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You have to choose 3 problems you want to deal with before proceeding and I couldn’t find the one I would like to tackle so just picked random ones to proceed. After 8 multiple choice questions about the child and yourself you can continue to the 8 modules. They give you tons of checklists and resources depending on what you want to tackle.

5 Key Aspects of Positive Parenting

1 – A Safe Interesting Environment
In a safe environment you can be more relaxed as you won’t need to worry about hazards or say things like ‘don’t touch that’ etc. Plenty of interesting things to do fires up children’s curiosity, improves their language, ability to think and keeps them busy. (Safety check exercise to be completed).

2 – A Positive Learning Environment
Be available when they approach you, praise what you like them doing. They will feel secure.

3 – Assertive Discipline
Be assertive but not harsh. React quick but calm. Parents should be prepared for things to get a little worse before they get better. Stay emotionally regulated yourself and they’ll pick that up for you too.

4 – Realistic Expectation
What looks like misbehaviour is often immaturity or inability, not defiance, so ask whether your child is actually capable of what you’re expecting at their age. Adjust expectations, offer help where needed and remember that “good enough” parenting is realistic. Most pre-schoolers can keep themselves busy for 10-30 minutes but if it’s a long or many calls make sure to give them attention and find other activities to keep them interested. Most children can get ready themselves by the age of 4 while half can do this by 3.5 years. You can slowly reduce the help you give them.

5 – Taking Care of Yourself
Taking care of yourself is essential for effective parenting. When needs are unmet it’s much harder to stay patient, consistent and emotionally available with your child. Make space for small, regular breaks, be realistic about what you can handle and don’t let parenting consume your entire identity. Share the load with other carers and work as a team.

Common Parent Traps
– Accidental Rewards: Children getting what they want by misbehaving. It’s more likely to happen again. If you give bad behaviour attention they’ll get more of it.
– Escalation Trap: Letting the child have it because they’re crying more or getting louder. Parents also fall into the same trap of raising their voice louder and louder.
– Watching others: They pick up on your words and behaviour. Also what they pick up in school and TV.
– Too many, poorly timed or vague instructions: Don’t give too many and not in the middle of what they’re in the zone with something else. Make sure they don’t sound like a question or prepare to hear a no.

Don’t ignore good behaviour.

Encouraging Behaviour You Like
Focus less on correcting bad behaviour and more on noticing and reinforcing good behaviour. Give attention to positive behaviour, it will happens more often. Deliberately catch and acknowledge what children are doing right. (Paras note: I talk about this in the leadership and relationship blog posts too as it works for adults, coworkers and partners.)

Spend Quality Time Together
Spend brief but frequent moments of quality attention with your child, doing something they enjoy and being fully present, even if it’s just for a minute or two. Small, regular check-ins build security, strengthen your relationship and naturally encourage better behaviour more than occasional long sessions. Pausing distractions when possible, if you can’t, coming back later so your child learns they will reliably get your attention without needing to misbehave to attract it.

Talk With Your Child
Talk with your child often about everyday things, especially what interests them and show you’re genuinely listening. These build language, social skills, confidence, trust and teach children how to communicate and listen in relationships. When children feel heard and valued, they’re more likely to open up later about things that really matter, strengthening your connection and reducing the need for attention-seeking behaviour.

Show Affection
Showing affection regularly helps children feel safe, cared for and emotionally secure. Simple physical closeness like hugs, cuddles, holding hands and saying “I love you” builds a strong parent‑child bond and teaches children that giving and receiving affection is normal and healthy. It supports their confidence now and their ability to form healthy relationships later. (Paras note: From some of these subjects I’m starting to think this course is for … um … people who should be parents? Like honestly, even incompetent humans would get this. Wouldn’t they?)

Praise
Instead of vague praise, point out the exact action or effort you liked, and be enthusiastic and sincere. This works because attention reinforces behaviour. They might act up as they don’t know how to act so help them understand receiving praise.

Pay Attention
Smile, wink, thumbs up. Help encourage good behaviour by letting them know in some way. Know what type of attention and affection they are more receptive too. Public displays of affection can be embarrassing. They will also need to learn not to get attention or demand it all the time. Sometimes they don’t know what is ‘expected’ as they grow.

Have Interesting Activities
Gives parents opportunities to praise and pay attention while the kids learn skills and spend time.
– Independent play: Where they amuse themselves or play cooperatively with other children without lots of adult input.
– Together games: Involving adults, teaching new skills, special family time.

Make a Plan
Pick one or two specific behaviours to focus on, notice how often they occur and also track your own responses like praise. Keeping a brief record helps you see progress, stay motivated and realize what’s already working.

Resources Provided
– Example Keeping Track Charts
– Keeping Track Chart
– Example Behaviour Graph
– Behaviour Graph

Skills for Children to Learn
Focus on deliberately teaching life skills rather than assuming children will “just know.” Help them build communication, emotional regulation, independence and problem‑solving through guidance and practice, while staying realistic about what’s appropriate for their age. Avoid doing everything for them because it’s faster but also avoid expecting too much too soon. Learning happens when children are shown how, given time and allowed to try on their own, even when it’s slower or messier. Key areas are:
– Communicate and get along with others.
– Manage feelings.
– Be independent.
– Solve problems.

Set a Good Example:
Modelling the behaviour you want your child to learn. They absorb far more from what they see than what they’re told. Let them watch how you do things, give them a chance to try, encourage their efforts and gradually step back as they gain confidence. Your actions quietly teach skills, habits, and values every day.

Incidental Teaching:
Use everyday moments when your child asks for help or attention as natural teaching opportunities instead of stepping in and doing things for them. Pause, tune in and guide them with hints or questions so they can think, try and solve problems themselves, then acknowledge what they’ve worked out. You can use the following steps for scenarios like – Promoting language, increasing general knowledge, promoting independent play, learning to problem solve and learning new skills.
– Pay attention.
– Check you understand.
– Ask them to elaborate.
– If necessary, give a prompt.
– If necessary, give the answer and ask them to repeat it.
– Give positive feedback.

