Today, we’re going to explore how, by reclaiming your True Self and aligning with your 5D ascension path, you can break free from the narcissist’s hold and move forward into a life of true empowerment, abundance, and purpose.

Join us in this episode for transformative insights—watch below:

Explore the key takeaways and 3 transformative Power Intentions below:

Why the Narcissist Fears Your True Self

Let’s talk about why narcissists are drawn to certain people—particularly to those who are empathetic, sensitive, and deeply caring. These qualities are a part of your True Self, and they make you a natural healer, a bringer of peace, and a source of Light. But these same qualities also make you a target for narcissists. They feed off your energy, using you as a source of supply.

However, there’s something important to know: the narcissist’s greatest fear is that you will recognize your worth, reclaim your power, and embody your True Self. When you do, you no longer need them, and they lose their control over you.

Common Energetic Chains from Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse creates many layers of energetic chains that can keep you feeling stuck, small, and fearful. These chains are designed to keep you in a state of self-doubt and dependency, disconnected from your True Self. Some of the common ways these chains manifest include:

• Emotional Addiction – Feeling hooked on the narcissist’s validation, unable to fully let go.
• Fear and Anxiety – Being trapped in survival mode, afraid to speak up or make decisions.
• Belief in Unworthiness – Internalizing their devaluation, making you feel like you don’t deserve better.
• Guilt and Shame – Believing everything is your fault, lowering your sense of self-worth.
• Self-Doubt and Confusion – Constantly questioning your reality due to gaslighting, feeling disconnected from your intuition.
• Energetic Cording – Remaining tied to the narcissist on an energetic level, which drains your life force and vitality.

These chains are exactly what keep you in a 3D reality—bound to survival, fear, and scarcity. But here’s the truth: when you reclaim your True Self and align with your higher purpose, you transcend these limitations and break free from the narcissist’s influence.

The Journey from 3D to 5D: Becoming Your True Self

If you’ve been following my work, you know that I speak often about the journey of ascension from 3D to 5D consciousness. Narcissistic abuse traps people in a 3D existence—an existence of fear, survival, and pain. However, the path to ascension is about moving beyond this and aligning with the higher frequencies of 5D, which are love, unity, and abundance.

In 5D, you’re no longer bound by the narcissist’s control or the trauma of the past. Instead, you’re empowered to live in your full, authentic frequency, creating from your soul and Source.

Reclaiming Your Light and Embracing Your Starseed Mission

Many people who experience narcissistic abuse are intuitive, sensitive souls who feel a deep sense of purpose on this planet. You may even identify as a Starseed or lightworker, here to uplift humanity and assist in the healing of others. This powerful mission becomes activated when you reclaim your True Self.

This is why narcissists are so drawn to your Light and why they also fear it. The very qualities they exploit—your sensitivity, empathy, and caring nature—are also the keys to your liberation and transformation.

As painful as narcissistic abuse is, it often serves as a catalyst that forces you to confront the darker parts of yourself and the world, allowing you to rise above these challenges. By embracing this journey, you step into your True Self, embodying confidence, unity, and a higher purpose.

Power Intentions for Rising into Your True Self

If you’re ready to reclaim your power and align with your True Self, impervious to abusers and abuse, let’s set some powerful intentions to support you in this journey.

• “I am free from all energetic chains and attachments of fear, pain, and suffering. I align my heart, mind, and soul with my highest purpose, transcending all limitations into my true 5D self.”
• “I reclaim my power, releasing all imprints of trauma, doubt, and disempowerment. I activate my Light body, embodying confidence, love, and unity as I fulfill my authentic mission.”
• “I open myself to infinite love, abundance, and connection, knowing my healing is part of a greater mission. I am here to ascend, to inspire, and to guide others toward freedom and wholeness.”

By repeating these intentions, you anchor into the energy of your True Self, transcending the limitations of the past and stepping boldly into your highest purpose.

Join the Spa for the Soul Event to Go Deeper

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In this workshop, we’ll focus on clearing old energetic imprints, integrating cosmic energies of ascension, and reconnecting you with your authentic self. This is your chance to break free from the past, reclaim your power, and become the person you were truly meant to be.

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Thrivers, I want you to know that healing and transformation are not just possible—but they are your destiny. When you become your True Self, you dissolve the narcissist’s influence, step into your power, and fulfill your greater mission. Keep moving forward, keep rising, and remember—you were born to thrive.

If this information resonates with you, please comment and share it with someone in need.

Much love, Thrivers. Until next time, stay connected to your highest self, and remember—you were born to rise. Thrive On! 🦋

If you’re ready to break free from all forms of captivity, let’s dive into the ways narcissists—and even larger systems—keep us tethered and how you can cut those ties to reclaim your true freedom.

Join us in this episode for transformative insights—watch below:

Explore the key takeaways and 3 transformative Power Intentions below:

Understanding the Narcissist’s Grip

Narcissists don’t understand boundaries, freedom, or closure in the way healthy people do. To them, others are sources of energy—resources they want to exploit for as long as possible. When you try to walk away, narcissists leave invisible strings and hooks to keep you emotionally and energetically bound to them, feeding off your reactions and emotions.

Here’s how this invisible “fee” manifests in your life:

• Emotional Debt: Narcissists thrive on your emotional reactions—pain, anger, and longing. Leaving you in emotional turmoil isn’t accidental; it’s part of their plan- to stay tethered to you.
• Mental Intrusion: Unresolved memories, lack of closure, and self-doubt create a psychological loop that keeps you mentally bound to them.
• Energetic Ties: Narcissists often leave psychic cords or energetic ties, feeding on your energy remotely. These cords act like energetic hooks, drawing from your energy even when they’re physically absent.

The Narcissistic Matrix: When Systems Keep You Trapped

This dynamic isn’t limited to individual narcissists; it’s also present in structures like media, finance, and education that create dependency and compliance. Many of these institutions operate from a narcissistic foundation, using manipulation to maintain control.

• Divide-and-Conquer Tactics: These systems manipulate us to see each other as threats, perpetuating division and keeping us from true connection.
• Dependency and Control: Conditioning convinces us that our worth, safety, and identity are tied to these structures, making it difficult to break free.
• Media Manipulation: By shaping narratives, the media often enforces compliance and fear, making us believe that we need them to survive rather than seeking our own truth and autonomy.

These systems function much like individual narcissists, keeping us tethered through fear, misinformation, and dependency.

They Don’t Want You Free: The Narcissist’s True Intent

Whether it’s a person or a societal structure, the goal of narcissistic influence is always control. While a narcissist may “move on” or seem to, they leave emotional shadows and energetic hooks designed to keep you feeling small and powerless. Only by recognizing this can you begin to cut those ties.

• False Redemption: Tactics like love-bombing or guilt manipulation make you believe they’ve changed or that you owe them something, keeping you ensnared.
• Guilt Manipulation: They create a false sense of responsibility for their well-being, binding you to their needs and demands.

True freedom goes beyond “no contact.” It’s about reclaiming your emotional, mental, and energetic sovereignty and saying “no more” to these invisible chains.

Steps to Break Free from Narcissistic Hooks

Reclaiming your freedom from these invisible chains involves intentional, empowered steps:

1. Identify Where You’re Trapped: Recognize areas where you’re still emotionally or mentally enslaved. Awareness is the first step to reclaiming what’s yours.
2. Engage in Self-Liberation: The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) offers a 10-step program to help you release these hooks and reclaim your autonomy. With the support of a community, you’ll be guided every step of the way to true freedom.
3. Reclaim Your Sovereignty: Incorporate grounding practices, intention-setting, and acts of self-compassion daily. This strengthens your connection to self and helps you declare, “This is my life, and I am free to live it fully.”

To strengthen your journey to freedom, here are three powerful intentions you can set:

1. “I am sovereign, whole, and free from all energetic and emotional ties to the past.”
2. “My freedom is my birthright; I reclaim my thoughts, emotions, and energy as my own.”
3. “Each day, I stand stronger in my Light, untethered from anything or anyone that no longer serves my highest good.”

A Call to Free Yourself Once and For All

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Final Thoughts: Embrace Your True Freedom

You were never meant to be trapped or controlled. Freedom is your essence, waiting to be reclaimed. Each step of awareness and intention aligns you closer to a life of true sovereignty and joy.

I hope that you innerstand by now that nobody is going to set you free—and the narcissist certainly isn’t. The core lesson in all of this has always been about setting yourself free, and there is no better way to do that than doing the inner work Quantumly. It’s powerful, it’s profound, and it works.

What has been the hardest part of reclaiming your freedom from narcissistic influence? Or, if you’ve broken free, what’s been the most empowering part of your journey? I would love to hear your experiences and insights—share them in the comments below! I do my best to respond to as many questions and comments as possible because this journey is so important, and your voice matters in this community.

If you found this helpful, share it with someone who needs to hear this message.

Much Love,

Mel 🦋

Learn how narcissistic dark souls drain your Light and energy and discover how to break free from their control by reconnecting with your true Source and power.

Introduction:

Happy almost Halloween, Dear Thrivers!

This topic is so relevant to this time (in many ways!)

If you’ve ever felt drained, confused, or disconnected after dealing with a narcissist, you’re not alone. Narcissists don’t just harm you emotionally—they steal your Light. In this blog post, we’ll explore how narcissists act as energetic parasites, draining your energy, joy, and autonomy, and we’ll introduce the concept of Wetiko, an ancient mind virus that explains this behavior. Most importantly, I’ll share how you can reclaim your Light and heal from narcissistic abuse.

Why Are Narcissists Considered Dark Souls?

Narcissists are often referred to as “dark souls” because they operate from a deep disconnection from Source energy. Lacking their own inner Light, they rely on manipulating and controlling others to fill their inner void. This isn’t just about emotional manipulation—it’s energetic theft.

Narcissists drain you in multiple ways:

• Self-Worth: By belittling you, they cause self-doubt and confusion.
• Energy: Constant emotional manipulation leaves you feeling exhausted.
• Joy: They dominate your experiences, robbing you of happiness and fulfillment.
• Autonomy: They control your decisions, leaving you disconnected from your authentic self.

Recognizing these behaviors is the first step to reclaiming your power and Light.

How Narcissists Drain Your Light

Narcissists act like black holes, consuming your vitality and leaving you feeling lost and depleted. This often results in:

• Confusion: Gaslighting causes you to doubt your reality.
• Disconnection: You feel cut off from your true self.
• Emotional Numbness: After enduring so much abuse, you may feel detached from your emotions.
• Fear: Narcissists thrive on fear, keeping you trapped in a state of anxiety and hypervigilance.

Understanding Wetiko: The Mind Virus Behind Narcissism

The term Wetiko comes from Native American wisdom and describes a psychic infection—a mind virus of selfishness and disconnection from empathy. Much like narcissism, Wetiko operates on a collective level, affecting individuals and systems alike.

Powerful systems in our world—political, corporate, and even societal structures—mirror narcissistic behaviors, exploiting resources and feeding off the energy of individuals for their own gain. These systems, like narcissists, thrive on division, control, and fear. But there’s hope: you can break free from narcissistic abuse in your personal life, as well as exploitative systems and structures that attempt to control and mine you.

Reclaiming Your Light and Breaking Free from Wetiko

Healing from narcissistic abuse isn’t just about cutting ties—it’s about reconnecting with your own Source of energy and reclaiming your autonomy. To truly break free, you must actively engage in the inner work of releasing the trauma and false beliefs that have kept you in darkness, fear, and confusion.

Narcissists cannot heal from the psychic virus of Wetiko unless they take personal responsibility, which they rarely do. But you can break free by taking responsibility for your healing and reclaiming your Light.

How to Heal and Rise Beyond Victimhood

As you release the trauma inflicted by narcissists and the collective infection of Wetiko, you step into your full power. Your Light can never be fully stolen—it’s always within you, waiting to be reclaimed.

Please find the following power statements to inspire and help shift your reality!

Conclusion:

No narcissist, no parasitic system, and no infection like Wetiko can take away your Light. Your journey toward reclaiming your power starts with taking radical personal responsibility and healing from within.

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I’d love to hear your thoughts and questions about this topic.

Did you find these power statements helpful and empowering? Have you realized that narcissism is a collective, as well as personal, problem on our planet?

Are you taking back your Light?

Have you heard about “Wetiko” before, and what do you think about this concept?

Much Love,
Mel 🧡 

It’s completely natural to want the narcissist or toxic person in your life to heal and ascend, especially if they’re someone you love deeply. Whether it’s a lover, spouse, family member, friend, boss, or even your own child, you may find yourself hoping they can change for the better. You may see their suffering, destructive behaviors, and how they harm themselves and others and wish they could rise above it. It’s understandable to want a better life for them—one where they can experience peace, love, and genuine connection. Your heart naturally wants to see the good in them and hopes they will one day become the person who can love, care for, and treat you with the respect you deserve.

