Yes.  You read that right.

I got a text message reaching out for help in the middle of a late-night relationship challenge and I felt compelled to answer the call.  I am so glad that I did because not only do I LOVE helping couples navigate challenges right in the heat of the moment, but I also shared some advice with them that I know will be powerful for many of you.

With their blessing, I wrote about what they experienced so we can all benefit from what is unfolding between them.  Because of the nature of their experience I have changed the names for privacy.

My clients are an amazing couple who were totally and powerfully swept away by their intense love for one another and, of course, the promise that this was truly ‘the one’ and they would live happily ever after.  As with any time when love comes on so powerfully, I knew they were in for a challenge as love would surely bring them all the rest…

The woman, we will call her ‘Jessica’, called me and was totally hysterical.  They had just had an argument, in fact, they had been arguing a lot lately and she was getting scared that maybe she had opened her heart too easily and had surrendered to a man who really may not be as ‘conscious’ as she had hoped.  He was defensive and angry and he wasn’t willing to see or take responsibility for his patterns that were getting in the way of them connecting.

Mid-way through our conversation, the man, we’ll call him ‘James’, came home and joined the conversation with his side of the story.  He felt she was hardening, focusing constantly on her work and not creating a space for their love to be nourished.  Because of this, often when stuff would come up between them he would not feel safe, he felt she was coming at him with a hard energy and making him wrong for his feelings.

It was a big mess.  They had gotten to the point where they both felt unsafe and misunderstood and they were certain that they knew what their partner was doing ‘wrong’ and exactly what they could do to change it and they were looping in these awful arguments as they tried to teach one another about their ‘blind spots’.

I began to ask Jessica why she felt like it was her job to make sure that James understood where he was being unconscious.  Eventually we unraveled that she was scared.  She was scared that if he was unconscious about this small thing that came up in the argument, then some part of him was unconscious and delusional, she can’t trust in or surrender to a man who is unconscious because if he does not see this now he will eventually believe something about her that is totally untrue and hurt her and essentially tear apart her life.

…once she started speaking it was clear that she was no longer talking about James.

Something magical was happening.  Their love was revealing one of her deepest patterns, the one that has held her back from opening her heart fully to any man… love will do that.

You see, thing is, on some level she is right.  James does have a layer of unconsciousness about what was coming up in their arguments, and that is exactly why she chose him.  That unconsciousness touched a part of her that felt comfortable, that on an energetic or sub-conscious level felt familiar and safe, that likely mirrored a pattern she experienced with someone she was close to in her early life.  So, when she saw this part of him it unearthed all of the times she has ever lived out this pattern.  She began to see in James, every man who had ever hurt her.  What she does not know is that every time this has happened in her life, she has called for it, she has called for it because of her desire to break through and allow love in.

What comes with this unearthing is a feeling of annihilation, of being completely unsafe and out of control… the thing that terrifies us the most, and the very same thing that those of us who long to be touched by true love long for.

Her natural defense is to create distance because touching the ‘nerve’ of this deeply rooted pattern, being faced with awakening beyond it threatens everything she knows.  So, she uses the coping mechanisms she has used her entire life, since the very first time she felt this fear.  She goes numb in her body, she starts to ‘coach’ or ‘teach’, she focuses on what he is doing ‘wrong’ and tries to ’solve’ it for him, she absorbs herself in her work, she begins to shut down physically.

And it works like a charm.  As she reacts this way, he feels less and less safe, becomes more angry and distant, begins to protect himself and the man that she once surrendered to is suddenly nowhere to be found.  She is once again stuck with someone who is ‘disconnected’, ‘unwilling to see his stuff’ and whom she feels totally justified in closing her heart to.

And so it goes on.  Pattern safely back in place.  Back on track to live a life never knowing why true love seemed always just out of reach.

What a shame.

What I was able to invite both of them to do was acknowledge and become aware of this loop.

And then I told them the most important part of all:

‘You both have to give up thinking that your job in this relationship is to ‘transform’ or ‘fix’ one another in ANY way, your job is simply to love.  Yes, Jessica, what you are seeing in your man is real, and it’s valid that you see it, and there will be moments where your greatest growth is sharing honestly with one another what you see…

Right now what we know is that he is defensive… can you love him anyway?  Can you feel the discomfort that is alive in your body during these moments?  This is what will transform the dynamic and let love in.’

