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Carrie Prejean Vilified for Bad Choice or Freedom of Speech?

admin — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 14:55:39 +0000

I just watched the entire interview with ousted beauty queen Carrie Prejean about the latest scandal about her alleged “sex tape” and this is another case of her being blasted in the media because of her being a conservative Christian speaking out on her beliefs. When I heard the rumor of the new scandal I was obviously annoyed thinking “Girl, how dumb can you be?? … especially if you knew you had a tape out there!” Let’s just say it is worth watching the interview on The Today Show (November 10, People section). Her “sex tape” was not her having sex with herself or anyone else. Actually if was a dumb choice of hers to do what is now commonly known as “sexting”– a one time text of a short video she took of herself only on her phone for her boyfriend when she was 17. The lesson she says is really for all teens across America and that is everything you do affects you for the rest of your life and can come back to haunt you. She was not proud of her actions, tho’ she never thought it would come out or that her ex even had the clip still on his phone. But she feels it only enhances the message she shares in her new book Still Standing. Though the media will continue to try and vilify her because she is a conservative, her message is worth hearing, girls, please think before you grab your camera — there is NO privacy these days with the access to Facebook, MySpace and Twitter. What you do is out there for the world to see and you to regret! And I can’t end this blog without sharing my agreement with her on her point that if she were a liberal none of this would be in the press. It’s interesting, isn’t it, that there is free of speech for a liberal point of view, but when it is a conservative point of view the media goes on a mission to discredit and destroy? It has become politically correct to be everything anti-Christian but for those who speak up for Jesus, you will be vilified in the media….hmmm, doesn’t the Bible tell us that will happen? Sad but happening. Check out the link below for the full interview:

Thanks for the breakup!

admin — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 23:44:16 +0000

I just heard the perfect breakup song… of course it’s more palatable for a lost love years past because it is then that you’re able to see the blessing in the relationship ending, even if it wasn’t YOUR idea to end it. As I listened to “What Can I Say” on the released-this-week 3rd album for Carrie Underwood album PLAY ON, I recounted a few painful breakups in my past. Oh the heartache back then…and yet as I think back now, if I were to run into any of these guys I would truly walk right up and say “Thank you for dumping me! I hope you are truly happy in your life because I am. If you and I didn’t end, I would not have been free when I found my husband and I wouldn’t have the two precious kids I have with him.” Sure it’s never easy to end a relationship, as the song says, but as time passes and you find the right one, you see the blessing and can appreciate what the past was and thankful it isn’t your now. One side note, What Can I Say is actually a duet with Carrie Underwood and newcomers Sons of Sylvia (which is the NEW name for The Clark Brothers who won the 2009 Next Great American Band)

A fun Memoir of Marie Osmond–single mom of 7!

admin — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:46:15 +0000

About 3 years ago Marie Osmond arrived in Los Angeles with two of her seven children to visit her best friend and speak to a group of young girls. She had brought her youngest of girls along only because she had this annoying intuition that she HAD to bring her, even tho’ it was going to be very inconvenient to bring a toddler on a business trip. Awaking to the morning news, she quickly saw WHY her intuition kept demanding she bring the child–her home in Utah had caught fire in the night destroying their garage, Marie’s office and the bedroom of the two girls with her–everyone else survived. If she had NOT brought her two little girls on this trip, chances are they would have died in the blaze. This is how this book of memories from Mare’s life opens. All of Marie’s journals she had faithfully written over the years sadly burned in the fire. So when the publishers asked her to write this book she had to sit down to reminisce afresh on memories that helped shape who she is today. The results an endearing look into a real person we can all relate to. She encourages us all to pay attention to our “gut” and intuition as it can prevent us from disaster (i.e. the fire) and to listen to the lessons we come upon at inconvenient and unexpected times to help us make the right choices (i.e the encounter she had with a bitter drunken Shelly Winters, the Oscar winning star, about how she wished SHE had spent more time with her own daughter). There are several mystic encounters Osmond shares which you have to take her word for. She is a woman who passionately believes in her personal faith in her God and has charming stories to share of parenthood, midlife and womanhood.This is NOT an autobiography of her entire life, rather it is glimpses of her life since motherhood , including her divorce from her 2nd husband, with a lot of emphasis on her time on Dancing with the Stars. A throughly fun read–I read the entire book on a cross-country flight and was left wanting even more.

