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Starting again--and it's not a New Years gimmick

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 22:30:00 +0000

I've been neglectful.

I've neglected my blog. And in the process, I've neglected my friends.

It's silly how small a change it takes to make us change course, and how, left unchecked, that small change leads us completely astray. It reminds me of the nursery rhyme (which is really a history lesson in verse):

For want of a nail, the shoe was lost,

For want of a shoe the horse was lost,

For want of a horse, the rider was lost,

For want of a rider the message was lost,

For want of a message the battle was lost,

For want of the battle, the kingdom was lost.

All for the want of a horseshoe nail.

I made a little change in computers some long time ago. So my bookmarks were lost.
When I lost my bookmarks I lost a number of the blogs I used to visit (and because it was more effort, even the ones I remembered I didn't frequent as often).
And then because I didn't visit as often, I felt out of touch.
And because I felt out of touch, I didn't feel like I could make relevant comments.
And because I didn't make relevant comments, interaction was lost.
And when interaction was lost, so was evidence of the friendship (although, I will say, that from my end the affection and care and prayers didn't end).

And when evidence of the friendship was lost, I kind of dropped it all.

And then there's the silly aspect of Facebook that took over the time I used to spend reading and writing blogs. And while I keep up with some of my blog-friends there, it's still not quite the same as dropping by each other's places and seeing what everyone's been up to. It's kind of the difference between the 3 minute greeting between church services rather than sitting down for a cuppa something together. You can't build real relationships in those 3 minute pass-bys.

So, I am starting over.

The thought has occurred to abandon it altogether, but honestly, I miss it.

I miss the writing. I miss the sharing. I miss my friends.

I hope you'll all give me another chance.

25 Stories of Advent--December 25--The Rest of the Story

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Sun, 25 Dec 2011 08:10:00 +0000

The book I'm sharing today is precious to me beyond words. I think it was my first Christmas book acquisition, many years before I had children.

This is certainly a case of saving the best for last. It's a book that starts with the Christmas story, but then follows through with the rest of the life, death, and resurrection of Christ. Which is ultimately the reason His birth is cause for celebration today.

The Life of our Lord, by Charles Dickens is the last of his books to be published. In fact, it was never meant to be published. It was written for his children because, as he said,

"My dear children, I am very very anxious that you should know something about the History of Jesus Christ. For everybody ought to know about Him. No one ever lived who was so good, so kind, so gentle and so sorry for all the people who did wrong, or were in anyway ill or miserable, as he was. And as He is now in Heaven, where we hope to go, and all to meet each other after we are dead, and there be happy always together, you never can think what a good place Heaven is, without knowing who he was and what he did."

I found this volume at a Parable store after Christmas one year. I picked it up as a gift for my beloved grandfather. Though not educated (you'd never know it to speak with him), he was the smartest man I knew. And he made me feel smart too.

He was born in England, so of course he grew up reading Dickens (and everything else he could get his hands on; I never knew a more voracious reader). Since this book wasn't published until after Dickens' last child died, I was fairly certain my non-religious grandfather had never read it.

Grandpa and I didn't discuss spiritual things; an informal agreement to disagree I suppose. But I knew he'd read what I gave him, so I gave him this book for Christmas the next year hoping he'd read it from interest regarding what Dickens might have to say on the topic. We never talked about it.

Two years later, after he died, I found this book on his bedside table along with his copy of my first book, which I'd dedicated to him. Last year, as I pulled this volume out to add to my basket of Christmas books, I thumbed through it--apparently for the first time since then--and found that he marked his place in the book with my kindergarten photo! I had never seen any photos of us outside the few albums they had.

God knows my prayer that between the devotions in my book that explain the plan of salvation, and Dickens beautiful summary of the life of Christ, that my grandfather's heart would be open to Him in a way it never had been before.

This book may be hard to find; I'm sure you'll have to visit one of the sources for used books to get a volume of your own. But it's worth the quest to find. Reading the life of Jesus, told as only Charles Dickens can, is a blessing in itself.

May you have a blessed day celebrating with loved ones. And may the conclusion of our "Christmas holidays" be just the beginning of another year spent seeking to know Him more.

