I could see, I was blind.

I was lost, I was found.

I was rich, I was poor.

I was the student, I was the teacher.

I had everything, I had nothing.

I looked at others, to others, rather than looking at myself.

I was the darkness, I was the light.

And while I was all this I was visible to some and invisible to others.

Despite all this, still I am…

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Every single time the feeling of being offended arises observe it, see what is offended. Are you ready to explore what you have come to believe? Are you willing to be challenged? Rather than ask these questions a layer of protection forms, this is known as an air of superiority. It is easy to fall into this frequency and make the assumption the challenge is coming from a confused individual who simply needs a little more experience or study in their repertoire, and when they do, they will understand and come to think like you.

To transparently explore we have to be willing to enter something completely open, this means all you think to be true and know can be freely questioned. In this space you are willing to be wrong, you are willing to ask the questions that will challenge the comfort zones you have become accustomed to.

This means taking a stance of superiority does not protect you. In fact it simply highlights a resistance to the process of true transparent exploration.

It is not uncommon to come across certain beliefs and ideologies that are rife in our current cultural psychosis. Likewise it’s not uncommon to come across individuals that are so attached to their belief and ideologies that they will refuse to truly see the reality that is right before them.

Are we so unwilling to let go of forms of identity that actually remove us from a true form of individuality?

The open relationship conversation is certainly not uncommon, regardless of whether it’s spoken about in the Work Environment, Pubs or New Age Circles. I am willing to ask how much of this conversation is actually based in genuine truth and connection which considers all relevant parties. This also goes for the books and attempted practice in open relationships, how much of it is truly based in our current paradigm and reality?

It is important to note that the idea and potential benefits of experiencing a true open relationship could be a profound experience. Some books that are dedicated or at least touch on the subject are talking about something that can be a beautiful experience for both Male and Female. This is a key aspect that needs to be truly understood to embark on a true serving open relationship, BOTH parties must be willing participants and they both must be completely transparent.

The truth of the matter is most of Humanity in its current state of consciousness are unable to embrace an open relationship.

This is to say most so called new age advocates can speak the words, but have no true deep understanding of the process and what it means. Most of the conversation on this subject largely comes from men who are still trying to hold on to Patriarchal domineering energies that have no place in a true open connection. It becomes a bypass that tries to make something that is now very old and outdated seem fresh and new, manipulation at its finest.

Make special note that this is being written by a man, not a scorned woman bitter from relationships gone bad. If you were thinking at any point this must have been written by such an individual then you were in that energy we talked about earlier, the air of superiority.

To even embark on the open relationship conversation with someone you are intimately connected with, either physically or energetically takes immense responsibility. Under no circumstances would a genuine male or female engage in the relationship if they knew the other party wanted more than they were willing to offer. Furthermore the responsibility transcends to all the connections you have with others. To mention your desire for an open relationship after you have engaged in an exchange of companionship, innuendo, energy or physical contact is not being a transparent genuine individual.

To embark on the exploration of serving, honouring connections takes a certain inner connection. This inner connection comes from taking time and space to honestly ask internal questions, this takes strength, courage and dedication to understand your true intentions and fears. Awareness of this process can allow you to truly experience the gift of relationship. In this space you can embark on a true open relationship, but you will only do this with others in the same place and intention. Likewise you are not fearful of committing to another to fully experience a union truly beyond words. This type of experience lasts for as long as it lasts, there are no predefined rules to restrict it to a specific time period. Neither is there a need to restrict it to external validation, because when you feel this union you know it for what it is and this cannot be experienced in an open relationship.

To understand these two types of relationships are of immense value when we truly embrace them for what they are. They are both very different, and both take responsibility and honesty very few of us are in a space to give.

Begin the journey of transparency and dare to embrace vulnerability. Mistake this not for weakness, for it takes far more strength to enter a relationship open and vulnerable than it does to enter with a persona of strength, protection and safety. In fact to truly experience the love and gift of relationship you must surrender completely to the experience. You must be willing to put everything you believe on the line and be willing to fully experience.

Are you ready?

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In the West we live in what is deemed as a pillar of example for democracy and free speech. It is therefore very common to hear people proclaim they have a right to their opinion.

I question this; I question our right to have an opinion. It has been my experience on a number of occasions that I have defended and expressed an opinion, only to find upon further enquiry that it has no validity. This is not an easy thing to face; it sends you to further depths of exploring the world in which you think you live.

I do hope you are with me in this line of questioning, no matter how difficult it may feel. It may emerge feelings of anger or frustration, but the journey is worth it.

What is it to truly have an opinion?
What is the opinion being expressed founded on?

To truly have an opinion takes an immense responsibility, a responsibility to understand what you are speaking, to question the thought process, to be open to the possibility of being incorrect. Above all else it is the grace to know, to deeply understand the intention that lies behind the expression of your thought process.

When we come from a place of responsibility in what we speak and express, it has the ability to change the way we communicate. It changes how we look at things, it changes the way we operate in our daily lives. When you take this responsibility on, rather than mindlessly speak, you look into the subject intensely. To truly understand what is driving this impulse to express is an aspect of freedom, the freedom to explore as an individual.

Often the expression of opinion in our society is a mere act of mimicry. Few understand the responsibility it takes to truly have an opinion, to truly understand the impact and vibration it has in forming our reality.

Are you any different?
Do you have a right to your opinion?

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Many of us have likely experienced this at some point in time. I am not ashamed to say I have at times asked the very same questions, sometimes they may lie silent or dormant within, but they are there. What is the driving force for this want or need to have others believe in us? Recently I have been in the situation where I have been faced with this thought process, the feeling, the need to have others provide their opinion of me. The space of doubt and fear that looks for freedom in words from those around us is a murky road. Often we find the response received is not adequate to what we feel is needed, looking to others for what lies within provides no freedom from this process.

No-One can heal this ultimately sabotaging behaviour for us, we can only find the answers that lie within our own being, this need only arises from an inner lack of believing in your own ability. Some of the greatest achievements in human history have been made from individual’s determination and belief when all those around them thought otherwise, what does this tell us?

How can we actually expect anyone to see what we are unable to? Using the mirror of relationship we can see in others what we cannot in our own existence. There are times when those outside of you can see your gifts and do believe in you, however this is something that comes freely from others, and it is something that we have no control over. It certainly does not arise when we look for recognition.

So I ask you to question the origin of this need when it arises. Ask what am I looking for? What am I not seeing?

Have the courage to walk the path you feel right and true, believe in YOU, and then watch how others freely see your worth without you ever needing it.

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