Beautiful Life

Never Give Up!

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 26 May 2010 06:59:00 +0000

If you have no confidence, if you are defeated, if you're being beaten, if you are troubled by fear, diffidence, apprehension, or weakness, then come to where the power is- in god!

Your belief in god gives you the confidence.

You must have confidence if you want to live well. Never let anything get you down..no matter how difficult, how hard it is, no matter how hopeless it may seem or how depressed you may become.

Whatever the quality and character of the circumstance involved, never let anything get you down.

Don't make today's judgements based upon yesterday's memories

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 22 May 2010 11:12:00 +0000

There is little doubt that we are largely products of our memories. Without being fully aware of it, past experiences have a way of weaving themselves into an expanding web of entrapment, ensnaring our present view of life.

Before we are, we were, so new ideas are filtered through past beliefs. When we attempt to establish what is, we are bogged down by what was.

But there is hope. No one is permanently preprogrammed.We all have the ability to assimilate new experience.But to do so, we must battle our memories and lessen their power. Unless we want our future to be nothing more than a rehash of our past, we must be aware of the power of the past to affect our behaviour. Only then we will be able to create our future.

Lets Forgive Ourselves

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 18 May 2010 06:24:00 +0000

If you are like me, you may forget your own telephone number, but have an unfailing memory for past mistakes you have made. We compound this when we allow these memories to cloud the present even after years they have occurred.

There are parents, for instance, who burden themselves with a lifetime of guilt for the mistakes they feel they made in bringing up their children. There are those who have made poor life decisions in work, social and personal situations and have pounded their chest raw with contrition.

Continuing to punish ourselves so far out of proportion to the wrongs we may have done is an intriguing phenomenon.

It suggests that we are our own harshest judge and chief tormentor. At one time or another, we will all need the forgiveness of others, but equally important is the forgiveness we owe to ourselves. Isn't it the time to liberate ourselves from our self imposed cells of guilt and regret?

Love is not about opening old wounds. It is about healing them. It is about getting up and moving forward, and getting on with life.

The cumulative effect of our simple acts

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 06:50:00 +0000

Every act has its consequence. We may not be aware of its importance, but in some Way , each event contributes to a bigger picture, the significance of which will be revealed only with time. If we can accept this, we can appreciate the importance of the simple, seemingly inconsequential acts we perform without thought, words we speak without consideration or hopes we dash without regard.

Forgiveness begins where blame ends..

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 10:26:00 +0000

Today, I was watching two children having an argument..They were quarreling over some insignificant things as we often do. Their dialogue went something like this:

"You're stupid!"

"Yeah! So are you."

"Not so stupid as you!"

"Oh Yeah!, That's what you think."

After they finished this exchange, they went their separate ways. When I returned to the site not more than an hr later, they were playing together again, having forgotten the whole thing. No brooding, no wounded egos, no blame, no dredging up the past, no recriminations. There it was, a brief and honest exchange of angry feelings, an even briefer cooling off period, and all was forgotten.

Children are certainly much more forgiving than adults. Somewhere in the process of growing up we seem to have become experts of holding grudges, cradling fragile egos and unforgiving natures. We develop razor sharp memories of past wrongs and carry them around, ready at a moment's notice to use them as an ammunition. We become skilled arguers with an underlying sense of what is right. We are determined to win every battle and if we don't, immediately begin plotting our revenge.

Forgiveness comes only when we can identify with others and admit to our own imperfection and an equal capacity for wrongdoing.

Trust

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 07:25:00 +0000

When you loose your partners trust, it creates a strong barrier where you cant live your life fully, happily with the person you love the most... and its not necessary that only a big lie like cheating on your partner or about certain things in life, will make your partner lose trust, even a small untrue statement which would be harmless will also make your partner lose trust because he will assume that if you can lie about small things, you can even lie about the more significant matters in your relationship.
Once you lose your partner’s trust, getting it back can be a difficult task. Your partner may forgive you but he will not be able to trust you completely. If you are in a situation where you have lost your partner's trust, You must also be frustrated because your partner may be continuously reminding you that he doesnt trust you anymore because of the lies you have told him and its not easy for him to forget that you have lied to him..
So What can you do about it?

I have been thinking a lot about it and I guess..
You should try to what your partner is going through and how difficult it is to believe in someone after they gave you a reason not to. Put yourself in their shoes and try to imagine how it would feel to be lied to, and how difficult it would be to trust the person who deceived you .

Accept the comments of your partner with patience and realize that there is no way around .Only time can heal your partners bitterness and anger. There are no instant fixes to this problem and there is no way restore trust and get it back overnight. Only time can make your partner forgive you and put behind the mistrust and give importance to your relationship..

Love is Beautiful

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 09:43:00 +0000

Relationships are very important in life.

Any amount of success would never mean anything if we don't have someone to share it with..

A relationship will last only if we see it as a place to Give and not a place to Take.

If we want a relationship to be nurtured, we have to tackle certain things much before the situation goes out of hand..

Small misunderstandings and clashes are pretty normal in any relationship..

One such relationship is Love...

Eliminate any problem in your love and married life before it threatens the relationship itself..

We feel resistance towards certain things that our partner said or did..when we don't handle the resistance, it grows into resentment and we start getting angry towards our partner.we begin to erect an emotional barrier..Then comes a point of rejection where we have so much resentment built up that we look for ways to make our partner wrong, and try to verbally or non verbally attack them.. everything seems irritating or annoying..Finally when we get tired of coping with anger, we try to reduce the pain by creating emotional numbness..we avoid feeling any pain but we also avoid passion and excitement..At this point the lovers become roommates..No one ever knows that the couple is going through any problem because they never fight...the fact is there is no relationship left..

Hence Solve your problems..

Communicate..communicate...communicate..

Talk in terms of preferences..Instead of saying..I cant stand you when you do this or that..say I'd prefer you to do it this way!!!!

Focus on making your relationship with your partner better and better each day!!

Reinforce your feelings of connection and renew your feelings of intimacy and attraction..

Love your Partner...Become fully associated to the privilege of sharing your life with your partner..feel the pleasure intensely and continuously anchor it into your nervous system!

Toddler's Laws

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 14:41:00 +0000

1.If I like it, it's mine.

2. If it's in my hand, Its mine.

3. If I can take it from you, it's mine.

4. If I had it a little while ago, It's mine.

5. If it's mine, it must never appear to be yours in any way.

6. If I am doing or building something,all the pieces are mine.

7. If it looks like mine, it is mine.

8. If I saw it first, it's mine.

9. If you are playing with something and you put it down, it automatically becomes mine.

10. If it's broken, it's yours.