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Married To A Japanese Woman?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 22:32:00 +0000

Your questions answered...

I am going to Japan. How much money should I bring?

Actually lots of it! Japan is among one of the costliest countries and Tokyo/Osaka consistently rank as among the costliest cities. All the way from a cab ride to a cup of coffee can be way too expensive (unless of course you are used to buying your coffee at Starbucks!). Exactly how much to bring would depend on the number of days you will be there, whether you would stay in a hotel or have a place to stay, how often you would need to eat out, how often would you travel, etc.

If you are going to travel in Japan, contact the local Japan travel office to see if you can buy discount passes for travel on the trains. As a tourist in Japan, consider eating in fast-food restaurants since the prices are fairly comparable to other countries. Avoid cabs and use public transport as much as possible – Japan has one of the best public transport systems in the world.

Do your research before you leave. Find out ahead of time the fees you might have to pay to visit museums or historical sites. Japanese businesses do not typically accept credit cards and even less so the ones not issued inside Japan. It is a fairly safe country so bringing cash is OK. You can change into Japanese currency at the airport or you can bring traveler’s checks, which can be exchanged into Japanese currency at most banks.

My wife wants Japanese green onions and cucumbers, where can I buy these? Can I grow them in the US if I bring seeds back?

Depending on what part of the US you live in, you might be able to find some Japanese grocery items in a local Japanese store. A trip to China Town is also helpful. We do not recommend growing Japanese vegetables in your garden unless you can reproduce the Japanese environment and are willing to put extra hours in your garden.

My wife will no eat sushi made by a non-Japanese. Is she the only one?

Sushi-chefs in Japan are considered to be artists. They go to school for years and then they practice for years under a master. They are highly respected professionals. That is why sushi meals in Japan are very expensive.

In recent years, however, sushi has become popular outside Japan and many untrained chefs have taken to preparing sushi. For the casual sushi customer, the difference is not apparent. However, for a Japanese, the difference is obvious. Thus, many of them will simply not eat sushi not made by a properly trained chef.

My wife is having trouble buying size 0 clothes. Where can she shop?

This problem has been somewhat addressed with the emergence of online stores in Japan that will ship to most countries. Since your wife probably reads Japanese, ask her to buy online. For those who prefer to buy in the mall, it is best to shop in the section for teenagers. While it might be embarrassing, but that is the only section where they can find clothes that actually fit them.

Where can I find a bathroom scale or thermometers or other devices that display metric numbers?

In the US, this is a big problem. However, if you can order online at websites located in Canada, you should be able to find almost anything in metric system. Normally, shipping costs are minimal.

Where can I get original Japanese TV programs, movies, books, magazines, etc.?

With satellite television easily available and either cheaper or comparable to cable TV, it is best to switch to satellite TV to receive Japanese channels directly. Recording TV programs and selling them is generally illegal unless done by the TV channel itself. You may be violating the law if you buy such programs from an individual or a small company.

What type of visa should I get in order to get married to a Japanese?

It is best to consult an immigration lawyer for this purpose since each case is different.

How much money do I need to make to sponsor my fiancée?

This provision exists in the law to make sure that a US citizen is able to support his wife. The requirements are actually very simple. If your income is somewhat more than the federal poverty guidelines for your area, you are probably OK. So unless you live in poverty, there is no need to worry. If you do, it is best to discuss the issue with an attorney. You will be expected to document your income and produce tax returns.

What should I expect at her/our interview with BCIS?

To avoid fraudulent marriages, BCIS meets with the candidate for green card and the couple. The goal is to make sure that you are a genuine couple. If you are a genuine couple, there is no reason to worry at all and no preparation is actually needed for the interview since the officers are only trying to find out if there are any inconsistencies in the information provided and if you are truly committed to get married.

How can I teach my wife to drive?

Driving in the US can be intimidating for a lot of Japanese women not only because we supposedly drive on the wrong side of the road (at least that is what the Japanese think about us) but also because of the aggressive and impolite drivers. Speed limits in Japanese highways are slightly less than that in the US and strictly enforced.

While you might take on the responsibility of making her comfortable with the new driving arrangement by driving around in an open area or your neighborhood, it is best to also send her to attend a refresher course offered by AAA or a local agency. As you would with a young driver, it is best to accompany her on initial trips to crowded areas, highways, etc. Teach her how to deal with aggressive drivers and police (the Japanese policemen are unusually polite and not intimidating as some of our cops are).

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Men Who Are Afraid To Make A Commitment

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 22:22:00 +0000

We often help our patrons with their lifestyle problems and, of course, two most popular categories for asking questions are relationships and health/fitness. We recently helped Cathy, a client of ours from Maine, and are publishing her case since we find that it will be of interest to a broader audience. She wrote, "I am dating a wonderful man who has two teenage children. My children are young adults. He has been separated/divorced for about 2 years. I have been divorced 7 years and my children have met my date. We have been dating 9 months. How long should we wait before introducing the relationship to his children? His divorce was final 2 months ago. He has dated others - non seriously. He is an avoider by nature. Is his time up?"

You write that he has dated others and that is definitely a red flag. When men say that they are not serious about other dates, they are essentially lying. If you are dating someone for nine months, there is no justification for him dating other women at the same time. I do not approve of non-serious dating unless of course both partners agree that they are dating casually since it is hurting you and also hurting all these other women that he is dating. God knows what he is telling the other women. I would not be surprised if he is telling them exactly what he is telling you.

To me it appears that he is basically still evaluating his options and you are just one of them since he does not feel that you have passed his test to be introduced to his kids. What I find interesting is that you tell us that he is an avoider by nature.

Looks like he is not ready for a relationship with you yet. If you are convinced that he is the man for you and you would rather wait and show your commitment to him all this time, it is fine to do so while he evaluates his other options. Remember, though, that he might still leave you for someone else. You need to prepare yourself for this - after all life is all about bets and you could either win or lose this one.

You can also thoroughly evaluate your relationship now and take a hard and honest look at him. Is he a long-term type of a guy ? Will his tendency to avoid responsibility and taking action become an issue at some point? Maybe it is time for you too to diversify your risks by non-seriously dating other men.

Remember you have been dating him for 9 months now and so it is no longer right for him to beat around the bush. I am not sure if you guys have been physically intimate already. If so, he needs to give you a convincing answer that this relationship has a future so that you can decide accordingly.

What can women do when men do not want to commit?

1. Treat it as a warning sign. One very simple reason a man may not want to commit is that either he is not ready for a relationship or does not think you are the right person. So watch carefully and be prepared to walk away at short notice.

2. Confront him politely. Men do not find this topic to be an easy one (psychologists call it 'commitment phobia' or 'fear of commitment' and a man and commitment are not always friends) and will either avoid it, give a confusing answer, put you on hold, or simply end the relationship. None of these is a response that you want. So you need to approach this with tact. Tell him that you have been dating for a while and what can you do to make sure that you both can chart a course for the future. If he avoids the topic, then tell him that it is important for you to make some plans and you would like to set some milestones for the relationship. If he still does not want to demonstrate to you that he shares this vision, it is better to diversify your risk by considering other men.

3. Set some ground rules for your relationship if he is not yet ready to commit. For instance, rules for dating others, evaluating the relationship after one or three or six months and then deciding the next set of steps, etc.

