Self improvement

7 secrets of success

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 15:01:00 +0000

Last few months I have started to spend a lot of time with physical exercises and I has taken a great interest in this self-improvement method. This experience of physical exercises overcoming give me some interesting ideas, associations and analogies, which can help with other directions of our life. This post is the first in "7 secrets of success" series of posts.

The first Secret

It is possible to take pleasure from overcoming difficulties. In our life we very often collide with problems which we must solve, frequently for this purpose we should do significant efforts. Probably, you will tell, that only masochists are capable to take pleasure from difficulties. I allow myself to disagree …
The main idea of first secret of success is "the way you look at all obstacles in your life". Do you wish to learn how to generate the positive attitude? How to perceive a problems with pleasure?
Advice is simple.
You should follow this simple formula : "Everything, that do not kill, do us strong ".

Doing physical exercises you know precisely, that they give you advantages, that you become stronger. You force down breath, you use all your will to do this last pulling up because it will make you more strongly. Overcoming physical activities is a way of body improving.
All becomes complicated a little, when we transfer this principle to the question of professional growth, in personal development. It is completely not obvious, that your efforts in any of these directions cause internal growth. However, it is absolutely established fact, because often you are not pay attention to proofs.
We are always see athletes, we know how they have reached success - through constant overcoming of physical activities. But, for some reason, we always explain someone's success in any area with "luck", "parent's communications" etc... Maybe it is easy to live so... I don't know, but I don't like it.

Btw, if you try to study biographies of successful people you will see the same: "Constant weaknesses overcoming, difficulties overcoming, problems overcoming - it is the reason of their success ". You must remember it, success of any person (material, spiritual, creative) you should always strongly associates with his improvement work, in the same way, as athletes body powers associates with overcoming physical exercises. You become stronger meeting problems and difficulties - be happy to this chance, moreover, you should search this meeting.

Slideshow

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 07:38:00 +0000

I think now I consider a question with which each of you necessarily collided every time. It sounds like " your desire to be cool in opinion of other people". I think you would like to be, for example attractive in opinion of girl/guy which you like or for example you try to be assured and purposeful in opinion of colleagues and business partners. Always when we do it we try to watch ourselves, to notice any features in ourselves which we wish to hide from others. We try (of course not all people) to take to ourselves any role in certain conditions, to impose to the interlocutor a certain ideas about ourselves.
So, being based on one psychological model, which I think is true, (model called "Transerfing" it is created by the person from Russia) all above listed incorrectly. It seems paradox, right?
We always considered that we should look correctly in opinion of other people.
Following this psychological method i can say that you should hold a Slide in your head and in this slide you are absolutely perfect guy or girl in all world, thus it is not necessary to think about your lacks. You must think about your advantages, they are exist I am assured. For example, you go on appointment with some unfamiliar girl, but you are constraining enough person. Not a problem! Try to pay her attention on your advantages, for example on your remarkable smile. The most important in this case is to really think that you have a "remarkable smile" (there can be any advantage) and not think at all that you are constraining. Believe me, 90 % of people absolutely precisely paying attention on "how they are look in your eyes" but not on "how you are" in conversation. So let her feel herself ideal girl and very charming on this appointment and show her your "smile". And you must always hold in a head this "slide" with your advantages.
This is one of success secrets I think, not only with girls.

Are you smoking ?

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 05:34:00 +0000

The main idea passing through all Allen Carr's books is an eradication of fear. Really, his talent and his efforts as writer and therapist are directed on helping everyone to get rid of fears which are prevent to enjoy a high-grade life. It is shown brightly in his books which have become bestsellers in many countries of the world: "Easy way to stop to smoke", "The easy way to stop Drinking"," No more diets" and others. In the past highly skilled and rather successful bookkeeper, Allen Carr smoked one hundred cigarettes a day. This bad habit threatened to destroy all his life while in 1983 after uncountable and unsuccessful attempts to stop smoke he has opened his own way to get rid of this predilection. Allen Carr has developed unique technique of refusal of the nicotine, now world known as "The Easy way to stop smoke". This method showing phenomenal efficiency, was recognized among experts, has got wide popularity and successfully help people to stop smoke in many countries of the world. Allen Carr has created a worldnet of clinics where experts of this technique help smokers to stop smoke and consult them. Allen Carr's books are published more than in twenty languages in many cocountries of the world. 10000 people have addressed for the help in his clinics, number of the patients, who stopped smoke using this method, exceeds 95 % from total addressed for the help. Allen Carr's clinics give each smoker a guarantee of healing from nicotine dependence and a guarantee of money refund in case of failure. The full list of Allen Carr's clinics is resulted in the end of this book.
All this similar to any review, right? Yes, indeed. But this review was entirely written by me. Now I am19 years old, I have started smoke in 15. And I stop smoke with help of this book, or no maybe I mistake, I simply start to live without smoking and you should too. And... It's not a marketing trick :) It's really cool.

