Marriage and Family

WEDDING SAYINGS

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WEDDING SAYINGS

SEVEN LAWS FOR AN EVERLASTING MARRIAGE:

1st Law for an Everlasting Marriage
You shall love your spouse as God would like you to, namely: with all your heart and faithfully. Then, that marriage will last. Start with love, continue in love, then, you will last in love.

2nd Law for an Everlasting Marriage
Since love is blind, let wisdom be its light, then, that marriage will not get lost nor go astray.

3rd Law for an Everlasting Marriage
Let love-heart and wisdom-mind unite and agree, and that is power called Will.

5th Law for an Everlasting Marriage
When difficulties arise and attempt to hinder, let the power of EARNESTNESS, which is built-in you, enable you to persevere to the end.

6th Law for an Everlasting Marriage
If and when the other is slow or weak, exercise the power of PATIENCE, which is in you.

7th Law for an Everlasting Marriage
If and when there is imperfection or transgression, be MEEK, HUMBLE and MERCIFUL.
Be generally meek: IN MEEKNESS, YOU ARE LOVABLE.
IN ARROGANCE, YOU ARE DETESTABLE.
If the imperfection is in you, be HUMBLE so as to be taught, so you can learn and improve. If the imperfection is in the other, be merciful, for with MERCY, and if you have mercy, you can forgive, and forgiveness allows conciliation and continuance of the relationship interrupted by sin, weakness or imperfection: Only by continuing can you reach higher levels, only by continuing can you last; but without mercy, who can continue?

STRIVE FOR MORE MEASURE OF THE 7 POWERS OF EVERLASTING MARRIAGE

The more measure or quantity you have of each of these 7 powers which are made into laws so you will activate them in you, the more joy and peace you will have in your marriage, the more perfection, the greater the accomplishments and freedom, the higher the bliss you will attain.

7TH LAW IS THE SECRET
But here is the secret: if and when you see you lack much of them, then, start with Law-Power No. 7 because being humble and meek, it will be easier for the other powers-laws to become active in you. For if you are proud and thus, your mind and heart are hardened and closed, instead of humble and teachable, the other powers like love and wisdom, can not easily flow into you from the Source of these Powers, namely: God the Father.

Faith becomes alive if there is the fire of love. Without love, faith is dead. Love quickens faith.

Without love, no one can attain beatitude.

Only the doctrine of Love is the essence of the Lord’s doctrine.

The only sole purpose of human life is the transformation to love. We are here on earth to become love-beings.

God the Father once said: “For the sake of one child I shall sacrifice thousands of millions of suns and worlds of all kinds, if that is required and the only way to have that lost son come back to Me. If it were a question of the need for Me to give up My eternal life for its sake, then, I too will do it than lose one of My children. Can you comprehend such love?”

God once said regarding His mercy and wrath: “If My wrath spans one eternity, My mercy is longer than it since, after wrath ends, My mercy is yet to begin without an end. For I am a God of mercy, My wrath is only a corrective measure. Can you now comprehend your God and Father?”

THE IDEAL AND MODEL WOMAN

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THE IDEAL AND MODEL WOMAN:

LADY, WIFE AND MOTHER

QUICK CONTENTS OVERVIEW

TODAY’S MODEL WOMAN HOPES FOR CHRIST’S PROMISE THAT “HE WILL RESTORE HER MAN”

A MODEL WOMAN STRENGTHENS HER WEAKENED NATION

] A MODEL WOMAN RESTORES HER MEN WHO ARE WEAKENED BY VICES AND MADE INUTILE, OBSOLETE, AND EFFIMINATE

] A MODEL WOMAN DOES NOT ALLOW CHILDREN’S EVIL WILL TO BECOME DOMINANT AT HOME AND OUTSIDE.

] A MODEL WOMAN DOES NOT TAKE OVER LEADERSHIP ROLES

] A MODEL WOMAN DOES NOT LET HER SELFISH SELF-LOVE DOMINATES & CAUSES GREAT HARM

· THE IDEAL WOMAN POSSESSES AN INNER BEAUTY

· THE WOMAN WHO IS NOT PART OF THE BLAME OR PROBLEM, BUT PART OF THE SOLUTION LIKE THE PROVERBS 31 WOMAN

· WHAT IS A MODEL WOMAN – WIFE AND MOTHER?

] THE MODEL WIFE HAS A NOBLE CHARACTER

] THE MODEL WOMAN HAS WISDOM, PRUDENCE & DISCRETION

F FIRST DUTY OF MAN – TEACH WOMAN WITH WISDOM

] THE MODEL WOMAN IS KIND

] THE MODEL MOTHER IS DILIGENT

] THE MODEL MOTHER IS VIGILANT

] THE MODEL WOMAN IS TRUSTWORTHY

] THE IDEAL WOMAN IS MEEK (HUMBLE, GENTLE) AND MERCIFUL (COMPASSIONATE, KIND)

] A WISE WOMAN BUILDS HER HUSBAND AND CHILDREN

] THE MODEL WOMAN IS TO BE PRAISED AND REWARDED

THE IDEAL WOMAN SUCCEEDS TO CHANGE YOUR HUSBAND BY CHANGING HER APPROACH FROM ‘HOT’ TO ‘SOFT’

] “HOT” APPROACH IS NOT EFFECTIVE

] USE THE SOFT APPROACH – THE RIGHT COMBINATION OF LOVE, WISDOM, WILL, EARNEST, PATIENCE, AND MEEKNESS

THE IDEAL WOMAN PURSUES GOD THE FATHER’S BEAUTIFUL GOAL FOR HER

· THE IDEAL WOMAN LISTENS TO THE FATHER’S MESSAGE TO THE “GIRL, VIRGIN, MOTHER AND WIFE” (4 August 1870)