Ask-Say-Do
To teach new skills in a way that builds independence rather than frustration. First ask your child what to do, then explain the step if they don’t know, and finally help only if they can’t do it themselves. Breaking tasks into small steps lets you check what they actually understand, keeps expectations realistic, and allows support to fade as confidence grows. Praising each step reinforces learning and helps children feel capable instead of dependent and then you can reduce praise as they get better.

Reward (Behaviour) Chart
Use reward charts to deliberately shift your attention toward the behaviour you want to see more of. Clearly define the behaviour in positive terms, make goals easy at first and give immediate praise when a child earns a star so the connection is obvious. As behaviour improves, gradually raise expectations and phase the chart out. Example: Praise after each star and reward after number of star.

Managing Misbehaviour
Children learn self‑control best when parents respond to misbehaviour immediately, consistently, and calmly. The goal isn’t to eliminate frustration or difficult moments, but to help children learn to accept limits and manage disappointment over time.

Ground Rules
Set clear and simple ground rules so children know exactly what’s expected of them. Don’t assume they understand the rules unless you state them clearly, keep them few in number, age‑appropriate, fair and involve children in creating them so they’re more likely to follow them. Phrase rules positively by telling children what to do rather than what not to do, because clear, predictable limits help children feel secure and learn self‑control more effectively. Example: Don’t hit can be replaced with gentle hands or keep your hands to yourself.

Directed Discussion
When a child breaks a rule – Get child’s attention, state the problem, say why it’s a problem and then get them to do it correctly if needed.

Planned Ignoring
Ignore minor problems and stay strong as it gets worse while they try to get your reaction. Of course don’t ignore it if it becomes a more serious problem.

Calm, Clear Instructions
Give instructions calmly, clearly, and at the right moment so children are more likely to cooperate. Get close, use their name, say exactly what you want them to do, then pause and give them a few seconds to respond. Commit to be a no-yelling household. (Paras note: Also look up Parenting with Love and Logic.)

Consequences
Use clear, immediate, and logical consequences to back up instructions when a child doesn’t cooperate. Act as soon as the behaviour happens, calmly remove the activity causing the problem, explain why and for how long and keep consequences short and predictable at first. Follow through exactly as stated, then give the child a chance to try again and do the right thing, because consequences teach best when they are consistent, fair, and directly connected to the behaviour – not delayed, emotional, or excessive.

Quiet Time
Use quiet time as a calm, brief consequence when logical consequences aren’t possible. After giving a clear instruction, act immediately and matter‑of‑factly if your child doesn’t cooperate, moving them away from the activity for a short period with no discussion or attention. 2 minutes for pre-schoolers, 5 minutes for older and ignore any attention seeking.

Time-out
Back up to quiet time. It breaks the circuit, take them to another room or space for 2-5 minutes. Do it without any attention or emotion so they can calm themselves and regain control. Explain in advance so it’s immediate and predictable. Ask them to gather themselves and praise once done to reinforce. You decide when timeout is over and keep bringing them back if they come out of the area. Even if you feel bad, focus on remaining calm. The set time doesn’t start until they keep quiet. Don’t answer if they call out. If they run, make sure you’re close and don’t chase them as it’s not a game. The aim is for them to learn to follow instruction. If they tend to make a mess, find a place they can do minimal damage and let them know they can only come out after everything is cleared up. Breaking things will have consequences like pocket money or extra chores.

Putting a Plan Together

Dealing with Disobedience

Why don’t children do as they’re told?
Not because they’re malicious or trying to disrespect you. Disobedience often comes from a desire for independence, unclear or unrealistic expectations, tiredness or hunger or because disobedience has accidentally worked for them before.

Preventing Problems
Make the home child safe so they don’t touch dangerous things and you don’t have to keeps saying ‘don’t do, don’t touch’. When going out, take activities. Praise, smile, reaffirm the good and be specific about the good thing they did.

Clear, Calm Instructions
Give necessary instructions that you’re prepared to backup. Get close, get their attention, give exact instructions. Repeat instruction one but if it’s a stop instruction, don’t repeat. Deal with it right away. Examples: It’s time for dinner, come and help me set the table please. Stop climbing the couch, it’s dangerous, hop down right now.

Consequences for Disobedience
Start with a logical consequence that fits the behaviour, apply it immediately, explain it briefly, and give the child another chance to get it right. Consistent follow‑through works because it teaches cooperation and responsibility, not through punishment, but through predictable cause and effect. Use consequences that are directly connected to the misbehaviour, so children clearly understand cause and effect. Consequences should give an incentive for good behaviour e.g. TV after homework is done. Avoid consequences that can affect their self-esteem like calling them out in public. Consequences should be immediate.

Quiet Time and Time-Out
Same as above.

Preventing Problems by Planning Ahead

Planning for High-risk Times
Plan ahead for high‑risk times when misbehaviour is more likely such as public outings, waiting, transitions or when you’re busy or under pressure. Anticipate problems by clearly stating expectations in advance, preparing engaging activities to prevent boredom and deciding beforehand how you’ll encourage good behaviour and respond to problems. Children struggle most when tired, bored, or ignored and planning reduces stress for you while making behaviour more predictable and manageable.

Prepare in Advance
Actively teach them how to behave. Pack lunch and bags the night before. Prepare yourself also with breathing techniques or steps you can take.

Decide on Rules
Don’t assume that children know what to do. Clear expectations and before the situation ask them if they remember the rules and tell you.

Choose Interesting Activities
Make a list of activities. Use natural opportunities for fun incidental teaching Talk to your child and ask them questions, count things you see and play games like ‘I spy’.