If I know one thing it’s this: ‘teaching’ my beloved why his behavior isn’t working:

1) NEVER works

2) does not bring us closer

3) is a fancy defense mechanism of my own to allow me to steer clear of being with the uncomfortable emotions that are coming up for me in that moment.

So, here is the advice I gave them for stepping out of the loop:

*you can, and should print this out and try this at home

The minute one of you gets snagged by something that feels ‘unsafe’ or ‘off’ about an interaction with your partner (the kind of moment that would usually lead to a ‘fight’):

WARNING: When you hug, especially if you are angry or hurt or any other intense emotion… it will BURN.  This is PERFECT!  The hug is NOT a resolution, it is not reserved for the moment when you feel close again.  It is meant to be smack in the middle of the intensity that you are used to playing out in a certain way.

The opportunity is for you to make a different choice. To step right into the fire and rather than disperse all of that powerful energy that is between you as you start to touch those hot buttons, you learn to use it.  To meet the intensity of the emotion and actually learn to be present to it (which is different than repressing and expressing it).  By being present to it, you allow it to undo you.  You let it burn.  This burn is, from a Tantric perspective, literally burning away old ties, contracts with old behaviors that quite simply have been leading us away from love and awakening rather than towards it.

*Know this: I am not trying to say that there is never a time for talking it all out, there definitely is.  This is one way to experiment that I have found effective.  With practice and guidance, you can learn when this is the right way to approach a conflict and when other experiments will be more beneficial.

Extra Credit:

Sure you spend time watching TV together, arguing, getting the kids to bed, sharing a meal, talking about practical stuff but are you devoting enough time to love?

• Get out your calendars (especially busy people) and calendar at least 5 minutes each day to get naked and hold your beloved. This does not have to be sexy time, just time for sharing love and harvesting your connection. Little is more important than your intimate relationship, if you don’t invest in the love it won’t grow.

• Plan at least one hour a week that is just about loving, intimate time together. Not dinner, not a movie, not ‘doing’ anything but being together and enjoying, loving one another.  Ideas: share a bath, go for a walk, shower your partner with kisses, give them a massage, blindfold them and caress them with rose petals… if you would like this time to include sexy time, add an additional hour.

Give this a try and let me know how it goes!  I genuinely LOVE hearing about your progress and what works for you.

Just in case you are skeptical about whether or not this stuff really works…Here is what they both shared with me after our session:

From Her:

“Loving you so much.  We made love last night before bed and felt much better.  No one else I know could have so skillfully done what you just did. Your guidance and support was absolutely invaluable.”

From Him:

“Thank you for you being you and the magical work you do.

We (I) am forever grateful : )”

in love,

Charu

After the workshop ended, I felt something new open up inside of me.  I felt warm and open and vibrant.  When my Love and I got home we made love and it had a new and dynamic playfulness and passion.  I allowed myself to enjoy him and delight in his body.  I feel like for some reason every so often I don’t let myself have all the pleasure that is avaialble because on some level I am busy holding a grudge on man or living in fear that if I truly surrender to this I have somehow lost the upper hand.  I don’t know exactly what I am fighting for, perhaps it is just an age-old power struggle.

What I will say is this, life is so much sweeter, lovemaking is so much sweeter, my relationship is so much richer when I give it up.  Give up trying to be right, give up carefully controlling how much love I express in any given moment, give up holding back, give up protecting myself.

As I gave up last night I felt my body open.  I let my Beloved touch me so deeply that it scared me.  I felt an ache inside of me that his penetrating seemed to aggravate…and still I surrendered.  And somehow magically, my body opened up and I allowed him to uncover this long lost part of me.

It is tender, it is raw.  It is the unknown place… where I am not a teacher, not a lover, I cannot be defined.  I don’t know myself.  The place where I simply ‘am’.  And then I don’t have to worry about any ‘Tantric Technique’ or how to ‘get it right’ or how to ‘be a good person’ or ’seek enlightenment’ or even how to achieve multiple orgasms… in this moment of presence those ideas and stories have no space to survive…

P.S. Want some help integrating Tantra into your life?  Come and check out our BIG EVENT Evening of Awakening this Saturday 7-11pm in Santa Monica, CA http://eveningofawakening.com

P.P.S. Not local to LA, but you want to get started from home?  Check out my new home-study course for women http://awakentoyourbody.com

Want to use this article? You can as long as you include the following: Charu Morgan has dedicated her life to Tantra. Over the past 10 years she has studied and shared Tantra worldwide. Best-known for her candid Memoirs of a Tantrika blog and her down-to-earth approach, she is committed to educating modern minds on the ancient secrets of Tantra through coaching, events & home-study courses. If you would like to discover how Tantra can Transform your life, register online for the Memoirs of a Tantrika weekly ezine at www.embodytantra.com and receive your free audio report Better Sex, Richer Life through Tantra.