· THE IDEAL MOTHER DOES NOT WORRY ABOUT HER DAUGHTERS: SHE SUBMITS THEM TO GOD

THE IDEAL WOMAN DOES NOT WORRY ABOUT POVERTY

THE IDEAL WOMAN LISTENS TO AND KEEPS HERSELF CLOSE TO GOD

THE IDEAL WOMAN PLACES ALL HER TRUSTS IN THE LORD AND WORRIES NOT A BIT

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TODAY’S MODEL WOMAN HOPES FOR CHRIST’S PROMISE THAT “HE WILL RESTORE HER MAN”

“See, a king [Jesus Christ at the top and His appointee in each region] will reign in righteousness and rulers will rule with justice.

· “Each man will be like a shelter from the wind and a refuge from the storm, like streams of water in the desert and the shadow of a great rock in a thirsty land.

· “Then the eyes of those who see will no longer be closed, and the ears of those who hear will listen.

· “The mind of the rash will know and understand, and the stammering tongue will be fluent and clear.

· “NO LONGER WILL THE FOOL BE CALLED NOBLE NOR THE SCOUNDREL BE HIGHLY RESPECTED. For the fool speaks folly, his mind is busy with evil: He practices ungodliness and spreads error concerning the Lord; the hungry he leaves empty and from the thirsty he withholds water. The scoundrel’s methods are wicked, he makes up evil schemes to destroy the poor with lies, even when the plea of the needy is just.

· “But the noble man makes noble plans, and by noble deeds he stands” (Isaiah 32:1-8).

Take Note: It will come. It is coming. Behind the clouds is the silver lining! Just hold on. Hang on. Believe and you will have it! God’s way is not “To see is to believe” but “To believe is to see” it fulfilled.

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A MODEL WOMAN STRENGTHENS HER WEAKENED NATION

] A MODEL WOMAN RESTORES HER MEN WHO ARE WEAKENED BY VICES AND MADE INUTILE, OBSOLETE, AND EFFIMINATE:

Like the experience the nation of Israel who backslid and followed the way contrary to God’s 10 Commandments and statutes,

· What used to be a faithful city has become full of harlots (Isaiah 1:21) of all kinds!

· What used to be full of justice and where righteousness once dwell is now full of murderers! (v. 21). Both those who directly kill and those who use the system to dry up the supplies and sources of life of the fellowman!

· The leaders have become rebels of God’s government (v. 23)

· And companions of thieves or are themselves thieves! (v. 23)

· They love bribes and chase after gifts (v. 23)

· They do not defend the cause of the fatherless; the widow’s case does not come before them (v. 23).

Like the experience of Israel and Judah, because of sins and wickedness, the Lord will allow that our supply of life and strengths will be taken from us:

· “The Lord Almighty will take from [us] both supply and support: all supplies of food and all supplies of water, the hero and the warrior, the judge and the prophet, the soothsayer and elder, the captain of fifty and man of rank, the counselor, skilled craftsman and clever enchanter.” OUR NATION HAS BEEN LOSING HER MEN OF STRENGTH THROUGH THE ONGOING BRAIN AND SKILL DRAIN, as more and more of them are abandoning the county for a safer place [greener pasture] abroad. Our nation is also losing her men of strength in the persons of the farmers; this backbone sector of our society is fast fading as the succeeding generation is shunning agriculture. When the farmers are gone, then, the stable supply of food and life will be gone!

· LEADERSHIP CRISIS: MEN CANNOT LEAD, BECOME COWARDS: “A man will seize one of his brothers at his father’s home, and say, ‘You have a cloak [that is, you are the financial better off], [therefore] BE OUR LEADER; TAKE CHARGE OF THIS HEAP OF RUINS!’ But in that day, he will cry out [reply]: ‘I HAVE NOT REMEDY [solution]. I have no food or clothing in my house; do not make me the leader of the people” (Isaiah 2:6-7).

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] A MODEL WOMAN DOES NOT ALLOW CHILDREN’S EVIL WILL TO BECOME DOMINANT AT HOME AND OUTSIDE.

· “I will make boys their officials and mere children will govern them” (verse 4). Results of adult leniency and lack of visionary adult leadership:

o (1) “People will oppress each other – man against man, neighbor against neighbor (v. 5).

o (2) “The young will rise up against the old, the base against the honorable” (v. 5)

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] A MODEL WOMAN DOES NOT TAKE OVER LEADERSHIP ROLES

· “Youth oppress My people, WOMEN rule over them [at home and in organizations and government]” (verse 12). Women usually rule by charm; they use their sexual appeal to pressure or cause their men to transgress God’s law of neighborly love and so exploit their fellowmen. Thus, many men of great intellect invented methods and schemes to circumvent God’s 10^th commandment “You shall not covet thy neighbor’s house, thy neighbor’s land, thy neighbor’s livestock or any property that belongs to your neighbor”. Because of women’s skill in using their sex as a strong bargaining tool as well as a powerful motivator of men, men are forced to do short cuts just to achieve the dreams, desires and high ambitions of riches, honor and luxury of their women (most specifically, wives).