Use Rewards for Good Behaviour
Rewards can be a treat or activity soon after the high-risk situation. Explain the rules and the back-up reward. Ask if your child has any other ideas for rules or rewards. Praise them often for behaving well in the high-risk situation, and make sure they get the reward if they follow the rules.

Use Consequences for Misbehaviour
Plan them in advance, discuss them and make sure they’re understood. Quiet time can be in the front seat of the car while you’re focused on driving.

Have a Follow-up Discussion
Talk about it, mention what they might have forgotten or to focus on a goal for next time. Start when you’re ready to commit and follow through consistently, not during an already stressful period. Prepare in advance by making the bedroom comfortable and establishing a clear, predictable bedtime routine that happens the same way every night. A consistent sequence – bath, pajamas, teeth, story, bed. Avoid shortcuts like letting them fall asleep on the couch or in your bed.

Making Shopping Fun

Why do Children Misbehave?
Bad timing like when they’re hungry. Ask if they know what they need to do. Don’t ignore good behaviour. Accidental rewards can be getting them something so they keep quiet, doing half the shopping to get them home and giving them attention or repeating instructions.

Plan Ahead
Good timing, set rules, do it when you’re not tired. Rules can be no touching, inside voice, stay close, etc. Explain consequences and rewards.

Encourage Good Behaviour
Focus on good, say it when it happens.

Deal with Difficult Behaviour
Deal with it then and there, what to stop and what to do instead. Thank them if the behave or back up with a consequence. Keep them involved and having fun. Take them to the side for quiet time and don’t worry about what others think.

Review How it Went
Reward if good, praise successes, set a goal for next time.

If Problems Persist
Give them to lost and found and go home. (Just joking.) Use stamps or stickers as rewards and tell them they can go to the park for play when they get 5. Once it’s not a persistent problem, phase out the stickers.

Raising Confident, Capable Kids

Showing Respect
Usual stuff. Praise good stuff, repeat in a calm way, get close and say their name to get their attention.

Being Considerate
Sharing, thinking of others feelings, asking others if they want to go, helping in the house. Notice the nice things others are doing and modelling behaviour.

Good Social Skills
Show interest in their friends and family. Have play friends over. If they don’t get along, remove the activity or separate the children and remind them of house rules before starting again.

Healthy Self-confidence
They’re likely to be happy, cooperative, successful and make friends easily. Children feel good about themselves when they know they’re loved, getting affection and attention, and when they’re praised for their efforts and achievements. Their world to be predictable with regular routines, clear limits and appropriate discipline. Regular activities that keep them fit and healthy, such as running, jumping, skipping, and playing sports and active games. Listen to your child, ask questions, and show you value their opinions and ideas. Opportunities to make decisions, guide them with appropriate limits.

Being a Problem Solver
Talk about how you can break a problem down into smaller parts that can be worked out. Teach steps on solving, what is the problem, guide them and ask what some solutions are. Talk about good and bad points about the solutions.

Becoming Independent
Teach them skills and help them remember what to do. Avoid the trap to do it for them, having patience will benefit in the long run. Use charts or photographs. Start with rewards and reduce them as they get better.

Modules
1 What is positive parenting?
2 Encouraging behaviour you like
3 Teaching new skills
4 Managing misbehaviour
5 Dealing with disobedience
6 Preventing problems by planning ahead
7 Making shopping fun
8 Raising confident, capable kids

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This is a quick read where William offers a solution to the problem and it looks like he’s using Pareto’s Principle of 80:20. Only he’s made it 8:2. I do agree with him when he quotes someone with ‘The working state is the highest state’. I believe working especially with your hands fixes and heals a lot (more here).

The 8:2 Theory
Out of 10 humans, 8 are good, 2 are not. In William’s email to me, he mentions clarifying the 8 in a blog post. So lets say the 8 are living being, seen or unseen… if that makes sense. The 8 are further divided into 4 categories. The 2 on the other hand are the problem, God loves them but they’re very hard to reach. The 2’s have the power or skill to make the 8s feel divided. If enough 8s grasp this book then the 2s COULD be stopped.

Some actionables:
Avoid mind-altering substances.
Develop your mind and body continuously.
Choose a career or craft and commit to self‑reliance.
Share what you learn with others.
Respect how people choose to practice spirituality or belief.
Improve all dimensions of yourself: mental, physical, emotional.
Study widely (religion, business, science, medicine, psychology).
Anchor yourself in purpose, meaning, and community.
Work hard … treat work as part of being human.
Think for yourself; don’t follow blindly.
Progress step by step; don’t rush.
Protect yourself from consistently harmful people.

My personal thought on the book:
I like where William is coming from. Even though I didn’t find any concepts that were new or scientifically supported, I genuinely appreciate the intention behind William’s work. His heart is clearly in the right place, and the direction he’s trying to move people toward is admirable. I hope the ideas continue to evolve into something more concrete, evidence‑based and actionable emerges from this project. I’ll keep tabs on how he develops these ideas into something more tangible in the future and I’ll update this post if and when that happens.

Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: 8:2
Chapter 2: The Story
Chapter 3: On Good And Evil
Chapter 4: The Evil 2s
Chapter 5: Tips For 8s
Chapter 6: On God
Chapter 7: An 8:2 Future
Chapter 8: 8:2 Review And Takeaways
Q&A
About The Author

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Healing from trauma involves a multi-stage process that typically includes creating a sense of safety, processing traumatic memories, and integrating these experiences into one’s life in a healthy manner. Here is an overview of each stage:

