Just like food, Communication too has always been the most integral part of our everyday life. Try thinking of a day when we are not allowed to do so; and you would find that it almost seems as hard as not eating the whole day. Since communication is imperative with us human beings, therefore it is important that we practice the art of positive communication in our daily life. By following some basic rules of positive communication, we can indeed spread a lot of good vibes in the spaces that we move around everyday.

Don’t refuse, out rightly!
Negative answers often lead to triggering of negative thought processes, which can very easily result in negative energies flowing around your environment. These negativities creeping into your system can have an adverse impact on the performance levels at work or anywhere, where you might be. In order to minimize the damage caused by these negative answers; it is important that the phrase is replaced by an expression that’s more subtle; but does not even compromise the real meaning of what we actually intended to say. For example; a straight and blunt “No” could be replaced by a more subtle sounding unfeasible; or impractical; or even with phrases such as; I am afraid the cons weigh slightly higher than the pros here.

Don’t make unrealistic claims!
Making unrealistic claims might lure people towards you in the short run; but in the long run, they always inflict a heavy damage on your credibility among the people. And once the credibility factor starts going down; it would virtually take a life-long effort to restore it back again. That’s why it is always advisable to not loose it in the first place. Although it might seem a little difficult in the beginning, but once you get into the habit of saying things that you can keep, and doing things that you have promised, it really becomes more of a good habit that you always grow fond of keeping day after day.
Although, there might be times when some unforeseen situation might hamper your chances
of fulfilling that promise in totality. Then you must not hesitate in communicating the cause of delay to the concerned and also inform about the revised date, when the chances of the remaining job completion are almost 100%.

Don’t criticize people behind their back!
We all are human beings, and we all make errors in judgment at some point or the other. Being too critical about other’s mistakes opens unnecessary quarters of dissent around us, who try to give back the same criticism at the slightest of opportunities of flaw they might sense at our end. That’s why it is important that we leave room for the human element when taking stock of performances of people around us. It will not only help us in looking at their positive light, but also act as a positive vibe giving them ample fillip to look at our efforts more positively. On the other hand, if we indulge in criticism behind people’s back; they will definitely feel insinuated by us for tarnishing their public image. By speaking to them personally, and taking them into confidence about a certain situation, we can also help in minimizing any air of doubt that might be there in their minds.

Don’t be afraid of accepting your fault!
We should never feel shy of accepting responsibilities of outcomes from our actions. If for some funny reason, the outcome does not meet the criteria of success, then we should also not hesitate from accepting it as our fault. If we indulge in passing the buck on somebody else’s shoulders; it can really lead to unpleasant situations and consequences that might make us feel guilty in the end.

Don’t forget to thank, who matter!
Who does not want to be successful in life? In fact, we all strive day in and out to achieve recognition for our efforts, and we all desire to savor the financial rewards of a successful career in life. But life is indeed funny; it does not always go the way we have planned it to; and that can at times lead to difficult situations arising out of it. In these hours of crisis, there are people who walk alongside us, telling us not to loose faith in our abilities. These people are like those comforting lamps in a pitch dark street where our treading feels easy. No matter how bright a pedestal we may walk one day, we must never forget those people who stood by us in our hard times. We must always keep in touch with these guiding lights during our times of adversity; because it is actually these people, who help us in keeping our feet firmly rooted to the ground.

Don’t underestimate the power of forgiveness!
And lastly but most significantly, we must always try to forgive. There is no negative vibe bigger than holding a grudge in our hearts. It not only plagues us from the inside, but also makes us more self centered in outlook and approach. There is virtually no harm in forgiving; it makes room for improvement in the faulting person’s life.

There is a very famous quote from a very noble man; Mahatma Gandhi, who single handedly changed the destiny of an entire nation; and it says “Be the change that you wish to see in this world.” This quote almost perfectly sums up this entire discussion on communication here; because ultimately, we are (in people’s perception) what we communicate ourselves to others.

Through all of this there is a natural human desire to help. A desire that can be held down by any number of reason but one of the most common is that the problems just seem to large. 30,000 children a day are dying from starvation, and more die in genocides and wars. There is simply nothing that can be done.

