Prior to my session with my friend Suzy, who had recently became a hypnotist, I had this feeling that I didn’t want to see a past life.  I had wanted to be hypnotized again because I am currently experiencing some interesting aches and pains in my body and I wanted to see why I was having these issues.  I am a strong believer that my physical state is very much influenced by my emotional and spiritual state and I was hoping to find some answers.  Maybe on a subconscious level I knew that I needed to do something else — I needed to tap into the wisdom of my higher self and guides.

Unlike other past life regression sessions I have had, I cannot remember much from the session I had with Suzy yesterday.  I think the Ego always wants me to forget my higher purpose in exchange for self preservation and security.

Here is what I remember:

Suzy: “Would the higher self and guides of May come forward please”.

May: “Er, we’re here!”

Suzy: “Who are you?”

May: “We are May!”

Suzy: “Can you tell me why May is having issues with her back and wrist?”

May: “This should not be surprising to May.  We have done this before, and she knows it.  Every time her life was not going in the way that is a fit for her higher purpose, we will get her attention some how.”

Suzy: “What is May’s higher purpose?”

May: “Joy! LOTS of JOY!”

Suzy: “Can you elaborate more?”

May: “Well, May is having the ball of her life.  Her life is full of joy and love but she is afraid that life can’t really be this good.  She is afraid that something might come along and take away all the love and joy in her life.  What we want her to know is that life really IS that good and it can only get better.  We wanted to point it out to her that she needs to learn to ACCEPT and RECEIVE the joy that is being given to her.”

Suzy: “She is worried about having enough money to do all that she wants to do.”

May: “She doesn’t need to worry about the money at all! As long as she is serving her highest purpose, then she is abundant!  Didn’t she see something like ‘get an MBNA Mastercard at 0% financing for 15 months?’ In the realm of spirit, we don’t really care where the money comes from and it doesn’t matter where the money comes from.”

Suzy: “What would you say is May’s purpose here?”

May: “May knows what her purpose here is but maybe she needs a little reminder.  She is here to share her joy with people.  She is here to walk the talk. She is here to live an extraordinary life and show others they can do the same.  The next evolution in her life is stepping outside of her ‘self’.  In the past 4 years, May spent her time and energy on herself, now she is going beyond the realm of ‘self’ and into ‘Oneness’.  She has a lot of work to do and she knows that.  She may be worried that there are tons of people doing this out there already and there might not be enough people she can help.  What we are saying is that there can never be enough people.  We need MORE people to work on raising the vibration of our planet, we need more people to believe that basking in the light of joy is possible.  May knows that there is particularly a lot of work that needs to be done in Asia.  Those who can be helped by May will be attracted to May.  There is never enough work to be done to raise the vibration of the planet.  Those who pursue their highest purpose here shall be abundant.  May is caught up on some of the things that are happening in the company she had created before but we want to remind her that what is bothering her is so insignificant in the grand scheme of things.  In fact, the higher selves of those involved are conspiring to nudge May to do the work she needs to do.

Suzy: “What do you mean by Oneness?”

May: “We are many parts of a whole, we all come from the same place and we are all going back to the same place.  We are all going back to where we came from, to become One with love and joy.”  (Strangely enough, this passage is the hardest to remember and I feel my ego protesting as I write).

Suzy: “Do you have any advice on how May can carry out her higher purpose?”

May: “All we have to say is read and write, read and write, read and write.  We hesitate to say more at this time.”

End of Session

What I do also remember is seeing myself talking to groups of people.  Very big groups of people.  I also remember that this is not the first time I told myself what I am here to do but never has it been as clear as this time around.  I did an automatic writing session that resulted in something very similar.

 

For the longest time, I couldn’t think of what else I could ask for, but now, I am inspired by the possibilities of embarking in a new direction in life.  I would ask for money but I think it is more interesting to focus on what I would like to do with the money I will be making.  I would like to have the following experiences while making tons of passive income to support all my expenses with plenty to spare for investment and charitable donations.