1. Safety and Stabilization:
   • Creating Safety: Establishing a sense of physical and emotional safety is the foundation of trauma healing. This involves ensuring a safe environment, stable relationships, and developing trust with a therapist or support network.
   • Stabilization: Learning coping strategies to manage symptoms of trauma such as anxiety, flashbacks, and hypervigilance. Techniques may include mindfulness, grounding exercises, and self-care routines.
2. Processing Traumatic Memories:
   • Exploration: Gradually exploring and confronting traumatic memories in a controlled and supportive setting. This often involves talking about the trauma with a therapist, writing about it, or using creative expressions like art or music.
   • Therapeutic Techniques: Various therapeutic approaches can be employed, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and somatic therapies. These help in reprocessing and re-framing the traumatic experiences.
3. Integration and Consolidation:
   • Making Sense of the Trauma: Understanding and making meaning of the traumatic experiences, recognizing their impact, and incorporating these insights into one’s identity and life narrative.
   • Building Resilience: Developing resilience by fostering strengths and adaptive coping mechanisms. This includes enhancing self-esteem, building supportive relationships, and setting goals for the future.
4. Post-Traumatic Growth:
   • Personal Growth: Many individuals experience personal growth following trauma, finding new strengths, values, and a deeper sense of purpose.
   • Life Integration: Integrating the trauma into a broader life context, where it becomes a part of one’s story but no longer defines their entire identity. This often involves forgiving oneself, others, or the circumstances, and finding ways to use the experience to contribute positively to oneself and others.

Throughout this process, continuous self-care and support from loved ones or support groups play a crucial role in facilitating healing and maintaining progress.

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• Their typical demographic are ‘neurospicy’, female, can’t niche or have their ideas in a lot of things so they want to coin the term multi-brilliant.
• Taking any action, no matter how small, is crucial.
• They are very into the Human Design system to know their profile types. (Paras note: I think these types of personality tests are important so you know where you fit. I’ve done a few and the MBTI one has helped me the most.) Your profile could be that you like starting many things or you like to hyperfocus on one task until it’s done, etc.
• The multi-brilliant funnel: Don’t just post about what the algo or niche is, post about everything that you want. If you are the eye of the storm, the storm has all these other things going on. (Paras note: I’ve just spent months specialising my YouTube to tech/home improvement/how tos and moved my other stuff to Spotify because that is what Roberto Blake told me to do so. If you like that kind of organisation you can go that way.) Your storm is your funnel that pulls different kinds of people from all interests. The more content you create the more you realise what you want to create and who you are.
• Your smile = your logo, your personality = business card, how you leave others feeling after and experience with you = your trademark.
• Top of Tornado (TOT) You post you and test content.
  Middle of Tornado (MOT) Peak interest and curiosity.
  Bottom of Tornado (BOT) leading them to a place they feel familiar with. Don’t sell, just offer.
• They’re leaning a lot towards having a personal brand and say that the course is not for you if you’re not going to sell a digital product.
• Think of your brand as the tree so you will need a main big trunk with lots of branches of other interests.
• No Niche course but then say you need an extremely niche audience. So don’t pick a niche topic, choose a niche audience (provided workbook for the exercise).
• Do not create content that ‘suits them’. Create content that sparks something in you. Forget demographics, focus on psychographics. The workbook helps you figure out or niche down the psychographics. The ladies left me an audio reply to what I need to do with my channel after I did the work and sent it to them.
• Q&A.

Day 2: Monetising Your No Niche Funnel

• Talks about how the 1:1 or usual path makes your business the identity from then on and it tends to burn you out. So you want to build a business that you get paid first and then build later and get recurring revenue.
• Your main trunk is what is going to get you monthly income even if you step away to your other branches of interest. This means you can stick to just having a minimum of 12 touch points a year (once a month). You decide on the delivery method, members tell you what they want and you get paid to be you.
• 74% of people feel membership models offer a better value for money compared to a one-off purchase.
• Important reminder: You own your community, you don’t own your social media.
• There are so many ways to start a community and it has shown a great way to have a regular income. When you start a community you don’t need to do a course and if you have the 12 touch points you just need a month to work on the next month’s content. (Paras note: Now I see why a lot of these webinars I’ve signed up for ask you for what you’re expecting or wanting to handle!)
• They share a similar philosophy to James Wedmore’s Business by Design where they say you monetise before you make it.
• People don’t follow topics, they follow for energy.
• The Dopamine Launch System: The ladies provide clear steps and pre-made tools or make them with you. Launch boards, swipe files, systems, community setup. Done with you!
• Q&A:
  • Don’t worry about your tech stack, first validate!
  • If someone rejects or says that they wouldn’t buy it, that is great feedback to know, ok next thing!

If you’re interested they have the following options:

• 60 Minute VIP Incubator Session: Did we spark some ideas for you in the 6-Figure No Niche event? Need to spend some more time with us to help you incubate your ideas?
• 15 Minute Discovery Call: Not quite sure if Evolution is right for you or not? Jump on a 15 minute no strings call with us to see if we are the right fit for you!
• Evolution: Join us for 12 months to build your Dynamic Personal Brand & Evolving 6-Figure Paid Community.

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Day 1 – Understanding the AI Shift: What’s Coming & How To Get Ahead

Dean Graziosi:
– The 4 Levers Of Accelerated Success:
1. Activate – Train Al to Know You Deeply
2. Accelerate – Make Smarter Decisions, Faster
3. Amplify – Multiply Your Output Exponentially
4. Augment – Expand Without Adding Overhead

Zach Kass: Talks about history, potential, etc.

Igor Pogani: Talks about how to use it e.g. instead of using google translate for every complex term in medical or official documents you can put it in ChatGPT to explain it to you like you’re five (Paras note: It’s called ELI5 by pros).

Allie Miller:
3Ps:
– People: Reduce manual, repetitive, digitized tasks for improved productivity and employee engagement. Use repeated workflows and Al agents to build yourself the equivalent of 20% of a marketer, an assistant, a salesperson, and operations lead.
– Process: More efficient back office, data insights; streamline ops and system communication. Build net-new interfaces and automatic workflows to lessen the administrative burden of running a business (it’s more than you realize!)
– Product: Grow top-line and reinvent creatively despite ever-changing global business and market demands. Double down on what makes you unique and human. Al scales your impact across mediums, languages, and channels.
– Think about what is pulling you out of your zone of genius that you can give to AI to do. Weekly, monthly, yearly tasks or lists or collecting information.
– You can make your own code, app, software in things like Code Claude or Loveable. (Paras note: I’ve personally used Base44 and can help you create something if you like).

