientifically-proven techniques to increase your success with women.

1. Humour.
FHM always plays hardball with women who claim to want a man with ‘a sense of humour’ and not money or killer abs. The truth is that girls are attracted to funny men – but not because underneath the endless feuds with work colleagues, chicks are all a good laugh really. “Being able to share laughter and induce it in others might seem frivolous, but it’s not,” says Nick Savoy of Love Systems dating. “It creates social bonds and triggers positive emotions.” Essentially, not only do funny men make women ‘feel good,’ they have that all-important social currency. Self-deprecating humour also implies status, as you’re confident enough to take the piss out of yourself.

2. Names.
Having a conventional name helps women attract more men. Girls called Sarah, Emma, Lucy, Kate and Laura received disproportionately more attention on noted dating site mysinglefriend.com. So go for girls with crazy names – they’re grateful, like fat ones. The most popular men’s names with women are Ben, Ed, Mark, Tom and Chris. Which sounds like a university hockey team.

3. Height.

For love to bloom, the ideal height of the male partner is four to five inches more than the female.

4. Intimacy/secrets.
Says Jeremy Soul, also from Love Systems: “Be careful how much you share if you’re not looking for a partner. The emotional mechanism for falling in love involves revealing your feelings to each other. York-based psychologist Professor Arthur Arun conducted a study where he made complete strangers swap intimate details of their lives for 30 minutes. Many reported a strong attraction to each other afterwards and two even got married.”

5. Sex.
And at last, science can make women into wanton lionesses begging for sex. Well, it can amplify the sensation in the G-spot. Knightsbridge Laser Clinic’s Doctor Eltohamy is championing a technique where she injects collagen into the ellusive magic button, enlarging it to the size of a fifty pence piece. 87% of hungry chicks who’ve had the op “reported increased sexual pleasure.”

More media coverage on Day Game… check out this story in Swedish… there’s also a TV piece.

Cheers,
Jeremy Soul

Jeremy Soul Tells a Swedish Newspaper that He Can Help Anyone Get a Girl

Major Swedish newspaper Aftonbladet interviews Jeremy Soul on his pick up and teaching techniques.

Today Jeremy Soul teaches the art of dating. As a school boy back in England he was very shy. “Only when I was 18 did I become able to talk to girls. Now I think of it as any other skill. Just like you can go to a gym to get stronger, you can train your social ability.”

Jeremy Soul is a pickup pro

“A life companion or an amorous adventure – you can get what you want within six months.”

Jeremy Soul, 26, is an expert at dating, especially in the daytime.

“Not to be arrogant, but I can help all men – except those who aren’t ready to make a change.”

Jeremy Soul works for an American company arranging workshops and seminars where he teaches men to become “successful” with women.

“We teach the whole spectrum; it’s not at all just about getting laid. Some of our clients want a wife, others are virgins and have never been on a date, and some meet women but want to meet other types of women,” Jeremy Soul says.

Many advantages

His own specialty is “daytime dating” which may sound like a small niche. But according to Jeremy Soul it’s about finding new “hunting grounds.”

“The traditional way of getting together is through friends, at work or at clubs and bars. And that can be very limiting.”

There’s also another great advantage

“You don’t have to go to a club, get drunk, bring someone home and then the next day be unsure of what you actually did. If you meet sober in the daytime you can have a genuine conversation that might lead on to become a great relationship,” Jeremy Soul says.

But don’t you risk getting looked at like some lunatic if you start hitting on someone in the subway?

“Sometimes you have to take a risk.”

How do you advise your clients to go about it?

“First you introduce yourself and get a conversation going. My personal favourite is to start out with a compliment. Sometimes it clicks and then you can ask to take her out,” Jeremy Soul says.

Made for men

It’s a special method, made for men, that he teaches. The basic idea is that men and women are different and that personal attributes and values are more important to women.

“Many men don’t understand that. They don’t know what to talk about. And that’s a big part of my method – that men learn to converse and thereby demonstrate their best qualities – without bragging and exaggerating,” Jeremy Soul says.

It’s also important that “men should be masculine.” They are the ones who are supposed to take the first step – and make sure that the next step is taken in a relationship.