Always,
Mary

25 Stories of Advent--December 12

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 13:52:00 +0000

Today's books both look at the animals in the stable making room for the baby Jesus to join them. Room for a Little One by Martin Waddell (Jason Cockcroft, Ill. McElderry Books, 2004) is a warm, beautifully illustrated book that tells of each animal (Kind Ox, Old Dog, Stray Cat, et al) welcoming the next in out of the cold with the encouragement, "There's always room for a little one here."

It's a simple, gentle telling of Mary and Joseph arriving at the stable and baby Jesus being born surrounded by the animals. Room for a Little One is a good choice if you want to give a book of the real story of Christmas without it seeming overly preachy. The soft, almost dreamy illustrations make this a perfect bedtime story.

The classic Who is Coming to Our House? was one of our first Christmas books. In this sweet board book Little Mouse comes to the stable to announce the pending arrival of a special guest. In turn, the animals each do something to prepare. "We must clean, " says Lamb. "Dust the beams," says Ram.

There is something precious in the telling of each of these stories. While my (allergic-to-everything-with-fur) logical mind knows that Jesus didn't come for the animals, the expectation that these tales build does give a glimpse of the what the state of our own hearts should be.

25 Stories of Advent--December 11

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 12:40:00 +0000

Today's book is for younger children. What Is Christmas? by Michelle Medlock Adams, Ill. by Amy Wummer (Candy Cane Press, 2006) is a bright, colorful board book that looks at all the fun things about the season--Christmas trees and twinkling lights, candy canes and cookies, the Christmas play and Santa Claus--and asks the question, "What is Christmas about?" In a simple rhyme the book tells children:

All of these things are really nice,

and super-duper fun.

But Christmas is about much more than that--

It's all about God's son.

This is a great book for reading to very young children, but even my older boys still like hearing the list of all the things we all enjoy about the season even as they're reminded,

But Jesus is the real reason

We have a Christmas Day!

25 Stories of Advent--December 10

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 00:03:00 +0000

"Do be patient with him," she said to Joseph. "We need him

as much as he needs us."

This made Donkey feel very special indeed. They needed him!

Today we follow Mary and Joseph to Bethlehem and we're looking at books from the donkey's perspective. First is All Safe in the Stable by Mig Holder, (Candle Books, 2005). This is a fun book that looks at the journey to Bethlehem with a beaten down donkey purchased by Joseph. While he's glad to be away from his previously unkind owner, the load he has to carry seems to be more than he can handle.His stubborn streak shows itself as he plods along, but when he realizes there's danger ahead for the expectant mother, digging in his heels may be the best thing for everyone.

This detailed story is one that will keep the attention of children who are 6 and older. The contrast between the cruel owner and kind Mary, and the sneaky Rat and the dutiful Donkey add to the drama and convey a message of doing the right thing even when faced with the opportunity and pressure to make a self-serving choice.

The other book for today is An Angel Came to Nazareth, written by Anthony Knott, Illustrated by Maggie Keen (Chronicle Books, 2005). This is a book with a simple, rhyming message that shows an angel appearing to a camel, donkey, horse and ox and giving them the choice of who they will carry on a journey.

"Just one beast from this stall

Will carry into Bethlehem

The greatest of them all."

One by one the animals make their choice, to carry a king, a solider, a good Samaritan, and finally, an expectant mother.

"Now I will choose," the donkey cried,

"Not good or great or tall,

but the lady waiting here

Who needs bearing most of all."

While the simple telling of the story is lovely, the real charm of this book can only be felt when it's in your hands (this is one case where the e-book can't possibly do it justice). It's printed on cardstock, and each page is embossed and foiled and beautifully illustrated. While your child may need you to read the story to them, this would be a book to put into their hands while you do.

25 Stories of Advent--Great Joy-- December 9

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 08:05:00 +0000

"The week before Christmas, a monkey appeared on the corner of Fifth and Vine.

He was wearing a green vest and a red hat..."

from Great Joy by Kate DiCamillo, (Candlewick Press, 2007)

I have to admit, I think this is my only Christmas book with a monkey in it. But aside from that unusual element, everything else about it has the look, feel and message of a classic Christmas tale (not to be confused with a monkey tail!).