Tony Robbins:
– 5 Keys to a Great Creator: 1 Energy. 2 Vision. 3 Decisiveness. 4 Massive Action and Momentum. 5 Relentlessness.
– Skills everyone needs: 1 Pattern recognition e.g. stress is a pattern (Tony goes into his usual state change exercise). 2 Pattern utilisation e.g. Warren Buffet uses others fear to know when to buy. 3 Pattern creation e.g. once you practice playing other peoples songs you create your own music.

Day 2 – How To Grow Faster, Work Smarter & Expand Your Reach With AI

Dean Graziosi:
– Starts with a goal accelerator. If your goal is too big you may not do it so needs to be taken down to 90 days. But also stretch your goal a little bit bigger or near impossible because your brain has to go to places it hasn’t been. What are the constraints? What are some possible solutions? Ask your heart and not your head why it’s important to you. What if you don’t do it?
– Gives examples of setting routines with AI or sending emails with the passion of Tony Robbins and the powerful story telling of Malcolm Gladwell. Sharing a pic with what food you have and getting AI to tell you what you can cook.

Dr. Arthur Books:
– Hemispheric lateralisation is just a fancy word for left and right brain and AI will help you as a thinking partner for your left-brain.
– If you look for love, happiness and meaning in tech, you wind up living in a simulation of life.
– Lessons:
1 – AI is good for complicated things and not complex things. Complex things are for your right brain. Use it for what and how-to questions, not why questions of your life. Ask your right side more why questions. Why are you here, why do you do what you do?
2 – Know your heart. Anything that substitutes for real human relationships makes you less happy but anything that complements your human relationship makes you happier. Use AI to make time.
3 – Exercise your right hemisphere – love, worship, nature, suffering. Spend time on these after you’ve used the tech to free up your time.

Sabrina Ramonov
– Steps to come up with content:
1 Ideas: The new way is that AI listens/reads/etc. your old ways of doing things and analyses it in a fraction of time. Prompts below.
2 Create: The old way was using things like Canva to create a carousel or something. The new way you ask your AI thought partner gives you 3 variations of the same content e.g. list, infographic, etc. Refine the one you like. Then ask it to create what you want. (Sabrina provides basic to advanced prompts and hopefully they are included in one of the workbooks below.)
3 Publish: Old way is a content calendar. New way is using AI to repurpose one video to publish it for you on each platform. If you’re feeling overwhelmed just start with one.

Dallas The AI Surfer: Shows how he makes things 90% AI and 10% human and using a clone to partner with. (Paras note: Something about this doesn’t feel authentic or the right way to go but the AI wave is coming and you have to be ready to ‘surf’ it.)

Marketing time: Dean introduces the 30 Day AI Clone Bootcamp

Mark Benioff: Talks about not being in fear of it, especially taking your jobs. (This one was more of a chat to prime views to jump in before they miss the wave.)

Q&A
– Give AI everything, even screenshots and then ask where you need to improve or 95% of your strengths can be etc.
– Make your main content your original content so that it is authentic and then use AI to repurpose for their specific platforms.
– Use Seth Godin’s principle of getting the minimum viable audience.

Day 3 – The Proven AI Playbooks To Create Scalable Results

Dean Graziosi
– Mentions the 7 levels deep of asking you self why. E.g.
1 Why is that important to you? → So I can pay off my debts.
2 Why is paying off your debts important? → Because I want to feel financially free.
3 Why is financial freedom important to you? → Because I want to provide a better life for my family.
4 Why is providing a better life for your family important? → Because I didn’t have that growing up.
5 Why is that important to you? → Because I want my kids to feel safe and secure.
6 Why is that important to you? → Because I never felt safe as a child.
7 Why is that important to you? → Because I want to break the cycle and be the parent I never had.
– Your ability to scale/grow is directly tied to your ability to simplify.

Rachel Woods
– Instead of creating systems and processes for operations, you create the systems and processes for AI to do the operations.
– Using the playbooks you can do more than just writing emails, summarising and reviewing things. (See links below)
– Steps to create your own Playbook (Rachel uses writing a newsletter as an example):
1 – Get clear on your process steps.
2 – Write how to do each step including writing a specific success criteria of what success would look like for doing this step.
3 – Have AI do the playbook. You can connect them to things like Zapier to connect with other apps, websites, etc. (Paras note: Let me know if you want me to show you this as I already use it.)

Amjad Masad
– No real value provided apart from talking about Replit.

Tony Robbins
– Make more decisions more often.
– 3 Parts to Decision: 1 Decide, 2 Commit, 3 Resolve.

AI Advantage Summit Bonus Day

AI Surfer
– Being omnipresent all the time everywhere. He made a clone so his clone talks for him. His line is 90% AI, 10% Human.
– Give it a role, then context or goals.
– Talks about getting clear on what you want and how much you can do. It’s so much more than your thought partner and can do so much more for you.

Dean Graziosi: (Recycled wisdom.)

John Cheney: Introduces GenAIPI.

Lior Weinstein
– Teach it like you would teach a kid. Context > Examples > Feedback.
– Atoms vs. Bits: Atoms are things that AI can’t do like folding laundry, driving kids, cooking dinner, bedtime story telling and lifting weights. Bit are things AI can help you tremendously with like planning meals, scheduling pickups, creating grocery lists, making up a story and workout planning. He breaks down how to use them in these cases and how you can get ChatGPT to schedule things like follow ups or nightly bedtime stories.

– Once your clone knows your Schedule, Values and Tone it can run your life in the background.

