Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

The Competition

Lolita — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 03:25:08 +0000

When Don Quixote found out that The Poacher would be at the party, he asked me if we could try to set up a date for the two of them to bottom to Mrs. Poacher and me. I agreed and a time was set.

I sat down with Mrs. Poacher and we agreed to a scene that would work for us both. A real lazy top scene.

Mrs. Poacher wore a short leather skirt and some bitching boots. I wore my black girdle and Mary Jane shoes. Both these outfits were ones that each of the guys were really turned on by. We each had our own motivational tools: She had a crop and I had a rattan cane. Two comfortable chairs were arranged so that we could sit side by side. The boys stood at attention before us.

“We have decided that you two will compete to see who can come on command. The winner will beat the loser with a 15 minute spanking or a 6 minute punching scene” Puppy pads were laid down to protect the carpet and we told the guys to strip naked and start stroking themselves.

I worried, “DQ’s cock is so much smaller than the Poacher’s cock. I wonder if that will be a disadvantage.” Ha! Probably the humiliation of me pointing that out made it difficult for DQ. However, Mrs. Poacher pointed out that The Poacher had been milked earlier and might not have much left for the competition.

The guys were told to stroke themselves but not come until we told them to come. They needed to be ready to come but coming before getting permission would be an automatic loss.

We sat and chatted as the guys stroked themselves. After a while, we gave them the order to come. We watched as their stroking escalated and finally The Poacher shot his load. We then sat back and watched him top DQ.

I do like the underdog.

Been ignoring my blog

Lolita — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 04:06:03 +0000

Midori teaches us how to make love to a zombie.

Melissa Febos is getting a lot of publicity just in time for her new book, Whip Smart: A Memoir. And she’ll be reading Thursday at In The Flesh (I’ll be reading, too!).

Mindy Chateuvert was profiled in DC’s Metro Weekly.

MAL looks like it was a lot of fun this year.

I bought Matt Johnson aka Bad Faggot’s book.

NYC Weekly Leather Dates: Mar 11-17

Lolita — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:28:29 +0000

Thursday, March 11
Queens BDSM Munch
NYC TNG Party Night
Impact

Friday, March 12
ClubFEM NYC Munch
DSF: “Constructing Grand SM scenes – thinking out of the box” w/ Master Virage
Mr. Rawhide Meet and Greet

Saturday, March 13
Mr Rawhide Leather Contest www.mrrawhidenyc.blogspot.com
CHOMP
Poly Patao Productions: “Afternoon Delight”
DSF: “The skills emporium- “An educated Sm’er is always the best SM’er.”
NYboL Uniform Party

Sunday, March 14
New York Bondage Club

Monday, March 15

Tuesday, March 16
TES: ” RACE: The final Frontier” with Mollena Williams

Wednesday, March 17
TES Dominant Woman/Submissive men’s Group: “Qualities of Great Tops and Bottoms” w/ Margaret Davis

Isis Love and Mia Lelani on whippedass.com

TONIGHT! Full Fetish Friday at Eagle NYC

Lolita — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 15:00:30 +0000

JOIN PREACHER, MR. EAGLE NYC 2010 FOR

FULL FETISH FRIDAY

BEER BLAST WITH AUCTION TO BENEFIT THE CALLEN LOURDE Community Health Clinic

Bondage & Flogging Demos, Electro Play, Kinky Photo Booth, Prizes & Surprises!
Come meet local IML Contestants & Judges TONIGHT!
Auctioneer: Brian Kent, Mr. Eagle NYC 2004

FRIDAY, MARCH 5
The Eagle NYC
552 West 28th Street
(btw. 10th & 1th Aves)
10PM-1AM
FREE ADMISSION

NYC Weekly Leather Dates: Mar 4-10

Lolita — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 21:47:37 +0000

Thursday, March 4
The Baroness’ Fetish Retinue party: Liquid Latex Spring Metamorphosis!

Friday, March 5
Apple Munch
DSF: “Mummification: The Bound Body Altar” w/ Klawdya Rothschild
Eagle NYC: ”Full Fetish Friday”

Saturday, March 6
Rope Share w/ Lolita Wolf
NYC TNG General Munch

Sunday, March 7
MAsT MetroNY: “Demystifying the pedestal”
New York Bondage Club

Monday, March 8
CV: TBA

Tuesday, March 9
TES: “Erogenous Torture Workshop: Dicks, clits and nipples” w/ Madame Sade

Wednesday, March 10
TES Novice Group: “Fem Domme Kink Academy” w/ Princess Kali

James Deen and Beverly Hills on sexandsubmission.com

NYC Weekly Leather Dates: Feb 25 – Mar 3

Lolita — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 05:37:14 +0000

Thursday, February 25
Hot Knots

Friday, February 26
DSF: “The Humble Clothespin, Instrument of Beauty & Torture” w/ Earthwalker & TylerRose

Saturday, February 27

Sunday, February 28
Kinky Jews: Crazy Kinky Purim Extravaganza
New York Bondage Club
Suspension party

Monday, March 1
CV: “Tightlacing” w/ Halo Jones

Tuesday, March 2
TES: “Medical Bondage” w/ slave 705-468-560

Wednesday, March 3
TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s Group: “An Evening with Efrain Gonzalaz”
Pleasure Salon

Cherry Torn and Sarah Shevon on theupperfloor.com

Seen my pretty Alice in every head light

Lolita — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 07:26:33 +0000

A computer mouse that has a G Spot that leads you to your favorite spot on the web.

Derek da Silva writes about public play.

Kinky Connections interviews JD of Two Knotty Boys.

Boingboing features Mollena playing the race card.

