Hard to believe and imagine? But it’s really happen in few relationships where men really don’t want to have sex. I know what move in your mind now. Does he homo type or sick @#%$&? Whatever….Maybe….However there’re other reason that you might want to know. You know the drill right? With the exception of a few monk types who have meditated their libidos into submission, there’s not a man alive who wouldn’t jump at the chance to do the horizontal cha-cha. Driven by man dicks and aroused by everything from a brisk walk in corduroy to Nigella Lawson, the theory goes that man in possession of a heat-seeking moisture missile that’s continually primed and ready for action. So why would a man choose not to make jiggy when you put forward the invitation. Well, as they say in classics, it’s not you, it’s him – mostly.

Reason #1 Thanks But No

At first, this is going to sound as preposterous as the words, “And the Oscar for Best Actress goes to … Britney Spears” but hear me out. After a year or seven of slutting it up with any woman who would fall for his insincere compliments, a certain proportion of men realise that they have been shoring up their crumbling self-esteem by accumulating bed mates and decide to do things differently for a change. One of the revelations they come to is that just because a woman wants to sleep with them, it doesn’t mean they have to take up the offer. He’s had his fill of shallow, recreational sex and is now prepared to wait for a real connection. Don’t be discouraged by the fact that he doesn’t identify you as a sign of respect. Which will be easier to do when you consider his alternative: Bedding you just because he could!

Reason #2 Upping The Ante

Warning, warning: There are some despicable playas out there who will work the predominant misconception that any man will sleep with any willing woman to their advantage. Their MO is as malignant as it is effective and it goes like this: By pretending they are not physically attracted to a woman, they insidiously play on her insecurities, which make her try harder to make him succumb to her fleshy charms. The further he retreats, the more the pursues and when he finally give in, he gets a lusty vixen hell-bent on conquest. The reason this ploy works is that woman are usually the hunted in this scenario and the guy who flips the equation is counting on the fact that she will have had little experience with rejection. This is primo manipulation, so don’t let him use your self-esteem against you.

Reason #3 A Beautiful Friendship  

Grab the dustpan and broom because another male misconception is about to be shattered. When our hormones don’t hijack the project in its early stages and we manage to establish a platonic relationship with a woman, we cherish it more than you know. Having a impartial yet caring buddy who can advice us on everything from gifts for girlfriends, fashion faux pas and relationship troubles is an asset that many a man would not risk damaging through sex. Despite the fact this platform of respect and trust would be the ideal breeding ground for a relationship, he won’t see the irony. Of course, he’s imagined you naked but he won’t make it a reality as bitter experience has taught him that sleeping with friends invariably changes the nature of the relationship and he values what he has with you too much to take that chance.

Reason #4 Handle With Care 

A generation ago, your average bloke had a can on his chest, a beer belly below it and felt pretty good about both. Today, however, we live in the era of equal opportunity unrealistic body expectations and are battling many of the issues that women have faced for decades. Overweight celebs are ridiculed in the press, six packed, cap-toothed himbos are used to selling everything from soft drink to flu medication, and single girls recoil in horror at the thought of a hirsute back or shoulders. Men have had to lift their game, but some have also fallen prey to the paranoia that he might not measure up in the physique stakes and is therefore reluctant to get naked. Granted, many guys have egos that effortlessly vault such concerns, but there are a significant few who’d rather delay sex until the crunches kick in than have you be put off his bod.

Reason #5 Oops, I Did It Again

Just as with their bodies, men have had to put some work into their sexual technique. Your modern woman demands and deserves satisfaction. She wants foreplay, an orgasm before yours and a bit of emotional connection in the afterglow. For a bloke with a tendency to shoot off his fireworks before the end of the parade, this can be an intimidating scenario. Especially since the thrill of sex with someone for the first time tends to hasten what is already happening way, way, way too soon. Rather than find himself in a situation where a woman he “almost” made orgasm is telling him not to worry because it happens to lots of guys, a minority of men might seek to put the sex on hold until he can figure out a preventive technique.  

Reason #6 Novelty Factor: Zero

As time passes in a relationship, the sexual heat invariably fades and it’s only naturally that you aren’t jumping each other’s bones with the frequency and passion you did early on. As long as both participants have cooled to the same degree, this is no biggie. If, however, your libido is out powering his and he doesn’t seem that interested, you’ve got two choices: Battery-powered assistance or injecting spice into your love life by adding new tricks to your repertoire such as outfits or positions. Before continuing, I should point out that keeping your sex life fresh is not your sole responsibility and he has to contribute too, but the reason he may not be that keen on doing the rumpy-pumpy is that the reward is not worth the routine. Yes, even a man can find sex a bit ho-hum.   