The beautiful nature

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 17:54:00 +0000

Today i wouldn't write big posts about "What you must do bla bla bla to REALLY improve yourself". Sometimes, it is simply enough to see something beautiful or happy to ignore bad feelings and to feel happy. It is important method in self-made, too. So enjoy :)

"It is photoshop!" - maybe you say. Yes, but what a difference ? :)

Most popular martial arts list

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 14:30:00 +0000

This post is about thing with which we are collide most often in daily life сoncerning self improvement. It is possible to start studying practically any martial art now in the modern world at any moment for each of us. During all history of mankind there were "fight systems". Even now in narrow circles of people studying martial arts there is legend about the "Universal and Perfect system of fight"(i will not arguing this and i can't say that it is true). Description of such systems can often be met in books of visionaries (surrealism direction basically).
The Universal system (maybe we will consider it later) is now not interesting, I am interesting in psychological component of martial arts. First of all I should list most popular kinds of martial arts, having divided their by method of influence on the opponent:

Striking

Punching - Boxing (Western), Wing Chu
Kicking - Capoeira, Savate, Taekwondo
Other strikes (using elbows, knees, open-hand) - Muay Thai, Karate, Shaolin Kung Fu

Grappling

Throwing- Glima, Judo, Jujutsu, Sambo, Shuai jiao
Joint Lock - Aikido, Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Hapkido
Pinning techniques - Judo, Wrestling

Weaponry

Traditional Weaponry - Fencing, Gatka, Kendo, Silambam, Kali
Modern Weaponry - Eskrima, Jogo do Pau, Jukendo

Direct links to wikipedia content on related arts

Of course, there are many more kinds, but these are most popular arts. How i said earlier, there are many martial arts, especially those from Asia, also teach side disciplines which pertain to psychology systems or even to esoteric knowledge (such as whole vibration systems, yoga, asceticism etc...). Later we will consider most interesting, on my opinion, martial arts. I think, that martial arts are one of the most accessible ways to the person self-made. Or, and there is one more reason for studying martial arts - girls love strong guys with athletic constitution :)

Constructive argue

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 17:52:00 +0000

How often do you quarrel with friends and native people? Are you sometimes shout at them? Do you tell them things about what you regret? There is a simple way to solve this problem. Look at clause of one Russian psychologist in which this question on an example of a married couple is considered, in my free translation :

"So, reject all emotions, only sensible mind. Imagine that you are ambassadors from two countries and should agree among yourselves about mutual benefits. Necessarily say to your second half, that you wish to talk, that you wish to show your discontent or anxiety. It is impossible to do it, during eating or when your couple is borrowed with something. It would be necessary to prepare to serious conversation, you even can agree about any concrete time, to be sure that nobody and nothing didn't distract you from arguing. When you have already sat down for a negotiating table, say everything that has become painful, but there is an obligatory condition - you mustn't interrupt each other, you should enable to express completely. Also an obligatory condition of constructive quarrel is that during its time one theme is discussed only, and in general each theme is a separate discussing. You mustn't to beat in weak places, it means that it is impossible to involve previous argue themes in conversation. If you have started to speak about it, you should speak only about yourself, don't cite someone as an example, don't hang up labels. Certainly, you must understand, that there shouldn't be any extraneous persons during your quarrel.Here you have expressed all to your partner, your partner have listened all that you say to him, but it is obviously not enough. You necessarily should offer your variant of problem decision that you wish to receive as a result. And here now you should break off and listen to counterarguments, enable opponent to express, your opponent listened you without interrupting. Having listened to the answer you can discuss and search for the compromise if your variant of problem decision isn't absolutely suits your partner, maybe he/she will offer something. Thus, you should think and argue until you will come to one decision which will satisfy both, if you wish to build attitudes on principles of equality. If your attitudes weren't equal from the beginning of marriage, constructive quarrel will not help you, as it is simply will not take place.

