Tiger Woods made me aware of this in his latest public statement. If you haven’t read that before, you can read it by clicking here.

Extracted from the website above:

I stopped living by the core values that I was taught to believe in. I knew my actions were wrong, but I convinced myself that normal rules didn’t apply. I never thought about who I was hurting. Instead, I thought only about myself. I ran straight through the boundaries that a married couple should live by. I thought I could get away with whatever I wanted to. I felt that I had worked hard my entire life and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me. I felt I was entitled. Thanks to money and fame, I didn’t have to go far to find them.

I was wrong. I was foolish. I don’t get to play by different rules. The same boundaries that apply to everyone apply to me. I brought this shame on myself. I hurt my wife, my kids, my mother, my wife’s family, my friends, my foundation and kids all around the world who admired me.

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In life, you’re given a set of rules to follow that are not written in words. Your job is to be alert and know them. As a matter of fact, Success has already laid out to you how to win the game! For instance, the core values like being persistence, have confident in you, stay positive, abundance mentality and so on are just part of the rules to achieve your dreams and goals. Can you argue with me that if you live fearfully, always think negative and so on, you can achieve success? Of course they don’t help and that’s not playing by the rules of success!

By now, if you didn’t get it, I’ve just given you the greatest hint to success.

But the good news is, you can play the game of success with extra advantages and it’s allowed as long as you don’t break the rules.

And these advantages can be found in KNOWLEDGE.

For instance, you could be a self-confident chap right now but the fact is, you can be even more self-confident if you know the strategies how to improve yourself. How would you know your limit or potential if you are having the assumption that you already know? Big mistake.

And this is not just towards being self-confident or something like that, but EVERY KNOWLEDGE, SKILL AND TALENT you have right now in you. Crazy, huh?

This is why, I’ve continue to read books and listen to courses related to personal development and success achievement - it’s not because I don’t know how what I don’t right now, but because I don’t know what I don’t know yet.

Only with the right knowledge, I can play the game better.

You don’t win the game by just knowing the rules. Wouldn’t you be able to play better Tennis if you know how to hold the racquet firmly, when to swing and how to swing it than just knowing the rules? I rest my case.

One last point, the opposite of winning is losing. Don’t worry about others lossing if you win because in the game of life, everybody can still be winning when you win.

Feel free to leave your comment - I read every single of them and always appreciate my reader’s feedback.

Thanks.

Patric Chan

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In my opinion, fearful thought is a disease!  It comes largely from distorted mental habits. You see, our mind is consistently dwelling upon thoughts of doubt, failure, and inefficiency - that’s just how our brain functions. And this leads to many kinds of fear like fear of poverty, darkness, ridicule, microbes, insomnia, dogs, lightning, burglars, cold, solitude, marriage, Friday, lawyers, death, thirteen, accident, and ghosts and most importantly for our discussion, fear of failure.

At the same time, it’s not wrong that one should fear, however, when it’s not being acknowledged, it weakens the personal character.

Here’s an interesting research…

Thousands of people when asked can say truthfully, “I have all my life feared things that never happened.”

It means that, WHATEVER YOU HAVE FEARED COULD BE JUST AN ILLUSION.

Indecision is another frequent cause of the fear. People hesitate to take a step one way or the other for fear that they might do the wrong thing, and this spirit of irresolution and hesitation often leads them into the very mistakes they would avoid. It’s like a man on a bicycle, endeavoring to steer clear of an obstruction on the road, but all the while keeping his eye fastened upon it so that a collision is inevitable.  There is nothing more disastrous to success than lack of purpose. If you give an impression that you are afraid, you will elbowed aside and imposed upon at almost every turn.

Personal experience:

I was in a casino last week and I was playing Baccarat. And if you have played before, you would know that it has nothing to do with skill. After start playing for a while, I’ve started losing my bet and a negative thought caught my mind - I lost confidence and fear of losing again. And you can guess what happened, I lost all of my chips after that. How did that happened? How did I end up playing on the wrong bet all of the time after that? It’s unexplainable, it’s what I meant by ‘attraction’.

When you have fear inside you, it frequently attracts what you don’t want.

How to overcome fear?

Well, be fearless. Develop self confidence in yourself.

The development of self-confidence begins with your own intelligent self-examination. The mind must be closely scrutinized, undesirable tendencies checked; faults eradicated, and correct habits of thought and conduct firmly established.

Sounds complex right? In a nutshell, you have to be strong in your mind to pull this off.

And good news is, confidence breeds confidence! The building of self-confidence is not difficult, but it requires patience and intelligent effort. There should be no straining, no anxiety, and no haste. Get it going and your self-confident will naturally ‘grows’.
 
