Life Questions You and Me!

Is 'being Qualified' less essential than 'being Certified'?

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 05:56:00 +0000

Why is 'being Qualified' not enough & 'being Certified' both Essential & Necessary at the same time?

Oh wait! Yes, it is. ;) Welcome to India!

Well, I do hope that our readers take above statement as Sarcasm. Why am I flagging this issue? Reason is simple & perhaps, the Logic would be clear, in case it has not struck in your mind. For the later case, where you haven't guessed you are really a very simple and humble thinker; we are talking about........

To be published next month.

What makes you Happy, Emotional or Sad?

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 03:18:00 +0000

Tags Used: Psychology, Human Psyche, Happiness, Happiness Chemicals, Peace, Serenity, Meditation, Chocolate, Mint, Green Tea, Oranges.

Environment.

Pedigree or Heredity Enzymes or Genetic Architecture.

Colors & Domestic Ambiance.

Friends & Family.

How you choose your friends and how they behave with you matters a lot.

Food.

Food for Mind matters a lot.

What you feed to your brain makes you think like it. Some researches have shown that following Vegetarianism helps a lot to make yourself positive. They write that the content received from killing something for food leaves a drastic impact as even after cooking the genetic variations in its DNA??? can not be altered. and thoughts that were cultivated from the Animals body will be mixed in the blood of its Consumer. This makes it obvious

Man of your Word. Carrying a Code? Doesn't matter.

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 03:15:00 +0000

Sometimes even Common Sense is Blind.

I am a Man of my Word? Or am I not?

A Gentleman's Requirements. The Test.

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 03:14:00 +0000

So, What does it Require to be a Gentleman?
Is there a Checklist?
Should we Count the CRPs used to Bring you up from Childhood?

Should I Stop being Humble?

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 03:12:00 +0000

How Much do you Need?

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 03:10:00 +0000

Post will be coming next month most probably.

Read Newspaper in the Least Time Possible!

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 03:08:00 +0000

How to Read Newspaper? Efficiently?

“The millstones of the gods grind late,” the great sceptic philosopher Sextus Empiricus said, “but they grind fine.”

Content getting Ready! Hope you come again in a few days to read more.

Abhi ki Party

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Tue, 21 Jul 2015 12:33:00 +0000

अभी की पार्टी शुरू हुई है।

It is said and you know it very well that "A pen is mightier than a sword". Well, not very interested in what a sword can do other that learning the precision it delivers when in on the job but I love the way the writing instruments can fashion out & design the vista of unseen & impossibles of life.

This is about what I wanted to be granted as a wish in my past, that's very obvious when I tell you that I wanted a senior just like you in my College days. What I saw in you and why the heck I mean by this crazy jargon? You see my life was cool, I got most of what I wanted, but only after working like an ass towing water from around the world for it. So yes I was cool and the wits could surround anyone but in this hellish world full of mean people, greedy and self-centered one needs to be polished such that the person can tackle the situations and not vice-versa. I lacked a lot of talent that comprises of cleverness so that the world doesn't mistrust you and never disowns you. I consider myself worthy of having the luck that bounds me to the things I like and not what the people want from me. Someone very important to me says that listen to everyone and do what you think is the best. I do that all the time, though my track-record returned a highly inefficient resume to me. To correct this something good, someone good always happen in my life. Thanks for hacking all the way into my life and making fun of me (in a positive way :) ) that lead to stabilize my patience and increase my tolerance only to further up the emotional balance in my veins.

This may be a very boring piece of words but trust me I mean every word. I am nearing my goal in some way or other and my vote of thanks doesn't leave the station till it delivers the returns to you.

We friends love the wits and humor you've got that can make people occupied at all times giving them high enough to break the sweat in their bones. I understand you're getting what I'm saying as this is a public blog and the ethics policy doesn't allow my will to use stronger words. It was an adventure going for rides to the haunted to experience the supernatural of things and even better having a sip of hot tea in the cold or rainy or smoky weather of Delhi. We've individually seen different versions of you and most were not that humorous but since we respect you a lot, we laugh at all times. Please continue throwing that raw utterly meaningless words that can surprise the lower substratum of wags among us.

