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Rule of secrecy

2026-06-28T11:31:42+00:00

I'm a 19M, and 3 months ago, I started dating for the first time.

She was really nice and sweet and everything and everything was going fine, but there was only one problem, "**The rule of secrecy**", we were from the same friend group and she told me that she wants nobody to know about our relationship so she could maintain her public image. Since I have no experience, I agreed and thought that it's okay. Until she started hanging out with our friends without inviting me (so they wouldn't notice), and the one time I asked her to invite me, she refused, and when we're around them she treats me like a nobody.

At a certain time, I felt cornered in my life, my parent's divorce, the weight and disappointment after wasting 2 years in university, and the feeling I got every time I remember that the person I loved most and thought of as everything treats me like a ghost. Then I decided to reach for advice from a friend, cause I told her that she makes me feel unspecial one time before but nothing has changed, I told him the situation because I wanted to make sure if it's okay for me to feel like that or if I'm just overreacting. The problems started when he met her the day after and told her about it, when I talked to her about how I feel at the same day she was pissed because I let someone else know I didn't tell her directly about what happened. She ghosted me for about 3 days and broke up with me after.

The day I told her about my feelings, I hung out with another girl I knew with no intention to date her or anything. She just asked me for help and wanted someone to talk to, so I decided to lend a hand (I knew I shouldn't do it but I really just empathised with her, and probably I wanted my girlfriend to feel the same as I did when she leaves me and hang out with others)

After all this mess, I gave some screenshots of our conversation to the friend I mentioned before as proof for being in a relationship with her because she kept denying it. The mf told her that I gave him screenshots.

And we met one day after when I explained everything I did and told the whole truth and she was upset. She said, "There's nothing we can fix after what you did," "I regret trusting you. It's disappointing from you, I really loved you and wanted us to work."

Now I still can't sleep or make my life go back to normal with the guilt a carry on my shoulders. I was cornered and weak, I couldn't have thought of anything better or made the right decision that time, I guess I'm gonna carry that sin with me whenever I step. I turned out to be the thing I hated most.

Tldr: My girlfriend kept me as a secret from everyone. It hurt me, and as a result, I made a bunch of bad decisions that cost me her trust and made me disappointed in myself.

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I (27F) was seeing a guy (29M) who confided in me about his parents' illegal activities. He swore me to secrecy. Now I don't know what to do. I'm nervous.

2015-11-14T03:34:48+00:00

I know this story is going to sound fake, like I'm lying, etc. I promise I am not lying, short of changing names and blurring a few details for anonymity.

About a month ago, I was seeing a guy. I'll call him Aaron. Aaron is very educated and very successful in his career.

On our third date, within as many days, he opened up to me about his family. His family is involved in some... Less than legal activities. His mother owns a business and has never paid taxes- on her business or in her personal life. Never. She owes millions to the IRS. Combined with that, his father is embezzling from his job. He isn't embezzling just $10 here and $20 there- he is embezzling thousands. He's also stealing other expensive products. There is an elaborate coverup going on.

Aaron told me I am the first person he's ever told and even his younger sister does not know. I was floored and I had/still have no idea what prompted him to tell me. He started crying and said he would do whatever it took to protect his parents. He made me promise not to tell anyone. I reluctantly agreed because I had no idea what to say.

After another date or two, me and Aaron fizzled out. We still talk occasionally. He called me about a week ago freaking out, though. He said his worst fears came true. Apparently his father's stepdad, Aaron's grandpa, started to mention he wants to talk to police about What the family is doing, especially what his father (grandpa's stepson) is doing. I guess Grandpa found out by mistake, and he has always been a huge stickler for right vs. wrong (not a bad thing). Aaron start saying terrifying things- he said he would find a way to make his grandfather disappear, he wanted put a gun down his grandfather's throat, and when I tried to tell him he didn't mean it, he said he'd willingly serve life in prison to protect his parents.

I was terrified. I told Aaron I hope he did not think I was the one to anonymously go to the police, and he said he knew I did not. But he said that only five people know (he, his parents, grandfather, and me), and no one but him knows I know. He insisted no one can know that I know, because otherwise I could get blamed or "hurt" in some way. The way he talked about it, it scared me.