However, it’s important to recognize that this desire often comes from wanting to heal the relationship and feel loved and valued. You may believe that if they could only see the truth, they would finally be capable of offering you the love and care that you’ve longed for. Unfortunately, the painful reality is that narcissists are often unable or unwilling to do the deep inner work required for this transformation. While it’s natural to care about their plight, your greatest healing and freedom come from focusing on your own growth rather than waiting for them to change. By prioritizing your own ascension, you can break free from their toxic patterns and rise into the love, light, and joy that is your birthright.

Why Narcissists Can’t Heal or Ascend

Narcissists have distanced themselves from their inner being, deciding that their true self is not enough to meet their needs. As a result, they create a fictitious character to seek attention, acclaim, and other ego-driven desires like money, status, and envy from others. Yet, none of these external pursuits can grant the narcissist true inner wholeness. This leaves them in a perpetual cycle of chasing external validation to feed their false self, desperately avoiding the hopelessness and emptiness they feel inside.

Narcissists are not interested in nurturing their souls. They are disconnected from their true selves, operating from a place of darkness, ego, and emptiness. Their entire identity is built around avoiding their deep inner wounds. Rather than doing the inner work necessary for real healing and spiritual growth, they project their pain onto others and manipulate people to gain external validation. This disconnection from their true self blinds them to the reality that working on their soul would provide a far superior life to the one their false self is living.

Healing and ascension require deep inner reflection, ownership of one’s wounds, and a willingness to connect with Source. Narcissists avoid this at all costs. Instead of facing their pain, they turn to external supply to try to “get a self” and medicate the pain away, which keeps them stuck in their lower vibrational state.

But You Can Heal and Ascend

Here’s the key: Just because the narcissist can’t heal doesn’t mean you can’t! In fact, your healing and ascension are the very paths that lead you out of the darkness they perpetuate.

Unlike the narcissist, you have the capacity to turn inward, face your wounds, and reconnect with your true essence. Ascension is about shifting out of the 3D matrix of fear, pain, and trauma and rising into the 5D flow of freedom, joy, and light.

Because you have been narcissistically abused, you are more likely than most to take an ascension path. Why is this, you may ask? It’s because narcissists have an uncanny ability to find every part of us that is still in the shadows—any insecurity, any part of our inner being that is not yet whole or ascended. They lure us into relationships by appearing to be the savior to these wounds or keep us hoping they will be, all the while hitting these wounds hard in cruel ways to keep us trapped in despair, pain, and suffering, preventing our ascension.

However, when we’ve had enough and recognized the ascension lessons that narcissists present, we can finally let go of them and purposefully ascend ourselves. By working on exactly what wounds they targeted and exposed within us, we can fast-track our own ascension. We no longer need to search for what requires healing or wholeness—it’s brought to the fore, front and center. Life, as we know it, cannot go on as normal unless we choose to ascend. This process becomes a turbo-charged path to healing and freedom if we choose it.

Ascension: Breaking Free From False Sources

While the narcissist is trapped in their cycle of false sources and disconnection from both self and Source, you are capable of breaking free from your own attachment and reliance on these false sources—especially the narcissist. You can reclaim your power, release the old conditioning that kept you stuck in pain, and rise into a higher state of being.

By focusing on and working toward your 5D ascension, which is at its most available, potent, and powerful on planet Earth right now, all the trauma bonds with the narcissist, along with the terrible feelings of panic, powerlessness, and helplessness, will melt away—along with the abuse symptoms you may have once believed you’d need to manage for life. You’ll reach a point where you no longer care whether the narcissist can ascend because they will simply fade from your reality.

This person will no longer resonate with the higher frequency you ascend to. It’s all about vibration—you are “yin-ing” while they are “yang-ing,” and there is no longer any energetic match. As a result, they literally leave your reality, psyche, heart, and every aspect of your being. And they lose all power over you.

Your Ascension is the Key

Your ascension is the complete healing of the wounds caused by dark, false sources and the return to your True Self—granting you the intended state of freedom, joy, and light that you were always coded to experience. Myself, along with thousands of other Thrivers, are living proof of this ascension shift, which can happen swiftly and powerfully after narcissistic abuse. It doesn’t require years or decades of costly, arduous, and repetitive talk therapy.

That’s the good news—you’ve been misled about the need for a slow, painful recovery. Whether it’s intentional from systems that don’t want you to know this truth or from others indoctrinated into outdated psychological models, the reality is that you can energetically heal and rise. Your freedom is available, and it’s so much closer than you’ve been told.

If you’re ready to step into your ascension, I encourage you to join me for my upcoming 5D Ascension Event. This powerful workshop will help you break free from limiting forces and rise into your true power.

Register at www.melanietoniaevans.com/ascension. If you can’t make it live, don’t worry—you’ll receive the recordings, so you won’t miss a thing. I’m overjoyed to support you in this incredible opportunity to align with your higher self and ascend to a new level of freedom and joy!

Much Love,
Mel 🦋
I look forward to answering your questions and comments below.

(If you have suffered INTENSE abuse, I highly recommend reading and viewing.)

This talk was so pivotal because many people in our wonderful community are still hurting a lot at the hands of a narcissist.

And … I know because I was once there, too; there just doesn’t seem to be a way to recover from abuse at this level. It’s so HARD …

You may be one of these people suffering, not getting out of the abuse, and not getting better, NO matter what you try to do.

I want you to know that you are not alone and that some solutions can help.

This Thriver Story is about an incredible lady called Kristy.

Kristy went through years of unspeakable abuse at the hands of a narcissist. She was torn down, piece by piece, until she was completely broken, controlled, and terrorized and very nearly did not make it.

Kristy’s situation was in the Australian Domestic Violence system time after time.

By the time Kristy finally got out of a 20-year brutally violent relationship, she was so broken and sick that it certainly didn’t seem like her recovery was possible. (My heart goes out to YOU if you feel the same way ❤)

Today, Kristy has zero abuse symptoms, none of her previous diagnosis symptoms, and is fearless about facing her ex in court.

She is now healthy and happy and immersed in her soul mission.

HOW was this possible? Usually, it’s JUST not!

Check out exactly how this was here:

And … watch HOW Kristy recovered from unspeakable trauma below!

But before you do, please check out Kristy’s before-and-after photos. The “before” one was taken on her recovery journey, and the “after” photo is how Kristy is today!

Video Transcript

Mel: Welcome, Dear Community, to a Thriver Talk today. I have the beautiful Kristy with me; her story is amazing. Kirsty contacted me and said, I want to share my story with the community.

I’m super excited about this because I know Kristy is going to inspire and help a lot of people when it looks like it’s hopeless and there’s no way out. This is a big story. So anyway, Kristy, let’s jump into this. We’re just going to start off with you having had a narcissist in your life. And this was a very high-level narcissist.

But first of all, thank you so much for coming on. It’s great to have you.

Kristy: Thank you for having me. I’m really blessed to be here, and I’m so excited about this!

Mel: Same… Okay, so the narcissist in your life was not just any garden variety narcissist. Please describe what the abuse was.

Kristy: The abuse was horrific. All the things it was sexual, physical, mental, emotional, and financial. Everything that could have happened… did happen. It was for a very long time. I was in the relationship for 20 years. His main weapon of choice was the children. First was my oldest son, and then I had twins. Reading your programs gave me a lot of knowledge about the relationship dynamic between the golden child, the scapegoat, and then the forgotten child.

I had a long history of domestic abuse…or narcissistic abuse, so by the end of the relationship, I was in a really bad way.

Mel: And the thing is, too, as I know from your story, police were involved so many times because you really were a domestic violence victim going through the system with police, and twenty years is a long, long time, and it started early. You were very young when the violence started.

Kristy: Yeah, I was only 19, and I was targeted. I didn’t have much family. My mother passed away when I was younger, my dad wasn’t there, and I ended up in care, which meant I then ended up with core abandonment wounds and was searching for love in all the wrong places. And then, obviously, the narcissist came along and was my knight in shining armor and professed to love me, and nobody else would love me, and that just filled all of those gaps. So, I was easily manipulated, young, with no guidance, little family, and little experience.

Mel: And then things get added to that, and exactly that is your whole identity, being a mum and stuff like that. The breakdown. Okay, so how did you leave him? I know how you left him, and it’s pretty dramatic.

Kristy: Yeah, so at the very end of it, I was completely suicidal. I was in a really bad way; I couldn’t function, I couldn’t think properly. I was suffering horrendously, and I just couldn’t. I couldn’t do it anymore, Melanie, and he attacked me so violently one night, and my son had to step in and stop him from killing me. And that was it. It was either that or I was going to die. So, I ended up fleeing in the middle of the night, and I ended up…this is in Sydney, New South Wales, in Wyong mental health unit. And that’s how I eventually got out of the domestic violence, through the mental health system.

Mel: And the diagnoses… let’s talk about those you were given.

Kristy: So, I was given CPTSD, situational psychosis, disassociation, depression, and anxiety. I also had a cognitive impairment, which affected my reading and writing, and I had a stutter; yep… that’s enough. That’s a lot, I was in a terrible way.

Mel: Yeah, yeah, physically, mentally, emotionally, it’s as bad as it gets. So, how long ago were you in that place?

Kristy: I was in Wyong Mental Health Unit 4 and a half years ago, and I was told by the doctors that I would be on disability benefits for the rest of my life with the severity of my trauma because the abuse was so severe.

Mel: Well, look at you now!

Kristy:  And I’m not on disability benefits!

Mel: You’re beautiful, you’re glowing! Later in this interview, we’ll share because Kristy is living her dharma. She is out there in the world!

Wait until you hear…It is so inspirational, but obviously, we had…you know. A to B, we had you half dead, or probably 90 percent dead, and now today…so the healing journey…what happened?… How?

Kristy: So obviously, when I got out of mental health, I had to take medication to stabilize my brain because I was in such a bad way. But what that enabled me to do was be able to…well actually, I will start with how I came across your amazing programs… it was definitely guided, like, I landed with you at the exact right time I needed it, and from that moment when I downloaded NARP. I just think it’s important that I say this: when I fled, I fled with nothing, so I didn’t have a home…you know, I fled with nothing like most survivors do. But your programs were affordable enough. I was just getting…I obviously couldn’t work at that time. Still, I needed your programs, and it was affordable enough for me to be able to …and I think that’s a key component because financial abuse is a big component of narcissistic abuse.

Mel: It always is…

Kristy: Yeah, having access to your programs and somatic healings changed my life.

Mel: So, how did you heal the brain damage? Okay, alright, so the brain damage is now healed, ah, huh? Because my brain damage healed too with Quantum Freedom Healing, did you target the brain damage directly, or did you just keep releasing what arose with triggers? How did you do the Quantum Freedom Healing Journey to heal from the inside out?

Kristy: yeah, this is fairly important because the tools are there for everyone’s journeys, and they differ for what traumas they have to target. In the beginning, I was horrifically full of trauma. It was just clearing anything and everything out, just clearing, clearing, clearing. I worked diligently and am very proud of myself because I put the work in.

Mel: And that is so key… because people like you with the massive turnaround, and people like me, it’s because we absolutely put that inner work in.

Kristy: I just had complete faith that I was where I needed to be, doing what I needed to do to get me to where I am now. And as the journey went on in my healing, obviously, the universe would provide different things, and I would have different challenges. And then I’d target key things as my healing journey went along, particularly with the smear campaign. Oh, God! I just can’t even tell you how bad it is. Of course.

Mel: For malignant narcissists, it’s another level, and my ex was similar to this, too. Right… we’ve got similar journeys…yeah..the smear campaigns are something else.      And listeners know they’ve gone through this, too.

Kristy: It’s next level…

Mel:  And people out there know…they’ve gone through this..

Kristy: It’s horrific, I don’t think. If you haven’t walked it, I can’t even describe how horrific it is.

Mel: You could not, and you could not be prepared for it because it is unthinkable!

Kristy: It’s unthinkable! Yeah, he was the victim, and I was the villain, and the smearing went on for so many years that I didn’t even know it was happening. By the time it came to light, I was the drug addict, I was the abuser, I was all the things, so it is so difficult to identify what you’re not only just feeling from the abuse from a narcissist but that also fighting for your life to survive against a community of people and its…yep…it’s a hard journey. If I didn’t have your modules or someone who understood what I was going through, just one person … that makes me a bit teary. I don’t think I would have survived without you, Melanie. I wouldn’t have survived without you and your program and the healing. I wouldn’t be here today.

Mel: Oh, Kristy, were you in the NARP Forums…did you?

Kristy: I didn’t so much, obviously, because I was a Gold Member; I was just healing and healing and healing, and I can’t tell you how many times I have done your courses. I would constantly go back and re-read things, and it’s like gold in a book. How come we’re not taught these things?

