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<?xml-stylesheet type="text/xsl" media="screen" href="/~d/styles/rss2full.xsl"?><?xml-stylesheet type="text/css" media="screen" href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~d/styles/itemcontent.css"?><rss xmlns:feedburner="http://rssnamespace.org/feedburner/ext/1.0" version="2.0"><channel><description>I’m a writer recently escaped from San Francisco, the web’s relentless optimism, and the center of America’s sex culture. While there, I wrote for Valleywag, Gawker’s stabby tech culture blog. I’ve also contributed to Slate, BlackBook, the San Francisco Bay Guardian, and $pread magazine. I live in New York. Please don’t ask me why no one will have sex with you.</description><title>melissa gira grant</title><generator>Tumblr (3.0; @melissa)</generator><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/</link><atom10:link xmlns:atom10="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" rel="self" href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/melissatumblr" type="application/rss+xml" /><feedburner:browserFriendly></feedburner:browserFriendly><atom10:link xmlns:atom10="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" rel="hub" href="http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com" /><item><title>On.</title><description>&lt;img src="http://23.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ksunitc0nt1qz4atgo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;On.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/238166285</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/238166285</guid><pubDate>Mon, 09 Nov 2009 08:08:45 -0800</pubDate><category>gold room</category><category>bedhead</category></item><item><title>Stay safe, New York.</title><description>&lt;img src="http://18.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kstjl50JlD1qz4atgo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Stay safe, New York.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/237562064</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/237562064</guid><pubDate>Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:46:05 -0800</pubDate><category>bergen</category><category>G train</category><category>brooklyn</category><category>fauxlaroid</category><category>flaneur</category></item><item><title>Pour L’Egyptienne
(from “Six Epigraphes...</title><description>&lt;embed type="application/x-shockwave-flash" src="http://melissa.tumblr.com/swf/audio_player.swf?audio_file=http://www.tumblr.com/audio_file/237111666/tumblr_kssubl0SH91qz4atg&amp;color=FFFFFF" height="27" width="207" quality="best"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;i&gt;Pour L’Egyptienne&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;br/&gt;
(from “Six Epigraphes Antiques,” Claude Debussy)&lt;br/&gt;
performed by Ensemble Musical de Paris&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/237111666</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/237111666</guid><pubDate>Sun, 08 Nov 2009 08:40:33 -0800</pubDate><category>debussy</category><category>henry and june</category></item><item><title>(I did some damage to my theme. I know.)</title><description>&lt;p&gt;(I did some damage to my theme. I know.)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/236295997</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/236295997</guid><pubDate>Sat, 07 Nov 2009 13:35:44 -0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Scouting for what the building that housed Anais Nin’s...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://13.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ksramfXKGK1qz4atgo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Scouting for what the building that housed Anais Nin’s printing press in the 1940’s may have looked like then. This is one block away.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/236251560</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/236251560</guid><pubDate>Sat, 07 Nov 2009 12:37:27 -0800</pubDate></item><item><title>(via)</title><description>&lt;img src="http://7.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ksr971WwyA1qz4atgo1_500.gif"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;(&lt;a href="http://www.anaisnin.com/memories/thayer.html"&gt;via&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/236227911</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/236227911</guid><pubDate>Sat, 07 Nov 2009 12:06:36 -0800</pubDate></item><item><title>Stripperwrecks: on questionable naked...