“Sex-ified” Infographic is a post from: No Strings Dating

If you’re a guy, and you view pornography, you know damn well you will have expectations. You will expect her (wife, girlfriend, one-night stand) to look, perform, and respond like the two-dimensional, air-brushed babes who pout, pose, and expose themselves for the camera. And when she doesn’t, you’re flummoxed. Poor thing.

Porn purposely creates unrealistic fantasies in a guy’s gray matter. Why? Because pornographers know if men take fantasies into the bedroom, they will fail as lovers. Why do pornographers want you to fail between the sheets? So they can hook you into buying their smut. How else do you think Hugh Hefner got rich? In 2009, Hef estimated his own net worth at $43 million. But I digress.

Pornographers are not educators. They do not teach men how to be stellar sex machines. Instead, porn promotes masturbation, voyeurism, and urealistic perceptions of women. Is it any wonder your sexual maneuvers are mechanical and muddled? You can thank your buddy Hef for making you inept.  Ignore porn, ask her what she likes. Ignore porn, it’s overrated. Ignore porn, it’s outdated. Ignore porn, it messes with your head.

Yeah, both of them.

Editors note-While using porn as an instruction manual of sorts isn’t something we’d recommend, we can’t deny that porn can be fun when used along with your partner in the bedroom.  Just don’t rely on it, people!  The real deal is ALWAYS better…and lasts longer.

Do Men Who Look At Porn Make Bad Lovers? is a post from: No Strings Dating

Of all the many reasons to have sex, doing it for health benefits never really makes the list! However, sex really does do a body good…here are 5 health benefits of sex that might surprise you!

1. Having sex can make you look prettier!  When women have sex, their body produces extra estrogen-double what they would have otherwise. Estrogen is known as the fountain of youth for women, and it makes your hair shinier and your skin smoother!  So ladies, consider sex the ultimate beauty makeover-I know I will be.

2. Sex can keep you healthy! Often when you’re super busy or stressed, sex is the first thing that gets pushed aside.  But wait-before you go lamenting that you’re “too tired for sex” consider this-sex actually lowers your blood pressure which in turn, lowers your stress levels.  In addition, getting busy under the covers on a regular basis increases your bodies production of antibodies which help fight off colds and flu!  Do it for your health!

3. Sex makes you sleep better!  Have you ever been annoyed when you were ready for round two but your partner passes out cold on the pillow next to you?  You can’t really blame him-after sex, hormones that induce sleep and promotes a calm state of mind are released, making it nearly impossible to resist drifting off into a dream like slumber!

4. Sex burns calories! Forget going for a long run…have sex instead! 30 minutes of sex burns roughly 90 calories, which might not sound like much but can certainly add up over time!  Much better workout than a session at the gym, right?

5. Sex makes you more confident! When you feel deeply connected and desired by someone, your self esteem soars.  Sex also promotes a feeling of knowing what you like and what you want from a partner, and the ability to express these things naturally makes you feel better about yourself. Plus, when you’re naked and contorted into some weird position, you better feel confident-or fake it, at least!

5 Surprising Health Benefits Of Sex is a post from: No Strings Dating

Why You Should Be Using Sex Toys-Video is a post from: No Strings Dating

Recently, yahoo published an interesting article sharing the Top Ten Sex Facts From History.  I thought it would be fun to take a closer look at a few, and see how things have changed…or have they?

1.”Do you have a return or exchange policy on wives?” Yep, in 953 Russia, it was legal for men to return their wives if they found out they were not as virginal as they’d thought…or hoped.

Can you even imagine if this “law” still existed?  The thing is, most men don’t necessarily want to marry a virgin anymore…they like to take the car for a test drive before they buy it, you know?  And these days, an experienced woman is considered a GREAT thing-I’ve never heard a guy say “Wow, my girlfriend is just too experienced and too amazing and knows what she’s doing in bed way too much…” No way, if anything, they brag about it!

2. A Sex Prescription!  This is a law I WISH was still in full effect.  Apparently, if you got sick in the 19th century, a doctor might prescribe some one on one time with a vibrator. That will certainly cure what ails you!

3. Size Matters.  Yep, and it still does-I don’t care what anyone says. In the old days, men would wear a “codpiece”…a pouch that made their package look bigger, and therefore, more attractive to the ladies.  Ok, I get this-but isn’t it like a woman who stuffs her bra so her chest will look bigger, but when you get underneath it all, a flat chest is a flat chest.  If I was under the impression that a guy was packing serious heat downstairs, I would be insanely disappointed if it didn’t measure up…literally.

4. Cone Shaped Boobs. Throughout history, men can’t decide what they prefer when it comes to boobies!  Forget big boobs-during the Renaissance, men preferred their woman to have a cone shaped chest, which of course brings to mind Madonna’s cone shaped bra from the early 90s.

5. They took “safe sex” to extremes.  Sneezing, mercury, crocodile dung,  jumping backwards were all methods used to prevent pregnancy back in the day. Glad things have changed…can’t imagine jumping backwards into a pile of crocodile crap while sneezing would be a good time…or an effective one!

Top 5 Sex Facts From History-What Has Changed? is a post from: No Strings Dating

Hey sexy people! Hope you’re having an awesome weekend.  Just popping in to let you know that our guest post “Why Everyone Should Try Casual Dating At Least Once” is up on The Urban Dater!