4. If none of this works, you can switch the relationship to a friendship as both of you evaluate your options. No need to have an ugly breakup if the only issue for your relationship is long-term commitment. In today's America, where it is so hard to find someone who is 'made for you', it is best to give even someone who is remotely 'made for you' another chance.

5. And of course the final option is to simply dump a commitment phobic man so that you can move on when he doesn't want to.

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Meet A Woman In A Bar

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 22:15:00 +0000

How to turn the encounter into a real relationship?

Jonathan went to a bar just to have a few drinks but there were surprises for him. He actually met an interesting woman that he had a great conversation with. "Two days later I get a message from Tracy and she was giving me her number (how often does that happen that a woman actually gives her number to you?).

I wasn't really sure how she got it, most likely through the bartender, who knows me well. We went on a date to this club and I did not think things were going that great. But still, the next thing I know we are in the car kissing, talking, etc. We were also talking about getting kinda serious. So now it's been almost a week and we kind of came to an agreement that we need to try to slow things down.

We barely knew each other. So we meet up and talked for about 7 hours. She said that she has to get herself straightened out before she can get into anything serious. I agreed completely and let her know that I will help and support her 100%. She now considers me her best friend. So it went from whoa to slow, but I want the whoa back. We are going out of town together in a couple of days, and I am not sure what to expect, so I'm getting kinda nervous. I think she's the best. And I really want to be with her. What should I do?.

Over the years, I have learned that bars aren't exactly the best places to meet good women these days (try online dating) - you know the ones you want to marry or have a serious relationship with. I am generally skeptical of women who kiss guys in parking lots, give out their number, and then decide to take a trip with a guy they hardly know. Party girls like that (think polyamorous Lindsay Lohan), more often than not, fall in and out of love pretty quickly.

Having said that, life is full of surprises and people find love in all sorts of unexpected places. My hypothesis is that Tracy went to the bar to "party" - nothing serious, just plain fun. And contrary to her expectation, she found someone who was not only fun but also someone she could imagine having a steady relationship with.

So, you have to ask yourself, what do you really want? In case, you just want to have a casual relationship, she could be your dream girl. In case, you are looking for a serious relationship and feel that she may be the woman, then go for it.

A lot of people will tell you to to slow down or avoid doing certain things or get to know the woman before you get into bed with her - and stuff like that. However, my personal advice to you when you are with her is to just go with the flow. And since you will spend a lot of time with her, inevitably you will get to know her better. Also make sure that you guys talk - so ask questions and get to know her as a person.

And listen to me: during this trip do not commit to anything. Do not promise everlasting love or whatever even if that is how you feel. If you reach a point that she is looking for an answer, tell her that you need to think things over since everything has happened so fast any way. I am positive that she will understand because she too has asked for time in fixing her life. It will be a very important decision for the two of you and the best thing to do is to look at the relationship from all angles and then take the next step.

After a week or so of thinking it through and if your heart tells you that she is the ONE, go for it. While I will continue to say that most good relationships are found through a deliberate, slow, and well thought-out process of dating and mating, you never know how and when you will find your partner.

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When Trying To Pick Up Women, Always Work Alone

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 22:08:00 +0000

Maybe there's something to be said for going out with your buddies to work the bars and pick up women, but notice how rarely it ever actually seems to succeed? Girls go to the clubs in groups for safety and to make it difficult for all but the most aggressive males to pluck them away from their circle of friends and make a powerful first impression. But it puzzles me as to why GUYS feel they need to run in packs the same way.

Do you draw confidence from your male comrades in a club situation? Does the competitive spirit make you better? Or are you even MORE afraid to take a chance with a critical audience of snickering baboons watching your every move (AND screw up)? You probably don't know what the hell you're doing when it comes to approaching women TO BEGIN WITH... will somehow demonstrating this humiliating deficiency of your male skills in front of your goofball buddies make it any better?

Understand this: most of your genuine chances to pick up women won't ever happen when you're out with the boys in a bar -- there are far too many distractions and way too much competition for her attention. This is a situation where no one but the most VISUALLY OBVIOUS DOMINANT MALE among the crowd has any advantage. Most women in this 'party mode' are only there to drink and dance and act nutty anyway.

Only the most top dog male in the joint has any prospect of breaking through this goofy ‘fun trance' and getting a rise from his suggestive behavior. You? You're just the sort of invisible shmuck she completely ignores; nothing but background clutter. The same way that you ignore all the fat chicks in the crowd and focus in on only the hottest looking babes. Right?

Your 'modus operandi' has to be completely different. In order to keep a safety zone around your fragile ego, a complex NON-verbal interplay must occur before you can ever speak any words to her with confidence. This takes time and requires a situation where the two of you can focus at least some *attention* on one another without having the trance broken by other people around you (preferably strangers, and not engaged in doing anything particularly important i.e., like library readers for instance).

The very same girl that would immediately brush you off in a bar can be wide open to your advances in AN ENTIRELY DIFFERENT SITUATION -- one where you can monopolize her attention. That's why you must always keep your antennae out and be looking for opportunities in the most unlikely of situations!

In any case, the absolute WORSE situation for trying to meet women happens at some wild event where her guard is up like a silver cross to ward off all the drunken losers suddenly "full" of liquid courage (low status males). You'll do *much better* when you learn how to establish a bit of playful, unspoken communication in places where her guard is DOWN and you have a chance to disarm her with your male presence and charm. It's really not all that difficult once you understand that what she needs to see from you is just one little sign of Dominant Male behavior.

The good news... you can easily learn how to *fake* the most key HSM (High Status Male) attitudes until they become second nature! Seductions are a lot like *sporting contests* in that you never know what unforeseen twists and turns may happen on your way to victory. You can't allow yourself to be handcuffed by the need to keep looking over your shoulder to make sure you're not doing anything that will make you the butt of jokes and mockery from your "crowd" for weeks to come. A lot of times, you'll have to scrap the game plan and make changes to your technique on the fly -- and these adjustments don't always fit the image of what your leering buddies probably think is cool.

Look, don't play the loser's game of going out to work the clubs with your "gang." Not when you're serious about hunting for women, anyway. Bad experiences will only sap your confidence and make it more difficult than ever to effectively play the "real" game... the one where you try to win the desire of a beautiful woman. You know... the ONLY game that actually matters.

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Send Fresh Flowers To A Woman

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 22:01:00 +0000

Women love flowers and you can use a bouquet as a great excuse to start a relationship
Did you know that Marcia Cross met Tom Mahoney in a Los Angeles flower shop?

Think you’ve got to be great looking to get a woman’s attention? Wrong! If you know what to say and do, you can have any woman dying to be at your side. This is a little devious, but what’s the harm? Try this: Go up to a woman and ask her, “How’s work, Susan?” She’ll tell you she’s not Susan. “Oh, you’re not Susan Moore who works at the Citizens’ Bank?” She’ll say something like, “No, I’m Karen Miller that works at Landover Real Estate.” Then just say, “Oh, well I’m Doug Jones (offer to shake hands), and I’m sorry for the mistake.” Smile and walk away.

In two or three days, send flowers to her at her work place. Include a card saying, “We just met for a moment, but I can’t stop thinking about you. Meet me for a drink after work? Doug.” Include your phone number, too, just in case she wants to call and thank you before you get in touch with her. And believe me, she’ll want to thank you.