It's been a week. Aaron has said everything is fine with his parents. I'm still nervous. I don't know what to do. I'm not comfortable keeping his secret. But the way Aaron talked scared me, though. I wish he never told me.

TL;DR- I was seeing a guy who confided in me about his parents' illegal activities. He threatened physical harm against his grandfather who threatened to go to the police. What do I do? Is it even legal to keep this secret?

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Me (46/m) upset with gf (30/f) over secrecy

2015-07-30T21:36:21+00:00

Hi,

Thanks in advance for reading this.

My gf and I have been together for nine months. We met at work, I was the instructor in her class at a university here. Once our class together ended, what started out as hanging out together very quickly moved to us talking about our feelings for each other. She told me she was married, but had left her husband a year before when he cheated on her. They hadn't seen each other in months and were not in contact. She is Korean, and left Korea to get away from her failed marriage and pursue a new life here.

I told her I was marriage minded, and had wasted a lot of time in my life enjoying my "independence" and that if she was burnt out on marriage, maybe we couldn't be together as I wanted to marry someday. I told her I wanted to break up, and she kind of freaked out. She told me she didn't want to lose me and said she would contact a lawyer and begin divorce proceedings, with the understanding that we would marry once her divorce paperwork was done.

Certainly not the best beginning to a relationship, but we felt early on that we had the potential for something special, and despite the circumstances we would do what was necessary to stay together. We then spent the next several months in a dizzying, intense relationship. We took two week long vacations, one of them abroad. We spent several weekends on romantic getaways nearby the city we live in, and we began seeing each other 4 times a week. We both called each other at least once a day without fail, and more often than not we talked on the phone for an hour or more daily. We agreed that it wouldn't be “proper” for us to openly date at school (though she was no longer my student) but outside of school we were almost a regular couple. I am moving into a new apartment soon, and she has said that she would like to live with me, which I agreed to.

We have discussed whether or not she should change her name after we get married, we have discussed the basics of successful marriages, dealing with inlaws... all the things that a serious relationship entails. I was happy and content with my place in the world and in her life. However, the almost aspects of our relationship began to weigh on me, and on her. Early on in our relationship we didn't make love often, as she felt guilty about that degree of intimacy with me. That quickly gave way to lots and lots of intimacy. At times in the first two months of our dating she told me that she wanted to see me once a week, as she felt (again) somewhat guilty, but I told her that I didn't do partial relationships, and what was the point of seeing each other rarely, since her divorce was underway and we both had discussed our future together?

Then, two months ago, she called me in tears. Sometimes she accompanied two married couples to dinner after church (the married couples are also Korean) or to a coffee shop. She felt lonely being by herself with two couples, but didn't feel comfortable bringing me because they knew she was married and going through a divorce. She began complaining about how she wanted to bring me, but couldn't. I was understanding at first, but as weeks passed, I began to realize that I wasn't a part of her social life at all. She works in a cafe three days a week, and has never let me come to visit her at work, despite it being very slow there at times. She lives with roommates in a 4 bedroom house here, and I cannot visit her home because one of her roommates is a student at the university, and she doesn't want him to know about us. When I asked my gf if he knew that she was married, she replied “no, but sometimes my church friends come by to pick me up and I don't want it to be known that you are visiting me”. I reminded her that no one has to know what our status is, and that as consenting adults it is no one's business what we do.

My isolation from her “other” life continued. She began telling me that her church friends were asking her how her divorce was proceeding, and I commented that if they all knew so much about her divorce, perhaps she could just bring me around – even once or twice – and introduce me without giving me a label. She refused. She told me about how her coworkers at the cafe were all divorced and internet dating, and I said that probably they wouldn't care if she mentioned her own divorce or having met someone nice, but she refused to invite me to her workplace. One of her roommates sent her a text message asking who she had gone to Mexico with on vacation, and she replied “a friend”. This made me very angry and despondent, as she was portraying herself as single to her roommate, who was a single guy.