Mel: I know. And we’re not. And then, even when you get into psychology, it’s like a whole deeper level again that’s going on because I studied all the counseling and psychology. Still, it wasn’t until this inside-out somatic journey that I said, “Oh, my God! Now it makes sense…like it really makes sense.”

That is awesome. You put the work in, and you know, that thing you were saying about the smearing. That’s the persecution programs that are so. It’s such a hum…a normal human skirmish that we have, but if we’ve got it, we are really susceptible to narcissistic abuse, and it’s serving up all that stuff.

So, okay, trauma symptoms, you had them through the roof…right… you had the C-PTSD…Okay, so how’s all that now?

Kristy: I am better than … like, how to describe it? I’m better than obviously before I even… before abuse. But I’m even better than that. Because now I’m going to other people and doing all these amazing things. But I also want to touch on this…when my brain started healing. I started getting control of my triggers, and then I had the knowledge behind them as well, which your programs provided me with. I started being able to communicate clearly, particularly with police, and keeping myself grounded by collating my information, not reacting, targeting my triggers, and doing all the things that you teach in your program, and feelings and things started to shift for me.

Mel: Because he got brought to justice, yeah

Kristy: Yeah… It’s phenomenal. Like my best friends and I, we just go, “What?”…

Mel: Walk us through a bit of that because this is important.

Kristy: So I obviously had a massive journey with the police because he was so violent. And while I was in that heavy trauma, and he was smearing, he kept getting away with it.

Mel: And when we are in trauma, they do, until it shifts…yep

Kristy: And then they don’t.  Exactly…So, by me shifting and coming into my power and being able to stay calm and grounded, not reacting, collating my information, getting rid of the persecution programs, also getting rid of…I think 5 and 7…the fear was big, and then the injustice was so stuck because I was in so much pain from the injustice…

Mel: Of course… it’s horrific!

Kristy: So, things started to turn around once I cleared that out. I was getting the right police, I ended up with amazing detectives who supported me beyond measure, and I ended up with the right domestic violence services. I ended up in the right courts…I ended up…just everything started to fall into place, and it is so true. I heard you when you said, “It’s an inside-out job. Just keep healing. Just keep healing.” And I did.

Mel: And you know, sadly, Kristy, so many people have experiences with broken systems. They get the wrong police, they get the wrong courtroom, the wrong judge, and they get the wrong solicitor, even narcissistic solicitors. That is absolutely everybody’s experience until they understand Quantum Law – so within, so without.

When we’re vibrating in horrific narcissistic abuse and trauma, then everything you’re connecting to is only going to traumatize you more.

Kristy: Exactly.

Mel: This is hard to teach people; this is a spiritual battle. It’s not a practical battle; no thinking and doing will get you through this. The Being-ness has to shift frequency, and then you win the war.

What happened to him?

Kristy: We’re still in court, trial coming up. Unfortunately, after May, there was a second victim of the assault. So, there’s an additional charge for her. But he’s on strict conditions for bail, and I’m thriving. I’ve cleared all my fear about it and handed it over. And it’s all just going to work out how it should. In the meantime, I only focus on myself, my healing, my journey, and my mission to help others. So, justice did and is still coming, but regardless, I’ve won because I’m now the best version of myself I have ever been.

Mel: This is the whole point. This is…you know…I could talk for three hours on the stuff that you just said…you know…unpack it, but it is all there in what you just said. Because in trauma, we’re waiting for something on the outside to change to get us untraumatized, and it never comes, and it never works. But this way, it usually does come when you don’t need it because you’re already liberated into your best self.

Kristy: I am, and I’m entirely at peace. And I wake up each day, and I’m happy. Was the journey tough? Of course, it was because I had so much trauma. But I have to keep saying this…I dedicated myself to my healing because I was worth that. I was worth being pain-free. I wanted to break the intergenerational traumas. I didn’t like this cycle to continue. I wanted to be that cycle breaker, and I knew that I deserved to have a beautiful life and be pain-free, as does everybody. And unfortunately, when I read your programs, I’m like, why don’t they teach this stuff? I was so codependent, I didn’t know boundaries…I…urgh.

Mel: When were any of us taught this…unless you had a parent that actually had that stuff down pat…and modeled it, and they didn’t, you know, it’s so rare to find somebody who’s got natural self-worth and self-value and good boundary function. And certainly, for all of us in this community…we just did not have that!

Kristy: No…yep… I was highly codependent when I read you…I was..oh my God…but I guess it pains to a certain degree, other than your own healing and taking care of yourself. You can’t control them. And you, if you stay focused on them and not yourself, you’re not liberating yourself. You’re not coming home to yourself. You’re not loving yourself and filling yourself up with everything you deserve. And I think that’s the essence of it. It’s coming home to self.

Mel: I love it when you rise vibrationally above abuse by taking your soul, your spirit, and everything back the way it was always meant to be. When you overcome that fear and break down, you become pretty fearless.

People will tell you contemporary things, such as what I heard in my breakdown. You will never going to be the same again. You will always have diminished trust in yourself and life and others. I was told I would need 3 anti-psychotics for the rest of my life because my brain broke so badly. We are told, “This is the best you can expect after what happened to you,” whereas

the best is yet to come.

Kristy: It’s not the truth. And I think when I was guided and landed on your program and all your teachings, I watched every single one of your videos religiously like I was just hooked because my soul knew that that’s what I needed. I didn’t conform to being told I would always be that way.

I was always going to be on medication, and it wasn’t long after I started your NARP program I was able to stop taking medication. I needed medication initially to level me out, but then, as soon as I started my healing, the trauma really shifted quite quickly. And it’s a big difference between medicating symptoms, trying to numb out symptoms, or actually releasing and healing at the core. The work you do is invaluable. And I knew with my soul, as soon as I landed on it, that this was my key. This was my way out of my journey back to myself. This was it. And I prepared to commit to do whatever it took.

Mel: Before you came forward and asked to share your story, I’d never met you because I didn’t see you in the forum. I love that lives and souls are being saved, which I don’t know about! And what I’m super-duper excited about with you, Kristy, is you are making a big difference in the world now.

I want everybody to know this: Our biggest breakdowns, the things that have hurt us, and the things we need to learn and heal the most are usually the things we will share with the world.

Not as an unhealed person. There are too many people doing that. “I’m really unhealed, and I’m still toxified. And I’m trying to help others.” Kind of like an airplane where they put oxygen masks on people but haven’t put them on themselves first.

What are you doing? Let’s share with the community what you’re up to.

Kristy: I just wanted to say one other thing about the healings: I think this is good information. I put on the oxygen mask for myself, but that, in turn, helped me be more solid for my children. So us mama bears are so, you know … that was my drive to be my best self for myself and for my children, and it made me better. I could stay calm, clear, supportive, and show up differently. I was no longer a parent coming from abuse. This gave me the ability to be what I always wanted to be.

It’s a thousand times better for my children than we were. But in terms of what I’m doing now, I’m advocating. I work closely with the police and our departments of communities and justice. I tell my story at many events to inspire people to be able to heal and come back to themselves. I changed my mindset through education, education within different spaces on trauma recovery, and the fact that we can heal because there is a belief in services that we can’t heal.

It’s so crazy. Standing here, I’m living proof. I’m trying to raise as much awareness as possible. I can say that we can heal and recover even better than before the abuse, and I also do some coaching on the side to support victims of domestic abuse in different services with trauma recovery as well.

I just spoke at Parliament this morning, Sydney. So, I’m out there. I help normalize the discussions about abuse. Having been given a voice, I also run some panel discussions with victim survivors so that they can share their stories. We’re not hiding in the shadows in shame but bringing their voices out to the community. So, I also do that.

Mel: That’s fantastic, Kristy. Where can people find you so that you can help support them?

Kristy: My Facebook Page is Kristy Drower, and Instagram – Kristydrower_

That’s where people can find me.

I just want to say that we’ve touched on it. However, the knowledge gained in your program is invaluable. It really is. And when I say they should be teaching this stuff, they should be, and I really want to advocate for that because living your life from a codependent self is always handing your power away instead of being empowered. As soon as I could make that shift and start implementing some of your teachings, it changed my life. It really changed my life, and I can’t. I just can’t say enough how blessed my life is now just from landing in the right space at the right time and how invaluable what you do is for the community.

There’s nothing out there like this. Obviously, there are other people out there, but it’s not like you, Melanie.

Mel: Thank you. Thank you.

Kristy: I’ve got it all. I’ve even taken the Empowered Self Course and the Family of Origin Course, and I’ve got it all.

And the Speedy Shifts are great for me. Now that I’m so busy enjoying my life and doing many things. They are great in the morning. If anything comes up for me, I’ve got something quick and easy to access, and it’s a fast shift. I find them really, really useful. And then, if I’ve got something deeper that pops up, I can do a full clearing. There are just so many different options within your course. They all work

They fit whatever works for you, whatever you’re targeting, whatever trauma. Now, I’m so advanced using your healing. I just know where to go. I know what I’m doing, and I pick up what I need and get straight to it. And I feel instant relief. It’s phenomenal.

Coming from where I’ve come from, I could be where I am right now, and I’m eternally grateful. And I was saying, Melanie, before I did this interview, I told everyone I would make my idol. I’m just so thankful.

Mel: Well, we’re all in this together, and I’m just so thrilled that people like you and I are on this journey. I know I wouldn’t have survived if I hadn’t have found tools to shift, There’s no way. And what I love is you’re on your dharma. What happened is exactly what catapulted you into your life’s mission. You are on song with your life’s work. Our greatest tragedies become the most incredible triumphs if we shift them if we do the inner work.

Kristy: It’s a key component when you learn that you don’t have to hold on to the trauma. You don’t actually have to keep it. I would love to show before and after photos of what I was like when I got out of mental health. My physical and internal everything is completely different about me, and that is from shifting out that trauma.

Mel: And I think we’ve got them. If you’re happy to share, we will share that because it’s amazing.

Mel: Kristy, do you have any last words of wisdom before we end this amazing interview.

Kristy: Keep Healing. The answer is in you. Just keep healing. I also want to recognize that it’s a hard journey; there were breakdowns, and I was in a lot of horrific pain. But just keep healing. That’s my message.

Mel: Kristy, thank you so much for coming on and for your generosity in sharing your time with us. I hope everybody really enjoyed this Thriver Talk, and we hope that it inspires you to know that narcissistic abuse is not a life sentence, a death sentence, or a soul sentence. There’s an incredible life waiting on the other side.

Conclusion

It was a joy to interview Kristy Dower, an amazing lady who shared her passion and aspiration to help people recover from trauma. Kristy’s dedication and commitment to abuse victims are truly inspiring, and she positively impacts the world!

Kristy’s words touched my heart, and I am sure she will do the same for anyone who connects with her. Kristy is a shining example of what it means to be of service and make a difference in this world. If you want to learn more about Kristy and her work, please contact her on Facebook or Instagram.

Check out The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP), which Kristy used to recover from unspeakable abuse and breakdown, then Thrive.

I look forward to your questions and comments below.

Today, I’m sharing with you an incredibly important Thriver Talk with Lorraine.

Lorraine is inspirational. She has been out of her narcissistic relationship for only 4 ½ months and is Thriving!

She feels great, she looks great, and she is the happiest she can remember being.

You may ask, are you sure she was with a narcissist? Yes, she was.

Maybe she couldn’t have been terribly broken? She was.

Lorraine had suffered major adrenal issues, chronic depression, thyroid problems, and regular breakdowns, and her life had been falling apart for YEARS previously.

“Years” being the operative word …

Lorraine had been with her ex-narcissist for 45 years in TOTAL!

He was all she had ever known her entire adult life. And he had controlled her most of that time. She did not have her own security, job, or life!

Like so many women in her position, she had been too terrified to leave. Lorraine did not even think it would be possible to …

… until everything changed for her.

I’d love you to watch Loraine’s interview to discover not only HOW Lorraine got the strength but also how she took her power back, got him to capitulate, and left with hardly ANY fallout or aftershock at all!

Now, at 66, Lorraine is happier and more excited about her future than she could ever imagine!

If you, too, have been stuck, worn down, and think there is no way to leave, get well, and this is a Thriver Talk you don’t want to miss!

If you have not yet subscribed to my YouTube channel or followed me on Facebook, please do so. I’d also love for you to share my work with others who need it and connect with me on Rumble and Instagram.

Video Transcript

Melanie
Welcome, beautiful Thriver community. Mel here. I am so excited because we have a Thriver Talk today. I know a lot of our community is really waiting for this and would like to hear about this because I have the lovely Lorraine with me. Lorraine, thank you so much for coming forward.

Lorraine
Thank you, Mel. So thrilled and honored to be here.