And you’ll score major brownie points because she’ll be thrilled to get flowers at work – all the other women in the office will be buzzing around wondering who sent them, and the object of your desire will be excited by the surprise and by the attention from her co-workers. Give her a call later that day after you know the flowers have arrived, and say, “Hi, this is Doug. Remember me, I’m the one at the dry cleaners (or wherever you met her) who mistook you for Susan from the bank? Did you get the flowers?”

She’ll say yes, tell you they’re beautiful and unexpected. Say, “I know this is a little crazy, out of the blue and all, but you just seemed so nice, and I was kicking myself that I didn’t ask you out before. I know we don’t really know each other, but I’d like to change that. How about going for that drink later?”

She may not remember you well, after all, she only met you for a minute, but man oh man is she ever going to be flattered! Someone is telling her she’s so hot that after a few seconds in her presence, he can’t stop thinking about her and is sending flowers?! Women eat that stuff up, they think flowers are so thoughtful and romantic! How could she turn down a drink with someone so thoughtful, someone who made her feel gorgeous? She can’t! Besides, she’d feel ungrateful if she didn’t at least give you a shot. This is a piece of cake pick-up technique, and it makes you seem like Prince Charming! Like taking candy from a baby, fellas, trust me.

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Couples Play - Pleasure Without Penetration

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 13:49:00 +0000

Let me share the tricks of making love leisurely and the importance of play. For those of you who have not heard of this before - yes it does exist! It's not all about ripping off your clothes, getting it on and BOOM before you know it, ITS OVER! For decades the emphasis has been on achieving a climax. Straining to reach the big "O" has taken away the pleasure we are supposed to feel during lovemaking. We concentrate so much on climaxing, that our sensory responses are diminished. Remember, the mind feeds upon the stimulation of all five senses.

This is especially important when you no longer experience the adventure of doing something different together. When intimacy has become a "day-in, day-out" routine. Just like doing the dishes or taking out the garbage! Think about the first time you kissed or made love. It was sensational, right? Therefore, it's vital that you take the time to get to know each other again.

You are going to learn how to practice sensual play, without actually having it. That means focusing on really getting to know each other in the deepest sense. Sensual play is basically slow-motion and can last for hours. Mmmmmm…Imagine hours of pleasure. Sounds good…

There is a consensus of female opinion that men seem to be in a hurry when making love. SLOW DOWN MEN! Why rush pleasure! Men need to realize that women want to be loved, all over (i.e. from head to toe)! Start warming each other up on a slow burner and you'll both reach full heat without strain or struggle. The longer you simmer, the hotter it gets! When you slow down you are able to fully savor the pleasure of your senses. You need to TASTE each other, TOUCH each other, SEE each other, HEAR each other and SMELL each other. This will not only bring you closer, it will also make you want each other more - resulting in an explosive climax. When lovemaking is primarily play, it should be leisurely and should last from 30 minutes to several hours.

Here are three magical statements, you should say to each other, that will help the both of you to relax and increase your sensations of pleasure:

This attitude releases both of you from the pressure of penetrating and performing and creates a much more relaxing atmosphere. Sensual play is a process that really allows you to explore and get to know one another. The better you know each another, the more there is to love about each other. It is a great way to enjoy intimacy, which is sensual, leisurely and relaxed.

Sensual means a lot of all over kissing, stroking and caressing, so ensure you are fresh, clean and lovable. A romantic soak in the tub together is a great way to heat things up! Touch each other at leisure. Do not rush. Don't worry about achieving climax - this is not the goal. Tell each other exactly where and how you want to be touched. Each one of you has different responses; so explore with each other about what turns you on. Include all forms of touch, such as stroking, caressing and holding, as well as kissing, nibbling, sucking and licking. It can involve every part of the body and not just the most obvious areas.

For The Woman

Any part of your body can become a sensual tool. The sweep of your hair, the soft brush of your body against his body, or the warmth of your breath on his skin will be extremely arousing to him. Trailing your fingertips or nails lightly over his skin will heighten its sensitivity. Involve your whole body in sensual play, so that even while kissing one part of his body, you are aware of the impact of your thighs, belly and other areas as they press gently against him.

For The Man

A woman's whole body, not just her most obvious areas, is an erogenous zone. Take time to let your kisses and touches worship her body. Focus your attention not just on the front of her body, but on her arms, legs and back. Cover her back with kisses, following its sensuous curves and lines. Then stroke and gently squeeze the muscles in her buttocks and thighs so that they become warm and alive.

A woman's body has many surprising and hidden areas of sensitivity. Sensual play allows you to unravel its mysteries, so that you both can discover new and exciting pleasure places. The underarm and armpit can be very responsive to your loving attention. Try rolling your tongue lazily over its soft skin while gently stroking.

Your extended play should give you time to relax together emotionally, as well as becoming aroused. Use these moments of tenderness and touching to enhance your intimate connection. Do not be afraid to let your states of arousal rise and fall like waves. Once you are in harmony, both physically and emotionally, you can ride those waves together, letting one peak of excitement ebb to give way to another. Touching, stroking, caressing and eye contact will keep you closely attuned to each other. Come on, don't waste anymore time. Ecstasy awaits you! Have Fun!

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Kissing Techniques For Men

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 13:41:00 +0000

How to show your love through kisses?

We are talking here about romantic kisses and the ones that are given to communicate how much you love the person you are kissing. And believe it or not, but some people like kissing more than anything else. One of them is Paris Hilton, who says, "I'd rather make out. I love to kiss. And you don't feel guilty about it."

Preparing for the kiss:

The first thing you need to do is to make sure that your mouth is clean. Most women are obsessed with cleanliness, though if you smoke, and if she knows, it is not such a big deal since she might expect a certain type of taste though it is not a bad idea to use a mint (or drink mint tea) after brushing your teeth (if possible). The secret also lies in making the kiss a part of the overall romantic ambience of the moment. You are likely to be rewarded with kisses that you will remember and long for.

While giving a romantic kiss pay attention to your partner's responsiveness. Women tend to control their feelings especially if you are kissing her for the first time. She may respond verbally and/or non-verbally. Her heartbeat may quicken, she may moan, get goose bumps or say something. Either way, pay attention.

Each woman will respond differently and it is important to find out what she likes. No two women will respond the same way though younger women seem far more relaxed than some of the older ones. In fact, the same woman may respond differently to the same bite based on her mood/level of excitement

Kissing techniques:

1. The neck region is one of the most sensitive in the body and you will find that women are not used to be kissed there. Try to use your tongue and lips in a nibbling or a sucking motion and see her reaction. Continue if she responds positively.

2. Gentle biting is great if she does not protest right away. Be careful what part of the body you choose since women will not be very proud of showing it off the next day. It is acceptable to leave a mark in the private areas of the body, though.

3. If biting is not acceptable, sucking on the skin and, of course, the lips would definitely be welcomes.

4. Try giving her the same type of love bite on all the different parts of her body, including her private parts, inner thighs, cheek, lips, eyes, navel, and earlobe.

5. If you still do not know each other very well, be patient. Women take a while to open up to men. Find the right place and time and do not force anything. If you earn her trust, you will find that women want to make the best of every opportunity to kiss.

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How To Play Romantic Games With Your Husband?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 13:35:00 +0000

Guide for women to improve their relationships with their spouses

The following technique should be only be used in a situation of absolute trust. It is also something that parties must be completely comfortable with. It is mentioned here because it is something that many people are fascinated with and because many swear that it is the most powerful romantic technique of all.