However – and I know this sounds odd and obtuse of me – our relationship was getting stronger. We saw each other nearly every day now, and were more and more in love. But the contradiction finally exploded two weeks ago. She had a falling out with her friend from church and I convinced her to try to talk it out, as she needed to have friends who were from her culture and could relate to living in a foreign land. I told her it wasn't right that I was her best friend, boyfriend, and therapist; women need to have other women to chat with about some stuff. What if she wanted to complain about me sometime? It would be normal, I thought. So she agreed to meet her church friend for lunch on a Thursday; later that evening we had tickets to a concert. Thursday she went to meet her friend, and 30 minutes before the concert I texted her asking her where she was. She had gotten so wrapped up in their discussion that she wouldn't have time to meet me. It was a free concert and I felt that mistakes happen, so I said “okay, lets talk later”. When later arrived that night, she called to tell me that she was going to cancel our date for that coming Saturday, when we were set to attend another concert. She wanted to attend the concert with her church friend instead.

I was furious. I told her that she had barely wanted to maintain a friendship with this woman, but now would cancel with me two times in a span of three days to hang out with the friend who wasn't allowed to know I existed? I asked her why I couldn't meet at least one of her acquaintances from one sphere of her life, just as a way to soothe my feelings of alienation at being hidden. She refused, telling me that she had already opened up and changed a lot to be with me: she agreed to marriage to me, despite still being in the process of divorce, to keep from losing me. She had overcome her sense of guilt at having sex with me, but it had taken time and it had been to mollify me that she worked to overcome it. Thus, she felt that her introducing me to anyone in her life was simply to much, and I would have to wait until her divorce was final. Her husband was being difficult about signing the paperwork and it was dragging through the court, so this meant that possibly she would continue hiding me for another year. She apologized profusely for all this (as she always has) and treated me with the utmost sweetness and tenderness, but she couldn't budge on this one point. She said it was due to her “conscience” and she felt that introducing me to ANYONE she knew would be tantamount to cheating, which of course I reminded her we already were knee-deep in “cheating”. She said that she was afraid people would see us together and recognize we were in love, but we often attend huge concerts, go to neighborhood festivals, and regularly have picnics in the main park in a city of millions. We hold hands walking down the street, we hug each other standing in line at the market. There is a chasm between her wish and her reality, I thought.

I felt miserable. I told her to take a few days and think of it, quietly and without any contact with me. She did, but didn't budge, so we broke up. I feel awful now. She scolded me: when we first began dating, she wanted to take things slowly, but I had pushed for marriage, and now the result was what she was requesting all along. But I told her that it wasn't quite that. I felt that she had become comfortable with our relationship, planned to live with me, and we were even discussing what our kids might be like, however I had to drop her off at work or home down the block in case anyone she knew saw us together?

There is a part of me that think I should have waited, quietly, but most of my thoughts tend to be that I did the right thing. One more year of being hidden seemed humiliating, and being left alone while she went to a concert that we had planned to attend together... it eats at me still. Despite all this, I still remember what I thought when I met her. She seemed electric. Everything corny, sappy, and syrupy about the dumbest romantic comedies struck me as being as true as the gospel when I was with her. I wound up being 46 and single because I never felt this way before, and now, I feel lost.

Did I do the right thing? Did I push her as far as she was willing to be pushed, and was she reasonable to hide me, even though she saw how much it pained me?

Thanks for reading all this. I wish I were better with writing brief details, but it's important to me and I wanted to try to let everyone understand me.

tl;dr: My gf hides me from her friends, saying until her divorce is final, I can't meet any of them, even a simple acquaintance. We plan to marry and I feel alienated from part of her life.

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My [23F] girlfriend and I(25M) had a massive fight about my secrecy and believes she doesn't know me.

2015-01-03T16:46:41+00:00

We have been dating for about 9 months and she is really quite amazing. I'm properly in love with her and have never had such strong feelings for her. I've dated other girls but this one is quite special.

Some time back (month 3 of our relationship) she told me that she doesn't quite know who I am, so I followed up with deeds like keeping my promises, being available whenever she needed me around, being supportive and showing leadership, things I thought a good boyfriend did. My assumption was that she would infer from those actions what kind of person I was. After all 'actions speak louder than words.'

A couple of days ago she made a remark about my PC password, she wanted to use it and I told her what it was (it was in latin) and then she remarked about how my password was complicated and thus is an indicator that I'm a secretive person.[but I've just told you my password how is that secretive?]

