The Redhead Bedhead: Sex Educator JoEllen Notte

Trauma on Trauma: The Harm of Forced Silence

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 24 Apr 2026 12:20:43 +0000

The burden of carrying trauma chips away at us and the practice of shushing people who try to speak up makes the existing pain bigger, badder, and uglier. Let's talk about talking about trauma!

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Did Watching Jason Mantzoukas on Taskmaster Change Which Men I Want to Date? Maybe.

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 04 Aug 2025 11:41:48 +0000

I’ve always found the concept of developing crushes on random famous people to be one of the funniest and yet vaguely mortifying things we as human beings do. According to

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The Power of Pleasure: How Joy Sustains Us in Uncertain Times

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 24 Jun 2025 16:56:55 +0000

When a crisis strikes the natural response is to drop everything and tend to the emergency at hand. This makes sense. It would be weird, not to mention extremely dangerous,

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Struggling to talk about mental health? Check out my book recs!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 02 Oct 2023 13:27:55 +0000

Hey folks! So I think we all know that talking about mental health can be tough. That’s why I’m very excited to announce that I have teamed up with Shepherd

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Join me for the IN IT TOGETHER Virtual Book Club!

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 18 Apr 2023 20:47:49 +0000

Hey folks! As you may know, my latest book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family came out at the beginning of March and I’ve been all

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IN IT TOGETHER Giveaway!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 13 Mar 2023 16:16:25 +0000

Hey folks! My publishers over at Thornapple Press are kindly giving away 10 paperback copies of my new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family. This exciting

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IN IT TOGETHER is Available for Preorder!

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 07 Oct 2022 09:34:50 +0000

It’s a big day, folks! My second book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family is available for preorder! The book will be published by Thornapple Press

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2021 was a LOT! Let’s talk sex, overwhelm, and depression- FREE Event!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 03 Jan 2022 17:44:44 +0000

4 Dating App Lessons From My Past to Help Your Dating App Future

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 30 Oct 2021 15:38:48 +0000

Looking around on social media, it looks like a lot of my vaccinated friends are getting ready to head back into the dating world. Personally, I’m in no shape to

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Depression and Community Support Interview

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 30 Sep 2021 12:17:09 +0000

My new book, In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Family, and Friends, is trucking along and while it was largely inspired by the interviews I did for the old

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Now is Not the Time: Taking Space to Heal (Even When My Brain Objects)

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 19:24:32 +0000

I’ve been feeling it again lately, the pull, the pressure, the anxiety, the voice in my head that says “do more!” “be more!” “you are never going to achieve anything

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Celebrate 25 Years of Fun Factory With 1996 Prices!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 09 Aug 2021 05:00:03 +0000

Note: Fun Factory has been purchased by another toy company (which historically is never a good sign). It was a very sad moment for all of us who know and

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I Thought Porn Wasn’t For Me. Here’s How I Learned Otherwise

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 03 Aug 2021 11:00:47 +0000

Fun fact: when I was in college working towards my theatre degree with a concentration in directing one of my favorite professors told us, in the context of “there are

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Get Cool Stuff When You Support me on Patreon!

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 29 Jul 2021 00:25:16 +0000

Want to support my work and score some fun stuff? Support me on Patreon! Hey folks! So, if you’ve been following me here for a while, you may have noticed

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3 Ways To Use The Internet As Your Sexual Communication Wingman

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 26 Jul 2021 11:10:16 +0000

I recently talked to my partner about how, once you’ve lived in sex positive world for a while, you start to forget that not everyone is comfortable talking openly about

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Ergonomic Vibrators: What They Are and Why It Matters

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 07 Jul 2021 14:12:28 +0000

Quick! Picture a vibrator! Now describe it. I’ll bet you thought of words like sleek, sexy, curved, or maybe even modern but how about ergonomic? Ergonomic might not be the

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Seriously, Stop Gendering Sex Toys

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 21 Jun 2021 15:01:49 +0000

One of my favorite pieces of feedback I have ever gotten after teaching came from a student in a class I taught during the University of Tennessee’s Sex Week in

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Seriously, Don’t Yuck Each Other’s Yums

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 17 May 2021 20:07:21 +0000

Don’t yuck my yum. If you have spent any time in the sex positive world, odds are you have heard some variation of this phrase. The exact wording may vary

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Here’s The Thing About “Porn Sex” vs “Real Sex”

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 02 Apr 2021 19:52:40 +0000

There are some headlines that come up over and over again in sex world and one that makes my skin crawl is “The Difference Between Porn Sex and Real Sex”

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Valentines Day in the Time of Covid-19

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 28 Jan 2021 23:37:44 +0000

Even though it feels like we have been living through this pandemic for roughly 23 years, this time last year most of us in the U.S. were still going about

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Want to Have a Sex Toy Sale? Here’s How I Did It!

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 05 Dec 2020 19:18:28 +0000

When you write about sex, people send you sex toys. Seriously. Even if you don’t ask for them (YMMV on that). I know I started receiving them before I knew

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When Crisis Brings Clarity: The Unexpected Way 2020 Changed My Life

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 06 Nov 2020 16:47:59 +0000

I recently had a conversation with a reader in which he stated “crisis can bring clarity” and that hit me hard. I think a lot of us have been living

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JoEllen’s Big Sexy Yard Sale

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 19 Oct 2020 14:00:42 +0000

Looking for my Big, Sexy Yard Sale! Click here!