Melanie
Where Lorraine’s story is so powerful because she had 45 years, all of her adult life, really, with a narcissistic partner. We’re going to talk about that journey today and about how Lorraine liberated herself.

I know that there are a lot of people in our community, dear listeners, who are going through this, you have either been stuck in a long-term narcissistic relationship, and maybe you’re still there, and you don’t know how you’re going to get out and survive and reboot your life and maybe you have left, but you are still deeply traumatized and in the aftershock and haven’t broken through to what we call the other side.

So, with great joy, here is Lorraine. Lorraine, we’re going to jump straight in. So 45 years is an enormous time. Now, I’d love you to share with everybody how bad your breakdown was of yourself, what was going on in that relationship, and where it ended up.

Lorraine
Well, with that long of a marriage, you can imagine there’s more than one breakdown, but you know, I didn’t know what I was dealing with for many, many years.

Only three years into the marriage, I saw some cracks. In retrospect, it was always about power and control, especially financial abuse and control. And I was such a good girl. I just thought, okay, this is what marriage is. I just have to go along to get along and be the best wife I can, and so forth.

I entered into this relationship as a strong, independent woman. I was 22 years old, had just graduated from college, moved to a metropolitan area, and met him. He was the typical story male. We had an instant connection, and I thought I’d hit the jackpot.

He was smart and funny and intelligent and ambitious and charming and treated me like a queen. And I, you know, I had never been treated so well, wined and dined and lived together for five years. Many thought I was on top of the world until three years in and pregnant with my first son, getting into our first property, a condo and the money.

Control and power started and other ways of control. And, you know, and it just one thing led to another. I had another son, and we moved to another house, another community. It was decided I would be home with the children and he used it as another device of control with him being money is power, that was his thing.

I had none, and it caused a lot of health issues for me, which kept me down and complacent in a lot of ways. I suffered horribly from depression, just deep depression. Most of the time, I was depressed more than I wasn’t. It was hard. I tried, I just soldiered on. I just was trying to be a good mother and did everything I needed to do. And I had very bad adrenal issues and thyroid issues. I had no energy and brain fog constantly.

I don’t know how I got through it when I look back. I had half a life, you know, aches and pains, weight gains, weight loss, anxiety, never feeling safe. Just, but then as in many marriages and relationships like this, there’s just enough crumbs of good stuff to keep you going, you know?

And I just knew deep down that this was wrong. It wasn’t right. It was crazy-making. There were days when he was at work, and the kids were at school, and I would just go in the car to a remote area and scream my head off. I was so beside myself, knowing something was horribly wrong and not knowing what to do, feeling so helpless, hopeless, and powerless.

I constantly hit my head against the wall to figure this out, figure him out, make things better.

Melanie
Yeah, and I just want to jump in and talk about that, Lorraine, because I know that you were spiritual for a lot of years, and a lot of people who have been in toxic relationships have reached out to spirituality and truth-seeking and are often avid people trying to improve ourselves and heal ourselves to heal our relationships. So what did you do? Like what did you read or what did you connect to?

Lorraine
Well, when the pendulum swung, and I was feeling a tiny bit better, I would, a lot of the people you’ve mentioned, Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Joe Dispenza, I would just read lots of other people. Neale Donald Walsh, I would take classes, I would do affirmations, I would do meditations, I would, I did theta healing, I did herbology, I did nutrition, I did, you know, I did everything. And I learned a lot.

And it felt good in the interim, it helped a little. But as I learned from you later, the missing link really was getting the trauma out, shifting the trauma as somatic. You can’t, as you always eloquently say, you can’t just put ice cream on poop, and it’s just not going to work.

Melanie
Which was the late Debbie Ford’s expression, and I loved it from the moment I heard it because it’s such a great visual, and the trauma is the poop, and we have to get it out.

Lorraine
Yes, it got me to the next and the next points until another downward turn. And it was just this back and forth constantly and no semblance of self. And just each time you just lost a little more of yourself and got more hopeless. Yes, yes, you know.

Melanie
A lot of us would never have gotten through 45 years. So that shows how strong you were and your coping mechanisms, even though you’re breaking down, keep you there. And also, it’s a big deal, you know, when that’s all you’ve known to get out of a relationship.

Lorraine
Right. I invested so much in this relationship and didn’t want to break up my family, but I knew at a gut level that how could I stay in this marriage? And it took a few more breakdowns for me to finally, finally wake up. And for many years, I didn’t know he was a narcissist. I just knew he was toxic.

And that, you know, I think I’ve had several breakdowns, but the first one was really finding out when his career took off in high tech that he was constantly travelling. And I was home alone with the kids, and he’s gone two weeks, three weeks at a time, to Asia and other places.

And I found out he was engaging in sexual liaisons, you know, one-off ones. And my world was rocked and completely broken.

And yet what was really, that part was bad, but the worst part was facing myself in the mirror and seeing and knowing that I was the type of woman that was too, I was so codependent and so traumatized and so scared about leaving that I couldn’t even then.

And a few more breakdowns happened, and he had vision issues but always had good corrective lenses. Things started going downhill for his vision, and he couldn’t drive anymore when we moved to this other state. But he decided to use it as a device of control.

Oh, since I need you to take care of it, I did all the driving, which I had no problem with. I never complained. I was happy to help him, but he decided consciously, oh, I can control her even more now, I can control her whereabouts.

Melanie
So, how did you find out about our Thriver community? How did that happen?

Lorraine
After we moved to this other state, I reconnected with an old college friend. She found out about your NARP program and told me about it. I was blown away because I had just recently found out from my research that he was a narcissist, and that was enough of a shock.

So, finding out about NARP broke everything open for me. I finally had a way. I wanted to leave my marriage. I just didn’t feel I didn’t know how I could do it. I was so entrenched, so trauma-bonded. And then I had names for everything. I had names for the cognitive dissonance, the peptide addiction, and everything I was feeling. You know, I could finally say I’m not crazy here.

Melanie
So it explained what was going on. So, what happened when you started doing the modules? Cause you were still with him at the time. So what happened to you?

Lorraine
Some space opened up inside me. I could see that okay I was scared to death but I was going to babystep this and I did I kept at it, even on days I didn’t feel like it, and more and more space opened up and more and more grace, more and more compassion for myself happened.

The way you design the modules is, in retrospect, so beautiful. You totally understand the process we go through, going from one to the next to the next. I just followed along. I didn’t try to jump around, and it really helped, you know, and it was so true about what you go to next and next.

I kept at it, and the lockdown happened, so I had no excuses. I turned, you know, the lockdown was horrible for everyone. But since I was stuck there with him and I wasn’t, I couldn’t physically leave right away, but I knew if I just stuck to it, I could. And I did, turned my thinking around about the lockdown, and said, you know what? It’s probably the best thing that happened to me because I had no excuses. I had nowhere to go.

No people to see. I had my privacy. I went into one part of the house. He went in the other with his projects. And I said, I’m closing this door. I’m meditating to feel better. And you know, he didn’t know about it and didn’t like it, but after a while, he got used to it. So I would spend half my days there, NARPing, journaling, and inner work. Yes, yes. And…

Melanie
You were there doing the inner work, getting the trauma out and the light in.

Lorraine
There was lots of help. Your blogs are amazing. I would read them over and over. And it is just that you always find every angle on every subject and fill it out completely. So you’re always hitting something. Something was always resonating. Or if I didn’t understand it, I did it. I did understand it in another month or two months or whatever. And your videos were amazing. And, you know, Thriver’s videos were incredible and encouraged me to keep going.

You know that healing is not linear; you’re going all over the place with it, but if you stick to it and stick with NARP, you know what she says and what she says will happen if you stick to it really does happen. If it could happen to me, a 66-year-old woman who spent her whole adult life being narcissistically abused, I could dig myself out of that hole and get through. You can, too. I know you can.

I’ve taken many classes from you and this community, and we have a strength we don’t know about. You know, we’re strong if we’re in this community. We may not feel strong every day, but we’re strong. And we know deep down that we are worthy, and until we can get the debris out of the way, just like the saying goes, the sun will always be shining. You just have to get the clouds out of the way.

Melanie
It’s so true. Yeah. And just to unpack that a little bit, you know, what I love about that. Yeah. Look, COVID, you know, put you in that situation, but what we find with all of our Thrivers, including beautiful people like you, Lorraine, is we’ve had long-term people, even in their eighties, get out to the other side.

Lorraine
Yes, and that encouraged me.

Melanie
Yeah, yeah, which is so beautiful. And by the way, you look amazing for 66. What I love about our thrivers is that you start glowing when the traumas are out, and the light gets in. You know, it’s

Lorraine
Look what I found. I found my smile again.

Melanie
Your cells are smiling. I just want people to understand, and I say it all the time: The blogs and my videos are supplements, but the true inner work that makes the difference 100% of the time is “the trauma out the light in,” which is the actual modules. The supplements help give you guidance, encouragement, and understanding. But understanding is not innerstanding. Information is not transformation.

So, people, Lorraine is going to be pretty shocked to hear you’ve only been out of the marital house for four and a half months. You are basically not suffering aftershock.

Lorraine
That’s right.

Melanie
Aftershock is that phenomenon where most people leave, and you may have people tell you, well, you’ve left, and you’re going to be all right now. You’re not because the trauma from yesterday, last week, last month, last year hit you like a freight train.

And a lot of people go back, or a lot of people get on medication or just all sorts of things to try and cope because you feel like you’re dying. You feel like you’re losing your mind. Now, you’ve barely gone through that.

Now I know the reason. I see the night and day recoveries and the day recoveries are you clean out any triggers with NARP, you keep working the modules and healing and you’re doing speedy shifts now aren’t you too?

Lorraine
I am, I mean, I can’t tell you how happy I am with Speedy Shifts. I feel like our parents talked about, you know when they were young, they had to walk five miles through the snow to get to school and whatever it was like.

Now, you know, from the other NARP to Speedy NARPs, it’s like quantum, you know, leveling up. And anyone, get Speedy Shifts. If you’re new to NARP, do the NARP. Because you need to have that basis. I really do believe that. And there are some SpeedyNarp modules, which I’ve done and are fabulous.

You have eight minutes, so get in there and do it. And I’ve done it since day one of leaving my ex, and I won’t stop. I’m, I’m hooked. It’s the way, and the only way is the quantum way. And once you feel it and do it and really feel the difference, you’re never going back. You can’t go back to the way you lived before. You just can’t.

Melanie
It’s beautiful. And yeah, I loved it when you left him because you just declared it and did it, didn’t you? You were in your power.

Lorraine
I surprised myself.

I was done when I was done, I was done. And I worked through a lot of the fears. I worked those modules big time, especially the one about not taking responsibility for him regarding his vision disability. It was probably my last bastion of feeling a little guilty or whatever, but I worked on that. I cleared it, and I addressed it on day one with him.

I spoke my truth to that man for six weeks. He tried to work on me to change my mind, but I wasn’t.

But every time I told him my truth, it got easier and easier. I was able to disconnect and was the leader of the whole process. I was willing to, um, lose it all to get it all, but I had a plan, and I knew what he needed and wanted, and I leveraged it. So I think I surprised him. He’s a big businessman, a type-A person. He did not expect that from me.

Yes. So, it was only four months that we went through the process at home together until I left. It wasn’t a long time. I kept to myself and didn’t let him enter my space, and he had no choice but to capitulate.

Melanie
I love this Lorraine because here’s the thing, you know, outside there in the normal non-MTE non-Thriver narcissistic abuse recovery program world, everybody believes we can’t stand up to them. They’re too manipulative. They win in court. They’re all-powerful and literally the Wizard of Oz behind the curtain, pulling levers with this whole smoke-screen pyromaniac show. It’s not true.

Lorraine
Exactly. I love that analogy. It’s so him.

Melanie
Because when we get rid of the trauma and align with Source and Stand, they capitulate, and it happens all the time in this community.

Lorraine
Yes, it was especially helpful in the last few months before I told them we were divorcing. I didn’t ask for the divorce, I told them. And I got a lot of support and help there, especially for that. I mean, all through the process, of course.

I bought the gold, and your people are wonderful, the moderators. You’ve created such an amazing safe space because we’ve all been on other kinds of forums, and those are not fun.

Melanie
Thank you. Because this is the bunker, this is the battlefield of complete insane toxicity, narcissistic abuse, and being able to disentangle from you. And what comes with NARP is incredible support from the quantum untangling point of view, but also from the practical point of view, because there’s nothing that we haven’t seen in this community over the last 17 years, which is the insanity, which is narcissistic abuse.

Lorraine
That’s the key.

Melanie
We know what they’re going to do. We know their next steps. We know how to get you aligned. We know how to get you to stand up. We know how to help you deal with solicitors and judges to turn that system back to supporting you.

So you beat him!