There is a story of a prudent businessman who worked near the beach. He would walk along the boardwalk each day and think about the world. He was an average man who understood the futility of trying to change the world.

One day as he walked out he noticed that the entire beach was filled with starfish. He didn’t understand why, but he knew they were going to die and as he walked along the boardwalk he watched them. He tried to imagine what anyone could do. He saw bulldozers pushing them back into the water but knew it was impractical.

Then as he walked he saw a young boy the boy was franticly running along the beach picking up starfish and hurling them back into the ocean. The businessman stopped and watched him for a moment and then walked down to talk to the young boy.

“There are too many, you’ll never make. A difference,” the businessman said as he approached the young boy.
The young boy grabbed another of the starfish from the beach looked at the man then threw the starfish as hard as he could into the water. “It made a difference for that one,” He said.

The story does not say what the businessman did with the lesson he learned. Some hear the lesson but it falls upon deaf ears, other hear but find other excuses. A few though understand the lesson and take it to heart and one of those men not only change the lives of those who they help, but those who understand why they are helping.

The world is an overwhelming place. The problems of this world cannot be solved by the richest or most powerful of men, and they certainly cannot be solved by us. Instead, we must learn a truth greater than that of the size of the world. We must learn that each time we choose to make a difference in a single life we save the world for that person.

Positive thinking seems so simple to many, but can be quite difficult to implement in reality. And no one seems to really understand the connection between body and mind, and how one can use this power to achieve health and well-being. There are many stories of people who were in terrible accidents and doctors did not expect them to live. But, through the miraculous power of the mind, they not only lived, but fully recovered! It is this level of positive thinking that will allow you, not only health and well-being, but wealth, wisdom and happiness.

This is not to say that all you have to do is think positive and all good things will come to you. No…you must put action behind your positive thoughts. When opportunities arise, you will be pulled powerfully into action. This means that if you are consistently creating positive thoughts, and then something comes up that correlates with your positive thoughts, taking action will be an automatic response. For example, if you are sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that you will land the job of your dreams, and a call comes to offer you that job, you will jump at the chance, right?

Thinking positive is way more powerful than you may realize…why not give it a go now?

1.) Does your spouse or partner complain that you spend too much money?

2.) Are you surprised each month when your credit card bill arrives at how much more you charged than you thought you had?

3.) Do you have more shoes and clothes in your closet than you could ever possibly wear?

4.) Do you own every new gadget before it has time to collect dust on a retailer’s shelf?

5.) Do you buy things you didn’t know you wanted until you saw them on display in a store?

If you answered yes to two or more of these questions, you may be an impulse spender! Don’t worry though – we won’t toss you into retail therapy just yet. For many people though, shopping or just spending money in general is more than just a bad habit. There are individuals and families in North America that are racking hundreds of thousands of dollars each and every year because of their impulsive spending.

I’m sure you don’t need me to tell you how bad impulse spending can be. You already know that it will prevent you from saving for the big things such as a house, car, vacation, or even retirement. It doesn’t stop at just money issues though. It can also put a strain on your personal relationships – and I don’t just mean your spouse or partner. Your kids will pick up on the tension that surrounds anything to do with spending (not to mention the habits you’ll be passing down to them); if you’ve borrowed money from other people and they see you spending like mad – they will get upset with you; and of course money is a well known cause for divorce in this day and age.

Knowing that the problem exists is the first step. I know you hear that statement with every single problem management system out there, but it really is the truth. The next step is starting to set some financial goals. Make them small – even if it’s only a one week goal like not buying any coffee for the week and putting the money you would have spent into an account. Accomplishing goals is a major motivating factor for anyone. So start small, and build big.