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Don’t Panic! Keeping It Casual Can Be Healthy

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 15 Sep 2020 15:23:39 +0000

Remember when (seemingly not too long ago) the idea of casual sex was kind of taboo? For a while it seemed like everything from adult dating sites to friends with

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You’re Still You: Remembering sexuality is not dictated by how much sex you are having

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 13 Aug 2020 19:23:28 +0000

So, here we are in month 5 (FIVE!) of quarantine and I want to talk to you about something I’ve seen a bunch of folks struggling with online: the feeling

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Make Your Home A Sexy Haven (without buying stuff)

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 00:22:51 +0000

Over the years I’ve talked a lot about the proliferation of toys and other sex paraphernalia that fill my home but what I’ve never discussed is how, in spite of

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Welcome to my Lube Buffet- The (many) Lubricants on my Nightstand

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 27 Jul 2020 21:28:59 +0000

A couple of months ago, in the midst of an interview about sex and depression, I referenced the “buffet of lubes” on my nightstand. I wasn’t exaggerating. At any given

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Virtual Events with JoEllen Notte

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 06 Apr 2020 23:45:26 +0000

I may not be coming to your town any time soon but that doesn’t mean you can’t see me! I’m doing virtual events and I couldn’t be more excited about

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Comfort Media: 12 Series & 1 Podcast to Soothe Your Socially Isolated Mind

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 18 Mar 2020 18:55:16 +0000

Hey folks! So I know a lot of us are isolating at home right now and it’s a scary time so a lot of us are probably anxious and scared

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The Monster Under the Bed Tour is POSTPONED

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 12 Mar 2020 22:09:21 +0000

MY BOOK TOUR HAS BEEN POSTPONED So, it seems I jumped the gun a bit in announcing my tour yesterday. In the last 24 hours several venues have cancelled and

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Win A Copy of The Monster Under the Bed!

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 05 Feb 2020 21:45:22 +0000

As you may already know (because I’ve been talking about it INCESSANTLY) my book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren’t Having is coming out

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4 Tips for Making Sexual New Year’s Resolutions

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 05 Jan 2020 23:49:05 +0000

2020 upon us and over the course of the first week of the year, I’ve seen a lot of folks making new years resolutions that are decidedly sexual. Whether declaring

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2019 Best of Bedhead: Posts, Podcasts, Projects and More!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 23:51:37 +0000

Well, here we are, it’s time once again for my annual “Best of” list and, as has become the tradition with said list, my annual look at what I did

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JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 12 Dec 2019 19:50:24 +0000

It’s that time of year again, time for my Favorite Things! I always think of my favorite things list as something that was, for a long time, just a list of products until

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Thank You for Supporting my Indiegogo! (Also, here’s where you can get my book now!)

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 09 Dec 2019 21:37:18 +0000

So, if you have been following me on social media, you probably already know that I have spent the last month frantically promoting an Indiegogo campaign/pre-sale event to help fund

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To Get The Sex You Want Online, Read The Damn Room

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 22 Nov 2019 22:15:22 +0000

Whether you are looking for love or just sex, the internet can be a confusing place with ads telling you to have an affair or to sign up and exclusively

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There is No “Best” Sex Toy

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 17 Nov 2019 19:20:37 +0000

It’s November right now but December is fast approaching. In the world of “people who talk about sex” December is when you start to see a bunch of lists featuring

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Get My Book Early (plus cool perks!) AND Support My Tour on Indiegogo!

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 05 Nov 2019 14:36:03 +0000

Big news, folks! The LONG wait is FINALLY over (almost)! I’ve launched an Indiegogo campaign to fund next year’s book tour and supporters will get their copies of The Monster

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When a Sex Writer Doesn’t Want to Have Sex or Write

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 01 Nov 2019 16:50:31 +0000

CW: depression, anxiety, discussion of body image/weight I am a sex writer. That’s my profession. Sure, I tend to present it as part of a list: “Sex Writer, Educator, Mental

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Relieve Sinus Pain & Pressure with a Bullet Vibe!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 21 Oct 2019 20:22:05 +0000

As we come up on another cold and flu season I find myself sharing a piece of advice that I have shared just about yearly for probably the last 5

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The Monster Under the Bed is Coming! Help Spread the Sex & Depression Word!

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 18 Sep 2019 20:54:51 +0000

It feels like we’ve all been waiting for YEARS for my book (mostly because we have!) but it’s coming on March 27, 2020! Okay, sure, the release date is still

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7 Years of Bedhead: A Different Kind of Anniversary

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 05 Jul 2019 16:30:05 +0000

On July 4th The Redhead Bedhead had its 7th anniversary. In years past I have marked this anniversary with tons of pictures, emotional stories, cool website additions, and, as was the

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The Problem(s) With “Men’s Sex Toys”

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 23:41:51 +0000

It seems like not very long ago that I wrote a two-part series on the ridiculous practice of gendering sex toys but here we are again. Why? Because this particular

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GAME OF THRONES! Now that I have your attention, dildo!

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 25 Apr 2019 15:57:57 +0000

I have to come clean about a couple of things as we head into discussing the Realm Drago Lock on Dragon Sword Dildo Handle and Draken Lock On Fantasy Dragon Dildo. I

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Sex Toy Storage That (Mostly) Doesn’t Involve Hiding

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 15 Apr 2019 23:09:49 +0000

I am of the mind that one can never have too much sex toy education and as you may already know if you’ve been following me for any amount of

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Be The First To Know When My Book is Available!

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 11 Apr 2019 02:02:07 +0000

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FemmeFunn Diamond Wand: Sometimes Paying No Attention Works Out

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 27 Feb 2019 23:42:44 +0000

Well, it looks like a pattern is forming and no one is more surprised than me! For the second time in two months I received a product for review, looked

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My House Looks Like The One In Netflix’s Sex Education

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 19 Feb 2019 17:23:27 +0000

Have you seen Sex Education on Netflix yet? It is absolutely delightful and incredibly well done.Featuring, as its main character, Otis, the teenage son of a sex therapist (played beautifully by

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Okay, So Let’s Talk About Exercise & Depression

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 14 Feb 2019 02:37:48 +0000

A couple weeks back my Google Alerts and Twitter feed started lighting up with the news that “Physical Activity Can Reduce Risk of Depression” which, as it spread to different

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Mimic Plus Vibrator: The First Toy to Pleasantly Surprise me in YEARS

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 13 Jan 2019 00:31:50 +0000

Note: The Clandestine Mimic seems to have been discontinued. I’m going to be 100% honest with you: I had no interest in reviewing the Mimic Plus. I have kept an

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The One Where I Get A Publisher

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 17:46:30 +0000

So, with the hubbub of the holidays and with my traditional post-holiday illness striking (this year I was impressive, I got sick TWICE in two weeks!) I have neglected to

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PalmPower Plug & Play Corded Rechargeable Wand

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 02:11:55 +0000

Today’s review is going to be a bit strange (okay, I’m aware that my “reviews” veered away from standard review fare years ago but this one is a bit extra-special).