Please treat this as an extension of that meagre gift I'll present. Please continue to ignore my cons and stay put by giving me the chances. I assure you to amaze you on and on. Happy birthday bhaiya!

Nailed it!

P.S.: I suggest you exercise caution after reading this whole, as you may require meds of superior nature available only at few places, you know what I mean (GWL or AGC type special hospitals).

वो लड़की! (Updated)

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Mon, 06 Jul 2015 07:51:00 +0000

छम्म सी पायलिया उसको लुभाए, घुंघरू की गुंजन से वो जाने क्यूँ घबराए ?

झाँसी की रानी सी आए, खौफ़ -ए-रुखसत दिखाये, छिछोरों की शामत आ जाए।

विश्रंभ की धनी यह लड़की पल-पल भ्रमित हो जाये, हालाँकि हाथ उठाये तो कुछ भी कर जाए।

इतराती सी वो, बार-बार शरमाये, अगर हस जाए, तो दिल जाने कितनों के ले जाए।

फ़ितरत की बात अब मैं क्या करूँ, सामने आये तो माहौल ख़ुशनुमा बना जाए।

वो सुन्दर, प्यारी सी लड़की, दिल में आए, तो कलम भी ये लिख जाए।

***

How silly of me?

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Sun, 22 Mar 2015 16:30:00 +0000

Hey!

Things are fine now. Thanks for the help. It seems that I'm more rude than imagined. I came to know that I was running away from the past and the mistakes so made back there. It is also very clear that friends help to carry away the burden long delving in the mind, stuck there like a worm. I'm grateful for your help. I was wary of my nature as it was turning out to be more arrogant everyday. I had this very adamant ego clouded all around so much that I took it as attitude. Attitude differs from ego we've studied and known well. Thanks to you guys to make me realize that ego is always a root cause of misunderstandings. Feeling happy and way more peaceful at mind.
Apologies for my earlier mistakes and a one on one session would be fine for us to clear any more misunderstanding lying amongst us. It'll be better that you announce your arrival weeks ahead and tell them to everyone at once. Together as a team, we'll be less inclined to make mistakes. You guys were partially very correct when you told me that group has to adjust, make space for all to accommodate every thought that might suit & soothe leading to greatest times of fun and adventure.
Ego clashes will come again hence and forth but if we try to amend our behavior the frequency will reduce to zero, and that I think is the goal of life. So friend I hope that this Philosophy lecture stands true to both of us and ensures a way to slimmest of problems.
Take care. 😀
Jsk!

P.S.: This message was composed in one go, so it's better it stays with you unless interpreted the correctly. Others are cordially invited to read and share an opinion.

अब तुम बच्चे नहीं रहे, बच्चे!

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 18:30:00 +0000

I believe that you've become more intelligent than before, or let's say that it happens with all normal people with average or above average intelligence. It's high time and no one wants to let it go. Switching from Philosophy; I can't forget the day you were born. You can't imagine how much jealous I was. I thought that mom will stop loving me because you were getting all the attention. What happened was quite different; In fact what happens when a brother gets a little sister, he gets really lucky, she comes at an ex-officio position of being the bro's best friend. Very often may seem to be a bit less but above mentioned social animals also exhibit the natural animalistic tendency and fight a lot. Both regret but they rarely ever mention these so-not-cool emotions and I respect that a lot.

Till you happened, I was alone child mostly afraid of bullies (and I know you too helped beating an opponent of mine when I was small and you were like 'tiny'). It took long to adjust in the world where every other person is eager to mess up with you. When I started to deal with these situations, then only I realised the times weren't tough but I was much scared of the negative outcomes (equalled in my head). You too have to deal with the things, to adapt the conditions you're facing now (and yes, it goes exactly as written in our biology textbooks when they explain evolution).