Ask your man to tie you up and do anything he wants to you. As he begins to do this, say, “But only on one condition.” “What’s that?” he will ask. “Only if I can do the same to you tomorrow night,” you will answer.

See if he doesn’t arrive home early and eager the following day. When it’s his turn, be sure to touch and kiss every part of his body before getting to home base. This will be the most exquisite torture imaginable! Be sure to tantalize him through taste and smell as well as touch!

A blindfold is a nice touch. It will help him focus more on his other senses. How much pleasure you get on your next turn will depend on the pleasure you give him (education). Please note: Bondage between lovers who totally trust each other is not about violence, power trips, or being weird. It is about complete surrender.

It is about giving your lover the gift of being able to just lay back and totally enjoy the experience without having to do a thing, be expected to do a thing, or for that matter being able to do a thing.

Bondage was first introduced to many Americans in the early sixties when the book “THE JOY OF SEX” was published (Although, much earlier, in the ‘30s and ‘40s, Betty Page, one of the most popular cover and pinup girls ever, scandalized America by allowing herself to be photographed as the subject of this technique. Same story goes for early cinema vamp, Dolores Del Rio).

Variation of the above technique: One time, when your man’s all-tied-up and deliciously at your mercy, tell him you will not let him go until he reveals to you a deeply hidden fantasy that he has never told to anyone else!

Tell him if he does, next session you’ll do the same for him…and that you’ll do everything in your power to act out his.

Sharing fantasies will drive both of you wild.

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How To Make Sure That Women Climax?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 13:22:00 +0000

Couples need to work together to provide high quality intimacy to each other

A female patron of MYNIPPON recently asked us, "After reading your articles I was somewhat relieved that it seems that I am not the only girl who has never experienced a climax. My partner and I both enjoy the incredible intimacy involved in doing other things, as it shows us just how close we are to one another, and that we can share absolutely everything with each other. We love to just gaze at each other so intensely as we each please ourselves passionately.

However, I am even then not able to climax. I have heard and read that this may be caused by a lack of emotional attachment or trust, but that is certainly not the case with my partner. We have been together for years, are best friends and possibly the two closest people in the world. I have never been abused. However, we were both clueless about sex when we met each other and I am wondering if the lack of experience may be the reason. Please help me if you can understand my dilemma."

What is wrong with your situation and what to do about it?

1. It is ironical that in our society good sex education is still frowned upon. Even when we do get some, it is taught in such a way that the focus is on hygiene and prevention against diseases. Hardly ever, do we find that anyone is willing to teach us about the pleasure aspects, which I consider even more important. No wonder, we learn only through trial and error about intimacy for couples. If we end up being with a partner who is not adventurous enough, we might just as well will die without ever experiencing anything.

So it is very likely that you and your partner are not doing the right body motions. A woman's private organs are hidden and hard to reach if the man does not know where they are and how he can reach them. A visit to a couple of good websites and books on female anatomy will be helpful for both of you to read. You must then let him explore your body, preferably in front of a mirror as you help him learn more about the female body.

2. A man is typically trying to please himself as much as he is trying to please you. This is very natural. However, all couples have to realize that there will be times when your job is to please only your partner whether you achieve a climax or not. In most cases, if you have a strong emotional bond with your partner, you will feel a sense of pleasure by helping your partnerPhoto of a woman experiencing an orgasm. reach a climax. Thus, you must emphasize to your partner that he needs to make love to you for your own sake also, at least some time.

3. You must also make sure that you are physically able to experience pleasure. If certain positions are uncomfortable for you, please try other ones. You may also try pleasure creams for women that will help with lubrication. Consult a doctor for more help.

4. You must also ask your partner if he is experiencing discomfort or pain. Does he suffer from any other complications? He must immediately see a physician for advice.

5. If none of the above applies to you, then just keep trying. Gather as much knowledge as you can through websites, videos, and books and a personal advisor and then do not hesitate to try till you achieve a climax As clearly pointed out in the book, Amy's Tutorial: Reshape Your Womanhood, "All women basically have the same equipment and same potential to achieve a climax. If you are not handicapped or physically disable you must have it without serious troubles."

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How To Keep A Casual Relationship 'Casual'?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 13:18:00 +0000

Otherwise, stay away from casual dating

How do you feel about an intimate relationship with someone that you do not know really well? Is romance essential prior to being intimate? Do you want it to be short and passionate so that it remains a sweet memory so that you can still move on with your life? These are some questions that I started to investigate when several of my clients came to me with all kinds of emotional problems after such experiences.

Surprisingly enough, three out of four were women. I understand that men can have such an experience and not even think about it the day after. On the other hand, even when they knew it to be a one-time deal, women felt an emotional connection with the person and thought about it for a long period of time. In fact, in some cases, the continued to think for a long time and in the end, were heart-broken for months.

Girls have pretty diverse attitudes about intimacy and love. More than half of my clients do not become intimate with someone they do not know well. As one client of mine tells me, "I try to stay away from such adventures even if I am desperate. I have since learned to use toys instead. I have done the short and passionate romance thing and all that caused me was a lot of heartache. I still cannot get rid of these men in my life. I knew what I was getting into and felt that I would be OK but it did not work out that way.

I still think of at least three of my lovers." It was not easy for her to work with me for more than three months to erase the (sweet) memories and move on. As Kara Oh, the relationship expert and writer of the book "Men Made Easy," asks women, "Do you still believe in romantic love? Do you long to have it be a part of your relationship? Are you willing to admit that you want the little-girl dreams of a handsome prince carrying you off to his castle to live happily ever after? You’re not alone. Most women do." Women are simply too emotional creatures and even in a casual relationship, they fall in love to some extent.

Another client of mine says, "Before I become intimate with someone, I need to know if there is at least something else beyond my body that is attracted to me. I don't think romance is always essential prior to being intimate. Sometimes I want it to be short and passionate, for example, romance on a vacation, or a short affair on a business trip, or even a one-night thing, because I want the fun without the commitment."

My analysis shows that such romances do more harm than good for most women because women have a hard time compartmentalizing romance and intimacy. For women, romance leads to intimacy in the end, and thus, even in spur-of-the-moment intimacy, they need an element of romance. There will be times when you will simply wish for some fun but if you can't get romance, I would say, stay away from it.

Use toys instead. They do not leave you feeling hurt and you can move on without pain. If you still want it, then think of it is a fun activity and keep the emotions out. Remember, it is likely that the man will try to get you all emotional about it to make you do it but he is only lying. And you don't have to buy into his lies. But if you still want something that is not powered by a battery, just think of it as another toy that you can play with for a while even if "batteries not included."

Marriage Without Passion

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 00:34:00 +0000

Should I have an affair?

Lynne writes, "I am a mature woman, approaching 40s. I consider myself happy and independent. I am married to a great man and we have two children. Our relationship is not perfect, but when I compare it to others I feel it is fine and it has been improving over the years. My husband and I almost never argue. This does not mean we don't make each other mad; we have just learned how to avoid and accept things we dislike. Culturally we are very different. I am more social and I need this. I am in many ways the typical Hispanic woman. I love to dance and see people. He is very British. This does not mean we don't go out. We do, but only to eat in a nice restaurant and he is not a good talker although I respect this difference. So my problem is that once in a while I'll fall in love with another man.