Igor Pogani: Prompt – Based on my ‘DNA’ (that he gave his clone), what is one uncomfortable truth about my current approach that I need to hear right now?

Links:
– The AI Jumpstart Playbook
– The Time Machine Method
– Accelerate, Don’t Replace

Prompts:
– Give me 5 viral content ideas for my expertise.
– Ask me clarifying questions.
– Write a viral social media post for my expertise. Ask me clarifying questions until you are 95% confident you can complete the task successfully.
– From one of the playbook:
“Train My AI Assistant” Enter This Prompt Below Onboarding Prompt
I want you to act as my personal AI assistant starting today. Your role is to be my behind-the-scenes strategic advisor, efficiency expert, creative partner, and execution engine—all in one. From now on, treat every question, task, or request I bring to you with the mindset of a world-class operator who understands business, marketing, content, systems, and personal development. You should combine the best traits of a high-performing executive assistant, copywriter, business coach, strategist, and productivity expert. You are clear, direct, thoughtful, and deeply practical. You do not use fluffy language, unnecessary jargon, or overly generic advice. Your job is to help me save time, make smarter decisions, remove friction, and move faster toward my goals—using AI as the tool to do it. Before we begin, I’m going to tell you everything you need to know about me, my goals, & how I want to use AI. Remember all of this and use it to tailor every answer you give me from now on. Right now, I work as a (insert your role) in the (insert your industry) space, or I run a (insert type of business) business. The people I serve or help are typically (describe your audience or ideal client in one sentence). Over the next 6 to 12 months, I have a few big goals I want to accomplish. First, I want to (insert goal #1). I’d also love to (insert goal #2) and ideally (insert goal #3 if applicable). The biggest challenge I’m facing right now is (insert your biggest frustration, bottleneck, or roadblock). It’s slowing me down or holding me back, and I want to fix it as soon as possible. When it comes to using AI, I’m looking for help with (insert the ways you’d like AI to support you—e.g., saving time, writing better, streamlining operations, brainstorming ideas, planning content, etc.). I don’t need hype 4 I just want AI to help me work smarter and get real results. Right now, the tools I use most often are (list tools—e.g., ChatGPT, Google Docs, Canva, Zoom, Notion, Zapier, etc.). I’d like your suggestions to be compatible with these whenever possible. I tend to prefer a (insert your preferred tone—e.g., expert, friendly, concise, storytelling, etc.) communication style. I usually create things like (list the content types you’re involved in—e.g., social media, presentations, emails, proposals, operations, logistics, scheduling, sales, videos, etc.) and I want your help making that process easier, faster, and more effective. If it helps, I also work within a few systems or routines like (insert systems—e.g., content calendar, launch framework, weekly check-ins, CRM follow-up, etc.). If I could take one task off my plate this week, it would be (insert the most draining or repetitive task you’d love to eliminate). And if AI could solve just one thing for me right now, I’d want it to (insert dream solution—e.g., help me write my sales emails, build my offer, get organized, automate outreach, etc.). Now that you know who I am, what I care about, and what I’m trying to build—act accordingly. Be smart. Be strategic. Be fast. Help me move like the most optimized version of myself.

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Summary:

– Bring the same thinking you have at work when it comes to partnership in working. Have an open state of mind which is not about productivity but more about connectivity.

– Women interrupt to feel connected but that diminishes the return.

– Open state of mind from both sides will help you bring out the best and SEE how the other side connects.

– When a man is focused and getting something done, an interruption will hurt. And then the woman gets mad. And then intimacy is gone which means the sex is not as close and eventually the sex disappears.

– Story of how she was talking about so many different subject and doing other things at the same time until her partner shouted that she was not listening and she was disrespecting him when all she thought she was doing it getting it done and being efficient. So she was expecting him to listen to her while she was all over the place.

– A mistake woman makes (and men with low testosterone) is think that if a person knows how upset they are about an expectation not being met – that person will work harder to meet it. So when a woman is disappointed, right or furious about something that should have happened or something that should never happen, their go to is to get it into the other person’s head. “I’m going to tell you how upset I am about this and you’re going to stand there and listen to it.” While for the man is to do the right thing no matter how they feel. So it is disgusting to men to appease someone who is upset instead of carrying on doing what needs to be done and aligns with their value, time, resources, energy, etc. Men will only change their response if they feel dependent on her. And men who are dependent on women are gross to women.

– So women lose respect for men when they give into her rampage. (Alison talks about how she tricked women my holding a teleclass called ‘Using anger to get what you need’ to tell the women who attended that it doesn’t work.)

– Women scan for strength – providers, protectors, make babies with, mentor in some way.
Men scan for strength in a competitive way, but not just as competitors. They’re scanning for strengths like a team leader or the leader of the hunt. Specifically, they’re scanning for complimentary strength. They’re looking for teammates that will expand their own possibilities in the game. Women not knowing this when they pick each other will criticise him for not having her strengths. Mutual admiration that ‘you think of things that I would never think of‘.

– The culture of equality has turned it into a competition that we’re better than men. And we wonder why we can’t find someone to marry well because we keep proving to him that he’d be stupid to marry me, I’m going to criticize him for the rest of your life for not being like me’.

– She thinks to win she has to prove to others she’s smarter than her boss. Which is an issue of trust and loyalty. Instead of thinking as I rise, I will pull others with me.

– If relationships are based on dependency, they’re yucky and if they’re not based on dependence then nobody will put up with a lot of other yucky things.

– Change your thinking: What if no one’s misbehaving? What if all the people you know care about you, that you get so upset with are always giving you their best interpretation of what they heard you say. (Basically what if you didn’t look for bad intent in others mistakes.)