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] A MODEL WOMAN DOES NOT LET HER SELFISH SELF-LOVE DOMINATES & CAUSES GREAT HARM

Women are said to be either angel or devil. Blessed are we if our women are angel – to lead us to heaven. But woe we are if our women exert wrong influence on us. This influence is often subtle, hard to detect, but if we are not careful will led us do things not pleasing to God and harmful to our neighbors. What is the danger of female influence? “O My people, your [female] guides lead you astray; they turn you from the [right] path” (verse 13). The woman’s love is called self-love. If not matured into love [gratitude] for God and love [pity] for the poor, this love of self is good only for the family and self, and discriminates everyone who does not belong to the self, and classify them as “others”, “strangers”, “competitors”, “enemies”, etc. Included in this category are the true poor deserving of our pity and compassion; but this type of women reject and scorn them. This is the real origin of injustices and oppression. Self-love is the cause. But Jesus said of this, “The righteous feeds the hungry, gives drink to the thirsty, clothes the naked, treats the sick, shelter the homeless, helps the prisoner. Whoever cares for the least of these My brothers, he does that to Me” (Matthew 25:37-40).

WOE TO THE SELFISH WOMEN WHO URGED THEIR HUSBANDS AND SONS TO EXPOIT THE POOR:

“The Lord takes His place in court; He rises to judge the people. The Lord enters into judgment against the elder and leaders of his people: ‘IT IS YOU WHO HAVE RUINED MY VINEYARD [that is, His people whom he nurtures like a garden]. THE PLUNDER FROM THE POOR IS IN YOUR HOUSES!” (v. 14).

Take NOTE of this very carefully. They have plundered the poor and their loot is in their houses and inside their houses! In the Philippines, they have the following schemes to extort and exploit the people: (1) the taxation system; (2) the nationalized and institutionalized gambling; (3) making all vices into businesses, exploiting the people’s weakness and tendency to lust and pride. “‘What do you mean by crushing My people and grinding the faces of the poor?’ declares Jehovah, Jehovah Almighty” (v. 15). And then the Lord proceeds to accusing the proud women of the country and forewarning them of what is going to befall upon them because of their role in today’s world topsy-turvy state:

“The women of Zion are haughty,

walking along with outstretched (read: ostrich) necks,

flirting with their eyes,

tripping along with mincing steps,

with ornaments jingling on their ankles.

“Therefore, Jehovah will bring sores on the heads of the women of Zion;

Jehovah will make their scalps bald.

“In that day, Jehovah will snatch away their finery:

the bangles and headbands and crescent necklaces,

the earrings and bracelets

and veils, the headdresses and ankle chains and sashes,

the perfume bottles and charms,

the signet rings and nose rings,

the fine robes and the capes and cloaks,

the purses, and mirrors,

and the linen garments and tiaras and shawls.

“Instead of fragrance there will be a stench [e.g., STDs];

Instead of a sash, a rope [e.g., desperation, suicide];

Instead of well-dressed hair, baldness [e.g., cancer’s chemotherapy];

Instead of fine clothing, sackcloth [e.g., grieving];

Instead of beauty, branding.

“Your men will fall by the sword

[e.g., war that is caused by selfishness of the women]

your warriors in battle.

The gates of Zion [e.g., capital cities] will lament and mourn;

Destitute, she will sit on the ground [widowed].”[1]

“In that day, seven women will take hold of one man

[i.e., population of men decreased by war casualties]

and say, ‘We will eat our own food

and provide our own clothes;

only let us be called by your name.

Take away our disgrace!”[2]

MATERIALISTIC, AMBITIOUS, SELFISH WOMEN ARE OFTEN THE CAUSE OF WAR AND SUFFERINGS: THEY’D SWAYED THEIR MEN, SONS OR HUSBANDS, TO GRAB, EXPLOIT OR OPPRESS UNTIL THE OPPRESSED POOR REVOLTED & DESTROYED THEIR OPPRESSORS. They shall be taught with a hard lesson from experience that they can never forget, namely: the lesson to love God above all in the persons of the poor and to love their neighbor as themselves.

WARNING AGAINST WOMEN COMPLACENCE & INDIFFERENCE

DUE TO THEIR LIFE OF LUXURY

“You [rich] women who are complacent (self-satisfied),

rise up and listen to Me;

you daughters who feel secure.

Hear what I have to say:

In little more than a year,

You who feel secure will tremble;

The grape harvest will fail (e.g., financial failure),

And the harvest of fruit (i.e., profits) will not come.

Tremble, you complacent women;

Shudder you daughters who feel secure!

Strip off your clothes,

Put a sackcloth around your waists

[That is, stop your rejoicings. Mourn].

Beat your breasts for the pleasant fields,

For the fruitful vines

And for the land of My people,

A land overgrown with thorns and briers –

Yes, mourn for all the houses of merriment

And for this city of revelry.

The fortress will be abandoned,

The noisy city deserted;

Citadel and watchtower will become a wasteland forever,

The delight for donkeys, a pasture for flocks…”[3]

God is displeased with the merriment of women living in luxury, merriment and revelry, who put their trust on the material riches that abound towards their granary or treasury. These, God said, will stop in a twinkle of an eye, and their feeling of security will be replaced with fear, worry, sorrows and insecurity!

That is the fate of those who put their trust not in God and those who acquire their riches, not as a gift of and blessing from God, but by plundering the poor and the weak. There dishonest riches will fail them!

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THE IDEAL WOMAN POSSESSES AN INNER BEAUTY

Women who won over their unbelieving husbands by their behavior,

When they see the purity and reverence of their lives.

Whose beauty does not come from outward adornment,

Such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry

And fine clothes;

But women whose beauty is that of their inner self –

The unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,

Which is of great worth in God’s sight.

