How Life Really Works

Going from being stuck to living the adventure of a life-time

Fri, 26 Sep 2014 15:26:38 +0000

Last year my life was good but it wasn’t great

I didn’t like where I lived. My diet was terrible but improving. I didn’t spend quality time with my family and I felt bored with life. I also felt a lack of connection with life – with people and with nature itself.

Now…I’m 6 months into an around the world sailing adventure on my own 56’ yacht

Now my life is amazing and getting better all the time. I love my home (a boat). My diet is natural, fresh and amazingly tasty - you can’t get any more natural than catching and cooking your own fish! I spend quality time every day with my family. I’m on one massive adventure and I truly feel connected with all of life.

From stuck-ness to aliveness – how did I do it?

While I wrote the book, ‘How Life Really Works,’ the concepts contained where quite difficult for me to really get my head around. Intellectually, I understood the alternative perspective on how life really works – that your beliefs create your reality - but still found it difficult to put to practice. Often, when we look back we can see that we were making progress but at the time it feels as if our efforts to change are futile.

Needless to say, I kept forcing myself to spend time watching my thoughts

Rather than blame anyone or anything for my current reality I kept asking myself (when I remembered to do so!) “what are the beliefs I have that are creating the situation I’m in?” Anything with significance in my life underwent contemplation. Whether it was a good or bad situation, I’d ask myself, ‘what belief would I have to have for that to happen to me?’

If someone cut me off while driving I’d ask the question

When something amazing happened in my life, I’d also ask, ‘What belief or beliefs do I have that created this to show up in my life?’ Last year my life film was playing out stuck-ness, boredom, frustration, stress and lack of clarity and flow. So…I was in the process of looking at my beliefs and subsequent feelings, thoughts, expectations, images and memories.

I’d ask myself, ‘What is going on in my inner world to create my outer reality?’

Once I started to pay attention to my inner world, my ground started to shake I’d see a thought or belief that didn’t make sense. I’d then tell myself, ‘well…that’s not needed anymore.’ Every few days I’d find myself in a situation and think, ‘wow – I would have never done this a few months ago,’ or ‘wow – I never created this kind of reality before!’ So…in addition to watching my thoughts and relating them to my reality, I worked on my films (see full explanation in my book). I’d write down all the beliefs, thoughts, feelings, memories, expectations and visuals that surrounded a particular reality. In the case of me feeling ‘stuck,’ I wrote down how I thought my life would never change, how I felt blah, envisioned doing the same thing over and over, expecting tomorrow to be like today and recalling memories of being depressed. I’d easily fill a whole sheet of paper with how I felt – I made it my job to examine exactly what was going on inside of me to create my stuck-ness.

Unless you write this stuff down your mind won’t see it all – it won’t see the enormity of it all…you won’t realize how much crap you’re spinning out

And then, I’d create another film, which was not only easy, but it made me feel amazing. I’d write down how I thought my life will change quickly, how I felt energized, envisioned doing different things every day, expecting each day to bring new adventure and recalled memories of my most exhilarating experiences (diving 30 meters to a shipwreck, going on a Harley tour, moving from America to England…)

Looking back, I now realize that I didn’t need to know exactly what I wanted to change to

I just needed to feel how I wanted to feel and the universe would provide me with people, events, situations that create those feelings. I knew that I wanted more adventure. I knew that I wanted to create a career that I truly enjoyed. I knew that I wanted to spend time with my family…I knew, in loose terms what I wanted to change but I had troubles visualizing what that change would look like. Never in a million years did I think the outcome of my inner contemplation and filmmaking would create a situation where I own a 56’ yacht and sail around the world and have no debt! Never did I speculate that I’d become a writer and l had no idea that I’d create a situation where I’m with my family full time! I never visualized this kind of result.

In my wildest imagination I couldn’t have come up with something so perfect

And I think this is where many people miss the point. All you need to do is to feel how you want to feel. The universe will then deliver the props on your stage to allow you to feel those feelings. If visualizing a certain outcome helps you to feel the way you want to feel, then that’s great. Go with it. If however, you don’t know the external circumstances that will allow you to feel how you want to feel, don’t worry about it – the universe will sort it out for you. I know many of the self-help guru’s tell you to visualize living your dream life but often it’s hard to know what a dream life really is. I had no idea that my dream life was sailing around the world. Heck, I get seasick…further; I didn’t think I could ever afford the yacht we have. But I have to hand it to the universe; I seriously couldn’t imagine a life any better than the one I’m currently living.

As a recap, I went from being stuck to being on an adventure of a lifetime by doing the following:

Watching my thoughts
Asking myself what would I have to believe for my reality to be the way it is
Writing down the beliefs, thoughts, feelings, visuals, expectations and memories (my film) that created the reality I’m living now
Create another film inserting the opposite or more positive alternative to the current film
Whenever I noticed I was thinking/feeling from the original film, I’d say ‘no, switch my thoughts,’ and I’d remind myself how I want to feel instead. I’d then get myself into a positive feeling state. In other words, I’d pretend the new film was real

I kept doing that over and over

Some days I’d notice miraculous results but many days I’d question myself and think I’m nuts. I wobbled quite a bit but overall I kept working on myself. I kept getting better and better at watching my thoughts and stopping myself from pursuing a train of thought that was destructive. Even though my reality wasn’t reflecting where I wanted to be, I kept pretending that I felt the way I wanted to feel when my reality changed. Now, I didn’t do this non-stop…I am human! I did it whenever I could catch myself.

So…after a lot of film writing, I kept feeling what my new life felt like

My new life would be full of adventure, I’d eat healthy nutritious foods, I’d spend time with my family and I’d be able to make deep connections with old and new friends. I’d really feel alive.

Where am I now?

Well…right now I’m in Greece enjoying a lovely cappuccino looking out and the Ionian Sea wondering what new experiences will be brought my way today. My 56’ yacht is moored outside where my husband and daughter are waiting for me to go for an exploration. Over the course of one year I’ve given up everything that weighed me down and can now say that I truly am on an adventure of a lifetime. We sold all our possessions, bought a sailboat and are 6 months into our world circumnavigation journey. Talk about adventure or what! But it’s very important to understand this key point: when I set out to change my life I had no idea or intention of sailing around the world. Yes, it’s something that I had always wanted to do (if I won the lottery), but I didn’t visualize or speculate that a sailing adventure would be the answer. Heck, I didn’t think we could ever afford to do this kind of thing. I simply started to feel the way I wanted to feel and things transpired. In a way, my life is totally out of my hands. I have no idea what will happen tomorrow or next week.