“Even if men and women should be equal in power and influence, many women, especially in Sweden, want men to be more masculine. But in a gentlemanly way,” Jeremy Soul says.

Important to be honest

Being a pickup artist gives English Jeremy Soul the opportunity to travel and meet people. However, with women, his profession gets mixed reactions.

“Many get very interested and go ‘wow, cool!’ Some don’t really know what to say. And a third reaction is that of suspicion and wondering if they are part of some kind of experiment.

And that gets Jeremy Soul, who for a few months has been seeing a new woman, to one of his most important points.

“No matter what you’re looking for you should be honest and tell her about it.”

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Anders van Dahl of P4 (Norway’s national radio) recently invited me for an interview on Day Game. What started out as a discussion turned into live coaching, and with my assistance Anders approached women in the daytime on the streets of Oslo for the first time!

Read the English transcript here or listen to the audio (Norwegian) on the Love Systems YouTube channel.

Jeremy Soul.

Part 1

Anders: Already on the way out of P4’s offices down towards Oslo’s busiest shopping street, my entrails are close to turning inside out from anguish and panic. In the middle of the busiest morning rush, with busy and preoccupied people heading full speed towards their targets, this 1.7m tall, suited Brit of Indian origin is going to teach me about something very un-Norwegian: being sober, picking up anybody on the street and getting a date.

Jeremy’s magic formula isn’t really rocket science, but seems simple and viable, at least in theory.

Jeremy Voiceover: I stop them and say ”Excuse me, I just saw you walking past, and I had to come tell you that I think you look absolutely beautiful.”

Anders: I know that it’s slightly less than ten minutes until I am going to try this, and attempt to explain to Jeremy that there are some hopeless cases beyond saving.

Jeremy Voicever: I mean, some people naturally have the intuition and the ability to pick up someone. Some people don’t naturally have it. That’s my experience.

Anders: To demonstrate, he asks me to pick someone random, and I immediately lay eyes upon a young, pretty, classically blond Norwegian girl, around 1.70 m, across the street. She’s busily running up the stairs carrying a hot coffee, with a laptop bag over her shoulders. My chest hurts, I get red, sweat, and with a terrible taste in my mouth I watch Jeremy do his approach and introduce himself. First comes a slight tap on her shoulder.

Anders: I hardly believe my own eyes. Five minutes pass. Ten minutes pass. The dialogue is good, and Jeremy ends with today’s first phone number after his first attempt, and a coffee date three hours later. The scheme works!

On the street:

Jeremy: So, I went up to her and I delivered my opening line, you know, ”You look absolutely beautiful,” and did you see the confused look on her face? She was very surprised. That’s unusual.

Anders: I think it’s easier for you, because you’re English, you know. It’s much easier.

Jeremy: Yeah, well, you say that, but everyone has different advantages. I can say it’s easier for you because you’re taller, because you work in radio or whatever. It’s easier for him because he’s got money…

In studio:

Anders: Now, the build-up of self-confidence starts. The next time, it’s my turn.

Part 2

In studio:

Anders: Have you ever been on top of a bungee jump tower 80 meters high, stark naked, knowing that you have no cord around your feet while an insane mass murderer is right behind you and 90,000 people below you are laughing at your hopelessness? That was how it felt after Jeremy’s final peptalk before I was to do my very best. Or worst. Oh, I could have died for a Jack Daniels right then. Or an entire bottle. But, ”he who dares” and all that…

On the street:

Anders: Excuse me, can I talk to you for two minutes?

Woman: I’m a bit short on time, actually.

Jeremy: I think you wanted to say something else.

In studio:

Anders: Where is that black hole in the street when I need it? The mess I’m standing in is far too big. Jeremy, save me! Save me!

He does, and the dialogue develops surprisingly well, not least thanks to my foreign friend. But what will this young girl do on such an early morning?

On the street:

Girl: Hand over the key to my boyfriend, and then maybe…

Anders: Okay. Yes. You run along, you’ve got to get to work.

In studio:

Anders: The heart feels a bit lighter right now. But once again, the nerves take over in approach number two. Be confident, appear intelligent, and find something smart to say. A good opening line.

On the street:

Anders: Excuse me, do you know what time it is?