Like the holy women of the past who put their hope and trust in God,

By that they made themselves beautiful.

They were submissive to their own husbands,

such as Sarah who obeyed Abraham and called him her master.

You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give in to fear,[4]

[but instead live in faith, hope and love].

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· THE WOMAN WHO IS NOT PART OF THE BLAME OR PROBLEM, BUT PART OF THE SOLUTION LIKE THE PROVERBS 31 WOMAN

What kind of women who please God? The woman who is not part of the blame or problem, but part of the solution. Like the Proverbs 31 woman. She who does not keeps on cursing the darkness, but proceeds to lighting a candle.

THE PROVERBS 31 WOMAN!

“A wife of noble character who can find?

She is worth far more than rubies.

Her husband has full confidence in her

And lacks nothing of value.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.

She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.

She gets up while it is still dark;

She provides food for her family

And portions for her servant girls.

She considers a field and buys it;

Out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

She sets about her work vigorously;

Her arms are strong for her tasks.

She sees that her trading are profitable,

And her lamp does not go out at night.

In her hand she holds the distaff

And grasps the spindle with her fingers.

She opens her arms to the poor

And extends her hands to the needy.

When it snows, she has no fear for her household;

For all of them are clothed in scarlet.

She makes covering for her bed;

She is clothed in fine linen and purple.

Her husband is respected at the city gate,

When he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

She makes linen garments and sells them,

And supplies the merchants with sashes.

She is clothed with strength and dignity;

She can laugh at the days to come.

She speaks with wisdom,

And faithful instruction is on her tongue.

She watches over the affairs of her household

And does not eat the bread of idleness.

Her children arise and call her blessed;

Her husband also and he praises her:

‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’

Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting;

But a woman who fears Jehovah, the Eternal Father, is to be praised.

Give her the reward she has earned,

and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

(Proverbs 31:10:31)

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WHAT IS A MODEL WOMAN – WIFE AND MOTHER?

] THE MODEL WIFE HAS A NOBLE CHARACTER

“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like a decay in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4).

“Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting;

But a woman who fears Jehovah, the Eternal Father, is to be praised.

Give her the reward she has earned,

and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

(Proverbs 31:30:31)

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] THE MODEL WOMAN HAS WISDOM, PRUDENCE & DISCRETION

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down”

(Proverbs 14:1).

“She speaks with wisdom,

And faithful instruction is on her tongue”

(Proverbs 31:26)

“Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion” (Proverbs 11:22).

“A prudent wife is from the Lord”

(Proverbs 19:14b)

FIRST DUTY OF MAN – TEACH WOMAN WITH WISDOM

Click NEW REVELATIONS OF JESUS CHRIST, Volume 20, Chapter 61:9-14

THE LORD NARRATES:

And I said to them all: “Although since the beginning no woman is called to prophesy as a prophetess for a people, but if the heart of a woman is pious, and she keeps the commandments and educates her children wisely in the true respect for God and in love, then she is also like a prophet, and God’s Spirit will also reside in her heart.

That is why, when in future times you will proclaim My word, you should not exclude the women, as this has been often the case until now, but you should not withhold anything to her of what has been revealed to you about the Kingdom of God, because what the women will teach the children as mothers and main educators is more lasting and more valuable than the education of all the universities in the world.

When a woman is wise, then also her children will become wise, but if a woman is stupid and uneducated, then it will also be difficult to make prophets of her children. Here it will be like the proverb which says that an apple does not fall far from the tree.

It is very right for a woman to be a good, zealous housekeeper and who also raises and trains her children, but it is still better when she - herself being filled with the Spirit of truth out of God - will also fill the heart of her children with the same Spirit. Then to such children My gospel can easily and effectively be preached. Observe this also well in future times.”

Roklus, the other Essenes and the innkeeper thanked Me for this lesson, and Roklus said in particular: “Yes, Lord and Master, it has been with us, and namely with the Jews near Jerusalem, always the big mistake to spend much too little attention to the true development of the heart and mind of women, and this is mainly the cause of the complete darkening and decline of the people in the pure faith in one God. So from now on we will not withhold what is - as with men - necessary for their spiritual development.”

I said: “Do that, then it will soon be light among the people. But whenever later this advice of Mine will not be followed, and the women will become again worldly and proud, then the ancient darkness will come up again among the people, and the faith will extinguish and love will turn cold, and then there will be again distress among the people as never before.”

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] THE MODEL WOMAN IS KIND

“A kindhearted woman gains respect”

(Proverbs 11:16).

“She opens her arms to the poor

And extends her hands to the needy”

(Proverbs 31:20).

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] THE MODEL MOTHER IS DILIGENT

“She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.

She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.

She gets up while it is still dark;

She provides food for her family

And portions for her servant girls.

She considers a field and buys it;

Out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

She sets about her work vigorously;

Her arms are strong for her tasks.

She sees that her trading are profitable,

And her lamp does not go out at night.

In her hand she holds the distaff

And grasps the spindle with her fingers”

(Proverbs 31:13-19)

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] THE MODEL MOTHER IS VIGILANT

“When it snows, she has no fear for her household;

For all of them are clothed in scarlet.

She makes covering for her bed;

She is clothed in fine linen and purple”

(Proverbs 31:21-22).

“She makes linen garments and sells them,

And supplies the merchants with sashes.

She is clothed with strength and dignity;

She can laugh at the days to come”

(Proverbs 31:24-25)

She watches over the affairs of her household

And does not eat the bread of idleness.