Clarisse Thorn has joined Time Out Chicago as a blogger covering sex and BDSM. Her first column is her coming out story.

Highlights from my Birthday

Lolita — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 21:56:58 +0000

The photo of me was taken Saturday night by Nayland Blake.

The audience at Cinekink sang Happy Birthday to me.

Mollena Williams wrote an awesome tribute for my birthday.

And Cindy composed a poem -

Our Lolita
When ya meet’ha
She might just beatcha
Or maybe teach ya

In the world of leather yenta
Sex toys maybe that she lent ya
In your butthole you can clench, “Aaaa!”
“That is what I meant, Yaaaahh!”

Happy birthday, dear Lolita!

And thanks to everyone who called, emailed, tweeted, etc.

NYC Weekly Leather Dates: Feb 18-24

Lolita — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 14:51:28 +0000

Thursday, February 18
CINEKINK NYC
TES Queer SIG: “Making It Last: Long-term Gay Master/slave Relationships” w/ david stein
Staten Island Kink munch
Alphabet Soup

Friday, February 19
CINEKINK NYC
LSM Presents: “Gendering Power: How to Spice Up Your Role Play” w/ Sinclair Sexsmith
DSF: “A Household with Two Masters and Several slaves” w/ Sir Eric & Lady Christie
SWITCH Women/Trans/Genderqueer BDSM Party

Saturday, February 20
CINEKINK NYC
Black B.E.A.T. Munch
Brooklyn Leather munch
TES Spanking Group: “For the love of Spanking” w/ Wes & Michele
TES Novice Excursion
TES Mardi Gras Party
SPAM 8yr Anniversary Disco Party
STIMULATE party: “The Post-Valentine’s Blood Massacre”

Sunday, February 21
Instigate NYC: “Film Presentation – Graphic Sexual Horror
New York Bondage Club
CINEKINK Awards Celebration and Afterglow Party
Fixe Fetish Party

Monday, February 22
CV: “Menace” w/ Rob
Coco De Mer: “The Art of the Joystick Salon” w/ Midori

Tuesday, February 23
TES: “Sex in the City” w/ Susan Wright
Coco De Mer: “The Art of the Joystick Salon” w/ Midori

Wednesday, February 24
TES TNG: “Flogging & Whips” w/ Bo
Coco de Mer: “Hands On Rope Bondage” w/ Midori

Maitresse Madeline, Isis Love, Dia Zerva, DragonLily, Kade, Derrick P., Ashley Fires, January Seraph and Zak Tyler on divinebitches.com

APA Paraphilias Subworkgroup Agrees: Kinky is NOT a Diagnosis

Lolita — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:52:41 +0000

In the new proposals for the DSM-V, alternative sexual behavior has been depathologized. The American Psychiatric Association’s Paraphilias Subworkgroup’s DSM revisions acknowledge that you can be a fetishist, transvestite, sexual sadist or sexual masochist without having a mental disorder.

NCSF has worked very hard with its DSM Revision Project to make sure these changes take place, and will continue to strongly advocate for clear language of what exactly constitutes a mental disorder. Susan Wright liaisoned with the work group and supplied data that NCSF has gathered about the real-world discrimination and persecution that takes place against BDSM-fetish practitioners because of the DSM-IV-TR. The DSM Revision Petition was also extremely useful in generating comment from community members and mental health professionals urging that the current diagnoses be changed.

To see the proposed changes, go to:

http://www.dsm5.org/ProposedRevisions/Pages/SexualandGenderIdentityDisorders.aspx

Read the “Rationale” section under each diagnosis to see their thinking on the paraphilias. The work group makes it clear that “non-normative” sexual behavior is practiced by healthy people:

“The first broad change follows from our consensus that paraphilias are not ipso facto psychiatric disorders. We are proposing that the DSM-V make a distinction between paraphilias and paraphilic disorders. A paraphilia by itself would not automatically justify or require psychiatric intervention. A paraphilic disorder is a paraphilia that causes distress or impairment to the individual or harm to others. One would ascertain a paraphilia (according to the nature of the urges, fantasies, or behaviors) but diagnose a paraphilic disorder (on the basis of distress and impairment). In this conception, having a paraphilia would be a necessary but not a sufficient condition for having a paraphilic disorder.”

“These revisions will affect everything-child custody, job discrimination battles, and even help change the way society views us,” says Leigha Fleming, Chairperson and Director of Incident Response. “I think of all the people over the years who have had the DSM used as a tool of discrimination and punishment, and I’m proud of NCSF for continuing the fight to change it. This is the first step towards decriminalization of BDSM, which NCSF is pursuing with our Consent Counts project.”

The Paraphilias Subworkgroup is now reconsidering what constitutes “clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning” when determining a mental disorder. The DSM must make it clear that people do suffer distress and impairment because of the societal stigma against alternative sex, but that doesn’t mean they are suffering distress that is generated internally.

As part of the development process, the preliminary draft revisions to the current diagnostic criteria for psychiatric diagnoses are now available for public review and comment until April. Personal comments about discrimination and persecution are welcome additions to this commentary to continue to urge the work group to differentiate between sexual minorities and sex offenders.

Just as Norway recently joined Sweden and Denmark in removing consensual paraphilias entirely, NCSF continues to urge the complete removal of these paraphilias from the DSM. However like the incremental removal of homosexuality (to egodystonic homosexuality and then finally taken out in 1987) this is an important step for the BDSM-leather-fetish community.

NCSF needs your support to continue important projects like the DSM Revision Project that directly impact peoples’ lives. Please join NCSF to show solidarity! We do so much for very little money, and we need your help.

Please donate to NCSF now!

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