Here are some things I want to accomplish in the next 18 months:

Create a Passive Income Business

I have created a business once and found myself assigned menial administrative tasks.  Nothing wrong with this except this is not what I want to be doing with my valuable time.  So, the plan is to replace the income I am making from physically doing the work with a passive income revenue stream.  More on this as the universe shows me how.  Oh, did I mention that I would like the universe to show me how? Dear Universe, can you show me how I can create many passive income generating business that would allow me to do the following?

Travel to Taiwan

One of the things I would like to do is travel to Taiwan and live there for 3 to 6 months with my family. This is something I would like to do next fall / winter since my youngest baby will be around 18 months old, able to attend daycare and fend for himself.  While in Taiwan, I would like to have tasty Chinese food every day, Chinese acupressure foot massage at least 3 times a week, facials at least once a week, and have acupressure hair wash with essential oils at least 2x a week.  I would like to do this while having to do minimal work to maintain the passive income vehicle and giving me some opportunities to expand my empire (whatever that will be :).

Fly First Class Comfortably

Ok, this should be a no brainer, of course flying first class would be comfortable, but I mean financially comfortable.  I don’t even want to have to blink when I schedule for my whole family to fly first class anywhere we go (this includes Taiwan of course).

Sell our investment properly for at least $500,000

One of our properties are currently under renovation right now.  There has been talks about the real estate industry slowing but of course the universe is going help me and someone will feel that our apartment would be worth $500,000 to be living 1 block away from the one of the most beautiful beaches in the world.

Help other people achieve what they want to achieve

Yesterday I was walking on the trail near my house and ran into a local resident walking with her baby.  She expressed her sadness as the end of her maternity leave looms around the horizon.  She didn’t want to abandon her baby to go back to work.  I said to her, “why don’t you work from home?” and she said, “what can I do?”.  I didn’t have a response to her at the time.  While I have successfully worked from home in the past 2 years, but I did it with a lot of hardship and stress and I don’t feel like I am in the best position to tell her what to do.  I couldn’t have pulled it off without my husband, who is very savvy with technology.  In the next little while I feel like I have to feel things out on my own and see if I can create something that will fulfill my purpose in life.

I will blog more about this as time goes on…

 

When I returned to my blog after an extended absence, I was surprised to find that people were actually reading my blog posts!  When I first started Manifestation Stories I watched my analytics daily watching if people would come by and read my stories and there was barely any people or anyone commenting besides my close friends.  I was pleasantly surprised that over the course of the last year, people have been leaving comments and I have been ignoring them.  This was not done on purpose of course as I was not aware of those comments.  I am going to take some time to go through them one by and one and give you the best responses I have :)

Thank you for your continuing support, it means a lot to me.

 

In the past I have had opportunities to be compassionate.  I was a compassionate nurse, I was a compassionate customer service representative…

What I noticed about my compassion is that it is very outward facing.  I am compassionate to people outside of my own domain and less so within my own domain.  For example, I am compassionate towards patients, I am compassionate towards customers, but I am not compassionate to my family and the managers I work with.

Why is that so I ask?

I think it has something to do with expectations.  With people who matters to me at the deepest level, I expect them to be all that I think they can be.  I am not as accepting to who they are at the present moment.  Some of my closest friends have also experienced this.  Once one of my best friends was out of a job and feeling depressed.  I was not very compassionate towards her situation, I just said to her, “why feel depressed? You can manifest a job if you wanted to.”  I guess I must have been implying that if she “wanted” a job, she would have gotten one already.

When I am being that way I feel heaviness in my heart.  I cannot name that heaviness yet but I am becoming aware of it.  I can also see myself becoming this way with my children and I know that they are the primary motivators of why I wanted to take a step back and examine this kind of behaviour.  Why can’t I just accept people for who they are now?  I even pick on my dear Dobes sometimes and he is the best husband anyone could find.

Maybe the next few days I will practice accepting things as they are.  Not that I will stop myself from trying to improve on things I could improve on, but if things are not the way I want them to be, I would like to practice accepting that.

 

The first time I actively tried to manifest an intention was in April of 2006 when I wanted to manifest a soulmate in 3 months.  That came true.