</title><description>&lt;object width="400" height="336"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/yS_DcqPkEYM&amp;rel=0&amp;egm=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;fs=1"&gt;&lt;/param&gt;&lt;param name="wmode" value="transparent"&gt;&lt;/param&gt;&lt;param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"&gt;&lt;/param&gt;&lt;embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/yS_DcqPkEYM&amp;rel=0&amp;egm=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="400" height="336" allowFullScreen="true" wmode="transparent"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Stripperwrecks: on questionable naked aesthetics&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://thestripperhatesyou.tumblr.com/"&gt;thestripperhatesyou&lt;/a&gt; &amp; &lt;a href="http://katstories.tumblr.com/"&gt;Kat&lt;/a&gt; have turned around this topic quite a bit, but I want to boil it down to the essential meme-able portion. So. I propose an investigation into &lt;i&gt;Stripperwrecks: the most questionable aesthetic choices of naked dancing for money (and related erotic industries).&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;The subject for this round: &lt;b&gt;GET ME AWAY FROM HERE I’M DYING&lt;/b&gt;, or,&lt;i&gt; the most questionable choices of stripper soundtracks.&lt;/i&gt; We can blame outdated jukeboxes, or iTunes shuffle, or dj’s with boners and axes to grind, but the common thread here is: we actually took our clothes off, to this.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;I’m starting. Fall 2004. San Francisco. The Lusty Lady. A skinny beardo boy is jacking off in the booth in front of me when this comes on. Of course. I’m test-driving a fancy blonde hairpiece passed on by a co-worker who wore it once as part of her Nelson costume for Halloween. It’s enormous, bump-it-y high and makes my eyes look even bigger and my body obscenely, little-girl-ishly, out of proportion. &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Luna, who’s all mall-gothed out for the stage show though she never dresses like that usually, in a torn fishnet shirt made from pantyhose and Hot Topic boots in stinky PVC, is working the window next to me, and beardo keeps stealing glances at her. I take this as a challenge, shimmy even nearer to the glass so he can’t crane his barely-hairy neck to take in the girl who, next to blonde Barbie me, looks way more like she brings herself off at the end of the night, alone in her bed under a shrine made from old NME covers, naked but for a well-worn cardigan and her own tears. &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;He’s crestfallen at the possibility that he’s going to have an orgasm in front of such an obviously uncool girl, unaware that I’m paid to prop up a certain common denominator of male fantasy, and today, not just his. And neither is Luna perfect, but given the choices, she’s less humiliating to his carefully-put-on sensibilities.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;So “Ohhhh,” I say, blocking his view and flipping my “hair” towards him, mouthing along, just for fun. “Yeah, this is good. So you have the ‘Legal Man’ 7 inch at home, too?”&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/235079916</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/235079916</guid><pubDate>Fri, 06 Nov 2009 08:47:00 -0800</pubDate><category>stripperwrecks</category></item><item><title>(via fauxlaroids)</title><description>&lt;img src="http://23.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ksmcd6qeJX1qa4nzfo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;(via &lt;a href="http://fauxlaroids.tumblr.com/post/233565220"&gt;fauxlaroids&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/234089725</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/234089725</guid><pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2009 10:01:00 -0800</pubDate><category>fauxlaroid</category><category>tumblr as elaborate placeholder for my own fractured memory</category></item><item><title>Reading pornography on my lunch break. (TicKL magazine,...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://10.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ksjqrsgbZb1qz4atgo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Reading pornography on my lunch break. (TicKL magazine, tickl-magazine.com)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/232057934</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/232057934</guid><pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 10:45:14 -0800</pubDate><category>pornography</category><category>park avenue</category><category>tickl</category><category>polaroid</category><category>fauxlaroid</category><category>fetish</category></item><item><title>Too busy to photograph. Here’s all there is.</title><description>&lt;img src="http://17.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ksgokcwBCx1qz4atgo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Too busy to photograph. Here’s all there is.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/230371357</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/230371357</guid><pubDate>Sun, 01 Nov 2009 19:04:59 -0800</pubDate><category>killing laura palmer</category></item><item><title>“The one that got away”</title><description>&lt;img src="http://7.