I have not cheated but I have always been tempted. I can keep friends and I choose not to cheat, because I would not want anyone doing that to me. But I love feeling romantic love with someone, and of course, men seem to always want more. The three times that it has happened, my male friends become distant friends after a while. In the meantime I suffer, because a part of me would love to follow up on that and another one feels good that I have valued and respected our marriage. But why do I fall in love with other men?

I recently met a younger guy (23) who I dance with. I let him know I am married and have children, but it is obvious we like each other a lot. Sometimes I feel I have the best of all: A great husband and a good guy friend that gives all the love and attention I like, but another part is always tempted to take things a little further. Another part of me wonders, maybe, I should not be married. I don't feel it is my husband's fault. He has always been the same.

I knew he was more calm and this is what I liked about him. He does lack passion and especially in the winter this makes me feel cold and bored. He forgets my birthday, but he forgets everyone's birthday. He is sweet in other ways, just not fulfilling enough. There is no point on working on him. I don't feel like doing all the work all the time. I cannot stop dancing which would help me avoid meeting fun and passionate men. Then what can I do? I love being in love even if nothing else happens, but I don't like being in love and being married. Even if nothing physical happens it still takes time and emotional energy. But my heart needs it. Oh, please help."

Your behavior is not uncommon or unnatural. Whatever we are missing in our lives, we want it. It is obvious that your husband does not provide you with everything that you want from a man and that is why when another man comes along who does, you get that from him. Some women are lucky to have a "friend" like yours and others make online friends these days

Having an extramarital relationship is not easy, though. People can stop loving their own spouse then. Plus, your lover will always want more. It can be sex or commitment or a divorce from your spouse to get married or money or something else - if that does not happen, no one wants to be with a married woman for too long. One woman that I recently received an email from seems to have a better system - her lover is also married and they just support each other and want nothing else. Actually, they have only a long distance relationship and have yet to meet

This is what I would suggest. If you want to have an extra marital affair, be prepared for the consequences. We live in a small world and chances are that it may not be possible to keep it a secret for very long. That may mean that your family may fall apart. I like to think that if we start to compare our spouse to others, there will always be another person who is more beautiful or sexy or rich or funny or romantic. There is no end to it.

One exception is if you are not sexually satisfied. In that case, if you can manage it without complications, it is OK to go and make love with your dance partner once in a while but remember that you will still be playing with
fire.

Overall, I think that you have a great situation: marriage to a great guy and nice family, and there is no reason to put an end to it. And I understand that at this age it is not easy to change someone drastically. That is why you need to do what you want to do. So continue with your dancing and friendship with guys so that you are happy.

How To Handle Cheating Partner Before Marriage

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 00:09:00 +0000

Wondering if your man is cheating on you is not only a blow to your self-esteem, it can be stressful. However, a lot of the time, when someone merely suspects but has no evidence to prove adultery by a man, it is baseless to worry about it. Let us take a look at Tracy’s situation and what she can do alleviate her suffering.

Tracy writes. “I am 22 and my fiancé is 25. We have been together for almost four years, but now we are having jealousy issues over other women. I never used to be a very jealous woman. I never got my feathers ruffled up when I see a skinny blonde woman at the mall talking to my boyfriend or guy friends. But now it has changed since I have been with Steven. He makes me jealous when he talks to a woman. He acts as if he is a macho man and treats me like I am nothing. He bosses me around and he stares at other woman when we are together.

I also have strong suspicion that he has had an affair with one of his colleagues. How can I explain to him calmly how bad I feel being treated like this? How can I say this without hurting either of us? I want closure and feel better. I don’t want to be worried anymore?”

Looks as if your relationship is not going well and you might want to rethink if you want to get married to this man. If someone treats you like this, it may not be a good idea to spend the rest of your life with him. If you are not the center of his life, he is not the man to marry since infidelity is not an option in a marriage.

If you decide to stay with him, you must stop being paranoid. If you want to make this relationship work, you need to start with the trust that he is not cheating unless you have solid evidence of his crime. If you truly want the evidence, you may need to hire a private investigator. As a man he is unlikely to apologize even if he has done it - he will simply get defensive and may feel guilty but that is not going to help your relationship.

You must neither attack nor fight with him. The best way to approach is to have a calm conversation with him and tell him that, whether he did it or not, you suspect that he cheated on you. However, you would like the relationship to work and if he promises never to cheat again, you are going to do your best and expect him to make that promise as well. You also expect to be treated with respect. It is fine for him to have a set of friends (both guys and women), but if he marries you, it will be nice to hangout almost all the time by including you – though he will still have his freedom to hangout without you when he wants. Chances are that he will agree to do all these things and you can start fresh.

Valentine's Day For Singles

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 00:03:00 +0000

How to have a great time?

I have written previously how singles can have fun. Valentine's Day, which if you ask all those shops in the mall, begins as soon as Christmas shopping season is over, can be tough on single men and women. But there are a lot more single people out there than you think. So read the following tips from HeyUGLY and learn how you can have a great Valentine's Day without that special someone:

Celebrate yourself. Make a list of all of the wonderful, unique qualities you bring to the world. Note all of the things that you like about yourself and create a Valentine's card that you can give yourself.

Buy yourself a gift. If you've been putting off getting that new CD, DVD, or video game now is the time to buy it and give it to someone who really deserves it - YOU!

How To Introduce A Younger Boyfriend?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 23:35:00 +0000

Terry is a 36-year old single mom with two daughters (16 and 11) and has been in a relationship with a 21-year old. “We are so happy together and he’s already told his family members who accept us very warmly, but I’m scared to tell mine. He’s pushing me to because we have become serious about each other even though I tried to hold back. I dont think they’d be happy about it and my older daughter would be horrified. My ex-husband (violent, bullying) would probably try and take custody of my younger daughter. What am i supposed to do? He makes me so happy and would never hurt me or cheat on me even though he can easily get women his own age. I dont want to lose him but I’m trying to be practical and think of everyone else as well. Please help!” she writes.

How to introduce a younger boyfriend to others?

First of all, congratulations for both of you for finding love and you should right away introduce your younger boyfriend to your friends and family. Be brief and introduce him as you would any other man with no explanation from you. There is a possibility that some will tease you (your response should be something like “I know! Yeah, it is a good relationship.” And that’s it.), or be horrified (again no apologies; just say that love just happened and you are glad to have him as your boyfriend). In summary, don’t be apologetic (You haven’t robbed a bank; merely fallen in love) and no need to give complicated explanations (it isn’t other people’s business anyway). And please do not think of others - think of yourself. If you think of others all the time, with every guy someone in your group of friends and family will have a problem. So if this relationship is so beautiful to both of you, do your best to keep it that way.

How to talk to your children?

Well, first of all you have to take this idea out of your mind that you are some kind of an old woman (you are only 36!) and you cannot date a 21-year old (because your daughter is 16). Tell your daughter if she asks that love is a very complicated emotion as she too will learn over time. Also let her know that you do not expect her to treat your boyfriend as her father - she already has one. You just want her to treat him as your boyfriend - that he is special to you and you want her to understand that. Yes, your boyfriend will also need to build a bond too with your children over time to gain their trust and love.

Legal custody issues

I am no legal expert but you are not doing anything illegal. Merely falling in love with a younger man is no ground for changing the custody arrangements after divorce.