It’s that time again, TONIGHT 1.30.10 is the next Easiest & Best Date-Night Ever! We only have two spaces left, and this is the final Date-Night class that I will be teaching!  This might be the moment that you acknowledge your desire to deepen your connection, this could be the night that you fall in love again…  click here to register.  See below for more information.

I hope to see you there and I wanted to share with you a very special, and simple exercise that will prepare you for a very intimate night together… I recommend doing this as a preparation for the event if you can make it, but even on it’s own it is pretty exceptional.

This is an opportunity to explore your arousal…awakening the lower chakras and connecting with the power of our sexuality. Then we will begin to invite that energy to penetrate our entire body.

Most of us are fragmented in our bodies…we are talking heads, or if we are lucky we can even connect our head to our heart…but we are cut off from the lower half of our bodies. Our arousal and sexuality and life force move within us, but they are often caught in a ‘holding pattern’. We continue to follow our sexual impulses, but we receive little lasting satisfaction from our encounters and they often leave us drained.

By releasing the blocks in the body we make way for the sexual life-force energy to rise up the spine. This translates as a genuine connection to ourselves and an experience of aliveness flowing through our entire body. Many of us are longing for this connection, but we are lacking in the tools to pave the way towards experiencing this.

The Sexiest Meditation to try…

• Sitting comfortably, imagine being made love to in the most delicious way possible. Allow the fantasy to be fun, sexy, nasty…whatever it is that truly begins to awaken your genitals. (Try doing this without touching yourself).
• Once you are aroused, give up the fantasy and relax completely. You can stay sitting or lay down. Allow the aliveness that you have awakened to move through your body without interfering.

*If you would like to take it a bit deeper, you can do step 1 by sharing the fantasies with your beloved. Allow one partner to share fully, without interruption and then the other partner shares. Move to step 2 without any talking or touching.

This will begin to show your body what is possible when you allow the arousal to ripen within you, rather than expressing it through orgasm.  Your body will gradually become more and more sensitive, as your sensitivity increases you can begin to experience an orgasmic sensation throughout your entire body.

Now it’s time to leisurely dress and prepare to attend The Easiest & Best Date-Night with Charu to continue your evening of deepening and exploration.

If you can’t make it to the event, this is a great moment to spend some more quality time together massaging one another, making love, enjoying each other in any way that feels good for you.

Enjoy!

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…here is what some other couples have shared:

“Finding tantra was like finding a long lost friend, it felt very natural and normal for my boyfriend and I to be with one another in a more sensitive, present, meditative, energetic, and exploratory way but no one had given us permission before. It was in us! But we needed someone to show us the way.

We had a huge break through after just one meeting. Not just huge – gigantic!

Our relationship changed forever after just one session. The work touched us so deeply, so quickly, so powerfully, we could not believe it.”

~Brooke

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The Easiest & BEST Date-Night Ever!
Learn How Tantric Meditation Can Enhance Your Love-Life…

Jan 30th . 6-8pm . West LA

$100 per couple

click here to register

Honor your partnership by spending a special evening connecting and sharing your deep gratitude and love for one another.   Not only will The Easiest & BEST Date Night be more adventurous than your typical dinner and a movie…it also has the power to change the dynamic of your relationship, giving you all of the tools you need to begin to approach lovemaking and all aspects of your relating in a new and ‘tantric’ way.

In a long-term relationship it can be difficult to make sure that you are consistently nourishing your love, connection and sex-life…this special evening offers a different Tantric meditation experience each month so you can effortlessly add a new dimension to your relating on a monthly basis.

By attending, you are taking an important step towards transforming your sex life, and perhaps even more importantly, you are taking a step towards an intimacy that few couples allow themselves to experience. This intimacy shifts the texture of everything you do in life and allows you to experience what you have truly been longing for in partnership.