Woman: Yes, let’s see, about a quarter to.

Anders: A quarter to…?

Woman: A quarter to ten.

Anders: (Oh, shit.) Thank you.

Is it even possible…?

In studio:

Anders: I have really given in. Jeremy shakes his head. He’s got iron faith in me. And like a squire at his knight’s side, he supports me down towards Oslo Central Station. The place is full of pretty girls. Far too pretty for me. Anders, get a grip! Pull yourself together! The choice is made.

On the street:

Jeremy: And then say, ”I’d really love to continue the conversation over a drink; what do you think about that?”

In studio:

Anders: With four shopping bags, typing on her cell phone, there stands my chosen one and I go for it.

On the street:

Anders: Excuse me, can I stop you? What’s your name?

Trine: Trine.

Anders: (Yes!) Hi, Trine. So, where are you from?

Trine:Kristiansand.

Anders: You’re not from Oslo?

Trine: No, I study in Oslo.

In studio:

Anders: Despite being busy shopping and on her way to an appointment, she takes time to talk to me, and the conversation goes surprisingly easy.

On the street:

Anders: So, I just thought I had to come over to you and tell you how incredibly cute you are.

Trine: Wow – thanks a lot!

In studio:

Anders: After 12 minutes, I go for the kill.

On the street:

Trine: I’m actually on my way to school, so I really have to go.

Anders: Real quick before you go, you wouldn’t want to do something later, get a coffee or someting like that? I’ve got to show him around town for a while…

Trine: Yes…

Anders: Bring a friend or something.

Trine: I could do that.

Anders: Cool!

In studio:

Anders: The third time was the charm, and a tired and slightly embarassed radio guy goes back to the studio to edit this story. And the date? Well, that’s a totally different story.

Listen to the audio (Norwegian) on the Love Systems YouTube channel.

As the holidays come to an end and the New Year rolls around, we’re all faced with the same thing: we want more from our lives.

If you haven’t got your dating life sorted out yet, you need to take action now. If you don’t, every time you see a beautiful woman walk past you and you don’t say anything to her, the regret will eat away at your soul.

The biggest mistake that men make with women is not having a game plan. You need a game plan for dating as for everything else in life. So let’s look at some pointers for getting better at dating this year.

1. Figure out exactly what your ideal dating life is. I meet clients every week who tell me they want to get good with women, but I ask them, “What does that mean to you?”

For some, it means sleeping with a variety of women in low-commitment relationships. For some, it means finding that one, special girl. For some, it just means being able to approach any woman they want, anywhere and anytime.

Figure it out and write it down. Stick in on your wall. Write it on your iPhone. Find some way to keep it at the forefront of your mind as what you’re working towards on a daily basis.

2. Devise a strategy to achieve those goals. In order to achieve your ultimate goal, you need to figure out a good route there.

If you want more women in your life, then you’ll need to be making lots of approaches. If it’s higher quality women or that special girl you’re after, then you need to be screening more thoroughly for girlfriend criteria. If it’s a certain type of situation you like to meet women in (whether it’s the daytime, a bar or a social event), then figure out a plan to get into these situations as often as possible.

When I decided to get good with women, I realized I would need to be going out a lot to do it. I rented an apartment right in the centre of town, figured out the local day and nightspots that were full of good-looking women, and started going to them regularly.

3. Seek Mentors. You need people who are better with women than you to guide you.

This site is great for that. You also have the live training we do at Love Systems (formerly known as The Mystery Method). When you take a program with us, we become your mentors.

Either way, you need to be inspired by and emulate others who are already good at dating. Seek them out, train with them, befriend them, and absorb their wisdom.

4. Seek Peers. As well as mentors, you need people who are at your level that you can spend time hanging out with and being your wingmen.

People often find it easier to work towards things when they have other people doing the same with them (that’s why gym classes are so popular). It’s the same with dating.

Your peers will help you with the burdens and frustrations you face as you strive to work on your dating life and will be there to share your successes with too.

5. Keep a journal. Keep a record somewhere of the work you’re putting into your dating life, your feelings on how it’s going, and an honest appraisal of whether you’re meeting the targets you set yourself.