I have no idea where I’ll be or who I’ll be with…and that’s the cool part of all this

You don’t have to rack your brains thinking about what you want. You need to pretend how you want to feel so that it knocks the energy of the lesser feelings out. Once you do that, the universe starts to move you into situations where you feel more and more of what you want. How life really works is absolutely amazing if you ‘get it’ but, for me, it’s hard work. I keep having to remind myself how to create change. I often forget and find myself having to re-read my own book.

When I do remind myself, however, change seems to happen quicker and quicker!

One last note – don’t get down on yourself when you don’t see change reflected quickly. It took several months for the universe to convince me that the right choice was to sell up and sail around the world. And when we did decide to give it a go it scared the crap out of me! You can read about my journey on the http://www.SailingBritican.com website. And after the decision, it took about 5 to 6 months for the new reality to fully take place. I worried quite a lot during the process of the transition but I didn’t need to.

Does this make sense? Any questions?

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Examining the meaning of taking responsibility for your life – what does that mean?

Tue, 22 Apr 2014 08:20:21 +0000

While contemplating life this morning, it dawned on me that concept of 'taking responsibility for your life' is most often used in a negative context. Looking back on my childhood, I remember my mom yelling, ‘Who is responsible for this mess?’ or spouting out clichés like, ‘you made your bed, now you need to lay in it.’

The whole area around responsibility has been about accepting that we did something wrong

And then we get older and during our adult life, if we’ve learned that blaming others if futile, we’ll pipe up at work or home and say, ‘I take responsibility for the current errors. I messed up. I’ll now try and fix things.’ Take things to next level, the reality creation level, and we’ll have a situation were we finish a terrible day and think, ‘Why did XYZ happen to me today? What a terrible day…’ And after the smoke settles, we’ll come around, remember that we create or allow our reality and we’ll then say, ‘I’m responsible for this terrible day. Why did I create or allow this to happen?’ 'Taking responsibility for your life' on any level seems to mean that we look at the mess we made, realize we created it and then figure out perhaps why we created it or what benefit we’re receiving from creating it so that we can change it.

And this is where my BUT is going to make a stand!

But what about taking responsibility for the great stuff we create? What about taking responsibility for the beautifully tidy room, the successful project, the great chat with a friend, the amazing opportunity to enjoy a sunset… We’ve grown up in a system that has programmed us to take the 99.9% good stuff for granted and heavily focus on the 0.1% negative stuff. We do this with our news, in our personal lives (ex. gossiping) and in our ability to take responsibility.

When have you ever taking responsibility for the amazing creations you’ve created?

If you’re like me, you’ve never even considered doing so. You ‘take responsibility’ and perpetuate the things that are negative rather than ‘take responsibility’ for the positive. Yes, this is probably just another way of confirming that gratitude in life encourages more positive experiences but I think it’s important to take a look at the words we use and how we use them. Responsibility for creating our life means our ‘bad’ and ‘good’ creations. Taking responsibility should mean that we congratulate ourselves for getting it right and question ourselves about changing what we got wrong.

Perhaps a more balanced approach might enable us to live more fulfilling lives?

I’ve always thought that love is more powerful than hate and positive emotions are stronger than negative. Perhaps if we spend more time loving ourselves and taking responsibility for our amazing creations, we’d get an increase in our overall fulfillment level. What do you think?

Yesterday I found myself ‘taking responsibility’ for something negative in my past

A particular incident caused me to pop back into my past and feel the negativity I felt during that part of my life. This then had a knock-on effect where I questioned why I created such a life. I questioned what beliefs caused me to create such an unhappy situation.

For a few minutes I felt swamped by my old life, my old terrible feelings

Ironically, I laid in my bed on my yacht (I’m in Malta now getting ready to sail to Sicily) trying to take responsibility for something that happened years ago.

Wouldn’t my time be better spent taking responsibility for creating my present situation of sailing around the world with my family?

Perhaps I’m so conditioned to want to ‘take responsibility,’ and have this need to ‘fix’ my life that I’ve invited an incident to give me something to work on? Well…after those few minutes of feeling my old terrible feelings, I quickly remembered how miserable I was. I had forgotten where I was and how far I’ve come. The feelings were so uncomfortable and since I haven’t felt them for so long, they were a great reminder for how unhappy I was.

And that’s when it dawned on me that I had an option on how I decided to 'take responsibility'

I had an option to consciously take responsibility for how I felt. I then chose to take responsibility for having the opportunity to live on a yacht, travel around the world with my family, eat great foods, meet amazing people and learn more about the 99.9% of the great things and people in this world. Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’

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If only I won the lottery, my life would be better

Sun, 23 Feb 2014 10:13:34 +0000

Recently, I've been on an interesting journey. In October my husband and I decided to sell everything we own, buy a 56' yacht and put things in place to sail around the world starting in April 2014. What's that have to do with 'If only I won the lottery, my life would be better'? Read on... Thus far, we've sold our house and have moved into temporary accommodation. We've purchased the 56' yacht. We've taken courses (First Aid for Boaters, Diesel Marine Engine repair and maintenance, VHF Radio, and a couple others). And everything is lined up for us to move onto the boat with our lovely 3 ½ year old daughter by the end of March.

You'd think that I must be the happiest person in the world - yes?

We all tend to think that people in big houses are happier. People that have won the lottery must be happier. Anyone with a nice car must be happier. Thin people are happier. Smart people are happier. Beautiful looking people are happier. Anyone with a small family, a big family must be happier. And of course, anyone that is sailing around the world must be happier (Fill in what you think would make you happier).