Reason #7 Busy, Busy, Busy

For some guys, getting their rocks off is the ultimate stress-relief as it combines physical exertion with an endorphin rush. For others, a hectic work schedule, the ever-present threat of company redundancies and even studying can depress their libido to such a degree that it might as well have been listening to Evanescence for a week. Because many men don’t vocalise the effect stress and pressure might be having on them, it is internalised and manifests itself in the form of a lowered immune system (leading to never ending bouts of flu), a lack of energy and a shortness of temper. If he likes a drink at times like these, he’s even less likely to want to have sex. Fact: Alcohol is a depressant. While it may make him feel horny, the effect that enough of it has on south of the equator can be summed up in three words: Cute but floppy. Add a poor diet and little exercise to the mix and it’s a wonder he can get himself up in the morning – let alone Mr Happy.

Reason #8 You’re Not Alone 

Women have a uncanny ability to know when their man has been with someone else. Forget a strange perfume or lipstick mark; even the way he kisses can give it away. Men know this and the reason he may not want to have sex with you is that he’s petrified of somehow giving the game away. Of course, this is not the smartest move as you’ll probably put one and one together and get the fact he’s getting his once rampant needs met elsewhere. If it gets to stage the stage where having sex with you feels like a chore he undertakes to keep up pretence, the frequency will dwindle as sure as Backstreet Boys will never have another hit. In addition to this, there probably just won’t be enough of him to go round and you will be the lover who’s rationed first.

Reason #9 Bargain Basement   

There is only one instance in which a man will refuse to sleep with you out of spite and that’s if he feels you have used sex as a bargaining tool in the relationship. For example, if he does/says/buys X, you will reward him by doing Y in bed. This exercise in power is carried out by only a minority of women who soon find out that it comes back to bite them as no one likes being played. Not least a man who believes that you might actually just want to have sex with him because you find him attractive, funny, loving or whatever. Dangling the promise of carnal treats will not make him want you more. In fact, do so persistently enough and he will begin to wonder whether you walk the walk as good as you talk to talk.

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As a woman, it’s not easy to manage people especially if you’re working around men or people who much older than you. You’re powerful but nobody like you. It clearly shows that you’re not using the power you have effectively and subtly. The most powerful person must be strong in knowledge, to be loves, to be respects, easy work with others, high tolerance, understanding, good planning, manage effectively, etc. Contrary to popular belief, power is really a nasty beast that can easily get out of control. However, it can be tamed if you know how to control yourself from inside outside.

Power is not all petunias and orchids. First, there’s the constant resentment you’ve to deal with among subordinates – especially if there’re older than you. The constant bickering that goes on behind your back, making your job a friendless one. And the responsibility: You’re accountable for your team’s performance. Power is nasty thing indeed. But it doesn’t have to be that way. If used with care, power can help you achieved much more. Just remember the golden rule about getting people to do what you want: Making them want to do it.

Golden Rule # 1 Be Likeable

To be likeable by everyone is almost possible to be achieved.  That’s why people always says “We’re not living to satisfying everyone’s needs” especially we as humans that never feel satisfied with what we’ve had and had been given. Think back to when you were in school. You can perhaps recall how you had to elect people into positions of power: The class monitor, head perfect, club president. Now, ask yourself why you elected whoever you did. It’s probably because you liked her. This business of being likeable cannot be trivialised. It’s hard to give your subordinate everything he wants. There is a solution, though. As a woman in power, you’re in a position to grant his that feeling of importance. Do so, and he’ll like you. There’s nothing better than having subordinates that like you.

Golden Rule #2 Avoid Making Enemies  

We’ve all got an enemy or two at work, someone either above us or below us, waiting for his or her change to plot our downfall. But enemies and allies are cultivated, not made. If you’re already a likeable woman, then you’ve no doubt wont over your subordinates. Now, what about your peers? Your superior? How you can avoid turning them into enemies? The simple answer is not to offend them. You can do that by not telling them they’re wrong to their face. Instead find more diplomatic ways of bringing them around to your point of view. An easy way to do that is to feign ignorance….if only for a while. If your boss has asked you to do a project you know is doomed to failure, do not tell him straight-faced that it’ll never work. Instead, say something like, “You think it will work? I thought it wouldn’t. I could be wrong, of course. But let’s go over this again, just to be sure…..” See? The easiest way to avoid making enemies is to not unto them what you’d not want them to do unto you.