Then I wanted to manifest $300,000 by December 31, 2008.  That didn’t come true on December 31, 2008 but by April 30, 2009, I manifested $500,000.

Now I feel like I have got everything I want and I don’t know what else there is to ask for.  Then on April 18, 2010, I had a new baby boy.  Unlike most mothers who are enthralled with the experience, I always wanted out in the first little while.  I don’t like being stuck at home, I don’t like missing sleep, I don’t like having no time to myself.

This is when I was presented with my biggest lesson: being present.

When my back was tired and the baby is screaming, I kept thinking about how I would rather be doing something else.  I had stepped outside of the present and into the past or future.  This decreased my vibration, making it difficult for me to manifest solutions.  I have been down that road before and somehow picked myself back up.  The trick for doing so has always been taking the time to accept my current situation and be grateful for it.  When I looked more closely at my present situation, my 3 month old baby is sleeping 8 to 10 hours through the night, he is learning to fall asleep on his own without me carrying him around and he is way calmer because I figured out he was allergic to soy and wheat.

Maybe the secret to feeling better is to find the blessings in my present situation. Soon after accepting my life as it is, I found a great nanny that would cook, clean, help me with the baby AND give me hour long massages while the baby sleeps.  You just can’t beat that!  What’s more interesting is that this nanny just live up the street from me and have been sitting around bored out of mind for the last 3 weeks.  If I had been more clear minded and posted an ad for a nanny sooner, I could have had 3 more weeks of massage!  Ok, I don’t think it really works that way.  I suppose when the student is ready, the massage master appears!

 

When I sit in front of the computer I often feel overwhelmed at how much I want to write and not really knowing where to start.  Recently I had my second baby and I knew I needed to exercise but it was so hard to get started.  There was always a million things to do besides exercising: feeding the baby, changing the baby, cooking food…etc.  I can see why a lot of women can lose themselves into a family.  I was desparately afraid of being one of them. 

So…I hired a cook! I found that while I was a good cook, it takes me too damn long to do so and I never get to rest when my baby naps.  So, I hired a cook for $30 a day (less than eating out or taking out food) to cook me all my meals and I signed up for My Yoga Online and made a goal to do a bit of yoga when I can.  It’s like making a snowball, you got to make the first little lump first and then you can slowly push it through the snowfield and the snowball will grow bigger and bigger.  So, here I am, writing my first lump of words… I have been with My Yoga Online for a month now and lost about 8 lbs.  Not a lot, but it is already making a huge difference to my energy and strength.

Until next time…

 

Personally, I found relationship coaching to be very…well, I can’t seem to come up with the right word…let’s just say — insightful.  While I have been told I am very “intuitive”, I always have this deep desire to know more about Dobes – what he is thinking, how he is feeling, what is important to him, what inspires him, what doesn’t…  This desire can also be problematic at times because he has mentioned on numerous occasions that he feels he has “no privacy”.  What can I say?  He did pick a wife that is highly intuitive with great deductive reasoning abilities.

Relationship coaching gave me new access to understanding Dobes in the way in which he understands himself.  What I have realized about humans in general is that we do not always understand ourselves; and therefore, we are often at lost with how we can communicate our thoughts and feelings.  During our relationship coaching sessions, we do fun little exercises that allow us to explore our visions and feelings separately and then sharing our thoughts and feelings with each other.

This process also made me realized how synchronized we are.  During one of the relationship coaching sessions, our coach Alfred asked us to pick a symbol that we could use to represent our relationship.  When this question was asked, I just had the thought of something “shinny” and “already knowing” and Dobes thought of a “shooting star”.  Based on our findings, we have decided that the symbol of our relationship is an already knowing shooting star.