It’s your choice whether you keep a private journal or put it somewhere public (like a dating forum). If it’s the latter, you might build a following with your exploits, or even have other people to hold you accountable for making sure you achieve what you set out to.

I used to write a journal a few years back when I first started working on my dating life. Even now, after all this time, sometimes I’ll look at it and suddenly remember how far I’ve come since then. It’s a great way to store memories of events too. After all, it’s the journey and not the destination that makes everything so interesting.

Jeremy Soul

Results are in… I’ve been voted 2009’s Number 8 Best Pick Up Artist and Dating Coach in the world!

A huge thanks to everyone who took the time and voted for me. This acknowledgment keeps the motivation high to continue pushing boundaries, developing new methods and changing lives in 2010!

A shout out goes to Braddock, also voted in the Top 10. Keep up the good work, buddy.

And keep watch for my new book ‘Daytime Dating’, out soon.

Cheers,
Jeremy Soul.

A while ago Mark W blogged about his travelling experiences and promised a Part 2. Here it is…

Jeremy Soul.

How Travelling Helps You with Girls

Back in August, Soul and I were discussing travelling and how it helps your game. I have been fortunate enough to do quite a bit of travelling while I was at University, but this was before I knew about game. In 2009, my game has exploded – thanks mainly to hanging out with Mr M, Braddock, Daxx and of course Soul. Earlier this year I quit my well paying office job in the UK and bought a one-way ticket to Asia, without too much of a plan. Since then I’ve learned more about game, and people in general, than I could ever have imagined. My goal in this article is to share some of my experiences and encourage you to get out there and see the world for yourself.

What is travelling actually like?

Like I said in my previous article, when I’m talking about travelling, I am referring to extended trips usually with a backpack and very small budget. This isn’t about gaming girls on vacation at Spring Break or anything like that. This year, my stomping grounds have mostly been around South East Asia – Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam, Malaysia and Singapore. These countries are great to travel around, even with a limited budget. Transport is easy and, for the most part, everything is very safe.

You stay in hostels or guesthouses (budget hotels), usually for less than $10 per night. This is not 5 star, in fact it usually isn’t any stars! Some hostels have kitchens where you can cook your own food. Depending on which part of the world you are in, it may be cheaper just to eat at restaurants all the time. In Asia this is certainly the case! A local meal can cost 50cents and a burger with fries is usually $2 or more. Generally speaking beer is very cheap, and often very strong, so pace yourself!

You can spend the daytime doing any number of activities from scuba diving to bungee jumping. There are hundreds of amazing tourist sites that you can check out as well. I have been fortunate enough to visit some truly amazing places, however travelling is so much more than this. I remember going to see the Great Wall of China, which was great. However, I went out that night in Beijing with some really cool people and had a blast. For me, the night out was better than the Wall. It is this social aspect of travelling that really can propel your game to the next level.

Why it helps your game

At home, most of us have jobs and other commitments that keep us busy. Even if your workplace is a very sociable environment, it can’t compare to travelling. Being in social situations almost 24/7 really changes how your behaviours and more importantly, your confidence. I used to like having a few hours at home just to chill, but recently I’ve noticed that I now avoid doing this as much as possible in favour of hanging out with friends. It also means that I’m constantly in that social mood and I no longer have to “turn it on” when I go into a bar.

For some people, this may be quite far outside of your comfort zone. A popular personality categorization tool called Myers Briggs, attempts to categorize people as having introverted preferences or extroverted preferences. What you don’t often get told is that these preferences are mostly learned behaviours. I can assure you that given enough time, even the quietest individuals can become a socialite. Travel will constantly put you in this position, as there are always hundreds of people all around you looking to make friends with practically anyone.

This also means that there are hundreds of girls looking to hook up, which is never a bad thing! During the day, it’s not as charged as a Spring Break or Ibiza atmosphere, but the girls you meet are normally a lot more fun and interesting to hang out with. When you go out at night, particularly in the large cities, you will of course have a fantastic bar/club scene just like at home. Where travelling stands out, is that you get to hang out with all of these girls during the daytime too. This makes hooking up at night much easier and allows you to build massive social proof before you even get to a bar. All this time you are having fun, doing cool activities and seeing amazing sights.