Lorraine
Yes, and you know, so many people in your community don’t have a support network. And that’s what you were providing for so many women and men. It’s absolutely essential. You can’t really do this on your own. If you think you can, it’s going to be very difficult. And the kind of support that Melanie’s organization, the NARP, and all the other programs she has in the forum provide is invaluable, folks. It’s a no-brainer.

Melanie
I’m looking at you, and you’re just like, you are glowing. You look like you’ve been on collagen supplements for six months!

Lorraine
I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to live without that toxic energy permeating everything. And it just is night and day. And then to continue to work the program, because you’re doing it within a different with much gusto now because it really is all for you. You’re not about just getting out of the relationship. It’s all for you now.

And now you’re soul-driven. You want to do what your soul imprints, what you need to do, what you want to do in this life. You’re not afraid of the unknown as much because all the possibilities exist in the unknown. All of them. And all you’ll find in the unknown is more of yourself. And that’s everything. And you know, we lived in such a limited thinking life and world, and now we no longer have to think that way.

There are new rules. We’re following universal laws, and we’re creating new rules that support us, you know? So, thanks to you and your program.

Melanie
Oh, Lorraine, I think you should be a motivational speaker. Your sharing of it is just gorgeous and from the quantum heart.

Lorraine
Yes, you know, the unknown is like the quantum field. It’s all the possibilities are there. That’s it.

Melanie
So you moved out. Who are you living with now, and what are your next steps?

Lorraine
Well, I’m very, very fortunate. I have a wonderful, loving family: three sisters and a mom. My oldest sister and her husband knew what was going on, and I confided in them. In fact, she helped me buy NARP because he’s so controlling about every little charge.

She did it as a gift because she wanted that for me. And I was just touched by that. And they went a bit further. They built a beautiful home out in the country. Lots of green and a river and 35 acres.

And they said, please come, we have room for you, plenty of room, come live with us as long as you want and heal and just be, we want that for you. They’re the kindest, most loving, and generous people, and they have the most beautiful relationship in marriage. And they are such a good example for me.

It’s been wonderful to be here. I came here, I’m just living, just being and feeling good and, you know, working on whatever triggers may be coming up and doing the program and, but doing it, and like I said, in a whole different way with the speedy shifts and some of the NARP speedy shifts. And it’s, I don’t know, more fun because it’s all about me and the possibilities.

I’m in your Thrive program right now, and I’m coming up to week 10, and it’s just been amazing. I knew about this program from day one. And you know, it was a dream to be able to take that when I was on the other side. I mean, I thought sometimes I couldn’t get there, but I did, and it has not disappointed me.

Melanie
I love that.

Lorraine
If you haven’t done it, you’ve got to take it. If you’re on the other side and you’re having struggles or you just need a little boost, you’ve got to take her Thrive Program. It will really uplevel you. It really will. It’ll get you going on your new life and addressing; she is on fire. You know, it’s one of a private group.

She is on fire and throwing wisdom around. You know, you have the recordings. I’m going to be re-listening to them, and I’ve got a list of shifts going on.

I highly recommend it. So, after that, I’m just going to plan to do some online training and try a new vocation as a freelance worker. And you know, I don’t know if I’ll like it if I do it. You know, it might lead to something else. I don’t care because I’m quantum now.

I just put one foot in front of the other. I go within. I put out there what I want, not goodies, how I want to feel. Because I can create my life. I get to decide how I feel, not from the outside in. Okay. I’m building a garden here and creating my life.

Melanie
I love that. It’s my deepest wish that you can inspire one person, but I know you’ll inspire many. I really do.

Lorraine
Exactly. I am happy to!

Melanie
I guess for many people who have been in a long-term marriage, it’s like a big thing to accept help. It’s a huge thing for a lot of codependents who have been used to holding everything up themselves.

Lorraine
It was very hard for me.

Melanie
I met a woman years ago, and I don’t know where she is now. I’d love to have her on, but she was with a very wealthy, successful, powerful narcissist. She had nowhere to go. She went to a shelter in her 60s. She did the program, and she healed. Then, an old friend from decades ago got in contact with a very similar story, who worked out in the country and had an art gallery.

She went and stayed, started learning sculpting, worked in the art gallery, met a beautiful man, got married, and gained this whole new community because she was working at cleaning out the trauma, bringing the light, and this is exactly what I see for you.

Source/God/Creation gives you the next step, and it’s all moving towards your well-being, flourishing, nourishing, true self, and life. It’s because it’s already who we are without the trauma. So you are so on track. You’re so beautiful. You’re so inspiring. I think you are stunning inside and out. You are the kind of woman who would walk into a room and light it up because you’re lit up from the inside, and you’re just beautiful!

Lorraine, do you have any passing thoughts or words of encouragement that you could say to our beautiful listeners?

Lorraine
Yes, well, for the long-married folks and, of course, the other ones, it’s just, you know, be compassionate, dig deep, and know that you are worth it. And even though it’s almost like spiritual compensation where I have landed, I was prepared to go wherever I had to go. It didn’t matter because I knew I would be fine if I worked the program.

As you keep opening space, believing in yourself, and caring for yourself, things will start coming. And it’s not too late. You just need to start. You know, I kept telling myself, stop waiting. Just start. You know, it’s never going to be a perfect situation. You just have to start. And we all can do that. We can.

And just the basics, so within and without, is what Mel has been drilling in our heads. It’s being understood intellectually until you start opening space and getting more healed. Then you realize it’s your inner world. That is your real world.

That’s the reality. Your external world: We live in this 3D world, and we have to deal with it, but we don’t have to be dictated by it, right?

So it’s the only way you will be self-generative. It’s the only way you will be happy. The only way you’ll have the love and approval you seek is through here. And it’s all so possible, and it is happening. Thanks to NARP. It really is.

Melanie
Oh, Lorraine, thank you so much. I’m sure people’s cells will buzz with love and possibility, and you’re amazing. I’m so grateful for you and for being a part of our awesome community. Thank you for being a dear Thriver and also, you know, a dear friend.

Thank you so much, and lots of love to everybody.

Lorraine
Thank you. You’re amazing.

I hope that you enjoyed this Thriver Talk with Lorraine and that it has helped you feel that no matter how old you are or how long the abuse has happened, there is hope!

For more details about NARP – The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program, check it out here.

And for the Speedy Shift healing evolution, which allows for fast trauma healing in minutes, find out more details here.

I look forward to answering your comments and questions below!

I am in awe of your growth, how so many of you have had incredible breakthroughs with the Speedy Shifts and witnessing what this has meant in your life. Many of you amazing people are accelerating into full SHINING!

I’m really not surprised, because in the 17 years that I have been in our incredible community, I know we are in a grand soul ascension period! This is perfect because, in these global rapid changes, I know your soul was born for this time – and you are rising up to this challenge.

Speaking of challenges, let’s go over our housekeeping together – for the Speedy Shift 5 Day Challenge Competition, to win one of 3 first prizes which is a First Prize Certificate, plus a 1 on 1 Quanta Freedom Healing Session, with me, valued at $995.00 USD.

The 3 first prizes will be concluded and announced on or before the 18^th December as:

• Source’s Award – Drawn from all competition registered people.
• Greatest Achievement Award – The person with the greatest breakthrough results.
• Greatest Efford Award – The person who has put in a lot of effort and deserves the support of a healing with me.

Please know, even IF you come to this Competition at this last session (and even up to 10 days later), you still have a chance to win!

To be eligible you must:

• Be a Speedy Shifts Program Member
• Have posted a comment for each Day’s Live Event on Facebook, YouTube, Rumble or here on My Blog.
• Email in to support@melanietoniaevans.com to receive your Registration Form.

(Actually, let’s get this out of the way right now … fill out an email now if you can, or write this down – the address support@melanietoniaevans.com and write in the subject line – “Registration For The Speedy Shifts Challenge”. That’s all you need to do and push send. Let’s tick that off your to-do list!)

• You will receive your Registration Form emailed back to you. After today’s session and healing shifts, fill it in, and send your completed form back to support@melanietoniaevans.com within 10 days – by the 10^th December 2024, 9 am Queensland Australia Time.

Please find all the previous Day’s challenges here on the blog to help you connect to them also.

Day 1 – Where Do Obsessive Thoughts Really Come From?

Day 2- How Do Trauma Signature Patterns Imprison Your Mind?

Day 3 – Who Are You Without Your Obsessive Mind?

Day 4 – Healing The Addictions Making You Obsess

Okay, now let’s get into today’s topic, which you can watch in the video, or read the transmission below.

Freedom From Obsessing Unleashes Creative Energy

In Day 4 we talked about how addictions cause obsession and being stuck in self-sabotaging loops, and how to break free from this. After doing this, so much of your Energy Field that was stuck in survival trying to endure your traumas, is now freed UP for pure Creation!

This is exciting!

And … exactly the point where you start to Innerstand and move towards “WHO are you Being in the world, and what ARE you here to do?”

Today, we are going to lean into your soul mission seriously, because up until now, in obsession, you possibly weren’t able to have enough free energy to allow in, connect to and flow into your true soul vocation.

Feel into the following … how much power will you have to ACTUALLY create without obsessing? Of course, this is as long as you are no longer in fear about “Being You” – which usually requires tweaking!

(Please know that in this week’s Shifts Happen episode we are doing a session on “Free To Be You!” …. exactly THAT topic.)

But … NOW you can’t hide anymore and make excuses!

Okay, let’s start working at anchoring in some Soul truths.

Exercise 1: Together, let’s breathe deeply, open your body, and be super-present, which means ignoring your thoughts, and say the following empowering statement together …

“I know my soul wishes to illuminate my purpose in this lifetime. I innerstand that connecting to and actualising this mission would truly fulfill me.”

Let’s just repeat that a few times, and breathe that in.

How does that feel?

Exiting? Scary? Not possible? Really viable? Are you already connecting to and expressing your soul mission?

Now that you are releasing obsession and starting to feel and BE your True Self, this brings a whole other level of soul responsibility if you wish to connect to the Life that will fulfill you like no other – “What are my unique contributions to this planet, and how will I bring them into Being?”

This I promise you – there is no lack of you having the capacity or ability, or Source/God/Creation supplying you with what you were born to do, and why you are here on this planet for this time. Source and Your Soul did not get it wrong!

There are no limits such as your age, capabilities, or credentials. With Source/God/Creation all things are possible!

It is only YOU who is in the way.

Who Do You Want To Be In The World?

At a deep heart and soul level I know that you want to express your Soul passions and missions – because really everyone wants to.

This journey is personal; everyone’s soul missions and passions are unique to them. Maybe your mission is to be a support person to someone else, such as your child – and that is authentic for you. Maybe your mission and passions are simple. Quite possibly, because you are in this community and doing the inner work at this level, your mission like mine, is to make a difference in the world and be a public person.

A big clue is often we teach what we most need to learn.

Maybe you already know what your mission is, you are already doing it, working towards it, or dreaming about it. Or, you have NO idea yet and that is okay too – even that is NOT a problem at all – and is no barrier to you unfolding your soul mission.

Please know I’m not going to grant you what your Soul Mission is today, that would take me tuning into your individual self (please hang around until the end of this presentation if you would like more information about that). Instead, what I am going to do is help you connect to your Source/Soul Self mission and clear the blocks to flow into your soul mission – if you choose to.

One thing is for certain, connecting to your Soul Mission will set you alight, and everything that has happened in your life previously will make PERFECT sense! If not engaging with your Soul’s Mission, it will always feel like something is missing.

The good news is, everything is set up within your cellular coded truth, and the Light Codes that you are receiving from Source, to activate YOUR Soul Mission!

There is no greater time than right now in our world with old systems crumbling, for you to be a part of the NEW system of bringing your Soul Mission into existence right here right now. Our new emerging world needs this, welcomes it and provides a huge audience wanting your unique contributions.

However, I know there can be HUGE programming blocks in the way.

Let’s look at these …

The Inner Programs Stopping You from Being Your True Vocation

These include painful beliefs such as:

“I am not good enough.”

“I don’t have enough experience/information/credentials.”

“I feel like an imposter, other people know more than I do.”

“I can’t make money from doing what I love, I need to get a real job instead.”

“What if I fail and can’t survive?”

“What if no one wants what I’m offering?”

“What will people think if I pursue ‘that” as a career?”

“If I do ‘that” I will be a target and torn down.”

I could go on and on and on …

Please know that all of your blocks and limiting beliefs are NOT real – even though they seem like they are!

Honestly, ONLY you have these barriers. Your Source/Soul Self doesn’t. Rather, your Source/Soul Self is barracking for you to start flowing forward into your true Soul’s Mission WITH abundant support and success.

Also please accept that Source never wants to punish you, have you go without and not be blessed. Those old programmed martyr beliefs were always false premises, especially now. We are in the era of Unity Consciousness – plenty, more than enough and Thriving for everyone.