I’ll be back with a special Valentine’s Day video tomorrow, but until then go check out our post, it’s a good one! xoxo

Guest Post On The Urban Dater! is a post from: No Strings Dating

Dress Up For The Occasion-Who cares what you wear out to dinner?  What’s more important is what you’re wearing in the bedroom.  Skip the flirty, demure and innocent look and bring out your naughty side…Valentine’s Day only happens once a year afterall!  Corsets, garter belts, babydolls, teddies-put on something that you know will drive him wild.  This one is my fav-Available at ASOS

Toys aren’t just for kids! Sex toys can enhance your sexual experience ten fold, but a lot of people are hesitant to try them out.  Don’t be scared, sex toys run the gamet from  vibrators, beads, couples rings, blindfolds and even to  body massage oil that heats up on contact…you can start slow, there’s something for everyone. Let technology help you out, if you know what I mean.

Eat dinner…off of each other.  While other couples are in some cramped restaurant eating pasta, have your own special dinner of a different kind.  Edible body paints and body frostings are a sexy way to celebrate Valentine’s day AND get some nutrition in! Well, I don’t know about the nutrition part, but at least you won’t starve.  Most kits come with feather applicators and a variety of flavors. Yummy…of course, whipped cream and chocolate sauce always work in a pinch, too.

Other sexy ideas for Valentine’s Day-

Have sex in public.

Try out some new sex positions.

Or check out our other sex tips for ideas to sexify any night, not just Valentine’s Day!

How To Have A Sexy As Hell Valentine’s Day is a post from: No Strings Dating

No Strings Attached sex is easier said than done. Most people would agree that the idea of casual sex, in theory, sounds hot enough, but they leave it at that. They are too afraid of feelings getting involved, hearts getting broken or their emotions taking over. But despite the naysayers, it IS possible to experience the pleasure of sex without the drama of a relationship. Some tips!

First things first! Choose a partner whom you find incredibly physically attractive. Now, normally over on Welovedates, I wax poetic about how personality is more important, yadda yadda…not over here! It doesn’t matter what your partners views on politics or religion are. I doesn’t matter if you think he’s hilarious or intelligent or dumb as dirt. All that matters is that you want to see him or her naked.

Next, before you get too hot and heavy, you’ve got to have a wee conversation. Some people think that casual sex is JUST sex-but if you’re comfortable bending over naked in front of someone, you should be able to have a brief conversation about your expectations. Make it clear from the beginning that you are only having a casual fling together. Don’t go on romantic dates, don’t spend a lot of time together outside of the bedroom. Get it all out on the table before you even start to think about sex.

Why is it so important to communicate? Because this shit can get confusing! Consistently remind yourself that no matter how incredible the sex is, you are not falling head over heels in love. When you’re sleeping with someone, naturally you start to feel close to them, and this is where you begin to think that your feelings for them are serious. In the bedroom, your feelings can become one big blur-when in reality, it’s not love you’re feeling at all, it’s lust.

Speaking of lust, no strings attached sex is your opportunity to get as kinky as you want-your partner isn’t going to bring you home to Mom anytime soon and you don’t have to worry what they might think of you. This isn’t sensual, i love making…it’s down and dirty, SEX. There is a distinction, my friends!

4 Tips On How To Have Casual Sex is a post from: No Strings Dating

Today’s video is all about keeping things H-O-T in the bedroom.  Some people may think that just since you’re casually dating, the sex must be absolutely incredible at all times.  Not so!  It’s easy to fall into a boring routine, and you have to put effort into making sure your sex-capades are worthy of an x-rated movie   Here are my tips!

Casual Dating Sex Tips To Prevent Boredom-Video is a post from: No Strings Dating

Have you ever been out and about with someone you’re dating when you both get so insanely turned on that there is absolutely no way you can wait to get home to seal the deal? For some couples, sex in public seems like something they would never do-until they find themselves making out in a dark corner at a party and just can’t stop.  Here are some of the best places to have casual sex in public.

1. The Office

There is something so sexy about having sex in your office after hours-it’s one part “damn the man!” and another part “I hope I don’t get fired!”  Sneak into the boardroom and get busy on the conference room table…your meeting the next morning will be a lot more entertaining with that secret to hold on to.

2. At a Party

You have to be careful with this one.  You don’t want to offend your friends who have kindly invited you into their home by having sex all over the place.  But if the mood is right and you can’t wait til you get home, just use your best judgement and be discreet-break away for a quickie in an extra bedroom and return to join the festivities in no time…with a big smile on your face. This brings new meaning to “life of the party.”

3. On The Beach

Sex on the beach isn’t just a fruity drink with an umbrella in it.  If done right, sex on the beach can be a completely intoxicating experience-no alcohol needed.  Start with skinny dipping and make your way back to the sand-careful not to get any stuck in any of your ehem, parts…ouch!  Listen to the waves crash around you, breathe in the fresh air and become one with the sea…and each other.

4. Sex In A Parked Car

Steam up those windows! Sex in a car is one of the hottest places you can have sex.  Space is limited, so you’ll find yourself contorting into some crazy positions, which leads to new and exciting sensations.  There is also an element of risk involved because you’re probably wondering if people can see you-and just the thought of being caught is enough to elevate this sex session to the next level.

5. A Changing Room

This is the ultimate naughty in public location, simply because the chance of getting caught is so high…which only makes the sex even better!  It’s thrilling, naughty and dangerous to wonder if you’re going to get in trouble-this might be the best orgasm you’ve ever had, but shhh-you have to keep it quiet!

5 Naughty Places To Have Casual Sex is a post from: No Strings Dating