How To Make A Baby?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 20:26:00 +0000

Tips for couples to get pregnant

Kristen writes, "We are planning to have our baby. If you could suggest some basic preparation for the same, that will be great. Any kinds of test should I and my hubby should undergo or start eating certain types of food and vitamins? Do you think I should lose some weight before conceiving? I had miscarried during my last pregnancy and that is why I want to be extra careful this time."

Here are a few things to do to improve your chances of pregnancy and maintaining a healthy pregnancy:

1. Be happy. Stress and worry are not great emotions for an expectant mom.

2. Maintain a healthy weight. The body needs to be strong to accept a new human being.

3. Take prenatal vitamins.

4. Monitor your basal temperature and use an ovulation test to make sure that you know when you are ovulating.

5. Around the time of your ovulation, have frequent sex. Most doctors suggest daily or on alternate days to maximize your chances.

6. Do not use any lubrication. If you are not fully lubricated, you can use a finger for stimulation but no saliva is to be used. ProSeed is a lubricant that may be used only if absolutely necessary.

7. Use the missionary position. After he ejaculates, you can put a pillow under your hips to raise them. Then lie quietly for 15-20 minutes so that the semen does not come out and sperms can travel inside to your cervix.

8. If you have not been able to conceive in 12 months then you might want to consider tests like Fertell to determine if either of you has any infertility issues. At that time, you may consider more formal infertility treatments that may include IUI, IVF, or using donor eggs.

How To Approach A Girl That Sends Positive Signals?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 22:48:00 +0000

Matt in Vancouver asks, "I really like or even love this girl in one of my classes. During class it is impossible for us to talk, but on the way out, we at least once a week take the same bus home, and usually have a nice conversation. She is like my dream girl (or at least it is what I think). She is beautiful, smart, and we even share some friends. I really want to ask her out, but I don't know if she is diggin me or not. The way I see it she might because I sense it. She really likes talking to me and smiles a lot. Can you please give me some advice on how I can find out if she likes me, what to say etc. I thought of using pheremones, but really I want to get her with myself without using any sorts of tricks."

Looks as if she is really interested in you from what you tell me. It is also likely that she is waiting to be asked out and you have just been too shy so far to make that move. What I would advise is that you suggest something non-romantic to do together to really make sure that you are not wrong in your judgment. For instance, an offer to study together, do a project together, or grab a cup of coffee after the bus ride (start a good conversation on the bus and suggest that you would really like to carry on the conversation - what do you say if we grab a cup of coffee?).

If she agrees, it is a fair indicator of the fact that she wants to spend time with you and is not being merely polite because you are on the same bus. Once you do that, hopefully you will get
closer to each other and at that point it will be appropriate to ask her out on a date.

And forget about the pheromones at this point. Pheromones work when you do not know the person and try to attract someone with the right chemistry to you in a place where it will be just the two of you. They also work when you are in the bedroom. With this woman, you have already gone this far. All you need right now is to approach her as a gentleman would and hopefully you will find love.

Pheromones Work Beyond Romance

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 22:42:00 +0000

There is no agreement among scientists if pheromones truly do what many suppliers claim they do. So does it mean that you should use pheromones? Well, my answer is that if pheromones were a pill, I would say don't. You never know what can happen - just ask all those poor people who took vioxx. However, since pheromones are simply part of a cologne, what harm can there be. May be the object of your desire might not do what you want, but so what - not much damage done.

Now, according to Maria Gorodnitsky, director of public relations for Online Future Inc, a major distributor of pheromone products, there are other uses for pheromones. People have used pheromones to boost their business as well. For instance, a pair of customers, who own a restaurant, use pheromones on the chairs of their establishment. They have found that when they use pheromones in this way, patrons seem to spend more money. They also found that their waiters and waitresses seemed to get better tips when wearing pheromones.

Gorodnitsky also cites another client who started wearing pheromones when showcasing houses for his real estate business. According to the client, his sales increased by 40%. Says Gorodnitsky, "Pheromones are the most primal form of communication, and can at times replace vocal communication."

How To Make A Man Commit After You Meet Him?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 22:38:00 +0000

How to meet the man you like?

Sonia is a sophomore who has never had a boyfriend before simply because she is too shy. She writes, "I never could approach guys because I'm insecure about myself. Anyways, I am attracted to a senior at my campus, I always see him and smile at him and he smiles back but the main problem is we're both shy and have never gone beyond this exchange of smiles. Everyday I tell myself that today is the day I'll at least say hi and ask him his name but I can never bring myself to do it. Because of differences in our schedules, I don't see him often. When I see him and do nothing, that makes me so disappointed with myself. I want that little step to see if he's interested in at least talking to me, then I can move forward. I don't know what to do. Please suggest a plan for me."

Well, there are a few things you need to deal with and they have different time horizons. For instance, overcoming your shyness and insecurities are things that you need to work on long-term while approaching this person is something that you can work on right now.

In dealing with cases like yours in the past, different women have found different things that have worked for them. Let me offer you some ideas and you can then decide which one you feel most comfortable trying.

1. Write a short note for him telling him exactly how you feel and asking if he feels the same way, and if so, to contact you (email is better than phone because it is easy to respond to an email than not knowing what to say when the phone rings). And then just hand it over to him. Chances are that this will get things started. I even had a case in which one woman simply walked to the guy, handed a piece of paper with her phone number, and had a wonderful relationship. That little act was all both of them needed needed to confirm that they liked each other.

2. You could start off more slowly by not really introducing yourself but making a casual comment (formally introducing yourself will be awkward but a casual comment that you would make to any perfect stranger will be so much easier for both) when you see him. It could be about the weather or school, or my favorite one, about him. For instance, I get happy when someone comments on my car or hair or sweater or whatever - even if it is a stranger. That's the way we human beings are. We like to be noticed and appreciated by others. I think that will be a good icebreaker. Once you do that, next time you see him, you can take it to next level by saying something like, "Hey, what's up? How is your day going?"

3. Find out if you both have a mutual friend/connection and see if she/he can hook you up, or in other words, act as a matchmaker. Chances are someone you know might know him or a friend of him and it is easy to make it happen.

Does Online Dating Work?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 22:32:00 +0000

Many of our readers are very confused about the effectiveness of online dating. They are bombarded with ads and sales pitches which make them even more confused. As Lisa in Arlington, Virginia, writes, "I am getting very confusing messages about Internet dating. Before I sign up with an online dating website, I want to know what to expect so that I can pick the right service and also plan ahead on what should I expect to pay. Can you share with us the experience of your readers?"

We think that in a lot of ways, we see in online dating hype an analogy with pheromones. So what our readers are telling us is that online dating works but don't expect results overnight though we have heard from couples who actually meet the RIGHT ONE but also have a lot of fun doing it.

What does online dating provide?

1. Access of a lot more singles than you can find in the offline world, so that you have better chances of finding someone with a good fit with you.

2. It literally works while you sleep. Joking aside, what we mean is that in the offline world, you need to be physically in the company of singles making an effort to establish contact with someone you think might have a fit with you for the system to work. With online dating, once you publish your personal profile, then even when you are not online, other singles will look at your profile, send you messages, or put you on their shortlist of interesting candidates..

3. You have complete privacy. Let us say that you like to be tied up in bed or you enjoy having snakes as pets. While at a singles bar, you might not be able to say things like this openly (you could be ridiculed right away or people might roll their eyes or even think of you as someone odd or weird), but with online dating, not only can you say exactly who you are, you can also say what you want. Because, there is someone like you somewhere with the same personality waiting to meet you. Such matches are possible only when enough people can be in the same location.