Now before this little event(password event) I had introduced her to my aunt at the country club and I was super nervous because I'd never done that for any of the women that I dated, so i had no idea how to behave, etc so I was pretty much in fight or flight mode the entire meeting and I royally fucked up by misquoting her birthday (yep proper fuckup) we faught about that and I know she'll never forgive me for that. Now the wrong birthday I mentioned was a date I used to think was her birthday, but of course she thinks it was my ex's birthday and that I still haven't got over her and that I'm in a secret relationship with her, hence the "secrecy".

So the fight revolved around the fact that I'm secretive and I have told her nothing about myself, she can very easily infer who I am from the various actions and deeds I've done for her but, she still claims she doesn't know me. She doesn't trust me when I'm out and about (I'm a part time DJ) and says that I'm living a double life and cant say without a doubt how I'll behave when I'm not around her. She doesn't know me. She asked me to tell her 5 things I have told her about me during our fight and I couldn't give her an answer.

The question is what exactly is knowing someone then in a relationship context? what is it I'm supposed to tell my significant other in addition to showing her who I am? do i talk about my character or what?

{edit} im quite a poor communicator when it comes to communicating my feelings or emotions, that's why im quite confused on how to deal with this problem

Right now I'm a very confused chap and fear this will properly break our relationship, I love her to bits and I really don't want to lose her

tl;dr: Had a fight with my gf about her not knowing who I am and I have no idea how to tell her who I am

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35f with my 35m boyfriend of 1.5 years, encountering secrecy and trust issues.

2015-12-22T13:25:35+00:00

I'll try to keep it short. I got divorced after being married for 7 years (together for ten) and we had two small children together. The ex had mental health issues after the kids and I have full legal custody. A boyfriend I dated in my teenage years that was always really good to me asked me out after my divorce. I resisted but ultimately agreed and we started dating. After what I deemed a long enough period I introduced him to the kids and then he moved in with us later. I'll start with the good. We get along, he seems to love and care for me (more on this in a bit), great sex life even with our complicated lives, and he's incredible with my little kids. Super helpful and just wonderful with them.

Now the bad. I always noticed he was secretive but he said when we started dating, unprompted, that I could always look at his phone and gave me his pw. He would frequently go out with his friends and I never could because of the kids but I wanted him to unwind and have fun. I started to suspect he wasn't always telling the full truth about where he was (gut feeling) and I finally caught him lying. He promised to always he transparent about where he was going after.

Recently he was going out with his friends (m and f) to a bar and I asked if I could come and he conceded I wasn't invited. That was shocking to say the least. Of course my mind went to what else is he hiding? After discussing it he said he would include me more.

Yesterday I wanted to look at kids photos on his phone and he wouldn't let me. First he tried to turn it around and said I should trust him but I eventually broke him down and asked what he was hiding. He said he has been talking to an ex and some of the conversations were sexually explicit and inappropriate. I looked through his phone and couldn't find it and he said there ws nothing on there because he deletes them. He said they have been chatting for about a month.

Obviously I'm disheartened and stressed out over all of this. He said going forward I can access any of his stufff whenever I want but this is not the kind of relationship I want. I want one based on trust and commitment. Is this beyond repair or can it be fixed?

**tldr Having trust issues with bf. Cut my losses?

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Privacy vs secrecy

2018-04-04T11:52:36+00:00

Hi, Thanks for your time reading this and furthering my understanding regarding a topic I have not been able to grasp. In summary: I'm interested in hearing what your opinions are on the definition of privacy and how that compares to the definition of secrecy. I believe this would be a matter a regular discourse among couples. How have you resolved a definitional difference? And...if secrecy is defined as the purposeful omission of information, does it catlayse distrust and insecurity? Thanks in advance for your thoughts

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[Night of Secrecy] I made a wide view video with ton of wide view screenshots.

2025-01-15T14:34:23+00:00

Sorry if some images don’t seem to be in the right place, I sorted them one by one manually.