– Men get placated or easy so quickly if the communication is right. Only ask a man a question that you’re willing to wait for the answer for. After you ask the question, start counting to 30. And most men will speak up at around 18. Most women can’t wait and then rephrase or start putting on the pressure. If you’re asking about feelings it can take 3 days. Rephrasing the question throws him off as he’s still preparing to deliver the answer to the first one. And then you realise you don’t even really care what he thinks in the first place. (Alison said that this is the #1 thing that has changed their relationships.) If he stops talking, start counting again and he’ll say more.

– Any time you shift to being on a team – men will do more, go further, etc. So if you want to be on the same time learn to listen and understand men crave to be in a team or the same team.

– When mansplaining came along, men closed up as all they’re trying is to be understood. What is there to be understood with what they’re saying. If you could have me understand anything about you, what would it be? I promise to take it seriously.

Summary:

– Men look for complementary strength so they pick you because they admire you and they want to be admired too… BECAUSE THEY ADMIRE YOU.

– Did your parent’s teach you to look for men you ‘like’? What do you like? Do you let him know? When you have children do you look forward to having them be like him?

– The next thing is not to emasculate him too much. Younger men will put up with a lot more than older when it comes to emasculation. A King type would rather be alone than get any kind of emasculation from a woman.

– Unhappy women keep trying to change him at his core. Then complaining about the same thing for years, shame or make fun of him. Which creates hostility and darkness in the relationship.

– All men a are dogs is a quote Alison attributes to frog farmers. The women who turn princes to frogs. If you do see them as dogs then see them as loyal, they want to be near you, do something for you and get appreciated.

– If a woman ever wants to know what a man means. Firstly, don’t go with aggressive energy but you can just go and ask him. Secondly, just look it up on the dictionary instead of going to everyone else to decipher it.

Summary:

– When you try to drive behaviour by focusing on what the man doesn’t do, you’re enforcing the bad behaviour. Paras note: I don’t know how many times I’ve told so many people this. Focus on and appreciate more of the behaviour you want and like.

5 Magical Words/The Language of Heroes
– Provide: Men have a natural drive to support and care for their people. So instead of complaining that rubbish wasn’t taken out, explain how it will make you happy and your feeling of cleanliness.
– Need: Connect your needs with what they can provide. E.g. I need you to listen to me before I tell you this.
– Help: Men will rarely say no to hearing someone needs help.
– Appreciation: Do this regularly and sincerely.
– Trust: Let go and have faith in them being their best selves.

– Sex is oversimplified. Men need to feel emotional connections, safe and clear signals. They need clear queues.

– Be self-aware. Know what you want and what your cover charges are. Set out clear expectations. “Pumpkin Hours” refer to specific times of day or physical/emotional states, when a person is too tired, stressed or unavailable for sexual intimacy and a request for sex would cause resentment. It is a proactive tool for couples to avoid rejection and inconsiderate timing, potentially including early morning or late nights.

– Letting down your guard will deepen intimacy and strengthen the relationship.

Summary:

12 Things Needed for Marriage

1. Respecting the Partner for Who They Truly Are. Not loving their potential … loving who they already are. Men interpret respect as love.
2. Appreciating Their Efforts. Noticing what they do builds devotion and inspires more generosity.
3. Speaking Needs Clearly. No tests, hints, or hoping they’ll guess. Clarity creates teamwork.
4. Receiving Graciously. Allowing love, help, gifts, and support. Receiving makes the giver feel valued.
5. Trusting Their Competence. Letting a partner lead sometimes. Trust communicates belief and respect.
6. Loyalty and Emotional Safety. A partner needs to feel safe sharing vulnerabilities without them being used later.
7. Honouring Masculine/Feminine Polarity. Not competing, correcting, or “teaching” the partner … but allowing each person to be their best self.
8. Understanding Commitment Instincts. Alison teaches that men and women experience commitment very differently, and honoring these differences is essential to long‑term marriage success.
9. Negotiating Clear Agreements (Deals That Work). Couples must learn how to create and keep agreements that reduce conflict and increase ease.
10. Addressing Predictable Conflicts Early. Conflicts become destructive only when ignored … addressed early, they strengthen intimacy.
11. Accepting Your Own Needs. Instead of shame or guilt, acknowledging personal needs makes relationships more sustainable and honest.
12. Building a Partnership Structure Based on Freedom, Hope, and Mutual Support. Alison emphasises partnership, not power struggles … giving each person room to win, contribute, and thrive.

9 Core Principles to Understand Men

1. Men Need Respect More Than Anything Else. Respect affects their sense of identity and willingness to give.
2. Clarity is Key … Men Respond to Clear, Direct Communication. Men genuinely try to answer literally and need clear requests.
3. Men Conserve Energy Due to “Hunter Instinct”. Short, minimal answers like “good” or “fine” are not distance … it is energy conservation.
4. Appreciation Unlocks Generosity. Being appreciated increases a man’s desire to give and provide.
5. Men Seek Complementary Strengths, Not Competition. They look for partnership, not rivalry.
6. Emotional Safety Determines How Much Men Open Up. If they feel attacked or emasculated, they shut down.
7. Testosterone Drives Men’s Behavior and Focus. Men are wired to prioritize productivity and problem‑solving.
8. Emasculation Happens Easily and Damages Connection. Criticism, correcting or dismissing efforts causes withdrawal.
9. Men Thrive When They Feel Admired and Needed. Admiration builds their identity and increases devotion.