Her children arise and call her blessed;

Her husband also and he praises her:

‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all’

(Proverbs 31:27-29)

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] THE MODEL WOMAN IS TRUSTWORTHY

“A wife of noble character who can find?

She is worth far more than rubies.

Her husband has full confidence in her

And lacks nothing of value.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life”

(Proverbs 31:10-12).

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] THE IDEAL WOMAN IS MEEK (HUMBLE, GENTLE) AND MERCIFUL (COMPASSIONATE, KIND)

“A true woman is a symbol of the innermost heaven… a true woman must never become very angry towards a man, for the greatest patience, gentleness and meekness must prevail in the female nature. In her the man must find the true peace for his stormy nature and thus himself become gentle and patient. What can be expected of a man who is anyway always in a turmoil rather than at peace if the woman began to rage before the man?... [S]peaking at the right time and being silent at the right time, but always full of meekness and love and devotion, is the finest adornment for a woman and a very lovely living flame, which will enliven any man’s heart and render him gentle and mild.”[5]

“Endeavor to preserve a girl’s heart gentle, awaken in time love, the all-appeasing love for Me and for the fellowman, and arouse compassion in her. For when a heart learns to feel another’s sufferings, it tries to help as much as possible. Compassion keeps the heart soft and ready to help where it can and eliminates many other inordinate desires and thoughts that would otherwise usurp all the space in a proud heart.

Compassion leads to esteem, equality with the fellowman, and is diametrically opposed to pride, which is ruled by the delusion to be something better than others.

Compassion, this flower out of the crown of neighborly love, sweetens life, soothes every pain and gives comfort in all circumstances. And exactly whom did I endow with more means to exercise this compassion in the most effective way?

Did I not endow you, My lovely female children, with the most beautiful, softest forms, soft facial contours, soulful eyes whose glance, moved to tears by compassion, none of the stronger sex can resist?

Did I not endow you with a softer voice, whose endearing tone should breathe balm onto the wounds of others?”[6]

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] A WISE WOMAN BUILDS HER HUSBAND AND CHILDREN

“A wife of noble character who can find?

She is worth far more than rubies.

Her husband has full confidence in her

And lacks nothing of value.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life”

(Proverbs 31:10-12).

“Her husband is respected at the city gate,

When he takes his seat among the elders of the land”

(Proverbs 31:23).

“The wise woman builds her house”

(Proverbs 14:1).

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] THE MODEL WOMAN IS TO BE PRAISED AND REWARDED

“A wife of noble character who can find?

She is worth far more than rubies.

Her husband has full confidence in her

And lacks nothing of value.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life”

(Proverbs 31:10-12).

“Her children arise and call her blessed;

Her husband also and he praises her:

‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’

Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting;

But a woman who fears Jehovah, the Eternal Father, is to be praised.

Give her the reward she has earned,

and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

(Proverbs 31:28-31)

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THE IDEAL WOMAN SUCCEEDS TO CHANGE HER HUSBAND BY CHANGING HER APPROACH FROM ‘HOT’ TO ‘SOFT’

The ideal woman concentrates on her task not in trying to change her husband by coercion or collision. She changes him not by her words, but by her behavior of meekness and love. This is the strategy which the apostle Peter gave to the Lord’s female disciples:

“Women who won over their unbelieving husbands by their behavior,

When they see the purity and reverence of their lives.

Whose beauty does not come from outward adornment…

But women whose beauty is that of their inner self –

The unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,

Which is of great worth in God’s sight.

Like the holy women of the past who put their hope and trust in God,

By that they made themselves beautiful.

They were submissive to their own husbands….”[7]

A wife can change her husband. We can change people. But not by our words, but by our example.

To change your husband or to help change him, focus on changing your character into one which can change his!

What kind of female character that can change a bad man?

The soft, compassionate, loving, understanding character. “Soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger,” so advised the wise king Solomon (Proverbs 15:1).

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] “HOT” APPROACH IS NOT EFFECTIVE

Men are held captive by sins and vices. They are mainly to be blamed for the sufferings of their wives and children. And the women are to help save their husbands, instead of remaining victims of circumstances. They have to rise up. How?

By the much-used head-on collision approach?

Women who tried to use the head-on collision method learned later that they had not succeeded. And not only countless of experiences of countless women, also the Book of Proverbs of Solomon which are written experiences of his time, confirm the same fact.

Let us quote some of the verses:

“A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping” (Proverbs 19:13)

“Better to live in a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife” (Proverbs 21:9).

“Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife” (Proverbs 21:19)

“Better to live in a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife” (Proverbs 25:24).

“A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand” (Proverbs 27:15).

“A wayward wife is a narrow well” (Proverbs 23:27).

The “hot” approach is an approach resorted to for lack of better ways (wisdom). Only the dumb and those lacking in faith in God or the worldly women use it. As we can see, there are better ways. The ‘hot’ approach will ‘spend’ your heart and crack your mouth only to find the problem getting worse.

The ideal woman does not use the worldly ‘hot’ approach.

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] USE THE SOFT APPROACH – THE RIGHT COMBINATION OF LOVE, WISDOM, EARNEST, PATIENCE, AND MEEKNESS

The Father has this to say: “Gently, gently, My dear little daughter! You must have to restrain yourself more and must not be too forward in front of experienced men. Only when someone has gone astray is it time to remind him gently and mildly where he had made a mistake.

“For it would not be proper for women to teach the truth to men of experience. Only when these men occasionally deviate from the right path is it proper for a woman to admonish gently and mildly and say: ‘Beware, my friend, you are here on the wrong track! The matter stands so-and-so.’ This will please the man very much, and he will be quite willing to obey the gentle and mild voice.