Golden Rule #3 Keep Your Power Secret

Much as we’d like to give our subordinates everything they want, sometimes it really is just not possible. Example, like changing his working hours, for instance: You may be powerful, but you’re not that powerful. Yet, how are you to convey the message to him without losing his respect? Easy: By never promising him anything. If you get into the habit of saying YES to every request, there’re going to come to expect that response, no matter what. Instead, say “I’ll try,” even for really easy stuff. You know you can get him a new PC, but there’s no need for him to know it. When he does get his new machine, he’ll like you very much for trying hard to get it for him. There might even be a glimmer of respect. But he didn’t really think you could do it – therein lies your ace.

As long as you keep him guessing about how powerful you really are in the company, two great things will happen: First, won’t come running to you every time he needs something – his first course of action will be to try and figure it out himself. Second, he’s not going to campaign against you because he’s under the impression that you’re nobody anyway. This makes it easier to work with him and vice versa. Power is useful when people can recognise it. But sometimes, it’s even more useful when they can’t.   

Golden Rule #4 Double Your Power

We can become incredibly self-centred when it comes to preserving our power. But have you considered how you could use your subordinates to compound the power you already have? By thinking of them as allies instead of subordinates, you expand your power base over twofold: Your knowledge, their knowledge, and the combined synergy of both. But your subordinate must first feel he has some sort of power to begin with. To do this, help build him a reputation he must live up to you. You have a reputation. Perhaps you’re a gifted marketer – you make sure your sales never hit a slump. Similarly, once you recognize a particular talent in him (say he’s a good speaker), give him the opportunity to shine. Let him carve a name for himself. With his presentation skills and your acute marketing instinct, you’re a killer team. Your power base can only grow stronger.

Golden Rule #5 Praise, Don’t Criticise

Being in positions of power, we’re often tempted to flaunt it by criticising subordinates. Criticism is bad any way you look at it. Encouragement is a better bet. Make subordinates feel the need to improves themselves – not get another job! End Result? The subordinate is on continues improvement curve, and you get a competent worker. Criticising a person’s failures will only compound his belief that he’s not up to task. Motivating him to keep going, however, will make him rise to the challenge.

Golden Rule #6 Don’t Abuse Your Power  

There are many types of power – expert, emotional, political, and circumstantial – but how you use each of them determines how you’ll fare in an organisation. Let’s take expert power. This means you’ve particular skill or knowledge that pretty much makes you near indispensable to the firm. You’re an asset to any organisation because of this skill – and you know it. There is nothing wrong with knowing that you’re good at what you do. But when you start holding the company ransom and threatening to not perform because you’re unhappy about something, you put your bosses in a difficult situation. They begin to resent you for your skill, and the only thing worse than being resented by your subordinates is to be resented by your superiors. Don’t abuse your power for personal gain. Remember: You’re near-indispensable. Not irreplaceable.

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You’ve just only met, but you’ve been talking animatedly for hours. And just when you’re wondering how to suggest you trade numbers without looking too desperate he drops the bombshell – he’s recently single. Opppss…. “How recent is recent?” you ask trying to appear nonchalant as the words stick in your throat? “We split two weeks ago,” he answers and they there are – alarm bells blaring in your head warning “man in limbo”. There is few meaning of words “recently single” – whether he’s “available to party” or “keen to hook up with new women”. But a freshly uncoupled heart often goes hand in hand with a bruised ego (because he was dumped) or an insatiable sexual appetite (he did the dumping because he wants to play the field)… It’s possible too! 

Bouncing back from a break-up is never the best time to launch a new relationship. Is he using to get over his ex? Before you give all your heart, be clear about where this is heading. A man on the rebound often has an almost pathological drive to prove he’s still got the power to impress and conquer any women he wants. But will he really be up for relationship? Love? A future together? Highly unlikely. If you like him so much you want to hang in until the “I want to be with you forever phase” – just be forewarned that it may never arrive. So, how do you recognize a guy who is recently single and emotionally unattached from the rebound man who’s only killing time with you? Here’s how to read the signs:

>>> Sweet & Sour      

Failure in relationship never leaves a sweet moment to remember other than giving a very hard emotion to go through. When a guy is fresh out of a relationship he can prove to be high maintenance as he works through truckloads of emotional baggage. There’re possibility he might be in the “no woman will ever hurt me again” phase or stuck in the equally angry “my next woman will be nothing less than perfect” zone – neither of which creates the right emotional context for loving “happily ever after”.                       