On the same night we agreed on our relationship symbol, my mother had a dream which she shared with us the next day when we visited her.  She asked me, “have you thought out a name for your son?”  (I am pregnant).  “No” I said to my mother.  My mother said, “I have a Chinese name for him!” My mother said we should name him “Huai Yu” — which means “to be embraced by the universe”.  I was astonished that she could come up with this name.  I asked her, “Mom! How did you happen to come across this name?” And this is where things got really interesting…

My mother said, “Well, I was having a dream last night that a shooting star came straight towards my head and entered from one end of my head and out the other, leaving behind the name “Huai Yu” fixed in my head…so I got up and quickly wrote it down before going back to sleep so I wouldn’t forget…”

I swear, since I have gotten pregnant, my mother has gotten psychic or something.  We had just chosen a shooting star as our relationship symbol that very day and she has a dream that a shooting star entered her head with my baby’s name.  I sometimes wonder why I didn’t have such a cool dream like that.

Not even a month after naming my son, my mother said to me, “Oh! I have a name for your next child!”
“And how did YOU come up with that name?” I asked with intense curiosity.
“Her brother told me her name” My mother said.

Ok, let me get this straight, my unborn child is telling my mother his own name AND his “sister’s” name – a being that has not been “conceived” yet.  When I asked my mother what the girl’s name would be, she refused to tell me, saying I should at least get pregnant with a girl first.  I am not even done being pregnant with my first child and she is already telling me about my second child – correction, my son had already told my mother about his sister.  I said to my mother, “mom, your memory is not so good, maybe you should just tell me the girl’s name now so you won’t forget”. My mother responded by saying, “don’t worry, her brother will remind me.”

This is very strange coming out of a woman that considers herself a catholic and generally skeptical of psychics and past-lives…

For logistic reasons we have decided to give this unborn baby a Western name of “Dante” and a Chinese name of “Huai Yu”.

Hopefully he will come out soon, today is my due date and I am sort of sick of being pregnant…

 

Previously on Manifesting a Man Part 1 & 2

In Manifesting a Man Part 1 and Part 2, we have examined issues surrounding believability and limiting beliefs when it comes to attracting a man (or woman) in your life.  In Manifesting a Man Part 3, I am going to talk about commitment.

Showing the Universe that we are “Serious”

The concept of “commitment” may be used in a different context in this discussion.  Here we think of commitment as — what are we thinking/ feeling/ doing that shows the universe that we are serious in our intentions.  Many women (or men) might say to themselves, “I really want a man in my life”, but they do nothing to show the universe this is what they want.  In fact, I have run across people that have said, “I really want a man in my life, but I don’t really want to go out and meet anyone.  It is simply too scary.”

Now I must clarify that if a person is truly an expert in aligning himself / herself vibrationally with their desires, they could sit in the living room and meditate and things would materialize for them.  It is a wild idea, I know, but in theory, this should be possible.  It is only impossible because we believe it is impossible.  I could sit in my living room and try to manifest a plate of Chinese stir fry noodles and it wouldn’t just appear in front of me because I honestly don’t believe it is possible.

I have several friends who have told me that they feel lonely and they would like to be in a relationship.  However, the relationship hasn’t been materializing for them because they are not showing the universe total commitment in wanting to be in a relationship.  Let me give you some examples:

Friend #1

Friend #1 consulted a psychic medium who told her that she will meet her soul mate in 3 years.  So far in the first year of this knowledge, she has turned down 13 dates.  Why?  Here are her considerations:

• she would be taking the chances away from other women who were supposed to be with men who asked her out
• she would be taking the chances away from men who asked her out to meet their soul mates
• she would be wasting her time dating them if she knew she was going to meet “the one” in 3 years
• she would not be single when her Mr. Right shows up

Here is my opinion on the matter:

Energy is a funny thing.  The more you celebrate the things you get, the more you get it.  In the case of dating and relationships, I have noticed a pattern and I will use myself as an example.

May is single => May goes to work and social functions and noticed other good looking guys, but no one asks her out => one guy makes a comment that he thought May was beautiful => May started to have guys who make the effort to come and talk to her and trying to get to know her better => she started getting asked out for coffee => she started getting asked out for coffee by several guys => she started getting asked out for lunch / dinners => one guy asked her to be his girlfriend => an ex asked for a second chance => another guy was showing more interest in her => May starts to date one guy => things got serious => he asked her to marry him => some other guy half jokingly proposed to May too at the same time…

The point of this is to illustrate that things come in waves.  It is like trying to tune the radio to a station, you get some fuzziness before you get a clear signal.  The fuzziness is sometimes necessary to give us a chance to exercise discernment and observe contrasts.  For example, when guys were asking me out, I can use this opportunity to go out with them and pick and choose which qualities I want or did not want in a guy.  I can also use this opportunity to clarify my own desires for the universe.