Next, you need to start to understand the difference between your wants and your needs. This can be hard to do especially if you are a long time impulse spender. One way you can help yourself with this it to give yourself a mandatory waiting period before any purchases. If you can wait for 24 hours, that’s great! If all you can muster is an hour – then it’s a start. There are also some other ways your can help to manage your spending such as leaving your credit cards and debit cards at home. Make a list of things you need to purchase and bring enough cash to cover the cost. If you see something that you want to buy, you won’t have the ability to purchase it on the spot. The premise behind this is that in the time it takes you to go home and get back to the store, you can determine if the item is a want or a need.

What tricks do you have to manage your spending?

Some people will tell you that time management is all about creating a list of things that must be done, scheduling every moment of your day, setting goals, and prioritizing your tasks. Although these concepts are at the core of time management, there are many other factors that come into play as well such as decision making and critical thinking.

The Pareto principle, also known as the 80-20 rule, states that for many events, approximately 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. The concept was developed by Joseph Juran who named it after an Italian economist Vitfredo Pareto who observed that 80% of the land in Italy was owned by 20% of the population. There’s nothing really special about the number 80. In fact, in most business principles you’ll see that ratio. It’s mainly used to emphasize just how much is lost, or gained with time management.

Whether you are looking at time management from a personal level, a business level, or as a general way of life, there is one constant: time management is about getting results and not necessarily being busy. There is a huge difference between those two ideas. Have you ever seen someone in your office (or perhaps a friend or spouse) who seems to constantly be running around fretting about “all the work” they have to complete? They look really busy – and in fact they are. But their time management skills could be lacking. At the end of the day, I can almost guarantee that person has not accomplished as much as they should have or could have had they implemented a time management program.

One way to start to manage your day is to understand that every person has a natural cycle. Are you a morning person, or a night person? Are you ready for a nap by 3:00 PM? That is your natural cycle. If you’re a night person, you shouldn’t be trying to handle your most important or your hardest tasks during the morning when you are least likely to be able to think clearly or act decisively.

In order to start prioritizing your day, you also have to stop thinking of NO as a dirty word. If you take on a project that you can’t do, or one in which you don’t have the time to do then you are not helping that person out. You are going to produce less than stellar results!

Put the “Getting Things Done” mentality into motion. If it takes less than 2 minutes to do – then do it! Remember, 2 minutes is just an arbitrary number. It could have 5 minutes, 7 minutes, etc. If it’ll take longer than 2 minutes to accomplish, then you need to decide if it’s something you should do, or if it can be done by someone else. If it must be done by you place it into one of three piles. The first pile contains tasks that will only take one step to complete. The second pile contains things that will take two or more steps to do. And the third pile contains things that are for reference. Everything else should be tossed out to the trash!

There’s a great quote whose Author is unknown: Today, be aware of how you are spending your 1,440 beautiful moments, and spend them wisely.

A colleague of mine was writing on a similar topic not too long ago and it really got me thinking about the way I’ve been looking at life in general. I hate to admit it, but I was one of those people who were getting sucked into that feeling of despair! There was no light at the end of the tunnel – no way out. It’s hard to think otherwise in the economic situation that we have in North America.

I had to really dig deep within myself to remember the things that were told to me when I was a young child. I call them wisdom pearls because no matter how “down and dirty” things get, I can pull out those wisdom pearls, wash them off, buff them to a keen shine and they’re good as new.

Have you ever had your kids walk in to the house, boots filled with water and dirt? They were playing outside in the park after a huge rainfall and they seem to have found every single puddle and dirt pile that was outside. They come dancing up the driveway and in through the back door to your kitchen. The kids are covered head to toe in whatever it was they found outside, and despite your best efforts, your kitchen gets covered with the same grime that came in on the kids. As your angels run through the house to find some more fun, you take a look around and curse under your breath at all the work you’ll have to do (or worse yet – redo!).

Remember those pearls I was talking about? Well let’s pull out that pearl and get it shined up, shall we? When I was young, I WAS that child coming in covered head-to-toe in Lord knows what, and I remember my grandma telling me, “You kids mucking up Gram’s floor doesn’t bother me one bit – it means my babies are here with me”.

Doesn’t that pearl shine through all the muck your kids just brought in?