The time period and illustrations are reminiscent of "A Miracle on 34th Street." The main character is a young girl who wants to invite the organ grinder and monkey in for dinner after she sees that they sleep on the street, even in the snow. When her mother says no, she finds another way to share "Great joy" with them.

This big, beautiful book is one of those that will have a place of honor among the other Christmas books. From the golden end-papers to the soft, expressive, over-sized illustrations on every page, this book will take you back to the days you sat for story time when you were a child. (And I have yet to be able to read the last page to the boys without finding myself all choked up! It's destined to be a Hallmark Christmas movie.) Because of Winn Dixie and Tale of Despereaux are among DiCamillo's other best-sellers.

Don't forget to leave a comment on the post for December 8 so you can be included in the giveaway of "Our Family Christmas--a Memory-Making Devotional."

25 Stories of Advent and a Giveaway! Dec. 8

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 03:36:00 +0000

"Eager to help Joseph make his decision about marrying Mary, God chose to reveal His will in a dream...God showed us how Joseph trusted and followed Him so that we can, too."

A new book to my collection this year is Our Family Christmas--a Memory-Making Devotional, by Karon Phillips Goodman (Barbour, 2010). This lovely gift book has 28 chapters; enough for each day of Advent even if you start the book on the first Sunday of Advent rather than December 1.

Each 4-page spread starts with a Christmas-related scripture passage including some of the prophetic Old Testament passages in Isaiah or Samuel. Following the scripture is a brief devotional that draws the spiritual principle into our present time. A simple activity follows; some are crafty, but others are more focused on pondering or apply the spiritual lesson. Next there's an excerpt from a traditional Christmas song, and the section concludes with a suggested prayer.

Although we have our own evening tradition that includes most of those aspects, I could see using this book as a breakfast-time devotion during Advent. It would be a great way to start each day with thoughts of what the season really means. And it would be easy to choose to do just a few of the activities each week so that from year to year the experience would differ a bit. And though it's titled "Our Family Christmas," it would actually be a nice devotional for someone to go through even on their own. From the ribbon bookmark to the beautiful full-color illustrations throughout, this book would be a thoughtful and cherished gift as well as a meaningful addition to your own Christmas library.

I just found another bag of Christmas books I added to my collection after Christmas last year (yes, my bargain-hunting runs through my Advent traditions too!). Looking through my unexplored treasures I found that I have a second copy of Our Family Christmas, and I'd love to share it with someone who would love to have it. (If you don't win the giveaway, but would like your own copy of this book, it's on sale for 2.99 at Christian Book.com.)

To enter the giveaway, you just need to leave me a comment answering the question: What is your favorite family Christmas tradition? Either the family you're raising/part of now, or the family you grew up in.

I'll include comments left until midnight Friday (Pacific Standard Time) and announce the winner on Sunday. Please be sure to leave me a way to contact you in case you win; either a link to your blog (where I can find your contact information) or an email address.

25 Stories of Advent--December 7

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 08:15:00 +0000

Joseph was upset by Mary's news.

"Mary's baby isn't my baby," he said."Perhaps I shouldn't marry her."

Tonight we'll be reading The First Christmas by Sophie Piper (Lion Children's, 2006). I like this little storybook because it gives Joseph a voice and a significant role in the journey to Bethlehem. In fact, it's Joseph's voice we hear most throughout the story. Unlike many of the simpler picture books, it also includes details about Herod's message to the wise men, and the family's departure from Bethlehem. If, like me, you're trying to build a library of storybooks that highlights all the various people involved in the nativity story, this book is a great addition.

25 Stories of Advent--December 6

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 08:15:00 +0000

Tonight we'll be reading about Joseph from the 5 Minute Christmas Stories book we first saw on December 2 and The Nativity Story we read on the 4th.

We'll also read The Littlest Angel by Charles Tazewell (Candy Cane Press, 2002). I bought this book a couple of years ago because I remember seeing it on TV when I was growing up. (I know it's showing my age a bit to admit that it starred Johnny Whitaker--Jody from Family Affair!)

The 30-minute live-action version was a bit sad to me, but this little storybook is a very sweet telling of the story about a reluctant angel who feels out of place among all the older, 'perfect' angels. I think this book really speaks to the heart of children to see that when we give what is most important to us over to God, he can make something amazing and beautiful from it.