A broken heart man whose been hurt will consider all womankind to be blame, so he’s out to get his revenge by using as many women as possible. Underneath, his heart been ripped to shreds, but on the surface he’s tough as nails. So he picks fights about the slightest thing than flippantly says “lets just forget it – I wasn’t looking to settle down anyway” or he makes love to you then sneaks out while you’re sleeping. Definitely not relationship material until he’s worked through his anger over hi ex. “If you stay in this kind of relationship he’ll have all the power and call the shots,” says psychologist Vesna Ellison.       

>>> Dazed & Confused

He’s free and available – the two of you have been dating and there’s clearly a mutual attraction. When you’re together he may even come on like it’s love, but emotionally he holds you at arm’s length so you never connect closely enough to fall in love. “In this case he is using you as his transitional woman – to comfort him through a rough time – even if he doesn’t yet realize himself,” says Ellison. You will know he is not really invested long-term because he will view everything about his old relationship nostalgically, he will make constant comparisons between you and his ex and worst still, you may find yourself consoling him when he breaks down one drunken night because he still can’t believe the romance of his life is over.                                                 

If you have a hints you’re attach to this kind of man and thinking of end your journey with him, watch out! “You might think you can make him fall in love with you if you wait around long enough, but beware the pitfalls,” says Ellison. “As he moves past the old relationship he may associate you with his recovery from the split and remove you from his life so he can forget that painful phase and push on.”            

>>> Mixed Messages

He’s been out of his long-term relationship all of two milliseconds and isn’t he lucky? He’s found you. You could be his type, but maybe not – right now it doesn’t really matter as long as you can hold his hand because he’s one of these guys who can’t bear to be single. He’ll make a play for you as though you are the only woman he’s ever really wanted. He’ll shower you with compliments one minute, but the next he’ll blow cold and complain that you’re rushing things and he needs to pull back because he feels suffocated. Clear your mind and do yourself a favour – the minute he trots out the
“I need more space” line – run a mile and don’t look back.

“If he’s only recently ended a long or very intense relationship a man is likely to resist being drawn into projection about coupled early on in a new romance,” says marriage guidance counselor Fenella Anderson. “He may still be emotionally confused and unable to know what he really wants or feels for some time.”

Meanwhile there’s a very real risk you will become his emotional crutch while he heals his heart, and works out what kind of relationship and life partner he’s looking for next time around. The healing process takes time and most importantly is the time alone so that he can find the real himself. If these risks don’t put you off and you still consider him relationship material just remembers it’s a huge gamble. Don’t wait until after few months, he may suddenly and unexpectedly hit you with the “it’s too soon for commitment” line or “I need to go to Europe to find myself – don’t wait for me”. Regardless of how he frames his gateway it’s an escape clause because he went with you thinking “you’ll do for now” when you were thinking he meant “you’re it forever”.

A fair question is posed to the average single guy, but not to a man on the rebound – he still on his way down from planet relationship which means he acts now and thinks later – much later.     

>>> Besotted For Now         

He’s fresh out of a relationship but it was his decision to end it so he’s feeling confident not rusty in the “come on” department. When the two of you are deep in the conversation the intensity of his gaze is enough to make you blush. He talks to you as though he’s’ known you forever and he is interested in every single word you say. From the moment you meet your relationship is a whirlwind – you see each other every night that first week and you’re on and absolute high – you’re never met a guy so totally into you. But the balloon bursts the minute you have sex. Then all of sudden he stops returning your calls and he’s too busy to see you. Though it hurts just remind yourself that it’s his loss. In fact, play him at his own game and if he calls don’t respond. He’s clearly on a mission to bed as many women as possible and he’ll never be interested in settling down until he gets all that sex out of his system.