Pacing up with the environment you'll adapt the ambiance simultaneously dealing with different types of tempers. You have to accept the impossible, handle the things in situ. Bad times come for all but since we're well connected, we know how to cope up and survive well while steadily accruing XPs to get close to our wins.

Hence it doesn’t matter whatever happened, now time is in your hands, and it's completely on you to take a blunt advantage of all that.

Stop chasing luck and follow your dreams, somehow your heart knows the exact balance of what you need and what you want. It also knows very well that how to achieve the impossible. The hardship it requires lies in yourself although it may happen that sometimes it takes time to calibrate how to use your body's potential and your mind's unwillingness to work in tandem with each other. The gist takes us to the simplest advice your mind is not willing to accept, that go ahead with you thought best and who knows how good you do.

जब कोई मंज़िल हासिल करने की मन ठान ही ले तो वह तक पहुचने में मन आपको भी सोने नहीं देता। समझ प्रबल है की उस मंज़िल को हासिल करना अत्यधिक आसान हो जाता है।

Wishing you the best of times and a very Happy Birthday!

[Raw*] Resolution: The New Year Blog

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Thu, 01 Jan 2015 18:27:00 +0000

Happy New Year! Best words to start this one. Sticking to my resolution to be___. It’s nothing new for us humans having an innate ability to procrastinate a lot and mostly all the time. Oh yeah!

Afraid of the future and agitated with the past, I was unable to put myself together and do something with my career.

Ditch the emotions.

The memories you have can be cherished throughout life, but the present isn’t going to come again.

Face your problems peacefully with courage.

Now is the best time. Don’t find a time slot to procrastinate.

Realise your mistakes and start saying Sorry. Apologise for your bad behaviour. Accept your mistakes. You’re not here to show your ego because even if people won’t accept or tell you in face, but they care for you. A simple “Sorry” can solve that much of problems that you can’t even imagine.

Stop thinking mundane.

Be Happy

Tell them that you care for them.

Arrogance & Ego are bad, even for you.

You share many relationships in your life, mostly the vivid part sticks around your academic life…

What it does to you? What it makes you? Where does it lead you to? You meet people, fall in love, make friends, do the most amazing of things, discover new things…

We take new year resolutions every year, some make it and some don’t. but most people find themselves wandering around their habits, they find their mistakes, they try to correct them, many do succeed and again the world is always left with some who stuck somewhere in middle and make their life suck. Just think if we stop committing things to ourselves every now and them and make a habit of not changing ourselves but improving at every feasible point.

The world keeps changing and the life goes on.

Resolutions on No-resolutions, it doesn’t matter as long as you’re true to yourself and your commitments.

So stop taking mere resolutions, ditch your stupidity, find peace, keep calm, be happy and start living your life instead of living it for others (or others living it for you).

An Open Letter to my Intoxicated Friends! [Updated]

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Tue, 30 Dec 2014 02:37:00 +0000

Hey buddy, you need to read the following carefully and understand it well that like you, everyone other has the same feelings and desires, their Haves and ~~(have not's~~) Have-Nots. People will not always likely in the mood to count you in or listen to your quests. You may become an expert in boozing and joints but some of us are never in the mood to get high in your distinct style (smoking, drinking, searching for more liquor in the wake of the night, then finishing this recently bought bottle, and then getting in the mood to eat, exactly when the rest of the world starts getting up from the bed). We like to have snacks only as our starters, food as main course and actual deserts as deserts instead of you guys eating the food in the end. I totally understand that you can't drink after eating but dude, you've got to respect our Dinner timetables.

It is often and very frequent for me to hear from you that I'm being a moron or jerk (or, being highly frank you never use this good jargon to address me) for not allowing you to drink or to smoke in my room. You of all the rest should understand that this is actually the individual difference and my personal choice beside my ethics that don;t allow me to do all of this. I've never done that and hopefully I'm not in a mood to do so in the future as well. You've got to respect my boundaries, as meagrely you're not solely the one among many social animals that exist in my inner circle. When a person doesn't like anything and regularly resists doing that, then you should have the decency to not ask for your desire s the person next to you gets frustrated by your presence.