Is there a holiday program from your childhood that you remember/love still?

25 Stories of Advent--Dec. 5

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 08:15:00 +0000

"And Mary said, My soul doth magnify the Lord,

And my spirit hath rejoiced in God my Saviour.

For He hath regarded the low estate of his handmaiden: for behold,

from henceforth all generations shall call me blessed."

(Stories from the Bible, North-South Books, 2002, p. 88)

As we read through the Nativity story for the month of December, it can be a challenge to find a storybook that features each of the components of the Biblical account of the coming of the Christ child.

Tonight we'll be reading about how Mary praised God when Elizabeth said that Mary was blessed among women because she believed God and was the one chosen to give birth to the Messiah. Her song of praise is one of the most beautiful passages in the New Testament, but it isn't highlighted in many of the children's accounts of the Christmas story.

So our book for this evening isn't a specifically Christmas book. I picked it up because it had this particular passage that I was looking for, but I can see that our family will have many great storytimes around this book.

Stories from the Bible is a re-telling of stories from throughout scripture. It's translated from the original German storybook (which was adapted from the King James Version of the Bible), so some of the language is uncommon, but I think that adds to the awe-someness of the stories. Stories from the Bible is illustrated by award-wining artist Lisbeth Zwerger.

We'll also be reading a book that I found at Dollar Tree, of all places. The Birth of Jesus by Larry Carney is a sweet rhyming re-telling of the Christmas story (my kindergartner especially likes rhymes as he's been learning about them in school recently.) I appreciate how, in very few words, the story tells all of the essential aspects of Jesus' birth. The illustrations even accurately portray the wisemen visiting Jesus in his home, not in the manger.

A bonus with this book is the read-along CD that comes with it. The CD also contains a number of very traditional children's songs such as Go Tell it on the Mountain, Jesus Loves the Little Children, Oh How I Love Jesus. I've been lamenting the fact that our kids don't learn these classics at church anymore, so I like that I can expose the boys to them this way. If this book isn't currently available at Dollar Tree, you can find it on Amazon.com.

What song from your childhood do you want to pass along to the next generation?

25 Stories of Advent--December 4

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Sun, 04 Dec 2011 08:00:00 +0000

Today's book is another of the collections that we'll turn to several times during Advent. The Nativity Story by Geraldine McCaughrean is one of my favorites. In our family Advent tradition, we take a closer look at each person mentioned in the accounts in Matthew and Luke.

Zechariah, Elizabeth, John...are important to the Nativity story, but are seldom highlighted in children's Christmas books. This volume features passages about each of them. Tonight we'll be reading about Elizabeth:

Mary laid her hands on her cousin's stomach...It was like a magnet sensing north. It was like a weathercock turning in the wind. It was like the oceans tugged to and fro by the moon. The child in Elizabeth's womb, sensing the closeness of Mary's baby, turned in his watery world and reached out a hand. (The Nativity Story, McCaughrean, Lion Children's, 2007. pg 18.)

What has been the highlight of your Advent so far?

25 Stories of Advent--December 3

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Sat, 03 Dec 2011 20:23:00 +0000

Today's first book is a classic; you might have had a copy when you were a child. The Christmas Story by Jane Werner is a sweet re-telling of the familiar story in Luke in the child-friendly format of a Little Golden Book. The timeless illustrations by Eloise Wilkins add to the traditional feeling that will make this book a keepsake. I found our copy at a local toy shop. It can be ordered online as well.

Our second book is a newer, original story by Lisa Tawn Bergren. God Gave Us Christmas is told as Mama Bear's answer to Little Cub's question, "Who 'vented Christmas?"

Mama Bear and Little Cub venture out into winter where Mama Bear shows her cub God at work in the Northern Lights explaining that Jesus is the Light of the World. As they continue their exploration Little Cub sees other aspects of God's nature and hears Mama Bears explanation that leads Little Cub to the realization that "Jesus is the best present of all." God Gave Us Christmas, (Waterbrook Press, 2006).

What's your favorite Christmas book?