No matter how bad things look at the moment, we need to try to find the silver lining – no matter how hard we have to look. Sure, my little pearl isn’t going to send that mud caked all over your kitchen anywhere, but it sure does give you a different perspective.

So the next time your car breaks down in the middle of the road; or you walk in to your boss’ office as he hands you yet another stack of paper; or you have a mountain of dishes to wash by hand – remember Grandma’s advice. Your car couldn’t have broken down if you couldn’t afford to have a car in the first place. Your boss couldn’t have given you extra projects if you didn’t have a job (or if you weren’t good at the one you do have). And you wouldn’t have to do any dishes if you didn’t have any food to eat.

Vision boards can come in many different designs – it could be a cork board on which you’ve pinned pictures of things you want; or it could be a simple poster board that you have pasted the images torn from magazines; it could even be a folder on your computer that holds the images you’ve scavenged from the website that indicate all the things you long to have.

It doesn’t matter what form your vision board takes place. What does matter is that it will help you to add clarity to your thoughts and will give a feeling to your “vision” of what you’d like your life to be.

Get Started!

• Pick up a large poster board or bulletin board from the store.

• Find a huge stack of magazines. You can find these all over the place, and you’ll want to ensure you have a lot of different types of magazines. You don’t necessarily need to have magazines in your pile that you would normally read.

• If you’re using a poster board, you’re going to need glue. Don’t get the cheap kind of kids glue though because it’ll make your images ripple and look funny. You can get great glue from your local scrapbook stores. If you’re using a cork board, you’re going to need pushpins.

• Start to go through the magazines and tear out anything that “speaks” to you. We’re not going to put anything on your vision board yet – we just want to get a lot of images right now. You don’t have to limit yourself to just images – you could also tear out words and phrases as well.

• Once you have your pile of torn out images, start to go back through them and pull out your favourites.

• We’re almost set to get that board ready! There’s no right way to set up your board. You may want to just have a huge collage, or maybe you want a very linear look to everything. You may want to group like images together (health, relationships, career, etc)

• Now you can glue or pin everything to your board. If you’d like to write some text on there, go ahead and do that too.

• Remember to put a great picture of yourself on your board too.

• Hang your new vision board somewhere that you will see it often.

There are a lot of ways that you can motivate yourself on a daily basis. One of my favourite ways is to find a really nice rock that you enjoy looking at – it could even be one of those ones from the stones that are engraved with an inspirational word. My rock says “HOPE” on it. Every morning, I wake up and put that rock in my pocket and I remember all of the things I hope to happen in the future and I consider the things that I must do in order to make those things happen. During the day, when I feel discouraged, I reach into my pocket and pull out that rock and remember why I’m doing what I’m doing.

A friend of mine recently sent me an email that had the A-Z guide to Motivation and Happiness. I’m not sure who the author is, but I thought I’d share it with you today.

A – Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

B – Believe in your self, and in what you can do.

C – Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

D – Don’t give up and don’t give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.

E – Enjoy! Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t lose sight of them.

G – Give more than what is enough.

H – Hang on to your dreams – they are your driving force.

I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay away from toxic people.

J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be you. The key to failure is to try to please everyone.

K – Keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self improvement.

L – Learn to love yourself.

M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.

N – Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.

O – Open your eyes. You need to see things how you want them to be!

P – Practice makes perfect.

Q – Quitters never win, and winners never quit.

R – Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.

S – Stop procrastinating.

T – Take control of your life.

U – Understand others.

V – Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land.

W – Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self improvement.

X – “X”-amine yourself. Be true to who you are!

Y – You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.

Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!

In the first three years alone, you can really think about your job as a parent as one in which you must build your child’s brain. The substantial amount of development that is taking place – including the formation of brain connections – is phenomenal.

Building your child’s brain is so much more than just having and introducing educational toys, or reading to your child. In addition to just teaching your child – colours, shapes, animals, etc – you must also address the emotional security and social interaction of your child. You’ll be teaching your child that he is a part of this world, and you’ll need to show him or her how to live within it. This type of teaching will give your child a solid footing early on, and will help him to thrive later in life – like when he or she goes to school.

