Livia Nemeth - Do Selfhelp

2009-11-01T21:52:00.001+01:00

Interesting poll : When a situation does not feel good for you, do you dare to speak up ? //twtpoll.com/yl5002

2009-11-01T17:14:00.001+01:00

"what you think makes how you feel" quote lifecoach livianemeth

Everlasting lifefulfillment

2009-10-24T15:16:00.013+02:00

Why is it so important to be fulfilling in life ?

Fulfillment i s what makes you tik, on a daily basis, like your heartbeat.
If your heart does not beat anymore you are dead. If you have no fulfillment in your life you might still be living, though feel more like surviving than living.

Have you ever had that feeling that you are surviving ?
The feeling that you are so called "trapped" because you are not happy with where you are now and do not know where to go.

We can escape this feeling temporary with drugs, alcohool, adultary, workoholism, sleeping endlessly to just name a few.
Only this will brings us only temporary satisfaction and no real satisfaction.
We will be digging our whole only deeper by not wanting to acknowledge that something is missing in life. True fulfillment. A true meaning for our life and our existence.

We all need this and especially around between the age of 35 and 50, depending on the person, we might be looking for something that will give us true fulfillment.

In our life we can run around all our life; untill we become ill, untill our relationships breaks up or untill we loose our job or financial security. When that happens it feels like it is too late.Though it is never too late, some people need to go just a little deeper than others to arrive at a higher peak again later on, if they are willing to see it as a temporary low.

If Fullfillment would be representing a colour it would be the colour purple.
If running around would represent a colour it would be the colour red.
The vibration of the colour purple is much higher than the vibration red so if you have more fulfillment you do not need to run as much around anymore, to get the same result.

What will be the advantages of creating fullfillment in your life ?
When you have fulfillment in your life, your advantages are :
1. A good feeling about your life, your life has meaning, you are here for a reason.
2. A good feeling about yourself playing the main character in your life,
your role in your life has regained new meaning
3. You will have that sparkle over you that attracts people around you
4. You will notice that you will receive things, offers, opportunities out of the
nowhere that helps you to strengthen the meaning in your life.
5. You will be able to take purposefull actions, which magnifies the results

What is Purposefull action ? It is Action with a purpose.

Why is purpose so important ?
The purpose for your action is the engine behind the action.
How far would your car get without an engine anyway ?

Having passion is like the fuel, you can have the fuel but that is not enough you need the engine as well.
You can still refuel your passion but if you do no have the engine, the fulfillment, a powerfull meaning in your life, you are stuck.
And the more powerfull your engine is, the quicker you will get where you want to be.

Now does your engine needs a brush up once in a while ?
Indeed it does, you regularly need to check up your engine, being fulfilled in your life will not last forever, we all have our ups and downs.

So, if you feel that your engine does not work as well anymore as before, if you feel that your fulfillment in life is lower than before than you need to review it, if you want things to go as smooth as in the past.

So is it possible to have everlasting life fullfillment ?

Yes, but you have to work on it, maybe replace your engine from the past-your lifefullfimment from the past, for a new one.

It is not a problem if you have to replace it, replace the meaning in your life, what matters is that you have an engine that is as powerfull as you want it to be.

If your meaning in your life is not powerfull, if your energy in your life is not powerfull it will not last long and you will be stuck again, whether it is on the highway - in your career, or in the fields of your private life.

Therefore make sure that your meaning in your life is powerfull, and brush it up or change it when necessary so you can enjoy everlasting life fulfillment !

Now what is your Next step ?

Livia Németh
Inspirator and Empowerer
Coach, Trainer, Writer
Founder Unique You(c)
"How to get to the Next Level"
"Discover and magnify your excellence"

Living your life at your best

2009-09-14T09:48:00.006+02:00

Some people would love this title and other would hate it, why ?
Living at your best has a different connotation for everybody for some people it means "real stress" : maybe they were raised that way and failure was not allowed.
For some people it is a "must", failure is not an option, they have become perfectionists with or without the influence of their parents.

And for others : "living your life at your best" is more like "a fun challenge".
For me today, it is a fun challenge, but it has not always been that way, and that's why i realise the importance of it and want to share this with you.

Today, while i was driving my sun to school i shared this with my sun :" Do you know what the most important vitue is ?" "Being able to acknowledge, while laughing, that you made a mistake and that one will do it differently next time."
Laughing helps you to not take yourself to seriously, you are not perfect, you are only human; like michael jackson wrote in his song "will you be there ?" - I am only human"

When you are able to laugh at your mistakes, you can easily take new advice for granted, and you will be able to see improverment as a fun challenge.