>>> No Strings Attached 

Had you met at any other time he’d consider you the new “it girl” – but because he’s rediscovering bachelorhood he’s not going to let any woman tie him down. So he moves half his wardrobe to your place and he gives you the key to his apartment, but no matter how long you’re together he doesn’t want to talk about what the future may hold. All the while he keeps reminding you “don’t get to attached to me because I’m not looking to settle down”. “You might think you’re grown up enough to handle it but it’s a real mistake to think you can make someone love you or want to be with you forever,” says Anderson. “You’ll soon find yourself withering inside from the heartbreak of giving yourself totally and only getting limited intimacy and honesty in return.”

>>> Slow and Steady   

It’s not all bad news when it comes to men on the rebound. A minority do come back to the singles scene open-minded about meeting someone else to love long-term. Their emotional baggage is light because they have spent time talking through what when wrong with their ex so they are clear on why it happened which has given them a sense of closure and allowed them to start looking forward. When this guy wants to take it slow – his motivation is sound – he just wants to ensure he doesn’t rush into romance before he’s found his feet again. It’s not because he wants to play the field. His go-slow is about avoiding making mistakes. Despite the heartache he says he’s grateful for his relationship break-up because otherwise he never would have met you.

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You’ve almost pulled into Splitsville…can you drive back into Loveshire and make your relationship work? You’ve been together for quite sometimes and so far your relationship was running smoothly and both of you had talked about future together. However, the sun not always bright as you hopes to be so. Lately he always talked about a new girl working in the same department where he was working. At first you might not suspect anything because you trust him and it’s not a first he story about things happening around him especially things that related to his work. The girl so friendly and they become best friend and always went out together after work.

Lately, you feel there’s something went wrong and you tried to get on with her since they’re best friend. But the true reason is to clear up your mind and give peace to your heart. The insecure feeling makes your trust to your partner a little bit groggy. After quite sometimes get along with her, you find out that she had sleepy with your boyfriend’s friend, who was living with his partner of two years. All the trust you put on their friendship disappear immediately. At this critical moment, you start to argue with him about it and spending so much time together when she obviously couldn’t be trusted. You was fighting constantly even thought he swore that nothing happened between them and because of it you started to think about ending the relationship. You love him but you feel like a shadow in the relationship. It’s hard to be someone’s girlfriend when he spending lots of time with other girl and you just his girlfriend somewhere in the background. Read more and find out whether you want to give up on the relationship or start all over again.

When You & Your Partner in Crisis

We’ve all been there. Your relationship’s cruising along when a weird feelings creeps up. Whether it’s feeling neglected, constant fighting or the realization that you don’t want the same things, sometimes the smallest glitch can push your relationship into meltdown. What do you do? Don’t stress because it might not be as hopeless as you think. At the moment you believe you’ve reached a dead end in your relationship are at a perfect point to turn things around. “At the onset of a relationship or marriage, there’s fascination and the promise of untold happiness. At some point things change, and many relationships stop before there’ve really started. There comes a point in every relationship where we either wake up or break up.

Turn Your Love Around

When your grandma passed away, you felt so devastated and really need someone beside you and at that moment you realized how much you need him for support. When you called him, he comes for you and always stays beside you all the time. Then only you know he was too much of a good guy to let go. The insecure feeling you had before disappear and choose to give a chance to both of you and try to examine the relationship again. All the challenges you’ve been through make you feel more confident and matured enough to face future together. Whatever happens in the relationship, take each of the sad and happy moment as a lesson to make the relationship more stable and stronger. It doesn’t mean there’s no hassle in future, at least better than before.

It’s Not Him, It’s Her

Communication is one of the key factors to a successful relationship. So, it’s not surprise that many couples start to unravel because they’ve stopped talking. If you’re feeling uneasy, the first thing you should do is talk to your partner to clarify the situation. Sometimes you do need to rely on your intuition if things don’t feel right, says Anne Hollands, a couple counselor. “No one will have the power to break you up if you’re communicating well with each other. If there’s any suspicion or anxiety, it needs to be talked about. Even if it is all in your head, you should still talk about it or your relationship might not survive.”

When Each Other Interest is Different

You know how it goes. You meet a guy, he’s perfection, everything’s fabulous. Then, one day, you look at him and think, “Who is this couch slug I’ve shacked up with?” He prefer spend the whole weekend sitting down in front of TV watching movie rather than going out with you, watching movie or enjoy your friend party. The problem with drifting apart is that, most of the time, you don’t realize until it’s too late. Although it can be great having a matured boyfriend, it can be backfire when it comes to your social life. It’s common to have different goals in certain ages and if you change a lot; you really grow up. Maybe it’s can be a big issue but, you don’t have to turn into one of those nauseating couples whose lives are so in sync that they’re almost the same person. But if the only time you see each other is when you cross paths in the hallway, try devoting time to re-connecting with each other before deciding it’s over.