Enjoying a movie at a cheaper ticket in some odd place in the town makes great sense when my sole presence is amongst you. Then you start comparing this with a person who does the job of a peon at my place to whom I committed for a movie, which in fact happened to be at a higher price what I spent on you. This strictly doesn't mean that I value you better than him. Of all, I didn't expect this from you, taking things to the most mundane level, the monetary way. Come on friend you need to grow up and get over your sense of loneliness. At the end it'll only be you who has to made a decision of whether to share a friendship or a business relationship with me.

You dudes always poke me for mingling one's life into another; just look at yourselves when you magically make me popular among your better friends and make fun of me. I hope you really do enjoy the laughter because I never do. And in my vocabulary this process sticks very close to the hybrid of backstabbing and mingling stories.

When we became friends, I didn't remember signing an agreement in which the rules were laid out to support drinking or smoking for good. Also in the friendship agreement, there stays a clause of mutual understanding and caring besides respecting one's personal and professional boundaries. I seriously take things at heart when a good friends starts demotivating or demeaning me, (and you know what, every normal person shares the same feeling).

P.S.: I really don't care what you think of me from now on because I'm frustrated of what's all that's happening and I expect your decency to grant me the privilege of letting me be myself, stop dictating my life in a negative fashion and enjoy Happy Times when we meet.

This ~~still is~~ might still be an unfinished article, ~~which needed to be~~ was published right at ~~this~~ that very moment for you to understand the little things that matter.

Mindblowing pieces of Hindi Daily!

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Thu, 07 Aug 2014 13:51:00 +0000

I came across these on the return journey from my home during last month. Read the following and get enlightened.

इन दो अंशों से मेरा सरोकार हुआ घर से वापसी की यात्रा के दौरान रेलगाड़ी में, पहला 2008 के मुंबई धमकों के मास्टरमाइंड हाफ़िज़ सईद और मशहूर पत्रकार वेद प्रताप वैदिक के वार्तालाप के बारे में एक व्यंग है और दूसरा ओशो द्वारा लिखा गया एक लेख जो मैं और तू के होने पे सवाल उठता है ।

[Lehron se Darr Kar]

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 00:08:00 +0000

Lahro se dar kar noka par nahi hoti

Kosis karne walo ki kabhi har nahi hoti

Nanhi chiti jab dana lekar chalti hai

Chadti divaro se so bar fisalti hai

Man ka visvas rago me sahas bhar deta hai

Gir kar chadhna chadkar girna isiliye na akhrta hai

Mehnat uski khali har bar nahi hoti

Kosis karne walo ki kabhi har nahi hoti

Dubkiyan sindhu me gotakhor lagate hain

Jakar khali hath lot aate hain

Milte na sahaj moti gahre pani me

badhta duguna utsah isi herani me

muthi uski khale har bar nahi hoti

Mehnat karne walo ki kabhi har nahi hoti

Asafalta ek chunoti hai ise swikar karo

kya kami rah gai hai dekho or sudhar karo

jab tak na safal ho nind chain ki tyago tum

sangharso ka maidan chod mat bhago tum

kutch kiye bina hi jay jaykar nahi hoti

mehnat karne walo ke kabhi har nahi hoti.

[B*] A short film on Statue Of Unity - English

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Sat, 02 Nov 2013 09:46:00 +0000

http://www.youtube.com/v/qgcGf0YGvSQ?version=3&autohide=1&feature=share&autohide=1&attribution_tag=LKY6FA0vRrDoxnJiaTsvoA&showinfo=1&autoplay=1

[B*] Steve Jobs' Stanford Speech

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 22:02:00 +0000

Steve Jobs - Stanford Commencement Speech

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The third story first.

My third story is about death - When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumour on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumour. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope it's the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It is life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and Polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. Thank you all very much.
The first story is about connecting the dots - I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out? It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the seven miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it's likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
My second story is about love and loss - I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2bn company with over 4,000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our board of directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it.

"Don't settle."