Even though I am 'living the dream' I'm definitely not high happier (at this very moment)

Why do you think that is? Why do you think I'm sitting here at my coffee shop typing to you about being unfulfilled? How is that possible? Seriously, how is it possible that a person who wrote a book on how to be happy is unhappy? Over the past few months I've been focusing on getting things done, organizing, coping, dealing with a new routine, dealing with massive change and juggling a multitude of balls. I've been dealing with life. I've been focusing on making things happen and because I've allowed all my focus to be eaten up by 'to-do's' I've lost the plot a bit. As things have progressed I've felt myself fall off the rails. I've felt my journey take a turn for the worse. I've watched myself get more and more stressed knowing that I was allowing it to happen.

I'll be happier once we get on the yacht

I'm not proud to admit it, but that's what I've been telling myself. And just like you, I know damn well that if I'm not happy now I'm not going to be happy later. I also know that a crappy journey isn't worth taking. If I want to enjoy the destination I need to figure out how to enjoy the travels that get me there. I know all these things, but knowing doesn't mean that I don't get lost myself sometimes. I'm human. We're all human. You and I grew up in a generation where we didn't know How Life Really Works. We didn't grow up knowing that we're creating everything.

Actually - I'll be happier once I remind myself (again!) that I'm the one creating my life

So…let's put this all into a bit of context. I effectively created a situation where I could live the life of my dreams. I consciously created a reality where I own an amazing yacht, I've rid myself of all the 'stuff' that was clogging up my life, I've changed my diet to eat real food (no processed food), and I'm on my way to creating some sort of income to live on through my various websites. I've done a huge amount of work internally to create an external reality that looks amazing, however I still have quite a bit of work to do. You see, I got lost in all the detail. I thought about what I wanted, it started to materialise through me taking action and then I got lost in the action.

What I have to do now is 'wake-up' (again) and re-centre myself

I need to remind myself that I need to take care of me first. I need to find ways to centre myself, feel peaceful, enjoy myself AND ONLY THEN should I move on and take any more actions. My point for you is this - we're all dabbling in this 'conscious creation' and we're all learning. At times we forget that we're creating and as my daughter would say 'THAT'S OKAY'. Once you get a reminder that you've fallen off the rails, just get back on. Just sit quietly and ask yourself, what do I need to do to get happy inside? (Yes, I realise how goofy that sounds, but it's true). For me, writing helps. Writing this article is a therapy for me. I'll walk away from this and have a much more upbeat day now. Another thing for me is to read a spiritual book to remind me of the basics. Also - a big one is to talk to my friends. They can often see that I've lost the plot and are helpful in getting my focus back to what's truly important. So if you hear yourself saying, I'll be happy when _______, stop in your tracks. Step out of your life for a moment and assess the situation. If you don't get the hang of doing this now, what will happen is you will win the lottery and it won't make a damn difference to your fulfilment. Instead of feeling low and thinking, 'I wish I had a car,' after winning the lottery, you'll still feel low and think, 'I wish I had a rainbow coloured Bently.'

Can you see what I'm saying? Can you hear my message?

If you're not happy now, you won't be happy later. So…be happy now. Practice the art of finding happiness in this very moment and hold onto it as long as you can. When you lose it you'll forget for a while that you lost it…but you'll figure your way back. And the exciting thing about all this is that every time you fall off it gets easier to 1. recognise that you fell off and 2. get back to where you want to be. Can you relate to this? If yes, please leave a comment below!!! I know it takes time to share, but we need to help each other. Furthermore, writing to me might just be the thing you need to do to get back on the journey of fulfillment. Please share your experiences :) Also - if you're interested in reading about my 'Sell up and Sail,' adventure, please visit SailingBritican.com Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’

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Self-help books don’t work and this is why

Thu, 13 Feb 2014 10:51:34 +0000

Self-help books don't work!

Do you read one self-help book after another thinking, 'this will be the one that really helps me!' Or while you're reading, you feel good but know that once the book is over you'll need to find another book to pump yourself full of positivity?

I'm a self confessed ex-self-help junkie!

While reading one self-help book I needed to have another one lined up. If I ever finished one without having the next one on order I'd start to panic. After I read most of the self-help books I started to read titles in the Spiritual or New Age section. I just couldn't get enough.

Reading positive based non-fiction books was a drug for me

Comments from friends started to increase. I'd have one friend saying, 'Why do you keep reading that stuff? Does it even help?' And then family members would see me in a bad mood and say, 'You better go get one of your feel-good books.' Eventually the people around me made fun of me for getting high on self-help books.

I think I was searching for the ultimate answer - the answer to a finding a good life

I wanted a book to tell me how to live, what to do and how to do it. I just wanted to be happy. I just wanted to live life fully. And I just wanted someone or something to tell me what to do. Then it dawned on me that I was addicted to reading books but rarely did I put my knowledge to action. Most self-help books offer a wide range of exercises. Within the exercise there's usually a bit of soul searching required. I'd often read a question like, 'what activities make your heart sing the most?' and I'd think, 'my heart doesn't sing!' and I'd carry on reading. I wouldn't stop to really contemplate the question or exercise. My life truly started to change for the better once I stopped consuming books like a fast meal and instead slowly worked through them, completing the exercises. I started a ritual of going to the coffee shop at 7am with my book and a notepad in hand. I'd complete the exercises and then journal about my thoughts on the book and my life or just write about my life.

The books won't help you unless you use them as a tool for introspection

Self-help books without contemplation is like a car without fuel. The car might be new, shiny, beautiful and allude that it can take you to amazing places but without fuel it's not going anywhere! The fuel is your ability interpret the book in relation to YOUR life in a way that allows you to shift.

Self-help books are not about being righteous either

Do you read a passage and think, 'That's just like so-and-so! They're so messed up. They should read this book.' And then you carry on reading the book thinking about your family member or friend rather than applying it to your life? I was so bad for this - I'd write peoples names in the margins so I could tell them how wrong they were. When and if you start filtering the information in relation to other people's lives, it's time to force yourself to stop. You're not reading the book to prove that you're better than your husband! You're reading the book for you so keep the information for yourself ONLY.

So, after all this is said, what do you think the biggest comment, as an author, that I get?

Dear Kim, I loved your book. It really opened my eyes. I haven't done the exercises yet but I've earmarked them and plan on doing them later. I just don't have the time to do them now.