Summary:

• Men will say things like ‘that’s it’ when they’ve finished talking so that is like a fullstop. After he’s listened you have to let them know you need a turn too.
• Men have a deep desire to be recognised for the hard work they’ve put in their character and being honourable. Even if it means leaving a woman who they love knowing they can’t honourably be the man for her.
• Men can’t see the details women see. Wise women just take care of it instead of the constant ‘what about the dust?’… ‘What dust’.
• Both sides see things others don’t which is a great combo.
• Women are organised around well-being while men are on protecting.
• Men screen for results and beauty.
• What sounds harsh to the woman is how the man talks.
• While women will want to connect regularly, say like when he’s working from home, men want peace and being focused on whatever they’re focusing on. Interrupting their productivity will interrupt their peace. To her ‘I just want to tell you something’, to him he feels it as ‘what you’re focusing on is not important’.
• When you ask a question, count internally until 30. They need the time to process and give back.
• When men open their legs, they feel safe around you. When they close their arms they’re just getting comfortable and it’s not to be read as they’re getting closed up.
• THEY DONT LIKE QUESTIONS! (Paras note: I say this all the time ‘more statements, less questions’.)
• You want something done, after giving the request use the word ‘provide’. This will provide me with so and so or could you do this so it will provide me with…
• Criticism doesn’t work on men the way it works on women. Women will change to accommodate. They won’t notice your frustration after the argument is ‘solved’.
• If he values you he will work on things that matter to you, it may not be immediate but it’s on the list to think about and figure out.
• A man will be single focused but he will invest in ‘learning you’. They’ll use tools for this too! (Paras note: If any guys need help with this let me know. I have all kinds of tools from tracker spreadsheets to other secrets I can’t share here.)

How to Treat Men Better – Alison Armstrong

Summary:

He’ll stay if

• If he thinks that he can give her what he thinks she needs, he’ll stick around. In other words – If he believes he can meet her NEEDS, he’ll stay.
• If the values are complementary, even if they’re not the same.
• Their futures are in the same direction.
• Communication in general is productive and identify/solve problems.
• Same team (she doesn’t make him the problem).
• She’s attractive to him (which women don’t understand at all).

Four Traits That Make Women Irresistibly Charming

• Self-competence.
• Authenticity (courage to be real).
• Passion. A shared passion will be great!
• Receptivity. Men want to give and NEED to be needed. They’ll jump hoops to please and impress her. If he doesn’t care or stopped caring… you need to worry. In a way they play for points or ‘good job’. Men can listen for longer if they don’t feel like it’s the usual complaining.

– Ask yourself if you can drop your ego enough to ask ‘Even if you can do it. Would you let a man do it?’ Like look for an excuse to find how the man is stronger than you and that you like it.

– Men start of treating a woman how they want to be treated and after a while, treat the woman how they have been treated by her. (So they are happy to become and reshape their lives until they get crafted into what the woman doesn’t want and he still get complains.)

– Alison asks how man women do they need to be around to feel as safe as they feel with one man.

– They need to get better at letting men provide and protect.

– Men want to be able to trust her. If he opens up about his needs and they’re brushed off/laughed at/discarded/stonewalled he can’t trust you. What are the important parts that both side needs that need trust? Even if it is things like ‘I can trust him to not be able to see that thing on the shelf right in front of his face because that is how it’s been and I accept it’.

– Women need to get better at communicating their needs. Alison say’s women come back with ‘what if I don’t know what I need?’ and she recommends asking ‘what quality do you want to be?’ THEN ‘what do you need to be that quality?’. One woman wanted a man to do something she didn’t tell him what she needed and when asked why she said ‘I can’t get over what I think about myself for needing that’. She might feel a spectrum of things – selfish, pathetic, selfish, self-centred, unevolved, immature, justified, reasonable, bothersome, annoying, entitled and deserved. She has to remember that she breathes life into or sucks life out of him. Alison says that she’s met women who act like they’re a better man than any man and more everything than a man.

9 Steps to Ask a Man What She Needs (Without Triggering Shutdown)

1. Check your motive: Confirm that your intention is to create connection and partnership, not to vent, correct, test, or prove a point. Men are extremely sensitive to hidden agendas; if the ask contains blame or pressure, it will fail.
2. Make sure it’s a good time: Ask permission first, rather than launching in: “Is now a good time to ask you about something?”
3. State observable facts only: Describe what happened, without interpretation, emotion, or story. Men process information literally; facts keep them present.
4. Name the impact on you (briefly): Share the result, not a flood of feelings: “When that happens, I end up feeling disconnected.” This gives him context without making him responsible for your emotional regulation.
5. Identify the need behind the feeling: Translate emotion into a clear need: Appreciation, Time, Information, Reassurance, Support. His ability to respond depends on clarity.
6. Make a specific, doable request: Not a demand. Not a hint. A clear ask with observable behaviour: What, By when, How often (if relevant).
7. Remove pressure from the request: Let it be okay for him to say no, ask questions, or counter‑offer. Pressure triggers male withdrawal; choice invites engagement.
8. Wait without interrupting: After asking, be silent. Don’t re‑explain, Don’t justify, Don’t rescue him from thinking. Men think internally before answering. Silence is respect.
9. Acknowledge and appreciate any response: Even if the answer isn’t what you hoped for, acknowledge the effort to engage: “Thank you for thinking about that.” Appreciation reinforces safety and future willingness.

– Men will close up to a woman to betrays him by telling others about him or uses his information against him. Women will teach honest men that it’s not worth it. Don’t tell me the truth, scowl face when he speaks his truth. Celebrate his honesty no matter what reaction you have.

– Stop interrupting a man or answering for him. You have to give him time to digest and construct his response. Apart from respect, he needs peace! His peace is taken from him when he can’t complete his loop. He’ll stop engaging or be on the offence which she’s blame him for. Single focus is peace.

– When men want attention, they’ll even look for bad attention.

– Talks about phases of emasculating a man. Starting with men not doing anything right or they’re stupid. So women will make excuses in their head before emasculating the man. Then they’ll use that to justify the process. Then they’ll show the man they’re not happy and in the start a man might work towards making her happy but then he’ll see what she’s doing and go the opposite way.

– How much more productive have men been when you take care of them? Because they don’t expect it, remember they always feel like they’re the disposable male that has to give their life if or when needed.

– Men show appreciation by take and use. You made something, they took it and used it.

Bonus:
How to Talk to Men and Women
Making Marriage Work: Based on Scientific Studies (Summary) – Dr. John Gottman

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