Perfectionism, however, makes that you are too hard on yourself but also too hard on others; mistakes or missteps are unacceptable. in that case: one actually does not allow himself to be "human"

In life we need time to become what we ultimately want to become or create.
Time is a necessary step between desire and creation.

Therefore the biggest gift you can give to yourself is to acknowlegde that you are human and you will do the best you can today, to ultimately arrive where you want to be.

Relfecting on this, how will this approach impact your life ?

What is your next step ?

Livia Németh
Inspirator and Empowerer
"How to get to the Next Level"

How to empower yourself in times of crises ?

2009-03-28T21:16:00.011+01:00

Dear Readers,

What is a crises ?
Crises is no more than just a word. But for many this word does not feel good.
Many people see Crises as a period of hardship, though is it really true ?
Is it really a period of hardship or is it period where some people become even more successfull and others not ?
A period where ones actions in the past demands new reflection ?

Crisis means in chinese "opportunity", and not for nothing.
For me personally a Crises is the opportunity to make more of oneself and your of ones life and business.

We all know that Challenges make you stronger . Even after you passed through crises in your life you were able to take valuable lessons.
Now the key question is : How can you Live this crises at this moment in a new empowering way ?
The way you live your life and feel on a daily basis starts all with what you communicate to yourself and others.
And whatever you communicate is what you give meaning to.

To give a new powerfull meaning to this "crises"; you can start using powerfull words on a daily basis that makes you experience this "crises" in a different way.How you talk about the present situation in your life gives or takes energy away from you.

Check this out : how do you feel when you say the words : "poblems", "difficulties", "hardship" ?
You will notice that saying those words definetely makes you feel worse than before
But to realise something positive in our life, we need to feel good .

Therefore you can start using from today new empowering words like :
"challenge" strech", "opportunity" "breaktrough".

And to make it more powerfull, you can make a full sentence of it like :
"I am living A new "Challenge",
"I get the chance to Strech myself again, great !",
"This is a new Opportunity to make for more out of myself and my life "
"this is A Chance for a breakthrough"!"

Try them out each of them, how do they feel when you say them ? Do you think you have more energy now to make the necessary changes in your life ?

You can use these sentences or use your own empowering sentence as a mantra on a daily basis.

Saying new words and sentences help you to create for yourself a new reality, where opportunites will arise.

Remind yourself Everyday of your new reality by repeating these words and sentences.

Do also Remind yourself that we are all in the same crises. You are not alone.

Tell me : What is your next step ?

Livia Németh
Inspirator, Empowerer on
"How to get to the next level"

A historical day in history

2009-01-20T16:38:00.004+01:00

First of all i wanted to wish you all a magnificent 2009 ! It's a Master Year so even more reason to make a master year of it !
Today is also the inauguration for Barack Obama, the 44st president of the United States.
An historical day for people worldwide , its this day that the dreams of Martin Luther King are truly Manifested, that race or colour does not matter anymore. That everybody can make as big as a change as he/she wants to make in this world !

I wish for you that you can make as big as a change as you want for this world, the world needs all of us. so nomatter what you can do best, come forward with it !

What is your next step ?

Livia Németh
Inspirator, Empowerer
"How the get to the Next Level"

What makes me tick ...

2008-11-23T10:11:00.008+01:00

I regularly get the question of people,
"How did you get, where you are now ? "and

What do you like about what you are doing ?"

So I thought i will share this with you on this blog.

First of all I love to share my knowledge and insights with others as they brought me where i am now. Happy inl life, my relationship, as a mother, financially independant...
So it is my intention to inspire and empower people to bring them to the next level of their life.

Second All my life i had lots of insights already. There is not a day where i do not have ideas or insights that could help me and others ahead in my life. I was often asked for suggestions. For Years and Years I only shared them with my friends, but as it was not satifying enough for me, i decided to share my knowledge with a wider public by becoming a professional coach, trainer, writer. Now i enjoy being able to share all i know with the world and i feel preveliged to have reached the stage where i can do so.

Third i have seen so much unhappiness around me, my father who died when i was nine (by intention) my stephfather and mother .... There were many things that created their unhappiness : unfulfilled dreames, lack of self-esteem , unharmonious relationships, financial hardship, unhealthy patterns like addiction, adultary, mental and physical batterment ...
They were unfortunately also envious of others who were wealthy, happy, successfull, instead of creating it themselves. I thought by myself when i was young, "this could not be true" This is not possible" "Life could be better than that, it should be possible to become happy and successfull at the same time but how ? So it became it kind of a quest for me to become happy, successfull, wealthy myself ; and to be able to teach it to others later.