25 Stories of Advent--December 2

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 10:51:00 +0000

Our Advent celebration got off to a good start last night. I loved how they looked forward to it all day. Things do change some as they get older. Bug had an activity at school and I had a different meeting and wasn't going to be home at bedtime, so we ended up doing it before he and I had to leave.

There was the usual squabble over who got to open the door on the "Christmas house" (our Advent calendar). The little one doesn't quite get the "He'll do it tonight, you'll do it tomorrow" concept. My goal is to ultimately have two ornaments behind each door so they both get to pull one out and hang it on the tree each night. (Ultimately I want to have two of everything so they'll have their own set.)

Story time is the perfect addition to the process; you can tell they really don't want it to end. I love being able to tell the Nativity story in a dozen (or two) different ways between now and Christmas. Whatever else they may or many not understand about the Bible, they'll know the significance behind Christmas.

I left a new bedtime story that I picked up after Christmas last year. Waiting for Christmas: A Story about the Advent Calendar by Kathleen Long Bostrom (Zondervan, 2009) explains how Advent calendars might have come about and gives a nice story about waiting for something important. It includes an Advent calendar and stickers to start your own marking off the days until Christmas. It's even available as an eBook if you want to get started with it right away and don't have easy access to a Christian bookstore.

Tonight we'll be reading from The Lion Book of 5-Minute Christmas Stories. Told by John Goodwin (Lion Children's, 2007). This is another of the collections that we'll return to several times. Each of the ten chapters creates a short story around one person or situation described in the Nativity story.

For example, tonight's story is a first-person account of Mary's visit by Gabriel and her conversation with her mother afterward. It takes some literary license, but I think it's a nice way to help the boys understand that the people we read about in the Bible existed beyond the brief glimpses of them that we see there.

What's on your Advent agenda today?

25 Stories of Advent--December 1

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 14:27:00 +0000

We'll start our family Advent tradition this evening with Christmas is Here by Wendy Brawer (2008, Kregel). While it's a lift-the-flap board book that could be considered too young for my boys, I like that it tells little excerpts of the Nativity story on each spread along with a couple of questions that get the kids more engaged in the story. It also comes with a CD that has a specific song that corresponds to each part of the story. That's another layer we'll be adding this year.

Tonight we'll read just the first page about the angel Gabriel appearing to Mary. Then we'll turn to the back of the book and open the relevant flap on the Nativity picture. The numbers are mixed up throughout the picture which makes it more fun for them to find the right one. We'll alternate which boy gets to open the flap each day.

Parable.com has this book on sale right now, (I think Barnes and Noble carries it too)!

What are you reading tonight?

25 Stories of Advent--Getting Started

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 06:19:00 +0000

When my oldest son was 4, he started to make the connection between Christmas and getting presents. I wanted to be sure he understood that Christ's birth is the real reason for all the celebrating and that giving and receiving gifts are part of the observance--not the point of it.

That was the year I started our "Christmas House" tradition. It's a large, house-shaped Advent calendar that I fill with ornaments we hang on a miniature tree. Each evening we open the door for that date, hang the ornament on the tree and read a verse of scripture.

Now that the boys are a little older and their attention spans are a little longer, I want our time together to last a little longer too. I've been acquiring Christmas story-books since I was waiting for Bug's arrival the Christmas I was pregnant. Now I have enough to read a story or two each night from the first of December to Christmas.

I've mentioned this tradition to friends, and they're interested in starting something like this themselves, so I'll be sharing about the books/stories each day until Christmas. (Imagine that! A post every day from me!)

Most of the stories I'll be sharing are specifically (and intentionally) Nativity-themed. We also read some books that are just fun; I'll post those too.

To add another layer to our tradition, I've started looking for Christmas Carols that correspond to the stories. I may share some of those as well.

My ultimate goal is to create a fun, kid-friendly family devotional time that provides a daily reminder to our boys that, in the midst of the parties and presents, there is One person the whole world celebrates this month.

I hope you'll join us in our tradition. Do you have a favorite Christmas story or Advent tradition to share?

Sometimes the World is too Big

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Tue, 02 Aug 2011 07:13:00 +0000

I know the saying is, "It's a small world," and for the most part I agree. But there are days like today when I'm reminded just how big it is, and how far away some places are.