[B*] The Burnt Biscuits (Story via forwarded e-mail)

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 13:33:00 +0000

When I was a kid, my mom would prepare special breakfast every now and then. And I remember one night in particular, after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit , smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that biscuit and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said: Honey, I love burned biscuits.

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned.

He wrapped me in his arms and said, Your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides - a little burnt biscuit never hurt anyone! You know, life is full of imperfect things.....and imperfect people. I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else.

What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults - and choosing to celebrate each others differences - is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God. Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt biscuit isn't a deal-breaker!

We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket - keep it in your own.

God Bless You all Now and Always!

So Please pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burnt one will do just fine!! And PLEASE pass this along to someone who has enriched your life.

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सपने और सच्चाई

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Wed, 04 May 2011 12:13:00 +0000

इस ब्लॉग के लिखने के पीछे का एकमात्र चाहत यह कि सपने और सच्चाई में छुपी हुई कड़ी को समझना |
सपने सच्चे ही देखने चाहिए, सच्चे सपने सभी के लिए लाभदायक होंगे | अगर हम सपनो में सच्चाई देखना चालू कर देंगे तो हम बुरे सपने भी ना के बराबर ही देखेंगे और हमारा व्यक्तित्व सकारात्मक रहेगा | एक अच्छे इंसान में यह खासियत होती है |
सपने और सच्चाई में समन्वय बनाये रखने के लिए अपने सपने में सच्चाई देखें, आपको आपका रास्ता अपने आप ही मिल जायेगा |
कुछ होने के लिए भी तो सपना देखना पड़ता है .. कुछ करने के लिए भी तो सपना देखना पड़ता है ..
वैसे .. वस्तुतः यह अलग बात है की सपने देखने में और सपनों में रहने में ज़ाहिर तौर पर काफी फर्क है
सपने में रहते हुए हवा में ही गोते मारना सरासर गलत है ..
कुछ ऊँचा करने की सोच रखना या उसे असलियत में बदलने के लिए भी ऐसी सोच को विक्सित करना ज़रूरी है .. अगर ऐसी ही वास्तविक भाव में नहीं रहेगी तो कुछ होने या साकार करने के आसार ही खत्म हो जायेंगे ..
एक अच्छी सोच के पीछे एक छोटा सा नकारात्मक विचार भी एक तीली से आग भडकाने का काम कर देता है |
अच्छी सोच और एक सही द्रष्टिकोण रखने से भाव में अच्छी चीज़ें असलियत में होती हैं, अच्चा सोचें, सच्चे और सबके हित में सोचें, तो चीज़ें अपने आप होंगी, the feasibility will surely come !
Try making a prolonged thinker personality upon the smear of the edge .. The thing like viability, feasibility reliability will instantly follow, while you'll be diligent enough to carryout the realm, you're actually working on ..
अपने अंदर एक अच्छाई और नेक स्वाभाव के होने से बढ़प्पन का भाव स्वयं घर करेगा।
ये सभी चीज़ें शीघ्र अति शीघ्र चालू करने से आएँगी।
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सही समय

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Wed, 04 May 2011 12:06:00 +0000

निश्चय ही जिंदगी के लगभग हर पल,

हम किसी काम को करने से पहले, सही वक्त का इन्तेज़ार करते हैं,

हम सही समय का इन्तेज़ार करने में काफी समय व्यर्थ में गवां देते हैं

जबकि आम तौर पर यह देखा गया है कि अगर किसी काम को करने के लिए,
हम अच्छे से अच्छा मौका भी गवां देते हैं

अपने सही मौके को जाने और खुद से ही सही-गलत का फैसला लें

अपने जीवन के लिए सबसे सही परामर्श आप खुद ही दे सकते हैं, ज़रूरत है तो बस सही, सच्ची और पूर्णतः सकारात्मक सोच की.