Friend #2

There is not one time in which I hang out with this friend did he not complain about how miserable he is regarding the way his last relationship ended 3 years ago and how he feels lonely.  He signed up for some online dating websites and recently was sent a match by one of the dating websites.  The match he got was a girl he used to have a crush on who happened to be on the same website!  Now, if he was sent a match, she would have been sent the same match about him.  So what does this friend do?  He totally rejected the possibility of connecting with her even though they had met in person a year ago at a party.  Now that really shows some commitment to the universe that he is serious about wanting a relationship. 

I have been playing match making on my spare time and I have recently looked up one of his friends with a girl I met at a restaurant.   I am in the process of trying to hook up another friend of his.  This does not make friend #2 very happy because he feels like I am taking away all his friends.  In fact, he even tries to sabotage things a bit by “forgetting” to send me his friend’s contact details so I can pass it on to a girl I met at a seminar.  He feels left out that I didn’t consider matching him up.  The truth is, both girls I have matched his friends up for are somewhat average in appearance based on his standards.  Both of the friends I have set these girls up for usually think most women are beautiful.  Friend #2 is really attracted to tall and blond girls because his ex was tall and blond.  That really narrows things down a lot.  Not that it is a bad thing, the universe rewards those who are specific, but I think he is sending the wrong signals to the universe by complaining about not having a girlfriend, not making a move when he was sent a match who he used to have a crush on 10 years ago, and being envious of his friends who are being matched up and trying to sabotage things.  Clearly, he is not showing the universe he is committed in being in a relationship.

What are you showing the universe?

Examine your actions and behaviours to see if you are sending mixed signals to the universe.  If you would like to meet someone, go out, tell friends that you want to, go online, attend gatherings, put yourself in a space in which the universe can send someone to you.  Sitting alone at home and complaining about being single do not show the universe you are serious about putting yourself in alignment with meeting someone.  Turning away dates and online dating match ups without even a single try also shows a lack of commitment in your willingness to experience what the universe has to offer.

 

I have been repeatedly asked by women seeking to manifest a man of their dreams why they couldn’t / haven’t been able to attract the right person into their lives.  In the last post, Manifesting a Man Part 1, I wrote about a story of a woman who was clear on the characteristics she wanted in a man but ended up with a male cat with all the characteristics of her dream hunk.  Believe me, she is not alone.  I have had women telling me that they found the man with the perfect characteristics except he is, 20 years too young, married, gay..etc

I have also outlined the 3 major barriers to manifesting our intentions:

1. Limiting Beliefs: what are some of the beliefs you may have adopted in your past that no longer serve you?
2. Believability: do you really think that your desires are possible?
3. Commitment: how committed am I to attain / attract my desires?

Limiting Beliefs
The universe is very funny in how it manifests our desires.  The universe cannot distinguish between what we want and what we do not want, it only responds to what we give our attention to.  This applies to both our conscious desires as well as our subconscious feelings and beliefs.  When we hold on to beliefs that no longer serve us in manifesting our desires, these beliefs become “limiting beliefs”.  Limiting beliefs are tricky because it can plague us both on a conscious level and on a subconscious level.  Most of the time, a lot of our limiting beliefs exist on a subconscious level.  Since the universe cannot distinguish your feelings from the consciously level and the subconscious level, it is often confused by the intentions we create for ourselves. 

Since we are on the topic of trying to manifest a man, I shall pick an example for our discussion…

My parents had a turbulent relationship.  My father began dating my mother soon after he got his heart broken by an ex-girlfriend.  My parents got married 6 months after they began dating each other (can anyone smell “rebound” here?).  The marriage was turbulent from the start beginning with a huge argument during their honeymoon.  After less than a year of being together, my father suggested to my mother that they should consider splitting up and getting a divorce.  My mother was not going to have any of this.  She didn’t want to “look bad” to her friends and family and she thought if she would get pregnant, she could make my dad stay… BIG MISTAKE.