We've lived here nearly 5 years now and have only been back to the NW twice in that time--the last trip was two years ago. When we got our Christmas cards this past Christmas and we received news of the declining health of several people we care deeply for, I felt an urgency to make a trip to visit while the opportunity still existed.

Unfortunately, finances (and paid time off) don't operate on desire alone, and it hasn't been possible. And sure enough, two of the people I'd love to see moved to another state to be closer to their children (a state that isn't on our rotation for the rare times we do get away), and I just received word of the passing of another dear soul who came to mean so much to us in our time there.

I am grateful to know that her long suffering is over and she's at last breathing freely as she walks the gardens of heaven with the Lord she loves. And I'm glad we'll get to catch up again one day.

And I'm sorry the world is so big and I didn't get to see her again.

Have They Found the Pessimism Gene Yet?

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 02:48:00 +0000

From the moment he was born, everyone remarked how much our oldest looks like my husband. I could always see a few traits from my side of the family, but if we were in a crowd, people would identify the two of them as belonging together before me.

When our second son came along, there was nothing familiar about him. The scant fuzz with a strawberry-blond tint came from nowhere (unless you want to count my step-dad or Hubs adopted sister!). The chubby-cheeks and bulky build, the widow's peak hairline...if I hadn't been there when he arrived and knew he'd never left the room, I would have insisted they brought me someone else's baby.

He's five now, and there are still days when I look at him and think, "Where did you come from?" People will often say he 'favors' me in the way his brother does their dad. Unfortunately, I'm afraid that it's not his physical traits that resemble mine.

The older he gets and the more he expresses himself (and express himself he does!), the more I feel like I'm looking into a funhouse mirror that turned me into a little curly-haired, blue eyed boy with a temperament that is a reflection of all my worst traits. If it's true that the things that bother us most in others are the things we dislike most about ourselves, then I'm beginning to realize that maybe I haven't grown as much as I want to believe I have.

While he wakes up with a smile, it doesn't take long before the lips turn to a pout and the voice comes out a whine. After school, or the park, or a playdate, if we ask how things went, we're regaled with a litany of his friends' faults, perceived injustices, and otherwise simply unhappy occurrences.

I started to catch on to this after most of the school year passed, and decided to try a modified version of my husband's "What's good about it?" method of conversation modification. When greeted with a tale of woe at the hands of a classmate, I'd prod him to tell me something he likes about them.

The result is a lot like mine probably was at the beginning. "I can't think of anything." But just like I learned to start looking for something good to say in response to the question, "What's good about it?" I'm hoping that he'll begin to make it a point to remember the good things too.

And it's a reminder to me that the very best way I can help him be the positive, happy kid that I believe he's meant to be, is to model that behavior to him. To be quick to find the good in people and situations, and quicker to keep the converse to myself. I know I've grown in that, but I really need to keep working on it and demonstrating it.

And I need to encourage and praise him when he is happy and kind and generous more than I am exasperated with his whining and grumbling.

And someday, when someone says he's just like me, I hope we'll both take it as a compliment!

Play Money--Works for Me Wednesday

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 03:29:00 +0000

The budget is slimmer this summer, but the activities all cost more! Even the 'free' movies cost $1 per person. Add a box of candy from the dollar store (the same box they sell at the theater for $4!) and a simple outing can still cost $10/day.

So rather than take money from our budget, I decided to 'cash in' some of the loose change that has collected in various containers. After we filled a couple of banks for the boys' Sunday school and VBS giving, we dumped the rest of the pennies, nickels, dimes and quarters into a basket.

The boys started by sorting each type of coin into a bowl. Then I gave them each a muffin tin and had them count the coins into 10's in each little cup. I put them into coin wrappers and then we took them to the bank and traded them for $5's and $1's to be used for ice cream, movies, and other 'treats.'

I give them their own money to hand over to the cashier so they start to understand that all of those activities cost actual dollars. And a dollar spent at the movie today might mean there isn't a dollar for ice cream tomorrow (since they seem to think there is always another dollar or five for whatever they want).

At 5 and 8, they aren't to the stage where they can earn all of their own spending money, but by letting them see that there's work involved in getting it, and that it only goes so far, I hope we're starting to build better money understanding with them.