Inside, I roll my eyes and know that this person isn't going to improve their life situation any time soon. It's so frustrating because there's nothing more important than working on yourself. However…working on yourself means that you:

Read a self help book filtering your life through it only
Do the exercises within the book and/or spend time contemplating the core messages and how they related to you
Make time for yourself every day! Get up early, take a ½ hour break in your car, stay up later, go to the coffee shop.

Nothing will change in your life until you shift how you think

Self-help books are great at getting the reader to ask themselves deep and meaningful questions. By answering a question you might determine that you have a very unhelpful belief. For example, after I left my company I spent quite a bit of time contemplating what 'work' meant to me. I discovered that work is something you have to do. It's something that sucks - a necessary evil. When I discovered my negative beliefs about work, I used my How Life Really Works exercise to get it out of me. I did the exercise and for weeks or months I didn't think anything shifted, but now looking back I can clearly see that I no longer hold negative associations with 'work.' In fact, I now jump out of bed every day to 'work.' So - with your next self-help book, don't push through it to see how quickly you can get it read. Get yourself some paper or your laptop and as soon as something jumps out at you (about your life) write your thoughts down. Become a detective. You may not get the answers immediately but if you ask yourself good questions you'll be surprised what comes up. Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’

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Life purpose – finding it really has nothing to do with serving people

Tue, 11 Feb 2014 11:10:04 +0000

There are loads of guru's, old and new, that say the answer to finding one's life purpose is to serve others.

Serve others? What does that even mean?

From a noble persperspective, perhaps this directive is all about literally working to save people and/or the planet? Perhaps 'serving others,' means that we should apply for a job at the UN or Greenpeace or join a Big Brother/Big Sister program? Maybe it means that we should volunteer to help fight the war on terrorism, drugs or crime? Or perhaps, serving others doesn't necessarily mean getting a job that supports world change. Maybe serving others is about being a good friend, learning how to parent in a way that supports emotional, mental and physical growth or merely looking for opportunities to assist those in our community. But if you're only serving people in your social life rather than your work life, or vice versa, are you only living your life purpose on a part-time basis?

To be rich and successful you need to serve people - don't you?

When I was growing my financial empire I learned from a mentor that the secrete to success was to be helpful. To give, give and give. Create things that solve a problem and then overwhelm the target audience with so much value that they want to buy from you over and over again. This is what I called 'service.' No, I wasn't helping to save starving children but I was employing several people, saving people money, providing serious value and positively engaging in life. I was serving customers, employees, suppliers and partners through my companies. On a personal basis I was serving others by being a good friend, a supportive family member and holding doors for the elderly. From my perspective I was doing everything I could to serve others however a growing part of me kept thinking I should do more. I should be building houses in Africa or finding a way to create clean water systems.

I was serving people and I definitely didn't feel like I was living my life purpose

For years I felt as if I was following the rules to success yet I felt something was wrong. I certainly wasn't living my life's purpose - that's definitely for sure. Yes, I was 'serving' people and yes I made money, but after you have everything you want/need money has no relevance.

But was building houses in Africa the answer? (no)

When I had my 'mid-life challenge' and left my company I spent a year or so pondering what my life purpose might be. I had several opportunities to join charitable organisations and/or work for businesses with very lofty world changing goals. None of them felt right. I'm not sure when or how the penny dropped but eventually I realised that finding my purpose had nothing to do with thinking of others first. It wasn't about figuring out how to serve the world. In fact, I came to the realisation that asking 'how can I serve others?' is not the right question to ask regarding the pursuit of one's life purpose. Ironically, however, once you find your life purpose, you inevitably serve others in the process, but I'll come back to that.

Your life purpose is all about YOU first

Your life purpose has nothing to do with what your mom, the Dali Lama, your partner or your teacher think. It's all about what makes you feel alive. What makes you excited, engaged, happy, excited. What makes you want to jump of bed? What gives you little butterflies in your stomach when you think of it? As a side note, I went so many years without allowing my heart to sing that I had no idea what would excite me. I dreaded getting up in the morning and sadly, the more money I made the more depressed I got. It took a lot of introspection and questioning myself to determine my life's purpose so if you have no idea what makes your heart sing, don't fret too much - you can figure it out just as I have.

Kim's steps to unearthing your life purpose

Understand that what you believe creates your reality and you can believe anything you want to believe. Change your beliefs and your life changes (Read my book, How Life Really Works, for more information on this concept).
Realise that you've been installed with the beliefs of your parents, peers, the media, goverment, and your communities about what you could,/should or couldn't/shouldn't do regarding your life path. Your installation may not be benefiting you. In other words, you might need to remove or change some beliefs you have about life purpose and serving others. These beliefs about what you can and cannot achieve are often hard to spot, but if you purposefully look you'll find them!
Your life purpose is all about finding out what you love about life. It's about figuring out what makes your heart sing and then doing it. It's NOT about forcing yourself to be or do things you don't like to do. It's not about reading a 'How-to-get-rich' book and then following an action plan. At worst, you won't get rich and the journey might be laboured and at best, you'll get rich, have a crappy journey and realise you've been pursuing the wrong path! Please don't go after riches only - go after your life purpose and the riches will come.

Look to others that are already living their life's purpose

There are many every day people that are living their life purpose - either part or full time. They're the one's you talk to about any profession or topic and they light up when they speak about it. They might be talking about 3D printing, playing Minecraft, investing in the stock market or making pottery bowls. They come alive and glow as they express themselves. They're natural, authentic and their personality engages us to want to be near them. Think about the people you engage with. Do any of them stand out? Who do you feel inspired by? Who do you want to be like? Are they living their life purpose? Are they doing things they love to do and because they're doing so, are they shining? One celebrity that I love to watch is Jamie Oliver - his passion for food and cooking is so infectious. Not only does his love of food pour out but whole life purpose revolves around it. He has lobbied to get everyday people cooking healthy great tasting fast food in addition to making school lunches more nutritious and delicious. He has worked hard to give underprivileged people a career path in the food industry and always comes up with new ideas on how to expand his purpose to more and more people. Jamie Oliver oozes a passion for food and life is a conscious creation of doing what he loves most. Imagine if Jamie Oliver was told to 'stay out of the kitchen,' by a teacher when he was a child and Jamie listened? He would be depriving us all from his amazing creativity. What were you told not to do when you were a child?