How to take advantage of online dating?

1. Do your research. Visit as many online dating websites as you can and analyze the type of members that they have in their database. Most online dating websites will also let you also try the system for a week or two. So sign up and then test the system to see if it is for you.

2. Stay away from FREE websites. Nothing good is generally free. If a company invests all the resources to put together a decent website that works, provide customer service, then they have to charge customers. The other thing is that you will find a lot of losers on free websites. So if you are committed to find a relationship of your dreams, then you will have to pay. Yes, the monthly charge can add up pretty quickly, so sign up for several months to take advantage of the discount (yes, it can take months before you find the right one) or read our article on budget online dating.

3. Be honest. Do not lie. Even if you are married and are looking to cheat, you better say that. You will be better off by telling the truth up front.

4. Take the time to write your personal ad. Think of it as your resume for a job search. That is the only piece of information people have about you. Be creative. Ask a friend for help. Read other people's ads to get new ideas. Look at yourself and see what makes you different. Write it down. The more interesting your personal ad is the better your chances at succeeding with online dating.

5. Get a good photo. For God's sake, just invest in a good digital camera.

6. Be patient. It will take time to find the right one.

7. Be responsive. When someone writes to you, always send a reply, even if you are not interested. This is an important courtesy in online dating.

8. Don't do anything that can come to hurt you later. For example, do not email photos in suggestive poses even if you like the person. It is best to have a relationship first before you email anything like that. Similarly, do not anything like that on a webcam or send suggestive emails.

9. Don't waste your time on someone who is not working out for you. At any point you have a right to terminate the contact but be polite and elegant. Remember, news travels fast on the Internet. If you piss someone off, they can go bitch about you elsewhere.

10. Have fun. Online dating doesn't have to be stressful (like offline dating is). Think of it as a great way to meet new people. Hopefully, you will also fall in love with someone.

Real Stories of Online Romance

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 22:25:00 +0000

Mynippon has been closely following the trends in romance, particularly online romance. We have always believed that finding romance is best done through one-on-one interaction in a non-threatening, non-competitive environment by the two parties and we think online dating (read our review of online dating options) provides this with a few extras thrown in as well.

A survey that we conducted about an year ago essentially proved that online dating has come a long way as it has become more acceptable to find love online. Like any other network, its power lies in number of members. It should also be noted that power of a network grows exponentially with the grown in membership. That means that as online dating websites grow in membership, you can now literally find that special someone with just a little bit of effort.

We hear from our patrons all the time how they have succeeded in finding not only dates and friendships, but also long-term committed relationships and life partners. It is obvious from what we are hearing from our members that the Internet essentially makes it possible to find that one-of-a-kind person who is a perfect match for you no matter where she or he lives. Even if it is the other end of the world! Take the example of Scott, an American. He not only found romance on the Internet with a wonderful Japanese girl, he actually moved to Japan to be with her. "I was looking to find a Japanese girlfriend after returning from my first trip to Japan. I came across Chika's listing on Cupid Junction and initially we just had occasional friendly conversations. But that changed soon. We began chatting on a regular basis.

I would get up early to chat with her before work and she would stay up late. Even on my days off when I could have slept in, I would wake up and head to the computer to chat with her. After a lonely Christmas, I decided to make another trip to Japan in March. It was unlikely that she would come to the US and leave her sick mother, so to be with Chika, I would have to be there. I needed to sell my home and leave my job I had for almost 10 years. But it was all worth it. We are now happily married and even blessed with a child."

It is clear that meeting that special someone on the Internet and then having to decide if you have to leave everything behind to be with that person can be a big decision. Crystal, an girl from Arizona, who has an English boyfriend that she ran into when she posted an intimate encounter personal ad to find some casual romantic company during her one-month vacation there, thinks that people should be guided by the depth of their love in making such decisions. She tells us, "I want to move to England, not only for him but because I want to. I think you should go wherever you have to because you can literally make a new life almost anywhere but it is hard to find true love.

I never knew that Simon and I, who had only casual company on our mind initially when we hooked up, would actually fall in love. Love is the most important thing! Other things will come and go, but if we are both in love, its something that will last forever! I will try to get a job there and he and I are very excited that we can see each other everyday. I am still trying to sort out everything about going but for now we love each other very much. Maybe a simple story for others, but to me, it's a perfect love story!"

Mark's story is totally different. Living in the mid-west United States, he had given up all hopes of getting married to an American since no woman wanted to live with him on the farm and raise cattle. He considered himself to be a family man with stable income and comfortable home to live but the nearest supermarket was 15 miles and the nearest mall was over an hour away. There was literally nothing exciting to do on the farm and he expected that when he began working on his farm early in the morning his wife would help out. So when he posted his personal ad on eHarmony (a website popular among people seeking to get married), he made it clear that he was willing to consider women from any country as long as she spoke a few words of English.

He was confident that his love and patience will help her learn more about America, and of course, the English language. His match with several girls from Russia and Romania motivated him to communicate with these girls and eventually he felt a strong connection with Tasha, a Russian woman who herself grew on a farm and knew everything about raising cattle. He tells us, "

Around the time I was thinking about meeting Tasha, I received a surprise that seemed to make Tasha and I a sure thing. A good omen. I won a $2,000 gift certificate from a local jeweler to be used for bridal jewelry. I was amazed that I won, especially in light of my plans to marry Tasha! When I told Tasha, she agreed that is was a good sign. She and I began to plan for us to meet. After a few weeks of trying one date or another we settled on the middle of July. We both booked our flights and met in Milan.

It felt so good to hold her in my arms! We had 3 nights and 2 days to spend together. We had a fabulous time. And of course we had lots of private time together too! During some of our time together I gave Tasha something that brought us closer to our future life together. I gave her THE engagement ring and officially asked her to marry me!"

How To Put A Relationship On Hold?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 20:10:00 +0000

Jason has been in a relationship for not too long - just six months, but he likes his girlfriend and would consider a committed relationship. However, there is a problem - he has many other commitments to keep at work and his part-time career as a basketball player is taking off. “I have been really stressed out due to these pressures and have not had the time to see her or talk to her. I honestly don’t know if I should breakup and move on. I do not want to disappoint her by not spending enough time with her, but I also do not have the time for a relationship. What should I do?”

The question you have to ask yourself is Do you like her enough to see a future with her? If you do, you can let her know that you will be busy for the next few months and are not sure if you have enough time to dedicate to the relationship - though you would try to do your best. Hopefully she will understand. If she chooses to wait, you must do your best to spend time with her when you can. It is also not a bad idea to send small gifts from time to time. (Related: Should you wait if you really love someone?)

If she is not sure, then you can suggest that both of you will be free to date during the interim period, but can still be friends, and when you do have time later on, you can both talk if it is a good idea to resume the relationship.

If she wants to end the relationship completely, that would work out just fine for you because that will free up both of you to pursue your own lives. Plus, you will not feel any guilt over not being straightforward about your intentions.