Find other useful tips at We are THAT Family's Works For Me Wednesday Blog Carnival.

In Search of Oasis...

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Sun, 17 Jul 2011 06:15:00 +0000

I have been a lousy blogger lately. ("Tell me something we don't know, Mary.")

I've managed (for the most part) to keep my commitment to the devotional sites I write for, but I haven't been able to get much posted here. I think I finally figured out why.

I have a mission here--to be a place of refreshing in the midst of sometimes dry, dusty, desert-like ordinary days. But our life has been extremely desert-like for a couple years now. And when circumstances lead to being parched, it's not easy to provide refreshment to others. It's kind of like that old youth group game where you have to cram a sleeve of saltines in your mouth and then whistle.

But even so, God has been faithful to keep me from shriveling up altogether. And I want to be more faithful in sharing that. So my posts might be shorter than usual (some would say that's a good thing!), and they might not be profound or deep (after all, I've been dwelling beside puddles rather than wells). But maybe, as I am aware of the oasis' I find while wandering in our particular desert, my observations will help you see the lush, green, refreshing places He's prepared for you as well.

So even though it's summer (which is the driest time of all on the west coast), and the boys are out of school and Hubs and I are scrambling to fill our days with productive work (and I have dreams of completing some writing projects as well), I'm going to take the time to see where God brings moisture to the parched places of my spirit and I'll try to share them with you. It might be a photo, or a brief word, but my commitment to share it will keep me mindful of looking for it.

"...so that I may come to you with joy, by God’s will, and in your company be refreshed. The God of peace be with you all. Amen." Romans 15:32-33

And maybe even more important, I want to hear from you. Are you parched? Where do you find refreshment in your driest days? How do you find ways to share that with others even when you don't have much to spare?

What's Your Superpower?

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 17:40:00 +0000

I have side-eyes.

At least, that's my boys' assessment of my ability to see what they're doing without looking at them. Not quite as deluxe as eyes in the back of my head, but they do the trick.

They come in handy when Bug (who is quite speedy and seems to think if he runs fast enough he'll become a semi-invisible blur like the Roadrunner) is trying to avoid bedtime or breakfast and makes a mad dash toward the front room where I won't be able to see him.

"Ah ah ah!" I warn.

He comes slinking back in the room. "How did you know? Did you see me with your side eyes?"

They haven't figured out that I also have supersonic hearing. Like this morning when they were playing in the front room and I called (from around the corner and down the hall) "Stop jumping on the couch!" It made me laugh when they shut the door between the two rooms.

Sorry kids, I also have "Mommy-sense" (not to be confused with Spidey-sense) that alerts me whenever you're doing something you aren't supposed to.

What's your Mom-power?

A Meaningful Memorial Day

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Sat, 28 May 2011 00:09:00 +0000

I had to laugh when my 5 year old found a rogue black seed in his watermelon the other night and he had to ask what it was! With the proliferation of seedless watermelon, we have a whole generation of kids who've never experienced the messy fun of watermelon seed spitting contests!

Although I know I sounded like my parents, I took the trip down memory lane and told the boys about my childhood church's Memorial Day picnic, which, of course, included watermelon (along with three-legged races, water balloon tosses and Kentucky Fried Chicken-endorsed by the Colonel himself).

The next question that came from the curious one was, "What were you remembering?" Which led right into a mini-lesson on what Memorial Day is about. And this year, I actually had something to tell him because I wrote this article last year. Check it out if you're looking for a way to bring some meaning to the holiday weekend. And have a safe, blessed weekend.

Just Take 'Yes' for an Answer--Internet Cafe

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Thu, 19 May 2011 20:38:00 +0000

For a long time, I wanted to name our firstborn son 'Gideon.' (I think it will be the new 'Jacob.') But, if I were the psychoanalyzing type, there's probably a deeper reason behind my attachment to the name.

I don't know about you, but if I'm honest about it, I think I may be more like Gideon than any other person in the Bible. It's not about putting God to the test as much as it is wanting to make sure I heard Him correctly.

Recently though, I had the opportunity to break that pattern a little and I learned a lesson about taking 'yes' for an answer. I'm privileged to be sharing it over at Internet Cafe Devotions.