Children also need to have their language skills nurtured. From the moment your child is born, it is very important to talk around your child – and to make a conscious effort to do so. Long before your child can begin to say, or even understand your words – it’s important to spend your days surrounding our baby with words. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to have the hottest new product for teaching your baby how to talk, it simply means talking to your child every day – all through the day – and ensuring the rest of the family is doing the same.

Doctors have narrowed down segments of time within your child’s first few years in which they seem to really “take on” a particular emotion or social issue. Knowing and understanding what your child’s theme is can help a parent to better understand and address their child’s needs.

In the first two years of life, a child is learning about his or her sense of security and developing language. Your baby will learn security when you come to him or her when they cry; by keeping them warm, dry, and fed; and by holding them. Speaking to your child throughout the day is very important – as is speaking to them in a soothing and cheerful way.

At the age of three, your child is focussed – and sometimes obsessed – with being with you. In those first three years, your child’s brain develops very rapidly. As they move from the “terrible two’s” most parents find their three year old to be a very cooperative and loving child who loves to spend time with their favourite grown up. Still inquisitive as ever, your child wants to learn how everything in the world works. You’ll notice a lot of “whys” at this age! Your child is able to understand language quite well, so now is the time to really capitalize on their good natured ways. Talk to them – learn about them – and most of all, love them!

At the age of four, your child’s world begins to expand as they prepare for school. As their ability to understand letters, numbers, and other such school related skills, they seem to be drawn in by any school-like activities. And at five, they are transitioning to a brand new stage of childhood as they enter kindergarten.

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Did it feel like you had exhausted all possible options and yet are still before the mountain – large, unconquerable, and impregnable? When encountering such enormous problems, you may feel like you’re hammering against a steel mountain. The pressure of having to solve such a problem may be overwhelming.

There might be some hope yet!

With some creative problem-solving techniques you may be able to look at your problem in a different light. And that light might just be the end of the tunnel that leads to possible solutions.

First of all, in the light of creative problem-solving, you must be open-minded to the fact that there may be more than just one solution to the problem. And, you must be open to the fact that there may be solutions to problems you thought were unsolvable.

Now, with this optimistic mindset, we can try to be a little bit more creative in solving our problems.

Secret #1

Maybe the reason we cannot solve our problems is that we have not really taken a hard look at what the problem is. Understanding the problem and having a concrete understanding of its workings is integral solving the problem.

Secret #2

Try to take note of all of the constraints and assumptions you have the words of problem. Sometimes it is these assumptions that obstruct our view of possible solutions. You have to identify which assumptions are valid, in which assumptions need to be addressed.

Secret #3

Try to solve the problem in smaller parts. Solve it going from general view towards the more detailed parts of the problem. This is called the top-down approach. Write down the question, and then come up with a one-sentence solution to that from them. The solution should be a general statement of what will solve the problem. From here you can develop the solution further, and increase its complexity little by little.

Secret #4

Although it helps to have critical thinking aboard as you solve a problem, you must also keep a creative, analytical voice at the back of your head. When someone comes up with a prospective solution, tried to think how you could make that solution work. Try to be creative.

Secret #5

It pays to remember that there may be more than just one solution being developed at one time. Try to keep track of all the solutions and their developments. Remember, there may be more than just one solution to the problem.

Secret #6

Remember that old adage,” two heads are better than one.” That one is truer than it sounds. Always be open to new ideas. You can only benefit from listening to all the ideas each person has. This is especially true when the person you’re talking to has had experience solving problems similar to yours.

You don’t have to be a gung-ho, solo hero to solve the problem. If you can organize collective thought on the subject, it would be much better.

Secret #7

Be patient. As long as you persevere, there is always a chance that a solution will present itself. Remember that no one was able to create an invention the first time around.

Remember the mind-mapping we discussed a few days ago? Try that approach to open up your creative pathways!

There have been many studies done, and all agree that acne is very common when one is on his teenage years. For teenagers experiencing the pains of acne, it is very difficult to face the social impacts of acne. There are these marks of shame, depression and even self-pity. As a parent of a teenager who faces this problem, you could be one of the greatest helps. What could you do? The good news is that you can do a lot.