“However, it won’t do to be pert as the man then easily turns cross and bad-tempered and will not listen to the beautiful and gentle voice of an ever so humble a woman. Look, this is also a gospel, but only for your sex. The woman heeding this will always have a good life on this earth, but the one not heeding this gospel will only have to blame herself if she is not held in high esteem by the men.

“A true woman is a symbol of the innermost heaven – but an improper, self-willed and domineering woman is an image of Satan, who stands for the worst, lowest and deepest hell.

“Besides, a true woman must never become very angry towards a man, for the greatest patience, gentleness and meekness must prevail in the female nature. In her the man must find the true peace for his stormy nature and thus himself become gentle and patient. What can be expected of a man who is anyway always in a turmoil rather than at peace if the woman began to rage before the man?

“Therefore, do not ever be pert My otherwise very dear little daughter, - lest you will have many more opportunities to become angry at somebody’s rebuke. However, if you keep silent when asked to speak up, the man will regard this as true willfulness, malice and slyness and will turn his heart away from you. Therefore, speaking at the right time and being silent at the right time, but always full of meekness and love and devotion, is the finest adornment for a woman and a very lovely living flame, which will enliven any man’s heart and render him gentle and mild.

“However, there is with the virgins the bad habit which often manifests itself very blatantly, namely: vanity which is nothing but a healthy seed of pride. A virgin who allows this to sprout in her has already lost her heavenly femininity and has come close to the nature of Satan. A vain virgin is hardly worth laughing at, but a proud and arrogant woman is a carrion among the people and, therefore, justly and profoundly despised by everyone. Therefore, My little daughter, do not ever be in the least vain, let alone proud and arrogant, and you will shine among many a beautiful star in the high heaven.”[8]

The ideal woman follows that.

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THE IDEAL WOMAN PURSUES GOD THE FATHER’S BEAUTIFUL GOAL FOR HER

Let us now view the picture from another side, namely, how I actually created woman and what she was endowed with so as not to be a hindrance to My design…

Endeavor to preserve a girl’s heart gentle, awaken in time love, the all-appeasing love for Me and for the fellowman, and arouse compassion in her. For when a heart learns to feel another’s sufferings, it tries to help as much as possible. Compassion keeps the heart soft and ready to help where it can and eliminates many other inordinate desires and thoughts that would otherwise usurp all the space in a proud heart.

Compassion leads to esteem, equality with the fellowman, and is diametrically opposed to pride, which is ruled by the delusion to be something better than others.

Did I not endow you with a softer voice, whose endearing tone should breathe balm onto the wounds of others?”

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· THE IDEAL WOMAN LISTENS TO THE 4 August 1870 MESSAGE OF THE FATHER: “GIRL, VIRGIN, MOTHER AND WIFE”

“Since your company is almost predominantly of the female gender, which exerts such a significant influence on the spiritual education of My children, I will for the sake of your sisters give also a few words for them. Then the ones may realize what they really ought to have done, and the others consider what they still should do, partly so as to deserve the name “My children” and partly so as to operate in such a way that all souls that will be entrusted to them by Me may also be guided onto My roads in accordance with My higher decree. Let us then come to the point:

Let us begin as with the preceding fourfold dictation, namely, with youth, or with the first phase as child or, here of the female gender, with the girl.

Soon after birth when no sexual difference as to urges and passions is present and the vegetative life alone is predominant, in the boy or the girl the only discernible difference lies in the physical arrangement. In the girl the weaker, calmer, suffering, passive nature is predominant, whereas in the boy already the violent and more active temperament is discernible which later forms his character, as compared with the gentler and weaker girl.

This phase is, therefore, the same with both sexes. All the passions and virtues are peacefully dormant in the sleep of the righteous until other conditions arouse them to separation and conflict and, as we have shown in the case of the boy, also in the girl self-will and anger are the first bad qualities manifesting.

What I have said there about these two impulses, now applies also to the girl. Only here, self-will is an even more dangerous passion in the girl than in the boy because at a later age the boy possesses more willpower to curb it, whereas the weaker girl is unable to resist the urge. Moreover, she is more easily confirmed in all her actions because, being of the weaker sex, she meets everywhere with more indulgence. But this indulgence towards her defiance later on will give bad hours to the virgin and mother, for she will then come into contact with the opposite sex, which was destined by Me personally to rule, not to be ruled. So much on these two traits.

Whichever of your sisters has to bring up children, shall watch out for these two poisonous herbs. Although woman was created to restore wherever she goes peace and blessing among upset people, she can on the other hand transform the most beautiful heaven into hell if she lacks the strength to subdue these bad traits. This results in the worst consequences, not only for the stubborn and easily angered woman herself, but also for the children and grandchildren, in the way a cancer progresses.

That which in the boy with growing age is pugnacity, the desire to be stronger than others and rule over his comrades, which is a widespread trait, is with the girl vanity. The boy wants to be considered by his playmates the strongest, the most agile (and most clever) and as such feared, whereas the girl wants to be the most beautiful and best dressed (and most attractive) among her girlfriends. The former applies also to the boy, but is by far not so dangerous a passion as with the girl, where as jealousy it is of even more significance.

Jealousy is the worst and most terrible passion which crowds out from the female heart all the other, better traits, combining with hatred, anger and vengefulness, and what I once said in one of My words holds true: “If you want to see Satan in person, look at a vainly decked out miss or a jealous woman!^”

Indeed, a woman only ruled by passions is a personified fury. For with a vengeful and angry man, reason in the end usually prevails. But with a woman, there is not longer any reasoning with the head, and only the heart, being the seat of all that is either best or worst, is the guide and carrier of all her designs and actions.