You are supposed to glow, shine and be amply flourished and nourished in your Soul’s Mission. It’s win, win. You get blessed and rewarded, inside and out, and filled with an abundance of Light and gratitude. This translates into an authentic and energetic outpouring, which opens the gates for receiving your truest desires and rewards.

But only IF you get out of your head, connect to the flow of your unfolding, and allow Source to be Large and in Charge, and don’t need “rewards” in order to be whole. The joy and outpouring have to be about BEINGNESS, not getingness – and then the getingness will look after itself!

And … of course, your ego won’t like it, because you have been programmed to not connect to and do what your Soul and Source want you to do. But now it’s time for you to turn all of this around!

Let’s go deeper …

Shifting Away From “The Outside Is My Security”

You have been programmed not to follow your Soul’s True Calling, often because of the perceived limitations of security.

Is a boss your security? No!

Is a particular big corporation job your security? Nope!

Is a partner or a family member your security? Not at all!

Is the economic permutations, probabilities or location your security? No!

What is your security?

Your Soul/Source Connection.

The inside-out job that is connecting you to the channeling and inspiration of your greatest contributions, which is what your Soul came here to do, and everything that is set up in the Field, in interconnectedness with this, to make it happen.

Exercise 2: Let’s now make this empowering statement together … Open and breathe so that it can be received as a transmission …

“I know Source and my Soul are my security. I am guided, supported and provided for in All Ways, Always!”

Repeat this a few times and let it soak into your cells because it is the absolute truth.

Unless you get in the way of this. let’s investigate how this happens …

Attachment To YOUR Will Instead of Allowing Divine Will

Disconnection from your Source/Self,  where your greatest heart and soul desires are at ONE and totally in agreeance with Source – happens via thoughts.

Namely, you making it about “my will” not “Divine Will.” Your logical mind is NOT Divine Will. It doesn’t have access to the unlimited permutations in The Field, to line you up with the right meeting,  advice, signal, the right “calling card” and “synchronistic event” that is going to deliver you to the miracle of your true work.

If you aren’t surrendered, allowing, and getting yourself out of the way, you are trying to control things and you won’t “see”, “hear” or “be” in the right place at the right time. You could be so attached to it being “my way” that this next step could literally fall on top of you and you won’t recognise it!

I love this story about a man, caught in flood waters who decided “God will save me”. In his mind he believed “being saved by God” would be some HUGE event.

A rowing boat pulled up alongside him. He said “Thanks, but no thanks, God will save me.” A short time after, he turned down an offer of help from a larger boat, believing this wasn’t God either. The waters were rising further and getting more aggressive and a helicopter flew over him. He again refused to accept that help, believing it was NOT magnificent enough to be God.

As he was drowning he screamed out “God why have you forsaken me?” A voice called back “I sent you a row boat, a cabin cruiser and a helicopter. What more did you want?”

This is a powerful story. It is a recognition that God/Source/Creation is EVERYWHERE if you are humble enough to be open to a Higher Power. Your “rowboat” could be a simple job that is needed RIGHT now, to start paying some bills.

Then as you are working at the corner store, loving interaction and being of service, and staying in heart space –  you meet a customer who offers you the NEXT step to your mission.

Allow me to let you in on a little secret as to how the Universe works – if you follow your heart, humbly, without analysis, and MOVE forward into what feels good and have gratitude for it, the Universe WILL MEET YOU exactly where you are, and start rearranging things to FURTHER flourish, nourish and expand you.

God/Source/Creation helps those who help themselves.  You are helping yourself if you move forward into the “now” with what HELPS you – because it FEELS right. Source/God/Creation says “Beautiful, you are humble and in heart space, grateful for the opportunity, open and following your inner cues – now I can set up the next step for your EXPANSION.”

If you wait and don’t get on the rowboat because you are totally attached to a luxury ship liner turning up instead – you are completely missing the point and will stagnate, get depressed, feel like a victim who can’t manifest what you want, and ultimately end up drowning.

You may have the belief, “If I make a lesser choice then I’ll miss the REAL thing when it comes.”

(Like the drowning man waiting for God to show up).

How can God/ Source/Creation NOT show up when God is everywhere and in everything? Of course, you can leave the corner store and move on at any time, if it no longer feels “right” for you!

Exercise 3: Okay, now for our next empowering statement together. Open and breathe so that it can be received as a transmission …

“I trust my heart and move towards what feels supportive for me NOW. Life, Source and my Soul can pivot, rearrange, and make everything and anything happen from anywhere, at any time. Moving forward means I am out in life, free to receive my true soul’s work.”

Now breathe, repeat this statement and let this soak into your cells as Inner standing.

How does this feel?

How Do You Align And Move Towards Your Soul Mission?

First of all, you have to sign up for your Soul’s mission with all of your heart.

(I’ll show you how to do that with Speedy Shifts!)

Then you can get out of the way, trust your heart, flow forward and keep clearing out the fears that come up, to keep moving forward and be “met” in The Field of Life with the opportunities, synchronicities and support that your Soul and your higher-dimensional guides are trying SO hard to bring into reality for you!

And … trust and follow your intuition. Whatever feels inspiring and exciting is always IT – IF you don’t get into your head.

These are the times when God/Source/Creation is moving through you as you – and saying “Hi”.

These times DON’T have to make sense! In fact, it’s better if they don’t make sense. You will be doing whatever you are doing, because it feels right, it feels invigorating, and it sets your heart on fire.

Do you know what is going to happen as a result of you BEING that energy at that time? Of course, you can’t know, you are not meant to know, and if you try to you will mess it up.

Don’t be attached to needing to know ANY outcomes.

I love what Louise Hay said when they asked her how she built the Hay House empire. She said, “I answered the phone and opened the mail.” In other words, she was not in her head, she was in the moment, showing up in service to her calling.

My own business started with me not starting a business. One night I had a powerful desire to write articles – I was channeling them and sat up all night writing, so excited about it, that I couldn’t sleep. The next day someone suggested to me that they could be posted on the internet.

Then an avalanche of contact came. I thought I was just sharing thoughts – but my business started that very day.

Your Value And Soul Contributions

Please know this – Source wants you to be God Godding – to expand, contribute, and make a difference. Not just for a moment – durably. Do you really think this would be possible if you were broken and your car, house and health were all crumbling around you?

This is why it is so ridiculous and needs total cleaning up Quantumly when people have the belief, I can’t do spiritual work or what I love and charge for it. You were born for this time, to come to Earth, in this ascension period, make a difference, and prosper as well.

Have you ever noticed in your life that the more you give away of yourself and your energy for free, without limits and boundaries and without valuing yourself, that other people don’t value you either?

If you value yourself and your contributions, you will bring incredible value to people and the world.

Shifting Into Your True Soul’s Mission

Okay, can you start to sense and feel the inner work you will need to do to trust, flow, listen, follow, and know that Source and your Soul are your security?

Are you ready to let go and deeply unfold and activate YOU?

If your answer is “Yes!” then let’s get down to it.

The first healing shift is the all-powerful (my favourite) Module 4 Speedy Shift Source Healing and Resolution Module.

Take any surfacing dense energy of confusion and fear about stepping into your “True Soul’s Career” to this Healing, until you reach a 10/10.

(This is an all-purpose clean-up healing, before the next step.)

Then, use the following Goal Set in Module 5 Speedies – “I sign up, accept, and embody the activation of my true Soul Mission for this lifetime.”

Keep clearing all resistance until you reach a 10/10.

Now you can refine further …

• Use Speedy Shifts Module 4, the Source Healing and Resolution for “Security fears.” Keep shifting until you reach a 10/10.

• Then, with the same Module 4, again take the problem of “Needing to try to work it out” into the healing and keep clearing until reaching a 10/10.

• Then again, with Module 4, do the healing “Not trusting my intuition humbly to follow the next heartfelt step.” Keep shifting until you reach a 10/10.

And, there could be more, because as I said, virtually all of us have been programmed OUT of connecting to and following our Soul Paths!

It’s actually a rarity to find someone who has, when it should be the “normal”!

Keep shifting and aligning!

In Conclusion

Okay – so here it is the END of our Speedy Shifts 5-Day Challenge and it’s been my absolute joy to connect with you all in this way. It’s been thrilling for me to see how many of you have grown – so MUCH!

You are DOING the work – Soul Work! Is there anything more important? It means your entire life can start to flow and work.

Now, there is still some more for your incredible people to do – work through these Day 5 Shifts, fill out your registration form, and send it back into support@melanietoniaevans.com by the 10th December 2024.

I want to wish YOU the most incredible blessings in regard to winning a 1-on-1 healing with me!

The greatest blessing, however, is the growth that you have generated for yourself. The freedom from your mind, to activate the True You, Your Source Soul Self to be in charge of your life, because that is when your True Life Begins.

This is the work I am passionately doing on myself every day, shifting out ANY dark inner corners, loading UP with Source’s Light, and following my Inner Voice faithfully to actualise, as much as possible, my Soul’s calling in this pivotal time for humanity. 

Two days ago, I received the Divine Message to reach out and offer people COMPLIMENTARY 1-on-1 help, in a private appointment, to KNOW their Soul Map. This is for people who ARE passionate about expanding into their Soul Mission and potential.

In line with this, I have just released my most exclusive Super-Thriver Course which is a 12-month intimate, high-frequency program for those SUPER serious about bringing their unique gifts to the world, as well as living at their highest potential in Love, Health and Wealth.

PLUS, I am offering something for the FIRST time ever.

A FREE complimentary Soul Map Reading and up to 10 Speedy Shifts – valued at $525.00 USD. The Complimentary session with me is for the first 20 serious Soul Warriors who enroll in Super Thrive.

PLUS, the early bird price of 20% off is ONLY until 5th December 2024, by using the discount code SUPERTHRIVE

If you are one of the first 20 people, you will be contacted by email for your numerology details and to book you in!

(Please know that many of these spots have already been taken, and you WILL be contacted for your FREE Soul Map Reading if you previously ordered Super Thrive, before I decided to do this.)

There are now only a limited number of spaces left!

You can check out the Super Thrive details and dates here.

I hope with all of my heart that you have enjoyed this Speedy Shift Challenge as much as I have hosting it. I just KNOW with your growth, and with our energy TOGETHER – and for our world – the BEST is yet to come!

I am sending you Much Love and Profound UP-shifts, and I look forward to your comments and questions below.

Today, we talk about addictions. How they make you obsess, and how they separate you from your Highest and Best Life.

How do addictions sneak up and grab you?

How does your mind trick you into reaching for an addiction in times of stress?

How can you short-circuit this vicious cycle and come home to your safety, peace, grace, and healthy ascension?

In today’s Speedy Shift Challenge Day 4 – Healing The Obsessive Mind – you will discover truths and shifts that will help you melt away your addictions powerfully.

Please find the video and the transcript of this transmission below.

If you have not yet subscribed to my YouTube channel or followed me on Facebook, please do so. I’d also love for you to share my work with others who need it and connect with me on Rumble and Instagram.

Facebook Video Transcript

Today in Speedy Shifts Facebook Challenge Day 4, we will discuss melting away the addictions that fuel your obsession.

On day 3, we spoke about Who You Will Be Without Obsessing, namely your True Self, but please don’t think your ego will go quietly into the night. Let’s face it, your ego has, for a very long time, been getting a free feed of toxicity from your obsessing mind. It will try to tempt you at EVERY turn to give up your good practices and go back to obsessing.

Let’s review your good soul practices to stay on track …

• Loving self-talk

When you are triggered, breathe deeply, open your body, take your attention inside of you and speak to yourself lovingly as you would a child who you adore “(Endearing term). I am here, I love you, I’m proud of you, you’re doing a great job. As soon as we can, we will shift this out – Okay?”

Now, your Inner Self does not have to scream, demand, or manifest some sort of calamity to get your attention to turn inwards to her or him because you have self-partnered and self-validated.

• Acceptance

Keep your body open and breathing and say, “I bless and accept this feeling because it’s showing me what next I need to let go of and shift.”

This is the consciousness shift from victim to empowered Quantum Being. From this place, you know that all of life is happening FOR you and not TO you, and you know that no matter what the darkness throws at you, it grants you another powerful up-level opportunity into even more Light.

You refuse to start THINKING about your trauma and get on with your day – self-soothing until you can get to a Quantum Healing Module.

But your ego has OTHER Ideas, and addictions are one of the most powerful ways that your ego can derail you.

Especially if you are NOT okay with feeling pain.

Being Able To Hold Space With Pain

If you, like I used to, struggle to be in emotional pain, your ego can really mess with you.

This doesn’t mean you are weak or incapable; it usually means you are sensitive and feel intense feelings. Most people who are spiritual and interested in personal development fall into this category.