A Little Love and Respect Changes Everything

admin — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 13:29:12 +0000

On Sofa’s Edge we like to offer our viewers tools to help them improves their lives and marriages. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs book LOVE AND RESPECT offers great insight to help any troubled marriage. If you want to know what your spouse’s basic needs are and HOW to meet those needs without feeling you lose yourself, pick up this book. To catch our review the show, go to The Sofa’s Edge–Anatomy of An Affair

#1 Secret to Fixing Our Mistakes!

admin — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:02:06 +0000

My 7 year old just got in her first pinching, slapping fight with her best friend…and she did the first pinch, so it was her fault, no matter what prompted it. Now the mother won’t let them play together for a week nor sit together on the bus. Katie is devastated. Oh the price of losing control.

David Letterman got caught sleeping around when a reporter tried extort millions to keep it secret. Former President Clinton was caught up in the Monica Lewinski scandal. Kanye West humiliated beloved country singer Taylor Swift. Celebrity and politician mistakes are endless. But we can learn much by what they do next!

IS there a right response when we make wrong choices? What should we do when make mistakes, big mistakes, and just want to put it all behind us and go on?

As I told my daughter this morning, the secret to fixing your mistakes is simply to take responsibility and genuinely apologize for your actions. When you apologize you defuse the negative consequences to your mistake. They don’t all go away, but you win friends and influence people with honesty must faster than denying fault.

When public leaders and celebrities make mistakes, it’s always interesting to see what they do next. Publicists know the best road to damage control is a quick confession and apology to defuse the incident. Remember Hugh Grant’s 1995 incident with the prostitute? He went on Jay Leno and admitted it was just dumb. And he won his public back. Now he’s back in the movies. As far as the recent mistakes of David Letterman and Kanye West I predict their mistakes will have a short attention span in the media because both men were repentant quickly, as opposed to President Clinton when he was caught in his nightmare of the Monica Lewinski scandal. President Clinton feared what was to be lost and held off his confession which caused him much longer angst in the media.

Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t use these examples with my 7 year old. I am sharing them with you because I want you to learn the simple lesson that no matter how awful or dirty your mistake is, if you accept responsibility for your actions and genuinely apologize, you can start over.

After all, we will all make mistakes, even Christians. Hopefully you will gain enough self control as to not pinch your friends or do what some of these celebrities are doing. But when you do make mistakes, reconcile quickly by acknowledging your part and coming clean. You will win friends and influence those who are watching you from the sidelines! And for those of you who have been deeply hurt by Christians, Beth Moore wrote a great book called When Godly People do Ungodly Things. May that book encourage you.

Does Shacking Up FIRST help you choose better?

admin — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 13:54:46 +0000

According to a new national study, 70% of young couples are shacking up before they get married, to “try out” the relationship to see if they have what it takes for the long haul. Sounds logical right? I mean, if you want to make the RIGHT choice, should you really think it through and try it out before you commit to forever?

No, no no!

I wish I could grab you all and say, “wake up, honey!” I am actually thrilled this scientific study was just completed. 1000 young men and women were surveyed (between the ages of 18-34) and the results are in.

If you shack up first, you are more likely to divorce! Not surprising (to me at least) the main reason couples move in together first is NOT because they are ”in love”. They move in together because it is convenient and they are not sure if this is the one….or shall we be more direct here…one of the two is not ready to commit! Later they end up getting married because they are addicted to each other, time has passed and “it’s the thing to do,” they’ve bought property together and it’s too complicated NOT to wed, they don’t want to part with their dog they share, or one of the two nudges the other to finally commit. They final wed, then usually within 10 years or less, divorce.

My advice? If you are in love, fabulous, get married, but don’t shack up first. You owe it to yourself and your future mate.

Will Jillian & Ed last?