So, as you have understood - quarrels isn't bad, they are even necessary if you can approach to it reasonably. Therefore if you want to argue with second half, in fact now you know how to do it correctly, effectively, without material damage for family, emotional traumas and in a scientifically true way from the psychology point of view. And, besides after quarrels there is reconciliation and simplification and if you don't have enough rough emotions and passions - make sex :) "

Let's follow to professional's advice, i think this clause written very well and accessible.

Self adjusting - How to ?

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 21:05:00 +0000

It is very hard to post beginning things in this blog on such deep theme. It is possible to write really big notes and I should limit a stream of my ideas. I understand, that there a lot of posts ahead, but I want to tell all it now!:)
It is always very important to adjust ourselves and to be confidence in ourselves. When you are working you should concentrate on your success. When you are having a rest, on the contrary, you should have total relaxation and skill to receive a maximum pleasure. How to make it? It seems simple. But it is deception...
Unfortunately, we find out feelings which are stirring to use our opportunities most effectively in certain situations. For example in work when "Here is the necessary way already must appear in a head" but an unexpected idea about "How good I has spent time with my friends last weekend" or the idea on an anticipation of a forthcoming celebration confuses us and we must concentrate anew. Or on the contrary (at me especially often happens so) when we are trying to relax, trying to be active and cheerful on any party, we start to strain ourselves with any extraneous ideas on our work, problems and so on...
So, how to adjust yourself in the necessary way? How to find a key to our emotions ?
You should try to imagine your life as the certain time interval. It is difficult but you must try it. On this interval there moments when it is really necessary TO WORK persistently and long and on the contrary to have a rest. Also you should imagine a point on this interval. It is instant moment in which you are present now and you must to tell yourself: You are here now, you need to make it, on this point you will have everything if only you will want it. In fact all we live one life (I think so..). Do not take all these unnecessary ideas about "what i need to do now?", "how i should to behave now?" and "how to concentrate?" in a head. Live a full life, take all that you can from each point on this "interval". Maybe there is happiness ?
I am explaining to you things which are for a long time known in psychology but is this important? You must UNDERSTAND and FEEL it. In fact there is no value in your knowledge of this methods, you must really FEEL it to be as much as possible effective in any situation . Person who can make it completely for me is rather Great man. Maybe I haven't told you something new and you know it but as I spoke above it is necessary not to know this it is necessary to feel it :)
During conducting this blog when I write posts about such things I truly open for myself more and more nuances of things known to me before. Because of that i wrote "I improve myself by telling you how to improve yourself" in description of this blog. It is my way to be adjusted...
And I sincerely wish you to find yours :)

Morning physical exercises...

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:56:00 +0000

... are one of the most important things in self improvement. I actually consider, that 20-50 minutes of morning exercises can double your activity and forces during all day. It is possible to tell long about WHAT occurs in your organism when you doing exercises every morning. I can tell precisely, that all parts of your body after morning warm-up will receive a sufficient blood inflow, muscles and joints will get pleasant ease. There would be no bad sensations all the day long (of course if you haven't "age" diseases). Is it pleasantly? I consider that optimum time for morning warm-up is 40 minutes. The main thing is to be in movement all these 40 minutes and, that is very important, exercises should demand efforts from you efforts, they should be difficult for you. We are trying to improving, right?:)
I know about 10 ways to make effective warm-up. "Effective" in this case, of course, means that they are hard ( for beginner, people who practice morning exercises get pleasure from them ).
I wouldn't now describing these methods, because it needs a lot of time and place in post to describe all of them in a sufficient measure . We shall borrow in them later. I will find new exercises or optimize old for you every week.
Perhaps for a priming I shall list the most popular and effective, in my opinion, methods :
1) Morning jogs (on my opinion best, simple and accessible way to warm-up, must have in summer time)
2) Simple physical exercises (everyone i think studied this at school's lessons of physical culture)
3) Self-massage (I recently have opened it for myself but already now I understand how much it is necessary for any person)
4) Hatha yoga (unfamiliar art for me yet, but i shall try to master it)
5) There are many ways to warm-up in martial arts (i studied Muai Thai and prefer it, but you can choose one of them closer to you)
6) Very very good way is to swim for a while in the nearest reservoir ( i am lucky i have one :) )
7) All kinds of meditation systems. You really can do incredible things through it, but you must be pro (i can't, maybe later...)
So, I think it is enough for the beginning, later I shall try to consider each method deeply.