This turns into a vicious cycle because if you don’t embrace your painful feelings, whatever you resist will persist, your Inner Being will feel invalidated and scream louder, and the pain will intensify.

To stop this from happening, breathing, opening, and accepting the feelings of pain are vital.

There is huge alchemy in this.

Yes, we want to shift things, BUT if you refuse to BE with yourself UNCONDITIONALLY at all times, you are missing the point. Self-partnering, like the right relationship, is unconditionally supportive and loving. Every relationship you have in life, and even with life itself, starts with the emotional (energy–in–motion) relationship that you are having with yourself.

Of course, you want life and others to support you at all times, no matter what STATE you are in … and Life and Source / God / Creation will support you, even when you are traumatized IF you are self-partnered.

This means opening up your body, breathing, and being IN your body with the pain.

This is super-presence. This is love. This is self-partnering.

Trying to avoid this, self-medicate, self-avoid, and self-condemn are all the ways that not only do you reject and re-traumatize yourself, but you also will NEVER heal. Even if you say to yourself, “I hate this feeling” and “I want it gone,” and do healing on yourself all day, you are missing the point, and you won’t heal.

Yes, you can turn inside to heal this, but it will only work if you have first loved and accepted ALL of yourself, including this triggered feeling!

I promise you this will get easier, and very soon, you will discover how powerfully solid you feel when you don’t disengage from your feelings.

Why is this SO important? Because when you are self-partnered in this way, your EGO cannot trick you into disengaging from you and starting to seek solace from the outside.

Let’s find out how this takes place …

Your Ego’s Favourite Tool Of Deception- Addictions

We all know what these things are – food, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, mind-numbing pastimes, sex, shopping, gambling – things that not only separate you from yourself but add more bad energy to bad energy. This is the act of self-rejection and abandonment, rather than being your own partner, soother and healer.

Your ego loves this because you will obsess even harder about this place.

EXACTLY about the unhealed thing you tried to run from. Plus, the additional shame and pain of being addicted to something that hurts you because you aren’t prepared to be with this painful feeling inside of you.

You can’t heal what you are unprepared to fully accept and feel. You can’t defeat what you don’t face without fear and resistance.

Being fully present with your triggered Inner Being may terrify you.

But think of this – how would it be for another person who wanted your love if they felt bad and you turned them away? How would it be when you felt bad and someone you loved ran away?

Now, imagine a child going through this. That is exactly what your Inner Being is – an innocent, underdeveloped, scared self who needs your Higher Consciousness – your love and super-presence to reconnect him or her to the Source’s Light.

Please know that your presence with yourself creates the template for how you are with others and who you will attract and accept to be with you. You will never accept a level of love less than the level of love you have for yourself. If you are still terrified of getting hurt again by others, you haven’t built your emotional relationship into solid integrity yet.

Okay, now let’s make a powerful intention together …

Exercise 1: I want you to write this empowering statement: “It is safe to breathe, open my body, take my attention inside, and be present with myself in times of painful emotion. This immediately brings me soothing, love, acceptance, trust, and support. This creates more support and love from Source, life, and healthy others.”

Now I want you to open and breathe and repeat this to yourself several times to innerstand this truth.

How does that feel? Comfortable or scary? Does it feel like a relief? Maybe a mixture?

I promise you I will grant you the SPECIFIC Speedy Shifts so you can make space for yourself in these times.

Now, let’s look at what happens if you don’t.

Running from Yourself Straight Into the Clutches of Your Egoic Addictions

What are addictions?

They are attempts to burn off or numb the internal pain of unmet traumas.

Addictions pretend to be your best friend … “You need me when you are stressed. This is HOW to get comfort!” Yet what they do is lure you into self-destruction. Addictions don’t bring durable relief, solace, and solutions, and they just make your life so much worse.

They generate dis-ease and anti-life; they destroy your spirit and connection with your Inner Being and Source. This dire separation and self-abuse generate more chaos, powerlessness, and pain.

Please know I am not talking about having a good time in moderation. I am not a prude! I love a cocktail or two and some naughty food at times.

What I am saying is using a substance or an action to avoid internal pain. That is exactly what addictions are. The further you separate from yourself, the more you become dis-integrated instead of integrated – it’s that simple! Then you are under the ego’s control and can be mined often for supply – your painful, toxic emotions.

Make no mistake, your ego is your internal narcissist, making you feel small, pathetic, empty, not good enough, and defective, and wanting you to turn to addictive relief, which in turn makes you feel even smaller, more pathetic, emptier, and hopeless.

Your ego itself is a self-loathing parasite that does what all parasites who don’t have their own authentic energy source do – destroy the host and then end in annihilation themselves.

That’s what anti-life is.

So, how do you go free from the desire for addictions that your ego has been ambushing you with?

First of all, don’t panic with feeling bad. Emotional triggers are a part of the human experience.

Triggers and painful feelings that DON’T hurt you – they only do if you separate from yourself, start thinking about them, beat yourself up and make choices that hurt you.

Most Highly Sensitive People (Starseeds) I know are totally brave, with high levels of tolerance to physical pain, and are SO resourceful. They can sort out messes incredibly – taking on the workloads and responsibilities of multiple people. Like my previous self, you may just be really bad with tolerating emotional internal pain because you have not been taught how to healthily self-soothe and be with yourself yet.

And certainly NOT in a Quantum Way!

However, the “pain” of an unmet trauma is no different from feeling a raw cut on your leg. But the problem is we can treat emotional pain as if it has a whole lot of other STUFF with it. None of that is true!

This is what triggers bring—FEAR—false Evidence Appearing Real. It hurts, and we grant the trigger far too much power rather than realizing it is actually a blessing!

It shows you an internal glitch that is NOT your True Self, offering you an opportunity to love and accept yourself even more through it (wouldn’t that be how you would start to trust and adore someone who offers you that level of support in your life?).

And … then the practice of blessing and accepting it as the grand opportunity to UP-SHIFT and evolve yourself Higher!

As a Highly Sensitive Person, you are tough and courageous—it doesn’t matter if the internal trauma-dense energy feels like you are having your leg sawn off! I know we can BEAR that! If you can hold it (without thinking), love yourself, bless and accept it, and Quantumly shift it, then you have mastered ascension!

Because you are here watching my stuff, doing this Quantum inner work, it is more than likely you are a sensitive Starseed. You came onto this dense planet of duality and trauma, and it was shocking for you. You went through some horrendous things in past lives and childhood, but now it is your time to rise, face the dense internal energy for yourself and humanity, and upshift with grace, presence, and power.

We are NOT bad people. We are NOT annihilated. We are NOT being thrown out into the desert, strung up or having something terrible done to us now.

Those times are OVER!

We have the Quantum keys and knowledge now!

Exercise 2: I want you to write this empowering statement: “I am already my True Self connected to my True Source. I am safely partnered with Source because I am partnered with me. I now easily feel, bless, and release the glitches that are not me.”

Relax, take deep breaths, keep your body open, and repeat this to yourself several times to innerstand this truth.

How does that feel?

The Truth About Addictions

It could be said that every human being is addicted to “something.” This is true because we are wired that way – to be addicted.

Every emotional reaction we have (from our Inner Being) sends an electrical charge to our brain, signaling the hypothalamus to create a peptide that matches the emotion.

This gets distributed throughout our being, and if we are used to regular doses, the cells of our body split, creating twice the amount of receptor points to receive that specific peptide. If you are used to being a victim, your cells need twice as much victim peptide to fulfill them. Therefore, your brain will want to think about more victimization, and you will do more things to victimize yourself, create situations, and have people in your life who grant you this self-fulfilling prophecy.

In the context of addiction urges – when they are hot and heavy and nasty – let’s look at what happens.

You have a painful trigger.

You don’t breathe and open your body or speak nicely to yourself.

You don’t bless and accept this feeling.

You start thinking about what hurts.

You are retraumatizing yourself and whipping yourself up into even more pain.

You resent the painful feeling and resist it so much, wanting to escape it, that your ego EASILY lures you with suggestions about an addictive choice.

Addiction urges can be MASSIVE because of what you have been doing.

Let’s look at how to turn this around.

Quantumly Healing Addictions

This is how you can and will reverse painful peptide addiction.

• The feeling hits – you start loving self-talk WITHOUT thinking about it. It lessens the emotional signal.
• You bless and accept the feeling – the signal turns to acceptance instead of trauma. Your hypothalamus doesn’t manufacture a nasty peptide – rather, peptides of support, love, and acceptance start being manufactured – DESPITE the trigger.
• These GOOD peptides reach and are absorbed by your cells. You start getting ADDICTED to them, which then does the self-partnering practices you do automatically because your cells call for them, turning you into a manufacturing and manifesting plant of “more of that.”
• Then, you shift to the underlying program, which will heal the cause of the trigger. Everything else is healing in your chemical and cellular makeup to support this solid and lasting shift.

Okay, so let’s break down the healing steps with supportive Speedy Shifts – to go free from repeat traumas that push you into addictions.

You must have No Contact with your addiction that you reach for in times of trauma. This “thing” is a narcissistic entity in your life and must be treated as such. Don’t keep taking the poison that poisons you – or touching the hot stove that burns you.

Do all your self-supportive practices when the trigger hits – as previously discussed.

If you are terrified of facing internal trauma – then …

• Speedy Shift Module 4 – Source Healing and Resolution of the fear of feeling and being in emotional pain.

• Speedy Shift Module 4 – Source Healing and Resolution of NOT Blessing and accepting the pain and wishing to escape it.

• Speedy Shift Module 5 – Goal Setting: “It is safe to be with and hold my pain. It is the grand opportunity to love, accept, and support myself more, release a glitch, and ascend higher.” (This isn’t to be done until you did the other Source Healing and Resolution shifts first.) Then you will shift to addressing the actual Addictive urge trigger – ONLY after self-partnering and blessing and accepting it.

• Speedy Shift Module 4 – Source Healing and Resolution of the dense energy in your body that IS the urge.

That is IT – that’s all you have to clean out. Because IN that urge are all of the traumas and programs that are causing you to try to self-medicate with your addiction of choice.

When you have reached a 10/10, you can’t feel any addictive urge in your body. Rather, you feel peace, space, and relief on the inside.

But be prepared, as deeper urges will come up. They could hit in minutes, hours, or days. You need to be vigilant and keep going. If you do, it will not take long to be free—I promise you.

This is exactly how I healed from a smoking addiction that was chronic and malignant, and nothing else helped – and I tried everything humanly possible to stop.

After ONLY 3 days of everything I have talked about here – I became a NON-smoker after a decades-long addiction that had escalated to 70+ cigarettes a day.

I never ONCE craved a cigarette again after those three days, and I couldn’t smoke ever again. I was done. It was because I shifted out the true reasons I smoked. Plus, I loved and accepted every part of this transformation.

In Conclusion

I hope this information is life-changing for you, just as it has been for me! – and I can’t wait to hear your results! It’s been thrilling to hear how well many of you have been doing after Day 1, Day 2, and Day 3. Many of you are already free from the obsessive thoughts haunting you!

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Next week, in the Shifts Happen Global Community Healing, you will learn all about it and shift to “How To Transcend The Ego.”

I look forward, as always, to answering your comments and questions below.

You may feel as though thinking about your problems is the only way to find the answers and heal your life. But the more intelligent you are, the worse your mind can treat you. Overthinking is an illness of the intelligent and doesn’t lead to any progress.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed by an unsolvable situation, you will only find solutions at the level of consciousness you are operating from. That is, the emotional level you are at when the issue arises. So when you’re feeling traumatized, and you simply can’t think of a solution, it doesn’t mean there’s no answer. It means the right answer is at a higher level of consciousness than you can access at that time.

It follows that no matter how many facts, ideas, or information you have, thinking won’t help. You can only find a solution by tapping into the divine, healing energy that will bring light into the situation and help it shift.

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The Topic for Day 3 of the 5-Day Challenge is “Who ARE you without your obsessive mind?” If you have not yet followed my Facebook page, please do so. I’d love for you to share my work with others who need it.

Let’s jump straight into our first topic, which is …

Mere Thinking Is Overrated

You may think that thinking about your problems is how to be human and solve your life.

Yet, no matter how “intelligent” you are, you will find out this isn’t helpful. In fact, the more intelligent you are, the worse your mind can treat you. Overthinking is a dis-ease of the intelligent! We were brought up to believe you can think your way out of your problems without realizing that anxiety, stress, and rumination are never solved by more thinking.

When you are traumatized, you can only ever think within the bandwidth of the trauma and not think in higher vibrational evolved ways. This means you will obsess yourself into more problems due to thinking about it.

Isn’t that exactly what obsessing means?