Should I Stay – or Go

When you met someone else at the time your relationship was groggy, only one thing come up from your mind; ‘I’m only young once’ and you decided to break with your boyfriend rather than wasting your time staying with someone who’s make your breath congested. But, does it the best decision you’ve ever made or you just follow your heart? Deep inside your heart you know that he was the right guy at the wrong time. After a year, you still don’t regret on your decision at all. You still wish to be together with him, but you can’t choose these things.

If you and your guy have no common interests, try to compromise. “Find an activity you both enjoy so you do calculative a mutual interest and are spending time together,” says Hollonds. “Acknowledge that a wide age difference is a risk factor and address it.” But try to avoid unrealistic expectations. If he’s a beer-swilling rugby lover, you’re not going to get him to the opera, but he might go to an art exhibition if you promise to learn what the “sin bin” is. It’s all about meeting in the middle.

When Stress Take Over

Relationship can become shaky when you’re under stress. You expect your partner to be supportive and know exactly what to do to make you feel better. But when he doesn’t it’s easy to start thinking that you’d be better off without him. This type of situation always happen to lots of couples and when they can’t overcome the daily stress, the easy way to get the solution is by running away. Sometimes you don’t understand why you can take those drastic actions, but when you think with or without his present you also can survive. However, you’re wrong because you think at the moment where your emotions control your mind and of course this a little bit effects the decision you made.

When You Should Split Up

You love each other very much and you never think to end the relationship because a small things and of course you still discuss and talk about the problems and try to find the solutions together. Are you tempted to give your relationship another go? It’s a good thing to rethink on the relationship, but there are certain situations when it’s actually better to leave. If there’s been violence, emotional abuse or cheating, you should think extremely carefully about whether it’s the best thing for you to stay with your partner. If he seems unwilling to admit there’s a problem, or refuses to discuss it with you, that should set off warning bells in your head. Communicating and trust are the most important issues in a relationship so, if you’re not 100 percent sure what you should do, talk to a trusted friend or counselor.

Learn From The Love

If one partner is experiencing a time of major stress, it’ll put a huge strain on any relationship. Sometimes guy thinks he’s doing what he can to help, but it never seems to be enough and things go from bad to worse. If you’re taking out your frustrations on your partner, sit down and talk about it. “Put mechanisms in place for dealing with it,” suggests Hollonds. At various times in the relationship, you’ll need to look out for each other and put your own needs aside to make sure your partner is doing OK. It’s useful to learn different ways of dealing wit difficult situations, so you can both feel m ore supported. Although you might think the problem is too big, remember that, according to Dr Eaker Weil, “Getting rid of your partner does not get rid of the problem, because half of the problem is yours. There is no perfect person or relationship out there, so stop looking for perfection and work with the partner you have.

Getting Back On Track

Whenever you feel bad about him, you always pack-and-run but after few hours or days you came back to him. Do you think what you did is the right way to maintain or improve the relationship? You do know you can’t leave him just like that. You must have a strong reason to go away forever but unfortunately you don’t. Maybe he exasperates you sometimes, but you’re not happy without him and you know that you really need him in your life. It was a real turning point in our life. Try to improve the relationship from the failure and you can do if you put all your effort on getting your relationship back on track. You can’t just quit when things get tough, you have to work together as a team to get through the bad times.

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When a guy of your dream comes over into your life, you’re hoping for sharing the love and together chasing dreams and living happy life forever. However, sometimes love is unpredictable. We’re always making a perfect plan, but only God have the answer for all the things happening around us. The time you’d spent and all the heart you’ve been giving to maintain your relationship seems like not working according to the plan. Some couples can’t let go their partner even though they already knew the critical situation they have to face in future. Sadly to say that one sided love don’t have future because lasting relationship needs both side to cooperate, shower the love - make it grow healthy and the most important thing is the ability to understand their partner and learn to live together, to share and to trust each other. When the relationship reaches the critical peak, there’s nothing much you can do to maintain or even recall back the hackneyed love. So, take a deep look on your relationship now no matter how intimate you are and start reconsider if what you do know is enough to make it last forever. Stay with me, try below love test and rate your relationship’s long term potential if you really want it to be yours.