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ksb4wmv4vd1qz4atgo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;“&lt;a href="http://theselvedgeyard.wordpress.com/2009/09/28/tsy-style-hall-of-fame-bryan-ferry/"&gt;The one that got away&lt;/a&gt;”&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/227557865</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/227557865</guid><pubDate>Thu, 29 Oct 2009 20:12:00 -0700</pubDate><category>bryan ferry</category><category>jerry hall</category></item><item><title>Bryan Ferry, “These Foolish Things”</title><description>&lt;object width="400" height="336"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/aTv5AwXH6pE&amp;rel=0&amp;egm=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;fs=1"&gt;&lt;/param&gt;&lt;param name="wmode" value="transparent"&gt;&lt;/param&gt;&lt;param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"&gt;&lt;/param&gt;&lt;embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/aTv5AwXH6pE&amp;rel=0&amp;egm=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="400" height="336" allowFullScreen="true" wmode="transparent"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Bryan Ferry, “These Foolish Things”&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/225190554</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/225190554</guid><pubDate>Tue, 27 Oct 2009 14:12:39 -0700</pubDate><category>bryan ferry</category></item><item><title>"His thesis is that San Francisco’s legacy has been shaped as much by sexual culture wars as it..."</title><description>“His thesis is that San Francisco’s legacy has been shaped as much by sexual culture wars as it has been by class, ethnicity or earthquakes.”&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt; - &lt;em&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2009/10/25/RV1C1A4U4F.DTL"&gt;‘Erotic City,’ by Josh Sides&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/223234040</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/223234040</guid><pubDate>Sun, 25 Oct 2009 16:54:46 -0700</pubDate></item><item><title>In the Mood for Love (2000)
d. Wong Kar-wai

(via)</title><description>&lt;object width="400" height="336"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/ivKphbSfN6A&amp;rel=0&amp;egm=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;fs=1"&gt;&lt;/param&gt;&lt;param name="wmode" value="transparent"&gt;&lt;/param&gt;&lt;param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"&gt;&lt;/param&gt;&lt;embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/ivKphbSfN6A&amp;rel=0&amp;egm=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="400" height="336" allowFullScreen="true" wmode="transparent"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;i&gt;In the Mood for Love&lt;/i&gt; (2000)&lt;br/&gt;
d. Wong Kar-wai&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;(&lt;a href="http://sarahmay.tumblr.com/post/223106318/e-ae-a-e-e-a-c-via-hkfilmbuff-in-the"&gt;via&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/223193167</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/223193167</guid><pubDate>Sun, 25 Oct 2009 16:08:00 -0700</pubDate><category>Wong Kar-wai</category><category>bryan ferry</category></item><item><title>Real Rebels Risk</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;“The next real literary “rebels” in this country might well emerge as some weird bunch of anti-rebels, born oglers who dare somehow to back away from ironic watching, who have the childish gall actually to endorse and instantiate single-entendre principles. Who treat of plain old untrendy human troubles and emotions in U.S. life with reverence and conviction. Who eschew self-consciousness and hip fatigue. These anti-rebels would be outdated, of course, before they even started. Dead on the page. Too sincere. Clearly repressed. Backward, quaint, naïve, anachronistic. Maybe that’ll be the point. Maybe that’s why they’ll be the next real rebels. Real rebels, as far as I can see, risk disapproval. The old postmodern insurgents risked the gasp and squeal: shock, disgust, outrage, censorship, accusations of socialism, anarchism, nihilism. Today’s risks are different. The New Rebels might be artists willing to risk the yawn, the rolled eyes, the cool smile, the nudged ribs, the parody of the gifted ironists, the “Oh how banal.” To risk accusations of sentimentality, melodrama. Of overcredulity. Of softness. Of willingness to be suckered by a world of lurkers and starers who fear gaze and ridicule above imprisonment without law.” &lt;/i&gt;—David Foster Wallace in &lt;a title="'E Unibus Pluram:  Television and U.S. Fiction'" href="http://www.scribd.com/doc/14740349/E-Unibus-Pluram-Television-and-US-Fiction"&gt;‘E Unibus Pluram:  Television and U.S. Fiction’&lt;/a&gt; (&lt;a