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2018 Best of Bedhead: Posts, Podcasts, Appearances & More!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 17 Dec 2018 19:52:56 +0000

Well, here we are, it’s time once again for my annual “Best of” list and, as has become the tradition with said list, my annual look at what I did

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JoEllen’s 2018 Favorite Things

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 10 Dec 2018 21:01:03 +0000

It’s that time of year again, time for my Favorite Things! I always think of my favorite things list as something that was, for a long time, a list of products until I (in my

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Busting Sexual Health Stigma with STDCheck.com!

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 05 Dec 2018 03:19:46 +0000

STD testing. We all know it’s important and that we should do it regularly but it’s a hard thing to get super-excited about. However, last month I had an experience

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Killing The Mood: My Favorite Not-At-All-Sexy Uses For Sex Products

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 14 Nov 2018 00:57:43 +0000

In my years writing about sex I have dealt with so many products and my relationship with those products has grown and evolved. From the very beginning when I was

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Aphrodite and my hunt for a wand that does other cool stuff

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 02 Nov 2018 05:08:31 +0000

Today I’m talking about the Aphrodite Infrared Rechargeable Massager but as has become my habit of late, I’m going to tell you a bit about my relationship to products of

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So, Where’s This Book? Process, Progress, & a Preview of The Monster Under The Bed

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 25 Oct 2018 04:49:26 +0000

“You must be done with your book by now!” “When is the book coming out?” “So, where is this book?” Now that I am YEARS into the process of writing

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O-Wand: Because I MUST Try ALL the Wands

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 18 Oct 2018 03:32:36 +0000

As I prepared to write about the O-Wand, I remembered that a couple of years ago I, driven by the realization that none of the MANY sex toys sent my

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The Evolution of Online Sex Shopping

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 12 Oct 2018 01:01:04 +0000

Recently I had to update/delete a ton of links on my site because I’ve now been at this long enough for a bunch of stuff I love to have been

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Guest Post: I Am Not the Sex Writer You Think I Am by Steph Auteri

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 04 Oct 2018 17:08:55 +0000

Hey folks! This week I have something very special for you. Last month I had the pleasure of meeting Steph Auteri on my trip back East and, frankly, she’s

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8 Things I’m Loving (Or Just Crushing On) Right Now

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 29 Sep 2018 02:35:12 +0000

When you write about sex, new products come into your life all the time! Some make an impression and some… don’t. This summer I’ve come across some very cool stuff,

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Virtual Reality (VR) Porn: Because we live in the future!

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 25 Sep 2018 19:59:32 +0000

I don’t know about you guys but I sometimes blurt out “It’s 2018! How do we not have teleportation/jet packs/time travel etc yet?!” Basically I feel like movies and books

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The Ersties Podcast: Enjoyable Sex Ed For Your Ears

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 20 Sep 2018 23:03:43 +0000

Today I’m talking about The Ersties Podcast. There’s a lot going on here, so I’ll get right down to the 5 Ws on this fabulous, piece of fun and accessible sex

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Hitting The Books: My Favorite Recent Reads (& A Bonus!)

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 14 Sep 2018 02:11:33 +0000

One of my favorite discoveries of the last couple of years is the ability to check audiobooks out of my local library using an app on my phone. I used

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Nonmonogamy, Sex Writing, and My Family: Reflecting on Love, Luck, & Acceptance

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 23:38:51 +0000

As you read this I am en route to a wedding in Pennsylvania. It’s the wedding of a family member and thus I will be seeing a lot of family,

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Touch Lubricant Warming System & The Long Evolution of My Relationship With Lube

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 30 Aug 2018 03:30:26 +0000

I’ve been aware of the Touch Lubricant Warming System for quite some time and I’ll admit, I was skeptical (you’ll find out why in a minute) but then, on my

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Cute Brand Alert: Überrime Handmade Silicone

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 24 Aug 2018 02:05:18 +0000

I have to be honest, I’m something of a dildo materialist. I don’t use dildos much at all but when I see pretty/ interesting ones, I want them. Seriously, I

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There is No Reason to Gender Sex Toys Part 2: No, It won’t sound “weird”, “awkward”, or “confusing

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 17 Aug 2018 03:22:08 +0000

Welcome to part 2 of my series “There is No Reason to Gender Sex Toys”. Last week we talked a bit about some of the reasons people apply gendered language

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There is No Reason to Gender Sex Toys Part 1: Seriously, It’s completely unnecessary

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 10 Aug 2018 02:49:55 +0000

One of my favorite pieces of feedback I have ever gotten after teaching came from a student in a class I taught during the University of Tennessee’s Sex Week in

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Le Wand Petite: Itsy Bitsy Teenie Weenie High-Powered Wand Machinie

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 02 Aug 2018 17:05:09 +0000

First off, apologies for the title. I just couldn’t resist. Now on to the Le Wand Petite. I’ve had quite the journey with Le Wand. We met and I seriously

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Celebrating 6 Years of The Redhead Bedhead With a New Site Addition

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 06 Jul 2018 03:04:44 +0000

On July 4th The Redhead Bedhead had its 6th anniversary. These last 6 years have flown by and I can’t believe how much time has passed. Now, I could say a

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5 Tips For Writing When Your Brain Doesn’t Want To

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 29 Jun 2018 04:34:54 +0000

I am a writer, a writer writes. In my case however, I am also someone with a history of depression, someone with a diagnosis of Hashimoto’s disease, and someone who

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Review: Wildfire All Over Pleasure Oils

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 18 May 2018 03:34:38 +0000

To be honest, I don’t really believe in aphrodisiacs. I think the idea that a substance would get you all ready for sex to be, at best, problematic. That said,

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Avant Pride: Let’s Talk About Gorgeous AFFORDABLE Silicone

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 11 May 2018 04:12:46 +0000

I first got a look at Blush Novelties’ Avant line of silicone dildos last January at ANME and I’ll admit, I was smitten. I restrained myself though as I tend

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Waking The Monster: The Monster Under The Bed Hits Vancouver

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 19 Apr 2018 16:18:10 +0000

On Saturday April 7th, I had the pleasure of once again presenting on sex and depression. This time I teamed up with the truly wonderful Shadeen Francis, MFT to present

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Check Out My Newest Sex and Depression Resource!

