According to this BBC Report, Robbie Williams has problems with his confidence. For most people, this will be totally dismissed as nonesense because it doesn’t make sense that someone with confidence issues could sing live in front of thousands or even millions of people. However the truth is that everyone experiences confidence challenges, however there are some people who have learned to get through it.

There is no need to make comparisons between ourselves and famous people like Robbie Williams, our own experience of confidence is our own. No-one is likely to ask you to sing in front of thousands of people, and if they did you’d have to get through it somehow, or run for the hills.

The bottom line is it’s ok to have issues with your confidence. There are some people in life who push themselves to overcome their fears to see how well they can master their self-confidence. Again, this is not something that you are likely to choose for yourself. What we can learn from these people who do it anyway, in spite of their fears and lack of confidence, is that we can overcome these things for ourselves. For you it might be that speaking up in a meeting fills you with fear and dread, or it might be doing some public speaking, or as simple as speaking with a difficult boss.

We are all capable of overcoming our fears and finding our inner confidence. Sometimes it can be as simple as giving yourself a push in the right direction - so if you are asked to do a presentation, accept before you think to say no! Once you’ve got through it, of course you are going to review your performance - don’t forget the things you did right! For one, you got up there and you did it - which is unlike your normal self. Learn to focus only on the good points - ok it’s hard, but it’s better than beating yourself up!

If you ask someone who appears to have good confidence, “What areas do you feel you struggle with your confidence”, there won’t be many people who answer, “None”. From my own experience of coaching un-confident people and those who attend my workshops, I find that the vast majority of them appear to be confident already. It’s about how you feel, and realising that you are not the only one… it happens to everyone.

Take a leaf out of Robbie’s book and just do it.

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The problem with being a victim is that you are taking no responsibility for anything in your life. You believe that it is not your fault that you are a victim, it’s just how it is and the circumstances you’ve got. The victim mentality will serve only to keep you a victim forever. You’ll attract people in your life who help you stay firmly rooted and you make choices that encourage your circumstances to lock you in place.

The only way forward is to identify that you are not locked in the grip of people around you, you are in fact choosing to be gripped by them. It is perfectly possible to come out from their grip and take control and charge of your life. In fact they can’t let you go because they are not holding you there, you are holding yourself there.

Victims make excuses, so to be different, you have to let go of your excuses and take responsibility for your actions and reactions. Victims blame it all on being too fat, too tall, too short, or some other reason, and to take control you have to realise that it’s none of those things.

Victims often know exactly what they need to do to stop being a victim, but the lure and the rewards of being a victim are often strong enough to keep them there. It feels very exposed when you let go of your need to be a victim, however it’s worth it because you can never be happy unless you do.

The truth is that a victim is not a victim of another person, or their circumstances, or anything external at all. A victim is a victim only of themselves.

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Often people say, “make the most of a bad lot”, however this isn’t the whole picture - It focuses on the “bad lot”. Ultimately, things are only bad if you say they are, likewise with them being good. I’ve encountered many people with a “bad lot” who have managed to thrive in incredible ways! As a recent media example: On Derren Brown’s show the other day he introduced us to the Bat Man (Dan Kish) - a blind man who navigates about by making clicking noises. You can read more about him and the work he does here: Blind taught to see like a bat.

It’s essentially a change of perspective and thinking - it’s about finding a way, even if you don’t really know what it is yet!

In order to thrive in life, you have to focus on all the reasons why you can, and let go of your focus on all the reasons why you can’t.

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Below is some promotional information about the Brad Sugars UK Tour. If you would like tickets for this event at half the price advertised below, then contact Emma-Rae using the box below.

Brad Sugars UK Tour 2009

Rather than just take our word for it . . . read “what the papers say” about this event and what you’ll get out of investing just half a day of your time on the morning of Wednesday 7th October . . .

“A MAN regarded by many as being one of the world’s top business gurus is to come to Worcester to give an inspirational talk to the region’s captains of industry.

The visit of Australian Brad Sugars at Worcester Rugby Club is widely anticipated by the business community in Herefordshire and Worcestershire, with all 650 places expected to soon be snapped up.

The straight talking Brisbane born entrepreneur retired, albeit temporarily, a multi-millionaire at the age of 26 after transforming businesses with his ideas.

He set up the company ActionCOACH, which amongst the business community is the world’s best-known business coaching company, and has transformed the fortunes of many companies.

Mr Sugars, still only 38, will be telling his audience how the current tough economic climate can be the best for growing businesses and showing 28 successful strategies, which companies can implement to aid their fortunes at the moment.

Herefordshire and Worcestershire Chamber of Commerce chief executive Mike Ashton is one of the many looking forward to the event and is encouraging business owners not to forego the opportunity.

Mr Ashton said: “Brad Sugars is an inspirational entrepreneur and this is an excellent opportunity for all local companies to get some really sound advice from somebody that has had international success. In these interesting economic times it is essential to take these opportunities and we will be encouraging as many member companies as possible to attend.”

His sentiments are echoed by Bromsgrove-based award-winning ActionCOACH business coach Mary Collin who said: “This is a fantastic coup for Worcester that we have Brad Sugars coming to help give us a shot in the arm.

“I’ve spoken to many in the business community about this event and in the business world it is almost akin to Elton John or Madonna coming. The impact he makes on audiences is incredible.”

Business is Booming by Brad Sugars is on Wednesday 7 October, starting at 10.30am with registration and networking from 9.00am and costs £49 plus VAT.

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I find this a really powerful idea and something that is adaptable to anyone. If you’re not used to using the F5 key on a computer, then pick something else that reminds you of being refreshed. Perhaps you could imagine your brain taking a shower, or give yourself an imaginary favourite drink. I’d love to hear your suggestions in the comments below.

So thanks Terry from Scrub Tops (if that’s indeed your real name!) and I hope, like me, that you will find this a useful tip whenever you need to think more positively.

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