Long story short, my dad left, leaving my mother, my twin sister and I behind.  He left us the day before grade one for 5 years, came back for another 4 years, then finally divorced my mother and left again indefinitely.  Ever since the age of 7, my sister and I have been hearing never ending complaints about my father and his irresponsible ways and how men are so unreliable. 

You can probably see where this is going.  I began dating when I was 21 years of age (yes, I was a late bloomer).  My first boyfriend and I were together for almost two years.  He was trying desperately to get into medical school at the time and when he didn’t get into med school due to lack of traveling experiences, he left to go work somewhere else in another country to improve his credentials. 

Limiting Belief: Men will always leave

The second boyfriend came around and he was already in medical school in the same city I was living in, but I thought I should better leave him before he leaves me.  So, I left to go to another country to pursuit of a doctorate degree myself!  Pretty cool eh? When I finally decided to return to my home town, this medical student boyfriend of mine got a residency position in another city, 5 hours plane ride away.  Needless to say, he left anyways.

After this had happened, I took the Landmark Education and realized that I have this limiting belief that “men leave”.  I was so hurt that I decided to close my eyes to the world of men.  For a long time, I didn’t really have any serious relationships.

Limiting Belief: There are no good men out there

No wonder I couldn’t find anyone good, even if there was a nice guy that showed up right in front of me, I wouldn’t even notice his existence.  Recently I learned that when we have limiting beliefs, we often have to ignore something in order for the limiting belief to remain true.  For example, if I held the limiting belief that “men will always leave”, I will always get myself into relationships with men that will leave.  And if he doesn’t leave, I’ll push him away so that he would leave.

So, I decided to declare that I shall open my eyes to men and be open to possibilities that show up.  Soon after I made this choice, a great man showed up in my life.  This man is self-aware, gentle, and patient.  While I was mildly aware that I still had this limiting belief that “men leave”, I wasn’t as diligent with addressing this limiting belief.  Luckily for me, this wonderful man who is now my husband was able to identify this limiting belief of mine and reminded me of it every time when I tried to push him away.  Lucky me! 

Eliminating Limiting Beliefs

This week a woman asked me how she could eliminate her limiting beliefs about men so she could successfully attract a wonderful man in her life.  There are many ways of addressing limiting beliefs and the first step to disappearing any limiting beliefs is to become aware of them. 

Awareness

Awareness is the process of identifying our thoughts and beliefs and the meaning we have given those thoughts and beliefs.  While this seems to be a relatively easy task, what I am noticing is that many thoughts and beliefs are hidden.  We also have many limiting beliefs that are normalized by us over the course of our time here.  For example, for many cultures around the world, it is quite common to assume that women are housewives and men are breadwinners.  There are also some places around the world in which men can have many wives.  Not that this is particularly right or wrong, it just is for many people.  Back in my colleage days, a woman who was the teacher for the religion of Islam in my religious studies class told me that a woman would often urge her husband to take in additional wives so that she could have other “sisters” to hang out with.  I don’t think these women get to hang out outside of the house much and they are very lonely with the company of “the other wives”.

The point of the discussion here is that many of our limiting beliefs have been normalized by us and we no longer see them as limiting beliefs.  A good example a limited belief that I had was “no Chinese man will be able to stand me”.  My mother said that to me when I was around 14, citing my rebellious ways will upset traditional Chinese men.  I ended up marrying a white guy…

For the purpose of trying to attract a man, it is important to look at what you really think about men.  I recently came up with a great assignment which is:

Write a journal entry titled: What I think about men.

Since this is structured like a journal entry, there is no need to worry about grammar or sentence structure.  It is best to write out whatever comes to your head, good or bad, strange or normal.  Just write.  At the end of it all, read it over yourself or have someone else read it for you.  You might uncover interesting things…

This is a lot like looking into a mirror.  This is not the kind of mirrors we have in our bathrooms, but rather, the kind of mirrors that reflect our deepest thoughts and desires.  So far, I have identified several different methods of self reflection that have worked for me so far.