This was my path from living a life without purpose to one that's now full of purpose

I write loads on this topic, so read more of my articles or biography if you want to know my past. In a nutshell, I became financially successful by starting and managing a few companies. My whole worldview was very materialistic - life was all about making money. It had nothing to do with being happy or fullfilled. Once I made money I realised that I was chasing something that was great to have but didn't make me fulfilled. I then analysed my life and took an inventory of what I liked and didn't like. This happened over a year. I had to be honest with myself and it was difficult at first. After lying to myself for so many years, I had no idea what I really thought. Over time, I realised that I didn't like being a boss. I didn't like HR, Legal stuff, Management or Finance. I didn't like working in an office or a 2 hour commute. I didn't like the idea of competition or someone having to win and others having to lose. I didn't like my whole life revolving around something that seemed so uninteresting (my main company was currency exchange). I did, however, realise that I love to write. I love working with others on projects. I love connecting and I love to flow. I love people. I love to understand how life really works and how we can all increase our fulfillment. I love live and I love to write about it. I also love sailing :)

The beliefs that hampered my efforts to find my life purpose

Sadly, I had a few beliefs that hampered the early arrival of me being able to live my life purpose. I believed that I couldn't write (professionally). A teacher told me that it would be better for me to pursue a career outside of writing. Another teacher told me that the best I would be able to achieve would be a job at McDonalds. I also was installed with the 'no pain, no gain' philosophy. Furthermore, Dad told me that it's a dog-eat-dog world and you need to screw others before they screw you (and I believed him). Hopefully, you get the picture. The essence of all of this is this: I grew up with beliefs that hindered my ability to pursue what made my heart sing. I was told by some people that my skills were not good enough. I was told by others that the world doesn't work the way I want it to work. It was instilled in me that life sucks and then you die. How sad is that? Eventually, however, I learned how life really works and realised I could change my beliefs and then change my life.

What does my life look like now that I'm living my life's purpose?

As a result of my contemplation, questioning and desire to live MY life purpose, I quit my job, sold my possessions, bought a very nice 56' sailboat and now I'm going to sail around the world writing about the things that make my heart sing. To read about my sailing adventure, please go to Sailing Britican. Because I'm now being me - I'm authentically doing what makes my heart sing, everything is flowing. My life is amazing. I can't fall asleep at night because I can't wait for morning to come so I can live life more. I jump out of bed full of excitement. And because I'm being true to who I am and what I want I am inevitably serving others.

What's the point?

My point is this: Serving others is the result of figuring out how to live a life that truly makes your heart sing. Find your life purpose and then you'll notice that you're indadvertedly serving those who come in contact with you. Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’

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When I grow up I want to be happy. How many children know they can pursue that quest?

Sat, 04 Jan 2014 16:03:40 +0000

When you were a kid did you say, 'When I grow up I want to be happy?' Or did you say, 'when I grow up I want to be a doctor and make lots of money'?

When you went to school did the school system teach you about being happy or did they teach you about getting a job?

In March, hubby and I are setting sail from Gibraltar for our epic trip around the world. We're not sure how long it will take us and we're not even certain about our travel route. As I tell friends and family, 'We might sail for a year or perhaps five. We might make it around the world or we might fall in love with a particular place and go no further.' That being said, we've had to come to terms with home-schooling our daughter, Sienna. She turns four in May. Thus far I've read a few books on home-schooling and I've started to collect teaching materials and ideas. While perusing the Internet, and to my massive surprise, I discovered a Ted Talk from a 13 year old home-schooler. Or, as he calls it, 'Hackschooling.' What I love about this talk is that the presenter discusses the question, 'what do you want to be when you grow up?' and his answer has always been, 'to be happy.'

YES, YES, YES!!! I've always felt that being happy is the most important skill to learn!

That's really what life is about. It's about being happy. Being fulfilled. Watch this video and learn from a 13 year old what helps us to be happy. It's only 11 minutes long and it's well worth the time. Unfortunately for us, we may not have had the opportunity to create happiness in our life. Well...we did, but we didn't know it. Look at how the younger generations are choosing the path they want to take and realise that we can do that too! We might not being in school now, but we have just the same opportunities.

At any age we can become hackschoolers. Enjoy!

Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’

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How do you teach a child to overcome rejection at the playground?

Tue, 31 Dec 2013 19:04:45 +0000

Yesterday I took my 3 ½ year old daughter, Sienna, to a soft play gym. We recently moved house so the play gym and all the other children were new to us. Upon arrival my daughter, husband and I found a table. I then took Sienna's hand and headed out for our first exploration. Within fifteen minutes we traversed both jungle gym structures and located the important areas like the bathrooms and food counter. When coming across other girls, I spoke to them in an effort to demonstrate the concept of friendliness to Sienna. Ideally, I want her to make friends easily and go off and play so I can save my knees and perhaps enjoy a conversation with hubby. Every so often my strategy works, but more often than not it doesn't.

Making friends with children to introduce to my child isn't ideal

Furthermore, as I ponder this action I've realised that it's no good if I'm making friends on Sienna's behalf. That's teaching her to sit back and let others come to her or have mom take care of her social interchanges. Nope that won't work.

Seeing my child experience rejection, however, is heart breaking

But what breaks my heart in half is when I see her playing alone or attempting to join a group only to be left by the wayside. I feel such deep pain and sadness when she jumps into a group with smiles only to be left alone with her head down and eye's watering. It's my pain and sadness.

Witnessing Sienna's rejection reminds me of the rejection I felt

When I was a child I was so afraid of life. I was so afraid of people. So afraid that I wouldn't be loved or accepted. Someone would have to merely look at me funny and I'd decided that there was something unlikable about me. And I'm not talking about just my younger years - I felt this way until I was in my early 30's! I flat out BELIEVED that I was broken. Why would anyone want to be my friend anyway? I'm ugly, worthless, a 'nobody.'