admin — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 13:26:36 +0000

Well, Jillian pick Ed last night over Reid and Kiptyn. They appear head over heals in love on both the finale and the “After the Rose” episode of the Bachelorette. In fact they already have plans to marry within 12 months and she is moving to Chicago to move in with Ed to begin their life together immediately. But will they last? Though we all probably cheer this adorable couple on, odds AGAINST them, aside from the history that only 1 of the couples from the history of the Bachelor and Bachelorette series have made it down the aisle (worse than the national average of love and marraige. Right now love is definitely in the air for them as they are giddie and on cloud 9, but they have not stood the test of time. PLUS rushed into sex and a lot of it according to their announcement on air last night (”and we can’t get enough”) and after just 2 months of spending a total of perhaps 50 hours together and then a few months of secrets get togethers to keep the public from finding out, they are moving in together. The problem with jumping into sex is that the relationship becomes about addiction to each other and chemistry and not about your mutual qualities and respect for one another. So of course they feel in love right now when it’s exciting and national news and secretive (now public) and of course the chemistry of sex. But the euphoria goes away. Will there be enough between them to last? Perhaps what I’m most disappointed about is that they are rushing to move in together. Statistically couples who live together first has a smaller chance of getting married PLUS those who do get married show a higher divorce rate than those who didn’t live together first. Here’s to hoping Jillian and Ed go the distance, but cautioning my readers who are looking for love that last to not follow their example.

Just ONE Fatal Mistake

admin — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 12:45:31 +0000

So true to life is the blog I read today by Michael Hyatt CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers. “On Stupid Decision Away.” Read his blog, it is very wise. This particular blog was about the tragic murder of football quarterback star Steve McNair of the Titans who was guns down in his sleep by his 20 year old mistress who then shot herself. A lifetime of legacy was wiped away in an instant because he made a stupid decision to flirt with a young waitress, then another stupid decision to begin an affair and cheat on his wife, then a few months later he was dead.

I coach women on relationships. My passion is to help them make better choices in relationships. What would my advice have been to that 20 year old mistress? I would have told her “What are you THINKING? He married. He’s NOT going to leave his wife for you.” Her friends reported that she feared he was going to leave her for another women (forgetting that he also had a wife) and she was extremely depressed.

Again, what was she doing with a married man? Ladies it is NEVER okay to have an affair with a married man. In her case it was one FATAL mistake. And I don’t care how much the man says “I’m going to leave her, I’m just trying to work out the details.” He’s NOT going to leave and besides, if he cheats on HER, he’ll eventually cheat on you, period!

We don’t know enough about the history of the young lady who killed McNair, such as if she had a history of depression or mental illness or drug use. What we do know is that both she and McNair both began their tragedy with ONE FATAL MISTAKE. We can all sober up and learn a lesson here. THINK before you act. Oh if only everyone would remember Newton’s Third Law “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.”

No on lives to themselves and no one dies to themselves. There is another huge side to this tragedy of McNair’s death–he leaves behind a wife and 4 sons who were unaware of his affair. They will spend a lifetime remembering that fatal mistake their father made that took him away from them. All his “hero” legacy as a football star and good father was wipe away in an instant from ONE fatal mistake. Don’t let that happen to your legacy!

If you want to make wiser choices, read Proverbs everyday (there’s 31 chapters in this Old Testament book, so just read the “date” each day) and begin making wiser, more informed and better choices.

And ladies, if you learn to make better choices in love and life, you CAN life the life of your dreams!

My New Venture Has Begun

admin — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 17:48:19 +0000

Okay ladies, tonight, officially I begin my PhD program. With fear and trepidation I embark on getting my doctorate so I can be even more equipped to help you achieve the lives of your dreams. I will still actively be coaching my clients and writing my books and blogs, I’ll just be getting better and better for you. Pray for me girls… I’m hitting the books in a major way for the first time in 12 years (since my Master’s program). Exciting thus far. First order of business is diving into the major world of research–in depth research–which is wonderful because I can gain more and more insight into ways to help each and every one of you.

Keep up with my new online TV SHOW at Victorya.TV. Last night we covered the Michael Jackson drug addiction that lead to his demise, the affair of Governor Sanford and the “firing” of a Young and the Restless star over refusal to do a gay kiss. Check it out.

Hope for your Heartache Right Now!

admin — Wed, 20 May 2009 16:21:56 +0000

This is my new favorite book! WHAT TO DO ON THE WORST DAY OF YOUR LIFE shows you how to handle your crisis right now. Inspired by King David (1 Samuel 30) and his worst day–he returned from a 3 day battle to find his wife and kids kidnapped, his home burned to the ground and financially bankrupt all in ONE day. Now that’s a bad day. To make matters worse, by the end of the day his army wanted to kill him for it because they were in the same boat. King David did TEN things to survive this terrible day and his wisdom and insight is exactly what so many of us need during our current crisis! This is a PERFECT gift and must read for anyone going through a terrible time–be it financially, relationally or physically. My only hope is that Brian Zahnd expands this book (the size of THE PRAYER OF JABEZ) into a full on Bible Study so we can dive into this insight even more.