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 04:08:27 +0000

Last weekend I, once again, had the pleasure of publicly talking about sex and depression! “Facing The Monster Under The Bed: Navigating Sex and Relationships While Coping With Depression” (more on

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The NEW Will Work For Sponsorship Online Class is HERE!

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 04 Apr 2018 02:40:57 +0000

Folks, I’m so excited about today’s news! The new Will Work For Sponsorship is now available on Vimeo! As you may know, I am a huge fan of sponsorship. As far as I’m

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I’m Bringing The Monster Under The Bed To Vancouver, BC!

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 27 Mar 2018 03:15:49 +0000

In less than two weeks I’m heading up to Vancouver, BC for the first time. I’m extremely excited about that for multiple reasons (there’s a Superhero Sex Shop up there!)

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Review: Sola Sync- Vibrators, Accessibility, and What Makes a “Wand”

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 17 Mar 2018 05:19:57 +0000

Buckle up folks because while this is kind of a review, it’s also a lot of me having FEELINGS about vibrator terminology. Namely what makes a “wand”. Anyway, today we

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What Do You Want To Know About Sponsorship?

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 08 Mar 2018 01:53:00 +0000

The time has come! I’m bringing back my class Will Work For Sponsorship! It’s been three years since I recorded the original class and a LOT has happened: I know

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And We’re Back! The Playground Conference Returns (and So Do I!)

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 04 Mar 2018 23:27:40 +0000

I spent the last weekend of February in Toronto for the Playground Conference and, frankly, it was pretty rad. I attended Playground in 2015 and then the conference took a bit of a hiatus

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Win A Le Wand Prize Pack at Playground!

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 20 Feb 2018 05:31:43 +0000

In less than 48 hours I’ll be heading to Toronto for the exciting return of the Playground Conference! This trip wouldn’t be possible for me without the support of the good folks at Le Wand. Do

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Social Media: Cant Buy The Love

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 17 Feb 2018 02:43:41 +0000

In addition to writing and teaching about sex, one of the things I enjoy doing professionally is helping other develop their careers writing and teaching about sex. To this end

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Taking A Closer Look At Le Wand

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 04:41:25 +0000

In a couple of weeks I’ll be heading across the continent for one of my all-time favorite events, the Playground Conference. I’m excited about the conference itself, the session I’m doing, the

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Good Sex Shops: The “How” Is As Important As The “What”

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 06 Feb 2018 06:04:25 +0000

It’s been just over 5 years since I first declared that good sex shops matter and hit the road to tour North America’s best adult retail establishments. Over the years I

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Review: The Electro-Whip Neon Wand Attachment

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 03 Feb 2018 02:45:15 +0000

Did you all know that I have a bit of a thing for e-stim? Yeah, I do. I think I might have eventually fallen for e-stim and fire play anyway

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SHUT IT DOWN: Why I (Legit) HATE Valentine’s Day

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 31 Jan 2018 06:02:57 +0000

A while back I shared a tweet about an idea that I still think is pretty good I once saw an article proposing the movement of Christmas to late February

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The Playground Conference is Back and I Can’t Wait!

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 28 Jan 2018 06:16:52 +0000

In less than a month I’ll be packing my bags and heading to Toronto for the exciting return of the Playground Conference! Along with Stephen Biggs, I’ll be presenting Keep Giving a

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Having Sex In Public, Comfort, and Letting Go of “Should”

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 20 Jan 2018 02:36:53 +0000

I have a long distance partner who I see a couple of times a year and with whom I have a lovely ongoing email correspondence. One feature of this is, perhaps obviously,

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Realistic Sex Dolls: Because, obviously this is the thing they figured out

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 17 Jan 2018 06:05:40 +0000

I don’t know about you folks but I frequently blurt out “It’s 2018! How do we not have teleportation/jet packs/time travel etc yet?!” Basically I feel like movies and books sold

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Review: Fondlove Vibrating Portable Massager

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 09 Jan 2018 04:06:14 +0000

If there’s anything we know about me when it comes to toys it’s that I love wands. Seriously, can’t get enough of them. Way back at the beginning of 2015 I

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Help Ducky DooLittle Pay Her Cancer Care Bills

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 28 Dec 2017 18:41:32 +0000

Folks, Ducky Doolittle is a sex educator (and friend) who I love and admire greatly. In 2017 she battled cancer and now, due to the resulting medical debt, she needs

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2017 Best of Bedhead: Posts, Podcasts, Appearances & More!

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 19 Dec 2017 18:41:59 +0000

Welcome to my fifth annual Best of Bedhead post! I cannot believe it’s my fifth time doing this! For 3 years this was pretty straightforward: I would set out to

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JoEllen’s 2017 Favorite Things

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 12 Dec 2017 21:02:29 +0000

It’s that time of year again, time for my Favorite Things! Last year I embraced the shift away from a favorite things list that was always a list of products and LOVED how it turned out.

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Sex of the Future- From Condoms to Sex Dolls, We’ve Gone High Tech

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 11 Dec 2017 06:53:54 +0000

I don’t know about you guys but I frequently blurt out “It’s 2014! How do we not have teleportation/jet packs/time travel etc yet?!” Basically I feel like movies and books

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Sistalk Master Godzilla: The Time I Reviewed A Toy Because it Was Called Godzilla

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 04 Dec 2017 16:51:28 +0000

When it comes to the Sistalk Master Godzilla I have good news and I have bad news: The good news: when Sistalk approached me to review a small remote-operated vibrator

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Business of Blogging About Sex Black Friday Sale! Save 20%!