Experiencing rejection vicariously is not an outcome I want in my life

Oh….how wrong I was. I'm happy I don't feel that way anymore, however…watching your own child experience the fear of not being accepted is like reliving a nightmare that you thought was gone! What the heck!! It's not that I want Sienna to be Miss Popular - I just want her to feel comfortable in her own skin. I want her to realise that if other children don't want to play with her, it's not personal. It doesn't mean that she's faulty! I also want Sienna to realise that all she needs to do is look at everyone with loving eye's - to send them love and be open to who responds. There's no need to fear. There's no need to feel insecure. So, let me get a bit more concise here.

What do I want to teach my child about making new friends and handling rejection?

If other children don't want to play with you, respect their decision, but don't take it personal. There will be times when you don't want to play with others too. It goes both ways.
Look at all children with love. Send them all love and smile and it won't take long to find someone that is eager to make a new friend.
Be kind. Ask them what their name is? Tell them something you like about them. People like people who are loving and kind to them.

Now that I have a clearer idea on what I want to teach my daughter, how can I go about it?

How can I teach my child to make new friends and handle rejection?

Lead by example. I need to demonstrate what I'm teaching by going out there and making friends myself (Yikes). If a group of people don't want to talk to me, I need to demonstrate that I don't take it personal.
I need to look at people around me with love and approach them with love.
I need to be kind and ask them what their name is! Perhaps it will help if I point out good qualities in other people. For example, 'Oh look at that woman - doesn't she have beautiful hair?' or 'Look at that guy - he looks so kind.'

Leading by example - helping us both to grow?

On one hand it scares me to become more social but on the other hand, it will benefit me and my daughter immensley. Thinking about it, I think I'll grow much more than she will. With our upcoming sailing trip around the world (leaving March 2014), both Sienna and I will need to make friends quickly and easily. If I can lay the foundation as soon as possible, I won't have to see her cry in the corner, look sad while children pass her by or empathise with her feelings of rejection. Finally, and within the context of 'How Life Really Works,' I need to believe not only that I make friends easily, but I can also teach my child to do the same. I need to install these beliefs/thoughts in me so the end result is having the ability for both Sienna and I to easily make friends at the playground. I need to teach us both to also be resilient. If someone doesn't befriend is, that's perfectly fine.

But what actions will I take going forward?

From an action-related perspective, I'll add to my 'to-do' list, find a 'how to make friends easily' hypnosis/meditation audio and I'll consciously look for situations where I can strike up a conversation. Rather than habitually being quiet, I'm going to look for opportunities to demonstrate friendlyness. Rather than sit back I'm going to take a leading role in making new friends. And if/when I get what looks like a rejection, I'm going to brush it off and go share my love with the next person. What do you think? Any other tips on how I can teach Sienna or myself to make new friends and handle rejection if we receive it? Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’

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My thoughts on avoiding negative influences – especially negative people!

Mon, 30 Dec 2013 20:31:41 +0000

I've met my opposite. I've met Anti-Kim. Anti-Kim is the most negative influence I have in my life. So let's discuss avoiding negative influences today.

Here are the characteristics of Anti-Kim. He (yes, it's a he):

Health. Takes no responsibility for his physcial health. If there's something wrong with him (aches, pains, being overweight, artritus, bad ears, gout, angina, high blood pressure, low blood pressure, liver toxicity and on and on), it's not his doing. His health has nothing to do with his bad eating habits, lack of exercise or mental attitude. And when things get bad, the only solution is popping a pill or having a doctor prescribe something to solve the problem. His greatest pleasure is complaining about his health visiting his doctors office. Daily Focus. He focuses most of his daily life on reading newspapers (full of negativity), watching TV programs full of negativity (news, low-end talk shows, crime, war) and reading about historical figures that supported war and fighting. Blame. He blames all his problems on other people. It's always someone else that is causing his personal life, or the world a large, a disservice. Speech. His speech is mostly focused on what's wrong with the world highlighting the days most recent death, natural disaster or autrocities. Scenery. He see's the polution, graffiti, no-do-gooders, bad customer service, high prices and bad drivers. Money. He thinks money will solve all problems. If he only won the lottery, everything would be fine. He's financially secure for the rest of his life - there's nothing he doesn't have to live a good life, yet he doesn't practice gratitude for it. Living. He's afraid to live. Unless he's forced to leave his house, he won't go out or attend an event. When he does have to attend an event he spends the week before complaining about how he doesn't want to go. (Ironically, whenever he does go out he always says he has a great time. Sadly, he forgets the good time quickly). Love. Worst of all, and this is possibly the crux of the problem, he doesn't love himself. He calls himself stupid, fat, useless and on and on. His foundation is cracked - you build a house on negative focus and you have a negative life.

So what results or life outcomes does Anti-Kim have?

Do you think he's happy? Do you think he feels good? Do you think he bounces out of bed excited to live another day of life? I look at him and want to shake him up and make him realise that he's created his own life. And more importantly, I want to tell him that he can choose to create a different life. He doesn't have to keep the one he has!