A woman, particularly when her position encourages her to vent her passions, is capable of ravaging the whole earth if she had the chance, and is capable of watching calmly as rivers of blood are flowing, and of spreading misery everywhere. It suffices her to know that her revenge is complete, that her would-be ambition leaves in her satanic soul the sweet realization: You are revenged!

Look at the history of your earth globe’s mankind; since the female sex has ceased to be the subordinate one, since it has begun to step out of its true sphere, namely, home life, how much misery this sex has spread among mankind, be it in family life or in the life of the nation! Although it was this sex which was destined to receive from Me the palm of victory by virtue of its passive might of gentleness over the rash passions of the man, it now triumphs through the tricks of Satan, seduces and leads man, not to victory through love, but into perdition and total decline, through its lust for power! So much so that now I must again intervene and free the man from these chains entwined with thorns which were meant by Me to be roses, and to drive from the female heart these bad and evil passions through misery, poverty and sickness, so that My creation may again get onto the right track where woman shall be on this earth the helpmeet of man, the appeasing part, not the domineering and alone commanding one.

I have said all this in advance in order to show you what has become of the female sex, endowed by Me with so many noble qualities, and that only in few hearts there is room left for better feelings than ambition and love of finery.

I have shown you how a spark, little noticed in youth, once kindled into a fire can cause untold misery around it, so that you may realize what you have to shun yourselves and what you shall protect your children against.

Let us now view the picture from another side, namely, how I actually created woman and what she was endowed with so as not to be a hindrance to My design.

I will now present to you woman in her four phases, how she should be, how she can only on this road become My child and thus completely fulfill her task on this earth.

I have already given you a hint as to what must be observed in the upbringing. Endeavor to preserve a girl’s heart gentle, awaken in time love, the all-appeasing love for Me and for the fellowman, and arouse compassion in her. For when a heart learns to feel another’s sufferings, it tries to help as much as possible. Compassion keeps the heart soft and ready to help where it can and eliminates many other inordinate desires and thoughts that would otherwise usurp all the space in a proud heart.

Compassion leads to esteem, equality with the fellowman, and is diametrically opposed to pride, which is ruled by the delusion to be something better than others.

Did I not endow you with a softer voice, whose endearing tone should breathe balm onto the wounds of others?

And to what use do most of you put all this! I must turn away My eyes from this picture which I could unroll before your gaze if I wanted to describe what is now being perpetrated with these divine gifts, which is truly not in My honor! But enough of this; let us return to our woman as I created her.

So watch over these most dangerous traits in the youthful heart of a girl. Once she has become a virgin it is too late even to think of eradicating wrongly guided urges. For in this flowering phase the female heart races with full sail towards its passions, namely, the as yet not clearly recognized status as mother and lifelong companion of a man. There she either sees all her glorious ideas of a domestic life realized and in the harbor of family life is able to think of other joys; or she is disappointed with everything, has to listen to the naked truth which she may never have heard before from the one mouth from which, she used to think earlier, only milk and honey would flow towards her. And if it should indeed be so, it is a just payment for the wrong upbringing the girl or virgin has received, for the harm of which the responsibility lies with the parents rather than the child.

However, it is precisely through the burden of someone else’s fault that one becomes wise, and thus the harsh reality perhaps mellows the passions of a newlywed and she will, as a mother, wiser through experience, not bring up her children in the same way she herself had been brought up.

Thus I always guide the erring hearts through personal disagreeable experiences back to the spot from where they should not have strayed earlier.

Then the mother by the child’s sickbed looks up to Me, turning her heart away from the vain things of the world and going within; and she often realizes with a shudder how desolate and empty it is there. These are then her days of trial and resignation, and while the virgin believed the merry life would continue undiminished in married life, instead of nights spent amid dance and pleasure she finds joyless days and nights full of sorrow, troubles of unimagined significance.

The eye, once moist with tears of joy and sending the first look of love to her life’s companion, may now be again full of tears by the sickbed or deathbed of a darling. There the tears of joy led away from Me and My words, but the tears of sorrow are the first road signs back to Me. Then I often stand with outstretched arms in a solitary chamber beside a mourning mother, see the mother-heart bleed, see her hopes collapse like a pack of cards, and – o fatherly joy! From the ruins of the dashed hopes a heavenly flower shoots up; it is the flower of faith and of the quiet surrender to My will.

That which had not ever been possible through pleasures and worldly amusements, that which had in vain rebounded from the deaf ears of the girl and virgin, here at the sick-bed of a child it begins to blossom. What even love failed to achieve, fear has accomplished; it restored to Me a heart which in different circumstances would have been lost.

Do you, My dear children, now know My designs and that I also know how to lead My not so tractable children?

In the great hubbub of life I often let many of your sex stagger from one entertainment to the next, from one enjoyment to another. However, rest assured, whenever I am concerned about saving a soul, I detect the moment and the little bird which hitherto freely and merrily had been whirring about in the air of pleasures, sits there with drooping wings and completely forgets that it has wings to escape the earth because that which it loved best is bound to the earth.

So the mother continues on her path of thorns, is seldom awarded for that which she has endured for her children, but for this very reason she realizes best the vainness of the world and of her erroneous ideas and wrong habits and gradually turns to Me. And when once all things sexual have been put to rest, the woman either begins to find a better support in her earlier less appreciated life’s companion or she will seek support solely with Me, where she will find enough solace and help.

