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Baby Break Dancing

2008-09-06T13:52:00.000-07:00

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The lion sleeps tonight

2008-09-06T10:57:00.000-07:00

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Your Dreams

2008-09-03T15:25:00.000-07:00

If you find it difficult to deal with where you are, look
ahead toward where you're going. Keep yourself focused on
the goal at the end of the road, and you'll find the
strength to move steadily down that road.

When you continue looking ahead, even the difficult steps
will seem lighter. The burdens of the moment become much
more bearable when you know there is a purpose behind them.

Your dreams can pull you toward them if you'll give those
dreams a prominent place in your heart and your mind. Look
ahead toward where you intend to go, and you'll find that
each challenge makes you stronger.

When your eye is on the goal, the distractions won't be
nearly so distracting. Your efforts will gain the immense
power of focus when you're always clearly aware of where
you're headed.

Your time, your energy, and your resources will get used no
matter which direction you are looking. By choosing to look
ahead, you get the highest return for the efforts you invest
in your life.

Look ahead, toward the place you most want to be. The more
you look, the faster you'll move forward.

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Extreme Cheerleading

2008-09-02T14:08:00.000-07:00

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Stop taking, start giving

2008-08-26T10:46:00.001-07:00

Mountains of fire

Mother Nature tames
The pronominal outcry,
As if fire was ecstasy,
It turns into syntax.

We are only a step away from discursive prose
When that voice calls,
From the thorn-brush burning fire,
Could it mean a mystery?
We all ask why?
Shall we run to the mountains to hide?

The lord is calling,
Make use with what we got,
Stop taking, start giving
We should always believe in our self’s
Not enemies, strangers but believers,
of love.Have we all began to read the bible?
Our friends should be our friends.

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Persistence and patience, effort and commitment

2008-08-03T10:03:00.000-07:00

What a shame it would be if the results you have worked to
achieve required just a little longer to arrive than you
were willing to wait. How sad it would be for your ship to
finally come in just a few minutes after you had given up
and left the dock.

Success is built upon effort and commitment. Success also
requires persistence and patience.

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Too Hot to Sleep?

2008-08-02T11:25:00.000-07:00

Too Hot To Sleep?
“5 Hot tips to staying cool at night”
Summer’s here and so are those long hot nights when it’s almost impossible to sleep. However, here’s a handful of hop tips, that’ll see you through the night and help you keep cool. But mentioned only 5 below.

I know that when you want to stay warm in the winter, that heating up a cast iron pan and rubbing it through the bedding was a way to make the bedding warmer, but…when we are speaking of heat, you can only take off so many clothing…lol

Number one…Ditch the duvet and place a bed sheet in a plastic bag. Stick the bag in a freezer for a couple of hours and relax. When it comes to bedtime head up the wooden hill with your nicely chilled sheets and look forward to a comfy night’s sleep.

2. DON’T draw back the curtains. Open the windows to get nice draft (if possible) but leave the curtains where they are. By keeping the sun out of the room in the daytime, it won’t retain the heat at night.

3. Create a chilled air fan. Cut the top off a 5 liter/gallon water container, fill it roughly three quarters full and freeze the container. Finally place behind an electric fan (keep it away from electrics) and you’ll fell the “chilled air” effects straight away.

4. If you’ve got a synthetic pillow, swap it for a feather pillow with a cotton pillow case. Man-made synthetic pillows retain their own heat compared to natural down and cotton ones.

5. Think of “Snow!” it snow crazy, but the human mind has power of suggestion. So when nothing else works imagine yourself lying in pristine field of snow making snow angels.

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Ice Cream was made in heaven

2008-08-01T15:33:00.000-07:00

Ice Cream Was Made In Heaven

It is smooth, creamy, cool and as much a part of summer and warm weather as sunshine and honey bees. Ice Cream is God’s little “treat” for hot breezes, dry throats and the need to laugh and enjoy the gift of today.

Whether it be little children, or golden ager’s, ice cream is universal and part of everyone’s mental scrapbook of favorites flavors, crunchy and colorful toppings and mounds of whipped cream that resembles soft clouds in the sky. Ice cream also has medicinal benefits- remember being able to eat all the ice cream you wanted when you had your tonsils removed? If you skinned your knee or fell off your bike, you were cleaned up, tears wiped off and as soon as that bell from the ice cream truck man could be heard, you were allowed to order up a bomb popsicle, an ice cream sandwich or a “turkey” drumstick- that had a cone filled with vanilla ice cream and topped with chocolate and nuts made you forget the pain not only of your scraped knees but of the embarrassment of finishing last in that bicycle race. It didn’t matter any more because right there- in your hand- was the symbol of life at its best.

Ice cream is a treat but it can be and should be enjoyed year-around. There is never a non-season for this creamy delight and no matter the age, time, season, or how much change you might have in your pocket- ice cream hit’s the spot and fits right in. The best way to enjoy an ice cream delight anytime, anywhere is with a friend. Sharing secrets, ideas, and hope for a bright future make that all-year treat even more special and unforgettable. You never out grow your love for ice cream because while food fads may come and go, ice cream will always be a favorite…

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To me;

2008-07-22T15:57:00.000-07:00

The seventh step begins with the word “Humbly”. In the dictionary linked being humble with being humiliated which in turn pointed to being dishonored, disgraced, and shamed. Its synonyms includes “meekness,” “submissiveness,” and “lowliness.”. Humility draws only confusion to me, as one dictionary put it, “a feeling of inferiority and insignificance,” to feel inadequate and unworthy.