Don’t think that you need to be a Day Game master to pull this off either. While travelling, approaching girls during the day is very common for anyone, not just guys with game. There is a sort of “foreign people band together” type attitude. Imagine being in a city with 25 million people who don’t speak English. It’s very common to go and talk to other travellers, and it is also common for them to approach you. This doesn’t mean you should stop doing direct day game approaches or anything like that, it simply means that each day you will likely meet several cool people without doing anything.

Another great thing about travelling is that logistics are usually very good. People tend to gravitate towards the same hostels or the same general area. This makes it much easier than in London or New York, where everyone likes an hour away from the club. Also, taxis are very cheap – picture around $5 for a 30 minute cab ride. And if all else fails, there is always the beach!

Why you should do it

Aside from having a great time, travelling unquestionably helps you to improve your game. This is true both in reference experiences plus having the chance to see plenty of naturals in action. It also gets guys away from talking pickup with their “wings” all night.

Travel is a great thing to put on your CV or for College/University applications. It demonstrates to employers that you are a worldly person that understands different cultures. If also provides numerous experiences to recall in answering many interview questions – I got a job offer once that was 90% based on my story about being stranded in Tokyo with no money.

It provides a great number of true experiences that you can recall in future when picking up girls. If you like story telling then one trip will provide a goldmine of content. Some of my worst experiences have turned out to be my best stories so don’t fret if things don’t always go to plan.

3 things you can do to dramatically improve success

1. Stay where the crowds stay, and nowhere else. Pick up a Lonely Planet guidebook and look for a hostel/guesthouse in the budget section that specifically mentions a friendly atmosphere, social lounge/tv area, group trips or a happy hour bar scene. These places attract a larger number of people. My friend and I found a great guesthouse for about $14 a night (in total) that had air con, TV and a pool. But there was nobody else staying there. The next place we stayed in was the same price but had considerably less amenities. However they had 20cents beers at happy hour and there were always dozens of people hanging out, even at 4am in the morning. Don’t worry about staying in rubbish accommodation as you will be spending most of the day outside anyway.

 

2. Talk to everyone, even those you wouldn’t normally speak to. Guys, girls, it doesn’t matter. You have to be as sociable as possible to everyone. You never know who is going to introduce you to their hot female friend or who you will bump into in the next country you visit. This is partially about building social proof, but equally about making connections. The quiet guy that wasn’t talking to anyone could show you a great bar you didn’t know existed. The ugly girl in the swimming pool could introduce you to the girl of your dreams. The married couple could introduce you to an important future business contact. The point is, don’t assign value to someone without talking to them for a reasonable amount of time. You are in a different environment and pigeon holing people based on past experiences won’t work out so well – you will be a much poor judge of value when interacting with foreign cultures.

 

3. Sexualize and state your intent. The downside to meeting loads of girls during the day is that you often find yourself heading towards the friend zone. The opposite is that you are that weird guy who hits on every girl in the hostel before lunch. Night time is by far the best time to crank up the heat on this, but you have to ensure that you keep this option open during the day. You have to calibrate this, but DO generate attraction during the day. Take small steps forward and keep taking steps forward. You will find yourself having conversations about where you are from/what you do etc which many instructors tell you to avoid when in a bar. It is fine to do this during the day, so long as you are aware that you must build attraction. Think of it as a leaking tap slowly filling up the attraction cup. It’s not a highly noticeable like some flash club game, but both you and the girl are aware on some level that its going on.

What are you waiting for?

It’s easy to find an excuse not to go travelling, but you should really think through your options before writing it off. If you are a student, then summer time is the perfect time to go travelling. Better still, you can take a gap year before or after college. Round the world tickets (which let you stop in any country you want to) are very affordable now too. Long haul airline flights are generally very cheap if you book far enough in advance.

For those of you with jobs, many corporations allow you to take up to a year out of work and come back to your job upon returning. You must usually have severed with a company for 2 or 3 years before this is allowed. Your career is effectively on freeze for a year, meaning you don’t get paid but also can’t get laid-off. You may find yourself in a much better position when you return with newly found confidence having had one of the best experiences of your life.

In closing, get out there and do it! The only person you need permission from is yourself. I promise you, any travel experience will change your life.

Mark W.