Hope you'll enjoy it 🫦

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Asking your opinion about a Muse song day #63: Ruled By Secrecy

2025-09-11T14:20:48+00:00

Ruled By Secrecy is the closer of Absolution. It is named after a book written by Jim Mars. It probably is about Illuminati and it says that somebody must change something about them to make those greater powers escape and hide and at that time they will not be able to control the world. Matt is always against Illuminati and always states it in live shows.

It’s such a slow-burn and i really like how it concludes the album. It is not my favorite from this album, as (in my opinion) there are much more impressive moments musically but it has always impressed me how Muse can use the piano so well, and i think this song is a good example of that. I’d give it a 8/10. How about you guys?

If you have any fun fact or a story attached to this song, i would love to know.

The song: https://youtu.be/LqbIE1Ymisg?si=1uZCoOA1Dtf3Vk9-

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Night of Secrecy (Nightly Rendevous) with wolf cut by request

2025-07-17T01:11:51+00:00

As requested by u/Barbie_James

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Erin Brockovich says people are angry because data centers are being 'shoved down their throats' in secrecy

2026-06-01T03:09:15+00:00

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TIL that under the Invention Secrecy Act, the U.S. government can prevent certain patent applications from being disclosed if they deem the invention a threat to national security. Inventors can be prohibited from sharing or profiting from their own creations without even knowing why.

2024-10-18T23:12:05+00:00

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Evan Rachel Wood for the Narcissist's Playbook documentary describing the early stages of narcissistic abuse: love bombing, secrecy, manipulation, and the slow construction of a false reality “This is special. We're soulmates. We're supposed to be together."

2026-05-31T21:14:37+00:00

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Europe to End “Salary Secrecy”: Employee Salaries to Become Public by 2026

2024-09-09T14:52:22+00:00

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Kate Middleton’s senior staffers reportedly haven’t seen or spoken to her since mysterious surgery: ‘Shroud of secrecy’

2024-03-15T15:33:03+00:00

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Trump’s MRI scan raises specter of secrecy in presidential health

2025-11-02T11:25:30+00:00

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TIL Sublime’s debut album "40oz. to Freedom" was recorded in secrecy at the studios in California State University. The lead singer, Bradley Nowell, recalled how they would sneak in after closing time, stay there till 5:00 AM, hide from security, and managed to get $30k of studio time for free.

2023-05-07T19:18:47+00:00

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While some characters hide their plans in secrecy, these ones just drop the whole scheme out loud. And everyone thinks they're joking.

2025-08-16T15:41:53+00:00

Tommy Shelby sits with a whiskey and casually says that one day the business will be fully legitimate with licenses and all. Everyone at the table just laughs it off, thinking he's drunk.

Light Yagami calmly explains to Ryuk step by step how he'll become the god of a new world. Ryuk just chuckles, believing Light is only messing around.

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The real villain of Titanic was Rose. She cheats on her fiance with a homeless man, survives the sinking, ends up with a priceless diamond, holds onto it for 84 years in absolute secrecy, makes the crew looking for it listen to her life story and then chucks it into the ocean.

2024-11-29T10:04:58+00:00

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Why all the secrecy? The Clintons call for their testimony to be released to the public, as it should be. Just like Hillary Clinton, Bill Clinton did not plead the Fifth!

2026-02-27T22:23:37+00:00

During a break after two hours of questioning, Democratic lawmakers said that Bill Clinton had tried to answer every question and had not invoked his Fifth Amendment right against self-incrimination.

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Judge orders urgent release of DOGE records, citing ‘unprecedented’ power and ‘unusual secrecy’

2025-03-11T15:07:16+00:00

“A federal judge has ruled that Elon Musk’s Department of Government Efficiency is wielding so much power that its records will likely have to be opened to the public under federal law.

U.S. District Judge Christopher Cooper said the vast and “unprecedented” authority of DOGE, formally known as the U.S. Digital Service, combined with its “unusual secrecy” warrant the urgent release of its internal documents under the Freedom of Information Act.”

About time, but we already know they lie under oath and continue to defy the judicial system.

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LPT: if you tell someone a secret they are almost definitely going to tell their spouse, even if you promise them to secrecy.

2021-07-24T14:06:27+00:00

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Dr Who lacks secrecy

2024-02-19T13:29:33+00:00

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