Love Test #1 Are You In Sync Sexually

Take two piece of paper and write down three good and three bad sexual experiences you’ve had together on separate pieces of paper. The keyword is “together” – the last thing you need to be talking about is the fantastic sex you had with an ex. Look at the answer you got. Did you come up with the same answer or were they polar opposites? By practicing this, you can know whether you’re both enjoying the same things in bed. Having a healthy and mutually satisfying sex life is crucial to a lasting relationship. Relationship which is lacking in the sex department, their intimacy levels drop, arguments creep in and eventually everything goes pear-shaped. Normally, couples have a fantastic sack session but then forget all about the ingredients that went into making sex so earth-shattering. Analyzing what made the bad experiences so unpleasant can help couples to exclude bad elements from their sex life.

Love Test #2 Do You Fight Fair?

Do you ever face a kind of situation where your boyfriend had broken his promise to have a special candle light dinner together? You’ve cooked a special meal, but he doesn’t arrive, without so much as a phone call. We’re not talking about over reaction – to throw a massive hissy fit and chuck the now-cold spaghetti carbonara across the room. The ability to resolve arguments is a strong key to maintain the relationship. “Couples who trust each other and can talk through their problem sensibly and calmly, as well as agreeing to disagree sometimes, are the ones who will still be together in five years. Research shows that 70 percent arguments go unresolved; couples who can deal with the issue at hand and avoid letting things fester and resurface are the real winner”, says Dr John Barletta, a relationship educator and senior lecturer in counseling.

Some of these essential elements to help resolve life’s little tiffs: Taking time out when things get heated, saying sorry when you’re wrong, maintaining physical contact (for example, holding hands) even when you’re arguing, and being willing to compromise. Also don’t forget the make-up sex afterwards, it can be a great way to reconnect and rescue lost intimacy.

Love Test #3 Are You A Perfect Match?

To know if your partner is the perfect match for you, think about the similarity both of you have. On the separate pieces of paper, list down important things happen since you’ve been together and answer few questions below.

§ While living together, how many hours per week you would like to spend with your partner?

§ How many times both of you having arguments per week?

§ Do you believe there’s any percent of things in common between both of you?

§ Do both of you ready every time the time to see parents come?

How did you answer compare to each other’s and how do they compare to what you’re doing now? Research shows that opposites don’t attract, so ideally your answers should be the same. Couples who relationship will have to stand the test of time should have answered: zero to the question about arguments, 20 or more to the one about hours spent together and 70 percent or above to the question about things in common. The important point here is are you ready to adopt your life into his life to live as one?

Love Test #4 Are You Interested In Your Partner’s Past?

Sit down together and on separate pieces o paper, list your partner’s top 10 characteristics. This can be positive or negative. The trick is to put down the first thing you think of, whether it honesty, forgetfulness or immaturity, so only give yourself 60 seconds. This test is the great indicator as to which relationship pattern you’re following, and whether it’s a destructive or healthy one. “Often we tend to seek relationships with people that are similar to those we have had in the past. This is especially the case with the more difficult one,” says Dr Bob Murray, psychologist and co-author of Creating Optimism. “It’s generally not encouraging sign if you find that your partner’s qualities resemble those of a parent with whom you have had a troubled relationship.”

However, it doesn’t necessarily spell doom. Discuss with your partner the behavior that’s bothering you and talk about how it could change. For example, “ It’s very seldom to hear you praise or say you love me, it would be great if you could try to compliment me or voice out what’s in your heart at least once a day.” To openly discuss with your partner will reveal each other true feelings. By this, both of you can know each other satisfactory since the relationship has started.

Love Test #5 Do You Meet Each Other’s Needs?

List the six things – in order of priority – that you think are most important to the other person in your relationship, and then list those that are most important to you. If you thought his number one would be “devotion” but he listed “regular blow jobs”, then there could be something wrong. The better you were able to predict each other’s responses, the more in sync the two of you are, and the more capable you are o meeting each other’s needs.

“I commonly use this exercise when I see couples in my sessions; it’s a great way o determining what they want from the relationship,” says Dr Charmaine Saunders, a therapist and author of six self-help books, including her latest publication, Winning Relationship. “ Those couples that list qualities such as spending time together respect, honesty, trust and communication are likely to go the distance.”

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