title="via" href="http://theremina.tumblr.com/post/219846742/the-next-real-literary-rebels-in-this-country"&gt;via&lt;/a&gt; Mer, via &lt;a href="http://claytoncubitt.tumblr.com/post/220385331"&gt;claytoncubitt&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220559038</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220559038</guid><pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 19:54:00 -0700</pubDate></item><item><title>Love in the time of whatever</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;“Love at the beginning of the 21st century has been diffused and discredited. Feminism is partly to blame, but only partly. We inhabit a world in which every aspect of romance from meeting to mating has been streamlined, safety-checked, and emptied of spiritual consequence. The result is that we imagine we live in an erotic culture of unprecedented opportunity when, in fact, we live in an erotic culture that is almost unendurably bland.”&lt;/i&gt; - Cristina Nehring (via &lt;a href="http://heartbeatcity.tumblr.com/post/220475272/love-at-the-beginning-of-the-21st-century-has-been"&gt;heartbeatcity&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220556456</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220556456</guid><pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 19:51:00 -0700</pubDate></item><item><title>Roxy Music, “Editions Of You”
(For Your Pleasure,...</title><description>&lt;embed type="application/x-shockwave-flash" src="http://melissa.tumblr.com/swf/audio_player.swf?audio_file=http://www.tumblr.com/audio_file/220550376/tumblr_kry4xcjMkN1qz4atg&amp;color=FFFFFF" height="27" width="207" quality="best"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Roxy Music, “Editions Of You”&lt;br/&gt;
(&lt;i&gt;For Your Pleasure&lt;/i&gt;, 1973)&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;“I hope something special will step in to my life / Another fine edition of you / A pin-up done in shades of blue”&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220550376</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220550376</guid><pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 19:43:59 -0700</pubDate><category>roxy music</category><category>brian eno</category><category>bryan ferry</category></item><item><title>Halloween</title><description>&lt;p&gt;Where does one get little unicorn figurines?&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220542902</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220542902</guid><pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 19:35:07 -0700</pubDate><category>twin peaks</category></item><item><title>Campbell Apartment, Grand Central Station. (Life slowly moves...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://17.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kry0yklIqa1qz4atgo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Campbell Apartment, Grand Central Station. (Life slowly moves above Houston, also.)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220477595</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/220477595</guid><pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 18:17:09 -0700</pubDate></item><item><title>10 tactics: for turning information into action:...</title><description>&lt;object type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="400" height="300" data="http://vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id=7079347&amp;server=vimeo.com&amp;fullscreen=1&amp;show_title=1&amp;show_byline=0&amp;show_portrait=0&amp;color=00ADEF"&gt;&lt;param name="quality" value="best" /&gt;&lt;param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always" /&gt;&lt;param name="allowfullscreen" value="true" /&gt;&lt;param name="scale" value="showAll" /&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id=7079347&amp;server=vimeo.com&amp;fullscreen=1&amp;show_title=1&amp;show_byline=0&amp;show_portrait=0&amp;color=00ADEF" /&gt;&lt;embed src="http://www.vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id=7079347&amp;server=www.vimeo.com&amp;show_title=1&amp;show_byline=0&amp;show_portrait=0&amp;color=00ADEF&amp;fullscreen=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always" width="400" height="300"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.informationactivism.org"&gt;10 tactics: for turning information into action&lt;/a&gt;: trailer&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;(It’s &lt;b&gt;here&lt;/b&gt;, this marvelous thing I worked on this summer with Tactical Tech! And crazy timing? It’s the first internet video I watched from my desk at &lt;a href="http://www.melissagira.com/2009/10/19/doing-it-professionally/"&gt;Third Wave&lt;/a&gt;, where I started working today.)&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/219362484</link><guid>http://melissa.tumblr.com/post/219362484</guid><pubDate>Wed, 21 Oct 2009 14:20:32 -0700</pubDate></item></channel></rss>