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 22 Nov 2017 14:00:51 +0000

This Black Friday save big and learn to be a badass blogger from me & Epiphora! 20% off all Business of Blogging About Sex Independent Study coursework* through 11/30! Use code

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My Nine Favorite Things About the Doxy Number 3

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 20 Oct 2017 03:07:47 +0000

At last it’s here! The long-awaited Doxy Number 3, the new small wand from the wonderful folks at Doxy, makers of some of the best wand vibrators on earth. Okay,

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Le Wand: The Time I Had a Rom-Com Relationship With a Wand

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 29 Sep 2017 14:25:28 +0000

First things first, I own 3 Le Wands– two from the folks at Peepshow Toys and one from the folks at Le Wand themselves. That’s a lot of one toy

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The Toys I Actually Use or “Hey look, wands!”

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 21 Sep 2017 21:34:02 +0000

After five years as a sex writer, even though I don’t focus on toy reviewing, I’ve amassed quite a collection of sex toys. This often leads folks to make comments

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Getting Really, Really Real About My Own Depression

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 17 Sep 2017 03:45:42 +0000

For the last couple of years I’ve been doing a lot of writing about depression– how it can affect people, how to navigate it, ending the stigma around it… I

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Seriously, Don’t Yuck Each Other’s Yums

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 01 Aug 2017 15:00:11 +0000

Don’t yuck my yum. If you have spent any time in the sex positive world, odds are you have heard some variation of this phrase. The exact wording may vary

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Here’s The Thing About “Porn Sex” vs “Real Sex”

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 27 Jul 2017 14:36:22 +0000

There are some headlines that come up over and over again in sex world and one that makes my skin crawl is “The Difference Between Porn Sex and Real Sex”

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Getting Ready For Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit!

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 13 Jul 2017 20:55:31 +0000

In less than 3 weeks I’ll be packing my bags and heading clear across the country to Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit. I love this event so much (seriously, it was on my

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We Get to Be Where We Are: My Trip to the Guelph Sexuality Conference

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 08 Jul 2017 19:53:29 +0000

So, as you may know, a couple of weeks back I attended the Guelph Sexuality Conference. I sat down today to write the traditional “I attended a wonderful conference, had

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Announcing the Amplified Voices Sex Blogger Scholarship

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 06 Jul 2017 14:39:45 +0000

Hey folks, did you know that I, along with Epiphora, teach a class called The Business of Blogging About Sex that teaches aspiring bloggers the skills they need to succeed online? And

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Dildos, Depression,Touring, and Teaching: 5 Years of The Redhead Bedhead

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 05 Jul 2017 17:00:35 +0000

As impossible as it is for me to believe my baby, The Redhead Bedhead turned 5 on July 4, 2017. If we want to get technical, my first post didn’t

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3 Things Too Many People STILL Don’t Know About Lube

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:03:11 +0000

Sex educators LOVE lube! Seriously, my people tend to talk about it a lot. After 5 years in this industry, there are still a couple of things I’m surprised to

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When It Comes To Sex, You’re Doing Great!

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 14:00:08 +0000

When I started writing about sex one of my big motivations was my lifelong belief that I was doing it wrong. After a coupe of months of writing I realized

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5 Reasons To Take A Peep At Peepshow Toys

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 11 Jun 2017 15:40:41 +0000

When I teach about working with sponsors I always tell folks to work with companies they would say nice things about in regular conversations- in other words, companies they actually like-

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I’m Heading to the Guelph Sexuality Conference

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 01 Jun 2017 14:28:58 +0000

In less than a month I’ll be packing my bags and heading to Canada for the Guelph Sexuality Conference. If you don’t know what that is, go check it out. The

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Want to be a Sex Blogger? DO IT! My Online Class is Back!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 22 May 2017 14:22:59 +0000

Do you want to be a sex blogger? Are you already actively blogging and ready to step up your game? Could you use something to help you set up your site,

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Stop Calling These Things “Porn For Women” (Or Anyone)

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 08 May 2017 14:40:18 +0000

Heads up: because I’m taking on an inherently gendered phrase (porn for women), today’s post is a smorgasbord of gendered language and references assumptions that are frequently made along the

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Thanks to SheVibe, I Grew Up To Be Wonder Woman!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 01 May 2017 14:57:05 +0000

What do you want to be when you grow up? That age-old question that, frankly, took me until my mid-thirties to figure out for real, has always played a starring

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To Get The Sex You Want Online, Read The Damn Room

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 24 Apr 2017 14:29:53 +0000

Back in the day the internet was a lawless land full of random message boards and chat rooms where people wandered around in the hopes of finding people who shared

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Get Great Deals On My Faves During Wand Week at Peepshow Toys!

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 22 Apr 2017 03:00:48 +0000

So, if you’ve been paying attention, you may have noticed that I love wands. Let me say that again: I LOVE wands. A big hunk of my favorite toys list

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3 Ways To Use The Internet As Your Sexual Communication Wingman

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 10 Apr 2017 14:50:22 +0000

I recently talked to my partner about how, once you’ve lived in sex positive world for a while, you start to forget that not everyone is comfortable talking openly about

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Review: Screaming O Charged Positive Vibe

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 29 Mar 2017 13:55:52 +0000

So, it’s no secret that small vibrators are not my jam. Large swathes are my thing, small doesn’t get me there. But I agreed to give the Screaming O Charged

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6 Ways To Make Your World More Mental Illness Friendly

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 16 Mar 2017 14:41:09 +0000

Life with a mental illness is frequently challenging. This can be exacerbated by the words, actions, and attitudes of the world around us. Simply put, the world is not a mental

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5 Tips For Being A (Kind & Classy) Casual Sex Rock Star

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 06 Mar 2017 04:09:46 +0000

Casual sex seems to be more prevalent than ever. Now, I have good news and bad news about that. The good news is, it’s gotten way easier to find no

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A Slightly Cynical Sex Writer Does Valentine’s Day

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 11 Feb 2017 16:33:00 +0000

I’m not going to lie to you folks, Valentine’s Day has never been my favorite and now that I’ve been in the sex writing game for longer than I was

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All The Times I Should Have Left My Terrible Therapist

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 02 Feb 2017 18:39:51 +0000

For four years, 2007-2011, I saw a therapist mostly weekly with some periods of monthly visits when she thought I was “doing better”. Something that became very clear to me

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20 Things You Might Not Know About JoEllen

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 28 Jan 2017 16:37:15 +0000

When the urge hit me to write a “I bet you don’t know this about JoEllen!” post, I’ll admit I figured it would just be fun, frothy, and easy. For

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Funding The Monster Under The Bed: Support Me On Patreon

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 24 Jan 2017 15:09:43 +0000

This might get long. Here’s the tl;dr: I’ve launched a Patreon where you can support my work on sex and depression and help me bring my book, The Monster Under

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2016 Best of Bedhead: Posts, Podcasts, Appearances & More!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 19 Dec 2016 20:54:25 +0000

I sat down to write my annual “best of” post and I was confronted with the fact that, compared to other years, I really didn’t write a whole lot in

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JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things!