This class is literally a step-by-step guide to support you in learning how to:

• free blocks in your own body that are hindering your capacity for pleasure
• deeply and intimately connect with your partner in totally ‘out of the box’ (no pun intended) ways
• learn a simple ritual that will connect you and your partner on a completely new level….one that can immediately be put into practice when you make love

*there is NO nudity or sexual contact in the class*

Looking forward to seeing you there!

The BEST Date- Night / Intro to Tantra for Couples
Jan 30^th 6-8pm . West LA
$100 per couple
to register: http://www.embodytantra.com/workshops/coming_soon.htm#1

*I am working on recording these so the audio will be accessible to people who are not in the LA area!

Basically, I noticed that with large doses of tasks, responsibilities, deadlines and hours staring at the computer screen… it is really difficult for me to feel like a natural, vibrant, alive, sensual woman.  It is difficult for me to remember to take time to nourish and care for myself and even more difficult for me to consider my relationship.  After all, cuddling wasn’t on my ‘to do’ list and it is definitely not getting me any closer to my ‘daily goals’.  YIKES!

I also noticed that while in many ways I have become more confident as I come into my own, I have developed a bit of an ‘uppity’ edge when chatting with my sweetheart lately.  And not only that, but I have been seriously dumping piles of ‘I have been working all day and I need to download everything to you because I can’t hold it all inside of me’ onto him…. oh dear.

Somehow in the middle of adjusting to this new me who has been carrying around my business like a tail everywhere I go, I managed to notice that for months my beloved has been complaining of back pain and I have done absolutely nothing to support him.

I, who have studied therapeutic Yoga, reiki healing and generally is simply an expert with loving touch, have not stepped forward to show up and support my man in a simple way that could truly help his quality of life.  What have I been thinking?

So, I made a choice.  An effortless one really because it is so rewarding and easy.  I have chosen to wake with my love and give him a therapeutic yoga massage every morning before he goes to work for at least the next 21 days.

This covers so many bases, more than anything it gives me an opportunity to spend some time loving him that is not about unloading, talking, sharing, or even sex-ing.

… I hope you are paying attention, because that was important.  How much time are you devoting to loving?  Yourself, your love, your family?  What else is there that could possibly be more important?

It has only been two days and already magical things have opened up between us.  On day one we made eye contact while I stretched his leg and I suddenly saw my love, I saw the love that is inside of me reflected in his eyes, I saw the love that we share with one another, I forgot about my ‘to do’ list.

I invite you to join me in a 21 day commitment to love.  What does that look like for you?  What is something simple that you can do to more fully experience the love in yourself and in your relationships?

in love,

Charu

P.S. Want some help integrating Tantra into your life as part of your 21 day commitment to love?  Come and check out our BIG EVENT Evening of Awakening this Saturday 7-11pm in Santa Monica, CA http://eveningofawakening.blogspot.com

P.P.S. Not local to LA, but you want to get started from home?  Check out my new home-study course for women http://awakentoyourbody.blogspot.com (men, yours is coming soon!)

Want to use this article? You can as long as you include the following: Charu Morgan has dedicated her life to Tantra. Over the past 10 years she has studied and shared Tantra worldwide. Best-known for her candid Memoirs of a Tantrika blog and her down-to-earth approach, she is committed to educating modern minds on the ancient secrets of Tantra through coaching, events & home-study courses. If you would like to discover how Tantra can Transform your life, register online for the Memoirs of a Tantrika weekly ezine at www.embodytantra.com and receive your free audio report Better Sex, Richer Life through Tantra.

I feel like much of my life I had been waiting at the platform, waiting, waiting for the train to arrive. People would see me standing there and they would laugh at me, or comment amongst themselves how glad they were that it was not they who stood and waited. Some with kindness in their hearts even tapped me on the shoulder and told me stories of how there was no train and I should drop it and come inside where it is warm, they brought me sandwiches and an umbrella when it rained… shaking their heads as they watched the foolish girl at this lonely abandoned station.  They did whatever they could to ‘talk some sense into that girl’….but still I waited.

I had a feeling that the train was there all along, but somehow I had lost my eyes to see it…and so I waited.

One day the train arrived! Whoopie! It rolled to a stop and the conductor looked at me; warm, loving, open…even so he was stern with me, ‘do you know what it means to get on this train young lady?’
‘yes! I’ve been waiting my whole life, and now you’ve come! I am ready! I will do ANYTHING! I am so grateful that you have come for me!’

‘Do you understand that there is no more pretending?’

‘Yes, yes, I’ve been longing for this’

‘Do you understand that once you get on you cannot get off?’

‘There is nothing you can say that could deter me from this ride’, said I.

and at that he helped me on board with a smile and a wink.

Happily I travelled on the truth train, managing to stay on board as it bucked and swayed and made me aware of the edges I had come to trust.

Until one day, quite recently, I met a man and I felt like a woman. And I tasted such sweetness, and I felt happy.

I tapped the conductor on the shoulder, “excuse me sir, I think this is my stop.”

“young lady, did I not tell you when we first pulled up to your station that there are no stops on this ride?”

“yes, but…”

He looked at me all at once stern and endlessly loving and I remembered.  I remembered what I had agreed to when I boarded the train, I knew that there was no stopping and no turning back.  I also knew that theirein lies the bliss…I had boarded this train in search of a sensation beyond my preference of happy or sad, I had boarded this train for truth and I shall stop at nothing less.

I know that it is that very longing for truth that led me to this relating with man, and I know that this loving is far more profound than my fondness for happiness, this loving has the potential to show me all sides of myself, this loving has the potential to point me toward the deepest truth, the reason I boarded the train, the memory that I AM LOVE.

And as I stumble along bumping into so many aspects of myself that I would rather not see in my attempts to be the perfect partner, lover, and beloved…some part of me sits in the knowing that the love that I am is far greater than the drama that I play with.

The conductor watches me as I struggle, I feel him loving me and yet he does not come to save me from myself…he just holds me on this train and reminds me who I am.

And so bring it on!  I say….I am ready for more than the shallow happiness that I have settled for, holding on to my visions of perfection at the expense of what is happening here and now.  I am staying on this train, I am taking it all the way home.  I know there is more to this life, to the love between man and woman and I refuse to stay safe.  I vow to die to my illusions and emerge in this love.

One of my friends and students is currently living in the West Bank in Palestine.  I wanted to share with you this beautiful essay about her experience of freedom amidst turmoil.

The teleclass that she is referring to in the article is my FREE Teleclass;

How to Unlock Your Potential for Pleasure Overnight and Rediscover Richness & Passion in your Relationship to Yourself, Your Loved Ones & Your Life.

I will be teaching this class again sometime very soon so stay tuned if you are interested in learning more.

Even I continue to be inspired and amazed by how Tantra can touch our lives in so many ways, on so many levels.

Enjoy!

in love,

Charu

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Revelations while Shaking Free:

I came home from work feeling frustrated and heavy.  This happens often for me as I have a difficult time sitting at a desk for 9 hours or so a day with very little physical movement and staring at a computer.  I find this to be a very violent state to have to live in day in and day out.  Furthermore, I am a bit of an emotional sponge so all the misdirected traumas and heaviness and abandoned emotions floating around in the ethers seem to flock toward me in search of some sort of refuge.  On top of all of this I am not yet living the life I have envisioned for myself (although I am definitely on that path).

In the past when I would feel this state, which is often, I wouldn’t really know what to do with it and would typically numb it with some sort of substance or distraction, food, alcohol, weed, men, etc.    On this particular evening I decided to sit with it for a bit and see what came up. I went into my room and turned on some relaxing music, lit a candle and sat down. That’s when I remembered the Tantric shaking exercise that Charu reminded me (and other women) of in the recent teleseminar I listened in on.

I recalled the instructions as this, set a timer for a specific amount of time, plant your feet in the earth, rest your jaw and your neck and shake as you need until the timer rings. Afterwords, be sure to take time to integrate the meditation and the movement that has just happened in your body for an equal amount of time.

So I did just that! Now I’ve never done this exercise alone before so I was mindful to be sure to hold space for myself and be present and mindful with whatever came up! As I began to shake I would vacillate between being too much in my head and going with the sensations taking place inside my body.

The more I felt into those sensations and allowed them to shake my body the less in my head I was. And it was an incredibly powerful experience! And on it went my body shaking and deep grunts and howls coming from inside my womb.

Because I am currently living and working in the West Bank, Palestine I have been intimately up close with many of the horrors that human beings can inflict upon each other. Being Palestinian myself it has been such a personal experience and deeply painful one that often makes me want to jump right out of my skin.

Needless to say it has been a difficult experience to digest and process.