So let me contrast Anti-Kim with Kim

Health. If I'm unwell, I ask myself what I'm doing to create my unwellness. I look at myself with loving eye's and ask my mind/body what I need to do to help me recover. I take responsibility for my aches, pains and issues and research ways to help me increase my health. I know that good food, nutrition and exercise/activity help me to feel good. I haven't been to a doctor in 4 years. And the only reason I went 4 years ago was due to pregnancy. Daily focus. I spend my days reading uplifting materials, connecting with people that want to make the world a better place, playing with my daughter, appreciating the beauty around me and working to spread the word that life can be amazingly fulfilling. I purposely avoid newspapers, news and negative influence as I know I can live without them. Blame. For every event, person, situation that happens in my life, I ask myself why I created it. I don't necessarily blame myself in a harsh way. I'm not unkind to myself. I've just gotten to the point where I know I create everything so by asking myself why I created XYZ (good or bad), it helps me learn, grow and appreciate life in much more dynamic ways. When you know you create everything you feel a sense of power. You realise that if you created something 'bad,' you can change some internal thoughts/beliefs and the world changes once again. I've learned that nothing is really 'good' or 'bad' anyway - it's either your perception or your creation. Either way, you have a choice on how you look at events/situations and/or how you want to change your thoughts to change your world. Speech. If I have nothing good to say, I don't say anything. I'm not a super optimistic oh-isn't-life-the-most-amazing-thing-ever sickening kind of person. I'm not happy all the time. I do have aches. I do have issues. I just don't talk about them in a casual way. If someone asks me how I am, I say I'm good because that's where my focus is…on being good/happy/fulfilled. On the other hand, when I do have issues, I talk them over with friends. My friends, however, know enough to say, 'Kim - why do you think you're creating this?' and we then have a very productive conversation. Speech is the end result of your thoughts/mental states/beliefs coming out in verbal form. It's so important to listen to your speech and make sure you're saying things that reflect who you want to be. Scenery. I've trained my eyes to look for beauty - either in a child's smile, seeing the sunshine, or the billions of other beautiful things out there. There's beauty in everything. You just have to look for it. And yes, I do see pollution and other 'bad' things. I make a note of them and move on. I don't highlight them or mention them. What's the point? Why bring others down if you don't have to? Money. Money is awesome. I love having money. I appreciate money. Money is a tool to help me express myself. I create the ability to have money flow to me. When I need money I know how to attract it to me. Living. I'm also afraid to live sometimes, but I force myself out there. I'm not going to let life slip me by. Time after time I've put myself on a roller coaster and I go along for the ride. And ultimately I know that I'm safe. If you don't get out there and go for it you'll never know what you capable of experiencing. And why go to grave knowing you could have done more?! Love. I didn't always love myself and that's why I can recognise it in Anti-Kim. I can see the hatred he feels for himself. The feelings of unworthiness ooze from him. It makes me soooooooo sad to see someone have a bad relationship with themselves. It's so unneccessary. You have a choice - you can love yourself or you can hate yourself. If you choose to love, nurture and take care of yourself everything changes! EVERYTHING. I love myself so much now. I care about how I feel. I care about my body, my spirts, my thoughts, my beliefs. I lovingly tell myself that I'm here to take care of me. When I feel down, I explain that we'll (me and ME) sort something out. We'll find a solution…and we always do.

So…I have these major questions I need help with:

How do I help Anti-Kim?
Should I even try to help Anti-Kim?
By me focusing on Anti-Kim am I focusing on everything I'm against and thus making myself Anti-Kim in the process (any time there's a paradox there's truth there!!!)

Now that my rant is over I suppose the answer that feels best to me is that I simply need to be the best Kim I can be when I'm around Anti-Kim and if he can learn from my example, great. Otherwise, if I spend time focusing on him, I'm only doing both of us a disservice. Hmmmmmm. I really want to just bitch and complain about him. It feels good to be self-righteous sometimes - doesn't it?! But enough is enough. Let me send Anti-Kim love and stop my crusade. I know deep down inside that it's not my job. How about you? Do you have an Anti-You in your life? Is it time that you stopped focusing on them and just focused on being the best you that you can be? Amen.

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Is the Christmas Spirit eluding you? Here’s how to find, feel and enjoy it!

Wed, 27 Nov 2013 17:35:57 +0000

Within the next few weeks I'm selling one house, moving into an apartment and buying a sailboat to sail around the world in - leaving England in March.

Not much going on in my life - eh?

Amongst the boxes, paperwork, cleaning supplies and complete upheaval of our household, you'll find a family of stressed, scared and excited individuals. We're all walking around with our heads in the clouds. Just last night, hubby took our dinner plates up into our bedroom to be cleaned rather than the kitchen. And twice last week he walked out of the house without shutting the door! Neighbours have walked by seeing our house wide open. You can blame us for global warming - we're heating the world.

All this activity and Christmas is right around the corner!

Because of our life-changing plans I've found it increasingly difficult to get in the Christmas spirit. In fact, until I did the exercise described below, I could have easily said that I lost the whole meaning of Christmas…

Panic has set in...

When I first think of Christmas a slight panic overtakes me and and start to brainstorm thoughtful gifts for family and friends. Trying to be thoughtful is hard work! Even if you try your best you still never know if your gift makes a good impression or gets put in the 're-gift' pile. And buying for the children of friends and family is even more frustrating. What if they have the gift you intend to buy already? What if it's too young or old for them? What if they don't like Care Bears anymore? My internal visualisations of kids opening 100's of presents on Christmas Day also increases anxiety. How can a child value gifts now days when they receive so many and open them as if they were a Tasmanian devil? Is giving a gift to a child just a necessary action we take but there's no meaning behind it?

And all the money wasted!

Mixed in with the self-inflicted present buying pressure is the money end of things. Nothing is worse than spending good money with the intention of showing your love to ultimately just buy a bunch of junk or something not wanted. I've worked hard for my money and I don't want it to go wasted! Ultimately, I want to show my love and appreciation for my friends, family and children in my life but I believe my time and money are potentially wasted.

Where's the Christmas Spirit in all that rambling? (Look at where my focus is)

But usually after my initial panic the Spirit of Christmas starts to seep in. The xmas tunes in all the shops gets turned on, the lights add colour to the early nighttime darkness, and I enjoy a festive drinks with friends. The music, lights and friends then cause me to recollect past Christmas memories. The memories cause a BAM moment. That's what it is. I've figured out what helps me to get my Christmas Spirit - it's the memories of past holidays being brought to the forefront of my mind.

Turn the spirit on and the worries off

Bringing up past Christmas memories helps turn the spirit on and turn the incessant (and rather silly) worrying off. Christmas is not about present buying and by focusing on that small aspect the overall important sprit is lost. Reflecting back to past Christmas's, memories come flooding into my mind: I vividly remember drinking mulled wine outside a pub in London, eating roasted chestnuts and watching street performers entertain passers by. I see our family join others to sing carols in the road running back home to check out the Santa Radar. I remember waking up with my brother and running down to see if Santa came to our house. I see faces of friends and family - all with smiles on their faces. The cosy home, happy friends, game playing, amazing food and flow of love. I can see the pork roast with Grandmas special gravy and mom mashing the potatoes. And I remember me and my brother pushing the bottom of the chocolates in to see if they were yummy carmel or yucky strawberry cream - if they were strawberry, we put them back in the dish.