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We shouldn’t apologize to ourselves (of course unless you’ve done something really wrong). We should be too big for that little habit of making excuses.  Depreciation of yourself, self-pity and so on, never won a single battle of life. It has, on the contrary, killed ambition, weakened the will, and incapacitated thousands of men for noble work. That is why I hate whiners so much.

Suppose you put these practical questions to yourself: Does negative thinking pay? 

Is it desirable for me to encourage thoughts in my mind that break down, hinder, and incapacitate me for good work? 

Do I want negative thoughts that inevitably bring discontent and unhappiness?

Your answer will be, of course, that you don’t want them. But such thoughts work insidiously, and will find an entrance into your mind if you’re not extremely vigilant. The surest way to keep them out, however, is to fill the mind completely with vital positive thoughts, to think constantly of yourself as a person of unlimited possibilities, growing daily in mental and spiritual power AND STOP WHINING why your life is not the way you want it to be.

Realize that no weak-hearted, intermittent efforts will achieve your desired purpose. Hold in your mind the supreme assurance that you can and will achieve this indispensable power, and your reward for your energy and perseverance will be great!

Feel free to leave your comment. Thanks.

Patric Chan

But let’s take wealth as part of success for an example (since wealth is rather easy to quantify) - someone making $10,000 a month could be a success but that some amount of money, could be a big failure for other people. Weird right?

So I guess it’s fair for me to say that the ‘numbers’ is not an ultimate benchmark because each person’s goal and expectation are different.

I can tell you one thing for sure — achieving success is a very interesting ‘quest’ or journey. Seems like the longer you wait, the least possibility that you’ll achieve it.

My piece of advice? If you want to achieve success, be it a $10,000 or a million dollar goal, better do it now.

But I know, a lot of people can’t do it now because they’re waiting for the right time or they think that something else is still missing before they can ‘go all out’ to make their dreams come true for themselves.

There are plenty of reasons why. As a matter of fact, lack of confidence will also influence this decision, although most people will never admit that they don’t have confidence. Come on, who will admit that they’re weak or inferior?

Then there’s the reason of being fearful. As we know of, there are many types of fear and I guess the most dreadful one would probably be the fear of failure. Funny thing is, I’ve never seen a successful man or woman who never fails before and yet, people who never achieve success are worried about failures when failures is actually what ‘help’ them to achieve success.

The strategy to get started on your goal and achieve success is to take impactful “baby” steps. Many are dreamers who will ALWAYS be dreamers because they don’t see the ’small’ things.

Put it this way, Rome wasn’t build in a day.

I mean, I have so many conversations with people who told me about their great million-dollar ideas but when I ask them who’s going to do it, to make the idea a reality, they either shy away or give me an impractical answer like, “Oh, I’ll partner with someone to do all of the business building part.” O-M-G. Unless you happened to be Sir Richard Branson or Steve Jobs, I don’t think anyone wants to work on your idea and slave their time to build your dream. Wake up.

This is why, I’m so passionate with the success formulas that I share with my Private Members - they’re quick and precise. You don’t need to apply all of them and here’s the cool thing; even if you can just apply one success formula a week, you’ll start to create small impact in your life that will snowball into huge success.

Get them now at www.successtrace.com. Really.

I want you to start seeing the way to success in a different way (that is, if you like to follow my formula).

1. First, success happens when you start with ’something’. Like, if you want to drive a Porsche but can’t afford it yet right now, get another brand’s car that you can afford. Then as long as Porsche is still in your intention, I believe you’ll find a way to get it. But if you don’t start with another car first and just want to have THAT Porsche, I think it’s going to be a tougher goal.

2. There’s no one formula to success, bucko. STOP TORTURING YOUR MIND TO LOOK FOR IT. Even Law Of Attraction has so many methods to go about it. The trick is to keep on ‘pilling’ more success formulas into your life and “snowball” it.

3. The more you delay, the less likely you’re going to get it. I know it sounds cruel but hey, like it or not, that’s the fact. You better start achieving your success now or else it might never happens at all because there are going to be so many events and circumstances in your life.

4. It’s very important that you can ‘taste’ success now, regardless of how small it is. That itself will propel you to continue your journey and ignite your flame of passion to keep you excited.
 
5. Finally, ask yourself, WHEN? When you’re going to experience success? Of course, success could be define as anything but in this context, we’ll stick to financial wealth to make it easy to visualize. So can you see yourself driving the BMW or Porsche that you want or living in your ideal house? Just imagine that you don’t have a timeline but you just say to yourself that you want to own your dream car or house on one fine day. Now, that sounds like a loser’s wishful thinking. If anyone’s reading this is offended by what I’ve said, I’m sorry but unfortunately, I’m in the business of helping people to achieve success in life, not a consoling doctor.

If you find value in what you’ve read or like it, feel free to leave your comment below and I’ll appreciate that. I read all of the comments personally.

Thanks,

Patric Chan
Founder, SuccessTrace.com

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