While doing this exercise many revelations came to me. I found myself growling and grring like an animal and twisting my face fiercely. And all I could think when I was doing this was that I was somehow affirming life by facing some of the horrors of life. And like a mother protecting her children I was showing this anti-life energy that I was a force to be reckoned with and that energy could not play itself out in my body.

I was also noticing that the deep guttural sounds coming from me were originating from my womb. Suddenly my womb felt very heavy and full of pain yet this made sense to me since the womb is literally a sort of cave that is receptive to things. And the deeper I went into my womb and released these sounds the more turned on and alive I felt. I think I actually got wet from this and was acutely aware of the pain I have been storing there and how closely it seemed to resemble pleasure as I allowed myself to touch and feel it. I felt like I was on the verge of having an orgasm.

I also realized that in many ways I have been using sex as a way to access this pain. It is like in some way the act of a man being inside of me is how I can be inside the heart of this pain vicariously through this person. And in the past this was the only way I could “safely” access this pain because I’ve been taught growing up that as a woman I need a man to feel safe in the world.

Then the timer rang and it was time to relax into these integrations. I took my time going to lie down on the ground and paced around a bit before I laid on my stomach to do a kundalini yoga meditation technique that clears your arc line. Your arc line is a column running down the center of your body. For a woman she retains subtle imprints of every single man she has been intimate with in her arc line. The reasoning for this on a subtle energetic level is if a man were to die after impregnating a woman then the child would know who his father is.

During the meditation I was able to completely relax in a way that is typically very difficult for me. After the timer rang I again took my time before getting up acting as if I had all the time in the world. I felt in such a state of buoyancy and bliss and truly felt like a completely new and different person than I was just 30 minutes ago.

It was profound and penetrating especially being in this part of the world where shame is rampant and sex is taboo.  It is amazing to me that tantra can continue to work and unfold its lessons within me even when I feel so far away from not just regular workshops but any sort of acceptance of this sort of healing.  I came out of this exercise feeling powerful and willing to continue to do this sort of work.

~D.

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I was one of those women who, once I figured out how to have a clitoral orgasm (not until I was about 14 AND it was my boyfriend who encouraged me to touch myself…I said, ‘no, it will only feel good to me if you touch me’… where did I get that idea?)  Once I did figure out how to pleasure myself and how fucking great it was, I practically made a career out of it.  Thus, it was very easy for me to experience orgasm via my clitoris.

Up until about 4 years ago when my beloved and I got together, I had rarely, if ever, experienced vaginal orgasm, although I had begun to experience ‘full body orgasm’ through my Tantra practice without any stimulation from outside of me at all, simply from practicing the simplest meditations.

So, I was beginning to explore my body in new ways and I was curious and confused about why I was not very sensitive on the inside of my vagina.

When I got together with my love, I told him, ‘let’s try something new, I would like you to steer clear of my clitoris and I will too…I want to see what else I am feeling when you are making love with me’.  This was a great decision and we did it for more than a year.

What opened up inside of me was amazing.  I began to become more and more aware of the sensations in my vagina and within days…literally (now remember, I already had a developed Tantra practice, I was ripe for this) I was experiencing vaginal orgasm in many different ways.  As time went on, I began to experience waves of orgasm almost throughout the duration of our lovemaking, I learned how to relax into the waves until I was able to drop into TOTAL presence.  A feeling as if I was sitting in the bindu (center) point of orgasm, orgasm was expansive and never-ending rather than intense and explosive.  I also began to become so sensitive to him, and him to me, that I could feel and ride the waves of orgasm within his body, I even began to experience orgasm the moment he entered me, a wash of union… and this feeling would run through his body and mine together.

Now, that I have become more sensitive to all of the sensations, I bring in my clitoris when it feels right.  It is far less often than before and in many ways less interesting.  I share this with you because what I have discovered is AMAZING and possible for every woman.  The best part is that I don’t for a moment believe that I have discovered everything.  I continue to expand and I can’t wait to discover even more of what is possible in my own body and with my beloved.

Diana Richardson speaks at length about re-sensitizing in her book, ‘Tantric Orgasm for Women’. This book was a huge part of me learning to trust the natural intuitions that I had, even though many of them were in direct conflict with what I had learned through cosmopolitan magazine and how I had come to define myself sexually.

Are you ready to begin your tantric journey?