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 14 Dec 2016 17:20:03 +0000

In the past my annual favorite things list was always a list of products, frequently featuring links to my reviews of said products. This year I tested and reviewed significantly

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From Peepshow Toys: Partner PLUS Couples Toy Review

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 15 Nov 2016 15:06:31 +0000

This is my first post since the US presidential election and it feels wrong not to acknowledge it. This election was about more than one side losing- that’s politics- this

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What Apartment Hunting Taught Me About Relationships

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 12 Oct 2016 15:18:48 +0000

Sometimes, we have patterns in relationships that we don’t really understand, or even see. I’ve long known that I find asking people for anything terrifying so I shy away from doing

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All The Things To Love About DOXY: A Vibrating Retrospective

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 17 Sep 2016 19:51:31 +0000

Stepping onto an elevator at Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit I was met by the smiling face of one of my all-time favorite sex educators who, after greeting me, reached out to touch

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An Embarrassment of Riches- Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit 2016

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 02 Sep 2016 22:05:54 +0000

It’s been a month since I left for Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit and I still miss being there! I sat down to write this thinking I would give you the

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When I Chose To Live – I Spent 3 Days Suicidal

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 29 Aug 2016 18:48:54 +0000

CW: Suicide, Suicidal thoughts “When I chose to live, there was no joy it’s just a line I crossed” -Dar Williams After All You hear a lot of stories

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I Want To Hang Out With You at #SFS16!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 01 Aug 2016 04:50:05 +0000

This week I’m heading to Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit (#SFS16). I’ve got a pretty busy schedule and I’m pretty psyched for it! Last year at Woodhull I skipped all things social

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Gearing Up For Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit!

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 07 Jul 2016 04:03:57 +0000

In less than a month I’ll be packing my bags and heading clear across the country to Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit. As you may recall, last year’s Summit left quite an impression

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Safety First: My Favorite Condoms

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 28 Jun 2016 14:36:13 +0000

I was cleaning my house over the weekend and I got to my condom stash. This isn’t a rarity, I don’t keep it tucked away somewhere out of sight but

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Hitting The Books: What I’ve Been Reading

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 03 Jun 2016 18:28:20 +0000

For the last couple of months I’ve been feeling a bit… off. Writing has been challenging and reading, well reading just hasn’t been happening at all. I LOVE books and

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Win A Scholarship To #SFS16 From The Smitten Kitten!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 02 May 2016 19:30:56 +0000

Do you want to go to Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit? Let me answer that for you, YES! Yes, you really do! Four days of pre-cons, institutes, sessions, and social events

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Mini Review Sampler Featuring As You Like It, Clone-A-Willy, Fun Factory, L’Amourose & Tantus!

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 28 Apr 2016 18:54:12 +0000

It’s happened once again– I’m way behind on toy reviewing. Partially because I’ve been traveling every 2 weeks since December, partially because I didn’t have a ton to say about several

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Surviving A Bully (When You’re 35)

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 22 Mar 2016 14:17:09 +0000

I spent this past weekend at BinderCon surrounded by writers, pitching my book to agents (who responded favorably, btw), and receiving support from some of my favorite colleagues and friends,

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The Womanizer Doesn’t Work For Me (And It’s Important To Talk About That)

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 29 Feb 2016 19:36:34 +0000

I resisted testing one of recent history’s most popular toys – The Womanizer– for a while. See, I’m a broad stimulation chick; when folks say things like “pinpoint” in relation

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I’m Talking About Sex And Depression Again – Interviews

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 20:31:09 +0000

Hey folks, as you may remember, a while back I conducted a survey on sex and depression along with some interviews, all in preparation for my book. Well, now that

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5 Steps To Take When Your Partner Is Dealing With Depression

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 06 Feb 2016 22:50:07 +0000

Earlier this week I read a Washington Post article about by a woman whose relationship was torn apart while she and her partner tried to deal with his depression. Reading

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Review: Doxy Die Cast- Like A Vibrator Superhero

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 28 Jan 2016 16:12:28 +0000

Hey folks, heading into this review be forewarned that I talk a lot about the original Doxy Wand. If you are unfamiliar with that product, you can check out my

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The Business of Blogging About Sex is Back!

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 14 Jan 2016 18:45:54 +0000

Hey folks, have you ever wanted to do what I do for a living? Have you been thinking about starting about blog? Do you already have a blog and want

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My New Year’s Revelation

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 10 Jan 2016 07:31:00 +0000

So this year I didn’t make any new year’s resolutions, instead I had a revelation. It came to me slowly over the week leading up to Christmas and hit hard

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The Best of Bedhead 2015 – My Favorite Posts

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 18 Dec 2015 15:13:27 +0000

Hey folks! I’ve spent this week in Boston completing Planned Parenthood’s Sexuality Education Certification Series – it was a tremendous experience and I highly recommend it to any of you

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Motorhead Overkill 7 Function Power Classic Vibrator

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 10 Dec 2015 16:43:29 +0000

Edit: The Motörhead line has gone on to the great nightstand in the sky. If you are looking for a fun take on a basic vibe, I suggest something like

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The Bedhead’s 2015 Favorite Things!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 16:21:43 +0000

2015 has been quite a year. I started it off too injured to do much and by the end I had traveled to two conferences to talk about sex and depression,

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Seeing Ourselves in Marvel’s Jessica Jones

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 21:38:26 +0000

TW: Abuse, rape, trauma, manipulation If you haven’t watched Jessica Jones yet be forewarned this piece is chock full of spoilers so read at your own risk. Also, consider

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A Box Full of Wonders From Tantus

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 22 Nov 2015 21:35:14 +0000

With almost uncanny precision the wonderful folks at Tantus manage to send me packages so they arrive just in time to brighten bad days, as was the case with their

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Oh Canada! My Weekend at Playground 2015

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 20:52:56 +0000

I just got back from the Playground Conference and frankly, it was pretty rad. I went to sessions about sex positive community building, ableism, erotic humiliation and a closing

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Win A SheVibe Gift Card at Playground 2015!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:44:21 +0000

As I mentioned at the end of last week’s post, while I’m at Playground this weekend I’ll be giving away 3 SheVibe gift cards– one for each day I’m

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4 Reasons SheVibe Is My Online Sex Shopping Superhero

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 06 Nov 2015 16:30:24 +0000

I have long loved SheVibe but to tell you they are a great online sex shop feels so woefully inadequate. A lot of people have a lot of great stuff to

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Thanks For Making Me A Kinkly Sex Blogging Superhero!