Stop by and let us know if you've ever had trouble accepting a 'yes' from God.

Midlife Mom Blog List

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Tue, 17 May 2011 07:46:00 +0000

If you're a midlife mom (or know someone who is), take a look at this list of "40 Awesome Blogs for Midlife Moms" on www.nursingschools.net. It's a privilege to be included with the likes of Antique Mommy (a longtime favorite of mine) and Motherhood Later than Sooner, a site with multiple writers that covers many perspectives and experiences of midlife mommyhood. (A recent post tells how to make up creative stories to tell your kids at bedtime).

So, if you're looking for some new blogs to check out, click on the link above. The Nursingschools.net blog has a lot of other interesting information as well, featuring articles like '15 Fascinating Scientific Facts about Siblings,' and '50 Tiny Changes You Should Make During Stress Awareness Month.'

I appreciate being included in the listing of Midlife Mom blogs, as well as finding this interesting new resource. Take a minute to check it out!

Creative Urges--5 Minutes for Faith

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Tue, 17 May 2011 06:24:00 +0000

How do you express your creativity?

Do you paint or draw? Sing or sew? Dance or decorate? I used to think I wasn't creative--until I got a new perspective...I'm sharing more about it at 5 Minutes for Faith. I'd love if you'd stop by and let us know what you do when your creative juices are flowing!

Kids Inspiration--Resurrection Cookies

noreply@blogger.com (RefreshMom) — Fri, 22 Apr 2011 22:19:00 +0000

I'm re-running this recipe that I first posted two years ago. The older the boys get, the more I appreciate these simple, but meaningful activities that we can do together. In the past we made the breakfast rolls where you wrap crescent dough around a marshmallow, but I like how this one gives such a complete picture of Easter and incorporates more mystery.I found it on this site. Whichever you may try, I hope you have a very blessed Resurrection Sunday.

Photo from Kids-Cooking-Activities.com

Empty Tomb Cookies

You will need:

1 cup whole pecans

1 teaspoon vinegar

3 egg whites

a pinch salt

1 cup sugar

a zipper baggy

1 wooden spoon

scotch tape

Bible

Instructions:

These are to be made the evening before Easter. Preheat oven to 300F.

*** (this is very important --- don't wait until you are half done with the recipe).

Place pecans in zipper baggy and let children beat them with the wooden spoon

to break into small pieces. Explain that after Jesus was arrested. He

was beaten by the Roman soldiers. Read: John 19:1-3

Let each child smell the vinegar. Put 1 teaspoon vinegar into mixing bowl.

Explain that when Jesus was thirsty on the cross He was given vinegar

to drink. Read: John 19:28-30

Add egg whites to vinegar. Eggs represent life. Explain that Jesus gave His life

to give us life. Read: John 10:10&11

Sprinkle a little salt into each child's hand. Let them taste it and brush the rest

into the bowl. Explain that this represents the salty tears shed by Jesus' followers,

and the bitterness of our own sin. Read: Luke 23:27

So far the ingredients are not very appetizing. Add 1 cup sugar. Explain that the

sweetest part of the story is that Jesus died because He loves us. He wants us to

know and belong to Him. Read: Psalm 34:8 and John 3:16

Beat with a mixer on high speed for 12 to 15 minutes until stiff peaks are formed.

Explain that the color white represents the purity in God's eyes of those whose sins

have been cleansed by Jesus. Read: Isaiah 1:18 and John 3:1-3

Fold in broken nuts. Drop by teaspoon onto waxed paper covered cookie sheet.

Explain that each mound represents the rocky tomb where Jesus' body was laid.

Read: Matthew 27:57-60

Put the cookie sheet in the oven, close the door and turn the oven OFF.

Give each child a piece of tape and seal the oven door.

Explain that Jesus' tomb was sealed. Read: Matthew 27:65-66

GO TO BED!

Explain that they may feel sad to leave the cookies in the oven overnight.

Jesus' followers were in despair when the tomb was sealed. Read: John 16:20&22

On Resurrection Sunday (Easter) morning, open the oven and give everyone a cookie. Notice the cracked surface and take a bite. The cookies are hollow! On the first Easter Jesus' followers were amazed to find the tomb open and empty. Read: Matthew 28:1-9