How To Approach The Man I Like?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 20:06:00 +0000

Caroline writes, “I am a very shy person and the other day I met this most amazing, handsome man. He paid me a lot of attention to me at a party and hinted that he wanted to go out with me. Since I am so uncomfortable around men and did not know what to say, I just kept smiling. After a while, he left me alone, and I think that he guessed that I was not interested in him. I think if I go on like this I will lose every person that I like and I will end up with the people who I don’t like! I don’t know what is wrong with me that I can’t say the right words in the right place or react correctly to what other people do. When am I going to learn? It’s really hard! I keep thinking what am I doing! Is this right? I have to learn someday! Please help.”

What can a shy woman do?

I get an impression that you have this wrong idea that men should do all the work and you will simply sit and hope that things will magically happen for you. At least that is not how men like women to be. Yes, men will do a lot of the initial work but men also like women to do some of the work — for instance, you should have shown equal interest in him and seconded the proposal to have a drink with him. Plus, since gentlemen do not like to harass women, if a woman does not respond positively, they quickly back off.

So if you end up in a similar situation in the future - this is what you have to do. Don’t be intimidated that someone likes you. When a man likes a woman, he will try to tell her so indirectly by paying more attention to her. And when he says that wants to have a drink with you, it means that he wants to go out on a date with you.

The right response that you could have given is “Oh, yes, that will be great. Why don’t you give me your number and I will call you.” I like this technique because as a woman if you really liked the guy, you can call him a few days later and say, “Hey, I enjoyed meeting you that day. Now when you have some time, give me a call, and here is my phone number. We can do something together.”

If you don’t like the guy, then you can simply throw his number in the garbage and forget about it.

Sometimes some men will ask for your number and the way they ask and depending on the situation (you can still politely refuse if you are simply not interested), it is OK to give it - many men don’t even call but that is the way to do it. Some will call and you go out and have a drink with them or eat a meal. If things go well, you can meet again and start a relationship. Otherwise, you can just say later that “Thanks for the drink but I have met someone else.” Most people understand and will never bother you again.

Can Caroline approach the man that she likes?

Now regarding this guy that you met - I think your host can get his phone number for you and it is perfectly fine to call him. All it takes is “Hey, I enjoyed talking to you the other day. I am sorry that I forgot to give you my phone number - that was impolite. Why don’t you call me when you get a chance and maybe we have a drink?” And that’s it. He will do the rest.

Men and women are meant to be together - there is nothing unethical about a single man and woman to approach each other. Plus, all you are doing is suggesting that you are interested in this man - it is a long way from here still.

What he will think?

He will be happy and will be thankful that you did approach him because he must be feeling so rejected after you treated him bad that day. He paid all this attention to you and you simply ignored him.

You still have to find out more about him to decide if you want to have a relationship with this man but that is why you want to meet him - to see what he is like, what does he want from you, does he really care about you or is he just a chick magnet. Meeting him a few times will allow you to answer these questions.

Can You Ask A Man To Commit?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 19:50:00 +0000

It is much better if he does it on his own

One of the biggest challenges women facing while dating is to get commitment from a man. Cathy has been dating a man for over six months but their relationship has not gone too far since he never showed any desire to take the relationship to the next level. They enjoyed each others company but never reached a point to make their relationship more official.

She says, "For Valentines Day I thought it would be nice for us to get together and spend some quality time. I even thought that he might make a stronger commitment to me. After showing his reluctance to even go on a date with me, I gave up, but at the last minute he showed up at my place. We had a pleasant evening as we both do like each other. We talked for hours about family, personality, our zodiac signs, etc. He confided he told his friends that he finds me sweet. I asked him.

Does he think he takes care of my needs, and he said no, and not like he would like to. When he asked me if I was happy he came, I told him, yes, but I think my frustration with his cavalier attitude showed. He also noticed it. Do you think I am wasting my time with this man? Will I ever be able to have a real relationship with this man?"

You know I always get a bad feeling when a woman has to ask a guy to spend time with her - it simply means that the guy is not serious about the relationship. And I think that is where you are right now. It seems he came not because he was looking forward to it and thought it would be romantic to spend time with you - he came because he thought he owed it to you.

From now on, I will suggest that you don't reach out to him and wait for him to proactively pursue you - if he does, then be polite and see where the relationship goes. If he does not contact you frequently enough and comes up with excuses about his time constraints, well, it might have been a casual relationship for him. Don't lose sleep over that. It is time for you to move on too. When you force a man to commit against his will, he might do so, but such relationships often end up in divorce and breakup.

How To Catch A Cheat?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 19:34:00 +0000

Tips to get the proof of an adulterous spouse or partner

Infidelity expert Ruth Houston says that if you suspect that your special someone is cheating, the best time to catch a cheat is around the Valentine's Day. After all it is the time when romantics demonstrate their love to each other and shower gifts on them. She says, "Any cheating husband or boyfriend who wants to stay in his lover's good graces, (and in her bed) has to buy her a gift. More than likely that gift will be delivered in person -- if not on Valentine's Day, then the day after or the day before."

So what can you do to catch an adulterous spouse?

If you have been desperately trying to get the evidence on your own and have failed, then Houston says, it may be time to hire a private investigator to follow your mate so that you can then confront your cheating partner with the proof. "You're almost certain to get the proof you need at a fraction of the usual cost. Since you only need the investigator's services for 1 to 3 days, you can avoid running up a big bill," she advises.

More Ways to Cut Costs

Houston further advises, "You can further reduce your costs to a few hours time, if you can pinpoint the window of opportunity when your spouse or significant other is most likely to make contact with his or her lover - lunch time, before work, after work, late at night when they think you're asleep. You probably already have a pretty good idea of when that might be."

How To Have Healthy Hair?

noreply@blogger.com (Sayaka Kawamura) — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 19:29:00 +0000

Use the right hair conditioner for your type

No amount of makeup or apparel will make you look great unless your hair looks right. And if you do not pick the right product for your hair, there is nothing that can fix messy hair. That is why it is important to "treat" your hair the right way and here are a few products that we have tested and found to be excellent.

Kerastase Nutritive Masquintense Intense Enriching Treatment, Thick. This is a luxurious conditioner. It is somewhat expensive, but this is a very good conditioning treatment for damaged hair. The fragrance is very pleasant and it leaves the hair shiny, easy to style, and soft. Approximately $70.

Garnier Fructis Fortifying Fortifying Deep Conditioner, 3 Minute Masque. At less than $4, this is one of the best deep conditioners in this price range. It leaves the hair soft and it is easy to comb even severely damaged hair. The results are, of course, not as good as those with the more expensive conditioners, but it is still a good product for most hair types, if you are looking for an inexpensive product.

L’Oreal Professionnel Intense Repair Intense Nutrition Masque for Dry Hair. This hair product does a lot of good for damaged hair after a few applications. It is an intensive treatment ideal for damaged, dry or long hair that needs extra care. It is used after shampoo on towel-dried hair and left for 2 to 3 minutes. Just rinse after applying. Costs about $17.

L'Oreal Professionnel Hydra Liss System Liss Extreme Shampoo. A little lighter than the other products researched, it really helps to make frizzy, difficult hair easy to style. It is used after shampoo on towel-dried hair and left for two to three minutes and then rinsed. Costs about $17.

Neutrogena triple moisture sheer hydration leave-in foam. This mousse has a styling function but it is also a good conditioner. It is ideal for damaged or dry hair.

Neutrogena Triple Moisture Deep Recovery Hair Mask Instead. A great bargain at a price of less than $7. Perfect for damaged or dry hair.