Fourth the first 10-15 years of my marriage i was not very happy and especially not happy with myself. Now i know by my own experience with the help of the teachers and education i followed I become more self-confident, happy with the years, more happy in a relationship (even if this person is from another culture and religion ) And learned how to fall in love and feel connect with my partner again and how to make a healthy new start
Professionally I learned how to develop my career from a secretary to international marketing manager, to a coach, trainer
Now, Everyday i feel like i am on holiday. As i choose freely how my day will look like that day.
I teach what i learned over the years and enjoy writing, coaching, training, sharing, developping new products and partnerships. I make sure that every holiday with my family is a manificent experience. And intensif our family connections as much as possible.
I feel that i am blessed that i reached this stage and i think everybody can if he wants to.

Fifth : People also ask me "how can you be succesfull and managing three companies at the same time? First of all i do not do it all alone. Some activities i focus on, others my husband focusses on and some we do together.
For every activity we have a special mission and we have a mission that combines all of our activities. We know our ultimate goal and every service is complementary to others. Overall we want to make a difference in peoples life, offering services that help them to create more wellbeing in their life. And that is what makes us tick in general.

Sixth - As a coach I most of all enjoy to see the evolution of my clients even after one session, where they are stressed, unhappy, and where they leave again with more insight, new tools, a new prospective, more sense of direction, a smile on their face.
And ofcourse when i receive a testimonial in which they describe how they advanced in their life through coaching with me, that gives me the feeling
that i am truly making a difference....

Seventh : I feel it as my duty, having received many qualities at my birth, like all of us;
to use them to the optimum, develop them and and share them with others as much as i can.
To ultimately make this world a better world, where people know how to get rid of their
lack of self-esteem, envy, and take their life in their own hands, know how to connect, know how to integrate more happiness and succes in their lives.

Eight : last but nog least
In my opinion, the more happy and wealthy people there are in this world,
the less anger, the less wars, and poverty there is in this world.

Less fear and hatred => more constructive construction and intense connections
instead of destruction and seperation.

With my services i do my share to make a difference in this world
as a lifecoach, nlp therapist, relationshipscoach and colourcoach, trainer and writer
I want to help this world to become a better place, a haven or all of us,
starting to create small havens around me
"bombay inn with my husband; for people to relax, destress, and enjoy the delicacies of an other world continent
"Forrentinbrussels " a haven for expats in brussels, with affordable colourfull residences

"Favoritefloridavilla": a place to totally destress, enjoy familyconnections and the joys of life
"Unique You Institute" "and this blog a haven in brussels and online the recharge batteries, become inspired and empowered to go to the next level of your life !

And by writing ; i want my books to be havens for periods and moments in distress, wherever you are in the world...
I will inform you when my first book is out.

Creating these havens is what really, really makes me tick ...
My intention is to create havens worldwide, but i need your help !
If you think this blog is valuable for you and or for others you, please forward this blog to as many people as you can....

Wishing you happiness, success and lots of joy and laughter !

Livia

Livia's Quote of today : "We have received the liberty to choose, to express, to give, to share, to dream and to create, what more do we need ?"

2008-11-21T23:08:00.007+01:00

7 tips on why and when to Integrate perseverence in your life

2008-11-21T09:39:00.015+01:00

Perseverence = Longivety= Long life

Perseverance is the most important quality you might have in your life and if you do not use it yet to the fullest you better start using it from today.
Perseverance is "To persist steadily in an action or belief, especially despite problems or difficulties."
We all have perseverance. Some use perseverance only when they feel "they are trapped “and they will do everything to get out of it or when the "the dead end" is insight. When they’d better put their perseverance into action or else... they might well end up in the dead end.
The dead end of their job, relationships, financial situation or health! To just name a few.

Some use perseverance mainly when they found they are on to something, a real opportunity they do not know yet if it will be an opportunity but they are persevered to find it despite problems or the possibility of failure.

Most of us use perseverance only in situations with pressure ; we don't want to do something but have to do something or when we are close to our goal and we have no way back.(almost at the top of the mountain, the last month of the pregnancy, the last days of an exam)

And Then there are people that use perseverance in their daily life. Knowing what ticks them and what they want out of their life they are able to persevere on all levels of life. They are pro-active. They don't take persevered action when it is highly urgent, when they are under pressure or something is at stake, they take persevered focused action all the time as they are always persistent in action and belief, they know what they want and persist until they succeed.