It doesn’t matter how many facts, ideas, information, or evidence you have; this is not the solution. The solution comes from the soul. It comes from the ability to access a higher consciousness than the issue itself.

The Vibrational Truth Under The Thought

When stressed and coming up empty regarding solutions, you may think you must “get” the right information from outside of yourself. Yet, at that moment, you are not innerstanding Quantum Law – you, as the Grand Creator, are always creating from your level of consciousness –meaning your emotional level. You are always “creating” from Quantum Law, which is as absolute as gravity – so within, so without.

This means from the vibration of feeling traumatised there are only two possible situations for you, 1) you will get advice or information that is lower vibrational and not helpful, or, if you do get higher vibrational advice or information you are not a match for it and can’t accept, embody or actualise it.

It’s too great a leap.

It’s YOU who has to shift into Higher Frequency.

But how can you when your mind is running the show?

The shift starts with you accepting that your “monkey mind” only has access to past experiences and programming and a limited view of the situation based on factual “seen” or “expected” evidence. Of course, all this is based on your already established inner programming on that topic, which is defunct because you are obsessing about it.

Your cognitive mind cannot see into the future or live from the manifestation of faith in your soul. It’s attached to control, wanting to “let me see it to believe it,” yet that is the exact opposite of how Quantum Law works!

Thinking Does Not Equal Intelligence

Your logical mind only controls 40 bits per second of “creative power” in your human experience—a teeny portion of what is really going on! Yet your inner unconscious, somatic, limbic system (the emotional self) generates 40 billion bits per second.

This is where your life really takes place.

People living in their minds (boy, did I used to be there!) think they are super-intelligent. They are terrified of letting go of “thinking,” believing they will become dumb. However, this is so NOT the truth! That is your ego talking!

Rather, people who are constantly living in their heads, controlled by their minds, are exhausted and depressed. They become numb and dumb – because they have to self-medicate to try to turn off the ever-agonizing mind that is terrorizing them with medication or addictions. When the stinking thinking is numbed out, so are the inspired, joyful, intuitive, and expansive thoughts.

What Is Your True Mind?

There may be some topics in your life that you already flow with.

That topic in your life works, flows, is easy, and makes you at peace, inspired, and solid.

You know how to BE that role.

You are already your True Mind to these topics because you don’t have internalized trauma on them.

Yet the topics in your life that you obsess about are only because you have trapped internal trauma on these topics. That is what is creating a dis-eased mind regarding those topics. Naturally, these are areas in your life that are breaking down. They don’t work.

You can’t think your way out of this – you need to shift out the trauma, and then your mind will also heal to match the calm and solidness that your Inner Being just became.

When you are dedicated to stop thinking and do more shifting with Quanta Freedom Healing, space opens up inside you for the light to enter because your life on the inside is NOW light-filled with the Divine Soul and Mind, as you and God / Source / Creation integrate as One.

Your inner and outer world become united into “health.”

As the True Mind, you are no longer thinking – you are flowing and Being. You have faith, calm, positivity, and energy. Importantly, you don’t need proof, evidence, or outcomes to be this way.

Have you ever noticed that a state of calm and solid emotions always yields a better outcome? Do you innerstand that this is because you can access capacity, motivation, and courage – these things arise within you because you have space inside to receive Source’s activation within you?

You also now have access to the aligned realities in The Field – the “so without” that matches your newly shifted “so within.” Opportunities, synchronicities, support, solutions, and miracles can now come to you because you are on the matching frequency vibration.

You have access to the channel you want because you are dialed in.

You no longer obsess about anything – no matter what, things break away or change. You know you are BEING you, and you are connected to Source.

The path ahead has become illuminated.

You have gut feelings, callings, and next steps – that just “light up.”

You feel called. You do what you need to; you follow your inner cues. You start moving toward creating your life. You stop obsessing; you get going.

Staying flowing means shifting out triggers and arising traumas so that you fill with more Light – increasing confidence, knowing, joy, inspiration, excitement, and freedom.

The journey is the JOY of Being You, not the destination. You become grateful for ALL of it.

It’s your ego that wants absolutes and results, but it is never gratified and keeps wanting more, keeping you in a constant state of obsession!

Exercise 1: Write this statement, “I accept that my logical mind is the small, disconnected part of myself that takes me away from my True Self. I desire so much more for myself, my soul, and my life.”

Repeat this statement a few times.

How does this feel for you?

It is normal that your ego does not like this statement at all! Open up your body and breathe this statement to start accepting it.

This is the beginning of the pathway out of the limitations and battles with your mind.

Your Mind Has To Get Out Of The Way

Would you put someone with limited capacity in charge of your life?

No!

You may not want to hear this, but you must do – your mind is not the master of your life. It is a mere servant.

Yes, your mind can recite, find, memorize, and retain information. But it does not have access to matters of the Soul, the expansiveness of The Field, or connection to the Oneness of All That Is.

Your logical mind cannot activate your Soul connection with the Divine Mind / Grand Creation of All That Is. Your mind cannot connect to all-knowing, faith, the innerstanding of your values and truths, or “be” self-love, self-acceptance, and self-generation that will deliver you a joyous, durably fulfilling life.

A high IQ does not deliver a happy life without a higher emotional intelligence being present. Let’s take this up another notch to High Soul IQ. Would that not be about moving from the limits of low consciousness 3D living into higher consciousness 5D and beyond realities?

Yes, it is “that” which is true Beingness! You are a human being, not a human thinking. When you get the Beingness part right, everything else follows, as well as aligned, easy, and effective thinking.

Are you ready to access this Higher Part of yourself?

Let’s set another intention together…

Exercise 2: Write this down, “I relinquish my attachment to my mind. I now let go of thinking and surrender into the Divine Mind, which is the part of myself that is so much higher and greater.”

Open up and breathe. Repeat this statement to bring it inside as an innerstanding.

How does it feel?

Is your ego perturbed again? It should be because you will escape its entrapment by taking this journey.

Now you can start transcending mere “human” level cognitive mind intelligence, UP-shifting into big, expansive, channeled galactic intelligence. Because at your True Self-level, you really DO understand ALL of it. You KNOW it in your cells because you ARE it.

You Have To Lose Your Mind to Finally Know The Truth

I was very blessed years ago when my mind literally broke. My trauma created a literal breakdown, and I lost my mind. It was the best thing that ever happened to me because I finally found my True Mind.

Never again did I try to use “my little mind” to control and work things out. I knew wisdom, solutions, and manifestation were inside jobs. I knew my mind was my greatest enemy, and I needed to bypass it completely to heal myself and my life.

Hence why I channelled Quanta Freedom Healing™ – living life from the inside out – instead of from the ridiculous, traumatising “outside-in” approach, then, there was no more trying to control trillions of variables, rather than just healing on the inside.

Regarding NOT thinking about your trauma and shifting it instead, if you can’t don’t have time to go within right away, and your brain wants to start obsessing, just open your body and breathe and say to your Inner Being, “Honey, I hear you, I love you. I’m here. You are doing a great job, and I’m proud of you. As soon as possible, we will shift this.” Then, keep deep breathing and ignore thoughts. Don’t succumb to them – knowing it will only make matters worse!

Exercise 3: Think about something bothering you. Now do what I just described above … open your body and breathe, and say to your Inner Being, repeating after me … “Honey, I hear you, I love you. I’m here. You are doing a great job, and I’m proud of you. As soon as possible, we will shift this.”

Then … do NOT think about your trauma!

Just breathe and ignore thoughts about your trauma.

How does the inside of you feel now?

Now …

Exercise 4: Think of something else that is worrying you. Now open up and breathe and say, “I bless and accept this feeling because it is showing me what I need to release and heal next.”

How does this statement feel in your body?

You have now moved from resistance to acceptance. You are no longer a victim. And now, because you have stopped resisting, it can’t persist.

As long as you DON’T start THINKING about your trauma!

Your acceptance and desire to shift the trauma out give you an incredible connection to self-partnering. This means you are now automatically connected with the Higher Part of yourself—God / Source / Creation. Because you are partnering with yourself, the entire Field will start to partner with you, too. You just moved from bad karma (generating more of the painful disconnected trauma) to grace and spiritual compensation even BEFORE you shift the trauma out!

Do you innerstand this?

Once you start living this way, you will, and you will never go back.

But you have to try to change what you used to do and do it differently.

Who Will You Be Without Your Obsessive Thinking?

In “usual” psychology terms, if you let go of trauma, you will be “empty” and have no identity. Some of the hardest personal clients I have ever worked with were psychologists who flatly refused to go inside and meet their inner trauma to clean it out. I would stop the healing session and say, “I won’t just have a conversation about this that I know can’t help you.”

Okay, yes, if you believed your trauma was your Identity and you let it go – you would be terrified regarding “Who will I be?”

Yet Quantumly, this is a ridiculous premise. You are not your traumas; they are merely a glitch in your program as a Human Being. They are NOT allowing you to BE Who You Really Are.

With Quanta Freedom Healing, we let go of the trauma and activate the Light—Your True Self—to replace it. Then, you have instant shifts, losing the False Self (traumatized, helpless, clogged-up, toxic, and small self) and instantly shifting into the REAL Self (peace, solidness, faith, relief, and Oneness).

These feelings come from having “space” inside. Space for your Real Self to be embodied and felt. With Light inside you, you and Source /Creation are One.

There is no comparison between your small egoic logical mind trying to think OUT of how you are feeling and the True Mind flowing effortlessly with the light inside you, which is that you are not just feeling but Being.

A dear friend, whom I introduced years ago to Quanta Freedom Healing™, sat on the sidelines for the longest time. She said, “I don’t have time to break down and not function.” I said to her, “You won’t! You will lose the breakdown, get instant breakthroughs, and start functioning!”

Finally, her life got so bad that she decided she had no other option than to try my healing, and then she said, “I can’t believe how well I am feeling, and so quickly.” Her depression and obsession melted away. So did her brain fog and skewered beliefs and thinking. We started enjoying evolved conversations from a much higher perspective.

With Quanta Freedom Healing comes a consciousness shift. This is not about learning anything new – it’s about unlearning the layers of old trauma and painful beliefs so that the sparkling jewel inside comes back to life, re-membering Who You Really Are.

Exercise 5 – Write this statement: “I am ready for my consciousness to shift into my Higher Mind. It’s time for me to ascend and evolve, now.”

Open, breathe, and repeat this statement. How does this feel inside your body?

Does it feel exciting? A little scary still?

So, the short answer to “Who will you be without your obsessive mind?” is “Yourself”. The person you always knew you wanted to be. The person who is no longer empty, needy and scrambling. The person who can feel whole and solid and connected without physical evidence. The person who is living authentically in integrity and Being their truth and experiencing a life that reflects this.

Most of ALL, it is the person who is NOT thinking in their head but is following their calling and inner voice.

Feel into what I am about to say. You know what it is like to sing, paint, write, or decorate from a channeled-inspired place.

You become capable of feats that are not coming from your mere mind.

You know those moments when you just “knew” what to say or do.

You know what it’s like to get in your car, and the voice in your head says, “You left this behind.”

You know that you have a gut knowing and receive necessary messages and warnings.

Do you think these things were an accident, a one-off, or a freak occurrence?

This capacity was always there within you, but you were too clogged up and obsessing about problems to be clean and clear enough to receive this.

Ships come in over smooth waters.

Source / God / Creation does enter you and work through you as YOU when you let go of the trauma making you obsess by being committed to STOP thinking and start shifting.

STOP… stop… STOP… thinking about your trauma. Refuse to indulge it. Instead, treat it on the inside and get on with your life, whatever you feel called to do.

Okay, now let’s UP-shift your mind!

Shifting From the Small to The Infinite Mind

Here are my recommended healing combinations.

This week is simple …

• Use Speedy Shifts Module 4, the Source Healing and Resolution for “Trying to solve problems with thinking.” Keep shifting until you reach a 10/10.
• Then, with the same Module 4, again take the problem of “I think I am my mind” into the healing and keep clearing until reaching a 10/10.
• Then again, with Module 4, do the healing “Needing to BE my logical mind.” Keep shifting until you reach a 10/10. These healings, in combination, together are more freeing than you could ever imagine. Then …
• With Speedy Shifts Module 5 – The Goal Setting Module, you can set the goal “I am released from the small mind and at One with the Infinite Mind. I surrender my thinking to activate Who I Really Am – connected to calm, peace, wisdom, and knowing.” Keep clearing until you reach a 10 out of 10.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s lesson – and I can’t wait to hear your results! It’s been thrilling to hear how well many of you have been doing after Day 1 and Day 2. Many of you are already free from the obsessive thoughts haunting you!

Please know there is still ample time to participate in this Speedy Shift Competition and Challenge. As a Speedy Shifter, you can win one of my 1 on 1 healings valued at $995.00 USD. Register after the five days and follow upcoming instructions!

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