Therefore, My dear children! You, most of whom have already trodden the path of tears and suffering, you, on whom I have taken mercy, giving you My word, do not lose heart! You will not be charged so highly for your past as one or the other perhaps believes, and I will sweeten your future as far as possible, lest you forget Me and My teaching.

Let this be said to you for your solace by Him, who loves and blesses you like all His children! Amen.”

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· THE IDEAL MOTHER DOES NOT WORRY ABOUT HER DAUGHTERS: SHE SUBMITS THEM TO GOD

She does not worry about her daughter either – whom shall she marry. She rests on the All-loving Father who has a promise about this, to quote:

“Tell the fearful mothers not to raise their daughters to be afraid of men and the world. For what one fears one blindly obeys when the temptation arises and those who are feared have an easy victory. Let them teach their daughters rather to respect and love Me that I may be the victor and they despise the world and least on My boundless love. They shall not take them to public places to find a husband, but to Me. Let them bring them to Me and I tell you: Not one of their desires shall remain unblessed and unsatisfied. For I am a rich God who has plenty of everything which He can -and will- give in abundance.”[9]

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THE IDEAL WOMAN DOES NOT WORRY ABOUT POVERTY

Poverty is not something to be worried about as well. Read the most reassuring promise of our most-loving Father.

“The poor shall not beg at the doors of the rich where they experience the lot of stray dogs and their hearts are turned to sorrow and bitterness. They shall come to Me with great confidence, and I shall refresh them all. I shall give load to the hungry and drink to the thirsty, clothe the naked and heal the sick. The lame shall leap like a hart, the leper shall be cleansed, the blind will see and the deaf hear, and I will make the weak stronger than a lion. The timid shall become bolder than a colt and the aged shall find rest. The poor is My closest brother, I care for him. Therefore, the dogs shall not debase him, for the rich of the world are brothers of Satan and children of the devil in hell.”[10]

Especially in times of sickness, disillusionment and weakness, we should not worry about. He is available with His all-loving help. Of that you, as I am, can be fully assured.

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· THE IDEAL WOMAN LISTENS TO AND KEEPS HERSELF CLOSE TO GOD

“Whoever wishes to talk with Me, let him come to Me and I shall lay the answer in his heart. But only the pure whose heart is full of meekness shall hear the sound of My voice.

And he who prefers Me to all the world and loves Me like a tender bride her bridegroom, with him I shall walk arm in arm, and he will always behold Me like a brother his brother, and as I beheld him from eternity, before he was.

Tell the sick, they shall not grieve about their sickness, but turn to Me in all earnest and trust Me completely. I shall comfort them, and a stream of the most precious balm will flow into their heart, and the fountain of eternal life will inexhaustibly manifest within them. They will recover and shall be refreshed like the grass after a downpour.

Tell those who seek Me: I am the true 'everywhere' and 'nowhere'. I am everywhere where people love Me and keep My commandments and nowhere where I am only praised and worshipped. For is not love more than prayer and the keeping of the commandments more than worship? Verily, verily, I say to you: He who loves Me worships Me in spirit, and he who keeps My commandments is the one who truly reveres Me. But only he who loves Me can keep My commandments, and the one who loves Me has only one commandment - that he love Me and My living Word which is the true everlasting life.

Tell the weak from My mouth: I am a powerful God. Let them all turn to Me and I shall perfect them. Of the flycatcher I shall make a lion-tamer, and the fearful shall destroy the world, and the mighty of the earth shall be scattered like chaff.”[11]

Therefore, she praises Him and thanks Him from the depth of her heart. She loves Him with all her heart, with all her soul and with all her might.

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THE IDEAL WOMAN PLACES ALL HER TRUSTS IN THE LORD AND WORRIES NOT A BIT

Problems about husband, about the future of the children? No one to find help in times of sickness? Poverty? Anxiety? Emptiness? Fear? Worry? She prefers to “Cast all these cares to God for He cares for you.”[12]

And Jesus said, “Cast your burdens upon Me, those who are heavily laden. Come to Me all of you who are tired of carrying heavy load. For the yoke I will give you is easy and My burden is light. Come to Me, and I will give you rest.”[13]

She concentrates on bearing the light burden [works of love] of Christ and carry His easy yoke which is His commandment of love and cast to Him all your heavy burdens: fear, worry, anxiety, anger, hate, hatred, and all negative thoughts, feelings or emotions.

And it will be alright!

FOR GOD LOVES HER!

AND TO HER HE PROMISES: I’LL NEVER LEAVE YOU, NEVER FORSAKE YOU. I WILL BE YOUR HELPER AND YOUR FRIEND. FEAR NOT THE THINGS THAT SOME MEN CAN, FOR I WILL BE WITH YOU TIL THE END…

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[1] Isaiah 3:16-26

[2] Isaiah 4:1

[3] Isaiah 32:9-14

[4] 1 Peter 3:1-6

[5] Great Gospel of John V/10:6-7, 11

[6] Secrets of Creation, through G. Mayerhofer

[7] 1 Peter 3:1-6

[8] Great Gospel of John V/10:1-13

[9] Household of God I/2:2

[10] Household of God I/2:3

[11] Household of God I/1:1-5

[12] 1 Peter 5:7

[13] Matthew 11:28-30

FIRST DUTY OF MAN – TEACH WOMAN WITH WISDOM

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FIRST DUTY OF MAN – TEACH WOMAN WITH WISDOM

Click NEW REVELATIONS OF JESUS CHRIST, Volume 20, Chapter 61:9-14

THE LORD NARRATES: