Secretary make call to Husband: For a week my boss and
I will be going abroad, you look after yourself.

Husband make call to secret lover: My wife is going
abroad for a week, so lets spend the week together.

Secret lover make call to small boy whom she is giving
private tuition: I have work for a week, so you need
not come for class.

Small boy make call to his grandfather: Grandpa, for a
week I don’t have class ‘coz my teacher is busy. Lets
spend the week together.

Grandpa(the 1st boss ) make call to his secretary:
This week I am spending my time with my grandson. We cannot attend
that meeting.

Secretary make call to her husband: This week my boss
has some work, we cancelled our trip.

Husband make call to secret lover: We cannot spend
this week together, my wife has cancelled her trip.

Secret lover make call to small boy whom she is giving
private tuition: This week we will have class as usual.

Small boy make call to his grandfather: Grandpa, my
teacher said this week I have to attend class. Sorry I
can’t give you company.

Grandpa make call to his secretary: Don’t worry this
week we will attend that meeting, so make arrangement

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.
His bed was next to the room’s only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man couldn’t hear the band - he could see it. In his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive
words.

Days and weeks passed..

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.”

Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.

“Today is a gift, that’s why it is called the present.”

The origin of this letter is unknown, but it brings good luck to everyone who passes it on.

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A farmer had the misfortune Of owing a large sum of money to a village
moneylender.

The Moneylender , who was old and ugly, fancied the farmer’s beautiful
Daughter. So he proposed a bargain.

He said he would forgo the farmer’s debt if he could marry his
Daughter. Both the farmer and his daughter were horrified by the
Proposal.

So the cunning money-lender suggested that they let Providence decide
the matter.

He told them that he would put a black Pebble and a white pebble into
an empty money bag. Then the girl would Have to pick one pebble from
the bag.

1) If she picked the black pebble, she would become his wife and her
father’s debt would be forgiven.

2) If she picked the white pebble she need not marry him and her
father’s debt would still be forgiven.

3) But if she refused to pick a pebble, her father would be thrown into Jail.

They were standing on a pebble strewn path in the farmer’s field. As
They talked, the moneylender bent over to pick up two pebbles. As he
Picked them up, the sharp-eyed girl noticed that he had picked up two
Black pebbles and put them into the bag.

He then asked the girl to pick A pebble from the bag.

Now, imagine that you were standing in the field. What would you have
Done if you were the girl? If you had to advise her, what would you
Have told her?

Careful analysis would produce three possibilities:

1. The girl should refuse to take a pebble.

2. The girl should show that there were two black pebbles in the bag
And expose the money-lender as a cheat.

3. The girl should pick a black pebble and sacrifice herself in order
To save her father from his debt and imprisonment.

Take a moment to ponder over the story. The above story is used with
The hope that it will make us appreciate the difference between
lateral And logical thinking.

The girl’s dilemma cannot be solved with Traditional logical thinking.
Think of the consequences if she chooses

The above logical answers.

What would you recommend to the Girl to do?

Well, here is what she did ….

The girl put her hand into the moneybag and drew out a pebble. Without
Looking at it, she fumbled and let it fall onto the pebble-strewn path
Where it immediately became lost among all the other pebbles.

“Oh, how clumsy of me,” she said. “But never mind, if you look into
the Bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which
pebble I Picked.”

Since the remaining pebble is black, it must be assumed that she had
Picked the white one. And since the money-lender dared not admit his
Dishonesty, the girl changed what seemed an impossible situation into
An extremely advantageous one.

MORAL OF THE STORY:

Most complex problems do have a solution. It is only that we don’t
Attempt to think.

1. Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life – In a society where people blame everything from their parents to the government for failure, those who don’t buy into this mentality or succumb to the “victim” thinking succeed. To blame something or somebody outside yourself is saying they have control of your life and not you. Someone else’s opinion of you doesn’t have to become your reality.

2. Live Your Life On Purpose - What separates motivational thinkers from the unsuccessful is that they believe they’re doing what they were put her to do. The difference between this and just living, is that the latter is just getting through the week with the least problems. But when you live your life on purpose, your main concern is doing the job right. For the entrepreneur this means finding a cause you believe in and building your business around it.

3. Be Willing to Pay the Price - Be willing to pay the price for your dreams. Wanting a big house, a luxury car, and a million dollars in the bank is all very nice, and everyone wants these things – but are you willing to pay the price to get them? This is one of the major differences between the successful and unsuccessful.

4. Stay Focused – Every day we’re bombarded with hundreds of tasks, phone calls, messages, and everyone competing for our time. Focusing requires giving up something in the present because you are investing your time in something that will pay off big-time down the road. Jack Canfield and Mark Hanson were turned by 30 publishers when they submitted the first “Chicken Soup for the Soul” book. Instead of giving up, they stayed focused on their goal and did four or five interviews per day for radio, TV, and newspapers, for five days a week for a whole year. Eventually, a small publisher decided to take a chance, and of course now it’s a best-seller that spawned an entire series that have sold more than 10 million copies.

5. Become An Expert in Your Field One striking factor all successful people have in common is how seriously they take their profession. They strive to be the best at what they do, and do almost anything to improve. If someone followed you around all day with a video camera at your business, would it be a tape you’d be proud of or embarrassed about? Make the decision today to work at being the best in your field. How? By finding out what the “best” in your field are doing, and do what they do.

6. Write Out a Plan for Achieving Your Goals - Write out an action plan/map for how you’re going to achieve your goals. Trying to reach your goals without a plan is like trying to drive from Los Angeles to Chicago without a map. A goal that isn’t written down is merely a wish or fantasy.

7. Never Give Up - Never, never, never give up. When you’re fully committed to achieving your goal, giving up is not an option. You must be willing do whatever it takes to make it happen. The power of perseverance is an awesome force. As someone once said, “inch by inch it’s a cinch”. Think of the lowly inchworm – if it pondered the length of the trip from start to finish before it started, it probably would never move. To a worm’s point-of-view, the garden path must look like a trip to Mars. Never give up! Keep on going like the Eveready battery bunny, and pretty soon you’re there.

8. Don’t Delay - Nobody knows how much time they have left to accomplish their dreams, and we must remember that we don’t have forever. The clock is ticking, and sooner or later your number comes up and you’re gone. Successful achievers know this too, but they don’t view it as a “negative”. Achievers use it to “spur them on”. They go after what they want as energetically and as passionately as possible, for as long as they have.

I had a friend who used to say, “Today is a check – cash it! Yesterday is an I.O.U. – forget it! Tomorrow is a promissory note, don’t bank on it!” I think that’s a pretty good summation of life, so go out there and cash in on that “today” check.

01. Call an old friend, just to say hi.
02. Hold a door open for a stranger.
03. Invite someone to lunch.
04. Compliment someone on his or her appearance.
05. Ask a coworker for their opinion on a project.
06. Bring cookies to work.
07. Let someone cut in during rush hour traffic.
08. Leave a waitress or waiter a big tip.
09. Tell a cashier to have a nice day.
10. Call your parents.

11. Let someone know you miss them.
12. Treat someone to a movie.
13. Let a person know you really appreciate them.
14. Visit a retirement center.
15. Take a child to the zoo.
16. Fill up your spouse’s car with gas.
17. Surprise someone with a small gift.
18. Leave a thank-you note for the cleaning staff at work.
19. Write a letter to a distant relative.
20. Tell someone you thought about them the other day.

21. Put a dime in a stranger’s parking meter before the time expires.
22. Bake a cake for a neighbor.
23. Send someone flowers to where they work.
24. Invite a friend to tea.
25. Recommend a good book to someone.
26. Donate clothing to a charity.
27. Offer an elderly person a ride to where they need to go.
28. Bag your own groceries at the checkout counter.
29. Give blood.
30. Offer free baby-sitting to a friend who’s
really busy or just needs a break.

31. Help your n! eighbor rake leaves or shovel snow.
32. Offer your seat to someone when there aren’t any left.
33. Help someone with a heavy load.
34. Ask to see a store’s manager and comment on the great service.
35. Give your place in line at the grocery store
to someone who has only a few items.
36. Hug someone in your family for no reason.
37. Wave to a child in the car next to you.
38. Send a thank-you note to your doctor.
39. Repeat something nice you heard about someone else.
40. Leave a joke on someone’s answering machine.

41. Be a mentor or coach to someone.
42. Forgi! ve a loan.
43. Fill up the copier machine with paper after you’re done using it.
44. Tell someone you believe in them.
45. Share your umbrella on a rainy day.
46. Welcome new neighbors with flowers or a plant.
47. Offer to watch a friend’s home while they’re away.
48. Ask someone if they need you to pick up
anything while you’re out shopping.
49. Ask a child to play a board game, and let them win.
50. Ask an elderly person to tell you about the good old days.

51. During bad weather, plan an indoor picnic with the family.
52. Buy someone! a goldfish and bowl.
53. Compliment someone on their cooking and
politely ask for a second helping.
54. Dance with someone who hasn’t been asked.
55. Tell someone you mentioned them in your prayers.
56. Give children’s clothes to another family
when your kids outgrow them.
57. Deliver extra vegetables from your garden
to the whole neighborhood.
58. Call your spouse just to say, I love you.
59. Call someone’s attention to a rainbow or beautiful sunset.
60. Invite someone to go bowling.

61. Figure out someone’s half-birthday by adding 182 days,and surprise them with a cake.
62. Ask someone about their children.
63. Tell someone which quality you like most about them.
64. Brush the snow off of the car next to yours.
65. Return your shopping cart to the front of the store.
66. Encourage someone’s dream, no matter how big or small it is.
67. Pay for a stranger’s cup of coffee without them knowing it.
68. Leave a love letter where your partner will find it.
69. Ask an older person for their advice.
70. Offer to take care of someone’s pet while they’re away.

71. Tell a child you’re proud of them.
72! . Visit a sick person, or send them a care package.
73. Join a Big Brother or Sister program.
74. Leave a piece of candy on a coworker’s desk.
75. Bring your child to work with you for the afternoon.
76. Give someone a recording of their favorite music.
77. Email a friend some information about
a topic they are especially interested in.
78. Give someone a homemade gift.
79. Write a poem for someone.
80. Bake some cookies for your local fire or police department.

81. Organize a neighborhood cleanup and have a barbecue afterwards.
82. Help a child build a bird! house or similar project.
83. Check in on an old person, just to see if they’re okay.
84. Ask for the recipe after you eat over at someone’s house.
85. Personally welcome a new employee at work
and offer to take them out for lunch.
86. While in a car, ask everyone to buckle up
because they are important to you.
87. Let someone else eat the last slice of cake or pizza.
88. Stop and buy a drink from a kid’s lemonade stand.
89. Forgive someone when they apologize.
90. Wave to someone looking for a parking space when
you’re about to leave a shopping center.

91. Send a copy of an old photograph to a childhood friend.
92. Leave a pint of your spouse’s favorite flavor of
ice cream in the freezer with a bow on it.
93. Do a household chore that is usually done
by someone else in the family.
94. Be especially happy for someone when
they tell you their good news.
95. Compliment a coworker on their role in a successful project.
96. Give your spouse a spontaneous back rub at the end of the day.
97. Serve someone in your family breakfast in bed.
98. Ask someone if they’ve lost weight.
99. Make a donation to a charity in someone’s honor.
100. Take a child to a ballgame.

And last, but not least…

101. Share this list with your friends

Fall brings colored leaves and a new school year. From elementary school through college, the anticipation of meeting new teachers, new classmates and new friends can be an exciting, though daunting, experience. New groups of friends take shape. They can influence each other’s behavior, including activities that affect their health, such as smoking, drinking and taking illegal drugs. Recently, researchers have come to understand that social groups can influence health in more subtle ways as well, in people of all ages.

Friendships and peer groups provide more than simple companionship. Strong friendships may become the most important relationships you have, particularly during times of stress and change.

According to Dr. Kenneth Dodge, director of the Duke Transdisciplinary Prevention Research Center, peer groups play a significant role in setting the social norms in a child’s life. They help children develop good social skills. Acceptance into a peer group helps you learn to cooperate, interpret social cues, solve problems with other people, and see things from someone else’s perspective.

But peer groups can have a negative impact, too. Dr. Thomas Dishion, director of research for the Child and Family Center at the University of Oregon, says, “Peer groups have the strongest influence on attitudes and behavior, especially problem behavior.”

People often call the influence of peers on one another peer pressure. Dishion prefers to call it peer contagion, because it is more complicated than a group applying pressure to one person. The influences run back and forth between everyone in the group. It is the sum of all these interactions that affects each member. Dishion says, “It is a subtle social process, difficult to track and control.”

Being part of a group affects your tendency to make your own decisions. “Some kids abstain from decision making when they are in the context of their friends; they just go with the group,” Dishion says. For instance, you are less likely to stop smoking or drinking too much if those around you are doing it.

Adults aren’t immune to social effects, either. A recent NIH-funded study found that adults are more likely to become obese if a close friend or family member has put on some pounds. The effect was most striking when the 2 considered each other close friends. The risk of obesity rose by 171% after one of the friends had become obese.

“We didn’t find that people who were overweight simply flocked together,” explains Dr. Nicholas Christakis of Harvard Medical School, one of the study’s researchers. Rather, when people became obese, those close to them seemed more likely to become obese as well.

Researchers don’t understand exactly how this might work. One possibility is that norms shift within a social group when one person gains weight. Close friends and family might then find it more acceptable to put on extra pounds. Scientists hope that future research will help them develop strategies for harnessing the power of social relationships to encourage healthier habits.

NIH currently funds several studies designed to examine how social factors (such as families, friends, peers, schools, neighborhoods and communities) influence teens’ health and risk behaviors. Researchers hope to use this growing body of knowledge to develop strategies to encourage healthier behaviors.

One sure way to affect the health behavior of your children is to help them as they choose a social group. Though children in particular may identify with a certain peer group for a period of time, they often move from group to group.

“Which peer group children end up staying in is dependent on how readily accepted they are into the group,” Dodge says. “When they are looking for a peer group to join, they seek other kids who are similar to them.” If the common ground for the peer group is deviant behavior, it will most likely reinforce problem behaviors in the future.

But Dodge says that parents of kids and teens don’t have to take a back-seat in their children’s choice of peer group. Parents play a unique role in developing opportunities for their children. They make decisions about where to live, where to send their children to school, what after-school activities their children attend and how much contact they have with other family members.

Dishion suggests that parents try to help their children find a positive social niche early on. It becomes more difficult to guide children into a specific niche once they’ve reached adolescence.

He also suggests that parents stay involved in their children’s lives. Research has shown, he says, that the earlier parents stop monitoring their children, the higher their children’s risk for problem behaviors.

“The most important thing parents can do is place controls over the environments their children are placed in,” Dodge adds. “The exposure that kids have to other kids is determined largely by the parent. Knowledge of your children’s activities and better communication between parent and child will create more favorable outcomes for your child.”

Recognizing how peer pressure works is the first step to resisting it. Some common ways our peers influence us to do things:

Rejection: Threatening to end a friendship or relationship. This pressure can be hard to resist because nobody wants to lose friends. Examples of pressure by rejection:

* Who needs you as a friend anyway?
* If you don’t [fill in the blank—for example, drink, smoke, take drugs] we won’t hang out any more.

Put Downs: Insulting or calling a person names to make them feel bad. Examples of put downs:

* You’re never any fun.
* You’re such a baby.
* You’re so uncool.

Reasoning: Offering reasons why a person should try something or why it would be OK. Examples of pressure by reasoning are:

* It won’t hurt you.
* Your parents will never find out.

Unspoken Pressure: Something you feel without anyone saying anything to you. You feel it if you want to do the same things others are doing. Some unspoken pressure tricks are:

* The Huddle—A group of kids stands together, with everyone talking and maybe looking at something you can’t see, laughing and joking.
* The Look—Kids who think they’re cool will give you a certain look that means, “We’re cool and you’re not.”
* The Example—A group of popular kids decide to get the same backpack and you want one, too.

We live as if we are never going to die and we die as if we never
lived”

“First I was dying to finish high school and start college. And then I was dying to finish college and start working. And then i was dying to marry and have children. And then I was dying for my children to grow old enough so I could return to work. And then I was dying to retire. And now, I am dying … And suddenly realize I forgot to live.”

Please don’t let this happen to you. Appreciate your situation and enjoy each day.

Have you read this before?

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the
way you react to situations).

What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided
by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot
stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving,
which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in
traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is
different. You determine the other 90%.

How?

By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can
control your reaction.

Don’t let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let’s use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over
a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over
what just what happened. What happens when the next will be
determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your
daughter for knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse
and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the
table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change
your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy
crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the
bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you
are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a
15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at
school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot
your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it
seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When
you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your
spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a
bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is ” D”.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently
say, “It’s ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time”.
Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and
your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window
and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You
arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss
comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios.
Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don’t be a sponge. Let
the attack roll off like water on glass. You don’t have to let the
negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your
day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired,
getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the
steering wheel fall off)
Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump
them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the
cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It
will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another
job.The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the
day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has
no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know
the other passenger.
Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know
the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.
You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this
principle.

The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress,
trials, problems and heartache.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

Regards

Here are some tips to lift heavy objects safely
1. Stand close to the load and center yourself over it with your feet shoulder width apart.
2. Tighten your abdominal muscles. . Keeping your back straight, bend your knees and squat down to the floor.
3. Get a good grasp on the load with both hands
4. Keeping the load close to your body use your leg muscles to stand up lifting the load off the floor.
5. Your back should remain straight throughout lifting, using only the muscles in the legs to lift the load.
6. Do not twist your body when moving the load. Instead, take small steps with your feet turning until your are in the correct position.
7. Again bend at the knees using only your leg muscles and place the load in the appropriate spot.