मेरे या किसी और के बताने से या तो आप बहक सकते हैं या कभी कभार आपका निश्चय और भी दृढ हो सकता है, लेकिन पूरी भूमिका हमारी खुद कि ही है, हम चाहे तो उसे एक गलत रास्ता दिख्के मोड दें, या उसे एक नई राह दिखाकर, एक सही फैसले कि तरफ कदम बढ़ाये

जिंदगी कि हर राह पर फैसला सिर्फ हमारा ही है

सवालों के जवाब हमेशा कि किसी ऐसे से पूछने कि आदत डालें जो आपको समझ के भी सही निश्चय लेता हो, ज़रूरी नहीं कि अगर उसका जवाब आपके पक्ष में घूम रहा है तो वह फैसला भी सही हो या नहीं..

यह लेख आगे भी जारी रहेगा .. कृपया प्रतीक्षारत होकर पुनः पधरे। आभर।

एक नयी शुरुआत !

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Sun, 20 Feb 2011 10:38:00 +0000

जिंदगी, सवाल, आप और मैं एक पहल है, जिंदगी के समावेश में छुपे हुए अंधकार को निकलने के लिए, इंसानियत का व्यक्तित्व निखारने के लिए !
हमें आपसे सवाल करने कि आशा है,
हमारे सहयोग में सहयोग दे !
-निशांत कटारे

हिंदी में ब्लॉग लिखने की शुरुआत इस पोस्ट से हुयी थी ।

Heart of Gratitude

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 12:19:00 +0000

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat.

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?"

The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way."

I wrote: "Today is a beautiful day but I cannot see it."

Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people that they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have.. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively.

When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear.

The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling!

And even more beautiful is, knowing that you are the reason behind it!!!

Enjoy your day with a heart of gratitude.

[B*]10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 12:21:00 +0000

Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones.

Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You’ll notice a huge difference in everything you do.

Let’s take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges — get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the world for me.

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).

Problem: If you think you can’t be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, you’ll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied — we want more.

Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn’t have to be some state that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.

2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).

Problem: We’ll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.

Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.

3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.

Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful — in different ways.

Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself — you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn’t even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.

4. I am a miserable failure — I can’t seem to do anything right.

Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.

Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them — keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you’ve accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It’s an incredibly positive feeling.

5. I’m going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I’m better than him. And there’s no way I’ll help him succeed — he might beat me.

Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can’t also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.

Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.

6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?

Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.

Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don’t let it hold you back. Don’t dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.

7. You can’t do anything right! Why can’t you be like ____ ?

Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we’d be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.

Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.

8. Your work sucks. It’s super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.

Problem: I’ve actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let’s look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It’s also not a good way to make friends.

Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way — it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That’s a good thing.

9. Insulting People Back

Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.

Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don’t let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more — why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.

10. I don’t think I can do this — I don’t have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.

Problem: If you don’t think you can do something, you probably won’t. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it — motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for “some other time”, you’ll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.

Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don’t need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.

Delete your history from public places..!

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[B*] Bill Gates Story...!

noreply@blogger.com (NK) — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 09:59:00 +0000

A Class in Bangalore

Parikrma is an innovative school serving elementary and high school students from some of the poorest communities in Bangalore. Parikrma’s goal is to transform lives by providing children with world-class educational opportunities. Here are their questions for Bill.

Conversation

Nikhil

Computers accept data in the form of ones and zeroes. Why can’t they understand normal language?

Bill

Ones and zeroes are the most basic language that we use to write instructions to tell computers how to do things we want them to do. The more complicated the task is, the harder it is to write instructions that get the results we want.

As it turns out, human language is one of the hardest challenges in computer science. People pronounce the same words in different ways. Words that sound the same have different meanings. The same sentence can have very a different meaning depending on how you say it. It’s very hard to use ones and zeros to convey all the subtle differences in language that are very easy for people to understand.

The good news is that we are making great progress in this area today. Soon, I think we’ll see computer programs that really understand what you say and answer in ways that sounds very human.

Nengneilam Haokip

Why did you leave Harvard University?

Bill

I loved college. It was so exciting to have conversations with lots of really smart people my age and to learn from great professors. But in December of 1974, when my friend Paul Allen showed me the issue of Popular Electronics that had the Altair 8800 on the cover, we knew it was the beginning of a major change. The Altair was the first minicomputer kit that came with Intel’s 8080 microprocessor chip.