Remind your child that acne is temporary.

As a parent, you need to be there and give the encouragement to your child. You would probably see him or her so down due to the way people and criticisms pinch him or her. Tell that it will not last for long and that it would be successfully surpassed. Never stop to explain the importance of moving on despite the negative reactions from others for their words are not that important at all.

Bring your teen to a good dermatologist

Do not wait for your teen’s acne problem to get worse before you go and see a dermatologist. The earlier the better, this may be cliché but very true for this matter and you could realize the truth behind this. You need to find the dermatologist who deserves your trust. Be with your teen as you have visits to the dermatologist. Also, help your teen follow the reminders and instructions of the dermatologist.

Guide your child to do the right things

There are some things or acts that may worsen acne. See to it that you are near your teen to remind that those are not the right thing to do and it would just cause bad effects. Explain the cause and effect of acne problems and be sure t answer questions that your teen has.

Boost your teen’s self-confidence

Self-confidence plunges down when all those mocks and teases arise. The effect to your teen would be bitter. Be there to boost the esteem he or she has inside. Be generous with praises but do not use them just to flatter. Tell your teen about how wonderful his or her talent is. This would be a lift to his/her morale.

You are a parent, and you could help out your teen feel better through the misjudgments of the society towards people with acne. This is just a stage; it would surely be put to an end. Be there and support your child like no one could.

OTC Medication

There are many over the counter medications that you can try. If you have already seen a dermatologist, he or she can likely recommend something for you to try. The most important thing to keep in mind is that you want to avoid scrubbing the face or applying products that are overly drying.

Additionally, if you have acne, be sure to maintain a healthy diet – including water – to keep your skin (and body) as healthy as possible.

The first thing to keep in mind is the fact that you may not actually need the specific muscle building supplements in order to achieve your goal – though they often do go hand-in-hand with helping you to achieve your goal. These types of supplements can help you increase muscular development, providing you are working hard to build those muscles. This is definitely not a means to develop muscle without the work. They can aid you in both muscle growth and the recovery of your muscles. Among the many products available, the most popular are protein, creatine, and multi-vitamins.

Protein is a preferred supplement among bodybuilders and those who exercise. It contains many amino acids which help you to build muscle. No matter what type of diet you are or on or supplement you select, you should pick one that contains a lot of protein. Doctors agree that the ideal amount of protein is 2 grams per pound of body weight. You can get protein in pill form, powder, or even bars. When you select your protein supplement, you should also make sure that the supplement contains whey, soy, and eggs. Whey protein is the ideal supplement, as it contains everything you need to start building muscle.

Creatine is another beneficial supplement, as it will help you increase your muscle mass and improve the recovery time for your muscles. Creatine also helps you to increase your muscle pumps which mean you will be able to do more repetitions with more weight. Normally, you will need to go through a loading period of creatine, which is usually a week. Once you have loaded it, you should use in cycles, a few weeks using it and a few weeks off. To get the most from creatine, you should always follow the instructions the manufacturer has provided on the label.

Vitamins are another great supplement, as they work great for those who aren’t getting enough minerals and vitamins with their normal diet. Although you may have the best of intentions, a busy or hectic schedule can make it very hard to get a healthy meal. If you are looking to build muscle, you should always take the proper supplements, and use protein bars and shakes if you aren’t able to eat a healthy meal.

Building muscle is something we would all like to do. Even though it requires a lot of exercise and commitment on your behalf, you should also have the necessary supplements as well. If you use the right supplements, you’ll notice the muscle growth in a matter of weeks. Supplements will help you to build muscle, by speeding up the process.

There are a lot of brands and manufacturers to choose from, including Weider and MuscleTech. You can find these supplements locally or online, giving you plenty of great deals to take advantage of. If you exercise and are looking to add more muscle mass to your body, you should give muscle building supplements a try. They work extremely well, they taste great, and they will greatly assist you in your quest to build muscle and live a healthier life.

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