Memories!

This year my memories have helped me to realise that the Christmas Spirit is like anything else - what ever you focus on, you get. If you focus on the stress of present buying, the commercialism of the times and pressure of getting too much done in too little time you just won't feel the spirit. That doesn't mean that the spirits not there…it's just that you're not letting it in (yet).

If you're finding it difficult to feel the Christmas Spirit this year, allow your memories to give you a jump-start - give this exercise a go:

Find some Christmas music and put it on (On the Internet you can find xmas music all year round so there's no excuse). And I know you might not feel up to it or in the mood but that's the whole point of this exercise! Or - drive yourself over to a coffee shop - you'll get the music and hopefully some Christmas decorations too!
Forget about everything else in your life and just spend 5 minutes writing down all the good memories you have about past Christmas's. Don't spiral and think of anything other than good memories. If you do, bring yourself back on track. You have loads of good memories…you might just have to work hard to remember them at first. (Some more of my examples: The time I pretended to give Hubby a really terrible gift only to hide his real gift in the garage - the delight on his face was amazing when he saw his real gift. The party we had on 80 Charlton where loads of people came over to enjoy the huge xmas tree that my mom chopped down from the woods. Seeing my daughter scream in joy when she saw Santa's Grotto for the first time - oh, and Grandad getting lost in the grotto and the elves finding him in the utility closet…)
After all the memories come flooding in, hold that essence that's buzzing around your body and realise that you've conjured up the Christmas Spirit by simply using your mind. How does it feel????? By doing this exercise, you'll kick start your focusing mechanism to now tune into the greatness of Christmas pasts so to create this Christmas present. (And it truly is a present to have and hold the Christmas Spirit!)

Life can so easily get in the way, but it is us that allows that to happen. And we can take back control anytime we want to. We can take 5 minutes, re-orientate our mind/body and then move on from a different feeling point.

What you focus on you get!

What you focus on you get, so for an enjoyable love-filled Christmas, use your past memories to create the energy you want to attract. Once you're energy is full of Christmas Spirit this Christmas Season will increase in fulfilment. Since doing this small exercise a few days ago, I've started buying Christmas presents and have been almost giddy about it. I have his inner excitement and happiness that's a 180 from how I felt previously. I'm no longer worried about any of it - I'm having fun enjoying the present buying process in addition to soaking up the Christmas carols, smiles on children's faces and overall spirit of this amazing holiday. The important thing to realize is that I didn't force anything to change - I just took the time to get my mind/body to feel what I wanted to feel (with the help of my memories) and then my reality fell in line with the new perspective. Anyway - I hope this helps. Happy holidays and big love! Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’

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Spiritual people tell me they ‘get it’ but they don’t (me included sometimes)!

Fri, 22 Nov 2013 11:52:51 +0000

Many people that have read a lot of self-help and spiritual books tell me that they understand the principles of the law of attraction, the law of abundance and so forth. Spiritual people explain that they fully understand that our thoughts create things and even some explain how it happens.

I just don't understand why __________

They then turn around and say, 'but I just don't understand why ________'

I can't find my true love
I can't find a way to make money
My career path is a total struggle
My kids don't like me
My life sucks
I can't shed the weight off
I can't get my body healthy

The reason they can't achieve any of these things comes down to the fact that they just don't 'get it'. These people are still living life based on passed programs yet they can't see them. They don't see their conditioning running and because they can't see it, they don't know how to change it. We've all been giving thousands of beliefs by our parents, environment and everything that's gone before - some of these beliefs were good for us yet many are terribly disempowering.

Bling ignorance would be better than knowledge without wisdom

Blind ignorance would actually be better than knowledge without wisdom to use it. Instead of not knowing their thoughts create they're reality, they know it yet their knowledge makes matters worse - they perhaps feel guilty that they can't really play the game because they don't know how.

What a mess!

But the reason I can write about it comes down to the fact that I don't always 'get it' either. I often fall back into the trap where my life starts to fall apart and instead of examining my thoughts/beliefs/energy that is creating it, I look around bewildered asking, 'why is this happening to me?'

I am creating my reality, I am creating my reality…

Then, I remind myself, 'Kim, this is all happening to you because you are creating it.' Usually, I then rack my brain to see what beliefs, thoughts, expectations, feelings, etc. are causing the unwanted reality and I'm stumped. Every so often, however, I'm not stumped. I hear myself say something and have the ability to recognise that it's the exact thing my mom would say.

Speaking phrases my parents used helps me spot disempowering thoughts

For example, my parents often worried about money. They would say, 'Money doesn't go on trees,' 'We don't have enough money,' 'Blame the tax man for not having nice things,' and eventually it became, 'It's your fathers fault we're poor.' After the poor consciousness was imprinted on me, I was then installed with 'Men are lying, stealing, cheats…' It's a no wonder I struggled for the first half of my life!

My early conditioning cased me to fear being poor

I grew up with huge fears about being poor - so much so that I made it my life ambition to be rich. I systematically poured wealth consciousness into my head by listening to hypnosis and meditation downloads, reciting affirmations (I am wealthy!! I am rich!!) and pushing my way to the top of the success ladder. For the most part, I forced new beliefs in rather than finding and removing old conditioning. I simply didn't know how to find the old condition…

Is it better to force new beliefs in without finding the old beliefs?

With this in mind, I usually didn't catch the beliefs installed in me. It was every so often, I'd hear my mom say something and think, 'that's not a good thing to think…and wow, I actually think that too!' There's another belief/thought structure to get rid of.

How can you 'fix' past programming if you can't see it?

The annoying thing is this - how can you fix your past programming when it's almost impossible to see it? Yes - you can pour as much empowering stuff into your mind/body but what about all the crap that's sitting there? The crap that needs to be dumped? Neuroscientists tell us that 95% of our thoughts are pre-programmed. We all think we're living in the now but we're actually just rerunning the same ole past movies over and over. At times I feel as if I'm making progress, but often I feel like I've taken one step forward and two steps back. I wish I could find a foolproof way to see all my beliefs and then take action to get rid of the ones that no longer benefit me. Any suggestions? Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’

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