I didn’t want humility! Shame and feeling of inferiority haunted me not only in active alcoholism but even before, in childhood marked by various forms of abuse and neglect. I was a child who I felt I failed in every thing. I felt like a loner, hanging out with what everyone called “Nerds.” So step seven did not seem to be of any importance to recovery. Humility and being humble are mentioned a handful of times, page 164 in the “Big Book.” I later realized that humility~ as ~ humiliation was still clouding my thinking.

I was missing something, or rather something was missing. the “Twelve and Twelve,” the In whole emphasis of the Step is on humility. “A clear recognition of what and who we are, followed by a sincere attempt to become what we could be. It is “a healer of pain” and “the avenue to the true freedom of spirit,” which can bring us to a “great turning point in our lives.” There is no humble pie or groveling desire in any of this! A friend of mine mentioned how he had gotten his family back, job, and self-respect back; his health, wealth, and a cluster of good friends- all in which made him feel “humbled.” To me, it sounded more like gratitude…

Humility is not humiliation, although humiliation could bring us to it. It wasn’t gratitude, though humility could bring us gratitude.

To me, humility relates to power: it is the recognition and acceptance of the limits of my own power. I then began to understand that humility was indeed the foundation of all the Steps, and so could be a healer of the pain, a way to spiritual freedom, and a turning point in my life.

Each Step asks humility of us. It was grudging humility, but humility nevertheless, that led me to try and seek help for my alcoholism: still a turning point in my life.

The simple word “we” stands at the beginning to the “Steps,” reminds me that it is through God’s help and the help of others that I gain the strength to work towards the spiritual awakening that is the final goal of the “Twelve Steps.”
“I begin my journey’ “humility is the food that strengthen us on my way…

There’s a “wall,” or call it a “dry spell,” another words, that feeling that the spark was gone…

AA stories are beginning to bore me and I haven’t been to very many of them. I feel like that I am in the “AA desert” I once read in a AA Grapevine magazine. Or should I call it a “Dry spell?” I have never had a sponsor, but a friend through AA. I have always avoided people becoming close to me because maybe, I feel so different. I know you’ll say that others experience the same thing, and I am not the only one who is going through the same thing. I know others say that there are many people going through the same, simpler things recovery from this illness I have.

I have always wondered if “Alcoholism” is a terminal illness…

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Pity Myself

2008-07-22T13:36:00.000-07:00

Pity Myself

If anyone knew how to make life complicated it would be me. I grieve over the most simple situations and pity myself more than anyone I have ever met. Why must I continue to make the same mistakes? I look for the most simple of answers through sorrow. I think in the most negative ways. I can make the most easiest of situations and make them to be the most complicated ones. Just ask my Mother, or my children and they will know exactly what I am referring to.

I grew up as a lonely child, my Dad molested me when I was 6. My Dad had always called me “Teddy Bear”. My Brother and twin sister thought I was the favorite one and yet I was the one he intimately chose.

My alcoholism started when I was 18 years of age. My Mother continually told me that I was a candidate for becoming an alcoholic.

I was married by the time I was 27 and I’d already had 1 daughter by the time I was 21. My married life style was basically a alcoholic world, living in mostly a turmoil of Hell-o…My wedding day “WAS” the best day of my life, but when I met my true love after my divorce took the place of that moment. I could no longer believe that “Love” was all complicated.

You can make life complicated or you can make it difficult, what ever you chose it to be. An alcoholic lives in a life of make believe. Living in denial, negative outlook and full of pain of loneliness.
The only way out was “faith” …believe in that higher power that had more strength, then I’d ever believe. Sure I was in denial, but isn’t anyone with an addiction?

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Wordless Wednseday

2008-07-16T10:32:00.000-07:00

WORDLESS WED.

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Lifetime followers

2008-07-12T17:33:00.000-07:00

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If there was a way to repay the damage that I have created in my life with my children, the damages I have made with my children’s life’s, a way to step back into time to change the messes I have developed, I would. “If only” as we all say, “If only”. And another saying that keeps entering my mind is “What If?” Maybe this lesson I’ve have to learn, this message sent to me, this “whatever you want to call it” life cycle…Maybe its taught my children to not follow me into my footsteps, maybe its taught them, or showed them that my direction I chose to follow was obviously just for me and only me.

Children have a way of following their parents, the path they chose. Its sometimes sad, but I see it happening I have witness, acknowledged it and you wonder if there is any way of stopping it. You speak to your children about it but they don’t seem to acknowledge it at the time that you tell them they seem to follow you whether you want them to or not. They will say, “No, I will never do that”, “I won’t be like that”. Remember the saying? “Like Father like son?” “Like Mother, like daughter?”, its occurred to me that those sayings are not just old wife’s tales, they are very true.

It has been researched that alcohol, drug abuse, and even Cancer, Diabetes and other illness are genetically through heredity in our genes, given to us by our family, our ancestors and so on. To bad there isn’t a cure for preventing or stopping the cycle of this followings. To bad they haven’t checked into why this happens, its our children that suffer because our mistakes, they should be allowed to make their own mistakes.

Children often do not listen to their parents, they rebel at the word “No” or “Don’t do that”, you tell them you have made that mistake but for some reason they don’t see it. They continue to journey into the trail you came out of. My Mother many times has told me that I am an alcoholic, and that my Dad was, and my Aunt is, and my Grandfather was, and so on. We have a whole history of alcoholics in our family and I have been told that my children have great tendencies of becoming one and I will always be one.

So the message is that we all learn in life our mistakes and our success and our goals...Our goals are our achievements with give us our happiness and that is all what God wants us to do is reach whatever it is to succeed our happiness. You ask yourself what it is to be happy, what it is to feel loved, and how to love yourself.

God wants us all to be happy...so think, "What is your happiness?".

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