For those in the LA area:

http://eveningofawakening.blogspot.com/

For women in distant places:

7 week Home-Study Course available for pre-order:

http://awakentoyourbody.blogspot.com/

Want to use this article? You can as long as you include the following: Charu Morgan has dedicated her life to Tantra. Over the past 10 years she has studied and shared Tantra worldwide. Best-known for her candid Memoirs of a Tantrika blog and her down-to-earth approach, she is committed to educating modern minds on the ancient secrets of Tantra through coaching, events & home-study courses. If you would like to discover how Tantra can Transform your life, register online for the Memoirs of a Tantrika weekly ezine at www.embodytantra.com and receive your free audio report Better Sex, Richer Life through Tantra.

In a long-term relationship it can be difficult to make sure that you are consistently nourishing your love, connection and sex-life…Beginner Tantra for Couples offers a different Tantric meditation experience each month so you can effortlessly add a new dimension to your relating on a monthly basis.

By attending ‘Beginner Tantra for Couples/ Redefining Orgasm’ you are taking an important step towards transforming your sex life, and perhaps even more importantly, you are taking a step towards an intimacy that few couples allow themselves to experience. This intimacy shifts the texture of everything you do in life and allows you to experience what you have truly been longing for in partnership.

This class is literally a step-by-step guide to support you in learning how to:

• free blocks in your own body that are hindering your capacity for pleasure
• deeply and intimately connect with your partner in totally ‘out of the box’ (no pun intended) ways
• learn a simple ritual that will connect you and your partner on a completely new level….one that can immediately be put into practice when you make love

Looking forward to seeing you there!

Beginner Tantra for Couples

Aug 9th 6-8pm

$100 per couple/ Early Bird $75 extended through Midnight TONIGHT!
click here to register

http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4317052

…AND GREAT NEWS… I am working on recording these sessions and making them available through an online membership.  This means that if you are not in the Los Angeles area, if the classes don’t fit with your schedule, or if you simply would rather practice and learn Tantra in the comfort of your own home, you will be able to!

Please email me if you are interested in learning more.  I will be offering the first month of membership FREE and if the recording works out for this month’s class (I am not as technically savvy as I would like to be), I will email it to you for you to get a taste of the great pleasure that is possible when you invite Tantra into your relationship.

What I have found is that actually what I have truly been craving sexually, what some small part of me deep inside has been calling for, was actually almost completely different than what I thought I wanted and how I was operating sexually.

For example, I used to be very attached to my explosive clitoral orgasm and I would often get into patterns with the men I was with where I would basically demand that they go down on me and bring me to an orgasm before I took them inside of me.  It was always ‘my turn first’ as it were, and I considered myself to be lucky to have partners who were willing to ‘make sure that I was satisfied’…

As I began to become more in tune with the messages in my body, that began to feel less authentic and I found myself opening up in different ways… I even noticed when I did follow that old pattern, I would become wet, but in some ways my vagina would be tight when I took my lover inside of me, rather than warm and open and receptive.  I noticed that it was when my lover paid attention to my breasts that my vagina would actually become totally receptive so that when I did take him inside of me, I was sensitive to him and I felt like I was inviting him in to a rich landscape.  My vagina would become so sensitive in fact, that I ultimately became orgasmic from the moment he entered my body.

This was a huge shift and it came not only from allowing myself to listen to the messages of my body, but also from giving myself permission to do it differently.  The book Tantric Orgasm for Women played a huge part in me discovering that I was not alone in this and reading it helped me to give myself permission to try things radically differently and say ‘yes’ to the voice inside of me.

Again, it is when we begin to truly connect within that we are able to hear these messages that we have overridden for most of our lives.

Want to use this article? You can as long as you include the following: Charu Morgan has dedicated her life to Tantra. Over the past 10 years she has studied and shared Tantra worldwide. Best-known for her candid Memoirs of a Tantrika blog and her down-to-earth approach, she is committed to educating modern minds on the ancient secrets of Tantra through coaching, events & home-study courses. If you would like to discover how Tantra can Transform your life, register online for the Memoirs of a Tantrika weekly ezine at www.embodytantra.com and receive your free audio report Better Sex, Richer Life through Tantra.

Upcoming Events with Charu

Beginner Tantra for Couples

Sunday August 9th 6pm . Culver City
$100 per couple / $75 when you register before July 26th
click here to register:
http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4317052

Evening of Awakening . Puja Ritual
Saturday August 15th 7-11pm
$60 per person / $50 if registered before Aug 1st
click here to learn more & register
http://eveningofawakening.blogspot.com/