Rhythm

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 22:47:00 +0000

Named this post "Rhythm" I have absolutely inadvertently created huge contrast between title's simplicity and the maintenance. Now at 2AM (in Moscow) cannot simply fall asleep at all and humanly have a rest, considering that i wake up at 6AM . Why i am telling you such private silly things ? :)
I wrote this, because i think i should as more as possible closely approach you to this post idea. In spite of the fact that it is very deep I shall try to tell it briefly, to not lose the way in our philosophical reasonings. We often ask ourselves (as I spoke earlier) about meaning of the life, our place in it, we complain on our failures. But now I have very distinctly understood the sense which can help in such bad feelings, you should be active people, in fact only when you are proactive during all your life you can really say that you are "strong alive person", that you are Human. For me now when except of the basic employment, we have started to blogging this Home Recipes Network and we plan to start blog about blogging for Russian readers on native language, at us there is no time at all for simple rest. We sleep frequently 4-5 hours per day and all time of wakefulness we spend in active actions, but nevertheless I with confidence can tell that I am happier than many. Think about it... It is important part of self improvement.
Oh yes, has almost forgotten, i think that I cannon fall asleep, because my conscience forces me to write this post :)

Introduction

noreply@blogger.com (Sapphire) — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 14:01:00 +0000

As it is possible to see from title this blog is about self-made. What does it mean?
To answer this question, perhaps, I all over again should explain to you what means Blog. It is сertain type of a site in which person writes "things he is really interesting in" to show people how much he is interesting and to involve public on Blog for sharing with readers his ideas. This is my own opinion and of course many other people with "Big Heads" can challenge this opinion.

So, I want to share with you My own opinion, in self-improvement, because it is very interesting to me. Very simple explanation, i think.

Once again, what means "self improvement"?
I shall not tell you in my Blog how to reach the BIG purpose in this life, how to become rich, how to promote on a career ladder, how to be happy. Everyone has his own purposes in a life, and it is possible to argue on life's Meaning eternally. I shall try to help you to create "tools" for achievement of your purposes. For me it is self improvement. What tools can help us in our life? Let's try to distribute them into categories:

Physical condition, opportunity to use a human body on a maximum. It means you should keep your body healthy and develop it with physical exercises. Top in this direction is so-called " helping completely supervise a human body", which were used by our ancestors and which are used by contemporaries. I understand it sounds funny enough and I see now how many charlatans in our world, which helping people to improve, earning money, but each person can find his own system of exercises for this purpose. It is the fact... Of course here you MUST not have bad habits (such as smoking). I will try to help you get rid of them.

Morning physical exercises
Martial arts list
Are you smoking ?

Psychological condition. Very often it is possible to hear phrases like "I am depressed", "I do not know what i should do", "What for I live" and so on. It is difficult enough to be Active, person should Understand himself what he should to do. I shall try to help you with it, proceeding from my own experience. Remember: be active, be strong, do not lower hands, be not afraid of something, be patient, be hardworking, go to your aims confidently. I understand you constantly hear these words and all of them are known, but try to say them aloud and to Feel them. I am not going to preach to you these words, besides the person must understand them himself, I only shall try To feel them and to help you.

Life Rhythm
Self adjusting
The beautiful nature

Our attitude to other people. Probably it is the most important thing. It is possible to be physically and psychologically developed healthy person, but sit deeply in mountains as it is done by some "wise people". For me such wise men are weak people. All develops, therefore to "leave from world" is very impolite to other people. Principles from the bible are very important i think (here i want to notice, that I do not trust in God as in it adherents of various religions of the world trust, I trust in Humans, but about it later...). Be fair with yourself and with other people, love those people who near you and try to do kind things for them. I sincerely consider, that it is very important and, please, be patient with people. I should repear once again, that I am not going to become person which similar to preacher in your mind, further I shall try to write less pathosly, proceeding from ordinary norms.

Constructive argue

So, introduction is ready and I hope that I write useful and interesting things as well as any writer (bloggers are also writers i think). I shall supplement each category with links to posts for your convenience. Thanks to you, that you have read up my creation :)