1. Write in a Journal and have a conscious being read it. 
   This may include yourself.  When I did a lot of writing when I was upset, I found my writing to be quite amusing to read later.  I also found that I was able to solve my own problems by writing out my thoughts and feelings. 
2. Find a wise friend to speak to. 
   You might have noticed that not all friends are wise and not all wise people are friends.  Most of the time, your friends are the ones that react to the same situations you are reacting to because they are your friends.  However, a wise being will not react to anything you say.  For example, if a friend tells me: “the field of men is like a crowded parking lot, all the good spots are taken and the only spots left are handicapped”, I would say, “if this is what you believe, it will become your reality”.  Not a nice comment to make at all, but I really do not want to say things like, “I know! Where are all the good guys?” 
3. Attend a personal development workshop.
   I highly recommend this one because when I go to personal development workshops such as the Landmark Forum, a group of people like myself gather together in one room and they talk about the “stories” and “crap” that is happening in their lives.  They talk about their past conditioning and how much their parents are to blame for the failures in their lives.  While sitting in the room and listening to these stories (and offering a few of my own of course), I found that I am not alone, there are many other people out there that was as screwed up as I am! Some how, these stories act as a mirror for my subconscious.  I see myself in other peoples’ stories and how ridiculous my thoughts can be about certain situations.  I call this “popping”.  It was like a limiting belief that popped out from my subconscious mind into my conscious mind, making it possible for me to be more aware of my thoughts and feelings.
4. Get a coach.
   The field of coaching is a relatively new and misunderstood one.  When working with a coach, all he/she does is ask you questions–digging deeper down from the conscious into the subconscious with each and every question.  This is an extremely effective strategy to gain awareness.  If you don’t have any friends who are wise, get a wise coach!

 That’s it for this section, I think this must be the longest blog post I have ever written and there are still two more points to cover: believability and commitment.

Until next time…

 

Mr. Feline?

Recently during my personal development binge, I met a woman in her 50s named Michelle (not her real name) who has been largely alone for many years.  Michelle told me she really wanted to manifest a man in her life.  Like many people who have watched The Secret, she began to make a list of very specific qualities of the man she would like to have in her life.  She really wanted someone who is: extremely friendly, always happy to see her, makes her laugh all the time, cuddly, and understanding.  Sounds like a great list to me… 

One day, she walked into the local SPCA (where stray animals await for adoption into a kind and loving home) in search of a female cat.  Michelle thought a female cat was easier to handle and she saw a black and white coloured one she fell in love with right away.  There was only one catch.  The black and white female cat has a brother with a black coat that was very closed to her.  The people at the SPCA were adamant that they would only offer two cats at once instead of separating the siblings.  To Michelle’s great dismay, she took both cats home because she really loved the female cat. 

In the weeks following the adoption of her cats, Michelle began to notice something interesting.  The black male cat has a very warm personality of his own.  He is extremely friendly and cuddly.  He would wait by the door patiently for her to come home and follow her around the house joyfully and lovingly every day.  He does things to make her laugh and loves to play with her whenever he can.  When Michelle feels unwell, this little black cat would curl up beside her to keep her bed warm for her.

Michelle began to realized that the universe had given her everything she was looking for with one exception, he is not a MAN! 

A Clear Intention is NOT Good Enough

There is a myth that what we think are our clear intentions is sufficient to manifesting what we want.  However, it seems our spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical selves can be incredibly complex and confusing.  There are so many elements to consider when attempting to manifest our dreams that even I am only beginning to uncover some of the intricacies of what is keeping me from manifesting my desires.

Here are some crucial elements I have identified as important when trying to manifest my dreams :

1. Believability: do I really think that my dreams are possible?
2. Limiting Beliefs: what are some of the beliefs I may have adopted in my past that no longer serve me?
3. Commitment: how committed am I to attain / attract my desires?

Coming Soon

In the next few blog posts, I will discuss the implications of the hidden elements that prevent intentions from manifesting in real life.  I will also provide some tips on how to improve your chances of manifesting what you REALLY want.