For a while, Paul and I had been talking about how that chip would make computers affordable for the average person someday. We had the idea that this would create huge opportunities to write really interesting software that lots of people would buy. Once the Altair 8800 came out, we wanted to be among first to start a business to write software for this new generation of computers. We were afraid if we waited, someone else would beat us to it.

It was a hard decision and I know my parents had their concerns. And while I would never encourage anyone to drop out of school, for me, it turned out to be the right choice.

Chaitra Achar

What was your ambition when you were small? Have you achieved everything that you had thought of?

Bill

I dreamed about software that would help people get their work done and computers that would be easy to learn from and talk to, and we’ve made incredible progress toward achieving these things. But you never want to get to the finish line, because then you wouldn’t know what to do next. In the world of software, computers aren’t as simple or as natural to use as they need to be. There are many things they don’t help with. So there’s still a lot to be done.

And in the area of the work of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, the number of children who die every year before they turn five is below 9 million a year. That’s a huge improvement over 10 or 20 years ago and today, the goal is to bring that under 5 million a year. But as long as there are children dying before the age of five, there will still be a lot of work to do.

Sowmya N

Do you think you can give access to computers to every single person in the world?

Bill

My hope is that someday, everyone in the world will have access to the things that computers are so good at providing – like access to information, the ability to communicate easily with other people, and software that helps you do things more quickly and easily.

But today, there are so many people who lack even the basic things they need to live healthy, productive lives. For them, owning a computer is really a very small priority. For children who live where there is no electricity, who don’t have enough food to eat or safe water to drink, and who can’t go to a doctor when they are sick, being able to use a computer just isn’t very important.

Chaitra Achar

You are helping so many HIV patients. Do you think you will be able to find a cure for it?

Bill

I don’t know if we’ll ever be able to find a cure, but I do think that it won’t be too long before we can develop ways to protect people from getting it in the first place. My hope is that in the next five years or so, we’ll have pills that people can take to protect themselves temporarily from getting HIV. This will dramatically reduce the annual rate at which people become infected, which will be a great step.

Developing a vaccine that provides long-term protection against HIV has turned out to be very complex. Even though there were recent reports of vaccine trials that showed some positive results, I think it may take 10 years or more before we have a vaccine ready for widespread use. Until that happens, HIV will continue to be a problem.

The thing that gives me hope is that there are a lot of really great scientists around the world who are all working together to make progress. I’ve always believed that if you focus enough brainpower, even the most difficult problem can be solved eventually.

Nengneilam Haokip

What inspired you to do philanthropic work?

Bill

The philanthropic work has a lot of similarities to the early years at Microsoft where you had a lot of really smart people working on interesting and difficult problems where they still needed to figure out what approaches to take and what questions to ask. With Microsoft it was software and computing. With the foundation, it’s addressing the needs of the very poor. A lot of these problems don’t get much visibility because they only impact poor countries. You need to get the smartest people you can find and show them exactly what problems they should be working on.

With the foundation, I saw an opportunity that would be as fulfilling as Microsoft and would give me a chance to use the resources that I am lucky enough to have from Microsoft to benefit society in the most impactful way. And while I did leave behind work at Microsoft that I love to do, I am deeply engaged in the health problems and other issues that the foundation is working on.

Education In This Region

For rural citizens who migrate to cities in search of better lives, education is the key to a better future. Unfortunately, India’s public education system faces significant challenges, including high dropout rates, inadequate training for teachers, and outdated teaching methods. The students themselves often lack access to health care and adequate nutrition. Parikrma aims to help provide even the poorest students with life-changing educational opportunities. By focusing on nutrition and healthcare, Parikrma is helping its students overcome some of the barriers that make it so difficult for the very poorest to get ahead. And with its emphasis on English language training, Parikrma is expanding students’ horizons and providing them with skills that are essential in India’s urban job market.

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