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 31 Oct 2015 05:48:40 +0000

In what has become one of my favorite fall traditions, the superstars over at Kinkly.com have released their Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes list and I am, once again a grateful

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I’m Talking About Sex and Depression for Bitch!

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 23 Oct 2015 18:40:48 +0000

Imagine for a moment that I took away your ability to enjoy sex. It’s just gone. Now in order to get it back, you would have to declare that you

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Doxy DON (formerly Skittle) Video Review

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:51:11 +0000

The good folks at Doxy sent me their newest creation, the Skittle DON, it’s called DON now, and I’ve made another video review for you (I think I’m liking the video

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I’m Heading to Playground 2015!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 12 Oct 2015 16:09:31 +0000

In about a month I’ll be packing my bags and heading to Toronto for Playground 2015 . Along with Stephen Biggs, I’ll be presenting The Monster Under The Bed: Starting the Conversation About Sex

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An Ode to Sliquid

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 06 Oct 2015 23:26:40 +0000

Okay, that made it sound like I was going to write a poem and I’m definitely not but, seriously folks, Sliquid. I’m pretty sure a lot of us love them

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What Mentally Ill Looks Like

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 02 Oct 2015 20:33:26 +0000

I had planned on writing about sex this week (you know, like a sex writer) but then my state was hit with a tragedy yesterday. Another shooter, another school, another round

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Calling People “Crazy” is Lazy, Do This Instead!

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 24 Sep 2015 22:23:34 +0000

Recently I’ve been involved in several conversations about people who were, well, treating other people terribly. In all cases the subjects of the conversations had long track records of this behavior and

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Starting the Conversation – #SFSMonster at Woodhull

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 10 Sep 2015 16:39:51 +0000

Want to hear about my general experience at Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit? Check out Raising My Voice as Quietly as Possible- Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit It’s been almost a month since

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Fun Factory Miss Bi Video Review & Giveaway

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 09 Sep 2015 05:19:17 +0000

I got to try out Fun Factory’s newest toy the Miss Bi and here’s my review in the form of a video (I’m so modern!). I apologize for the hugeness,

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Keep Lady Cheeky’s Body-Positive Feminist Porn Alive #SaveLadyCheeky

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 06 Sep 2015 23:08:12 +0000

LadyCheeky.com is in danger of being erased permanently from Tumblr. Lady Cheeky needs $1000 for a legal retainer in order to start the process of communicating and solving the issue

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Raising My Voice As Quietly As Possible – Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 01 Sep 2015 21:04:37 +0000

It’s taken me some time to sit down and write this and when considering why I realized that Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit hit me like a ton of bricks… in

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Fun Factory Bouncer Review

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 05 Aug 2015 15:19:58 +0000

Lots of companies like to toss around the word “innovative” like confetti and act like they are bringing out new and different stuff when they are often just rehashing the

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Mini Review Sampler featuring Jimmyjane, Tantus, Kinklab & More!

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 30 Jul 2015 21:40:54 +0000

It’s happened again, I’ve fallen way behind on reviewing. I think it’s the result of me recovering from surgery, devoting a bunch of time to preparing for upcoming classes and appearances

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Upcoming Teaching and Speaking Dates

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 22 Jul 2015 16:10:39 +0000

Okay folks, I’ve got a whole lot of fun stuff planned for this summer and I’d love to see you for some of it. I’ll be teaching, speaking and doing

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I’m Heading To Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit!

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 21 Jul 2015 15:34:41 +0000

In less than a month I’ll be packing my bags and heading clear across the country to Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit. If you don’t know what that is, go check it

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I Tried Cloth Menstrual Pads Again – Now I’m Obsessed

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 10 Jul 2015 19:50:07 +0000

So, lately I’ve been getting the feeling that more and more people who get periods are starting to agree that disposable products kind of suck. They create a ton of

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5 Questions With OhMiBod’s Suki Dunham

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 03 Jul 2015 15:40:29 +0000

Next week I’m heading off to ANME. This convention is one of my favorite events of the year partially because I get to see all the cool new products but

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Learn The Business of Sex Blogging with Me & Epiphora!

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 16:00:08 +0000

In just 3 days it will be the 3rd anniversary of this website. I can’t believe how quickly that time has gone by and how fortunate I have been

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My Visit to As You Like It

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 23 Jun 2015 17:49:46 +0000

Last Friday I took a trip down to Eugene to visit As You Like It, a shop that has been on my Superhero Sex Shop list since back when they

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Sexting With A Sex Writer

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 18 Jun 2015 15:05:30 +0000

Sexting. I think at this point a lot of us do it and it’s one of those things that I’ve realized people assume I must, because of my work, be

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Everyone Makes This HUGE Mistake in BED!!!

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 14 Jun 2015 18:40:52 +0000

You Know You’ve Done It!! I know I’ve done it and I’m pretty sure you have too. Ask your friends, I’m willing to bet they all have a story about the

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Review: Magic Wand Rechargeable – Cut the Cord

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 26 May 2015 20:39:11 +0000

So, last year I came to the conclusion that I am, without a doubt, a wand girl. Big, honking, strong wands are my thing and that started on September 7th

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The Blind Leading the Blind- Is Abstinence Only Education To Blame For Parents Who Can’t Say “Penis”?