These are the people that are able to create big successes in their life and in hard times you will not hear them complain. Here are 7 tips how to integrate persevere in your daily life, that will help you to become a happier and more successful person:

1. Persevere when you make a mistake, never give up, keep going
2. Persevere even when things in your life are really bad allowing yourself to just be human at all times
3. Perseverance in the desire to know: the why, what and the how; which will help you to gain more wisdom
4. Perseverance in taking action never waits, never postpone, just take action immediately
5. Perseverance in advancing, even if things go slow make sure you keep going, step by step
6. Perseverance while being flexible - you are allowed to change to procedures as long as it brings you quicker and more effectively to your goal
7. Perseverance in positive expectations, keep your desired outcome in mind at all times.

What will perseverance bring you when integrating it in your daily life?
- not feeling stressed and overwhelmed in your daily life anymore
- you take your life in your own hands
- you will not end up anymore in "dead end situations" anymore, where it seems to be too late
- you don't have to wonder anymore wether there is a solution,
Perseverance helps you to find one !
- With perseverance you can make out of nothing, something and out of something, something to be proud of
- Perseverance on a daily basis will help you feel better about yourself and more confident after you stars getting results
- And You know that by persevering in taking action and in advancing
you will end up at your desired outcome sooner or later.

What is your next step ?

Livia Németh
Inspirator, Empowerer
"How to get to the next Level"

Livia's quote of the day : "Your life is yours and yours only, today and for the rest of your life"

2008-11-19T21:33:00.002+01:00

How to convert problems into opportunitites

2008-11-17T22:38:00.009+01:00

Worrying can give you steady and unrelenting pressure, it is unpaid overtime work that can even threat your health if you continue being focused on problems and continue worrying.

So it is time to do something about it.

When you start worrying the problem often is not there yet, not yet for you and will never be if you take constructive action. Worrying is a stage before a problem really arises. At that moment in time you have the choice to :
Convert potential problems into true problems and dead ends by continuing worrying or to stop worrying and putting all your effort on finding constructive solutions and converting potential problems actually into challenges and opportunities.

The choice is up to you.
This are serious consequences if you Continue worrying namely :
-> Worries become potential problems
-> Potential problems unsolved on the long term become actual problems
One then start complaining and blaming You will have no energy left to find constructive solutions and to take constructive actionThis impassiveness makes that the problem becomes only bigger and bigger.
With other words : You actually cannot afford yourself the luxury to worry and to complain Worrying and complaining create a "dead end" and a feeling that there is no way out. Once you realize that your creative mind will actually not look for solutions but look for whom to blame.

When you put energy into the negative spiral you will actually get the feeling that you need to "fight in your life to survive" In politics you will see a reflection of it . Remember Mccain always saying "I fight". "We need to fight for ...." while putting a lot of energy in the "blame game" and in expressing resentment And Obama focused more on what matters, on communicating constructive solutions and on making people believe "We can, Yes we can" .

Now back to you : You always have a choice whether you want to fight to survive and feel resentment or whether you decide to focus on finding and talking about constructive solutions You can reprogram your 'hard drive' by
1) asking yourself what you can learn from this
2) understanding that the first signs of worrying is your wake-up call
3) being grateful of your critical part that started worrying as you need that critical part to understand that you have to find a solution
4) being conscious that the first signs of fear are there to help us understand what we do not want
5) believing that your potential problem is a great opportunity to change life for the better and that "there is a solution behind every potential problem"
6) Focusing and putting all your energy into a constructive way of thinking
7) Believing that you can do it, can find a solution, can create opportunities
8) Once you have found a solution, believing in your solution, and seeing how this solution will actually be manifested in your life
9) taking action, to make sure that your potential problem never actually becomes a problem but converts in to an opportunity, an opportunity to put things on track, to rebalance and to live life more to the fullest.

If you have managed to stay constructive you will :
1) feel more self-assured that you can tackle any potential problem
2) have more faith that you actually obtain all the skills you need to create what you want in your life
3) feel that you and your capacities are bigger than you thought and that there is actually no limit to your capacities as long as you are willing to move forward.

Now what about you ...?
What is your next step ?

Livia Németh
Inspirator, Empowerer
"How to get to the Next level"

We have the choice

2008-11-16T18:57:00.003+01:00

"Every Moment we have the choice to worsen or improve your life."
- L.J.E Németh

We have received the freedom in our life to choose what we make out of our life.

We have the choice to feel a victim of outside circumstances or to take our life in our own hands
We have the choice to complain or to find a constructive solution
We have the choice to feel bad or to find a way to make ourselves feel good again.

I invite you today to do one thing that makes you feel better about yourself.
Even if it is a tiny miny thing.

You owe it to yourself.

Now, What is your next step ?

Livia Németh
Inspirator, Empowerer
"How the get to the Next Level"