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 16 May 2015 16:15:35 +0000

Earlier this week, California Judge Donald Black ruled that abstinence-only education isn’t actually sex education (preach, sir!), provides inaccurate information and doesn’t meet California’s curriculum guidelines. So, this leaves one to

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Celebrating Masturbation May with New Superhero Sex Shops!

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 04 May 2015 14:29:05 +0000

In honor of Masturbation May I’m giving some attention to the folks who enhance our masturbation by updating my Superhero Sex Shop list. For those of you who are unfamiliar, the

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Giveaway: Fun Factory ShareVibe Vibrating Harness-Free Double Dildo

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 03 May 2015 18:48:19 +0000

Okay folks, it’s giveaway time and I’ve got a great prize from one of my favorite companies! Let’s take a look at the Fun Factory ShareVibe! Description courtesy of

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Review: PalmPower Wand & Attachments- Reinventing My Masturbation

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 01 May 2015 19:32:33 +0000

Once you have reviewed a bunch of toys you find that you start to repeat yourself. There are several “game changers” more than one thing that’s “completely different” and “new

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Stop Clutching Your Pearls Folks, Hook Ups Can Actually Be Healthy

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 28 Apr 2015 18:50:51 +0000

You may have noticed that in the last couple of years there have been a bevy of stories about hook-up culture, online dating, friends with benefits and the

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Review: Swan Wand – New Member of My Starting Line Up

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 24 Apr 2015 19:38:54 +0000

A couple months back, when I put out my 2015 Sex Toy To-Do List and included the PalmPower Wand , Dizzygirl mentioned that she thought I should check out this

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Won’t Work For Free (Or Condoms)

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 22 Apr 2015 01:44:34 +0000

This week I received an email (I’m sure many of my colleagues received it too) from a large, well-known condom company offering me the “opportunity” to “collaborate” with them

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Review- My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory by Cooper Beckett

JoEllen Notte — Wed, 15 Apr 2015 15:14:42 +0000

So you know when you’re about to embark on a totally new, totally foreign experience and you are having a hard time figuring out what it will even look like

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Body Positivity & Weight Loss Poll

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 12 Apr 2015 23:42:14 +0000

Hey folks, I’ve been mulling over this question and I’d love to know what you think. When it comes to living a body positive life, is there ever room

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Sex Shop Treasure Hunting

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 31 Mar 2015 13:35:00 +0000

I talk a lot about small, feminist boutique sex shops – heck, I went on a whole tour of them! Often, though people ask me about navigating bigger shops, shops that

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I Got to Talk to Sex Nerd Sandra About Sex & Depression!

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 29 Mar 2015 00:14:19 +0000

Back in 2012, after my marriage split up when, I knew one of my goals was to have a happy, healthy, really hot sex live but I had not a

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Will Work For Sponsorship – Online Workshop

JoEllen Notte — Sun, 22 Mar 2015 00:04:32 +0000

Are you a blogger or educator who is interested in traveling to conferences, conventions and expos but aware that these things cost money? Have you heard of this magical-sounding

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Review: Nobessence Seduction

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 20 Mar 2015 15:00:45 +0000

Every year I make a sex toy to-do list and set about, well, doing it. Towards the end of 2014 I tweeted that I was pretty close to completing my list

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If Anal Sex Makes You Gay, Do Tacos Make You Mexican?

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 15:30:01 +0000

A while back I had the honor of being the first person someone spoke to about their recent first same-sex sexual encounter. I was humbled by this. I

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Review: Electric Eric E-Stim Vibrator

JoEllen Notte — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 15:23:03 +0000

Did you know I took a break from reviewing toys? From last April to September I went through this phase where I decided I couldn’t talk about serious stuff and

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Self Care For When You’re Feeling Not At All Sexy

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 10 Mar 2015 18:21:08 +0000

We’ve all been there, maybe you’re sick, maybe it’s a super-stressful time at work, maybe you’re going through a break up- there are a million and one (and probably more)

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Let’s Talk About Text, Baby – Don’t Text Your Way Out of A Love Life

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 05:15:57 +0000

On December 3 1992 a 22-year-old test engineer for Sema Group used a personal computer to send what is said to be the first text message -“Merry Christmas”- to a

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Mini Review Sampler featuring Crystal Delights, Je Joue & More!

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 27 Feb 2015 16:09:25 +0000

Okay, I’m not going to lie to you – I’m way behind on toy reviewing. Some of this comes from being hit with a deluge of products when I reentered

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Where Did I Go? Injury, Desexualization and Fear

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 15:50:21 +0000

So those of you who have been following along at home already know that this has been a trying time for me. The second half of last year was marked

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Bedhead Birthday Giveaway – The Pure Wand

JoEllen Notte — Mon, 23 Feb 2015 14:44:13 +0000

So here’s the deal folks – it’s my birthday and I’m giving away the subject of the most-read review on my site: the toy, the myth, the legend- the

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An Open Letter to Folks in the Sex & Depression Conversation

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 21 Feb 2015 03:22:56 +0000

This post is the result of Crista Anne and my endless conversations about what we love and hate about the conversations coming out regarding sexuality and depression. After the glorious

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This One Thing Will Make Your Valentine’s Day Extraordinary

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 13 Feb 2015 20:51:51 +0000

Don’t worry, I’m not going to talk about that movie with the number and the color in the title… Last year I spent Valentine’s Day with a man who I was

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Handling Hook Ups- Know These 5 Things For Drama-Free Flings

JoEllen Notte — Fri, 06 Feb 2015 16:30:38 +0000

I know we’re coming up on Valentine’s day and that tends to make folks all couple-y but I’m going the other way. This week I’m doing a two part series

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FWB without WTF – 5 Keys to Successful Friends With Benefits Relationships

JoEllen Notte — Tue, 03 Feb 2015 16:13:19 +0000

I know we’re coming up on Valentine’s day and that tends to make folks all couple-y but I’m going the other way. This week I’m doing a two part series

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5 Reasons I Love The Original Magic Wand

JoEllen Notte — Sat, 31 Jan 2015 17:43:00 +0000

I realized that I have been remiss in sharing a piece of news with you folks. At the end of 2014 I came to a conclusion: I love big wand-style

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